For those of you unfamiliar with Jana Kramer, she’s a podcaster and country singer/actress whose husband of three years, Mike Caussin, has cheated on her their entire relationship, even before they got married. We know because she’s told the press about it. Jana and Mike consider it an addiction for which he’s been in treatment. So when she says she won’t hire a nanny who is hot we know why. Girl, that doesn’t matter! Cheaters cheat, it’s what they do, and they usually don’t care who it’s with. Jana said this on her podcast, where she talks about her personal issues. The last time we covered her she made the unsurprising comment that “Anyone can cheat. Someone can cheat right now or tomorrow.” No honey, cheaters cheat. I don’t listen to her podcast, Whine Down, but other outlets do and they have these quotes for us.
[Jana Kramer] who shares kids Jolie, 3, and Jace, 4 months, with husband Mike Caussin, revealed on the latest episode of her Whine Down podcast that her nanny recently quit. She then went on to share with listeners that she’s been trying to find a replacement using Care.com.
“I just don’t understand some of these girls that post pictures on Care.com, because I’m like, don’t you know the female is hiring?” Jana said on the episode, posted Monday. “The wives are hiring, I don’t see a guy going on Care.com and going through the nannies. Maybe they do, and that’s awesome, but I personally am doing it.”
Jana went on to share that some of the photos on the site made her laugh.
“I’m laughing because this one photo was like, ‘Hi, I’m 22 years old and I have perky boobs,'” Jana said. “Like, don’t post the perky boob photo. You’re not gonna be hired. I’m not hiring you.”
“And I’m not saying post an ugly photo, I’m just saying…you should dress for the part,” the One Tree Hill alum advised. “So, to the girls out there that are on Care.com, I wouldn’t put your Instagram [picture]…because I’m like, no, I’m not gonna hire you, sorry.”
“Not that I don’t trust my husband, not that I don’t trust, you know, whatever…I just think it’s not smart,” Jana continued. “I mean, you look at some of these nannies, and I’m like, ‘Well, you kinda asked for it, she’s kinda hot.’ You know what I mean? You’re in close quarters. Not saying that Ben Affleck was wrong, but you look at the nanny and I’m like, ‘Well, she’s really cute.’ You’re playing with fire.”
Jana went on to add, “I feel like some of these girls, maybe some of those nannies like Ben Affleck’s and the Gavin Rossdale’s nannies, they put off a sexier vibe.”
It’s not the nannies’ faults! “They put off a sexier vibe.” NO. Of course people are going to post the nicest photos they have of themselves. Your husband cheats. You don’t trust your husband. This woman married and had two babies with this man. She’s known who he is from the beginning and it’s not like they have an agreement that it’s open or poly relationship. (I’m a monogamist and find that ridiculous, but if both people agree it’s their business.) It doesn’t matter if the hot woman is in your house, at your husband’s job, at the gym or the store. If he’s a cheater he’s going to cheat no matter what. Plus she’s blaming these younger women for being attractive and dressing like everyone else their age does. Jana is just so easy to cover and she knows it and capitalizes on it. She Kardashianed her life but she really is this dumb too.
Look her husband hasn’t cheated in A WHOLE YEAR
Ugh
She’s stupid!! He will dump her for new.poon eventually! It’s not an addiction, he lacks a moral code and self-control and she’s pretending to be a victim.
Can you imagine setting the bar so low for your significant other for fidelity that you need to cheer and crow about them not stepping out for some strange for a year? Guess I owe my husband about 10 years of celebrations for him not getting pulled into some she-devil’s web of poon for that long. Great job, baby!
She-Devil’s Web of Poon!!!! What a great band name / album title lol
Also, how often do we see men celebrating their wives’ fidelity? Or husbands bravely supporting their wives’ recovery from sex addiction? I’m suss of any narrative that gives men a pass that women rarely receive.
WHERE IS MY MONOGAMY COOKIE???
EXACTLY right! I’ve never heard of any man writing about how brave and strong his wife is for not cheating. This just cements the idea that “men can’t help themselves” and also reinforces the idea that women need to “help” men NOT cheat by being modest and unassuming and, I guess, not hot, because otherwise we are just too damn tempting!
Monogamy cookies for me, too, please!
@Ellev & leskat: Yes & yes (Especially to your point about women- and girls- being expected to use modesty to make guys better people) !
Maybe people can become addicted to any good thing. But I’m a little skeptical about the way ‘sex addiction’ sometimes gets tossed around- with men and the way it gets tossed around with women (but in a different way).
@Ellev DEAD! Spot on!
Bye Felicia. If he’s going to cheat he’ll cheat hot nanny or not. I’m looking at you Arnold Schwarzenegger.
That’s exactly the same scenario I thought of as well.
Cheaters gonna cheat ~ don’t think they have to be beautiful to get banged by these types!
+1
Ahem, Ethan Hawke
Her husband is awful and will cheat with anything with a pulse. Hiring a nanny that’s old won’t stop him from his Insta DM, gym, coffee shop, etc.
Right! I read this last night and I was just shaking my head. She is an idiot and the fact that she blames the woman who would hire an attractive nanny if their husband cheats on them by saying “what do you expect” is all you need to know about her. I really hate how she acts like all men are the same, like her husband, and that this is just normal when IT IS NOT! No hunny, all men do not have a wandering dong and all relationships aren’t dysfunctional like yours. She just comes off as pathetic.
Eh. I agree with her to a certain extent. Dress the part. I just had a baby and some of the photos these girls post are ridiculously revealing. Like, my husband would never cheat on me, but I’m also not going to hire a college girl wearing Daisy Dukes in her profile…which is a resume… because it’s not smart. Especially if you’re a celebrity.
Girl, he will cheat on a plane, he will cheat on a train. He will cheat in a house, he will cheat with a mouse.
He will cheat here, and he will cheat there
And your dumbass will still take him back, so STOP
LOL! Right!? Not only that, but I would be willing to bet that he has, indeed, cheated this year.
HAHA
Going to be thinking about this when my toddler asks to read Green Eggs and Ham for the tenth time today 😂😂
OH NO, 100% truth! Lol you could sell this rhyme in a little book of advice.
100% true.
But you can’t get attention with that sort of story…
I don’t know who this woman is, but that is a sad life she has chosen for herself, and it’s gross to use it to make herself a celebrity of sorts. She needs therapy or something, to look at why she chooses to be with someone like that, why she is blaming women for existing, and why she assumes that any nanny would WANT her lame ass husband anyway. Or is he just entitled to whoever he wants because he’s a man?
To borrow a turn of phrase from Selina Meyer, this woman is “high pathetic”!
The Instagram stunting? Ugh. I will never, never, ever understand.
Also: Invest in Grammarly, Jana!
of course she doesn’t trust her husband! because he’s cheated on her numerous times! saying she trusts him is ridiculous when she’s also saying she won’t hire someone attractive because of temptation.
basically you don’t trust your husband to not be gross and make moves on the caregiver you’ve hired for your children, because you know he’s gross. and you’re picking and blaming it on the ladies being attractive and putting out a “sexy” vibe because that’s easier than admitting your husband is a dirtbag who shouldn’t be married. 🙄
I started following her after a recent Celebitchy post. This couple is so messed up. It’s his first and foremost his fault for cheating, obviously, but it’s also her fault for allowing and justifying this continued disrespect. How can she raise her kids to think this is normal??
Often see comments about a cheater’s side piece not being as attractive as their wife/husband/partner. Cheating is not about looks. It is about how the other person makes them feel, or that they just want something different.
And men are lazy – they often go for women they now or those they are in a position of power over (secretary/nanny).
If you knew your partner has cheated on many occasions and you stayed, married and had children with them, what makes you think they will stop?
Her cheating husband aside…i totally get her point. My idea of a nanny (if i could afford one) is more of a mature woman, almost a grandma like figure with that type of experience and warmth. Growing up a neighbor of mine had that kind of nanny and i never knew anyone that didn’t like her, she’d always have cookies for visiting friends, was always doing something constructive, she also had enough energy to keep up with the kids and she was just a natural born sweetheart. My neighbors parents adored her and she worked for them until all their kids were old enough to live their life. By then she was really really old but still kicking, grocery shopping, cooking. So maybe i’m biased bcs of that experience. But i realize those types of nannies are either already “taken” or just darn hard to find. We kne2 some neighbors who tried to “steal her” by offering more perks and higher pay, she was that well liked and had a great reputation. But she remained loyal to my. neighbor’s family. They probably matched the offers 😋
Yessss like Mrs. Doubtfire. LOL.
My mom watches my girls 3x a week. She’s amazing.
Her husband is probably cheating on her now as I write this and click submit comment.
An attractive nanny is the least of their problems.
What if she has an attractive neighbor? I mean how stupid.
Attractive dog Walker! He will be cheating!
Or attractive dog…
Arnold Schwarzenegger’s extra marital child is not by an attractive woman, nor was she a nanny so there goes that theory.
Personally, I wouldn’t hire a gorgeous nanny because when I’m feeling like $hit during that first year (or three) and not all that cute or confident, I don’t want to look at someone who reminds me of what my life used to be. Let me wallow in my post childbirth frump undisturbed, thank you.
That’s actually a fairly understandable reason to not want a “hot” nanny. If you feel like looking at someone in your house, being all gorgeous is going to be bad for your self-esteem or mental health, by all means, do not hire her.
How on earth does she buy his excuse that his cheating is an addiction? This reminds me of the South Park episode where all the rich celebrities blamed their cheating on having too much money and fame because poor guys for some strange never seem to have sex addictions.
I kiiiind of understood what she meant about the sexy photos, as I’ve had to hire nannies/sitters before from care.com and some of the pics are like sexy pout face boobs head tilt hair and it seems unprofessional. BUT she went way too far blaming a woman for being cute or blaming a mom for hiring a cute woman as to why a married man would cheat. I hire the best woman for the job regardless of her beauty or body and if my husband were to cheat with her then at least I’d know that’s his character and good riddance.
I agree with that part. I’ve been on care.com and some of these women seem to think it’s a dating site. Like you don’t have to go to all that, just post a nice picture showing your face.
Yeah I wouldnt hire a THOT to care for my children – i get it.
But her issue runs a lot deeper than that – she cant trust her husband. And im sure he’s cheated with women who are ugly. If he is a true sex addict – dont they have sex with anyone and anything? gender/looks dont matter?
Watching them casually talk about their cheating in interviews is SO UNCOMFORTABLE. The way she looks at him when he talks about cheating on her is so awkward – she has major resentment towards him you can literally feel it in the interviews they do together. Also – He seems like he is about as smart as a bag of rocks. DUMP HIM or your future is gunna be like Wendy Williams
@Stephanie: Can we lose misogynistic slurs like ‘thot’, please? It’s 2019 and we’re already catching on to the fact that other forms of hate speech are harmful to society. I’d be much more concerned about a child being babysat or raised by someone who uses dehumanizing language about already oppressed groups and justifies it with ‘morality’ or ‘thinking of the children’ than I would be about a child being cared for by a woman in a low-cut blouse. Thank u, Next.
I’ve seen those pics, too. I don’t think it’s wrong to side eye the judgment of any professional, of any gender, who represented themselves professionally with a pic that belongs in the private sphere (e.g. a pic of them partying with friends, bathroom selfies, MySpace-style dating app pics). That has nothing to do with them being “hot” or a sexual threat of some kind! It’s a red flag that they might be clueless about other workplace norms and the boundaries between professional and personal life.
What this woman is talking about is different tho, because I bet she passed on perfectly professional photos of people who happened to be pretty.
If he wants to cheat he will find a way ! I mean seriously are you going to babysit your husband your whole life to make sure he’s never around attractive women? F*ck that sh*t.
I don’t have time to be on Penis Patrol for a grown man 24/7…..
“Pennis patrol” …🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yup…who has time for that?
Another great band name!!!
😂
#1 raise your own children or call grandma/auntie or hire a trusted friend. Does she have sisters or family members she can pay to take care of the kids?
Also – how sad to have to worry about this. She should be enjoying motherhood and instead she is worrying about her husband screwing nannies and randoms in hotels.
GET OUT, it will NEVER get better with a narc like that for a husband. he is a dirty bird now and will end up a dirty old man
Drop in daycares are life saving sometimes!!!
right whats wrong with daycare? it socializes your kids
i’m sure she is wealthy enough to have the greatest daycare available
My sister isnt rich and there was a point she seriously considered just paying me to care for her first born.
Jana needs to do something about her own internalized misogyny and kick her husband to the curb. But she won’t because talking about his cheating is a decent sized chunk of her career. As long as she is getting paid to talk about his cheating, they will stay together.
Bwahah, she’s controversial and I enjoy it. She needs therapy though since she seems to be blaming anyone but her husband for his cheating. She’s a low self-esteem type.
What a toxic and insecure life she is living. It must be exhausting to constantly worry that your man cheats!
This is how women perpetuate misogyny.
There was a recent study that suggests ‘attractive’ women are penalized in careers situations. Both men and women treat them as untrustworthy.
https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2019-03/wsu-abv032119.php
I’m so grateful that I was raised to know if a man cheats, he’s not worth my time. Also, to be blunt, I think it’s a good rule of thumb to steer clear of anyone who refers to men as men and women as females. It’s indicative of some really twisted, misogynist thinking.
THIS! Calling women females in contexts you wouldn’t call men males is the biggest red flag. Every time I’ve encountered it (too often for my liking), it’s been followed by some sexist rant.
I’ve seen this men vs females argument on Instagram and I do. not. get. it. Makes me feel dumb. And also, blessed, since I’m not around the misogynist rants that perpetuate the issue.
If I was a hot nanny I would work exclusively for gay couples. I don’t want this drama. I would want to dress however I want without causing any trouble. I don’t want an insecure wife getting mad at me because she caught her husband staring at my ass. And I don’t want a bored husband thinking stupid things because he’s having a midlife crisis. Now, I know people think most men will behave and not take a look at the cute nanny, but guys, these are middle aged men, and you should head over to the relationship subs on Reddit and read all the stories about wives upset because their husband has a crush on the neighbor’s au pair. Most women can’t get away with hiring hot nannies. Period. Guys just can’t chill around hot 22 year olds. And if Jana knows her husband, of course she can’t hire a hot nanny. She knows him. Yeah he can cheat elsewhere but you don’t make it too easy for him. And like her, there are many, many women who married cheaters and they won’t hire you if you’re beautiful. That’s why I think hot nannies should only apply to work for gay couples. Straight men are unpredictable. Or maybe too predictable 🙄
So what are you saying about “hot women”? Are they “too predictable” too? I mean it takes TWO to cheat doesn’t it? Do you think all hot women want men to throw themselves at them and those hot women just can’t resist them ! LOL come on.
I took it as Annie saying she wouldn’t want to deal with the BS that comes with being hot around heterosexual middle aged men, not that a hot woman is going to sleep with any and everybody or want attention simply because she’s hot.
@ milo
That’s not the way I read it.
Men who cheat don’t cheat because they find a woman’s beauty irresistible and have no control. That’s the story they tell to let themselves off the hook and put the blame on someone other than themselves, and plenty of insecure women with cheating partners will happily buy into that fiction rather than realize they made a bad deal when they chose a partner. (Plenty of insecure women who get ogled or propositioned by partnered men will also buy into the fiction, because it makes them feel wanted and desired.)
Men who cheat do so because they feel entitled to have whatever they want, whenever they want it, consequences be damned.
Also, no one with a healthy relationship goes to Reddit to talk about their problems, so sure, go read those relationship posts if you want, but understand that you’re reading a bunch of stories from a very small, self-selecting group of people who see more sense in putting their business on the internet than they do in getting some therapy to help them break out of the thought patterns that help trap them in deeply unhappy marriages.
YEEAHH!
If I remember correctly, her first husband put her through some horrific abuse. I’m not at all surprised that in her mind, minding this husband’s fidelity is a less daunting task than starting over and risk being with another abuser.
Isn’t this just another form of abuse? The cheating, begging for forgiveness, cheating again cycle is emotional abuse in itself, IMO. For some reason she believes she doesn’t deserve a happy, functional relationship. Or she doesn’t want one.
Continually making herself a martyr for staying with him and constantly bringing up his infidelity isn’t much better. They’re in this pattern where he is the ultimate f*** up, and she is the saint who supports him and forgives him. Now they’ve labeled him an addict, which shifts the blame off of him and allows her to routinely talk about his “addiction.” It’s mutually manipulative.
Of course it is. I’m sure she’ll see it that way eventually
Just get a male nanny if it’s such a problem for your husband to not bang hired help. I don’t know who this chick is but she doesn’t seem too bright.
Definitely thinking the same thing. Girl needs therapy and stop throwing her husband in the mud, if I was constantly reminded for cheating I’d cheat!!! Hire a hot manny
Oh but what if the male nanny is gay and makes a move on her poor, innocent, unsuspecting husband? What if her husband likes the attention of a male? This whole thing is stupid. Her husband is the ONLY one responsible for staying faithful. It’s ridiculous to have to hire a male nanny or an “unattractive” female as the nanny because you’re so afraid your dumbass husband is going to cheat. Yes because EVERYONE who enters that home is going to throw themselves at your husband lol. They just can’t help themselves right?
I only agree with her in the sense that there is nothing more agitating to me than seeing women with highly unprofessional photos linked to a professional profile. You can post all the bikini and cleavage shots you want elsewhere. Don’t be a fool and do it on a site like LinkedIn. (Yes, I have seen this.) If you wouldn’t show up to a job interview with your tits falling out, don’t do it on a career site.
Otherwise, girl…love yourself. Please find a different man. It’s a waste of your time to police a partner.
I asked last time what she meant when she referred to him as sober…he’s drinking red wine in that photo, so she literally just means that he hasn’t cheated on her? That is so sad. They both seem like very broken people.
I was a nanny/ au pair to a German family in Bonn. The mother was cold as ice and the dad hugged me and my friends a little too much.
When I left after a few months, the dad said he would only hire a girl “he could be happy looking at every morning”
Uh.
She’s the type that doesn’t have any female friends. Not a single one.
She seems to be implying that its the job of women to keep men faithful. Um, no. It’s up to him to choose to say no and walk away. Other women (or men!) aren’t obliged to uphold someone else’s vows.
Omg, I’m so sick of everyone holding women responsible for a man’s penis. If he can’t control his penis, what is he doing working, etc etc among us? I’m so sick of hearing this kind of shit. My husband gets attention wherever we go, but he ignores it. Because he loves me and only wants to be with me! Ffs. If you can’t trust your man, get rid of him…
Thanks for the those unfamiliar with; I had no idea who she is, but the headline pulled me in. I thought “I understand not hiring a hot nanny.” But, I didn’t know the cheating husband angle and cheaters gonna cheat, I agree. The others for male or female cheaters don’t have to be subjectively “hot” imo. It’s just not the driver that I’ve observed. Anyway, I wish them luck.
That’s woman makes me sad
Not a doctor but man with how she speaks and what she’s said has happened, I have a hard time believing her husband is an addict and isn’t just using that as an excuse
The pessimist in me thinks they’ll split eventually and she’s loving the publicity their current relationship gives her
Her self esteem has got to be resting somewhere below sea level to still be in this relationship.
Given her husband’s propensity to cheat, Idk why she would hire a nanny. Unless she’s chained up to him 24/7, having a nanny at the house just gives him an opportunity to leave for 30 minutes and do his business.
“Once a cheater, Always a cheater.”
There is nothing new under the sun.
I have no idea who this woman is but, face facts…a cheater will always find someone to cheat with. Does not matter where or when but they will cheat.
Put nanny as another fetishized job because men are assholes… The list goes on.
I had to laugh, but you speak the truth. Men are assholes. Any low paying job that is a service position catering to their needs is fetishized.
Ha, speaking of “hot” nanny, the housekeeper Schwarzenegger had a child with wouldn’t be considered “hot” but there ya go.
I have to agree with her though, I have noticed that a lot of younger women adopt kissy face dating poses for professional non-dating photos as I have seen on LinkedIn, etc.
Girls: in case you are reading this, your primary purpose in life is not to be “hot”. Don’t drink the kool aid.