People: Duchess Meghan ‘struggled with the intensity of the spotlight’

British Royals are seen at the Wimbledon Championships Day 12

The current issue of People Magazine has a cover story about how the duchesses (or “princesses” as People calls them) are getting along really well these days. That was the point of the Duchess of Cambridge and Duchess of Sussex attending Wimbledon together. That was the purpose of it last year too, when they did the same thing – attended the women’s singles final together, only to watch Serena Williams lose in the final! History repeated itself, and last year there were stories about how Kate and Meghan had buried whatever hatchet and they were on track to becoming BFFs, etc. Then the smear campaign went into full effect last fall and winter, and then Kate and Meghan had to do this sh-t all over again, pretend to be super-close and put on a show of togetherness. And throughout it all, it’s become clear that Harry and William were the ones who had the significant falling out. But whatever, they don’t move as many magazines as Duchesses At War.

Anyway, as I said in my earlier coverage, I never thought Kate and Meghan were really “at war,” and I don’t really think they’re best friends now, nor will they ever be. I think they see each other as coworkers and occasional allies and that’s fine. That’s much better than so many alternatives. Well, People released more of their cover story and some of the quotes are interesting. Some highlights:

Meghan and Kate are in different places now than they were one year ago: While the women are now bonding over motherhood… it wasn’t long ago that the sisters-in-law were figuring out their own distinct roles. Just one year ago, the Duchess of Sussex, 37, was navigating life as a new member of the royal family and a newlywed. Meanwhile Kate, also 37, was balancing being a mother to an infant and two children under 5 along with her royal duties as a future queen.

The world wanted them to be BFFs: “There was undue pressure where the whole world wanted them to be best friends,” an insider tells PEOPLE in this week’s cover story. When the sisters-in-law didn’t appear to be tight companions to the outside world — both ran with their own circles of friends, and their first joint outing without their husbands didn’t come until last year’s Wimbledon appearance — they were pitted against each other.

Meghan has struggled with the bigger spotlight: As an actress, Meghan Markle grew accustomed to the spotlight. However, her royal status took being in the public eye to new — and often difficult to manage — heights. “Meghan has struggled with the intensity of the spotlight,” a source close to the royal household tells PEOPLE in this week’s cover story. “Although she is a former actress, this is on a different level.”

[From People Magazine]

I don’t believe that Meghan has “struggled.” I would not use that word at all – I would say that there was a culture shock and there has been a period of adjustment, but it sounds like “sources” are casting Meghan as the main instigator towards all of the “privacy” stuff, and I just don’t believe that. I think Harry is the one who wants more privacy for Archie, and Harry wants to create more of a line between his family life and his public/royal life. I kind of think Meghan is more realistic than that, and she knows that no matter what, her son is going to be in the public eye.

As for Kate and Meghan’s relationship – as I said in the opening paragraphs, their joint appearances (with or without their husbands) always reveal that Meghan and Kate are doing the heavy lifting of keeping up appearances. That shows that they’re both aware of the optics and they’re both behaving professionally. I’d like to see less coverage of the duchesses’ relationship and more coverage about why Harry and William refuse to be seen together in public without their wives acting as buffers.

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  1. Audrey says:

    We just heard her say, ‘they don’t make it easy”…yes, I think she’s struggled a bit with a much higher level of fame. Also, think about the cultural differences stemming from going from a B list Hollywood actress to highly visible member of the British royal family. Anyone would struggle. She is only human.

    • AB says:

      Yes, it would be superhuman of her not to struggle with the intensity and scale of her new role. Plus she could not have predicted how terribly her father’s side of the family would behave, nor the fact that her rise would coincide with the renewal of an openly racist hostile mob that is active and vocal both on and off-line.
      But I would agree that Meghan struggles, as did Kate, Diana, and in a different way Harry and William struggle with it as well. It is not a mark against her personally, only to say that anyone would struggle in her circumstances, and I think overall she has done amazingly well.

    • Hope says:

      Meghan has struggled with the unchecked abuse.

      Not the spotlight or the rigors of her role. She has excelled at her role. No Royal has had a project like the Hub cookbook in their first year.

      Meghan has struggled with the gleeful and cruel abuse.

      Piers Morgan, her father’s abuse being used by the press, the constant double standards and lack of shame or sympathy from the people doing this.

      A few days ago people were shrugging off racism because of money. That kind of dehumanization is what she is struggling with.

      We need to use the correct language here.

      • Brett says:

        @Hope: Well, she can struggle with the spotlight and her new role and still excel at it, can’t she? I do think that the public role as a C/B-list actress differs from that one of being the fiancee of a “high-ranking” Prince. A little bit of a struggle is fine. And she did do very well for the most part.

  2. ByTheSea says:

    On a superficial note: Meghan is stunning! Beautiful woman.

    It seems to me that Harry is being protective of his son, hence all the “privacy” stuff. He sees how Meghan has been ripped apart and is trying to avoid that for Archie. People even rushed out a comparison of Archie and Harry as a baby (they looked almost exactly alike), as there were already mean comments about the baby’s looks. It’s a tough road to travel and no matter what they do/did, people would complain.

  3. Cidy says:

    The brothers continue to use their wives as shields so they can fued and private while Meg and Kate are dragged as “at war” “women unable to get along.” – I never believed they were at war or whatever. Are they bffs? Probably not. And that’s fine, they are sisters in law, they dont have to be. I dont know why everyone expected them to be.

    • Bettyrose says:

      Agreed, but they’re also the mothers of cousins who may well be lifelong friends. That’s why I don’t like the coworker analogy. I don’t have any shared relations (that I know) with my coworkers. I really like my coworkers, but any long term connection is by choice. With the birth of Archie, Meghan & Kate became linked for life.

    • minx says:

      Women are always supposed to get along and make nice, men aren’t. They can do what they want.

  4. ds says:

    Moving to another country is a shock. Especially when you do it in your 30’s and you already have a career, your friends are all back home and you need to start from the beginning in a foreign place. I know she’s got a different environment and job than us commoners but I tell you, London is tough and nothing you’ve accomplished before is good enough. And it’s hard emotionally no matter how strong of a person you are.

    • Taryn says:

      You are so right. I think people fail to realize London is not a forgiving city and what she’s going through makes acclimating worse. I have so much sympathy for her because I moved here to be with my partner as well and struggled a lot in the beginning , I had to start talking to somebody because it started to really mentally drag me down. It is extremely hard here to make friends, real connections, or even just feel good enough to keep up and that still rings true even after years of living here. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for her with the media and everyone online constantly gunning for her to fail. She can only put up with so much.

      • ds says:

        oh wow Taryn thank’s for sharing. I moved for the same reasons and sometimes, no matter how much my partner tries to support me he just can never truly understand how it feels. Thanks for sharing. Reading that other people are going through the same just made me tear a little 🙂 Hope everything works out.

    • Himmiefan says:

      Absolutely, and I hope for her own mental health and for her marriage that Meghan isn’t reading all that the press says about her. I hope she ignores it and goes on with life.

      • ItReallyIsYou,NotMe says:

        I feel like GOOP said the same thing about moving to London. And on a side note. I have heard the same thing about Paris.

  5. Britt says:

    I think she is struggling considering that she is a human being after all. All the woman did was marry a prince and you would think she committed some awful crime. The press have been ripping her to shreds, weaponizing her family and career against her, scapegoating and lying, also inciting hatred with the racism and xenophobia. I’m trying to understand why the press think that treating this way will give them access. They also keep saying they we want the old Harry back. I’m like, if you want the old Harry back, stop gaslighting and abusing his wife. Making her into a hate figure isnt going to help you. Also, they need to accept that Harry is a grown man and the media knows it’s not only Meghan making these decisions. I feel they are doing that to get back at him by hurting and shaming her. It’s shameful.

    • BayTampaBay says:

      I think Meghan is struggling because she cannot tell people like Piers Morgan where to go and what to do when they get there. I know I would be struggling.

      I agree with all who have said that Meghan is much better and much more capable of dealing with all of this than Harry.

    • Melissa says:

      I agree with you 100%. I knew there would be a lot of interest in Meghan, but I had no idea that the press was going to attack her so viciously for 3 years. It is all so cruel and unnecessary. Any human being would struggle with that crazy amount of scrutiny and hateful news coverage. She went from living a fun, jet-setting life to being ridiculed and bashed as if she’s a criminal.

      I know a lot of people are saying that it’s not easy to leave the royal family, but I would do everything possible to protect my family and marriage. I’m rooting for Harry and Meghan. A lot of hateful people are hoping that they fail, but I pray for their marriage and influence to only become stronger and more powerful.

    • kerwood says:

      The ‘old Harry ‘? The one in a Vegas hotel room with his dick in his hands? Harry said goodbye to that sad case years ago and has never looked happier.

  6. Brunswickstoval says:

    I think the list of people who wouldn’t struggle with the focus she’s been under would be very small. New country, very high profile, marriage then pregnancy and a baby very quickly plus a family (her dad, half sister) who sell her out at every opportunity. You’d have to be superhuman not to struggle.

    And struggling isn’t necessarily a bad thing. God I struggled all the time after changes. Too often as women that’s seen as a negative when it shouldn’t be.

    • Erinn says:

      I like this, and I agree.

      God, I downright flounder more often than I’d like to admit. I can’t imagine the kind of adjustment period you’d need for any ONE of those things, let alone all of them in very quick succession.

      I really hope we can get to a point where we don’t feel the need to constantly fake it when we’re having a hard time. But the amount of pressure society puts on women makes that very very difficult.

    • Harla says:

      i completely agree, there is nothing wrong with admitting that certain situations or even life in general can be a struggle. We need to get rid of the narrative that any emotion that’s not positive and upbeat is to be avoided at all costs, especially for women. Personally, I’m going through a bitch of a time and am totally struggling just to get through the day but I know that on the other side what I’m going through will result in growth and healing.

      • RoyalBlue says:

        I couldn’t have done it. I would be in tears all the time just like Princess Di.

    • minx says:

      I’m sure it’s been quite an adjustment for Meghan. I do think, though, that she will be fine. She seems to be a strong person who has had to make her own way in life. She was older when she married Harry and she seems to have a good sense of herself.

  7. Myra says:

    Kaiser well stated. The press doesn’t like to blame blood royal males for anything so we may never learn what cause the rift. If I had to guess I think it all starts and ends with Rose!

  8. Alexandria says:

    This is a no brainer and it’s a good thing she did not marry young else it will be harder emotionally. Kate had 10 years to get used to the scrutiny and she still gets attacked unfairly for some little things. Overall however Kate is the English Rose. Meghan has it worse because of her race, yes. I believe you can critique her fashion or her work load but 9 out of 10 criticisms of Meghan are just plain ridiculous and racist. So I will root for Meghan anytime until she gives me a reason not to.

  9. Billbop says:

    She might be really struggling, it wouldn’t surprise me. I loved her in Suits so knew who she was, but I don’t think she was really that famous or even recognized in public that much before she started dating and married Harry. As an American celebrity she most likely craved the spotlight, it helped her career-wise.

    But now she is literally world famous and can’t argue for much privacy as she is a paid public servant, married into the Royal Family.

    And this job is for a lifetime unless she gets divorced. What pressure! I am sure she always craved being famous, but had no idea what a life she would be living married to Harry.

    I don’t envy her life at all, what a nightmare never being able to go anywhere without someone trying to take your photo or interact with you. And being under obligation to just deal with it as long as you stayed married in that family,

    • MsIam says:

      @Billbop, it’s not being famous or having her picture taken that is the issue. It is about being brutalized in the press for dollars that is the issue. It is being a play toy for media stalkers like Piers Morgan or the social media trolls. It is having crazy YouTube websites devoted to hideous stories that are clearly false. Having a family that is trying to profit off the connections. That is what is the struggle. Meghan is not struggling with being recognized in public or wanting “privacy” whatever that means. Of course she knew what marrying a well-known person like Harry would mean. This is totally different so stop trying to minimize what she is going through as a need for privacy. And if you think she is obligated to deal with this because she married into the BRF, then you are part of the problem too.

      • Anon says:

        MsIam, calm down. Billbop has valid points, and frankly, you yourself aren’t really in a position to know for certain what “the struggle” is. You can only guess. You don’t speak for her, either.

        But, her privacy has been violated again and again, and she has been unduly criticized by a racist tabloid culture over there. So, she probably is feeling pretty raw and protective right now, especially as a new mother.

  10. Kittycat says:

    I really dont think Meghan struggled with changing countries or higher media coverage.

    I think the main struggle was losing the ability to defend herself.

    • Skylark says:

      Very good point. I would imagine that’s frustrated (and upset) her more than anything else, having to stay silent in the face of so much deliberately false and seriously nasty media coverage.

      I’m glad her ‘they don’t make it easy’ comment was made public. It won’t stop the bigots and the racists but it might just give the nastier elements of the media pause for some uncomfortable thought.

      • Harla says:

        From what I’ve been reading, the press don’t even see themselves in her “they don’t make it easy” comment.

      • Skylark says:

        Well it’s not as if they’re going to admit it! The likes of that noxious Morgan and co don’t go in for self-examination. But they know, and we know, the part they’ve played in cruelly and callously trying to control and break her. And it won’t be forgotten.

        That Meghan has managed to come through the shitstorm they actively and knowingly created is very much a tribute to her resilience and sense of self-worth.

    • Peg says:

      She lived in Canada for seven years, even if it was nine month out of a year.
      It’s not like she had to learn a new language😀 Chips = French fries.

    • MsIam says:

      Totally agree with this @ Kittycat!! Her level of restraint in this is admirable. I would be throwing pots and pans right about now.

    • noway says:

      Totally agree with this, but it’s not even always defend. The monarchy as a whole is expected to just grin and bear all things said about them. Meghan has been used to creating her own public image. If you are part of the royal family you don’t have that freedom. They do have some back channels to change the story, but she’s probably not used to that yet. This is where I think she does struggle, not the publicity or even the negativity, but the lack of an acceptable way to change the narrative.

      I do think the gossip press with her family has had far more legs for a story than she probably thought. I believe her father’s stories have bothered her. I think she expected it from her half siblings, just not so much her father.

      • VV says:

        It’s what I think. The change she probably resented the most is really not being in charge of her own image,and not being able to defend herself.

  11. OriginalLala says:

    I really dislike that Meghan and Kate are the ones who are doing all the work to make sure the press and the public stop the “war of the Duchesses” nonsense – the real issue is with the brothers and yet the women keep getting thrown under the bus and have to keep dealing with this misogynist bullc*ap. Worst part is the brothers are ok with their wives having to do all the PR work and being thrown under the bus to protect the truth about them? not cool.

    • LadyT says:

      And according to People what brought the ladies together was babies. (Enter gooey swoon here) Talk about misogynistic bullcrap.

      • Pineapple says:

        Yah, LadyT, this is what gets me so angry. Like, as female adult humans we bond over having babies and that’s it. Argh, I would love to help the British Press with their attitude adjustment. It’s enough to drive you crazy.
        And, she struggled with THE RACISM.

  12. Melisma b says:

    It must be hard for her especially the way people like piers Morgan attack her every day,that guy needs to be suited,but I know one day,he will go too far which will cause him to be fired

    • BayTampaBay says:

      Piers Morgan has already been fired like 10,000 times! LOL1 LOL!

      • noway says:

        He killed Larry King’s long running show in just a few years after he retired. I don’t know why people still watch him especially in Britain. He is a good friend of Trump too. Don’t Brits hate Trump?

  13. Peg says:

    Changing tactics by the media, after more than two years of crucifying her and Meghan refusing to give in to their harassment.
    Fixated Piers claims he is sorry for her, LOL.
    When five of her friends spoke to People, most said she should not have allowed it, ha, it served its purpose, proved Thomas to be an awful liar, now he is muzzled, his buddy piers didn’t even have him on for the birth of Archie, because he is no value to the Media, due to his lack of access to the Sussexes.

  14. JaneDoesWork says:

    Can we call it what it really is? Meg hasn’t struggled with the “Spotlight”. She’s struggled with the negativity and straight up vitriol that she has had to endure from the racist media campaign against her. She was fine when the engagement was announced and there was more positivity and love and excitement. That would take a toll on anyone.

  15. Sofia says:

    Of course she’s struggling. In the space of nearly 2 years she’s had to deal with being thrust in the global spotlight, a high profile relationship, a high profile wedding, a baby, media scrutiny, her family, people looking to tear her down and she can’t defend herself publically.

    Even when she doesn’t do anything or isn’t seen for a month (April) she’s still talked about and gets shit about everything and anything.

  16. sparker says:

    obviously Kate and her fans are both confused and resentful by how much younger Meghan looks at the same age. that’s all i’m seeing here…

  17. aquarius64 says:

    @peg – the Markles officially was of no value to the British media when Archie’s birth announcement was on Buckingham Palace letterhead. Dad, Jr and Sam were not mentioned. That was the Bat Signal to the press they are persona non grata to the BRF. The christening photo made it official. Dad is stock footage, Jr DUI from January is replayed and they don’t bother printing Sam’s tweets. The press is mad they spent money on these clowns and groomed them to be their snitches and it came to nothing. A victory for Meghan. And Meghan should keep the focus on those who truly care for her.

  18. jennifer says:

    I think she has definitely struggled. A huge move, culture shock, having to learn the rules of an old fashioned monarchy, racism, new relationship and new baby… all this covered in minute detail by the press. I mean, come on, she’s only human. I’m interested to see how her relationship with Harry is going to hold up over time.

  19. kerwood says:

    Of course she struggled. Any human being would have. I’ve been Black all my life and I would have been stunned by the virulent abuse hurled at me.

    Meghan probably didn’t expect a member of her husband’s family to wear a racist brooch at their first meeting. She probably didn’t expect her in laws to collude with the press to attack her. She probably didn’t expect her baby to be called an animal right after he was born.

    And I’m sure the Duchess of Sussex didn’t expect the media campaign waged against her and the lack of support from the Queen. She probably didn’t realize that the Queen was holding back because she was going to have to protect her son.

    As for the Duchess of cambridge, I agree with Kaiser. They’re co-workers. They don’t need to be best friends, in fact there’s no reason why they should. They have separate lives, different life experiences and education and different goals. The Duchess of Sussex is well educated and has worked most of her adult life. Not so much with Kate, who devoted most of her life to trapping Normal Bill.

    I think that Meghan and Kate will be cordial but no more. And that’s as it should be since Meghan has already learned that she can’t trust the Cambridges.

    • VV says:

      They don’t need to be best friends. And yes,they have different lives and experiences,but “different” education? Not really. There’s no need to downplay her (very good) education,when none of them are Mensa members,or have math and physics degrees.

      • kerwood says:

        What did Kate study in college besides how to get William to marry her? And what career did she pursue in the looooooooooooong time it took for William to accpet that nobody else was going to step up to the matrimonial plate?

        Yes, Meghan and Kate have different educations because Meghan attended college to get a degree (a double major I believe) and Kate when to get her MRS.

      • Nic919 says:

        The fact that Meghan can give a speech quite well and Kate is the same age and remains horrible at it confirms that Kate got the basic undergrad degree and didn’t do much with it. And of course here come the scared of giving speech people to provide excuses but anyone worth their salt in an arts or social science program has had to give presentations in a few courses at the very least. Kate was also confirmed by classmates to copy from their notes and generally not be the brightest person in the room. (Jezebel has several relevant comments outlining how she would copy from seatmates and one put in false information to fool her). And sure we can say that it could be made up, but she’s going to be 38 and her actual words since then haven’t shown her to be too intelligent (“can you taste the smell by smelling it”) so she’s never dispelled the perception that’s she’s just not that smart.
        She really should stick with topics like gardens and sports because topics that require intellectual heft and dedication are far beyond her abilities. This is why she sounded so dumb when she spoke about mental health issues because she has no idea what she is talking about and can at most poorly repeat platitudes pre written for her by Catherine Quinn and others. Broken Britain will be another mess if it ever gets going because it is a complex subject that would need to address a variety of social issues and that’s not something she is able to do, mostly because she’s too lazy to do the work required to learn the subject in detail. People laugh at Kushner and Ivanka for doing the very same thing. Kate is no different than them. (William too frankly)

      • PleaseAndThankYou says:

        @VV

        Mensa is a joke, and you certainly do not need a “math or physics degree” to be incredibly intelligent. I know many people with “math or physics degrees” who would not be capable of anything MM has done (a woman who went to Northwestern, etc). “Math degrees” can be a total joke/useless (depending on the degree!), and I know plenty of engineers and physicists who are only barely competent down their own line of work, and cannot function outside their fields at all. Your pronouncement sounded fairly ignorant. You cannot assume someone with a STEM degree is brilliant and someone without is not.

        Just thought I’d clear that confusion up for you. 🤦🏻‍♀️

        – Daughter of a physicist (branch chief at NASA)

  20. Fluffy Princess says:

    I can’t believe the press is whining about how Harry has changed and blah blah blah.

    He KNEW the enormous amount of pressure, dealing with the paps and tabloids was going to be over the top and probably heinous–and girlfriends came and went, but didn’t want to sign up for that for the long haul. He’s mentioned that in interviews before. And then finally, he meets someone, falls in love with her, she falls in love with him, agrees to take on that enormous burden with him — no wonder he was nothing but smiles and glowing.

    But then, he has to watch as the person he loves is ruthlessly slandered day after day, snide racist comments constantly, his child called a monkey, being basically called a wuss in the press, because Meghan is really a beast–and they wonder why Harry is not as “open and friendly and fun” as he used to be. Geee, I wonder why?? If they keep it up, they are gonna start doing a “Cambridge” — and turn away from the cameras, not give them the good shots they want on official events, and handle as much of their official business AWAY from the cameras as much as possible. Who could blame them really?

  21. Pineapple says:

    Listen you guys, don’t kid yourselves. I think Meghan and Harry knew this would happen. This is racism pure and simple. They are struggling with racism. That’s it. I won’t give the British Royal Family, the Courtiers or the British press a break. It’s the endless racism that has been hardest to watch. Put on your big girl and big boy panties people. People of Color exist and are taking positions of power. Get over it.
    A woman who comes into the Royal Family and immediately does a cookbook for underprivileged people? She should have received nothing but accolades. She single handedly got Will and Kate to “work”. I say, “Just keep silently succeeding Meghan. Just keep silently succeeding.” XO

    • kerwood says:

      Well said. The reason why Meghan is being tortured is racism, pure and simple. Piers Morgan told Meghan to ‘go back where she came from’ days before 45 told the squad

      Meghan might be ‘struggling ‘, but she’s still shining.

  22. Well-Wisher says:

    The Duchess of Sussex represents a new chapter in the British Royal Family – a natural extension of the idea of marriage based on the idea of love. The marriage gave her a lot of attention and fame. She has handled the fame beautifully by directing the attention towards the charities and patronages.
    It had to be difficult dealing with a media defined image not based in reality.
    How does one deal with harrassment, media gaslighting with help from an emotionally abusive parent as one adapts to a new relationship and environment without it not be a struggle?
    While it is good to see the sisters-in-law be professionals, one should not forget that Prince William reached out to the media to posit the narrative of upcoming position (filled with leaks) as future king in response to a successful rollout of the duchess royal duties.
    The Sunday Times item by Tom Shipman was intended to be damaging.
    The pushback from Prince Harry was inevitable, he chose to protect his family as it is “his and her life” and not a game.
    It came as a call for privacy. Most of the public agreed with him despite what is still being written. (There are places on the interweb that disproves the inconsistencies written by the tabloids about the Sussexes. )
    Catherine, far from blameless, supports her husband and is rewarded for it. No judgment. It is what it is.

    But it is important to note that the majority of people (not consumers) support the Sussexes. It has been a constant so while it is very encouraging.

  23. Nimbolicious says:

    Yeah, Joy – that’s the vibe I get too. I’m just not seeing a unicorn here – or even anyone particularly interesting.