As much as I want to believe that Selena Gomez learned some important life and love lessons from her on-and-off relationship with Justin Bieber, I don’t think that’s the case. I think Selena and Bieber had a crazy amount of teenage drama, and I think Selena figured out that she sort of thrives on that drama. She loves that she “stole” The Weeknd from Bella Hadid (Bella and Abel were broken up, but the split was pretty recent). Selena loves that she has a big pop star boyfriend and that she gets to be “the girlfriend” now. Most of all, I think she enjoys that Abel is low-key dramatic too. Reportedly, Abel was never faithful to Bella – taken with his lyrics and that fact that I’ve heard a lot of anecdotal information about him, I tend to believe that he’s not a very good boyfriend overall, let’s say. So… I believe this Star Magazine, is what I’m saying.
Never make a threat you cannot carry out. After learning that The Weeknd invited model Ava Van Rose back to his room before a show, Selena Gomez said she was going to give Abel the boot.
“Abel flew straight back to LA to try to fix things with Selena, but she just gave him the cold shoulder,” reveals a friend. “He actually left early because he was sick of the silent treatment. She clearly wanted him to beg her for forgiveness, but that isn’t his style.” Sadly, it is hers. “Instead of dumping Abel, Selena panicked after he called her bluff,” spills the source. “She’s so afraid of being alone that she begged him not to leave her!”
[From Star Magazine, print edition]
Sounds about right, doesn’t it? Selena gives him the silent treatment (aka she pouted) when he seemingly cheats on her, and instead of calling it a day and really standing up for herself, Selena folds because Abel played her perfectly. The only surprise here is that it’s taken this long for these kinds of stories to come out about them. If the Selena-Justin relationship was any indication, Abel and Selena will probably have about 20 breakup-and-makeup cycles. Ah, young love.
Photos courtesy of Backgrid.
Ugh, I hope it’s not true. Honestly, I wish one of these women that is being cheated on would do the same. Turnabout is fair play
Or how about having enough self-esteem to drop the cheaters and be ok with being alone until they find someone who respects them.
This!!
+100 I’d much rather be alone than stay with a cheater. Once a pig, always a pig. Nothing worse than not being able to trust a guy, and worth the wait to find a good one who respects
Yes Yes Yes
Exactly. And perhaps the by-product of respecting yourself would be that the cheaters of the world would come to the conclusion that no one else is playing their game.
Yea self esteem would’ve done wonders here. They are a mess of half the stories floating around them are true.
Plus he’s still using and supposedly she has some substance issues. This won’t end well
She’s such a pretty young girl. She’s not the most talented singer out there but I would think she could find a niche for herself, and someone to be with other than this guy.
I truly hope this girl is in therapy
Darn, I thought they were such a cute couple, not anymore. She has low self-esteem and he has too many choices.
Really. Those pictures of the two of them…he looks like he would rather be anywhere else.
It doesn’t surprise me. These women are so young and are successful in a very fickle industry where they could be cast aside any day. It’s not surprising they may have low self esteem.
I don’t see how that makes sense. She’s a household name at 25, earns in a month more than her peers will probably earn in their lifetime, has millions of fans and is regularly described as beautiful by every day people and magazines alike. If she’s insecure, it’s not because of her job.
Yeah I agree, she is in control in terms of Hollywood business. She either learned a lot from BFF Swifty or is savy on her own but she has managed to make lots of money and make her own decisions career-wise. Men are her weakness and that could apply to any woman from the average 25 year old to the female CEO of a Fortune 500.
Bad taste in men many times has more to do with women’s relationships with their fathers or what they observed as “normal” between their parents. It will be interesting to know if her father was a cheater or treated her Mother with disrespect. There is usually something there. See Halle Berry and her negative father vs Jennifer Lawrence’s positive relationship with her father (also good relationship between her parents. Sometimes we should go to therapy to deal with her Dads before dating.
I’ve found this….
“When she was only 7, Ricardo Joel Gomez would take his daughter out to eat so that he could hit on waitresses that thought she was adorable. It was their “Thing” as she once called it.”
Oh yeah, I think the dad took her to Hooters. That explains so much…
See Bella, you didn’t need the catsuit, your revenge was coming because cheaters stay cheating unless something major happens.
Selena, get ye some gfs who can set you straight, and a therapist like stat,. Ego and a good dicking are not great reasons to stay.
Sounds legit. If youre singing about side pieces and getting high for orgies I’m gonna go ahead and take your word that you’re experienced in these activities.
A rock star in his 20’s not staying faithful? You don’t say….
LOL. Same for pro athletes.
Right? Which is why young women need to not tie their sense of self worth to landing one of these guys. If she loves the drama, fine, but own it. Nothing wrong with casual dating in your 20s.
I don’t see how this couple is drama though? I don’t see them a lot in tabloids and this is like the first story I’ve seen since they got together. I don’t know, I like them together. I don’t understand how Selena “stole” him, considering they were broken up for months and she’s not even friends with Bella.
He confessed to loving cocaine, and she was in rehab. How is this good for her?
I believe it. He is the type to destroy a woman’s self-esteem and is only able to do it because he picks only women with some insecurities he can subtly poke and then use against them. Toxic.
Now that she passed the first test as doormat girlfriend he will up the ante. Not only did she beg him back (BAD) but she didn’t let weeks and weeks go by. VERY BAD.
Someone went HAM on his face makeup. I could write my initials on his cheek.
@ Magnoliarose
I know right? He just screams “BAD NEWS!!!”
Plus, I can’t even see what makes him so attractive to these girls, apart from the £££. I don’t like the way he looks and he sounds like an 8 year old girl.
Well, to each their own.
I’m glad someone said it. Can’t stand his music and he looks like a dweeb.
I CANNOT GET OVER how much makeup he has on in those photos from The Met, every time I see them I’m stunned again!
Such a pity. She is young and pretty and has some talent (I am assuming, since she has managed to get this far in her career).
I couldnt figure out what she saw in him, but if his backstory is true and rumours about her are true, he probably has her hooked. Totally dependent.
This is going to end in tears (hers). Sigh.
Nothing bonds two people like a common drug habit and I agree he probably encourages it.
She should go and love herself.
Perfect comment is perfect.
So many blind items about this being a PR relationship. He does not need Selena any longer-he is one of the top earners on Forbes list this year. Countdown to breakup. They have zero chemistry together- very obvious.
Ugh, I can see it. As in, I myself can’t always put my foot down and stand up for myself for fear of being left with nothing at all… It’s just… scary
It isnt being left with nothing: its being left with self respect and the possibility of finding someone who will treat you well.
I could never understand the type of people who HAVE to have someone. My cousin is like that. As soon as his relationship goes sour he cheats and moves on. I love him because he’s my cousin, but I don’t like him because he’s a jerk.
D!ck-matized
Absolutely! Funny how that works.
For what it’s worth, if you google the “model” you’ll see that she was talking to the media about how she hooked up with Drake 3 months ago.
I never see chemistry with him and any woman, he totally pings gay to me. I know he has a rep but plenty of closeted guys in their 20s are ”womanizers”. Just my instinct on him, the drugs make it even more of a mess. He also looks about 12 (as does she, so they’re at least well coupled in that regard!).
An additional problem, aside from the many glaring obvious ones, is, because she is a public figure, now the whole world knows she has allowed not one, but two men to disrespect her. She runs the risk of becoming a draw for the use-and-abuse them types. I’ve had girlfriends like that. Just once is devastating, but the psychological effects over time are crippling, and she’s only in her early 20’s. It would behoove her to switch her choice of tough love to a therapist who will help her realize some hard truths (1. No it isn’t your fault they treat you badly. 2 Yes, you are responsible for your choices, they don’t get to make those for you. 3. No one who treats you badly knows the first thing about love, no matter what they told you. Etc.), without one drop of pandering to her celebrity. ASAP
Drug addicts attract each other like flies to honey. I feel like that may be the common denominator here. I was really rooting for them too. I love(d) them as a couple.
I believe it. But to say he’s low-key on drama, but does this kind of crap while in a relationship? I think he’s also a person who thrives on drama and their relationship is probably built on codependency.
I always thought this was more a PR relationship than a relationship, because what kind of idiot would be in a supposedly exclusive relationship with him? It’s like his entire persona to be the dirtbag cheater. It would be like dating Taylor Swift and not expecting to end up in a song about how much she hates you now.
In the last clips I saw of this couple she was hanging all over him and mouthing, “I love you!” while he was kind of laid back. She definitely came off as very needy and try hard.
Yep, not a good sign or a good way to act. As someone already said, this is definitely going to end badly and she will take it hard. She’s sensitive enough, we saw that with Bieber, so this is the first guy she’s hung on to since him, and when he cheats again, which he will, or when something splits them up, she will not be okay. I hope she has her girlfriends handy when that time comes. However, she will learn with this, and then grow into herself. She may have to be patient and wait for the right guy to come along at some point.
Ugh honey no! Have a little bit of self respect. If you decide to cut him loose, do it.