Olympian Tom Daley and Oscar-winning screenwriter Dustin Lance Black have been together since 2015. They got engaged that same year, despite their 20-year age difference (Tom was 21, DLB was 41 at the time). While they seemed so loved-up, it also seemed like… maybe they wouldn’t last the test of time? Well, guess what? Tom Daley was pretty much cheating on DLB the entire time. He allegedly had an 18-month affair with someone closer to his age. And more.
Olympic diver Tom Daley is alleged to have had an 18-month affair with a male model while his fiance was working abroad. Mr Daley, 22, is said to have exchanged sexually explicit messages with Edward William, 27, and is also accused of having ‘physical’ liaisons.
The Team GB athlete, who is engaged to 42-year-old American film director Dustin Lance Black, reportedly met his 6ft 6ins lover in the street and began chatting online in 2014. A source told The Sun: ‘Ed said the messages Tom sent would say things like, “I’m home and horny, can you come round?” ‘Others would say, “Lance is away, are you going to be about?” Ed told them it was a purely physical relationship with not much emotion involved. He said Tom was very confident and forward with a huge sex drive.’
The newspaper reported that the pair would meet for coffees at Mr Daley’s London flat and also attended. Their relationship is also said to have become ‘an open secret’ among the local gay community. Mr William and Mr Daley’s affair ended in 2015 but they have been in touch as recently as this month.
Mr Daley previously confessed to having an online tryst with another man during a secret relationship break with Lance – and has promised to his fiancé that it ‘will never happen again’.
Mr Daley admitted to being on a seven-month ‘break’ from his then boyfriend as the pair were tied up with demanding work commitments.
It sounds like the sexual relationship with Edward William predated his relationship with Dustin Lance Black, but that Tom and Edward were still hooking up even after Tom met and got engaged to DLB. All of which is not really any of our business, honestly. The only reason this stuff gets reported is because DLB and Tom were (and are) so public in their relationship. Plus, Tom is a huge celebrity in the UK because of his diving career, he’s like the Greg Louganis of the UK (incidentally, how great is Greg Louganis??). Also: when was this “seven month break”? Because they regularly appeared on red carpets together, and DLB was in Rio with Tom for the Olympics. Hm.
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Are we sure they don’t have an open relationship?
Yeah it sounds like an open arrangement to me.
Why would you say that? I never see this assertion when the story involves a hetero or lesbian couple but its always the first thing to come up when a third party pops up in a gay male relationship. For instance, remember the Kristen cheating pics broke days after Anderson Coopers bf was photoed in his own clinche? The Anderson story was buried in shrugs of “open relationship” while Kristen was destroyed. I could give other examples but my point is that theres a weird connotation here about gay male monogamy thats kind of disturbing. Isnt this one of the reasons Conservatives give for anti gay marriage positions …that gay dudes cant respect the sanctity of marriage because all they do is bone every other gay dude in the room.
These two have spoken very enthusiastically about being soul mates and wanting to marry. DLB has publicly expressed jealousy over Sam Smiths flirting with Tom. Why is anybody even suggesting that its an open relationship?
Because I have a ton of close gay male friends and the majority are in open relationships. In fact out of the long term gay couples I know (married/cohabiting) only one seem to have a traditional monogamous marriage. OTOH of all the straight couples I know the only open marriage I’m aware of is my friend’s parents who’ve been married 40 years or so. The lesbian couples I know seem to follow the more traditional pattern (but not always).
Luca76 not to make generalizations but I tend to think the same. A lot of my gay friends have a less stringent view of monogamy than my straight ones. Yes of course there are some in very committed and totally monogamous relationships, but even more are in somewhat open ones. Mind you this is just in my circle of friends, so I’m not saying this is true of all gay men. Maybe DLB knew about TD running around, maybe he didn’t. We don’t know. Id speculate it’s more due to the age difference than anything if TD really was cheating. He’s only 21(or was when they got together), and that’s fairly young to settle down, especially given his celebrity and probable abundance of offers
I’m sorry but I’m really troubled that you are insisting on this line of thinking much less presenting anecdotal experience as though it means something. If a couple behave as these two have; posted endless video clips discussing their oneness and one partner has publicly shaded another celebrity due to interloper suspicions, where do you get off bringing in this harmful generalisation. Unless a gay couple TELLS you they are open, you have no business assuming that their relationship is any different from your or mine. in the case of celebrity gossip, just as with straight couples, their past behavior not their sexual orientation should be the guide.
How many straight guys fancy Tom he is the pnly male i have fancied amazing
I don’t think it’s fair to generalize about gay males and open relationships. While I know more homosexual couples in open relationships than I do heterosexual ones, the number of homosexual couples I know in traditional monogamous relationships far outnumber those who are in an open one.
That said, I do think this site is pretty good. When Cate Blanchett’s husband was seen with the younger woman he was working with, people wondered if maybe they had an agreement going on or were on a break. Ewan MacGregor is also one often theorized to be in an open relationship with his wife, I believe. The speculations I’ve seen on here don’t get confined to gay relationships.
I assume that some straight couples have arrangements too (especially straight celebrities). For instance I always thought Kristen Stewart if she was with RPatz was in an open relationship. I also thought the same of Brangelina when they were together, Ewen Macgregor etc. And since I know people in open relationships I can say that for some having an arrangement where they sleep with someone else doesn’t preclude them from having strong feelings of devotion to their partners. I honestly think it’s saner and more admirable to be honest about your desires in a relationship. Believe me straight couples have their fair share of dysfunction.
Just wanted to say there has been CB speculation about Will and Jada, Robin Thicke and Paula Patton, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner at this point.
Given Daley’s age and background (sheltered child elite athlete) I would be amazed if that was their arrangement.
My god, you guys! It was just a question! A logical, rational question about a couple in a relationship that has had several side relations. It was not a jab at the gay community. Stop being so offended over nothing!
Many but not all gay couples have sort of open relationships. It is about sex only, other than that they do not include anything
I think its pretty smart.
Is it really an open relationship or do we need another word? Cos other than sex with other people they live normal domestic life. And may i add , last longer than traditional relationships.
Yeah this timeline seems suspect. Plus we don’t know the details of their relationship arrangement. I’ve heard of many gay couples who don’t expect monogamy.
And suddenly the whole Sam Smith thing comes to mind.
I was just coming here to ask about Sam Smith. There was drama after Smith won his Oscar, right? And I think it played out on Twitter.
What Sam Smith thing?
@Locke – when Sam said he was the first openky gay man to win Oscar (or something like that) Dustin tweeted that he was wrong bc hebhad won one previously.for Milk. Sam retracted and explained but Dustin kept going at him and then said “stop texting my fiance”. I dont recall what Sam replied with butnthats when his social media blackout began.
might be unconnected but he poppednup in my mind. He was clearly striking a nerve with Dustin.
All is fair in gossip.. If this was a female or male celebrity it would make news. So it being two men… Well let the Gossip ensue
They’ve been together since 2013, before he started with this guy it would seem.
http://www.celebitchy.com/337780/tom_daley_19_comes_out_as_bisexual_reveals_hes_dating_a_39-year-old/
If only Tom would look my way
Yeah I don’t get that “predates” comment in the post when the copied article clearly says he met his fiancee in 2013 and met the new guy in 2014.
It’s almost like nailing down a teenager right after he comes out despite being 20 years his senior and in a totally different place in life isn’t a great idea.
The kid is 22 and been in a serious relationship (plus engaged) since hitting adulthood. Of course he’ll grow restless. He went right from his parents to living with someone old enough to be his parent. He needs to be an adult on his own for a while.
Actually he lost his dad who he was very close to not long before his relationship with LDB began. I always wondered if that wasn’t a big factor in getting together with someone 20 years older.
I agree, the relationship has always seemed a bit creepy to me, like the older guy took advantage of Tom’s youth and inexperience. Especially since Tom is also an elite athlete who’s spent so much of his life training, he comes across as quite sheltered.
Yeah, this relationship and the one between Sam Taylor Johnson and Aaron Taylor Johnson have always squicked me out and I feel like they get a pass because they’re not the usual older man/younger woman relationship.
Aaron and Sam have kids and have been together a lot longer so I think you should leave them out of this.
I’m not sure how that changes anything? Sam and Aaron’s relationship is incredibly creepy. The way they both talk about the start of their relationship is a perfect description of grooming. The fact that they’re still together and have kids doesn’t somehow make that ok, in fact it’s worse as even if Aaron one day realises how wildly innapropriate Sam’s actions where, he’s stuck with her in his life forever.
To be fair, these two may have had some ground rules for their relationship…not a big shock considering his young age.
A 21-year old acting 21. Quelle surprise.
Lol. Exactly.
Not surprising
Older men think money and a lifestyle is enough to ensure their plaything’s loyalty. They really think they’re smarter than their young little things, not realizing they’re being played the whole time.
Date within your age, men. You look dumb AF with someone much younger, and even dumber when it’s revealed they don’t have much respect for you.
If it’s not an open relationship then I’m not exactly shocked that a 20 year old was seeing someone on the side. He’s too young to be engaged anyway. I’m not condoning bad behavior but this should not be a shock to anyone. It’s fine if Dustin Lance Black wanted to date a 19-20 year old but it’s very weird to get engaged that quickly to somebody so young. He’s setting the future marriage up for failure.
Ive never liked them together, mostly because their age difference. Daley was soo young.
That said its weird seeing everyone giving him sort of a pass. Kristen was around the same age when she cheated and that was a big deal.
Just said the same thing about the double standard. There was also zayn. Practically every post about him there is someone who mentions that he’s a cheater.
What?!?! He hooked up with a 22 year old young enough to be his son, got quickly engaged and the 22 year old wasn’t ready for a lifelong monogamous commitment?!? I am shocked I tell you! Shocked! 🙄
Daley’s in the wrong for cheating but Black was ridiculous from the start of this.
They may very well have an open relationship.
I become less and less convinced that there’s a single man out there that’s capable of being monogamous . So many married men try to hook up with just anyone, women, men, etc. sometimes I look them up online and they have families and post about how they never would cheat but they keep sending me messages. ::sips tea::
This thread has a lot of sympathy for Tom despite him being an alleged cheater. Especially the argument that he’s young is interestingly repeated in a lot of comments. Let me remind you that zayn was the same age when he cheated on his fiancée and most people here crucified him ( and you still hold it against him) likewise kristen Stewart. I am wondering why such goodwill is extended to Tom?
Any relationship, gay or straight, is hard when there is a 20 year age difference then throw in long separations due to work. And lets be real, a 22 year old man is still not emotionally developed.