When I was 13 years old, I would have rather died than sit down for a joint interview with my mother. Literally, I would turned bright red and collapsed, melodramatically, into the fetal position. There would have been nothing worse than having to sit down and talk about my relationship with my mom at that age. Those were my most difficult years – 13 to 15. After I turned 16, I was totally fine, like a disruptive-jackass switch had been turned off. But in those difficult years, I was a raging a–hole, my horomones were going crazy, I had dirtbag friends, I stayed out all night, I slammed doors and wanted to tell my mom to “f–k off” about a million times. But these times, they are a’ changin’. I guess the new model for parents is to be super-involved in their teenage kids’ lives, and to be cool parents who are cool with everything just as long as the kids tell them what’s happening. Courteney Cox and her 13-year-old daughter Coco sat down for a joint interview with People Magazine’s Most Beautiful issue. Some highlights from their conversation:

Courteney’s parenting style: “I want her to tell me everything, and she doesn’t want to tell me anything. Exactly the opposite of the childhood I had… We bicker, let’s be honest, but we love each other. We laugh a lot, for sure.”

Coco on her relationship with her mom: “I would also describe it as, well, I am a 13-year-old girl, you are a mom, so I love you, but of course we’re gonna get in fights. But we’re very close. Very close. I love you a lot.”

Courteney’s biggest parenting struggle: “It’s mostly me telling Coco, ‘Please get out of your room and come and have dinner in the kitchen.’ There’s a lot of that, for sure. She’s 13, she likes to be in her room. Unfortunately, I got her this big bed and that was the biggest mistake I’ve made. You need to make a bed really uncomfortable so all they wanna do is just go there for those hours they have to. That’s the big thing, I think.”

Courteney’s one rule is that Coco has a hobby: “My daughter is an incredible singer. She does plays. No, I’m not being a stage mom. Well, I mean — ” “At times,” Coco says, cutting her off. (Cox tells PEOPLE Coco has been in 16 musicals and although she isn’t sure if she will go into acting down the road like both of her parents, the actress will support anything she wants to do.) “I’m sitting there watching you be incredible, I just send you off to the plays to be incredible,” Cox says. “She is really good. I want her to have a hobby, to make her play the piano. I wish my mom had made me play the piano because I do it on my own now, but if I’d done it consistently since I was a kid, I’d be great. And she’s got this instrument in her voice that I want to be backed up with either guitar, piano, I don’t care, but she has to have an activity. That I’m strict about.”

What Coco taught Courteney: “She’s taught me patience. Probably one of the biggest things she’s taught me is to not take things personally, because really it’s not about us. Whatever moods that she goes through where things happen, I’m the safest place to be able to take it out on. It’s never about me, unless it’s actually about me. But it’s really not about me, and I think that’s something in life that we can learn. Whatever happens, it’s on our own experiences, not usually about the other person.”

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I tend to believe that Coco will go through a phase where she thinks her mom is an a–hole and she’ll be embarrassed to even be seen with Courteney. But that phase hasn’t come yet. I also think that phase is normal and that Courteney shouldn’t take it personally: all teenagers go through a sh-tty phase. They’re all rebels without a cause. They’re all deeply misunderstood and melodramatic and hyperemotional. The trick is, as Courteney said, to not take it personally. Just know that everyone was an a–hole at some point in their teenage years.

These photos of Cox and Coco are from 2015! Go to People Mag to see the Coco-Courteney photoshoot.

Photos courtesy of WENN.