A couple of days ago we heard that singer Elle King, who had skipped out on her scheduled wedding about a month ago, had actually been secretly married for a year and is now separated from a man she called her “best friend” and “the greatest love of my life,” Andrew “Fergie” Ferguson. Elle explained in a long Instagram post that she married Fergie officially just three weeks after they met and that he had proposed to her 12 days after they first met. It sounded like a whirlwind romance that inevitably burned out, except TMZ just reported on a very disturbing incident at Elle’s home in which Fergie was physically abusive to her. That happened about a week after Elle skipped out on their big wedding in April of this year.

Elle King’s husband was arrested after they had a violent altercation about a month ago — when we had no idea they were married — but she chose to let him off the hook, criminally.

Law enforcement sources tell TMZ the incident went down April 23 at Elle and Andrew Ferguson’s L.A. home. We’re told they were arguing when Ferguson grabbed her by the throat with both hands, tossed her on a bed … and said, “I’m gonna f***ing kill you.”

We’re told cops found scratches on Elle’s neck and marks on her arm. Ferguson was arrested and booked for felony domestic violence. We’re told his side of the story was that he threw Elle to stop her from hitting her head on a wall.

Elle later told cops things just got out of hand while they were partying, and she did not wish to press charges. The D.A. ultimately declined to move forward with the case … however, the arrest adds context to the singer’s surprise breakup announcement.

[From TMZ]

I’ve read that abusers operate like Fergie did at the beginning of his relationship with Elle – they move fast to get a commitment and to isolate love interests/victims from friends and family. That’s not to say that every romance which moves quickly is abusive, just that abusers do this often. Also I’m not buying that a choke and throw is to “protect” someone. That’s a really sh-tty excuse. I hope that Elle gets counseling and is able to completely disconnect from this guy because her Instagram made it sound like she’s really hung up on him still. Someone who chokes and threatens your life is NOT your best friend and they’re not the love of your life.

Elle looks like she’s doing ok though. She’s got this cute vintage truck and was able to get it registered at the DMV despite the fact that they were closed. She gave a shout out to the DMV employee who helped her out after hours too, which was nice.

Sometimes you go through some shit. While you're in it, you think 'why me. where's my good luck.' WELL today I went to AAA to get insurance and register my truck. With 20 minutes left until closing, I had to get it back from mechanic, get it weighed, and then return with a certificate. I was 11 minutes late. For some reason, they made an exception for me. Not only did they not find the 2nd VIN # I also didn't have enough cash. Yet they STILL let me leave with a temporary license plate, insurance, and smiles. These people stayed an hour late after work just to help little old me out. It was a really nice reminder of the kindness you get when you give. Andrew at the Burbank AAA…thanks man. 🤘🏻

A post shared by Elle King (@elleking) on May 16, 2017 at 6:28pm PDT

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