The more I read about Johnny Depp and Amber Heard’s marriage, the more I look at their photos with new eyes. Where I once saw a vagueness in Amber on the red carpet, increasingly I look at those months-old photos and I think she looks like a hostage. Like she’s been kidnapped by a drunk, abusive scarf monster. Anyway, following the last-minute scramble last week, there hasn’t been a lot of Heard-Depp news. Their June 17th court date was postponed and rescheduled for August 15th, and Depp’s lawyers have told media outlets that there’s talk of a settlement. But Amber’s lawyers insist that Amber wants her day in court. My thought is that they probably will settle, but the negotiations will be tense and there’s still a lot of media-leaking (from both sides) left to do. Take this story from E! News, about how one of Johnny and Amber’s biggest fights was after Amber accused Depp of cheating:
Insight on what may have caused a huge blowout between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard has surfaced. The couple’s highly publicized divorce has brought to light a number of issues the couple were dealing with behind closed doors, including alleged abuse in their marriage. But now, E! News learns that one of their biggest altercations occurred after Heard had a feeling that Depp had been with someone else.
A source close to the situation tells E! News that Heard had suspicions the actor was unfaithful, and confronted him about it, which “was the cause of one of their biggest fights.”
“Johnny had a night out and Amber had a feeling he had been with someone. She questioned him about it and he blew up at her, got in her face yelling, chased her upstairs. Amber was scared.” The insider added that Depp “didn’t admit to anything,” but apologized to Heard for his reaction and “she ultimately forgave him.”
It wouldn’t surprise me if Depp cheated on her, or if got too close to several women or whatever. Throughout the back-and-forth stories about the state of their marriage, what’s consistent is that Depp was the jealous one though. He was the one who couldn’t handle that Amber maintained close friendships with several women, and he was paranoid about everything Amber did and everyone she spoke to. I also think this story is just further evidence of Depp and Heard’s cycle of abuse. How many times did he kick her, or chase her, or throw things at her, or scream in her face while he was drunk and/or high only to apologize later and say he would never do it again and would she please forgive him?
Photos courtesy of WENN.
Amber does look like a hostage in that last picture of them, with JD’s arm around her. He looks like he just whispered in her ear “you’re not going anywhere”….
Honestly I don’t think anyone can or should speculate based on photos of them on the red carpet. You could make any story fit such a standard photo. I completely believe that Depp was abusive towards Amber but what they were thinking in the moments that those photos were taken is anyone’s guess.
yeah its confirmation bias. its too easy making that connection now. she could look the happiest and it does not have to mean anything.
I was joking…I realize that you can’t tell what people are thinking by looking at a picture!
I don’t see how anyone could feel sorry for either of them.
Amber is a DV survivor. Plenty of reasons to feel for her.
He gets grosser with every word I read about his abusive nature. Ugh.
I agree
At least they didn’t have any irons in their home.
–TheRealPinky
Cheaters always think the other one is cheating. It’s called projection, and a very common phenomenon.
Yup. Learned this the hard way after a relationship with an emotionally abusive and unfaithful man. He gaslighted me so much I felt like I had to be reprogrammed before I could start dating again.
Jep, my friend’s boyfriend cheated on her but was super jealous. It’s really a phenomenon.
Yep!~!!!!!!! Was just coming here to say this! I had a boyfriend that was psycho-jealous and controlling of me but HE was the one with the wandering eye. Cheaters are always the most jealous.
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That was my abusive husband’s tactic. If I accused him of cheating, he would blow up and make it about me so I’d drop it. Typical.
MIne would tell me I was crazy….that I belonged in a mental institution…even after, I caught him redhanded…caught…him..in…the…act….but I was the crazy one!
Wow. So glad you ladies made it out alive. My only experience was an ex who would accuse me of checking out other men. Come to find out he had kissed a girl (because she wanted to be kissed) while out one night without me.
Jesus. What a bunch of sh*t stains.
MrsBPitt Wow. I’m so sorry. That is some next level election gaslighting.
The worst I had was somebody grinning at me after I questioned on him. As if his stupid teeth were supposed to dazzle me to the point of distraction. He was certifiably insane to even attempt that strategy on my crazy ass…
I wish the Judge would put a Gag Order on both Amber and Johnny.
No reason for that but a judge did put a restraining order on him.
If you don’t want to read about this case, don’t.
Not me. I’m happy that Amber is talking.
Why? So all the people that choose to believe Johnny over Amber don’t have to confront their biases?
Does anyone else wonder what it’s like when Johnny gets dressed to go out? Does he have bureaus full of different dirty looking scarves, piles of weird necklaces, bracelets and rings, and then stands in front of the mirror loading everything on? It must take time to put all that crap he wears on. Or maybe he never takes everything off.
^ This! Yes! I imagine this gigantic walk in wardrobe with dim lighting, maybe flickering candles, filled with mannequins with dirty knotted scarves and studded gloves hanging off them…
I think he pours some glue on himself and rolls around in a bargain bin at Claire’s accessories.
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Lmao! !!!!!
I’ll admit I enjoy the over-accessorized hippy dippy look, but omg does it take forever to put together! Some things you can just leave on, like rings and certain bracelets, but at least for me, I can’t sleep if there’s too much stuff wrapped around me. It’s very tedious putting on 15+ things in the morning and then taking them off at night. Then doing it alllll again tomorrow. I usually give up and go for the minimalist look because it just takes less time. Maybe if getting dressed and photographed was the only thing I had to do in a day I would bother, but as it is ain’t nobody got time for 50 scarves.
I OFTEN wonder about this. Like he’s standing there going….”7 dirty scarves or 8 today?! UGH life is SO HARD”
When you marry for money you earn every penny. She’ll settle for a large sum. He’ll find a new muse to abuse. End of sad, pathetic story.
How do you know she married for money? Are you implying she earned abuse?
If she settles in order to get on with her life, that’s her business.
I am guessing (only guessing, this is a gossip site so that’s kinda what we do here), that Amber did have genuine feelings for Depp and was attracted to him. This clicked in my mind when I saw the photos of her with her old girlfriend, can’t remember her name, and she reminded me very much of a younger healthier version of Depp. In other words, maybe she has a type. Again, only guessing.
I agree, I don’t think she married him for money. It’s not like he was some 80 year old billionaire…he is an A-list actor known for his ‘hotness’ (gag). I am sure her attraction to him was genuine. Like you say, she appears to have a type too.
Its A-mazing how many people now say she didn’t marry him for money or ambition. Where were you all when everyone was calling her a gold digger before she filed for the restraining order? And if its hindsight please remember to mention that when you ask if someone else is “implying she earned abuse”.
jlee isn’t saying Amber deserved to be abused, just that when the reasons you marry someone are not based in mutual love, respect, friendship, goals, etc. you are not going to have an easy time of it. And contrary to many revisionists this relationship seems to fall into that category. Think about it, if your goal is to marry for money (or ambition) how incompatible does someone have to be to outweigh the benefits? What warning signs and undesirable traits are you willing to ignore to get your primary goal? No one deserves to be abused, period. And I think she never willing chose to place herself in an abusive cycle, but with her eye on the prize she may have stayed in a relationship she otherwise would have never allowed to get even half that far.
What are you even talking about? I didn’t say jlee was implying anything, much less that she was saying Amber deserved abuse. Thats why I qualified my comment as speculation. Depp looks like Amber’s old girlfriend. Google it, he does. She could also be a gold-digger. Maybe its both of those things that motivated her. That too is speculation. It’s what we do on gossip sites. Guess about famous people’s private lives.
Cindy- I apologize I replied to the wrong comment. “implying she earned abuse” was to the commenter above you. What I was saying beyond that though, is as this story unfolds more and more people seem to have a revisionist’ memory of what they said about Amber and this relationship prior to the restraining order. There’s the cliched rush to defend her against those accusations of being a gold digger now, when previously they weren’t so vocal. Now people scramble to justify what she saw in Depp beyond his connections and money. Apparently they can even see it in the same photos we’ve all been looking at for years, yet were strangely silent on the subject before. It just gets annoying to me, but again I apologize.
I think, and I can only speak for myself, but I suspect a lot of others feel this way too, there is a lot of guilt concerning foolish assumptions based on what we “thought” Amber was when we looked pictures of her with Depp. Now we are all eating humble pie. I know I am.
That is a fair point and agree that’s the likely motivation. I guess what upsets me about that though is the feeling that people need to white-wash her past and see her in a new light now. Victim-apologizing, opposed to victim-blaming, for lack of a better term. I’m not sure I can adequately explain why that bothers me so much, other than it feels as if someone who married for money is somehow less deserving of being defended than someone who was subjected to the same treatment but married only for love. The burden of proof should be the exact same no matter what her motives for the relationship are. If the proof is there, than my response to anyone questioning why I believe her claims is “and…..?” She can be a gold digger, a drug addict, a prostitute, or a nun, but she is still a victim of domestic abuse.
I understand what you are saying. No one needs to be a saint to deserve just treatment. And sadly society doesn’t seem to care what happens to women who don’t fall into the more “pure” catagories. It’s awful and sad and true. We do not live in a very nice world, especially if you happen to be a woman. What I DO speculate about Amber however (there’s that word again, since none of us really know much), is that we all underestimated her greatly. There may very well have been some career ambition on her part in the very very beginning of her relationship with Depp. But the reason I don’t think it was what kept her involved with him was the power. He had it and she didn’t, and because we now know that the relationship was abusive pretty much from the start, no way was she “gold-digging”. To gold dig you have to manipulate and to manipulate you have to have power and she had none. But she did fool us all because as it turns out she has the balls to go up against Depp no matter how much hate and vitriol gets thrown at her. None of us(including me) gave her enough credit. I understand why all this makes you mad. Maybe just try to remember that Amber turned out to be smarter and tougher than your average human being, so that’s good news.
La Ti Da (interesting name you’ve got there): I just think all the speculation as to why Amber married him is pointless and in many ways is seeking to make sense of something that cannot be approached that way. I married for love in a flurry of passion, and ended up in a heap on the floor with a broken head and no idea what had happened to the love he’d sworn for me. Abuse does not mean there was never real love — it simply means someone is an abuser.
It doesn’t matter why she married him anyway, though I have no problem at all believing a lovely young starlet was starstruck and head over heels for a major movie star and (former) heartthrob like Johnny Depp and fell crazy in love with him. Deconstructing love OR abuse is a pointless and futile exercise that only indicates the speculator’s wish to find a REASON for something that has no reason at its core. And in any case, needing to find a reason or motive for abuse is part of wishing to see where the victim of the abuse *went wrong*…which is in itself a further abuse of the victim.
That’s all I got.
Yup. Confront an abuser and you will end up being the one asking for forgiveness. They’re clever that way.
Well said and oh so true, Jennifer.
Well, he did cheat with Heather when he was with Vanessa Paradis (which is CRAZY STUPID)…so, I can image she would have thought about him cheating on her too. So what else is new…I just feel these two are pathetic. Johnny Depp is going to have a long, hard, road in front of him IMO…
That was always speculation that he cheated on his ex with Amber. Mainly because Depp and his ex broke up privately months before it was announced publicly. People mag had a cover story about them breaking up 6 months before they confirmed it. And his ex just defended him against these abuse allegations. Doubt she’d be doing that if he cheated and broke her heart.
When Amber and Johnny publicly started as a couple, Vanessa stated that she and Johnny were already having problems before Amber came along.
Which to me means she didn’t feel any possible cheating that may have happen broke up relationship.
who is Heather?
Also the concept though of if they cheat with you, they will probably cheat on you. She was the other woman (prob not the only one) when he was w Vanessa. All the relationships I know that started w someone cheating or both cheating with each other, end up w one or both parties constantly being paranoid or suspicious of furthering cheating. I mean I guess it’s the knowledge that they did it before. (Not defending anyone here, just an observation about the cheating stuff.)
It’s not really a fight when one person asks a question and the other one blows up & chases that person up the stairs. That’s just abuse.
THIS.
Word. Fecking word.
Well if your husband is an abusive addict then you’d be curious about what other crap he was doing while he was gone! She didn’t have any proof but his anusive behavior made her think.
She knew what’s she was doing now let’s movie on to something else and leave the gold digger and the abuser a lone
How do all of you that say he abused her when you only heard rumors you weren’t there to witness anything . one if she was abused is the good thing she got out and could probably get help but if he never layed a hand on her ,just chill like the clothes And the way the way some one is doesn’t define a person . just like the saying don’t judge a book by its cover, í say dont judge neither johnny or amber untill you know what is the truth. Which will be hard because even if there is evidence how do we know that was johnny or how do we know he didn’t do it , we could never be 100% sure because neither one of us was there in person to actually witness it happening .
I see this is the club for people who have made up their minds about Johnny’s guilt and Amber’s halo. Not that any of her accusations would hold up either in court or by medical exam. But you go right ahead and pronounce him guilty, does that make you feel better.