Mario Lopez has always been trash, correct? I don’t think I’ve covered anything to do with Lopez for years now, and when I did cover him, it was because he was weird and controlling with his baby-mama (and now wife?). I’m not going to look it up because it doesn’t matter in the context of this story. The only context that matters is that Mario Lopez gave an interview to CANDACE OWENS. Candace Owens, the Deplorable wingnut who carries water for Nazis, the same idiot who was elegantly destroyed by Rep. Ted Lieu just a few months ago in the middle of a hearing on the rise of white nationalism. Mario Lopez thought it would be a good idea to give an interview to her. They talked about how women should not be believed and how parents shouldn’t allow their kids to be transgender.
Mario Lopez doesn’t believe parents should allow their children to self-identify their gender. In a recent interview on The Candace Owens Show (via Yahoo), the former Saved By the Bell star digressed with the conservative host on what she dubbed a “weird trend.” Owens broached the topic, sharing how Charlize Theron recently revealed that her own child did not identify as a boy. “I am trying to understand this new Hollywood mentality,” she told Lopez, “where they just think their children now have the mental authority.”
Lopez agreed with Owens, stating: “I am trying to understand it myself, and please don’t lump me into that whole [group]. I’m kind of blown away too. Look, I’m never one to tell anyone how to parent their kids obviously and I think if you come from a place of love, you really can’t go wrong but at the same time, my God, if you’re three years old and you’re saying you’re feeling a certain way or you think you’re a boy or a girl or whatever the case may be, I just think it’s dangerous as a parent to make this determination then, well, OK, then you’re going to a boy or a girl, whatever the case may be … It’s sort of alarming and my gosh, I just think about the repercussions later on.”
He later added, “When you’re a kid … you don’t know anything about sexuality yet. You’re just a kid.” He clarified that thought, “I think parents need to allow their kids to be kids but at the same time, you gotta be the adult in the situation. Pause with that and — I think the formative years is when you start having those discussions and really start making these ‘declarations’.”
You’d think that would be enough, but Lopez did another 180 and jumped right into the magma. Towards the end, he called out sexual assault survivors by saying movements like #BelieveWomen can be a “dangerous hashtag because people lie and sometimes those people are women.”
“God forbid you have a son out there,” he continued, “and a girl may have felt a certain way about a situation — dismissed, hurt, whatever, and is feeling vengeful and just decides to tell a certain story that’s not even exactly true, come back and hurt that individual.”
Wow, transphobia with a misogyny chaser, what an awesome way to start the day. Regarding his comments on transgender kids – literally every transgender person says that they knew when they were little, when they were just a child, that they were in the wrong body. I don’t think there’s one right answer for parents of transgender kids, but I think acceptance, love and emotional support is the least a kid could hope for as you give your child the space and time to figure things out. As for what he says about Believe Women… trash. He’s made of trash and his opinions are garbage.
Oh God I forgot he’s got a daughter.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
Me: I really hate cancel culture
Also me: Mario Lopez is so cancelled and disgusting
Kittycat you just summed up my brain.
Ugh yup
Here’s a thing: suppressing puberty is a whole Lot more effective than reversing its effects. Particularly with biological boys.
It can mean the difference in whether an adult trans person can pass for the gender they identify as.
This is a real concern for parents of trans kids. Because being able to ‘pass’ can literally keep a trans person alive. And as a parent, keeping my child alive and safe is my priority.
Second comment: Mario Lopez is garbage and also an idiot as he can’t even differentiate between gender identity and sexual preference.
This is a really important point I hadn’t thought of. Thanks, Krakken.
All of this
I love your whole comment, Krakken. Thank you.
…pass it on allies and celebitchies…xoxo
Krakken, thank you. Two teens who are friends of my kid started transitioning in HS, and they have suffered discrimination even in our liberal area. They knew they were different very early, but people are different and every kid can’t push through a parent’s confusion, especially parents who won’t accept it. The parents are supportive, but earlier could have made a difference.
I didn’t know this was something that was even medically possible. Thanks for sharing, this makes a lot of sense.
What an excellent point. More people need to hear this.
I understand the need to pass, but suppressing puberty means that the child may grow up without the ability to function sexually as an adult. I remember watching a scene from “I am Jazz” where she told her doctor that she’d never felt sexually aroused or even masturbated, and this was before she had her bottom surgery. The doctor told her she had better figure it out. After surgery, she still didn’t seem like she was feeling anything. I think she assumed falling in love would make her feel something, but that’s not really how it works. Considering the role that sex plays in relationships, is this a good trade-off?
Okay I am going to weigh in on this one. Yes it is more effective; however, allowing this can be problematic in other ways.
A family friend’s son always felt transgender. At 12 he was diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and begged his mother to let him transition into a girl. His mother was very supportive.
She also went around the laws here in Australia and illegally gave him puberty blockers and then oestrogen hormones prior to puberty to help him bypass male puberty and become a woman more effectively. (Australian law dictates people must wait until the age of 16 and need court approval before they can begin hormone replacement therapy.).
He apparently told her that if he could not go on puberty blockers he would run away and get them himself, or kill himself. It was incredibly tough.
And then, at 14, he decided that he had been mistaken – that actually he wanted to be male still. And he had been prevented from hitting puberty.
He said, and I quote here from an interview he did with the media:
“You have an image of what being a boy and being a girl is like, but when you actually experience it, it’s very different. I realised that I could be happy without completely changing who I am.”
So now he is hovering somewhere between male and female. He has a high voice and delicate feminine facial features, no visible Adam’s apple, and small breasts and his projected height has been stunted. But he has his male genitalia and thinks of himself as male and wants to be male.
It is incredibly distressing and he is facing a lot of invasive surgery (in South Korea, one of the only places willing to remove his breast tissue) and hormone programs to try and fix the damage that was done. He feels like a freak and is often treated as such by his peers. He wishes he had been allowed to hit puberty normally.
So… I think this is a very complex question and all of the possibilities need to be given weight. It is a hard thing to undo if the child changes their mind – which does happen. We have to acknowledge there are a lot of children who are confused about their gender identity. It’s a normal phase and is not uncommon and not all of them will actually wind up being transgender. I feel for the children and parents in these situations. I don’t know what the answer is, I just know it is more complex than it might initially seem.
I think he met a goal. He got onto the national news cycle for twenty four hours. Isn’t that the longest he’s been relevant?
He Joins the ranks with Scott Baio as Z-listers who try to become relevant. Maybe Mario is trying for a cabinet post.
Exactly me daily.
I saw a great comment the other day that said in the age of climate change we shouldn’t cancel people. We should put them into a recycling bin for self improvement and they can come out when they are better.
cheated on his first wife on their honeymoon.
garbage
oOh wow could not have been more classy than that lol
Oh hell naw.
I think he slept with a stripper during his bachelor party, and then went ahead and married a day or two later without confessing. Still a total $hitbag move. Marriage was annulled ASAP after she found out.
I ALWAYS thought he was cheesy but after the stripper incident I Can’t stand him.
http://www.since1910.com/engagement-ring-blog/ali-landry-talks-mario-lopez-64179/
This is EXACTLY what I always think of when his name comes up.
ON THEIR HONEYMOON.
trash.
ETA: Kumquat, thanks for the link. I guess that she FOUND OUT on their honeymoon, not that he cheated then.
eh, who am I kidding. he probably DID cheat then, too.
but EW! can you imagine having “multiple women” calling your new husband while you’re on your honeymoon? that poor woman.
Oh wow. I did not know that stripper story. It takes a “special” kind of person to criticize everyone around and pass moral judgements when you are in fact the real trash.
I remember that!!! I could never figure out what she was on that would make him attractive. Ick.
And he always presents this wholesome front with his dumb dimples on the Hallmark show ‘Home and Family’. I knew I didn’t like him for a some reason.
lauren, that’s called “hiding in plain sight”…like all of the gay congressmen who rail against homosexuality and then get caught on gay hook up sites or toe-tapping in mens’ bathroom stalls.
He’s Just another creep getting away with crap. I admired him until the real him started revealing itself. He’s disgusting.
I remember a clip of an interview i saw with his ex wife Ali Latter I believe, she said he’d do interviews after they split talking about how they’re on good terms and still friends and she’s like, ‘NO! We’re not friends, we don’t talk.’ He’s such a Narcissist, he cares more about what the public thinks of what happened so he lies saying they’re on good terms when of course they’re not, you cheated on her at your bachelor party!
What the f-ck. How do I not remember this story?? Thanks for the link, Kumquat.
He is such a complete douchebag.
He majored in adultery at Trump University.
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I don’t know if he’s always been trash (he’s someone I don’t follow at all lol) but those comments are pure trash. Ugh.
I never perceived him as trash growing up (Saved by the Bell), but sideeyed him when the cheating allegations came out.
Also, I really dislike the way his daughter seems “posed” in both pictures–as if someone told her she has to stand like that, whereas her brother just stands however he feels like it. (Granted, that could just be her, but–to me–it looks coached and artificial.)
Yes i noticed that about the posing too, made me sad it’s a sign of being too focused on looks at her young age growing up too fast. Her dad is so superficial I wouldn’t be surprised if she’d gotten the message to emphasize looks at her young age
I noticed that too. Not only is she “posed” but she’s also vastly overdressed compared to her brother and her father. Those are adult clothes in a tiny size, not kids clothes.
Yes, she’s already been taught to put herself on display.
Obviously Mario is raising his daughter with his Hollywood value system of a female’s worth is in her looks.
I’m glad I’m not the only one to notice how she seems to be posing herself like that. I thought maybe I was reading too much into it …. but not really.
The little girl is just imitating a girly pose she’s seen before like countless other kids with and without Mario Lopez-type dads have before. He deserves the criticism he’s gettting, but that doesn’t mean certain things need to be projected onto the daughter or that her not looking and acting just like the boy is a problem.
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Yeah that stopped me dead in my tracks. I almost didn’t need to read any of what he said, THAT was enough!
Too self-centered to understand that sexuality and gender identification are not the same thing.
This!
Just what I was going to reply. If you don’t understand the argument, then don’t have the discussion.
Let me fix this for you Honeybadger: “…too IGNORANT to understand that sexuality gender identity are not the same thing.”
YES omg can we get this printed on a billboard. This ignorance is literally the root of most transphobic bullsh*t.
I missed this article when it was originally posted, and I was just thinking about saying the same thing and wondered if anyone else had already. Thanks for posting this!
Fuck him, and his dimples.
Agreed. So telling “what if some girl in the future lies about my son!?” And not “what if my daughter is sexually assaulted and no one believes her so the perp gets away!?” Which is statistically more likely. Shows which child he thinks more of.
Good old macho culture, f&ck it.
All trans people knew very early, it’s true.
But also all kids say they are stuff and it’s not serious. That’s just kids being kids.
It’s easy to identify the feelings for yourself in retrospective but much harder for the parents (so a person on the outside) when it’s happenning.
So perhaps parents shouldn’t jump to every word a kid says (neither in a good nor a bad way) but just wait a bit to see if it’s a phase or not.
People overreact too quickly to evrything these days.
This is as understanding as I can be to his words about trans issues.
And so what if it is just a phase? Is anyone hurt by it? Let the kid work it out for themselves, in their own time. Parents projecting their weird shit on their kids is exhausting.
That’s my point. Just let it be, don’t overreact.
But man do ppl today overreact.
I’m very confused by it all. But I see a lot of Hollywood children going through this. Not sure what the percentage is. I grew up in a time when kids were just kids. And boys played with dolls and loved playing in the Housekeeping areas of schools. As a child, I could run and play football and wish I was a boy because it looked like they got the cool outdoors stuff to play with. I don’t know what the answer is. I just think that sometimes we have too many parents trying too hard to be progressive. That’s may not be the right word. I just think that childhood should be free of the weight of adult interpretation.
Don’t know what the answer is. I don’t have small kids to have to figure it out. I’m sure parents are confused too.
@Lisa-Your comment reveals a fundamental misunderstanding of what gender identity is.
I loved playing with my big bro and his friends when I was a kid.
I wore all my brother’s hand-me-down clothes.
I was by anyone’s definition, a Tomboy, but never once did I feel that I was a boy–I always knew I was a girl.
You’re describing actions, not feelings. Gender identity is not just about “behaving like a boy” or “behaving like a girl”—it is an actual feeling that is a reality for the people that live it.
Chiming in to agree with @Kitten. There is a world of difference between wanting opportunities afforded to boys (“…wish I was a boy because they got the cool outdoor stuff to play with…) and where looking like a girl means feeling trapped in the wrong body to the point where it impacts your mental wellbeing.
Yes, I think the important thing is to just be open to what your kid is saying and listen to them. Mario is saying just the opposite and it breaks my heart.
It’s not overreacting to let your child identify as they wish. To wear clothing, hairstyles, etc., to be called by the name and pronouns they wish is not a choice set in stone that can never be reversed.
For example, with Charlize, she hasn’t said they are taking permanent measures in regards to her child. However, Mario is acting like major actions have already been taken in her situation.
The overreaction is coming from people like Mario who suggest that treating a child the way they are asking to be treated is some major irreversible act.
If memory serves, Mario Lopez was accused of rape a while back. Misogyny and transphobia are no surprise.
Yes, he was accused of date rape by two women when he was 19.
Excactly!
Men who say misogynistic stuff like that are just afraid to get caught and not being able to do what the hell they’ve been doing over the years.
What they are REALLY saying is:
“I don’t want to lose my male privilige and I don’t want to change”.
That is the exact reason for his “me too” comments. He’s already been accused, but the general public has forgotten.
Research shows that it’s healthy to follow your child in this, even if they end up switching back and forth in their identity. It doesn’t hurt your child to follow them in this particular thing. It does hurt a transgender child when their parents don’t follow them in their identity.
By all means, make decisions for your children with regards to bedtime, bathing, sugar intake and screentime, but allow your children to tell you about their identity.
Wilma! You said this so crystal clearly and it’s just what I think, too (but couldn’t be as articulate).
My cousin dressed as a boy, asked for her hair cut like a boy, wore boys swim trunks and no top to swim, shunned all “girly” toys and activities in favor of sports. She asked to be referred to by a masculine nickname that she derived from her middle name. She had this going on from ages 4-8years old.
It was many years ago as far as awareness of trans issues is concerned. Her mother is amazingly perceptive, she let her daughter do as she felt was right in this arena. And kept normal parental control in all other aspects. She ignored bullshit from other adults about her daughter’s identity.
My cousin changed completely when she became a teenager. Skirts, femininity, long long beautiful hair, pursuits in feminine dance classes, reclaimed her feminine first name, and she fully identifies as female. She is now married and very happy in her identity.
What would have happened if her parents had fought her identity as it naturally developed? Would she have dug her heels into her long masculine phase and never organically developed the way she did? I don’t know. But to have seen a child grow through her gender identity in such a free way has always been informative to me in the years since. This stuff is not a straight line. Let kids grow! Let identities form! Let the child do the work of finding his or her identity, you can still parent them in every other way along the way.
Charliepenn, I was just like your cousin. I remember telling my parents I wanted to be a boy. Thank god they just let me be a tomboy and didn’t start me on hormones or counseling, because it was just a phase I grew out of. I love being a woman!
Let kids be kids, but don’t mess with their hormones!
And biological a boy can NEVER know what it feels like to be a girl nor a girl a boy. It is not scientifically possible. They can imagine or pretend they are the other sex/gender, but they are stuck with their XX,XY genes. For a male to say he knows he is a woman, that means a XY MAN is defining what it means to be an XX WOMAN and that is bullsh$t. Only a XX woman knows how to feels to be a woman. He can put on a pretty dress or slap on some makeup or beat some real biological girls in sports, but he can’t ever change his sex. Gender is just a social constraint and not real. Women are more than clothing or makeup.
Sigh. This new progressive movement is incredible ignorant.
I know I am a duck, thus I am a duck.
@Billbop: And what would you say to those who are born with XXX or XXY karyotypes? Are they also incapable of knowing how it “feels” to be either male or female? The science behind “male” and “female” extends FAR beyond a simple karyotype. Such a simplistic explanation of the “science” of it is grossly misinformed. And also, why the heck do people care so much about how others identify? I interact with individuals of a wide variety of gender orientations almost daily and, guess what? How they choose to identify has literally zero impact on my life.
@Billbop I’m afraid it’s you who is ignorant. Nobody is starting young children on hormones. A teenager might get treatment to have their puberty delayed, but that’s it. We’re not ducks. Our brains are pretty complicated, but even in animals transgenderism exists. That would suggest that gender is more than a social construct, but also something that is imprinted on us like other traits. Being transgender means looking at your body and feeling that there’s something very wrong with it. This dysphoria is an extremely painful state of being. Your brain will continually send you signals that something is wrong. There are a lot of sources available to read up on if you want to end your ignorance.
@Billbop – actually no, “the progressive movement” is not incredibly ignorant, you are.
@Billibop: Obviously, transgender kids are not prescribed hormones as if they were candy at the first mention of “I think am a […]”. They will have to go through psychological evaluation and all kinds of tests. Hormones would be given earliest before they’d start puberty at 10 to 12 years old. Given that a child might know and show signs from a very early age there is enough time to figure out how the kid really identifies and just be loving & supportive meanwhile.
@billibop lotta TERFs coming out to play today, I see.
MattyLove makes really great points. There are many people who (wrongly) think that biology expresses itself in humans as only male or female. This is not true at all. Human beings can have sex organs of both genders in a variety of balances (internal/external or active/not active).
Amen! Children are people and just like adults – have complex emotions. Even toddlers are capable of knowing what they feel and understanding gender. No one is hurt by a parent going with the flow and being supportive but everyone is hurt when they don’t. It seems like a no-brainer to listen to your child and respect them.
This is so succinct and so perfect. Just love and respect them.
@ Wilma: that’s a great last paragraph:
“By all means, make decisions for your children with regards to bedtime, bathing, sugar intake and screentime, but allow your children to tell you about their identity.”
Beautifully stated!
Gender is a construct. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
“Allow your children to tell you about their identity.” Bingo. In all aspects of their identity. It doesn’t seem like it should be so hard.
I never understood the allure of him and his smirky face.
He’s been on Steven Crowder’s show too.
I have found that men who frame the Me Too movement in that way or not believing women who say they were sexually assaulted are the ones that have something to hide. Looking at you, Matt Damon 👀
Yup!
Absolutely.
TRUTH!
all of the “what if a girl lied and said X?” is all self-preservation.
I always think about how shitty Matt Damon was by dumping his gf, Minnie Driver, on tv.
Like a man that respects women (or other men’s daughters as he puts it), does not do that!
If a child feels a certain way, I think it’s ok to go w it. I’ve never heard of a straight person going through a ” phase” where they want to be the opposite sex. If a child persists in feeling that way, obvs it’s legit and not a phase. Charlize knows her child better than anyone else. I’m sure a lot of observations and talks were had before she let the world know. I guess people think the child will get picked on which unfortunately is probably true. But that’s where parents need to raise their children to be accepting of others.
My son actually spent several years around 3-4 saying that he wanted to be a girl when he grew up. We didn’t overreact (as someone above said), and just told him that if he wanted that, he could do that. Then he moved onto he was a boy but boys could wear whatever they wanted (ie dresses and skirts), and now that he’s 7, he likes playing with girls more, but is happy to identify as a boy, but still thinks that boys should be allowed to wear what they want. And if in a few years, he wants to be a girl, great. But we aren’t pushing it one way or another, and I strongly suspect (although don’t care) that he’s straight. It actually just seems that he really strongly doesn’t want to be defined by societal gender expectations, nor has he ever. Which is, frankly, awesome.
My 4 yo boy loves girly clothes – partly because he feels his 2 yo sister gets to wear all the good stuff. It’s an age where personal tastes are not necessarily fully formed yet. Anything glittery, preferably with sequins, rainbows, lace, ruffles – nothing is too much: he loves it because it feels more fun to him. We don’t restrict that, if he wants the sweater with the Frozen’s princess rather than spiderman, we could not care less. But who knows what he Will prefer in a few years.
You sound awesome, @Kat! One of the worst things we can do is make a big deal about our kids trying to figure out their identities. Also, we shouldn’t automatically expect them to arrive at “a decision.” That’s an awful burden on the ones who are gender fluid.
Kat, you are doing the right thing…LISTENING TO YOUR CHILD. keep it up.
There are a growing number of detransitioners. Desistance used to be about 80% but almost 100% of kids who go on “puberty blocking hormones” (look up lupron support groups for the horror stories–this drug should never be used) go on to medically transition. Pique Resilience Project is a group of detransitioned women.
He is pure garbage.
odds are his daughter will be sexually harassed and/or assaulted at least once by the time she’s 18. I wonder how willing to believe women he will be then.
Who am I kidding, a little girl growing up in an environment like that will never tell her father about those kinds of issues. She’ll probably just bottle up the shame and blame herself.
eww he’s always been gross
I just don’t understand this thing that people are so sure women are lying but men aren’t. I’m so tired
Exactly! Won’t anyone think about the men?! So concerned about the tiny possibility that some woman somewhere might lie about an encounter with a man because he hurt her and because women are of course vengeful harpy’s. Zero concern for actual women who are actually assaulted and harassed everyday and never speak of it because of people like him and MEN who lie. Or the women who actually go through a court trial and watch their attacker/abuser get off with a slap on the wrist, still happens everyday! Yes let’s think about the poor potentially wrongly accused men! If he bothered to educate himself on the statistics he would see that he’s talking out of his @$$ but as it is his machismo would never allow actual facts to get in his way.
Yes, it’s infuriating. I have a friend who was raped but during Christine Blasey-Ford’s testimony she posted a long rant on social media about being fearful of what her little boy (not her little girl) may have to endure growing up. I couldn’t believe she hopped on the “won’t someone think about the men??” train. It just goes to show how deeply internalized misogyny is in our country as well as just the default “liberal=bad” partisan politics we have going on right now.
He clearly needs some education regarding the difference between gender and sex. Gender identity is completely different and independent of sexual orientation.
I’ve always hated him, but this just cements my opinion that he’s a total asshat. I’m shocked he didn’t throw some racist garbage into the mix as well.
With all the information available, even just in celebrity media (his job) to be that ignorant of the realities of transgender people, that’s just a choice to be a shitty person.
I’m with him. 3-4 years old and we’re expecting the child to know what gender they’re supposed to be for the rest of their life? It’s one thing for them to grow into later years and feel a certain way but give them a chance to decide as they develop instead of force this upon them. My God, let children be children!!! What has this world come to? This has gone too far.
How is it too far? No one is advocating for gender reassignment surgery on a five year old.
People are advocating for allowing children to express their identity as they feel it, with love and support from their parents. That’s what the world is coming to, and it’s a good thing for everyone.
This. The world is becoming more sensitive and thoughful when it comes to gender identity. The horror.
Well said, Charlie!
That goes both ways, you realize. You shouldn’t assume a gender preference based on biological organs, either. We enforce gender roles even in cis children from a young age by utilizing sociopsychological ideals of what male or female means, many of which doesn’t actually match up with actual studies that suggest gender behavior is not as segregated as we think.
no, actually…no one expects a 3-4 year old child to KNOW FOR SURE what gender they should be for the rest of their life.
what we DO expect is that a parent will LISTEN to their child. period. don’t fight the child on their gender identity, don’t push them one way or the other…let them FIGURE IT OUT.
why is this so hard for people to grasp?
@Kat Part of being a child is categorizing the world around you, the people in it and yourself. That’s why many people know exactly what gender they are at age 3.
“This” has gone too far?
What “this”?
Go ahead, tell us.
Agree totally with Kat.Let children be children – have imaginary friends dream they are cats , dogs lions play at tea climb trees or play ball.
You profoundly misunderstand what is happening, as is clear by your “rest of their life” comment.
These aren’t permanent choices being made when children are little. Parents are simply letting kids use the names, clothing and hairstyles that fit them best. They ARE letting “children be children”.
MY GOD!!!! Educate yourself before going on tirades like this.
Is anyone actually shocked by this?? Mario Lopez is a garbage person and always has been.
What is it with z list celebs from the 90’s being maga deplorable trash?
Mario was lost a long time ago. But what I find interesting is that he’s popping up here on the Candace Owen show. Her one and only job is to weaken our democracy. Funny how all the troublemakers (and people being extorted?) seem to be called up for duty these days–it feels like they’re publicly being sent out all at once to spew invective about the very most divisive topics. Almost like coordinated messaging! Hmmm.
Why is even talking about sexuality? Gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
Also he needs to focus on being faithful to his children’s mother.
Not surprising. He’s problematic. He cheated on his first wife at his bachelor party. Several stories indicated he pressured his current wife into getting plastic surgery in order to be “presentable” as his then-future wife. He’s low-key trash.
I don’t know how to weigh in here. I know that my mom told me I wanted to play with all beauty products at a very young age. Like 3. If she had it, I would find them – add her jewelry to that list too. Such a balancing act it is being a parent. I think stifling what they want is not good and they need to explore and express themselves. That’s our role as parents and to provide love, support and nurture them.
And I have three boys. I’m constantly telling them to be careful with girls. To be respectful. No means no, regardless and if she has been drinking no fooling around. Because yeah, unfortunately women do lie.
“[…] if she has been drinking no fooling around. Because yeah, unfortunately women do lie.”
The correct wording would be “because intoxication reduces the ability to consent”. Many men get women drunk or look for drunk women so it would be easier for them to get laid.
Correct, and unfortunately men will water women with booze to limit their decision making skills.
I am the only one to feel a little taken aback by his daughter’s pose on the red carpet ? Same in the two pictures. This looks like a very “un-kid” pose to me.
Not that she is the problem here.
I once made a similar pose in a swimsuit at the age of 7 holding my moms hand on the beach. I look back and think, why In the world would I pose like that??? And it still throws me off looking at it. Kids do strange stuff. Who knows what she was thinking or what she had seen and decided to emulate it.
It’s very Toddlers and Tiaras. She probably does pageants and the little boy plays the football. You know, as God intended. It’s in the Bible, y’all.
My kid is the same age, she’s very girly and loves to pose and dress fancy, loves jewelry and make up. I’m not sure why she’s like that, I’m not at all…its just her personality and I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Yeah I mean…I wouldn’t be surprised if she was so excited about attending that event that she practiced posing beforehand. Probably just copied pics of celebs she saw on the RC.
It’s fine. She’s cute. Her dad is an ahole though.
He has sexual orientation and gender identity confused. Yeah a 3 year old might not know about their sexuality yet, but some of them are very aware of their gender identity. It doesn’t take long when someone strongly identifies with another gender than the one assigned at birth. Our whole society is gendered and some people can tell very early on that it doesn’t match. That’s not sexuality.
Karla and Matty, this is exactly right. Sexual preference and gender identity are not synonymous. Taking the time to educate regarding this is so important for the trans community. This is not a just a trend- Gender Identity was once considered a psychological disorder (GID) but now its being recognized as it is- a healthy and happy way of living your life and be a confident part of society.
I grew up in the same town, at the same time, as Mario. He went to the same high school as my sister (this was back in the Kids Inc, Early SBTB days), and “dated” her best friend. He was a major jerk to girls/women then, and it appears he hasn’t changed.
This idiot…
First off, gender and sexuality are different things. Three year olds don’t have sexual attractions but they do have a distinct sense of self.
Also, I’ve rarely heard of a parent of a transgender or possible transgender child take a hard line on a three year old. The vast majority of these parents are merely doing what all parents should do and that’s give your child the space to develop into themselves with love and support.
I have Turner’s syndrome, an often classified
as intersex genetic condition, and was born with one X chromosome. I received hormone treatment from the age of 8 to 13. These dingbats focused on genes as determiners of gender are morons. There are soooooo many abnormalities that are exceptions. Gender is a fluid thing.
Thank you for sharing your experience. There are so many people that don’t understand the variations of humanity.
I think I understand what he’s trying to say but he’s just saying it wrong (I hope so at least). I think it’s better to just be quiet in these types of situations. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion but all these ‘my gosh’ and ‘god forbids’ are giving me a headache.
He gave a giant tell as to why he feels this way and it’s a) he believes gender and sexuality are the same thing and b) he values sons more than daughters.
He’s been trash since the 90s. Fuck that has-been.
Yeah I guarantee you he would have pressured his wife to keep popping out kids until she produced a boy (heir). I hate that sh*tty mentality !
Just ftr, not all trans people know they’re trans at a young age :). I’m non-binary and, though I’m sure the super homo/trans-phobic environment I grew up in contributed, I didn’t realize what I was until I was in my mid-late twenties.
That said, kids who do know early on should be supported, and Mario Lopez is garbage scum.
Yeah, I think the environment you grow up in does play a huge part in that. At three kids start to put everything and everyone around them in categories. That’s why a lot of people realize their gender at an early age, but those categories aren’t arbitrary as they are supplied by parents and others close to the kid. I can imagine that your parents limited the possibilities and that you internalized that. It was amazing to see the confidence with which my daughter announces her girlness to the world. I have always been not very feminine, even as a child, and we didn’t really make gendered choices for her (we followed her lead and interests), but she placed herself firmly within that category when she was around 2,5.
Almost a decade ago my niece was planning her 10th birthday and decided on a princess theme. She then decided to have her boy friends come too and abandoned the princess part. A mother of one of the boys called my sister and said her son was deeply disappointed because he wanted to dress up as a princess so she called to say he was going to come as one anyway. My sister said she dryly noted
“I’ve drawn the line at him wearing my bra”
We were so impressed with her laize fair
attitude. I’ve thought of this Mom a lot when raising my daughter.
Ali Landry dodged a bullet with this asshat!
Also, men who are quick to dismiss believing women usually have something to hide.
I thought I read somewhere that he’s making the jump from Extra to Access Hollywood – perhaps someone should point this interview out to the folks at Access Hollywood. Lopez & his comments will be a bad look for them after the Billy Bush-Trump debacle
Someone had to stand up for all the men. They’re terrified!!
God he makes me sick. He’s only looking out for himself and men like him, he knows he’s aggressive and done some shady shit with women in the past, and probably recently too.
I haven’t read the comments so I apologize if I’m repetitive, but this kind of trivializing banter is shockingly ignorant, dismissive, stereotypical and doesn’t come close to approaching a conversation. They’re essentially peppering hate bombs in a short span of time, adjuncting a superficial brain fart of a conversation with material they have no business attempting to approach.
The notion that parents, “….make this determination then, well, OK, then you’re going to a boy or a girl, whatever the case may be …,” is a reprehensible assumption. It speculates lesser gravity and diminishes the breadth of knowledge most parents take on in order to make appropriate decisions as a family and for their own family. Shame on anyone marginalizing any and all decisions made within another family. They’re discussing something so deeply personal like it was a bothersome thumb smudge on the rearview mirror that’s quickly erased. He’s a vapid man blow-up doll.
Uhm, he’s cancelled just for being anywhere near Candace Owens voluntarily and should he really be talking since his first marriage ended after a month or so because she caught him cheating?
Not even a month. Ali filed as soon as they got back from Mexico.
He’s always been an arrogant, cheating, prick. Get rid of this loser.
Just FYI, he’s getting dragged NATIONALLY for his hateful language.
oh, and now he (clearly a publicist statement because he is NOT this eloquent or reflective) has issued an apology.
his PR/manager/agent was like SHUT THE F UP! HERE IS WHAT YOU SAY NEXT.
Ooh-wee. Way to conflate gender and sexuality.
“He’s made of trash and his opinions are garbage.” < There it is in a nutshell. Kaiser said it perfectly.
I didn’t know about his horrible cheating behavior. Yikes. It’s always the worst of the worst that feel compelled to tell the rest of us how we should behave.
I always assumed he was gay. I was stunned to hear he was marrying a woman.
I love it when people with garbage morals who cheat on their mates, lecture the rest of us on proper behaviour and parenting.
Oh, wait… No. I don’t love that or them at all. Not that I ever liked him, but no more Mario Lopez ever.
Candace Owens = Tomi Lahren. What is it with women turning on their own gender? And for what? Fame? Fortune? Fake acceptance by men? It’s pretty sick. I know more women who have been raped then I know men who have been falsely accused of rape. In fact i don’t know any men who have been falsely accused. No one believes women when they report it and then we have rape kits sitting out there untested because women aren’t believed. It’s a pretty easy crime for a guy to commit because the chances of getting away with it are extremely high. You would think a man with a daughter would be concerned about that. But no, he’s only thinking of the slim chance that his son might be falsely accused.
He’s just ignorant and like every celeb, shouldn’t be speaking on something he knows nothing about.