Chris Pratt is in full promotional mood currently for The Magnificent Seven opening this Friday and for Passengers, which doesn’t come out until December but the trailer dropped yesterday. One of the most attractive things about Pratt, besides his washboard abs, is his marriage to Anna Faris. So naturally, people want to know what the secret is to their success. While talking to ET, Pratt said that contrary to the old adage, they do go to bed angry from time to time… but then he adds this toe caveat that I don’t really get.
He may be starring in a series of blockbusters, but Chris Pratt still has his priorities in check. The A-lister opened up to ET at the NYC premiere on Monday of his upcoming western, The Magnificent Seven, about his rules when it comes to romance.
“I have heard some people say ‘Don’t go to bed mad.’ I think that is garbage. Sometimes you’ve got to go to bed mad,” he noted, adding, “but at least touch toes, you know what I mean? At least touch toes. ‘We will deal with it later. I think I am going to get some sleep,’ and touch toes.”
Pratt, who is married to actress Anna Faris, is taking some time for his family after a grueling work schedule. In a recent interview with Parade the Jurassic World star revealed his decision to devote some time to his son, Jack, after his long absence.
“I’ve been on the road for 14 months – I did three movies back to back to back – so I’m taking six months off,” he told the magazine. “I’m taking Jack to Jack’s Beach – which is what we named the little stretch of beach on an island up on the San Juan Islands where we got a place. We’re going to go back to the fort we built about a month and a half ago when we went for a short visit and see if that’s still there. If not, we’re going to build it again.”
I think my grandmother actually gave me the ‘don’t go to bed angry’ advice once. I didn’t know people actually followed it. The Mister, even as marvelous as he is, has greatly benefitted from me going to bed angry and starting with a fresh perspective the next morning. But I really don’t get the bit about touching toes. Is he trying to say to let your partner know there is still compassion even when you are angry? I’m probably taking this way too literally but if my husband tried to touch my toe when I’m mad, I would find a way for that toe to bite him. This is not the first we are hearing this philosophy from them, however, Anna said the same thing back in January. Whereas I agree with the concept, it seems like funny relationship advice when asked, ‘how does your marriage work?” “Go to bed pissed! Just make sure your toes find each other.” Oh well, God bless. If something works, spread the word – especially in this, The Year That Ate Love.
I’m glad they are getting some down time as a family. If I had a place in the San Juan Islands, I’d never leave. I know Anna and Chris aren’t perfect people but I’ve always thought they went though hell with Jack’s premature birth and they are openly grateful for him. Plus, I think they would be really fun parents.
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Me too Hecate. When I go bed angry, I make sure not one part of my body is touching my partner’s. It’s how he knows I’m really mad. I’m not really much of a Brangeloonie but I don’t think I can take it if he and Ana were divorce. Same goes for Channing and Jenna.
I’m with you Marie. I’ve been married for over 20 years and when I go to bed angry with my spouse, I don’t want any part of him touching me. If his foot accidentally (or on purpose) touches mine, I will jerk my foot away. I understand the concept of, “We’re still okay,” but when I’m really angry, don’t touch me. Eventually we’ll get it figured out, but no. Just no.
That’s the entire point. When you’re furious, you huddle completely on the other side of the bed, completely separate. You’re shutting the other person out. What he’s saying is, even just a small touch shows that you’re still there and still present. You may not feel like snuggling, but even just a little foot touch gives that reassurance.
I…kind of get it?
It’s the reassurance of connection. Mr. Cait and I are too tired at night to always resolve conflict, so there are times we go to bed frustrated and/or pissed off. But the comfort of not having feet of bed space between us is reassuring – it means we’re still us, we’re still okay, and everything will get sorted.
Yes. My husband and I are the same way. I think of it as the “I don’t like you very much right now, but I love you” touch.
exactly
I am mad as a wet cat, but I love you so we can touch feet.
That’s precisely it! +1 for the toe touching, I get it.
This!
This as well.
If I’m so angry I don’t want to be touched (accidentally or not), I make sure I sleep on the couch…
was he really away from his family for more than a whole year?
Now this is a couple I actually respect – love them! (And I get the toe thing – it’s just a ‘yeah I’m mad, let me seethe but I’m still here’)
I like them too and their son is absolutely adorable. And I’ve got to see the Magnificent Seven…
@ Kitten below. Hey Kit, I like them, they’re great, but does anyone really put people on pedestals anymore? Really believe that shit? Did they ever? Esp. now with social media around? You know they don’t. Though, I do happen to think they’re pretty sweet as a couple. And yes, I do feel for anyone who thought they were going to lose their child prematurely (says the preemie, with a preemie mother).
And yeah, it might be hyped, but they genuinely seem to like and have fun with each other. I love watching Anna being taught to wrestle with Chris, and it makes me laugh every single time. They and their son usually make me laugh and lightness like this is seriously needed, esp. now.
I was sick in the hospital for months and luckily at the time, GotG was the preferred choice of movies, particularly by patients (though they also liked Maleficient and Frozen) and all the nurses (I did a poll). It definitely helped me while I was there. One of the nurses became so excited about Bradley Cooper being in it, until I told her he was the talking raccoon. Talk about disappointment.
Sometimes laughter can get you through anything, even when you are fucking terrified. So, yeah I don’t know them personally, just whatever’s been released, like any celeb here and I think they’re human just like everyone else. But I like them, in fact I owe them one.
Oh really? Not so much respect from me.
Ana was married to Ben Indra when she met Pratt on the set of Take Me Home Tonight and then promptly divorced Indra to be with Pratt. Cheating rumors were rampant at the time not to mention the continuous cheating rumors about Pratt over the years.
I think if we learned anything from Brangelina, we shouldn’t put celebrity marriages on a pedestal because we simply don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.
I didnt know there was an overlap. That explains her divorce settlement which I always thought was excessive considering she wasnt that huge. I listen to her podcast. She said that the divorce was awful because he got custody of their mutual friends. So now that makes sense too.
Speaking of her podcast, I dont get the sense that these two particularly even like each other. She keeps calling him “my sweet husband” even when he is in the room and it feels like a dig rather than a pet name.
Who has Chris cheated on Anna with? I know she talked to People about how much the cheating rumors bothered her, but I don’t remember anything else. Dish!
@Kitten
You can like people/celebs/couples without putting them on a pedestal.
More….. I usually don’t put anyone on a pedestal in real life too, because I’m a cynical, sceptical biotch 😀
Silver, nice one. Neither do I, except for – of course my mother. The woman has me well trained. I think I feel guilt in my sleep.
LOL, I was kind of wondering if I clicked on this post if I’d see if you were still anti-Pratt, Kitten. (I rarely read stuff about him because I think he’s kind of boring)
Putting anyone up on a pedestal will only result in disappointment. Humans make mistakes, it’s what we do.
Though I actually feel bad for Faris. She met her first husband pretty young and actually if there was any overlap it was really short, as Wikipedia tells me the movie started production in mid-Feb and she filed for divorce by April. Sometimes relationships don’t work, but it takes something to bring that clarity – whether it’s a particular incident, or meeting another person. It doesn’t mean that Faris is a bad person because her first marriage didn’t work out.
I couldn’t get past the 14 months of work, gotta take six months off. Nice.
Eh, he lives away from home doing long, physically demanding hours. I know many regular people who have jobs with that description, and most of them do a year or two of work then have an extended break.
And I wish I could!
It’s not like normal work, where you get to come home and see your family at the end of the day–or even have normal, real-people hours. Hell, if I made what he made in 14 months, I’d take 6 months off too.
I get it, and it’s not far off from advice I give some of my patients. Going to bed angry is fine. It can be beneficial. But sleep in the same bed, not one on the couch, etc, and make sure you connect in some small way before going to sleep. Like “I’m pissed, but I need to sleep on this, but I still love you.”
I wonder if the pinkie rhyme would also work with adults?!
Mr Sixer’s cross patches only ever last for about thirty seconds, so none of this would apply to him. I just asked him about me and he said if I was angry at him he wouldn’t dare attempt toe-touching. What’s your strategy then, I asked. He said: I make you cups of tea until eventually you say thank you for one of them and then I know I’m forgiven and it’s your turn to make the next cup of tea.
Now I know!
I’ve also heard to get naked when you start arguing. I’m curious about your professional thoughts on that advice. Never tried it, it never crossed my mind when I’m angry.
You could end up with a Sarah Marshal break up though. No one wants that.
I hate arguing naked. It always makes me feel self conscious and I am not a self conscious around nudity person.
Yeah, I’m not a fan of that. Sure, it makes you more vulnerable, but you can be vulnerable with clothing on. I really have no professional advice on that, but if it works for a couple, then go for it. I don’t think I could argue with paranormallawyerman’s todger waving in the wind.
We’ve done this. There have been nights where we’ve been super upset over something, and it just kept going around and around and we kept getting more and more tired – there was no way there would be an imminent resolution – and the later and more tired we’d get the more upset we’d be.
There’s a certain point where you need to just pack it in for the night for each of your sanity levels. I’ve gone to sleep, being fuming mad, but past the point of being able to resolve it until I was rested, and we’ve always slept in the same bed in those situations. Backs would be turned to eachother, but there was definitely the toe touch and a terse “good-night”.
I think it’s a case of being to the point where you’re like “I love you, but I am so annoyed, and I can’t handle being awake and going around in circles anymore tonight. But I love you.”
He’s saying they go to bed mad over an unfinished fight but never so mad they can’t still connect and reassure each other a little.
Which is what ‘don’t go to bed mad’ means really. You don’t have to resolve every issue in a day, but being mad about one thing doesn’t mean your entire relationship has to go to hell until you resolve it. You can still love and care about each other and show it while being mad.
We do this. Maybe just a hand squeeze or as you turn your back to them, because you’re still pissed, you back up until you touch them. Little things that mean you’re still there.
I am pretty excited for M7. The trailer looked great and it seemd like forever since Denzel has been on the screen.
I know what you mean, I’ve been missing Denzel and the trailer did look great!
There is a Russian proverb “the morning is wiser than the evening” . Some things which seem to upsetting and impossible at night when you are tired and stressed resolve themselves by the morning.
I think it is actually a very bad idea trying to resolve a conflict late in the day.
True!
I do this with my husband, I totally get it. There are times when I go to bed angry, but even when I face away from him, and he knows I’m upset…. I’ll still stretch my leg out so that my toes touch his leg. So it’s like, I’m pissed at you, but I don’t hate you. We have a problem we need to sort out, but I still love you. It’s weird but it works for us. The point gets made that I’m mad but I’m also reminding him that even when I’m mad at him I still love him.
Thanks, Chris but I’m not going to take marriage advice from a man who began his relationship with his current wife while she was married to someone else.
Hypocrites. It’s ok because karma’s always brewing.
They did talk about how they started off as friends and that her marriage was already ending. She didn’t cheat on her husband, but was Chris’s friend and sometimes wingman. Apparently, they didn’t get involved until she had apparently separated.
That’s how the story goes, something along those lines anyway…
You can find the timeline on the internet if you want, but it hardly matters right?
You know what they say about throwing stones, Angie.
But thanks for the lesson on karma. I’m sure that won’t come back to bite you in the butt.
She separated from her ex within 5-6 weeks of first meeting Pratt. If they were having an affair and he was the reason for her split it must have started immediately and gotten extremely serious very fast.
More likely her marriage was breaking down long before she ever met Pratt, and the timing worked out so that they were together a lot when she was available.
Aw, I want Denzel to look at me like that.
Absolutely touch toes! It says “I’m mad/annoyed, I love you, but we will work this out.”
LOL, I totally misread the headline as “Sometimes you’ve got to go to bed MAN,” and I was like, heck yes, let’s go! 🙂
I prefer staying away. I can be very impulsive when I’m mad. Whenever I am angry for whatever reason, I’ve noticed the best I can do is just be alone for a while and wait for the anger to pass. When I’m with other people, especially the person I’m mad at, I can often do things I’ll end regretting.
I know what he means about the toes — the compassion like you said, but not for a stretch just a quick touch. I have gone to be angry for the fresh perspective too. If I try to “make up” while I am still seething and I did not have time to process my anger, thoughts, etc. I will just get even more salty. We tried it a couple of times and wound up getting into even bigger fights. People need time to cool off no matter what time of the day.
Crap Pratt…my hatred for this man will outlive religion.
P.S.: Don’t ask me why. If you want to know, search the archives.
Note to self, just skip negative comments from Eve ala Pratt, but does this apply to Jack Pratt too?
Because he may be the cutest child I’ve ever seen. This includes my family members. And they ain’t ugly.
Now goes off to ponder if anything will ever outlive religion…
C’est la Vie:
Oh, don’t worry. I never write negative comments about children (even considering the fact I’m not a huge fan of them). In fact, I rarely comment on them.
To be honest, I find MANY comments on celebrities’s children here on Celebitchy downright creepy.
Eve,
I know, I’m with you on that, but since I saw Faris teaching her son to act on Conan and other things that smack of child exploitation, I find him cute. Can’t help it. The kid’s even on TMZ. I shouldn’t even admit I look at TMZ. The shame.