Much like the Brangelina mess, I’m really tired of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard’s public and legal swipes at each other. I will give Depp and Heard some credit though: at least there aren’t innocent kids involved. The Depp-Heard situation is about an abuser and his victim yearning to break free of this abusive cycle. I admire Amber for how she’s conducted herself and for not hiding away like she’s ashamed. But I worry that her latest legal filing will be interpreted as Amber crying “Uncle!” When we last checked in on Johnny and Amber, he requested that Amber pay for part of his legal fees because, he claimed, she was bothering him with so much extra stuff in their divorce. Amber would have been out of his hair months ago if he had just paid her the $7 million, per their divorce agreement, but Depp has been stalling and passive-aggressively trying to find ways to not pay her directly. So this is what Amber said to the court:
Amber Heard is responding to Johnny Depp after the actor requested $100,000 in court sanctions from his ex. In official documents obtained by E! News, the Justice League star assured the court that she has been committed to a quick resolution of her divorce. But according to the actress, “Johnny and his counsel seem to wish to prolong this proceeding as a means of punishing me.”
“I am now told that Johnny is taking outrageous steps of seeking legal fees from me because I have asked the court to enforce the settlement agreement that we reached four months ago,” she wrote. “I am told that Johnny somehow claims I am the one who is delaying settlement rather than the other way around. These claims are contemptible and shocking. Johnny has delayed the resolutions of this matter. I want my life back. I want to be divorced from Johnny now.”
She wants her life back. She’s basically pleading with the court to end this drama and force Depp to pay, or at least resolve all of this bulls—t. I also agree that all of this is being done by Depp as a way to “punish” her for leaving, for wanting out, for wanting to be anything other than his arm-candy/punching bag. I hope the judge agrees with Amber and sends a big message to the Drunk Scarf.
These are photos of Amber leaving the W Magazie pre-Globes party over the weekend. Her dress is Peter Pilotto.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
She’s not wrong.
If I were her I would’ve just agreed to him paying the charities directly to be done with it.
No. Bypassing Amber to pay the charities is a petty, controlling move. Not to mention he would get a nice tax right off out of the deal. No way in hell would I have let him do that. That money is HERS to do with as she pleases.
“Not to mention he would get a nice tax right off out of the deal.”
Is this true?
While I agree that he should pay her if that’s what they agreed,I was reading some of the latest E! articles about them and they keep mentioning that the settlement money was agreed to be donated by him.It could be a mistake but it makes you wonder
It does make me wonder.
It makes me wonder why our society hates women so much that the constant narrative, even when they are victimized, is ‘What did she do to deserve it’, ‘She should just give in and let him do what he wants’.
Even as victims we don’t get a fair shake.
One CB article had a great quote about the danger of supporting abusers and victims equally, and how damaging it is.
Desmond Tutu has one as well,
“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.”
The agreement was that he pay to her, not the charities. He decided he wanted to circumvent that by paying the money to the charities. In doing so, he can write off the donation and get a nice healthy tax write off. That money is Amber’s. She can do whatever she wants with the money. The settlement wasn’t based on her giving the money to charity. That was HER decision not his, and not the court’s.
Yes, Obrihye, you can write off charitable donations on your taxes. By paying the charities instead of Amber, the payment becomes a charitable donation. She can pay the money to the charities, if she likes, but the agreement in their settlement was that he was to pay Amber. Why would it be okay for him to do otherwise?
Yeah, my understanding is that if he pays the charities directly, it won’t cost him anything. If she does it, then she gets the tax writeoff so she will effectively not pay tax on that year’s earnings – but I doubt she earns a huge sum, anyway, so it won’t be mammoth for her.
It’s also none of his business. He owes her her divorce settlement. He’s a controlling dick, playing these games.
I really feel for her. He is making all of this as hard and dreadful as he can, and even with that additional evidence to add to the pile, a lot of idiots are hating her still and excusing him.
If I were her, I’d say go ahead and pay the charities directly…and we can toss the confidentiality order in the trash while we’re at it. Then I’d sing like a canary.
He is a dic-. POS
he is a douche! he makes me wanna barf
“I want my life back”. That should be enough.
The levels he’s stooping to in order to continue to control and abuse her are sickening. He will drag this on as long as he is allowed to. I hope he gets his ass handed to him. What a repulsive human being.
Let’s be real,they are BOTH dragging it at this point.It’s really troubling to me how they got together in the first place since they obviously despise each other and appeared to do so for most of their time as a couple.Anyway,everything started going back downhill after that PSA video.Friday will show who was right.Gonna be interesting and hopefully it will put an end and they will go on with their lives.
Sorry, can’t agree. Amber wants the money paid, and she is filing to get her money. Johnny refuses to pay the agreed to amounts, and has been dragging it out. This is on the Walking Accessory.
@Ruth
I do not agree with any part of this post and believe the way you stated things to be dismissive of DV survivors.
If Amber agreed on the NDA and if the PSA broke it like Depp’s team claims I say she has very bad advisors.We don’t know what was in that NDA.No I don’t consider myself to be dismissive of DV survivors at all.On the opposite I take it very seriously and that’s why I examine all things possible.I always felt that there was more to this case and that’s my opinion.That’s why court here was so needed,cause both parts had evidence against each other.Since that court never happened and will never happen some things here are percieved very different from each one of us,depending on our experiences and opinions.
Ok lets do this then.
“Let’s be real,they are BOTH dragging it at this point.”
See the Desmond Tutu quote above, and pretty much all DV literature ever. Taking this type of attitude is damaging and actually supporting the abuser.
“It’s really troubling to me how they got together in the first place since they obviously despise each other and appeared to do so for most of their time as a couple.”
DV survivors have a very hard time leaving, and abusers do not start out being abusive. They slowly wear away someone’s strength and resolve, until they feel in control. How they got together has nothing to do with her abuse.
“Anyway,everything started going back downhill after that PSA video.”
The PSA where she explicitly does not mention Depp. She has dated people before, and will do so after. Her entire life and story are not owned by Depp, despite what he may believe.
“Friday will show who was right.Gonna be interesting and hopefully it will put an end and they will go on with their lives.”
If someone is making a decision on Friday, it will not necessarily “show who is right”. DV survivors and rape survivors are frequently not supported by the law, or the justice system. The system does tend to support their assailants, who are considered virtuous and pitiable because their lives may be ruined for their momentary indiscretions.
You do not view yourself as being dismissive, but your entire attitude dismisses the experience of the vast majority of DV and abuse survivors. Your attitude is the exact type that hurts survivors the most. The ‘good’ person who still lands on the side of the abuser by claiming neutrality.
I disagree too. How exactly is she dragging it out? They agreed to a settlement. She still hasn’t been paid. That’s not on her. Demanding he pay her isn’t dragging it out, it’s trying to settle the matter.
Every judge should have to take, and pass, training on dealing with minorities and domestic abuse if they want to preside over these cases. There needs to be some sort of system so this Does Not Happen.
This is textbook abuse and Johnny is a textbook abuser. Amber has my respect for a lifetime for the way she has handled herself. I hope she gets the freedom she, and every person, deserves soon.
#FreeAmber #FreeKesha
Amber was also arrested and charged with domestic abuse for a public incident of abuse. Why do you folks never seem to remember that detail? Guess it doesn’t fit your narrative.
Why do you keep on ignoring the fact that charges were dropped?
Belooooga, you say that as if it was the same case. That was a separate incident and has no bearing on whether or not she was abused in this case. It’s like saying someone couldn’t die of hunger because they ate a meal once.
tealily, I really like that example.
Belooooga, it seems you are ‘forgetting’ some major facts as well, since the charges were dropped and she was never ‘charged’ with DV. In addition, it seems that both Amber and Tasya feel they were being targeted due to homophobia, but that doesn’t fit your narrative so don’t let it bother you.
Actually her ex the “victim” defended her and says she was wrongly accused! And that she has the upmost respect for her. Now in Washington 4th degree DV is when somebody touches another person without permission and a reasonable person can find that offensive and you can be arrested according to Washington law.Amber grabbed her ex’s arm and a cop saw that as offensive and arrested her. There was no abuse period.
She’s so hot!
And no lies are being told. She shouldn’t have to beg and plead to end this toxic relationship once and for all, but sadly that’s where we are right now.
She really is beautiful, isn’t she? 🙂
Actually by donating directly to the charity he is saving HER a big tax bill. If she wants it paid to a charity why does she care? I think she wants to reneg on the donation.
And for what it’s worth, Depp’s lawyer is also Angie’s lawyer. Funny how your impression of Wasser’s tactics are so polar opposite based on which one she’s representing. People who aren’t lawyers and don’t understand how media and publicity interact make me laugh. You guys are so naive.
I think you are confused. The donation would earn a tax credit, not a tax bill. Nice try though.
So what? If she wants to reneg on the donation that’s her decision. Depp was ordered to pay HER the money, what she does with it after is up to her. She could light it on fire and dance naked around it. Depp refuses to pay her, it’s a control tactic.
I think Wasser is a great attorney, I don’t always appreciate her antics, and I’m pretty positive a lot of what we see is because the CLIENT makes the final call. Wasser can only act on their behalf with their agreement. Jolie listens to her lawyers, Depp pulls rank.
I’m not positive how divorce settlements are taxed, but yes she would pay taxes on the 7mil, and if she donated write all of that out which theoretically could null the taxes she would have owed on it.
I don’t know why I’ve continued responding my first statement is the truth, sorry you don’t like it.
Belooooga, your defense of scarfmonster is both repulsive and misguided. Pull your head out of Johnny’s ass for once. It will clear your ideas hopefully.
Because Depp wants to pay the charity a little at a time over a long stretch of time which effectively lowers the actual amount that money is worth to the charity.
AND most importantly, it’s not his money to give.
I cannot believe how many posters are once again coming out of the wood-work to support Depp. And as far as I’m concerned saying “She should just accept whatever to be done with it” is completely supporting her abuser. “Yeah just let him continue to do what he wants free of consequences! He abused you for years, what’s him getting one over on you one more time? That’s the spirit.” Gag.
Yep! Let’s just sit back and watch him continue to abuse and control her/the situation because she should just go away!? He’s still abusing her by dragging this divorce on and stalling at every chance he gets with the settlement.
@Belooooga Nice try Scarf-Pirate apologist but she already gave 350,000 to the ACLU in August as confirmed by an email they sent to tmz because they were badmouthing her as usual. She was going to give another350,000 to the LA Children’s hospital but he tried to take over HER donation? He won’t even send her personal items to her almost 5 months after reaching a settlement and you still try to defend that coward?
No. She will have no tax bill, because she’s donating it. She’d actually get an overall tax credit, because the taxes on the settlement wouldn’t amount to the full sum – fairly obviously. It’s basic maths: you don’t get taxed your full salary, do you? You’d have no income if you did.
I don’t think you realise how many people posting here have legal qualifications of one sort or another. And your logic over the posts on this page don’t really advertise you as intellectually superior, either, so maybe reining in the condescension just a tad might be smart? It’s not a good look on you.
It’s not just about the 7mil that he refuses to pay but he won’t even give her back her personal items and sign over a vehicle to her! And if she broke the NDA then he’d be asking to not have to pay anything but she do break it so he can’t ask. WTF does he want/need with her personal items? That shouldn’t take months to have one of his assistants pack up her stuff and send it to her. He’s showing his true colors all over again and his overhyped/overpriced lawyer is helping him look like the angry,abusive,controlling coward of a Human Coked Up Scarf that he is. The judge is going to tear him a new one. And btw Amber will be testifying on Friday but Scarf-Boy has told the court that he will not be there to defend himself as usual!
He doesn’t want to co-operate on anything, does he, because he’s an arsehole manchild and it’s how he can keep on punishing her. Once this is settled, there won’t be anything he can do to pay her back. So he’s dragging it out.
A friend of mine divorced her husband after 10 years and a son. He abused her in all the possible ways and drove her crazy. The running “joke” is that she divorced him out of shame because she exposed him so much in the end people started asking her why she wasn’t divorcing him. Anyway he knew till the end to get under her skin and because everybody was telling her “just be done with him” she ended up loosing everything and even paying some of his debts. Now she is back living with her parents with her son. They even had to sell the house because he flat out refused to pay his part of the mortgage and kept playing poker.
When all this happened I was away and some time later she told me some details. I lost it. How was it possible everybody kept pushing her to be a victim again? How could they allow him to take everything she had worked for just because? I was mad at her too but just because I wanted her to had fought harder. Anyway even after everything she did to “end it” guess what. He still texted her, called her and made passive aggressive comments through their son as always even offering to get married again because in the and, he said, they had good times too and could start over.
NO. The abusers must pay full stop
There are people who refuse to be moved, like your friend’s husband and Depp. Weak men need to dominate and control and women too often lie down like doormats because we think it’s easier. In the long run, giving in is never easier.
I have noticed that my comments were never posted. Are you afraid of a real journalist pointing out the obvious facts?