When Audrina Patridge was pregnant last year, I covered a magazine interview she did with Fit Pregnancy. It seemed like the vapid girl from The Hills was all grown up – she seemed happy, confidant and low-key. She met an Aussie guy named Corey Bohan and they were together for several years before she got pregnant. She gave birth to a baby girl in June 2016, and then she and Corey married last November. All of it seemed very low-key and normal. Which is how all of those Dateline specials start, before you hear about how the nice, normal dude that she married is a raging psycho. Audrina filed for divorce this week after what sounds like a nightmarish situation.
Audrina Patridge is divorcing her husband of less than a year, on the heels of running to court to get protection from him … TMZ has learned. The former ‘Hills’ star filed to divorce Corey Bohan on Wednesday, and according to docs the split appears to be triggered by a series of incidents she considers menacing and emotionally abusive.
In the docs, obtained by TMZ, Audrina says the violence began in mid August when they argued about her accusing him of cheating. She says she was holding their daughter, Kirra Max, when Corey pushed her back. Audrina says he then emptied out her backpack and purse, and began punching himself in the head … and threatening to bash himself in the head with a metal canister if she left. She says Corey had threatened suicide before — in July while she was out of town on a business trip.
According to docs, on Sept. 6, Corey was at home watching Kirra, and when Audrina got home, he began calling her names and harassing her. Audrina says she grabbed Kirra and went upstairs, but he followed and told her she’s “f**ked up” because of her childhood and her messed up mother. She says she started recording video of him, and he said, “Grow some balls and pull the trigger and file for divorce.” At this point, she says she was terrified and called police to file a report. On Sept. 15, she says child protective services came to the house to meet with her.
Her breaking point came this past weekend. Audrina says she was on a panel at a beauty event, and Corey showed up and followed her on the stage. She doesn’t say it got physical, but he demanded to know where Kirra was and said he was going to get her. Audrina says, “I was shaking at this point.” Audrina filed for a temporary restraining order against him on Monday, Sept. 18 … which was granted. Audrina’s rep says, “Audrina’s number one priority is her daughter.”
TMZ provided another story later in the day: when Audrina went to their house on Monday and tried to get some of her stuff and he refused to leave when she arrived – at this point, she already had the restraining order, so he broke the order just by refusing to leave. He apparently also had a bunch of security cameras installed in the house to “keep tabs on her.” When she told him to leave, he called her a C-U-Next-Tuesday.
TMZ also says that Audrina knows exactly what she wants from the divorce: primary custody of Kirra, Corey isn’t allowed to take Kirra to Australia, and she doesn’t want to give him any spousal support. He’s a BMX dude, so I would assume he’s got some money coming in, but who knows? Anyway… poor Audrina. It sounds like she’s doing everything right and good for her for getting out. As for that little sidenote about their argument and Corey telling Audrina that her mother is f–ked up… I remember Audrina’s mother. Audrina’s mother is FUN (and drunk).
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When this story broke I immediately was thinking of how many years she might have dealt with this behavior. She was with this guy for years (he also appeared on the hills) and I don’t doubt he displayed this behavior before. So awful. Hoping she can get away from this creep immediately
I watched the hills and I remember him from there and I think he was seen as a step up from that other guy she was seeing on there , Justin bobby or something was his name? I only wish her and her baby well, just glad she had the courage to leave whilst the child was still so young .
Justin Bobby was a douche but he wasn’t abusive.
The phrase that throws me (and worries me) is that it says she claims the incidents started just this summer. Really? Together years and it just started? I get that some victims are embarrassed they stayed so long (they should not be!!!) and might leave things out but if the behaviour truly just started out of the blue they need to be looking at whether he has a psychotic break. It justifies nothing but for her safety, the child’s, and yes his, they need to know exactly what they’re dealing with.
It might have started once she had the baby. It’s common for there to be no abuse until the partner is “locked down” in some way, either marriage or a baby. And it’s very common for it to start with self-inflicted harm used to manipulate the partner. This all looks like the beginning of abuse. The length of time it takes men to abuse is another reason why victims aren’t believed as credible– which these comments demonstrate. Just remember, abusers are often much more in control than we picture them.
PPP I agree. Sometimes a baby legit throws a dynamite into a relationship. I’ve seen that happen too. My comment was more I hope she hasn’t been suffering in silence for years. Because the possibility of that makes me upset. And I know this happens BECAUSE people don’t believe women to support them to leave such a situation. Just look at the woman that left her husband and he ended up killing her and 6 other people. Horrific. We need to support women in leaving these situations.
I believe her. As Jaii said, Corey was portrayed as a mellow, kind dude on The Hills–and that’s not to say that I don’t completely understand how manipulative reality TV can be but he at least *seemed* like a chill guy.
I also very much doubt that Audrina would have brought a baby into this situation knowing he was abusive.
This is not unusual, by the way. Men can become abusive when their partner becomes pregnant because they are:
• Upset because this was an unplanned pregnancy
• Stressed at the thought of financially supporting a first baby or another baby
• Jealous that your attention may shift from your partner to your new baby, or to a new relationship
I could see the last one being a possibility with Corey. Of course, this is all speculation.
I just hope Audrina is safe and surrounded by loved ones. Very scary situation for sure.
ETA: sorry I see that people above me addressed this while I was typing.
We don’t teach girls what the signals and traits of an abuser are except for one list of criteria that hardly cover the spectrum of warning signs. Teen violence in relationships has risen dramatically in the last decade or so. Girls don’t know that they aren’t immune from entering into a toxic relationship just because they come from a good home and live in an upscale neighborhood.
I DO think there were signs, but they didn’t seem like signs because we aren’t taught to look for them, they don’t look as dramatic as they seem in movies or books.
Before the baby, it probably looked like he was just very loving and loved to be with her and it didn’t seem controlling since it felt nice and he was sweet about it. His little quirks don’t seem like they are controlling, but you love him, so you accommodate them. It doesn’t look like a big deal that he is picky about where you go to eat, what movies you watch, where you go on vacations or music that plays in the car. In fact, you laugh about it with your friends and roll your eyes. He showers you with compliments when you wear and do something he likes, but he passive-aggressively lets his displeasure known but after a time it becomes routine, and you convince yourself that he is so sweet and never critical yet you have been conditioned to pick up the signal and change to suit him.
Everyone thinks you are the perfect couple and you think so too. Sure he is intense sometimes and sensitive but his childhood was rough, and he needs your love. He cries watching movies, and he helped you save an abandoned dog that the two of you refer to like your child. Sure he calls you all the time but he’s not checking up on you, he is concerned for your safety because he couldn’t take it if something happened to you. Not checking up on you at all but you should get home since you don’t want him to worry.
Excessive worrying is a form of control too. It lays the responsibility on the partner to make sure the worrier is placated by changing your behavior. It just seems like concern and love.
The baby arrives, and his carefully constructed life where he is passively in control of everything is disrupted, and he doesn’t like it. None of his tactics work anymore, so he escalates to keep more control.
Audrina needs to stay away from him and never be alone with him or allow him unsupervised visits. He will run to Australia with the baby and make it impossible for her to find them as punishment. He may even move on now since he knows every single day you are in pain and he is still in control. OR He lures you to his house to talk because he is in pain and sorry, but once there he turns into a monster and murders you.
If that sounds extreme, it isn’t. A woman my mother is in a civic group with had a daughter who was killed and dismembered by a man just like that. He killed himself and his family rushed to get custody of the baby, so her family never sees her. It isn’t just on TV it has to happen to someone, and it is important to take steps that it isn’t you.
@MR – your comment should be required reading for young girls. So often controlling behavior is seen as sweet or romantic when it’s really not!
And girls who do recognize this behavior as unhealthy are usually seen as weird or ungrateful. “You don’t want your boyfriend to be with you 100% of the time? Why not that’s so sweet! I’d love to have a boyfriend like that!”
@MR – also required reading for people who don’t know what abuse looks like until they end up in a relationship like that. You described my ex-husband to the letter. So scary! Thankfully there were no kids, and I was out before anything really violent happened.
I can believe it. people change. Good or bad friends, a new relationship, a new job, a new baby,… All can trigger change, for bad or good. A few years ago I met with a former colleague. Asked about her life and was stupefied to learn of her divorce. After almost 20 years of being the nicest, sweetest, her husband met some new friends at work, started to have a drink with them before coming home and soon turned a violent drunk.
She had supported her mother out of a abusive relationship and knew how it works. At the first violences, she got out.
Sounds like drugs made him psychotic
He threatened with suicide? If that is true, he should be sanctioned. It’s a tough word but I don’t find a better one. I know first hand of a couple – the husband also threatened his wife with suicide and not only once. It put her under enormous emotional distress. This kind of threats are one of the worst forms of emotional abuse and domestic violence.
Yes I agree. My first boyfriend was very emotionally manipulative and when he felt he wasn’t getting enough attention, because I was focusing on school or work, he would start so much shit. Including self harm, fake illnesses and then arguing with me because I didn’t have time to deal with him all the time. After we broke up he swallowed some pills, survived it, and then called me to try to black mail me into getting back with him or else he’d try it again. Luckily at that point I’d had two weeks to myself and was starting to see sense again. I was so angry I just told him to get lost. The moment he couldn’t manipulate me anymore he just left, and as far as I know, is still alive and well. I have a male friend going through the same thing right now with a girl he’s been with for years, where he just felt held captive eventually. Emotional extortion is so brutal to deal with, and all that fear and worry.
I stayed with an ex for much longer than I should’ve because he would threaten to kill himself if I left him. It’s so common it’s frightening.
All I could think of when I read the suicidal threat was this cop on Dateline who said, “If you’re suicidal, you’re homicidal.” Glad she got out.
My ex did this to me all the time. Not sure when it happened, but one day I was so broken down I remember saying to him “Ok. Go ahead and do it then. Get on with it.”
And he didn’t.
Sometimes now I still feel like an a-hole for saying something like that, but it was an important lesson *for me and my situation* – once he realized I truly didn’t care he had nothing to hold over me anymore. It was the most freeing moment of my life. And after that decisions we easier…still messy…but easier. Half the battle (for me) was keeping a lid on the violence, the charade. Once out in the open I felt so supported. Not everyone has that story, of course, but no one can help when things happen behind closed doors, and we can’t do it on our own. I’m always so happy when people choose to go public, for whatever reason. Not only does it bring awareness, but it takes them out of the darkness, the isolation.
Always hated those MTV shows, but I’m definitely rooting for her – and so glad she’s getting out while her daughter is still quite young.
From what I can remember from many years ago, Audrina’s mum is a nasty (really nasty!) piece of work. Like calling her daughter’s friends whores levels of nasty.
I don’t think that counts as ‘fun’?
Anyway, good for her for walking away from this POS – assuming of course her side of the story is the truth.
I hope she gets primary custody of her daughter and that he isn’t allowed to take her out of the country. He’s clearly unstable and seems like the kind of monster to do anything to hurt and get back at Audrina. I wouldn’t be shocked if he sees his daughter as a way to hurt her now instead of, you know, his daughter.
(My own experiences seeing men and women do this when I was growing up might be bleeding into my reasoning here).
I hope she and her daughter stay safe!
If he is threatening suicide when he doesn’t get what he wants, he should only be getting supervised visits. He is unstable and should not be around kids without another adult.
I sure hope she gets primary custody, I’d be terrified that he would take the child away to Australia
i think she is going to take him back. they have been on/off apparently like this for years.
If he hasnt already hit her before.. it sounds like its escalating to that. Ive dated a red bull althete before and some are straight edge and some are crazy coke head cheater dogs. I bet he spends all his money partying and on BMX gear. They are hot and fun but are total nightmares at home
California is so equal, she will probably have to pay some spousal support to him since it seems like they were together for quite a while and she is the breadwinner. And he will probably be ordered to do some counseling and anger management, but she won’t be getting primary custody unless there is more (sealed) allegations.
It sounds like some of his behavior was public so thank god because otherwise how would anybody ever believe a woman claiming abuse.
he sounds like a total loser for not contributing financially. he only pays utilities and *sometimes* helps with half the mortgage? typical extreme athlete behavior. “hot losers” as I like to call them. they spend all their money partying and on the sport while their wives support them
he sounds hot tempered and extremely miserable sob
I wondered if the mother would be mentioned. She was a mess on that reality show. Hilarious, but a mess.
Emotionally abusive mom –> broken “normal” meter –> susceptibility to ignore red flags early on. I feel for Audrina and I’m glad she’s getting out.
Aw I’ve always had a soft spot for Audrina for some reason.
Also, CLASSIC ABUSER trying to control their victim with suicide threats. My abusive ex-boyfriend also did the “punching his own head” thing. So moronic.
I hope she gets full custody and he only gets supervised.
Confident
Don’t y’all remember this as a storyline on her post Hills VH1 spin-off, “Audrina”? Corey was portrayed as an emotionally abusive guy, and they broke up towards the end of the season because she needed to be free of his rage issues. It was rumored that they didn’t really break up and that it was just for the show so Audrina would have something interesting (like a Lauren and Jason plot) to draw in viewers.
That was years ago, and they’ve supposedly been together ever since. Abuse is wrong and I feel bad throwing the suspicious card, but I’m so torn. I don’t know what to believe. These Hills girls were paid to professionally lie about their relationships, friendships and lives on television for years… Who do we believe?
The videos aren’t free to stream but you can purchase them on Amazon & iTunes:
Season 1 – Episode 8 “Audrina & friends arrive in Palm Beach. Audrina gets polo lessons & meets Polo star and model, Nic Roldan. Nic invites the girls out for drinks. The next morning Audrina receives an angry phone call from Corey.”
10. Episode 10
Audrina & Corey meet at a bar to talk; things get heated. Audrina & Sammy spend the day together. Audrina distracts Sammy from a big surprise. The following day, the entire family gets together for a big Patridge event.
Sounds like Drug Induced Psychosis see it with patients alot these days wonder what drugs he does
I can’t help but wonder if his behavior is a result of CTE. I didn’t realize BMXers were also suceptible until hearing about Dave Mirra’s death. Now it’s the first thought that comes to mind when an athlete acts erratically, like is this the beginning stages of CTE?
“Audrina knows exactly what she wants from the divorce: primary custody of Kirra, Corey isn’t allowed to take Kirra to Australia, and she doesn’t want to give him any spousal support”
I hope she gets primary custody if these allegations are true. I suspect money will be a large part of their divorce negotiations.
As a aside, I really don’t know how my uncle is a divorce attorney — you couldn’t pay me enough money to deal with emotional, vindictive, fragmented people all day long.