I used to get Brit Marling confused with like five other actresses. Like, three years ago, I thought Brit Marling and Brie Larson were the same person. I know that’s wrong! At least I know Brit Marling is someone completely different now. Anyway, Brit is young and beautiful and she’s been a rising star for several years. So obviously Harvey Weinstein did whatever he could to get her in a hotel room alone. This is what Marling wrote:
Brit Marling is the latest woman to come forward with sexual harassment allegations against Harvey Weinstein. “The OA” actress recounted an experience to the Atlantic where Weinstein requested a meeting with her in 2014. Like many Weinstein accusers, Marling said her meeting with the producer was relocated to his hotel suite.
“I, too, went to the meeting thinking that perhaps my entire life was about to change for the better,” she wrote. “I, too, was asked to meet him in a hotel bar. I, too, met a young, female assistant there who said the meeting had been moved upstairs to his suite because he was a very busy man. I, too, felt my guard go up but was calmed by the presence of another woman my age beside me. I, too, felt terror in the pit of my stomach when that young woman left the room and I was suddenly alone with him. I, too, was asked if I wanted a massage, champagne, strawberries. I, too, sat in that chair paralyzed by mounting fear when he suggested we shower together. What could I do? How not to offend this man, this gatekeeper, who could anoint or destroy me?”
It was clear Weinstein was looking for “sex or some version of an erotic exchange,” Marling recalled. “I was able to gather myself together — a bundle of firing nerves, hands trembling, voice lost in my throat — and leave the room.” After leaving his hotel room, she cried. “I wept because I had gone up the elevator when I knew better,” she said. “I wept because I had let him touch my shoulders. I wept because at other times in my life, under other circumstances, I had not been able to leave.”
Marling then explained why Weinstein was able to get away with this behavior for so many years.
“Weinstein was a gatekeeper who could give actresses a career that would sustain their lives and the livelihood of their families,” she said. “He could also give them fame, which is one of few ways for women to gain some semblance of power and voice inside a patriarchal world. They knew it. He knew it. Weinstein could also ensure that these women would never work again if they humiliated him. That’s not just artistic or emotional exile — that’s also economic exile.”
If there’s one good thing to come of this, I hope it’s that victims of sexual harassment and abuse realize that they’re not alone, and that what happened was not their fault whatsoever. The repetition of all of these similar stories shows that, over and over again, all of these actresses feel guilty about even being manipulated into being alone with Weinstein. To those women I say: look at the sheer volume of women who were manipulated in the exact same way. You have nothing to feel guilty about. The guy was and is a manipulative sexual predator.
Meanwhile, this probably won’t get as much attention because there’s not a big name attached to it, but one of Weinstein’s ex-assistants has come forward to tell her story, and she’s breaking the non-disclosure agreement she signed when she complained about Weinstein’s sexual harassment. She says that she and another assistant were harassed by Weinstein in 1998, and the other assistant was actually assaulted by Weinstein too. Weinstein paid out to both women for $250K combined, and they were both forced into signing Draconian NDAs. Go here to read more.
Here’s something else to keep your eye on: Ashley Judd will be giving her first post-Weinstein scandal interview to Diane Sawyer. Judd was one of the first women to go public as a named source and talk about Weinstein’s depravity.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
I love Brit Marling so much.
Ditto, and the OA.
I love her too! She has such strength and poise. Good on her for revealing her story. Every bit of information against the pig predator counts.
Me, too. Ever since Another Earth, which automatically became one of my favorite all-time movies. Brit is an amazing combo of talent, intelligence, ethereal beauty, honesty, vulnerability and courage. Who among us can not relate to these words: “I wept because I had gone up the elevator when I knew better,” she said. “I wept because I had let him touch my shoulders. I wept because at other times in my life, under other circumstances, I had not been able to leave.” xx Love to you, Brit Marling.
If he asked me, I would have asked him for directions to the nearest farm and mud pit where I could point the water hose at that pig.
Just like if Mark Wahlberg was on the 9/11 plane he would have fought off the bad guys and landed somewhere safely.
So easy to say what you might have done when someone with unspeakable power decides to use it against you. It’s another to actually live it.
Sam, thank you for this. We all need to stop saying what we would have done or what they should have done. Even if you really would have done that, it doesn’t make his victims less than because they couldn’t or didn’t.
Thank you Sam.
Many of these women have said they knew better, their instinct told them no, they didn’t want to go, and they ended up there regardless, because as Brit so well stated, he held all the power.
Sam, you obviously misunderstood the intent. I was characterizing Harvey as a pig; not trying to play the woulda-shoulda-coulda game.
I have so much respect for Ashley Judd for exposing this guy’s criminal behavior. By going on the record, she ended the abuse so many others were doomed to experience.
I do feel sorry for Ashley Judd. She had a promising career and then she sort of disappeared. I think a few years ago she came out and said she had severe depression. So much that Michael Bolton (who she was dating at the time) was taking care of her. I wonder if that was triggered by this pig.
Wow I like how she put all that.
Was Weinstein’s shower wheelchair accessible or some shit? He’s always asking people to do bathroom stuff in there like there was room for more than him in the first place. Welcome to the Hollyweird Circus where the elephants ask you to watch them get hosed down in parking lot.
So sick of this pervert.
Showering washes away DNA evidence….
Water washes away things yes but I’m making fun of a fat ton bastard taking up all the room in a standard sized shower and the presumption that another person could ever fit in a small space with him.
His ego let him think it was logistically possible among other stupid things.
Come on now. Smh
So eloquently said! And it makes me so sad how she said “I wept because at other times in my life, under other circumstances, I had not been able to leave,” disclosing another sexual assault almost as an aside.
That was heartbreaking, and probably made this particular experience even harder for her.
Hey everyone – I came back to say it’s totally worth reading the full article over at The Atlantic, but beware: the comments section is sickening. I thought The Atlantic was read by intelligent, thoughtful, progressive types. Apparently not. Each man who commented on Brit’s wonderful piece is worse than the next. It got so bad they closed commenting within 24 hours. Talk about an uphill battle. 🙁
Sadly I’m not surprised by this.
I remember when the Google engineer issue came up and Conor Friedersdorf wrote a “bipartisan” article on the issue. It was awful to read the comments saying the posters agreed with the superstition of biological determination (which was what that engineer was basically trying to justify in his memo but being disingenuous about it).
I thought Brit’s article was kind of obvious: it’s all about economics, isn’t it? HWood is about economics first and hype second and marketing third, and art or “artistic exile” would be low on the list. You can perform your art anywhere, with a camera phone, on the street as a busker, etc, or write your own stuff like she does (but you still have to sell it – get economic power – if you’re using other people’s money). And she talks about dramatic imbalances of power but that’s part of any capitalist system, moderated by legal rights. It’s not going to become “more humane” as she pleads for just by people being nicer as it’s how HW and any capitalist business is structured – it’s the structure itself (contracts, business dealings, companies, employment, etc). Harvey Weinstein engaged in seriously criminal behaviour. The DA involved in the Italian model complaint is a corrupt guy who dropped the case after money and influence. You could characterise this also as a failure of the legal system because Weinstein’s behaviour was clearly criminal and justified legal sanctions.
This line is interesting and very honest of her:
“I wept because at other times in my life, under other circumstances, I had not been able to leave.”
“I wept because at other times in my life, under other circumstances, I had not been able to leave.” This just gutted me, because I know the feeling. I think all us women need a group hug.
i once was out of work as a tech writer back in 2013 when the gov shutdown…. and a man (public speaker and academic) I had previously dated dangled a job at a premiere fed org….he requested i send him my resume all the while trying to get me to explicitly reminisce about our affair back in the day.
He props’d me on dating him again and he’d see what he could do…now mind you, I faced a layoff, almost eviction, and no funds to fix a car with a dead engine not to mention or make monthly payments….it was horrible. I literally turned him down and never got the job or even referred. Thus I was financially devastated and my clearance was effected up until 2 years later. A bitter pill to swallow.
What I am about to say will sound callus and awful. But at what point to we recognize that we all have to have integrity and sometimes you dont give in. This world is faced with men and women who will take advantage of you if you let them. Just say no, dont go to the hotel meeting, record and videotape stuff for record if possible, crowd fund you creative stuff idk,,,,im just saying it feels amazing at night knowing that though I suffered for 2 to 3 years in civilian life i got to say I didnt have to sleep my way to this position. I wasnt scared and it’s painful and I hate that man but idk… im not victim shaming but at what point do people say some of this was transaction. But the transaction was insidious all the same.
Like girl say no… and make a movie about it and you may have to do a day job and reshift your revenue but dont ever let anyone make you feel like you have to put out or whatever for your career….ever. You are better than that and it will be alright I promise and you will have a piece of mind i swear it.
I am saying this as someone whose lived thru of (the dastardly) at 2 times in my life teens and college.
feel free to shred this comment, but i mean the best.