Noted trypophobic Kendall Jenner is back and saying more words! Yay. Kendall once again wrote an “essay” (or a brief series of sentences) about how she feels about asking men out on dates. Keep in mind, this is Kendall we’re talking about. There’s a lot of tabloid conversation about Kendall’s sexuality, but right now she’s telling the world that she’s straight, so God bless. She’s currently dating A$AP Rocky, which still seems totally random to me, like A$AP’s name was picked out of a Kardashian-branded fedora. As it turns out, A$AP Rocky probably got a date with Kendall because he was one of the few brave souls to actually ask her out and pursue her. Because Kendall likes to be pursued. She doesn’t believe in asking a guy out.
Kendall’s dating rules: “It’s not that I’m scared of asking a guy out or showing him that I like him, it’s just that I’d much rather be pursued. I definitely like the chase and the feeling of being wanted. And, the way I see it, if a guy isn’t going to put in the effort and ask me out, then the relationship probably won’t work. It would be a waste of time for me. Call me a little old-fashioned, but it’s just what I like!”
Ageing, grey hair: “A couple months ago, I found a gray hair on my head. Even though I was jokingly being dramatic about getting one (they can be from stress!), it honestly does kind of freak me out. When I turned 20, I was scared, as crazy as that sounds. I just didn’t feel ready to be out of my teens, yet – I didn’t want to be in my twenties. I feel like your twenties are when you actually have to grow up and be an adult, which is scary!”
[From Kendall’s website via The Mirror]
I like that she’s saying it’s a personal call, that she’s not shilling some return to “The Rules” style dating. And honestly, a lot of women probably feel the same way. I’m not going to say that I’m all about being pursued, but I’ve asked out guys before and it always ends up being disappointing. I’ll say this: no guy has ever said no when I asked them out, but every date (where I approached the guy) has been sh-tty. There is something to this too: “if a guy isn’t going to put in the effort and ask me out, then the relationship probably won’t work.” God, I had to learn that the hard way.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
I really like her… Shes a bit different frim the rest of the family!
She’s the same as them. Even nastier and brattier if the rumours are true. She just can’t have so much surgery for her job. If she was 2 inches shorter she’d look just as them too.
If you look at her old face she has had surgery though not as much as the others.
And I agree, they are ALL the same. I recall a few years ago everyone loved Khloe because she was “real” and honest and funny. But she is the same as all the others in the end …
In what world is she different though? She’s shallow, vain, plastic surgery obsessed, and entitled. Remember when she ran out on a bill after yelling at the waitress? She has a “job” the same way Kylie does. It’s only alright because she’s tall and thin and pretty. Also, it’s quite obvious she is into girls, and there’s a lot of rumors of her having a girlfriend named Lauren. I think she probably feels pressure to relate to “average” teens by pretending to be straight, much like normal teens.
I’m probably the same as I do not know how to flirt and get a number. I much rather the pursuit and give my number
Been with my now husband since high school, like 20 years ago, I’m so out of dating game! Several times during our break-ups guys would ask me out I thought, oh, i’m out with a friend. Then I got back home, “Was it a date?” Freaked out and refused to go on another date. Thank God our relationship got stable on last year of college and boy, I’m relieved to never enter dating scene ever again. Come to think of it, there might be a psychological terms for my behavior LOL
I actually agree with what she said about being pursued. Not that I’m saying another way is better/wrong, that’s just what I’m comfortable with. Its been my own personal experience that if a guy doesn’t show interest then don’t bother (though yep had to learn that the hard way).
Yep, I’ve been there and the dates have never really been all that great (though thankfully no-one turned me down). I don’t think one way is right and the other wrong, just that I myself have mostly given up on asking men out.
That said, I totally sympathize with her grey-hair issue. I found my first one when I was 23 – I’m going to be 40 soon – and I almost cried. At that time it just seemed like SUCH a big deal, lol.
My experience too. If a guy isn’t pursuing, he’s not interested enough in me. Also the level of pursuit – for me- has often reflected level of interest but of course there are exceptions.
I don’t like this because it means I can’t always choose. I have to accept among the pursuers and sometimes that’s a weird bunch:)
“And, the way I see it, if a guy isn’t going to put in the effort and ask me out, then the relationship probably won’t work”
but by that logic does not mean that women like her wont put in any effort?
Exactly. Unfotunatly we’re still conditioned to a role.
Both Kendall and Kylie are phobic, suffer from anxiety and are afraid of aging, Genetic or products of their environment?
Kylie said something about being horrified to turn 18.
Here’s the thing, though. If we are demanding equality as women, shouldn’t we treat men the same way we want to be treated? Meaning, men are just as insecure as women when it comes to these things. Guys like the feeling of being wanted, too. Guys like women who put in the effort and ask THEM out, too. I know we still live in a society with very strict rules on how men and women should behave around each other, but ladies, if you like him and you have a feeling he likes you, for God’s sake just show some balls and ask him out!
I agree. You may miss out on a great relationship if you wait to be asked out by the guy. I also wonder how much her “dating” life is controlled by mama. Always high profile guys that she dates.
For me, this is more about personality raher than gender. I could never ever ask a guy out. Dying alone sounds less scary than making the first move. I don’t think I’d be asking women out if I was a guy either. This is one of the rare issues where gender norms work in my favour.
@Locke Lamora you hit the nail right on the head. I feel this exact way too.
In my experience guys are super confused if you don’t play by the Official Unwritten Rules of Courtship (i.e. he does work, she giggles and says yes or stays casually uninterested until he puts MORE effort into it and says after all) I’m so sick and tired of this and yeah, she only applies it to herself, but still. Can we shake this up a little? Can we get rid of those stupid rules?
You don’t have to follow them you know.
Don’t like traditional gender roles? No one is forcing you to.
Many women like men who take initiative and are masculine, I am one of them. I like men who do the pursuing and courting.
No one is stopping you from going after the guy you want, do it and more power to ya sister! There is plenty of room for all preferences here.
Agreed, but it’s also more complicated. Particularly because at the time society really gets into dating, people have been “conditioned” to behave a certain way. It seems like guys are conditioned to like the chase. It’s the chase that intrigues them. This not only extends to flirting, approaching the girl, and asking her out, but also to sex. One of the reasons dating rules are for women not to have sex with a guy too early is because they lose interest when it’s too “easy”. SO, SO DUMB, but I’ve seen it in action, personally and with my guy friends. I definitely want to see this mentality turned around, but it’s not simply about girls saying we want equality and therefore should be doing equal things. Girls actually FEEL wrong about doing behaving certain ways because society has conditioned them as such.
I think some of this is biology and not society though. Men are given to chase because of testosterone. Generally they are driven to want sex with more and varied partners than women. Again, I’m saying generally.
If you have sex early with th a guy, I don’t think this automatically means they lose Interest but I think it reveals their real interest earlier. If they were only into it for the sex, they lose interest.. But if they were into it for all other reasons, really like the woman, they don’t necessarily lose interest. By this reasoning, it’s not wrong to have sex early, but just be prepared for having the guys cards revealed too.
I definitely think we should treat men the same way we want to be treated in the name of equality, but feminism alone doesn’t determine what makes the magic happen below the waist. Sexual desire is really complex, and I think there’s nothing embarrassing or inherently anti-feminist about being a woman who gets pleasure from being pursued. It’s certainly true that some of those desires are compounded (or even manufactured) by cultural conditioning, but evolutionary psychology plays a significant role in the science of male-female attraction, as does the very human impulse to use sex as a free space to play with and subvert the pressures and mores of regular life.
I still believe she is into girls more than boys but being pursued works for any gender, so good luck to her.
She is the least annoying of the bunch and at least she has a real job (bought through her mother’s connections yes.. but she still shows up and puts effort in it) unlike her sisters.
Agree.
Also I think ASAP rocky might have been fishing for some publicity (no judgement!) because the first of like the 1,009 times Kylie broke up with Tyga she was supposedly spotted on a date with him. Which definitely doesn’t do much in making the public believe this is a authentic relationship with the totally heterosexual Kendall Jenner.
A$AP didn’t date Kylie. That was some dude from Tyler the Creator’s crew. A$AP and Kendall have been hanging around each other for awhile too, go back to February and you will see them together.
It was definitely reported at one time (possibly more than once) that Kylie went on a date with that guy. I know bc I follow these a88holes on Facebook and I distinctly remember thinking, “Didn’t Kylie just go out with that dude?” when this was first reported.
Her high fashion modeling career happened because of Kanye not Kris. But I agree, she’s into girls so I find it hilarious everytime she comes out with a new beard.
Dating ASAP Rocky? Now that is a real shocker. Who would have thought it
ASAP Rocky, lol, what a stupid “name”. If my boyfriend’s gone with that, I’d be secretly ashamed.
I agree with her about being pursued, that’s exactly how I feel and act, but I don’t think it’s entirely due to personality, we’re still caught up in gender roles.
Well, it’s just a stage name. His real name is Rakim Mayers, and the Rocky part comes from a nickname for Rakim. A$AP comes in because Mayers is a part of the hip-hop collective A$AP Mob, the founder of which has said that the term ASAP stands for an abbreviation for “always strive and prosper.”
It’s a little silly, but certainly a much more interesting stage name backstory than Calvin Harris, for example.
But “asking out” is kind of a throw back to old fashioned dating, isn’t it? Seems like everyone I know in that age group uses Tinder or Match or just hooks up at parties. Not that there’s anything wrong with dating, but I wasn’t sure the kids still did that sort of thing.
I wonder if men ever think: “if a girl isn’t going to put in the effort and ask me out, then the relationship probably won’t work”.
Personally, I think it just depends on the people involved and what they want out of a relationship.
For me, I like being dominant in relationships, which includes doing the pursuing.
I really dislike the idea of women waiting around for someone to pursue them.
It’s so passive, what happened to working for what you want?
I think it plays in to the culture of no doesn’t mean no, it just means try harder. It also plays into the notion that men must be men by being aggressive and active pursuit, and that women don’t know their own minds. Eff that noise. PePe Le Peu is not a romantic role model.
Some people enjoy being passive in a sexual context, and that’s really none of your business to like or dislike.
I exist as a woman in a world where women are expected to be sexually passive, and it is frequently presented as a desirable, or the most desirable, trait. So while it may be seen as shitty and nosey, especially in the case on a young woman who may or may not be straight, these issues impact us all, it is a publicly available narrative and therefore it is my business.
I feel frequently young women are performative in their sexuality, which isn’t healthy or fun for anyone. You are entitled to your preferences, but once you air them publicly I am entitled to my opinion on them.
Well at least she is not like khloe practically humping like she’s in heat.
Kendall is a bit classy and isn’t into flings. Seems she takes her time
If she is more into women, I wonder if anything happened between her and Cara? They seemed so close awhile back (CAKE, LOVE covers etc.). I can’t remember the last time they were together. Kendall seems to have traded her in for Gigi after Cara got a serious gf.