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A few weeks ago, Demi Lovato fired her sober coach. We know this because it’s been confirmed by the press. On July 5th Demi tweeted the cryptic comment “Good luck with your blog” right after her life coach, a drug abuse counselor named Mike Bayer, recorded a video saying that his biggest pet peeve were the excuses that celebrities use “because they call themselves ‘artists.’” He said that everyone is an artist if they tap into their potential, and that many people use the “artist” excuse for being late or rude, which isn’t being an artist “that’s being a jerk.” It was clear that Bayer was calling someone out for their behavior, and it’s likely that was Demi.
US has quotes from a source close to Demi, who says that after firing Bayer she was maintaining sobriety for just a few days at a time and that “she refused to go back to treatment [before her overdose].” E! has more details about Demi’s relapse, which included drinking and using drugs. I’m not going to get into all that, and you can read about it on E!.
Demi surrounded herself with enablers the last few weeks, and thankfully one of them had the opioid rescue drug Narcan on hand when she overdosed. This may have saved her life.
Prior to her apparent drug overdose on Tuesday, Demi Lovato‘s friends had a strong suspicion an incident like this would occur.
“She and her ‘friends’ were on a binger the entire night,” an insider tells PEOPLE. “They keep Narcan on hand for such situations – they were prepared for this. The people she has been hanging around lately aren’t her real friends – they don’t have her best interests at heart. She’s pushed her true friends away.”
The source adds, “She had to find creative and sneaky ways to get drugs because her team and those that really care about her really try to keep a close watch on her.”
The “Sorry Not Sorry” singer was rushed to the hospital Tuesday morning following the incident at her Hollywood Hills home, hours later appearing “alert and stable,” a close source confirmed to PEOPLE.
According to the emergency call audio obtained by TMZ, Lovato had been unconscious prior to the arrival of EMTs and revived by her friends with Narcan, an emergency medicine used to reverse the effects of a narcotic overdose. Though reports have indicated the overdose was heroin-related, a source close to Lovato claimed to PEOPLE that it was not…
“Demi was never really clean and sober from all of her demons. She has been fighting depression and anxiety for quite some time — and is still in such a dark place. She was sober for a while, but not completely sober for six years.”
Demi has been visited in the hospital by friends and family. E! reports that she is “very grateful to be alive” and that she’s heading straight to rehab” when she gets out.
Demi has been open and honest for years about her struggles with mental health and with sobriety. She’s only 25 years old. So many people, celebrities and fans, are pulling for her. I hope that this was her rock bottom and that she can achieve sobriety and life balance again. It’s not simple or easy to overcome an addiction and Demi will need a lot of understanding and support.
I dont know the ins and outs of this but I feel it’s shitty of her sober coach to be posting shady comments about ‘celebrities’ online, when everyone knows he works with her – it’s not that hard to put two and two together. If you’re that petty that you need to vent feelings about your employer online, then maybe don’t be a sober coach. Maybe she is a brat and a pain in the arse – I don’t know – but IMO it’s massively out of order for a sober coach (current or former) to be saying shot about a client, even if he wasn’t naming names (which again, people know who he worked with!)
It does seem unethical of him.
Well, if she was a brat and rude being a celebrity was no excuse. But sure, he shouldn’t have vented online, that’s not mature either.
I agree it’s unprofessional to vent about your employer online, and guess what? Addiction makes people into unreliable, untrustworthy jerks, so what exactly did he think he was getting himself into as a sober coach?!?
ditto
I agree – vent to your partner, friends, family, coworkers, whatever, but don’t make it public. If I went online and publicly trashed clients, I’d be fired. Use a little common sense and professionalism.
Best wishes for her recovery.
Right??? I currently HATE my boss – she’s unprofessional, unethical, and my laundry list of complaints knows no end.. but I would NEVER post it online – not even on my private Facebook! And I would NEVER complain about her to work acquaintances. It’s just so unprofessional. However I feel sorry for all my friends and family who hear me bitch about her endlessly…
Um, you just did?
It’s bordering into the territory of HIPAA violations, honestly. It’s probably in the grey space where it doesn’t apply, but revealing those kind of details about somebody’s treatment is pretty gross either way.
It’s not in any way a HIPAA violation.
What is a sober coach exactly? Not a doctor.
A sober coach is someone who provides one on one work with someone newly sober. They help them find ways of communicating, healthy routines, recreation without drugs or alcohol, etc. They can be someone who is well into recovery, someone trained in addiction counseling, or someone just hired to “hold hands.” There is no licensing criteria.
Unfortunately it said he was a sober coach and a life coach. Many people get life coaches confused with counselors, but they do not hold a license…. so ethical practices do not apply to them.
But has he worked with other celebrities? How long was he with Demi? Was he a 24/7 supervisor or does he work with several people at once?
Apparently Demi has managed to use drugs even with a sober coach nearby. She must be a tough client. I wonder if she fired him or if he quit.
I absolutely agree. He should be ashamed of himself!
I don’t know a lot about her, but it’s a real shame for anyone, especially young people, to battle addiction. I’m glad she’s okay, and I hope rehab works.
She drew attention to the comments by her behavior, that was her doing, not his. Also, any person has the right to blog about their opinion, I don’t buy the argument that it is unethical or whatever; he isn’t a doctor, he never took the Hippocratic oath. People on the internet will distort anything to suit their narrative. She made bad choices, period.
If you follow her on Twitter, you’ll see she’s been a pain in the arse for some time, vents her beefs with close friends who she fell out with, call them out, posts pictures. It’s been a different Demi, she’s been as a**hole with people who helped her throu and stuck with her. I don’t think people close are really suprised, neither are her fans. This was coming sooner or later. Glad it was not lethal and she got another chance to stay alive. I would not condemn the guy from the sober house, because she has been really nasty on Twitter with a lot of people. Now, what kind of “friends” are aware she’s heading for an overdose incident and still allow her to use?
I hope this was the wakeup call she needed to get back on track and get the right people around her again. I’m pulling for her.
Of course it was her enablers. Demi couldn’t possibly take responsibility for her problems. It was everyone else.
But seriously isn’t the first step admitting she has a problem? But it seems like the narrative shes choosing is that of a victim.
Typical narcissistic behavior. Not only does she have enablers regarding partying, but also regarding her self centered behavior.
@Kiki: I wasn’t saying that this isn’t her fault. I agree with you on that. This is her fault. She shouldn’t have these enablers in her life in the first place. However, this is what bothers me, is that she had good people around her that have her back and she refused them.. That’s down right wrong. Oh well, I hope this is a wake up call for Demi Lovato and I want her to be sober and well again.
I didn’t read it like that but can see how it would appear that way-someone in my immediate family is a drug addict and at times, it’s a very difficult thing to understand or empathize with. That goes for me too and it’s my family.
I do think it’s absolutely vital to surround yourself with sober people and people who encourage your sobriety, and that’s how I read it. I can only imagine that as someone famous and wealthy, Demi has a lot of people who would like to ride her coattails to the parties and have zero concern about her sobriety-especially if she’s hanging around other people with addiction issues.
Nope. Demi still won’t take responsibility and is still trying to put a good face. She was at a point where the people’s she’s with keep Narcan on them, and yet she’s trying to put it out there that she was keeping sober for days at a time. This isn’t an “enabler” problem. It’s a Demi problem.
This–sadly–is a wake-up call only if she allows it to be. When you cut (and, I mean, REALLY cut) out all the negative people in your life who enable you to do these things, and are willing to change…only then, do you take it day by day and get your mind, body, and spirit back in order.
I’m not feeling sorry for Demi, she’s been as a$$ for years to everyone around her. She’s not a child, she’s 25, she’s accountable for her actions. Being an “artist” is not an excuse for being nothing but a low down drug addict.
People who are drug addicts have an illness. It seems crappy to refer to anyone with an illness as “nothing but a low down drug addict.” Who would choose to be an addict?
You don’t have to feel sorry for her, but she could have died. I’ve never really liked her, but I feel bad for her. I don’t understand the lack of empathy for someone who battles such serious mental health issues, both addiction and bipolar disorder, that’s got to be hell.
Exactly, Sofia’s Side Eye. When somebody relapses in their eating disorder, we don’t say they’re nothing but a low down anorexic or bulimic- even if they were moody and not the most pleasant person to be around. When a mentally ill person has a suicide attempt or self- harms, we don’t say they aren’t deserving of sympathy.
Whoever used the Narcan was either very brave or very prepared. I had to use Narcan to revive a loved one and it was traumatizing.
Is it usually an injection or a nasal spray? I’ve read both ways, but I’m picturing Uma Thurman in Pulp Fiction.
It can be an IM injection like an EpiPen, intra nasal inhalation or IV injection. I think the IM version is the one widely available to the public and it goes straight into the thigh and can be given over the clothes.
the one in canada isn’t like an epi pen. its a straight up syringe and vial…it’s awful. you have to draw the narcan into the needle, make sure there are no bubbles, and be trained to give a proper injection. i received the training twice as someone who works in addiction settings, and i still have zero confidence in my ability to administer it. why they don’t make it only in epi pen form is beyond me.
Yikes, j! I had no idea it was administered like that. I was picturing the EpiPen scenario.
J, not sure where you are in Canada but the nasal spray is now fairly widely available.
It must be hard to hit rock bottom when you’re rich and famous. I feel for her. Addiction is a total beast.
I wish her all the best. But I’m not a fan of this bashing of the people she was hanging around with. Calling them ‘friends’ and implying that people who use drugs couldn’t possibly be real friends is pretty offensive to me. Hell one of them probably saved her life. Plus why does her being a celebrity make her the victim whilst all those she was using with are portrayed as these evil influences who led her astray?
Have you ever been around a recovering addict? You do not drink a beer around a recovering alcoholic. That’s just cruel.
I think the OP’s point is that they’re probably all like Demi. Why is she drinking around them? They’re probably all addicts.
That’s pretty off base. There are always going to be social situations where people will be consuming wine/beer/whatever around a recovering alcoholic. While I think it’s really supportive to abstain with them, their sobriety isn’t someone else’s responsibility.
Yes, that’s different from person to person. A good rule of thumb is to ask.
This bothered me as well. To one of the ‘friends’ families maybe Demi is the enabler to their loved one.
She’s almost certainly the one with the money and access. You’re probably right. Someone’s mom is probably begging their kid not to go to her house to party every night.
I was just going to say the exact same thing. The idea that the people she uses with aren’t real friends because they use drugs is really offensive. People don’t immediately become bad people because they’re addicted to drugs. They could care about Demi and be her good friends that she’s really close to, even if they are drug addicts. Drug addicts must use or else they become violently ill. And not the kind of ill that you can just stay in bed and sleep off. If Demi is also physically addicted to whatever her drug of choice is, then she also must use or she will go into withdrawal. Addicts sharing drugs with and taking care of other addicts, is a type of friendship. The fact that these people carried Narcan to keep each other safe and revived her instead of running away and letting her die, shows friendship. Yes, they all enable each other. Yes, they will help their addict friends get drugs. Yes, they will lie and cover up for each other. Yes, they will help each other to justify using, but that’s because they are all addicts. Their brains and bodies are completely changed by their addiction. Serving the addiction is their number one priority and they will all help each other do that, because they are all friends who are in need of the drug they use. Obviously, trying to maintain a friendship with addicts who are actively using when you are trying to remain sober, is not a good idea. But that doesn’t make them “false friends.” They’re just sick. I like to think about active addiction as a contagious disease among addicts. So if you’re sober, and are not currently infected by the disease of active using, you should probably not hang out with your addict friends who are currently using because their using is contagious and will likely infect you. In this metaphor, active using is similar to any other contagious disease, like the flu. Your friends who are sick with the flu are not bad people or bad friends, they’re just sick, and while they are sick and contagious, you should probably avoid them so that you do not become sick.
Very compassionate, Amy and an interesting viewpoint. Thank you.
well said Amy
Thank you for saying this so wonderfully, Amy Too.
It really does depend on who the friends are and how they behave. They can’t control her and it isn’t their fault she is an addict but they can contribute or be enablers. When a drug addict is in the deepest throes their circle of friends becomes smaller and smaller. At a certain point, it becomes the people who don’t challenge them.
They aren’t responsible for her but they aren’t good for her either.
You’re right. It took a long time for me to realize that my (now ex) boyfriend’s problem wasn’t all his “bad friends.” It was him. He was the one looking for drugs and finding people who were like him. No one turned him from an angel to an addict or tempted him while he was innocent & minding his own business. It was HIM.
Given the career she’s in, it’s gonna take a miracle for her to stay sober. I hope she can make it!
I am a sober alcoholic in the entertainment industry, it is veeerry hard. I am committed to my sobriety and my circle doesn’t include any active drunks or users but it took me a while to figure it out and it’s hard when I am working and in the field. You have to be committed and re-commit to sobriety every day.
I wish her the best as it’s a disease and one you have to deal with for life.
Congrats on your sobriety. I wish you continued health and success. 🙂 I admire people who can make the step to quit and keep fighting for their lives and sobriety.
Congrats on your sobriety! I hope she can find friends in recovery to help her stay strong.
There are also sober circles of people in the entertainment industry. I know a high level producer that regularly jams/works with other musicians from his AA group. In his circle, it is sobriety that enabled a lot of the networking. It can be hard to find, but I think it is possible to find positive groups of like-minded people.
I wonder if this is just the first time she’s been brought to the ER after Narcan has been administered. Friends in the medical field (an EMT, RN and ER RN) have a love hate attitude towards Narcan. While it’s wonderful it saves lives it also gives a sense of security to those using, too often they use more/harder drugs and there often isn’t a follow up to the ER since it can be purchased OTC. There is also, from what they’ve said, unknown long term side effects from multiple times using Narcan.
Careful,I made the same point yesterday and got jumped on. I’m not sure of the long term effects of Narcan use but I know hospital policy where I work is to hold the patient for 4 hours post administration to watch for possible rebound.
That’s not the point you made.
@Bridget that’s exactly the point I made yesterday. Please tell me how this is different…
Bridget is an insufferable woman with an air of white privilege. I’m sure you could tell with her comment of her telling you what you didn’t do. She’s like this. All the time. Don’t feed the entitlement troll. Don’t do it! You could say the sky is blue and she’d disagree for the sake of arguing.
Tanesha, for what it’s worth I saw your comments from yesterday and I understood where you were coming from. What I got from your first comment was simply that you were wondering if there was a correlation between the availability of Narcan and recklessness on the part of some addicts. I did not feel that you were definitively saying there was, only that it was something to consider. As far as I know, there’s no empirical data to say that there is a correlation. BUT, there’s also no data to show that there’s not. It’s a terrible, terrible problem and highly emotional for all concerned.
The drug epidemic is so god awful and out of control and so many people are needlessly dying that IMHO we as a society need to examine and re-examine every facet of it. And we need to do that with reasoned and critical thinking, not emotion. And that’s the hard part. For those of us that have been impacted by the loss of a loved one due to this scourge, taking emotion out of it is difficult. But it has to be done. I thank you for being willing to bring up a difficult subject.
As an aside, I also thank you for the job you do. I’ve been in the hospital a small handful of times in my life and as far as I’m concerned nurses are angels.
@Tanesha I thought about your comment later. I realized that my point of view, can’t speak for others, was from the standpoint of having loved a drug addict who killed themselves.
But I am not on the frontlines with ODs all the time so I don’t know. I can see that Narcan might remove the fear a lot of users have and keep them using if they don’t fear death. They may stay at just above their bottom and keep going.
I have no idea what the solution is though.
“Demi has been open and honest for years about her struggles with mental health and with sobriety.”
She hasn’t been honest a single day in her life. Her team only admitted she had issues the first time around because she got fired during the Camp Rock run and they had no choice. They still lied about the extent and nature of her addictions and played it down. She lied about being bullied after the story of her physically assaulting a dancer came out – her former classmates confirmed that she was never bullied but was in fact a bully herself.
She only admitted that she and her team lied during her Camp Rock days in her first documentary after the backlash got too strong but lied about having changed. After her lies were exposed she was forced to make another one admitting that she lied the last time too but went back to lying that she changed, again. After extensive evidence of her alcohol and drugs abuse she went on to admitting that she relapsed but still lied that she was doing better.
This last time she admitted to lying, again, she played it off as an alcohol relapse while lying about not doing drugs and being sober again. She was still openly using and all her fans were aware that she was still lying ever since November.
She is a chronic liar. She only admits her mistakes every time the evidence becomes too overwhelming for her team to swipe it under the rug and goes on to blame it on everybody else but herself. Everything about her story is fake.
chronic lying is a hallmark of addiction – I have a close family member in recovery for drug addiction and he is a chronic liar, about everything. When we were all in therapy to deal with the consequences of his drug use, the Dr told us that chronic lying was a very common trait.
Demi really owes the Jonas family. She was on tour with the Jonas Brothers when she slugged the dancer, who had said something about her cocaine use. Instead of covering it up, the Jonas parents refused to let her continue with the tour and put her on a plane to take her back home to her parents. I imagine they gave her parents an earful also. That’s why Demi ended up in rehab the first time, with the usual lie about an eating disorder to explain why she has lost so much weight.
she attacked her dancer? wow what a piece of work…
cocaine makes people insanely agressive, especially when they run out of the drug and are jonesing
The moms of Selena Gomez and Ariana Grande both posted supportive messages for Demi, and I thought it was really sweet. (Can’t post the link but both messages are up on huffington post) I believe the reports about this being emotional for Selena too. Even though she and Demi have had their fallings-out, they’ve been friends for about a decade.
Hate to say it, but this isn’t rock bottom. Girl is clearly loved and adored by her fans even more after this. She still has her star power and money. If anything, this has gotten her more attention and adoration.
I agree. It’s hard enough trying to help a juvenile with all of this, but adults can leave rehab, rely on their own money, etc. I kinda see her in the 27 club if she doesn’t make a choice to work hard on this.
Agree. The last post about her was about the prostitute she hired to assault her bodyguard as a prank ( ah ah ah)
For everyone , she was just a narcisstic a$$hole . That must have burnt.
But hey now , she’s the poor lamb again, adored from everybody.
The fact that the bodyguard was ok with the idiotic prank just tells you she’s surrounded by yes people.
How all of this can lead to some kind of epiphany about what’s wrong absolutely puzzles me.
And here we go. Demi’s version has managed to minimize how much she’s using and how serious her addiction is. This wasn’t just a “slip” (which is what they called it in the E! article). It’s all about the public front, but Demi has yet to ever truly take responsibility for her addiction which is the key to getting sober. Instead, she’s doomed to repeat this cycle, and it could very well cost her life, all while she’s still up on stage talking about her sobriety.
The only person she needs to be honest with is herself. She doesn’t owe the public a step by step run down of every time she’s used, what she’s used, how much, for how long, or why. Addiction is an illness. We don’t expect people who have any other physical or mental illness to proactively come out and tell us all about it—when they were diagnosed, when they’re having complications, when they’re going to the doctor for treatment or check ups, what type of treatment or medication they’re on, what all of their symptoms are, etc. We don’t expect people with depression update us on every time they have a depressed or suicidal thought, we don’t call them liars when they say they’re “doing well,” in interviews even if they might really still be depressed, we don’t expect to get updates on their doctor appointments and medications and if they started a new medication or stopped taking their meds for awhile. When we find out that celebrities or other people have been hiding a cancer diagnosis or a mental health diagnosis we dont call them liars, assume they’re in denial, or predict that they’ll never get better bc they refuse to “take responsibility” for their illness. Demi can get better if she is honest with herself. She doesn’t have to give the world every single detail of her struggle with addiction in order to get better. And I’m confused about people saying she’s lying again already about this situation. She JUST ODed on something and is still in the hospital. All we’re hearing is either things made up by TMZ or other gossip rags who are filling in the blanks on their own, or things from anonymous “sources.” Why do we believe all of these sources are either Demo herself or someone speaking on Demi’s behalf with her consent? More than half the time on this site, we don’t believe the “sources” in any other article are actually real sources with intimate knowledge of the situation.
Agreed.
That’s not the point that I’m making at all, though. She’s choosing to share her addiction and her sobriety as an attempt to salvage her image. I don’t need to know the details of her addiction, but the information that she is voluntarily putting out is a lie. And it’s not a question of what she owes us, but her choice to perpetuate these lies. Because she’s still not being honest with the one person who counts: HERSELF.
Can we really say she is presenting this as a “slip” when she JUST released a song with the lyrics, “I’m so sorry, I’m not sober”. IMO, she was pretty publicly stating that she was struggling with her addictions.
Lyrics:
“Momma, I’m so sorry I’m not sober anymore
And daddy, please forgive me for the drinks spilled on the floor
To the ones who never left me
We’ve been down this road before
I’m so sorry, I’m not sober anymore
I’m not sober anymore
I’m sorry that I’m here again
I promise I’ll get help
It wasn’t my intention
I’m sorry to myself”
Oh, wow. I don’t believe I’ve ever heard one of her songs, but those lyrics are heartbreaking. Seems very honest to me.
She needs to take more responsibility for her actions and choices, but I wouldn’t wish this on anybody. Addiction is a bear.
I thought it was an ‘open secret’ that she’s been using for ages – as in years, and that all the talk about sobriety was just that – talk. It was certainly alluded to on other gossip sites and on Lainey.
She’s in a privileged position so hoping she uses the help that’s available to her.
I hope to God she gets the help she needs .
She’s a beautiful talented young woman and I really want her to get through this .
Addiction is an illness and while it doesn’t excuse her shitty past behaviour it does explain it . If that makes sense?
You can be a nasty person and also have an illness…
I see what you’re saying, but I don’t agree with it. Demi is infamous for being awful to deal with in person, and she has tried to put it out there that it’s a part of her addiction vs her just being a terrible person. But… while addiction fuels a lot of terrible behaviors (lying, manipulating), sometimes someone is just an a-hole.
is she really known as a a difficult diva in the industry? i didnt know that! stories please!
I don’t get a good feeling about her recovery, hope I’m wrong.
There’s no way the machine is going to let her step out to go to long term recovery.
Sadly, all I can think is ultimate demise: Whitney Houston.
Or Club of 27.
I don’t either and I hate that I think it but already the smoothing over is happening. She’s been sick since she was a teenager only her outbursts aren’t public like Britney’s so it doesn’t seem as extreme in the public consciousness. Demi has so many mental health issues that it seems like she would need years away from the spotlight, deep therapy and a long rest away from any negative influences.
I really don’t think Britney was ever into drugs to this extent though was she ?
I know Brit had her issues but one thing I admire about her is she’s never seemed to be a nasty person . She’s never really been known to treat people badly .
I think Brit Brit is next level sick and may not completely know right from wrong when she is having an episode.
Demi lovato is bi polar but is lucid
@Angie
Britney had very serious issues with drugs. It all came out afterward that she had been using since she was a teen. Most likely self-medicating whatever her mental issues were. In some ways, I think her public breakdown saved her life.
@mela
Yeah, I think Brit’s problems are more severe. I just mean that since we never saw Demi publicly spiral downward it was easier to hide from the public.
I often have wonder, while it was happening and even today, if what Britney was going through was Postpartum depression My time line is a little off though, with her hanging out with Lohan and Paris Hilton to when she gave birth, but I have always felt it started with Postpartum depression mixed with the possibility of Bipolar disorder. It didn’t help that she had that one manager who was just enabling her.
Same, unfortunately. I come from a community (and family) ridden with drug abuse problems, mostly of opioids like oxy, and she has all the hallmarks of someone whose just not getting it and won’t. I sincerely hope I’m wrong. I don’t think she’s a bad person, but addiction is a beast that turns the best of us.
Yes. She has a lot to deal with aside from addiction. I just don’t know if she and her “people” are agreeable to a long downtime.
The b*tch about addiction is that it’s complicated. You will do and say anything to get what you need, cast people aside, burn bridges and opportunities. I assure you that deep down every addict knows that it is their fault and the shame and stigma contribute heavily to cyclical spirals. A lot of people don’t use because they’re content in being a_holes; they use because they feel hopeless and figure everyone close in their life who doesn’t directly enable them is done with them. I just wanted to point this out because there appears to be a bevy of abrasive comments painting it like she’s a selfish liar and her team is sugarcoating everything and she never wanted to get better and that’s that.
I agree with you for the most part. The problem with Demi, in particular, is that she brought the public into her problems. She has a history of getting in trouble on social media for sharing thoughts that weren’t the wisest. I think it would have been better for her not to say much about her addictions or declare her sobriety at all. She spoke about herself in inspirational terms and eventually set herself up for a hard fall. I don’t believe she did any of it maliciously but I think it was unwise. I think when she was clean she felt so good she wanted to share but having done that it means her relapses probably feel even worse than they should. I don’t think she was a hypocrite at all. I have known enough addicts to know they love feeling clean and experience tremendous guilt and shame when they lapse. It is an unforgiving insidious disease that robs the sufferer of almost everything.
I believe Demi doesn’t want to be an addict and I hope she heals and can beat this horror. I think it would be better if she kept it all private and learned to back away from inviting the public into her struggle. She doesn’t owe anyone the details. Once that door is open it is very hard to close it.
I also think her people shouldn’t make minimizing statements because again it sets her up to be openly contradicted. Just one statement about what happened and another stating she was stable is enough.
unpopular opinion; she rubs me the wrong way, sorry. comes across as someone who’d be the mean girl at a party. i tend to believe the sober coach (is that a thing?); the whole “artist” schtick seems like the perfect gig for navel gazing narcissists.
I share your unpopular opinion. She comes off like a real spoiled brat to me. Talented girl, but her personality grates. She likes to pick fights with other celebs on social media, then when called out on it, acts like a victim. And I have to wonder if it’s healthy for an addict to just constantly be talking about her sobriety in every single interview. It’s almost like someone who is on a diet and can’t stop talking about the food they can’t eat. Sooner or later they’re going to crack and go off the wagon. Disney child star who can’t get her life together – she’s another Lohan but somehow she gets a pass. I don’t get it.
Same here.
Only the best of wishes to her.
Reminds me of George Michael and the like who suffered from addiction too. All those in the spotlight really struggle to deal with substance abuse issues because they have no privacy. Hope she gets the help she needs.
It’s clear Demi is in a very dark, confused place and I truly wish her the best. And I think the reality is that ALL of the people there are enabling one another. As someone who is in recovery myself, I know that It’s far too easy to get pulled into unhealthy/abusive, codependent relationships that actually encourage your addiction… especially when you are battling mental health issues as well.
Most addicts have relapses. It’s one of the first things family, friends and partners need to accept. Demi relapsed and survived.
My ex abused cocaine for four years before getting cleaned and the side effects of addiction are endless. He turned out to be extremely toxic to be with, very manipulative, self centred and unable to own up to his decisiones and mistakes. So yeah, not surprised Demi relapsed while surrounded by enablers, she needs people to stand up to her because they love her, not Yes People who would trade her in for a quick fix.
I wish her the best – her battle is not lost.
Has it occurred to anyone else that maybe she’s just an asshole? Isn’t she the Disney kid who got sent to rehab after punching one of her backup dancers in the face? Maybe all this sympathy is misplaced. Maybe she’s a spoiled, entitled jerk who uses addiction as an excuse to treat people like shit. Maybe anyone who could have been there for her got alienated.
All I know is, I’m so sick of hearing about her.