We just discussed one of the exclusive clips from the ITV documentary Harry & Meghan: An African Journey – the clip was of Harry getting emotional about how his mother was harassed by the press throughout her adult life. Harry and the ITV documentary draw parallels between the harassment Diana faced and the harassment Meghan faces now. As I said, there are significant parallels to be drawn. But as I’ve also said a few times now, I think it’s the wrong fight to make the smear campaign against Meghan JUST about “press treatment” or “press bullying.” That’s part of it, of course. But it’s also just a racism, anti-Americanism and sexism, and let’s not forget that it’s not ALL coming from the press. It’s coming from inside the palace too, you know? Which is enough to make me feel helpless on behalf of the Sussexes, so imagine how they feel. That’s exactly what happened during this ITV documentary – Tom Bradby asked Meghan how she’s dealt with all of this bulls–t.
World Exclusive; Meghan tells me of the intense pressures of a life in the spotlight and the toll it has taken on her behind the scenes. pic.twitter.com/tpmeomj5UV
— tom bradby (@tombradby) October 18, 2019
She’s truly fighting back tears as she spoke, saying: “Any woman, especially when they’re pregnant, you’re really vulnerable, and so that was made really challenging. And then when you have a newborn, you know. And especially as a woman, it’s a lot… So you add this on top of just trying to be a new mom or trying to be a newlywed. It’s um…yeah. I guess, also thank you for asking because not many people have asked if I’m okay, but it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes.” When asked if she’s “not really okay” and whether there’s really been a struggle, she says “yes.”
I could write a diatribe about how women of color are all too often put in the position of having to defend their own humanity, especially when powerful people and powerful structures abuse them and marginalize them. But I won’t write that diatribe because a million people can do it better than me. I will say this: this documentary seems to be a change of tack for the Sussexes. After trying to handle the smear campaign by ignoring it or using People Magazine to change the narrative, it’s like Harry and Meghan have decided (over the past month) to directly address it. And that’s fascinating to me.
Update: Here’s a YouTube version:
Photos courtesy of WENN, Avalon Red and Backgrid.
Jesus, that was so hard to watch. You could tell she wanted to say but kept quiet and let Tom speak and she just agreed. Where she says “not many people ask if I’m ok” really really hurt my heart. This just reinforces my thought process of her not being given the required support within the family. It’s so obvious she’s well aware that this family she’s married into have absolutely no problem throwing her to dogs to make themselves look better and that must hurt on a different level.
God, my heart breaks for her because even with this interview/documentary, more horrible things will be said about this woman.
I agree. I’ve been so excited for her and rooting for and celebrating their successes. I’ve also had several times where I’ve been astounded at the amount of pressure they must be under with the media scrutiny and her big mouthed trashy white relatives and the racism and vitriol coming her way about every damn thing she does.
I hope that using their social media to present their own story and things like this documentary at least help them establish their own narrative and make way for them to really do the work they want to do.
I teared up when she admitted to “not really” being ok. Poor thing. I just wanted to hug her.
It is truly heartbreaking.
Agreed. I teared up at this clip as well. She’s so strong, and I wish she had more support beyond Harry.
That line specifically hurt my heart in regards to life as a new mother and now a working mother as well. So many times the questions are always about the baby but never checking in on the mother’s well being and if the mother is doing alright mentally, emotionally and physically. Obviously there is a lot of other items she is dealing with but as a new mom myself this brought me to tears.
Yes! The first time someone asked me if I was okay….shook me. Like of course my newborn is fine. What you think I’m going to throw her to the wolves? But what about me?
My heart is aching for her. I’m 3 months postpartum with my 2nd baby and just got back to work. ITS SO HARD. I’m so happy she has her momma with her pretty often. Because damn, I just want to give her a hug and play with Archie while she naps or something.
i saw the clip too and the close up on her face when she acquiesed that it had been really hard for her is heartbreaking.
It’s undeniable that negative stories generate a lot more traffic than positive ones.
The tabloids smell blood and they are going after them.
I don’t know if there is a solution to this, at least not in the short term.
Those who love them, will feel even more protective of them, and those who hate them will find a way to see a negative in this, so basically nothing new.
Hopefully this documentary will reach the silent majority who do not have such strong feelings about them, but this comes smack bang in the weekend of the Brexit deal.
Realistically how many people will care about the travails of a princess and her prince when their own lives are being turned upside down ?
The tabloids though will have a field day, dissecting, citicising and refuting every little detail.
I’m sure Piers Morgan is already penning another one of his shitty opinion pieces.
So i don’t know how good of a strategy this is, I’m sure many will say, that they need to fight back and shine a light on this, but i fear it will open up another can of worms for them.
While Meghan seems strong and she will weather this storm, i’m not so sure about Harry. He has been the darling of the nation his whole life, dusting off the nazi uniform/las vegas scandals with barely a scratch, but this is an entirely different kettle of fish.
His recent comments about not being to get out of bed in the morning are especially worrying. He seems fragile and I hope he is getting the support he needs.
@Mrs Bump, “So i don’t know how good of a strategy this is, I’m sure many will say, that they need to fight back and shine a light on this, but i fear it will open up another can of worms for them.”
I have the exact same fear(s) about the strategy and Harry.
I don’t understand this line of thinking. “Don’t stand up for yourself, it just might make things worse,” is just…such a bad piece of advice when it comes to bullying. Yes, it could make things worse. But at least your voice is out there. At least you have openly stated that you are hurt by it, that there are actual consequences to this type of behaviour. It might not change the bullies’ minds, but it’s less about that, and more about the victim having the right to speak out and state things. That is empowering. That does make a positive difference. People have GOT to stop saying that it doesn’t.
+1. She’s going to be raked over the coals for expressing pain Because Others Have It Worse.
I don’t even want to know what the RRs and their ilk will say – I just really feel for her.
The article already has 14K comments. They’re finding plenty to say. I refuse to look.
And she’s rich and royal so “what does she have to complain about??” It only reinforces the idea that royals or celebrities can’t have difficulties or pain, because they are rich and famous.
Mother Teresa identified Loneliness as one of the greatest forms of poverty in the Western world; I think of this when I watch her speak.
I just can’t help thinking “You know she’s an actress, right?”. All of this may be real but she also has the skill set to completely manufacture it if that is what she wants to do. Yes, she has been given a hard time by the press (unfairly so) but it could still be a ploy from her.
A ploy for what, that she doesn’t already have? We know her occupation, but unlike some, we also know it doesn’t cancel out her ability to feel pain. People can still believe white women experience abuse or infidelity (to the point where they’ll even hold grudges) and can be genuinely effected by either.
I am already picturing the responses to this, as for those who see her life as privileged and wealthy, it’s like she has nothing to complain about. In their eyes, it confirms the “Me-Gain” trope. In reality, all the privilege and wealth in the world doesn’t change the fact that she faces ugly racism and discrimination every day, with little support save Harry and her close friends.
Regardless, this is the Duchess of Success.
H8rs gonna h8. Ain’t gonna stop her.
I love how she said “thanks for asking.” This docu looks like it might be really good!
@Some chick: Duchess of Success, I love it! We should just call her that going forward.
I just remembered the ghastly 60mins Australian documentary of hatefest, featuring; Katie Hopkins, and a motley crew of abominalbles. What was the reason for that documentary, what was their endgame? Quite shameful really!
60 mins Aust is unapologetically click bait tv for cheap Sunday night ratings… It operates from a Fox news channel/E! format, masquerading as legitimate current affairs on a free-to-air TV channel that cheer leads for our conservative political parties. It runs puff pieces about extremely conservative and/or Nazi politicians in attempting to humanise them – especially in the lead up to elections here. At the same time, it often runs with nasty, badly disguised, often racially profiling-type hit jobs on anyone not white, Meghan being a case in point, or other easy targets such as people from low socio-economic backgrounds.
60 mins Australia never has documentary pieces – it runs nasty wedge-politics type fillers in between sunday night advertisements, that appeal to those with uncritical minds, low tolerance and little compassion for anyone but those ‘just like them’.
That poor sweet thing…it’s just not fair.
I agree. This made me cry.
since I don’t know her, I have no idea what kind of person she is. so I won’t be a fan or a hater. but I do think she loves attention and thrives in it. and that’s no sin. many people don’t want to admit it, but would like to get attention because that gives you a lot of validation. the problem is the negativity, of course. british press and press in general are crap. but I don’t think the biggest issue with the press is how they make up things about meghan. she is protected by her money and status and all. it is unpleasant to read that stuff, but I think she’s still safe and can lead a great life if she doesn’t read that crap. I wish nobody had to be exposed to that,but the problem is that the press has gone after the normal people who can’t protect themselves. I really hate how immoral the press is. once upon a time being a journalist was a noble profession.
Harry is traumatized by the presence of photographers and the media, Meghan finds it incredibly hard to live a royal life, both of them refuse to step back from attention and royalty and live as rich private citizens.
You can’t help somebody who refuses to do anything to help themselves.
Go back to the DM and take this trash take with you.
Agree. Ok so they both enjoy the spotlight to some extent but that doesn’t mean they deserve to feel this way. While I’m far from a defender of Meghan and Harry or any of the Royals, all the points raised here are valid and important.
New mums are vulnerable. Some sail through it like they were born for the roll and others have a hellish time. If you can suffer from post natal depression with a supportive, loving family and no real problems, imagine how easy it must be to fall into that when you have extra pressures.
@ Valiently Varnished
Bullseye!
Looks like someone must have advertised this site on DM today, the place is absolutely crawling with trolls with their pitiless views.
@Bella DuPont, Many of theses new posters are not coming from the Daily Fail. The are coming from the DL.
Hikaru, we prefer to address the racism and want the narrative changed. It is racism this woman deals with, pure and simple. Leaving … ignoring it, I am happy they are addressing it head on. Harry might not mind a fair press, fairly reporting on his good work. Meghan signed on for a Royal Life, she is 100% capable of doing a damn fine job of it. IT is the press that needs to change. NOT Meghan and Harry.
Yes. Let’s blame the victims here.
They have an amazing platform to help people and may have decided that is a greater use of their time. Also even if they both stepped down as royals, the press would always have interest in them until Will’s kids grow up.
+1. You called it exactly what it is.
I fail to see how stepping back would improve their situation. Even if they stepped back from public appearances people (mainly the press) would be pissed. You’re delusional if you think the press would back off of them simply because they’re no longer in the BRF. If anything, they’d have even more free reign to harass them because they’d be without the protection of the BRF. And why should they step back? Why can’t the press just be fair? Is it really too much to ask that Meghan not be further dehumanized?
They did try to step back… during her maternity leave. And the racist British media just made stuff up. The reason they are in the media so much is because it sells.
Bingo @S808. Instead of putting even more on this new family, why not demand more from the general public, including the press like say, I don’t know, kindness and human decency?
Nah, just kidding. It’s totally Meghan’s fault people are such a$$ho!es.
🙄
What? This is their jobs. Their lives are funded by taxpayers. They can’t just quit and live like rich private citizens. What a ridiculous take.
Plus, what strikes me as “funny” about that narrative of how they should “just leave” the royal family is that its not like the press would leave them alone if they did that.
I mean, to tie this into another post today – let’s ask Diana how that worked out for her.
I think the point is maybe they should get new jobs. They want all the privileges of working royals without the very obvious drawbacks.
Again, though, new jobs are not going to stop the press from hounding them. Harry is NEVER going to have a “normal” life. There is nothing he can do about it at this point.
Experiencing a racist smear campaign is not a “very obvious drawback.” It’s disgusting and the tone of “they should just stop being royals” is also really gross at this point.
Why not? After a bit the press would lessen their interest. They’d get a few snaps here and there but if they laid low it could be done. But I suspect this is NOT what Meghan wants, she WANTS to be in the news, she WANTS to be famous, she WANTS to cause controversy, she WANTS to plod roughshod over English traditions that many in that country still seem to enjoy and gives them a sense of identity. I guess she wants to turn England into Hollywood, and she might if she could.
Problem is she wants the fame and money and to control the narrative as well. Honestly, I know this social climber can take the heat, she’s been around. It’s all about control. After watching her I can’t help but agree with some that she exhibits some problematic emotional traits that shouldn’t be taken lightly. I’m in the US watching my corrupt government fall apart and it’s painful. I feel sorry for the English people who’ve had this forced upon them, that in addition to the Prince Andrew problem.
Hikaru, he was born and raised to believe that he has a duty to represent his country. She was already an activist. It’s hard. Really hard. If they stopped bringing attention to good works, they would be destroyed by the press and wouldn’t be left alone. The Queen’s brother, Edward, abdicated the throne and was still in the papers. I think that, especially for her, it’s an opportunity to put good into the world at a really high level, because they will be harassed no matter what for a long time.
The Queen’s uncle (her dad’s older brother) abdicated.
Keira, please read up on Edward and Wallis’s life post abdication. It’s….not pretty. And it’s not a life lived out of the spotlight either.
Also, Harry is unlikely to be king short of a plague, aviation accident, or a zombie apocalypse so mentioning an abdication doesn’t make much sense.
This site is devoted to this couple: I concur to most negative comments about them., especially regarding this narcissistic female Sussex. I understand that I will receive the utmost ire from all her followers, and no doubt be blocked from any further attempts to dispute from her devotees.
Thanks, Keira. I never remember that correctly. Dumb Yank here…
I think Edward does matter. Diana transformed the way that the public saw the monarchy. Wallis and Edward were like , international tabloid stars. Harry, as Diana’s kid, who also married an American woman with African ancestry, was not going to be left in peace no matter what they decided to do with their lives. If you will be followed either way, why not book a bunch of charity events and draw attention to the vulnerable fo the world?
@DS9 – Keira wasn’t saying that Harry should give up his place. She was just clarifying that it was the queen’s uncle who abdicated. And I agree @Christina – Edward does matter. Harry will never have peace whether or not he is in the line of succession.
And @Avalon, get out of here with that nonsense about “narcissistic female Sussex.”
@Avalon and @Hikaru, all you’re doing is being hateful, envious and petty, spouting your psycho babble about people you don’t know personally or professionally and, therefore, unqualified to diagnose mentally or classify socially. Deal with your own sh*tty behavior (like stalking people you hate) instead of projecting it on the Duchess of Sussex. And, get some professional help while you’re at it because your irrational hate is disturbing.
@Courtney, people keep saying they love the attention, but how many times have we spotted H&M out and about, off duty? Rare, and yet, even remaining in Frogmore, without being seen, still generates fabricated malicious stories from The Media. Rhiannon Mills, is even now blaming Meghan for overshadowing The Pakistani Tour, as if Meghan is the boss of ITV, or Harry appearing at a scheduled Well Child Awards Night, which as a result of the illnesses of the children, would always be emotional.
That’s blaming the victims instead of the bully, you need to take a good look at your morals and ideals because history will judge people who stand by why bullies are allowed to harass and destroy families and lives.
+100
I feel this way exactly. I think the right thing to do in this case is to stand up to people lying about them and bullying them. Try to change the narrative. It may not succeed but they have to try and I’m glad they are.
Exactly. The cruelty from a few here was breathtaking to read. I rarely gasp and recoil.
Wrong person. Sorry
Could Harry choose to relinquish his place in the line of succession and express a desire to live as a private citizen? Yes. Would it work? No. He would still be hounded and so would Meghan. His grandma is Queen. His father will be King. He and Meghan are one of the world’s most recognizable couples. They would not be given privacy. Maybe more than they have now, but that is doubtful.
That’s even if that is what they wanted, which I don’t think we truly know.
@Jen – I think Harry thought about stepping away from the Firm before, but his grandmother and father convinced him to stay. He’s one of the more popular Royals over here, so it would be wound to the family if he stepped away. But honestly, if the thought had crossed his mind to the point where he had to be talked out of it, I can only see it crossing his mind again.
They could stop taking money and houses from the English taxpayer by abdicating. Then they would surely still get public speaking opportunities, etc in this day and age if that is what they wanted. I know this site’s position is that M and H are always above criticism; however, there are many single mums and couples in England who don’t have a fraction of the help and resources they do that complain less than these two. I feel the same when William has complained. It is a pretty despicable sign of not recognizing your privilege.
It’s not that they’re above reproach. It’s that a lot of the criticism toward them is completely unfair and racist. There have been many times people here have criticized them for different things.
And yes, they could stop taking money and houses from the taxpayers, but I don’t think that would stop the problems they are facing. They are still very well known and would likely be hounded by the press.
Oh, right, THEY should go away. Not the racist abuse should stop. Go find your humanity because you definitely lost it.
@cici, for your information, Meghan was working and earning a good whack, and living in a nice house. Travelling freely with friends and doing her advocacy work. Tax payers only pay for security, Prince Charles, who pays taxes on his Duchy of Cornwall businesses, pays for his sons and their wives. They rented their own place in the cotswalds, and what happened; the media tresspassed and took photos of the house including inside the bedroom! So there!
@Hikaru How sad for you (and for the people that know you) that you can watch something like this and have absolutely no compassion at all. What an unhappy existence.
@Hikaru, false equivalence but you tried it. Have several seats.
Refuse to step back? They’re royal and expected to do charity work. If they stopped they’d be criticized for not working and Meg was doing this work before she for with Harry soshe obviously cares. Doing charity work brings them criticicism? Why? Charity work is a good thing. It’s racism sexism and others looking bad in comparison to them because of the good work they do that’s causing the bad press
Don’t be stupid, how does Harry stop becoming a royal, it is not an employment, he was born into it, Meghan falling in love and marrhing Harry, automatically becomes royal. Even The Queen can’t unroyal Harry, it’s his birthright. It now explains why they refused a title for Archie, even though he is royal.
Why the hell has meghan taken on so bloody much??? I think could have dialled it down a little bit. I mean still get in there with her work but not go full it and with a newborn. I think she thought she could handle it and be super woman and have it all. No women can’t have it all. Its a BS myth we were so;d around the 1980’s and 90s. Something has to give and something does!
How exactly do you imagine them living as rich private citizens would go? They money they take is still from the royal family, and it is still the peoples’ money, technically, isn’t it? And do you honestly think the press will back off if they are private citizens? How many private citizens’ lives has the British tabloid press destroyed? Or do you think they all don’t count because they “put themselves out there” somehow?
Okay, so that is your take re Harry and Meghan. What is your view of the tabloids? Should they carry on as they are? Maybe give themselves a pat on the back for having successfully hounded the Sussexes out of the royal family? What kind of world do you want to live in? One where bullying and unreasoned hatred of those you consider to be ‘other’ is completely embraced?
She’s a cool person. I truly admire her and I hope she can get through this difficult period.
I, unfortunately, have a sense that the media is going to take the “Nobody asks me if I’m okay” line and make it seems like Meghan’s asking that the world needs to revolve around her or something.
Yeah, it’s going to be taken as complaining no doubt. She’s a duchess and lives a beautiful life compared to most. But does that mean she’s not a human being going through a lot of stressful hurtful crap? It’s a lose lose for her.
@Hope, you are so correct in all that you say. It is not the media that is back-lashing regarding Meghan’s comments but the a large portion of the commentariat in general and I an not talking just the Daily Fail. The negative comments are just as you stated, “Meghan’s asking that the world needs to revolve around her or something” and “go back to your 4 million dollar/pound public renovated cottage and lock the door”.
@Originaltessa, you are also correct as this is “a lose lose for her” if she is trying to get the public on her side.
@Bay, I doubt if she is trying to get the “public” on her side, just the decent people in the world, the ones who really matter. The @$$holes will never change and can kick rocks.
This is the equivalent of saying a woman has no right to complain about an abusive husband because he’s rich and gives her a good lifestyle. It’s just plain wrong.
@Bella DuPont, I apologize if I did not make myself clear. Meghan has every right to complain. What I am trying to say is that unless public opinion changes things will not get any better for the Sussexes as the British tabloid press feeds the hungry beast of public opinion in order to maximize revenue for profit.
If I offended anyone with my post, I hereby apologize.
@Bay, you said that the press is the one feeding public opinion, shouldn’t the press then be held accountable for that? And how will opinion change unless they hear another side?
@Msiam— press is perhaps a misnomer as we are really referring to “tabloid press” which exists for the sole purpose of making money from gossip and speculation. There is
no inherent need for a balanced view or presentation of both sides because they are gossip mongers and writers of fanaticisms and not journalists.
@MsIam, I meant to say “British Tabloid Press”. I do not think that The Times, The Telegraph or The Guardian have must interest in this story matter, The Times, The Telegraph and The Guardian are the only British “papers’ I would trust to give an unbiased opinion of another side of this or any other argument.
The British tabloid press can and will do this, and the British tabloid press would be wrong to do it. The solution to this debacle isn’t for Meghan to stay quiet and suffer. I feel like people are entirely too caught up in the whole, “How will the media spin this,” to fully understand that THAT is the whole problem here. The media will spin her silence badly, and it will spin her non-silence badly, and that is the issue here. Respectfully, I don’t think she’s interested in really getting people on her side at this point. I think she’s more interested in getting her views out there.
@Hope, the people who will jump on that line are the same people who questioned the humanity of her child. Who cares what they think. Real human beings will understand what she meant.
This!
@Baytampaby, The Telegraph and The Times are just as bad. Check out the RR on those broadsheets, as we call them. Guardian is the only paper that presents a balanced reporting and sometimes defends Meghan.
That is exactly what DM has done….the article has 11K comments ……by people who purport to be sick of reading about her. DM took just that one line…’not many people have asked if I am OK’…out of context to make it look as though she is self obsessed. The Brexit storm is currently boiling hot, but they are all just obsessed with Meghan…unbelievable!
The truth is she is becoming a bigger and bigger personality by the day and she has done nothing wrong except work hard and be sucessful…there are so many skeletons in the royal cupboard far more than anything than Meghan and her family could serve up and yet the Daily Mail is totally obsessed with this woman who is the goose that lays the golden egg for them. Sheer hypocrisy and totally pathetic…they should all be ashamed but no surprise because dangerous populism is on the rise and the majority of comments are from Brexit and MAGA fanatics who hate diversity. Wicked and cruel people tormenting and bullying the life out of a pregnant woman.
It is totally shameful…but we should all do more and stand up for her. Go on Daily Mail and give them a piece of your mind, let them know she has support. Write letters to the Daily Mail and other media. I have written letters and called into phone in shows to defend Meghan. We can turn the this tide of this wretched hatred.
For heaven sake!…We all need to do something ….to show the Daily Mail that we know their ugly game. Before something happens and we will wish that we had tried to help them….this couple have had enough. Harry breaking down at the Well Child event is a sign that he is under immense strain.
Charles…Daddy…where are you? I would be incensed if my child was going through this.
This makes me so angry. They are BOTH so kind hearted.
I’m really angry and frustrated by how differently both wives are being treated.
One is lazy, disengaged, unprepared, with no work ethic, yet some how is perfect and does no wrong in the eyes of the press.
The other wife hit the ground running, has initiative, connects with people, and has passion and work ethic, yet she is dragged and smeared for nothing by the press.
It’s still mind boggling to me.
This. But we all know why.
This legit made me cry. Because YES black women are always fighting to have our humanity respected – or even RECOGNIZED. And to see this woman go through this on a such a huge scale. And she’s done it with grace. And professionalism. And I am glad that she is no longer keeping quiet about it. They always want us to JUST BE QUIET and take it.
….and if you show any emotion, or decide to stand up for yourself you’re ‘angry’ or you need to just take it. It’s the underlying racist idea that black people are not human. They don’t feel pain, and don’t have emotions so it’s ok to abuse them because they don’t really feel it because they aren’t white. It’s disgusting.
Yup. And now people will mock her or call her weak or call her an angry black woman. Because black women are not afforded the full range of our emotions. Because they don’t see us as actual human beings.
This happened to me. A young (white) woman that I was managing cried to my (older white male) superior and said that I was being “mean” to her. When in actuality she was late all the time and I had a discussion with her about her tardiness. She accused me of being unprofessional and “mean”. And my superior believed her. Despite all evidence to the contrary and when I got upset that I was being reprimanded for doing my job I was accused of being “angry” and “emotional”.
I know this story. I’ve lived it.
….because all white women know what their “tears” can get them and men (of all colours) fall for it every time. It’s tiresome, manipulative and deeply dishonest.
Yep, I’ve lived it too as an attorney. Had to force my boss into mediation for him to get it (but I don’t think he really does).
+1000.
Thank you, MariaS, HK9 and VV, for writing. I’m so sorry you go through this bullsh*t regularly because of all the misinformation and bigotry that swirls around anyone – women especially – not white. I’ve got to think we’re inching toward correcting this f*cked-up imbalance but it’s tragically slow in coming. Please keep posting, writing, sharing. It shouldn’t fall on you to re-educate the rest of us, but I don’t see meaningful reconditioning happening anywhere else – maybe it’s these tiny incremental doses of reality that change the narrative?
Oh woe is me. I would believe it more if she hadn’t spent time as an actress living her life in the spotlight. It’s not a surprise what she got her self into by marrying Harry.
If you don’t like it, give it up. Live a private life.
Did you get lost? This isn’t the Daily Fail.
Sadly guys as much as a troll Maddie23 is; I can assure you that this is the narrative Brit columnists and RR are going to take from this.☹
I can see the column write-ups in all the rags in my sleep.
Already the likes of Lorraine Kelly, Jane Moore and that vile Camilla Long have pretty much been telling Harry and Meghan to pack up and leave.
Watch for more bilge with the words ‘crocodile tears’, ‘never complain and explain’ directed at Meghan in the coming days.🙁🙁
They’ll be happy to see they’re breaking her, cause she was just too ahem, ‘confident’ 😟😟, for them.
Comment by “Maddie23” mimics 80% of the comments I have read on other sites this morning. I am not speaking of only The Daily Fail.
Yes BayTampa, the internet is filled with bullies and society’s dregs. What’s your point?
@Darlac, I need to read posts of differing opinions so I am AWARE of what is out there in the world. I try (and I mean try hard and it is a major effort) to watch 10-20 minutes a week of FOX News so I know for myself what is being said, how it is being said and who is saying it.
No. But there’s a great deal of racism here. Hmm. I wonder of the racism is coming from INSIDE the palace.
Props, BayTampa, I could only hand 8 minutes of Fox News. I switched to the Washington Post.
Not today Satan. Go troll somewhere else.
Why is she considered a troll for having a different opinion? That is not what an internet troll is.
@Cici: It’s not because she has a ‘different ‘ opinion. It’s the dismissively and aggressively shaming someone for discussing the painful and scary side of her experience as a biracial woman who ‘s in the public eye like this, and blaming her for the way she’s treated. To go out of one’s way to do that is a form of trolling on the internet.
Yes because actresses don’t ever have feelings and aren’t human beings first and foremost.
Even if they stepped down from royal life, the media would never leave them alone until Will’s kids are grown and can perpetuate the next toxic cycle of this.
Yeah. No. Take your vitriol elsewhere. She’s a human being. No one deserves to be treated like garbage.
@Maddie, She was an actress most of the public hadn’t heard of. Many people hadn’t heard of “Suits,” let alone Meghan Markle. She was a C or D list actress, not an A lister. I do wonder if Meghan is using her acting skills in this clip, though. Not that she hasn’t had a rough time, I’m sure she has, but clearly lots of people, including Harry, her friends, and the general public, have been concerned about Meghan’s welfare, so I find it a bit disingenuous when she says that not many people have asked if she’s okay. It seems that, amid their lawsuit, she and Prince Harry are trying out a new strategy–and that is to garner public sympathy. They went from rising above it all to now addressing the tabloids and the emotional impact of the negative news stories. That is fine, but it’s clear to me this is a new PR tactic.
@WTW try again. You will not take this woman’s humanity away from her for your racist purposes. Her accomplishments are more than yours or any other woman that married in to that family. Yes, I said it. Their privilege comes from inheritance. So go back to your whole because you have no idea what a real hard working woman looks like.
@wtw the fact that that beautiful baby was born is a testament to her resilience. All you you racists – British media; trolls; her dad: KP. You all tried it, but that baby was born safe. She’s already won.
@Sunshine, I am black, so try again. There is nothing racist in my post. I work in the media, and I stand by my comment that this seems like a new PR strategy. I didn’t insult Meghan and I even acknowledged that she has had a rough time. I have defended Meghan multiple times, but both things can be true: I can point out that she’s had a rough time of it and that this is likely a new PR strategy on the part of the Sussexes.
@ wtw
Please. I don’t believe you for a second. Anyone with > 10 IQ Points can smell your concern trolling 10 miles away.
You’re not a black woman, you’re a troll. 😘
@Bella DuPont, All you have to do is search for my other posts on this site to see that I’ve identified myself as black/WOC several times. I do find it very disturbing that people with opinions that differ from yours are automatically “trolls.” Nothing I’ve said meets the definition of “troll.” Simply because I didn’t exclusively express sympathy for Meghan doesn’t make me a troll. Because I applied critical thinking skills and said that her outward show of emotion signals a new PR tactic as she’s in the midst of a lawsuit doesn’t make me a troll. As I’ve said, I work in the media and used the small influence I have to actually defend Meghan, but I maintain that she and Harry have now been told to play up their emotions for public sympathy. It’s not a coincidence that #WeLoveYouMeghan is now the top Twitter trend. That this is a PR move doesn’t mean Meghan hasn’t been the target of thinly-veiled racist attacks. She has been. I’m just asking people to question why she’s crying now as opposed to previously when she said she didn’t read/engage the negative press about her. The difference is likely the lawsuit. Princess Diana used the media to her advantage as well. That doesn’t make the pain she endured in the BRF any less valid either.
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WTW, you work in media. You’re viewing her through your professional lens.
Any woman who has been subjected and targeted to be abused knows how it feels and what it looks like. Meghan is not acting here. To even consider that she would be acting, knowing full well – as you stated – how media works, tells me you need to stop and FEEL.
Would you be saying the same things if this was Kate? You need to self reflect, and maybe you’ll get to the root of your bias towards this woman, whom you seem to despise for no reason. As a Black woman who is navigating my way around a very white corporate world, I 100% her feeling of otherness and what’s it like to feel ostracized. And I’m not even close to being famous. Ultimately, it comes down to having to square our shoulders and rise up and deal with the problem head on. We cannot continue to put our heads down and take it. I’m more talented, and educated in my field, so why should I not he treated like everyone else? White people are so threatened by us because we highlight their mediocrity. And thus why the BRF will not defend Meghan.
@Val, I honestly don’t give an F about Kate. Meghan Markle is the only reason I care about the BRF at all. The idea that I, as a black woman, would sympathize more with Kate is pretty ridiculous. As a dark-skinned, racially unambiguous black woman, I have been marginalized in more ways than I care to recall. I certainly know what it’s like to be othered. I have repeatedly said that MM has been on the receiving end of thinly-veiled racist attacks. I do think the British press has a problem with Harry having a black mother-in-law and a mixed-race bride. I am also saying that I think Meghan choosing to let the world see her cry at this point in time is likely a calculated move. I imagine her team has advised her to show her humanity (in the midst of this lawsuit), and that’s what she’s doing. Before, they likely told her to act unbothered, so she acted accordingly. I am not saying she hasn’t actually experienced pain as a result of the press. I am not saying she was crying crocodile tears in that clip. I am saying there is a strategy behind the emotions she chooses to let the public see. That is all.
There are so many commenters here saying how sorry they feel for her, I don’t understand why the few commenters on here who aren’t just expressing sympathy are so bothersome.
@WTW
I wish she hadn’t said the part about not many people have asked her if she was ok.
She has so many friends, many who have spoken publicly on her behalf, from serena, jessica mulroney, George Clooney, elton john, ellen etc etc. She has her mom, her husband.
I’m not sure who else she was expecting this question from? She clearly has a strong support network already.
However if she feels this isn’t enough, then i can only hope she’s seeing a mental health professional.
Well, to be nice….
She may have thought, since she had some experience with press and the spotlight, that she could handle being a member of the royal family. But the press attention she got from her blog and Suits is nothing compared to the scrutiny she faces now, and I think she probably underestimated that.
That said, I don’t think ANYTHING could have prepared her for the smear campaign of the past year. It’s just been horrible and I dread seeing the headlines sometimes, because how knows what she will be accused of next – so I don’t think saying “she knew what she was in for” is a fair assessment.
@Becks1, I agree with you, ” I don’t think ANYTHING could have prepared her for the smear campaign of the past year”.
However, if 90% of this smear campaign is due to racism there is nothing they can do. The racism is not going to go away or does not appear to be subsiding in the least. I have no idea how I would advise them going forward.
I don’t think she expected her own father to sell her out to the press either. The racist bullying from the press is awful enough but then add the betrayal of her father. It must have been absolutely heartbreaking. Toxic Thomas showed himself to be scum – and he caused his daughter so much pain in the process.
I do think that the actions of her white family has been the most painful aspect of this whole ordeal for her. That is such an intimate betrayal.
“I don’t think she expected her own father to sell her out to the press either.”
@ArtHistorian, I think (just a gut feeling) Meghan did expect a sellout, maybe not from her father, but from some Markle. I have always thought her father was suspicious from day one and was not one iota surprised by the sellout.
Y’all have got to stop with this “private life” BS. Living a “private life” is out of the question at this point and she has every right to fight to not be abused in the media. I don’t see the point of the BRF, but they’re all people and don’t deserve the amount of disrespect and downright abuse she’s gotten. Just because the rest of them haven’t said anything doesn’t mean they don’t have to right to.
I know I’m feeding a troll, but responding anyway…
I thought of that while watching the video (she’s an actress, yes), but at the end her forehead and cheeks redden. That’s an involuntary stress reaction triggered by genuine emotion – I.e. you can’t act it. She’s genuinely feeling all that pain and distress (of course she is!) and my heart breaks for her. For the first time in my life I want to write a celebrity and tell her how awesome I think she is.
She was mad. Smart people are not buying her bull crap performance.
You are so heartless. Meghan could have easily lost the baby.
Hi Maddie23. Your nasty cruelty isn’t appreciated here. Head to the Daily Fail to find your kindred spirits. Bye!
To be fair Maddie23 is only expressing the majority commentariat opinion I have read in posts on other sites. I AM NOT SPEAKING ONLY OF THE DAILY FAIL.
@ BTB
The vast majority of negative comments they get have been found to have been originated by a tiny number of computers…..if my memory serves me correctly, it was something like 20? Which says to me, RUSSIAN TROLL FARMS.
@Bells DuPont, I agree with all you say but reading comments on the Daily Fail one can tell which ones are fake bots; the paid posters are harder for me to discern.
I am trying to understand the person who has a completely different view point from my own. I have no idea who or what “Maddie23” is but I do know there are many out there just like “Maddie23”. To just ignore the many “Maddie23s” will not help the Sussexes or the general problem of racism.
I agree with you Bay, and I think that’s one of the reasons why they are addressing this so publicly, people actually believe those tabloid stories and the stuff that’s spewed out by these morning show presenters! Go to any comment section just even mentioning Meghan – they are disgusting and just regurgitating the lies that are printed in the British papers. Most of the comments I’ve seen are the EXACT same points line by line that is printed in the tabloids and regurgitated repeatedly by presenters on television. What’s even worse is that these outlets are now taking their stories from that online hate group that has actually made violent threats against her.
blue36, You have stated all this better than I ever could and I have been trying to explain it for months.
However, I personally want to know where the hate is coming from and why the hate. This is not just with Meghan & Harry but with many other issues too.
@Bay, *tinfoil hat on* I think the most interesting story came out after an article about the fall out with Rose story came out. The fight back was immediate, the article by Richard Kay first denying the story then throwing the Sussexes under the bus and then straight after an article came out saying palace courtiers nicknamed her “Me-gain.” I think the initial reaction was that KP aides thought the story came from the Sussexes (I actually think it was from Rose), but the reaction was so swift and angry it actually surprised me. Which is why I think the ones running that hate group are actually courtiers in the palace. CNN and CBC both have articles saying that the online hate group is actually 20 accounts that are spreading this stuff on social media, some are probably legit trolls, but I think some are run by people in the palace. The fact that royal reporters engage and communicate with these accounts on a regular basis is very suspicious.
Go pull the wings off of butterflies @Maddie23, I’m sure you’ll have much more fun with that.
Yeah…..these people are common trolls….perhaps from some Russian trolling farms? Notice how they take a quick, 1 comment pot-shot with their talking point of the day and then just bugger off, most likely to site #234 on their list of targets for the day.
Very true….must not get suckered!
Very true….must not get suckered!
@Maddie23
Meghan got nowhere near the attention when she was in Toronto and filming Suits. My son lives close to where she lived and he never saw any press until Harry came on the scene. There is absolutely NO comparison.
But, FFS, why can’t the Queen and Charles step up and tell the press to lay off. It’s unbelievable that they can’t say something on her behalf. Boggles the mind.
It is my personal belief that “Maddie23” is a paid poster. “Maddie23” person is not argumentative enough to be a true hater.
Yup. My point exactly.
@Maddie. Ugh. Just no. Nope and no again. Dismissed.
She can’t say the words “race” or “racism” because most white people lose their damn minds at the mere mention of the words.
+1000
This is the issue. The press are already freaking out at the euphemism of “bullying”. White people always act like being called racist is the worst thing you can do. NOPE. the worst thing you can do is be a racist and not confront that internalized bias.
She is so lovely and strong, I can’t imagine what she is going through.
Yep
@stepup, even more so in Britain, I would imagine. The sheer inability of many many white British people to comprehend anti-black racism is just weird to me. I’ve seen so many people insist that because multiracial relationships are more accepted in Britain that it means they couldn’t possibly be as racist as they are in other parts of the world, like America. They don’t seem to understand that that’s not how any of that works. They still use America as a benchmark and can’t look their own foibles in the face. It’s depressing. It’s very likely that Meghan would have lost support from the relatively “liberal” white middle-class in Britain, who would have been sooooo offended that she’s calling them racist, and not at the actual racism she deals with on a daily basis.
I’m glad they’re doing this. They’ve tried the “carry on and work” and that hasn’t been effective. This likely won’t change the racist press who’ve been despicable, but it puts it out there for everyone to see. I think that’s important.
I agree. They’ve ignored and ignored and it’s just gotten worse. Sometimes when the crowd is standing behind you screaming, you just have to make yourself turn around and walk right up to it and say something. I’m glad they’re doing this.
Watching her made me so, so sad for her.
They are both very brave. I hope they do realize the amount of support and love out there for them.
Agreed. I am also glad she is speaking out. Bullies need to be dealt with and boundaries must be set.
Bless her. Screw the Cambridges, the queen, and everyone else who has just tossed Meg and to a lesser extent Harry, to the wolves. This woman is the most human out of the lot of them.
I doubt they do they since they all seem to live with their heads up their own butts, but I hope the BRF sees now AWFUL this makes them look.
Yeah I’m with you. It makes them look like the outdated dinosaurs they are, but then again, they shield paedophiles, so I don’t think they GAF.
I wish we had a republic!
I think this was a good step on their part and likely part of their case building.
They have already set about suing two publications and the others are on notice. One of the defenses the papers will use is that of the RF traditionally being harmless fodder.
Meghan is different because a lot of her smears had racial undertones. Putting them on notice in this way means they cannot just ignore or be indifferent to the suffering.
Meg and Harry need to carry on. These cases will come good. Yes they will be vilified like any other public figure who has fought back, but it will not be a case of suffering in silence as there will be a marker in the sand.
My heart breaks for how badly she’s been treated, during such an exciting period of a young couples life, marriage, babies, living together, she has been treated so awfully and I’m sure it’s tarnished those memories and moments for her. I hope the love they have for eachother is enough to get them through this but the British media and the Royal family have done irreparable damage to their reputations in my opinion.
I’m so mad that people make her cry. She’s obviously a sweet person just trying to live her life and she has to deal with the racist Daily Fail and her terrible father. Keep doing you, Meg!
I really feel for her and agree it must be so frustrating that she is being bullied in this way without having been able to come out and speak for herself up until this point. However I have read articles that I would seem to be anti-American, but where is the evidence of racism and sexism..because she is a woman of colour? Because she is a woman?
Are you joking right now or trolling??
Not sure if serious but… it’s not overt (mostly – disgusting overtly racist comments are frequently left up on Daily Mail articles) but:
Compare how hard she has worked vs Kate. Yet Kate is praised for barely lifting a finger, and Meghan, whilst working hard, is simply… criticised for what she wears. They’ve talking about how Meghan should “thank Kate” for her initiatives. Typical “mighty whitey” guidance bullshit is going on. There has been a disgusting interest in the press over “what colour” Archie might be. It’s hideous.
“There has been a disgusting interest in the press over “what colour” Archie might be. It’s hideous.”
What else did anyone expect?
This was also true of the two young sons of the Viscount & Viscountess Weymouth who is the heir to the Marquess of Bath.
@BayTampaBay oh yeah – I looove Emma Thynn the Vicountess, I understand her own mother-in-law is so racist she was banned from the wedding and from seeing her grandchildren. These women who do so much good for the community are reduced to their skin colour over and over by the awful racist old power structures in this country.
Anna Abigail Gyarmathy Thynn, Marchioness of Bath, is one big racist and she is also one big piece-of-work. If you have time Google and jump down that rabbit hole!
I remember watching their wedding and respecting the royal family. I thought it was amazing they accepted Meghan. What a fool I was. This family is heartless and vile and have no problem blocking people on Twitter if they dare mention Andrew or Wills affair but leave the racist comments. Using Meghan as a shield against Andrew and Will. My heart breaks for them. Harry was always there to defend his family and they couldn’t be bothered to do the same.
Summed it up perfectly.
I am crestfallen with this family, no goodwill left at all.
Me too, the apathy the royal family has had for what they have gone through have irreparably damaged my opinion of them. I will never look at them the same way without seeing how they have stood back and let the jackals rip her to pieces.
I remember the horrid smirks at the wedding, from Kate and Beatrice, in particular. They knew then that they could get up to all sorts and because there’s a black woman in their family, she’ll get far more shit than they ever will.
I remember those smirks, too. When the “preacher be a preaching,” Camilla whispered to Kate (complete with comical hand motions), Kate just looked back with gleaming eyes, suppressing a smile. I knew then…
I’m looking forward to seeing this and seeing what Meghan has to say. Even the most positive and resilient, spotlight loving person has the right to express how hard is the pressure on them. I wish her all the strength she can find.
I want to comment but that video clip hit me hard…
The lack of support from Harry’s family must be heartbreaking for the both of them. I was just thinking back to their engagement and wedding and how the family seemed to be very supportive of them and tried to make Meghan feel at home in her new country. Forward to not even 2 years in and it’s heartbreaking to see how difficult things have become for them and how no one in Harry’s family, the family that Meghan gave up so much for, has bothered to utter a pep in their defense. Watching W&K swan around in Pakistan on their luxury, tax payer funded vacation while back home William’s brother and sister-in-law are suffering just fills me with even more disgust for this family.
“The lack of support from Harry’s family must be heartbreaking for the both of them.”
And it’s only going to continue.
That’s how these royal families operate.
The crown is more important than blood.
I was laughing at that clown William when he was talking about racism in football. You can condemn racism there, but you are quiet as a church mouse when your own sister-in-law is getting similar treatment. Clown.
It’s hard to watch. Realizing that they dated for a relatively short time (as compared to the Cambridges), it doesn’t sound like she was adequately prepared for the intensity of the press or the specific challenges she would face. I can’t help but wonder if that prep was offered and not taken because she was initially greeted with joy and had been an actress, or not even offered by the Firm.
@Julia, a lot of this is coming from family members, so I doubt they would have come out and showed their true selves in this. It’s not just the press. I think that is probably the most cutting thing. Remember what one of those reports, Rebecca or Emily or somebody said how members on the inside are giving this negative info so they just cannot ignore it?
I would love to know who in the British Royal family is feeding negative info to the Royal Reporters and Royal Commentators.
“a lot of this is coming from family members, so I doubt they would have come out and showed their true selves in this”
I think that is the biggest, ugliest part of this whole mess. If that family would show her just the tiniest inkling that they support her and that they stand behind her, I imagine Meg would feel a lot differently. Sure, she’d still be getting slammed by the press, but if the family you married into is saying out in the open “we’re okay with you and we’ve got you”, it would make the press a lot more like static noise. But when said family says and does NOTHING, it just feels like they’re basically saying, “You’re on your own, sweetheart. Peace out.”
They don’t have to be her best friend. She doesn’t have to be their favorite. But for God’s sake, show the woman and her husband (YOUR OWN FAMILY MEMBER) some respect and just a tiny nudge of support!!
This is truly heartbreaking to watch. And shame on the Cambridges, the Wales, and the Queen for not publicly supporting them before now. Just truly terrible human beings.
As Harry’s statement said he has seen his wife and child turned into a commodity. Not treated as human. So now they are taking action to reassert their humanity.
As a black woman, this clip totally resonated within me. The world has historically viewed us as less-than, less-feminine and less deserving of an ounce of humanity. Whenever we deign to express our feelings about how we have been treated, we are dismissed and/or classified as the “angry black woman“. It is exceedingly difficult to navigate spaces that were never intended to nurture and accept us in the first place. Thus, we have to soldier on and lean on those who actually give a damn about us. I am hopeful that Meghan realizes that there are countless others who are appreciative of her and support her efforts to make this world a much better place for women and girls.
She’s gone through a lot (too many imo) life changes in a short amount of time which in and of itself deserves a few therapy sessions but to add the abuse she’s gotten on top of it? Unthinkable. And I’m sure Harry is fighting back so hard cause he’s angry. I know a lot of people feel otherwise but I stand strong on the stance that she didn’t need him. she had her money, education, connects and career before meeting and marry him. Yes she gained a lot but I think she gave up much more to be with him and he knows that. I’m sure they knew it wouldn’t be easy but they couldn’t have anticipated this. The lack of action from his family must hurt as well. They’ve done their jobs well and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want to be abused in the press. They’re not asking for positive coverage all the time. They shouldn’t have to ‘put up and shut up’ or leave the royal family. Is it too much to ask that the press just be fair? All the fame, money and status in the world does not cross out the intersections that are clearly making her a target.
This! All of this!
Yes Yes and Yes.
I feel so bad for her. I know that people said she has money, privilege, all that, but I don’t think that helps a lot when people are literally tearing you apart. I honestly don’t think that she expected such a huge backlash, and it can’t be easy. I sincerely hope that the situation will improve in the future. She is not perfect, but none of us is, and she deserves to be treated like a person, not like a villain.
Absolutely, besides, I hate when people refer to privilege and wealth to minimize someone’s feelings. She still has the right to feeling hurt!
As for her not expecting the backlash, sometimes I wonder if she bought the positive narrative they were trying to push at the begining, an American woman as the breath of fresh air who was going to transform the Royal Family.
Hopefully by being more outspoken there will be some changes in the unfair treatment they receive.
@Anne & Sof: This. Those who say, “STFU b/c folks are starving” are always free to STFU since folks are starving.
The reality of the press in Britain probably kept a few of Harry’s other British girlfriends from wanting to tie the knot. Meaghan probably wasn’t completely prepared for the onslaught. They want to sell newspapers and will say and do whatever that takes. Watch Press, a British series about a tabloid paper versus a real newspaper now playing on PBS. They will pursue her until she stops selling papers and clicks. It’s sadly modern life. Maybe they should get a nice house on the beach in Los Angeles and escape there for 3 or 4 months every year!
Nah, that would just provide more fodder for the tabs to say how they are “spending taxpayers money!” whether it is true or not. They are not going anywhere and that is what galls some people.
In the face of social media the British press is a dying breed, which explains why all the ‘royal reporters’, are busy on Twitter, so they are in fierce competition, numbers is everything and if going at Meghan like a lynch mob sells newspapers, they will do it, they are totally shameless, especially when they seem to have tacit support from enemies within the Palace walls. She is the new Diana for them. Poor Harry!
But we must do all we can to vociferously support and protect them.
Go Meghan! Go Harry!
My goodness. I know what the trolls and skeptics will say, but what we see here is real. The toll that all of this would take on someone – nothing can prepare you for what this woman has been slammed with.
Perhaps she should take lesson from Princess Anne, Countess Wessex who does their duties quietly without any publicity! They work but avoid the media at no cost, no interview, no publicity, don’t involve themselves with any kind of publicity! They don’t make publicity themselves yet they fulfill their duties tremendously!
@AD. They have asked for this. Unfortunately it’s not up to them.
Do you really think that is possible? The media (and public) are obsessed with the Sussexes. There is no “doing their duties quietly” for them. And part of their job is to raise awareness for causes. How do they do this? By showing their causes to the media.
You are an idiot. The media are so obsessed with them.
Are posters allowed to personally attack other posters here for differing opinions on celebrities?
Cici, not only is it allowed, I think it’s encouraged.
She is not responsible for how the media chooses to cover, vilify, and attack her.
Meghan managed three massive projects (Hubb Together Cookbook, Vogue, SmartWorks capsule collections) behind the scenes. All those meetings, all that networking, all that work getting done out of the public eye. For which the media then attacked her, because she was doing her job quietly and without telling the media until it was time for the media to be told.
@nota, You are so correct. The Tabloid Press chooses what stories, pictures or videos to publish and all decisions are made based on maximizing click$ for revenue. The Daily Fail could put brakes on this by not publishing anything on the Sussexes but The Daily Fail would loose a metric-fu*k-tonne of money and tabloids are in business to make as much money as po$$ible.
I do not have a suggestion for how to handle gossip sites and blogging boards.
She was being attacked by the media while on maternity leave so this is a total bs argument. Now take your troll self back to tumblr and the DM comment section.
Bullshit. Anne & Sophie have media all the time because their job is to promote their charities or patronages. Harry & Megan aren’t seeking media-the media is seeking them. Open your eyes.
@ad, Meghan was virtually out of site all summer and that did not stop a d@man thing in the press. So stop with the victim blaming please!
Ad, the reason the media doesn’t cover Anne and Sophie is because they don’t bring in and clicks/sales, the public are not interested in older Royals. Meghan was only seen a few times during her maternity leave, and physically kept a low profile, but the press chose to write about her multiple times a day anyway. It’s probably easier to be present that way the press atleast can just focus on the outfit or what she looks like, rather than just making up so click bait story.
Princess Anne and Sophie don’t avoid the media lmao. Sophie has been shredded by the media before, when she first got married. Princess Anne almost got kidnapped in her younger years. Don’t confuse a lack of media interest in their lives with them avoiding the media.
I felt this impact in my soul. So many women of color have to defend themselves at every corner, as a black woman in a white man’s world – I get it. I cant imagine all the eyes that Meghan has on her, that pressure must be insurmountable. I really root for her – even though I’m not a fan of the royal family as a whole, I’m here for fashion commentary usually, and I do feel like it is an ancient and clunky thing that needs to be abolished – I root for Meghan. I cant imagine being at home with a newborn and reading and hearing all this horrible vitriol being spewed every day. Sending her all the good vibes
As a black woman I have had to constantly defend myself, from my facial expressions down to the way I talk if I’m feeling passionate or tired or frustrated. I know this is kind of a tangent but recently at work a white male co-worker of mine lashed out at me verbally and then again over email -all in the same day. I kept my composure as we were walked into a room so he could explain himself and it all came down to “he was frustrated.” It didnt matter that he had verbally harassed me, lashed out at me publically over company email, he was just frustrated and in the end he didnt even say sorry. Just a week ago a white woman on my team said I made her feel bad because “my face looked angry” and I was forced to apologize, this is not the same story as Meghan but what I guess I’m trying to show here is that we have to constantly defend ourselves, it’s like “black woman” is an oxymoron in society, and because of that we have to constantly have our defenses up, be guarded.
I feel like Meg is bringing a new wave of understanding and #metoo but in the sense of, this is something that happens to all women of color, we are all pointed at, watched with a microscope, forced into safe submission by society and yeah? Me too. So like, good vibes to Meg and kudos to her for surviving all of this.
Yes to all of this. ESPECIALLY the “my face looked angry” part. Your demeanor was “ too aggressive”. Every black woman I know has this story. Especially the white woman tears part. Which takes me back to that story the press told about Meghan making Kate cry. The good old “scary black woman made innocent white woman cry” trope.
I empathize with you; i’m sorry you’re facing this kind of hostility and unkindness in the work place. I have nothing to say beyond that. Hang in there.
It’s amazing that Will and Kate are patrons of a mental health initiative, yet they support targeting a family member in an especially at-risk period for depression and anxiety.
It is so hypocritical and William is fighting racism too.
Her father is incredibly toxic and has abused her goodwill too many times to count. She doesn’t need to send someone around to check on him. That’s not her job.
@Abbey, Thomas Markle is basically a non-entity who was used by Piers Morgan and the The Daily Fail gang as a tool to try and gain power and/or control over the Sussexes.
Yes, sorry, I was commenting on another comment that got deleted. I agree with you.
Exactly.
And, also the fact that Harry literally started to cry in public speaks volumes. He is trained to conduct that “stiff upper lip” behavior that royals prefer from his early childhood. I mean poor kid barely cried at his own mom’s funeral. So the fact that he is breaking down now, and he can’t control it is very telling. I honestly wish them the best and shame on Wills and Kate for not supporting them more. Shame!
Harry is currently under immense pressure……he has been identified as a kind and sensitive person by people who know him privately.
For their own well being, can’t they move to Canada, where they can continue to do good works. Do they have to stay in that pit of vipers? I just don’t see this having a good ending, unless something changes. And other people aren’t going to change. The Royals, who do nothing about this, which is sickening, aren’t going to change. The racist UK media is not going to change. Harry and Meghan can change their circumstances though. I guess they would still be hounded. I dunno. What a mess.
I too wonder if they could relocate to another commonwealth country. I don’t know the logistics or cost of it all though. They’d have to move their family and office to another country. It may not be feasible.
They should just move to Africa as was reported. Yes, we still have our racists in South Africa, but people do actually get sent to jail here for racist rantings.
I’d be happy to have them! Victoria weather would be very familiar to them. The BRF own a nice big mansion here (Government House) and they would be able to afford the rent. Unlike the rest of us.
That being said, there’s racism everywhere and Canada is no exception. Just ask our First Nations people.
The Commonwealth is not free colonies and real estate for the British royals to just bandy about as they please. GTFO here. The assumption that the royals can just “show up” and have some time away from Britain is bonkers. No, they can’t! That’s not how that works. That’s not how ANY of this works.
I’ve lived in Canada my whole life and there are toxic racists here too.
Besides, if the Sussex family moved out of England, the press will follow them. The rest of the royal family would be bumped down to the sports page. Katie Keen would have to flash her ass on a regular basis to get any notice at all.
Oh, Kerwood. You had to make me spit my coffee. Lol! They’d have to go back to a$$-flashing or something. Their relevance was definitely not high on the totem before the Duchess of Sussex infused some signs of life in that dying institution. Hope they have and keep updating an exit plan.
Canadian here-racists abound here to. It won’t help them.
I have met people just 30 minutes north of Toronto who dislike “brown people” and appear to want a white Canada. Racists abound EVERYWHERE.
Are you kidding me? You don’t have to venture out of the city to see it. Toronto has changed for the worse over the past 10 years or so. Although a lot of people have left the city, there are a lot of newcomers many of whom are white and racist. Very disturbing.
You mean Newmarket, Andrea? 🤓
“For their own well being, can’t they move to Canada”?
This is exactly what the commentariat of The Fail, The Dim & The Slow want them to do with all royal (public???) funding cut.
Isn’t it Monaco that doesn’t allow reporters of any type? They would be close to the UK, and they probably speak the language fairly well, at least in her case.
OT: I’ve always thought it appalling that Harry and William only speak one language given their privilege.
Monaco essentially doesn’t allow paparazzi AFAIK. Photographers have to apply for a license to be allowed to photograph in public places, and you pretty much own your own image in Monaco. Meaning they cannot publish without your permission.
That’s why, in the midst of the custody fights, you’d find Kelly Rutherford trotting her kids around nearby France. Paps could photograph them and get out the “good Kelly” narrative for her. Father won physical custody, he raises them privately in Monaco where he has lived for a few decades.
Mixed race Canadian here. Racism is alive and well in Canada. I am Metis (French/Scottish/Indigenous) my white maternal grandmother did not want my mom to marry my Metis father because *gasp* she would have Indian babies! Granted this was 60+ years ago but things haven’t changed much. Especially in the Prairie provinces, the more obviously Indigenous you appear, the worse you get treated. As a young woman I looked more Caucasian and was treated as such, as soon as people met my father I knew what they were. I am not wording this well but the way Meghan has been treated is so hurtful. I couldn’t watch the clip. Many of my friends are obviously First Nations and it’s crazy to go shopping with them, we get followed very indiscreetly.
Perhaps if they lived in Vancouver, Toronto or Montreal they’d be fine but Saskatchewan or Manitoba or Alberta…….just no. Sadly. It’s an older book but still illustrates how Indigenous people are treated in Canada: “Half-Breed” by Maria Campbell.
No, they can’t. They can’t because the countries of the commonwealth are no longer colonies where you can drop off royals. People have got to stop doing this thing where they treat countries like Canada as free vacation spots for the royals lmao. Why the f-ck do Canadians have to cover the cost of their security and keep, all because the BRITISH tabloid press is bad at being decent human beings? Why not clean up your own corner of the world first?
And why are people forgetting the fact that Harry actually has responsibilities to the royal family?? Like??? No, he can’t drop everything and take off. He has an actual job to do, as the son of the heir, the grandson of the queen, that go well beyond just showing up for charity events and being a media punching bag. That makes it very difficult
The part that bothers me is that these are two people who want to work, who do work and do good, meaningful work.
Wanting them to go away instead of moderating childish, dangerous, and racist behavior is the height of ridiculousness.
It says a lot that people rather they just go away or “get on with it” than demand better from their press. Do they not see that the treatment of Meghan is just a glimpse of how POC can expect to be treated?
But but she killed it on the fashion front!
I mean she wears a size nothing and doesn’t have a fresh baby rooting for snacks every few hours but you know
I’m so glad that she and Harry decided to do this interview. You can’t live your life trying to avoid provoking people who are determined not to recognize your humanity. They will loathe and abuse you no matter what.
To those of her supporters who instinctively worry about how what she says, does or wears will blowback on her, be careful of not falling into the trap of thinking that she should make her self smaller to avoid abuse. That is putting the responsibility on her for how others choose to treat her. Do this long enough and eventually they will have succeeded in convincing you that she’s brought it all on herself.
@MarketStreet – totally agree, with every point you made.
@DS9 +1000. Totally agree. These two show up, put in the time, do the work, seem to really like doing it and never phone it in. However, the press has decided it is in the national interest to tear them down and tear them apart because they don’t like how Meghan dresses or makes eye contact, or was an actress who had a steady job, isn’t white, British, and boring . They can say what they want but in this case the Sussexes are right to call them out, and say that this is harmful to them.
I’m sure his friends at the Mail on Sunday check in with him regularly.
This breaks my heart. But don’t feel too badly for Meghan. She is fighting back. The Guardian broke the story in the Lettergate lawsuit that Meghan submitted an UNREDACTED copy of the letter she sent to Bad Dad to the court
https://www.google.com/amp/s/etcanada.com/news/525563/meghan-markle-kept-copies-of-the-letters-she-sent-to-her-father-which-have-been-submitted-for-court-case/amp/
No comment from the Fail/MoS. Bad Dad is probably in hiding because he sent parts of the letter to the rag and DM is claiming it didn’t alter it. Karma is coming.
Yay for Meg! Get ’em girl!!
I find it very interesting that she made copies of her letters to her father. She obviously thought he would release them. Why didn’t she just call him on the phone Instead?
Well in at least two instances he tried calling her with a reporter next to him ready to record so I am not sure any call would be kept private.
I’m so proud of her.
The Duchess of Sussex has held her head high while facing a media lynch mob that has literally screamed for her blood since the moment she was outed as Harry’s girlfriend. Through it all she has not only been the personification of ‘grace under pressure’, she has worked HARD for a family and quite frankly a country that doesn’t deserve her efforts.
The jackals out there will be happy to see a sign of emotion and her admission that it’s been hard to be a newlywed and pregnant woman and be constantly attacked because they’ll see it as a sign of ‘weakness’. But HUMAN BEINGS will recognize the courage that admission took, her grace in thanking someone for merely asking how she’s doing and her true beauty both inside and out. That’s what REGAL looks like.
The Duchess of Sussex might not spend as much time on her wardrobe, but I think it’s clear who the true QUEEN is in that family.
Shame hey. My little heart goes out to her. I think they should take a break, like what W and K did after they got married. Go to therapy, evaluate, enjoy their love and kid without all of this. This whole thing is tragic and personally, not worth it.
What a disingenuous comment. Your “little heart” doesn’t give a damn about her. And btw – the DID take a break. When she got pregnant. And the media and racist trolls were the worse they’d ever been. The only people who need therapy in this situation are the racists who troll the DM and other sites and the British press.
@Valiantly V: Excuse me? Why are you enraged? Of course I feel for her, things obviously getting to her and yes, I do hope she gets to do therapy in a peaceful environment. What’s wrong w that?
@Becks1: We can all agree that they need to be in an environment that’ll allow them to heal, that’s all I’m saying. This is a lot to deal w it.
And here is a prime example of what myself and others have talked about on this thread. I replied to a comment that was so clearly snide and disingenuous and called it out. And now I am being accused of being “enraged”. Thanks “Psychobot” for proving my point in real time.
It is a prime example, Valiantly. I miss the “flag this post” feature.
They can’t take a break like Will and Kate did. Everything else aside, if Meghan wasn’t working, she would be ripped apart even MORE. Kate was (and still is) given the luxury of time, space, and no pressure to work. Meghan was not given that, and I think she knew it.
@Valiantly V: I know you know I’m specifically asking about your rage at my comment, which wasn’t snide at all so I’m confused. I meant what I said, she deserves to enjoy her life and that is my wish for her.
Your black voice is not the only (and a few others) that should be heard here. I feel like other WOC’s voices are drowned out when it comes to conversations about racism and the duchess, esp when the comments aren’t full blown gushy. You’re justified in your rage against the racism she is being subjected to, it’s horrifying and triggering but not against me, or my comment. You dunno me enough to say I don’t care about M.
The DM/Sun won’t change, it’s a pipe dream to think so but I sincerely hope that both M and PH get to live their life how they see fit, without tabloids making it impossible to enjoy the life they’ve created.
@Psychobot you know I was going to ignore you but I’ll bite.
My “black voice” isn’t drowning out anyone. Those other “black voices” are large and loud on this thread right next to mine. No one is “not commenting” based on my comments and that’s a really silly assessment considering the women on this thread right now. And your comment reads like a thinly veiled instruction for me to BE QUIET. My voice IS loud. But so are the voices of the many other black women who comment on this site. Women with incredible insight and understanding. Who have never accused me of “drowning” them out for simply stating my own opinions. But it’s interesting that you see it that way.
@Psychobot Does a ‘black voice’ sound like Darth Vader?
When the Queen and Phillip did that photo op with them in the palace just after Archie’s birth, I thought that was really special. I also thought they were making a positive statement about how they felt about Harry and Meaghan. I’ve been really disappointed that the Queen has made no efforts since then to defend them or criticize the public and press for the vitriol spewed at them. Charles hasn’t helped either, another disappointment.
It’s amazing how people keep saying oh they can leave them as if that would stop the racist hateful campaign against Meghan . It’s disgusting how some Of you basically are agreeing with the Meghan treatment by the British royal press she been subject to racist hateful campaign the moment her and Harry announced her pregnancy she been subject to the most horrible racist disgusting abuse . It amazing how people can be sympathetic towards animals but when it comes to racism or woman of color being mistreated. People are trying to do mentally gymnastics to tried justified the horrible way Meghan has been treated.
Exactly this — I have noticed as well that some of the most vocal animal rights activists somehow have barely any compassion for their fellow man being treated like dirt. It’s mindboggling! Some people will twist themselves into pretzels to downplay racism and white privilege because that would mean acknowledging their own biases and how they have benefitted from it. This poor woman has been dragged to hell and back again simply for existing and she deserves NONE of it. It’s utterly infuriating and demoralizing.
She has been through a lot of changes in the past two years from starting a new relationship, getting engaged, moving to a new country, getting used to a new family and new protocol, pregnancy, and a new baby. That would affect ANYONE’S mental health, doesn’t matter how famous you are. Add in the fact that she’s undergone all these changes while being on a world stage and now become a household name, it’s insane. Sure, she had her lifestyle blog/social media and she was on Suits but unless you watched Suits (and not many people even knew that show existed in the first place, I had no idea who Meghan was until Harry started dating her), you wouldn’t have heard of her. So she had some recognition but enough privacy that she could go about her daily life. That’s gone now and been a tough adjustment.
Her vulnerability and honesty about what she’s gone through might backfire with the tabloids but most people will see her as relatable and praise her for being open about her struggle. Her recent frugal/restrained African tour wardrobe proves that the media smear campaign has affected her and she wanted to give them as little opportunity to criticize her as possible. I’m glad she’s no longer being silent.
The Brits have always held themselves out as superior to their colonies. But alas, what’s become painfully obvious over the last couple of years is that their racism and xenophobia (which they picked up from the Romans) is baked right into their national character. The absolute worst Brit still thinks they are above the best of the rest.
They hate Americans, but they know they can’t (and will never be able to) survive either economically or militarily without our help – our poor destitute cousin who always seems to leave his wallet in his other pants when the bill comes due. Starting with World War I, through World War II and beyond, the fiction of their collapsed empire is that they are somehow still a world power. That they somehow matter on the global stage. After the Brexit fiasco however, they’re officially irrelevant. And they have no one but themselves to blame for their continued downward spiral. As an expansionist empire, they were grabbing, conquering, stealing resources and destroying indigenous communities everywhere they went with no thought whatsoever to the longterm global damage they were inflicting. But now the chickens have come home to roost for this gluttonous island.
Which brings me to Meghan. As a woman of color, from a former colony, no less, she’s an easy target for the worst impulses of the British character. She is a stark reminder of how colonialism and racism have intersected to remind us all that the British, for all their goofy humor and bad clothing and worse teeth and terrible shoes, are, at their core, intransigent racists who seem to have what I call the Great White Amnesia in regards to how they arrived at this pitiful, dark place in their history.
Rather than focus on looking inward and fixing their very broken country, they’re focusing on the one person they feel safe attacking because of her colonial otherness.
I wish her nothing but happiness and peace.
I don’t want to comment on your entire post, but the British repaid their war debt to the US (and Canada). It took decades, but they made the last payments in 2006.
War debt.
That’s your takeaway, lol.
Okay. Well. You’re welcome?
anon,
I salute your brilliant post.
British people have a very condescending attitude towards Americans, and Meghan is getting that and racism too.
Excuse me? They picked up their xenophobia from the Romans? Yes, I’m aware of the history there, but the theory you’re spinning here is an enormously flimsy one, considering there’s more than a thousand years between the Roman occupation of Britain, and the 18th century, which is when racism as we know it today developed.
Hi A, Yeah. Maybe 1066 is a more fitting year. Anyway, thought it was a good post and the tabloids and British establishment are incompetent fossils. Look at Boris Johnson. This Is their best and brightest? Seriously!? At least we’re seriously talking impeachment for our political disaster.UK just doubles down to glorify mediocrity and excuse their disgusting treatment of the Sussexes.
The queen is more concerned with Andrew, her blood son. Meg is an outsider who they would gladly throw to the wolves.
Well said. The Brits always try to further this illusion that they are classy. Piers Morgan, Dan Wootten, Eamon classy! ha. Anyway, when it comes to a WOC daring to ascend to their sacred white spaces, they behave as classy as the scum floating on the sewer treatment system.
I’m glad they are addressing. Its ridiculous the amount of hate this woman had gotten for really no reason. The royal family shown their true colors. They defend andrew more then a pregnant woman. Harry is the one that has stood up for Meghan and now they have gone after him questioning his mental state (take a lot at the comments on the post about harry below) .
I don’t have any solutions. When I say maybe they should move to Canada, I only mean for their own well being, as this is an awful situation. IF Diana had lived, maybe the relationship between the two brothers would be better. IF Diana had lived, even though the media would have eventually turned on her, she was a master, and I truly believe she would have beaten them at their own game. So she probably would have been able to afford Meghan some sort of protections.
I just don’t see this ending well, and it is very disturbing to watch. The royal family not even saying one word, is really going to turn people against Kate and Will in my opinion. I mean, I kind of feel against them right now. They need to say something.
Yes, Will and Kate could say something, or do a joint engagement to show support, but I’m not sure why they are being singled out here. The most senior royals, the queen and Phil, Charles and Camilla, have much more clout than W&K. They do have the power to shut this down and the fact they haven’t speaks volumes.
I completely agree! Everyone keeps blaming and raging on W&K. Like he can wave a wand with a statement and it would all go away. Could he, sure, but do we know that H&M would want them to? I’m sure Harry has had conversations with his father about all these issues, the fact Charles stays silent is defining. The press won’t stop unless the Queen or Charles comes publicly out and makes a statement, either in print or a video.The Queen could shut this all down and the fact she hasn’t speaks volumes. But she supports her pediphile son with a smile while on the way to church. Let’s see if she or Charles says anything after the Sunday airing of the documentary.
And everyone forgets Kate and Meghan do the pap stroll at Christmas each year. They are friendly and engaging with one another. They also attend Wimbledon each year as well and Kate’s sister joined them this year. They looked like they had fun and were seen several times interacting with one another. I believe they get along fine. They aren’t BFF’s and likely never will be but they get along and find common ground to connect with.
William is his brother.
The thing is, from the reports that we know of, it seems as if William benefited at least somewhat from the negative reports on Meghan. The two households shared a staff, so they were the first people to be privy to the disturbing reports. And William did nothing. He stood by and watched the press shred Meghan, but he had enough gumption to pick up the phone and threaten the Sun when it came to reports of his own supposed affair with Rose Cholmondeley.
This is why people are insisting he do something. He of all people should have been the first line of support for Harry and Meghan. And he’s been quiet this whole time. At it’s worst, he’s directly benefited from the racist press, which is a lot to take in. THis is why people are holding him accountable.
@A I understand what you mean and agree but my question is maybe they have spoken privately and W&K have offered support. We don’t know what goes on behind the scenes and what the true relationship is between any of these people. If there is an alleged rift between the two brothers, then it’s on them and not anyone including their wives to fix/repair the relationship, it’s on William and Harry and both are responsible for the rft if there is one. We don’t know if it’s true and what happened behind the scenes, the truth is somewhere in the middle. Kate and Meghan have attended Wimbledon two years in a row and from what I’ve seen they appear to get along fine and are able to engage for a few hours and in public no less. When they do the pap stroll at Christmas, both of the Duchesses are walking side by side and engaging one another. I have seen nothing that indicates there is an issue between these two women. Are they BFF’s, confidants, no but they are SIL’s and both married into this FIRM and neither are titled or aristocrat either. They are both trying to find their way and place within that family. They are able to get along and treat it like it is, a job and a role in the BRF and support their husbands. I don’t know why William gets all the blame, like he’s the only person in a huge well oiled machine known as the BRF. News flash, no one in the family has spoken up, hence why H&M are, they’ve no choice. Not one word from Charles who according to reports is fond of Meghan, yet not one word. And he’s the father of these two as well, lest we forget. And then there’s the Queen, who from appearances seems to like Meghan, who is the head of state and the head of this family, the royal family and yet not one word of support of the racist, sexist, belittling and dehumanizing smear campaign on the daily. And not one word. Yet, the Queen gets papped several times this summer with her pedo son and smiling all the while on the way to church. I guess she’s praying the pedo away. Whatever. She’s too busy, apparently. And Charles the father is still silent.
Harry’s family may very well behind the scenes and privately have reached out and extended support that we don’t know about. What we do know is not one person has publicly come out to support these two. Perhaps that will change after the documentary airs, we’ll see.
I’ve been dealing with a small nightmare within my family. My dads girlfriend is extremely manipulative and can be quite vicious. I have a tendency to keep things in and can be somewhat intimidating in that way because she can’t “work me” the way she does others and it drives her crazy. The result however is that she gets more and more brazen and vicious with her comments. I used to ignore them but I knew I’d explode on her one day if I kept doing that and didn’t want to. Someone advised me that saying “That was mean, why are you trying to hurt my feelings?” and being vulnerable in that way would catch her off guard and highlight her poor behavior.
It seems thats the new tactic the Sussex family appears to be taking. Showing some vulnerability and leaning into the people rather than the press. Hope it pans out for them, I bet the British press and courtiers will mostly cry fowl at how American she is to dare discuss her feelings, but I bet many people can relate to how awful it must be to have that much going on while undergoing your first pregnancy in a country you only recently moved to.
Or she won’t care about her own poor behavior, as the Meghan haters and the racist RRs don’t care about theirs. They enjoy it.
If you do choose to use that phrase, I’d suggest waiting until she says one of these abusive comments in front of your father. Then use the phrase, or change it to include both of them. If nothing else, maybe your father can be shamed even if the girlfriend can’t be.
Yesterday, Brexit negotiations, a photo showing Junker and Johnson, with the legend ” Red wine (Junker) against Cocaine (Johnson)”.
Think about it. Think about alcohol and drug abuse when you look at the RRs.
This is a good idea. I think the British press is used to people being angry when they lash out, but they are not used to be confronted with genuine pain. Very few bullies ever are. They thrive because they don’t face any opposition.
Oh that made me so sad. I wonder how long she’s going to deal with this. People suck.
As a Black woman, I too feel a certain kinship with the Duchess of Sussex. We’re different in practically every way, but we’re still SISTERS and I’ve felt what she’s feeling, on a much smaller scale of course.
When I was in grad school, I sublet an apartment for a few months. The man who I sublet from was a sleazy, asshole. It became clear that even though I was paying the rent, he wanted to be able to come and go as he pleased, especially at night. I put an end to that and he was furious. His family would call at all hours of the night (he was from overseas and his family was in a different time zone) asking for him and I told them that he didn’t live here right now and that I would leave a message for him at school. One call came at 2:00am and I was asleep. I told the person he wasn’t there and hung up the phone. The next day he ambushed me after a class and was very aggressive towards me. He told me that I had yelled at his mother (not true) and he threatened to make things very difficult for me. Most of my classmates walked past without saying anything. After this guy left, one of my classmates, an African-American man named Stephan, came up to me and asked me if I was okay. I was so surprised, that I just looked at him. He said that it seemed like I was having problems with that guy and asked if I needed help. With tears in my eyes, I thanked him and told him I was okay. He said, ‘you’re my sister and we have to look out for each other’. That was decades ago and the memory of it still moves me. Maybe because it was such a rare experience.
Black women don’t get asked if they’re okay. Shit, we endured enslavement, rape, watching our children stolen and sold, Jim Crow and all other kinds of shit, so a little casual racism should be easy for us. But sometimes it’s nice to have someone ask if you’re okay.
Meghan’s going to be okay. She’s got her baby, she’s got her man. And she’s got us. For every voice of hate, I know there are HUNDREDS of people who are rooting for her and hoping that she’s okay. She’ll be fine.
AND STILL I RISE!
@Kerwood PREACH. Yes to all of this. I know exactly what you mean about feeling a kinship with Meghan. I feel so protective of her because I KNOW what she is going through. And we sisters have to stick together because more times than not we are the ONLY ones who have each other’s backs.
No one has ever asked me if I’m okay. EXCEPT for other black women.
Im glad that Meghan has Harry and their baby and she has a man who truly loves her and SEES her and that can be EVERYTHING when faced with BS like what she is dealing with.
Greetings from the AMEN CORNER! So many of us identify with Meghan because what she experiences matches the lived experience of so many black women around the world. the lack of attention to your feelings (after all, we’re “strong.”) The lack of care and concern for us, compared to our “fragile white sisters.” The way white women play on that “fragility” to assert dominance over black women. The way that we have to be absolutely PERFECT and not make mistakes. The way we have to keep “pleasant” expressions on our faces so we don’t seem “angry.” The way we have to continually assess the people around us and their biases to avoid being targeted by them. The way we are EXPECTED to “educate” other people about race, wokeness, intersectionality, etc, and expected to award “Woke Trophies” to any white person who gives a 1-time woke performance (even if that performance sucked.) Having to be better than, smarter than, more talented than, but be treated like less than. Facing hostility if we prove through our measurable work that we are better than/smarter than/more experienced than. The way we are judged according to standards that only apply to us and no one else. (No one has ever told me what these mystical “traditions” Meghan keeps breaking are). It’s exhausting, demoralizing, and soul-destroying. White women, please pay attention to what we say. What you see Meghan experiencing is what black women experience in our lives on a smaller stage. We know you face a lot of the same struggles in dealing with men. If there are black women in your workplace, or neighborhood, and they ever feel safe enough to talk to you about what they face, please just listen. Ask if they are okay. I’ve said many times here that Kate and Meghan are in a perfect position to support each other, but it likely won’t happen between them for the same reason it doesn’t happen between white and black women outside the royal family. White women benefit from the pedestal they are placed on, but they often learn too late how narrow and precarious that pedestal really is. They would have been better offer working with black women to build a stronger foundation that lets all of us rise together.
But still, we work. AND STILL WE RISE!!!
@lanne this was so perfectly, beautifully and eloquently stated. All of it. Thank you sister for your words.
Kerwood and VV, love your posts. I feel for Meghan, and when we do speak about injustices, we are labeled as angry.
That was so heartbreaking. Meghan is an amazing woman.
I’m really disappointed in Charles. I mean, most people have accepted his wife despite the fact that she messed around with him when he was still married. And she’s going to be queen. He should be taking Meghan and Harry under his wing, and giving her as much support as he can. Maybe the monarchy will end with the present Queen. I think the senior royals are behaving abominably.
I may be naive, but I think this interview will turn public opinion around. Let’s hope, anyway.
” He should be taking Meghan and Harry under his wing, and giving her as much support as he can.”
For the life of me and all the intelligence I have, I cannot understand why Charles is not doing anything. I like to think that behind the scene he is trying to help but nothing is working.
100% agree, Prince Charles just sits back and watches the press pit his boys against each other and tear their wives to absolute shreds and did/does …. nothing. If PC had taken steps to “guide”/welcome MM’s family during the engagement, the scenario would be 100% different for PH and MM. Ask yourselves “who benefits from these smears?” Only one person: PC. None of this blows back on him. The boys look immature and inept, the wives look weak. People buy into the gossip and PC floats above it.
I guess he hasn’t really changed. When Diana fainted in Vancouver, he berated her for doing it in public. And when she had PPD after William, he was totally unsympathetic. The show must go on and all that crap. But when he wanted to marry his longtime mistress, well, the public had to accept it, and by the way she will be queen. I really doubt he is doing anything behind the scenes.
@Maria, good point, I mean sensitivity and kindness were not on show from Charles and his relatives when Diana was struggling and married to him back in the 80s and early 90s. I think the BRF is a super dysfunctional bunch and not known for giving support to each other.
Charles is a selfish SOB for sure. But he has had a lifetime of enablers so I’m sure he feels no reason at all to change.
I like Charles, despite his failed marriage to Diama. PC is a product of his upbringing, they are taught not to complain or explain, The Queen came back from a long trip away from her children, and instead of hugging them she just shook their hands, like some dignitaries. Who can remember when Diana died, instead of letting these boys mourn their mother, they were told to brave it, meet the public, and walk behind the caskett, with the full glare of the public. Prince Charles is so fearful of the Media, I doubt he will do anything publicly. Meghan said, not many people have asked me if am okay, that, does not mean Charles is not among the few who has. Let’s give him the benefit of the doubt, it is known, that Charles is fond of Meghan, she is no threat to his crown, unlike The Cambridges who are direct heirs and younger. I think Charles’s earlier marital history, has made him weak with The Press, he does not want to rock the boat, this is how mafia like this British Media has become. A lot of emotional blackmail going on. # weloveyouharryandmeghan!
The British Press should not believe that they have the right to abuse anyone. Just because she is a member of the RF it doesn’t give them that right. It’s crazy that the British People sit back and watch this happen once again. Nothing is wrong with criticism but when it turns to abuse it’s gone to far. Stop it the world is watching and we don’t like it! #weloveyouMeghan
Hurts my heart. Keep going, Meg! Proud of you, as a woman and an American. She is the best of what we can offer a scary world; hard-working, strong but vulnerable and caring. Harry is doing right by her as a partner. The wish them only well.
I believe eyes are the windows to someone’s soul and you can tell from the eyes alone she’s upset about this
Oof the trolls are here in full force today.
Some of these trolls are so obsessed with the Duchess of Sussex that they need every outlet available to them to release their negative emotions. For others, hate seems to energize them, plus it gets them attention.
Just switched on to Sky News, and after Brexit the headline news is ….
’The Cambridges have Just Completed a Successful Tour of Pakistan, only to be overshadowed by you know who…..’
Above were the exact words of the newsreader. Sky News coverage has up until now been balanced when it comes to the Sussexes by they seem to be now jumping on the bandwagon.
Whose decision was it to release the clips of this documentary right now? Knowing full well that there would be a backlash against Meghan overshadowing the Cambridges.
William and Kate complete a successful tour of Pakistan. No Royal has been in that country since 2006 13 years ago will it be another 13 years before they step foot in the Country again? How was Harry and Meghan’s interviews overshadowing the Cambridges? If people are interested in their tour then they’re interested. I personably prefer Harry and Meghan because they actually behave like real people not stiff robots. Fair enough they do PDA so what? They are in love and they show it. Meghan has worked damn hard for the family since the day she became engaged. She worked damn hard after she married Harry and during pregnancy she may have spent a bit of cash on her working wardrope but at least she has never flashed her arse to the public on Royal duty because nobody needs to see that except her husband. I am glad Harry found someone to be happy with and that person happens to be Meghan. Fair enough she was an actress but she’s not anymore she is HRH the Duchess of Sussex and it’s about time she was treated as a Duchess just like any other member of the Royal Family. It’s about time the Royal Family put a stop to all this never complain business and got real because I am sure they all have something to complain about especially the Queen herself. Go for Meghan tell the world about how you feel as it does no good to bottle up your feelings no matter what family you belong to. The RF, the press, the public and also the royal aides will just have to suck it up and maybe start supporting this great husband and wife team more. On the subject of Harry wanting more privacy I think they want to do their duties to world as members of the Royal family but when they are off duty they would probably prefer it if there wasn’t a camera everywhere they went in their private time. If they wanted publicity all day, all the time they’d probably have camera’s tied to their bodies so the public could see every inch of their day to day private world when they weren’t on duty.
@PricessK, Why don’t you ask ITV why they broadcast their previews when they did. If a free press can put out vicious slanders, surely they can advertise a documentary. If a brief clip overshadows the Cambridge’s, that’s their problem and they can suck it up. The tour is over. Surely they can handle this little hiccup. They want to be the news cycle, then do something newsworthy. These are grown folks, not toddlers in tiaras, even though they and their whiny, backstabbing aides seem to forget this.
James Middleton got more sympathy for his mental issues than this new royal/wife/mother. No worldwide sympathy and empathy for her suffering. No. She has to submit and accept the bullying and attacks because she dared to marry the man she loved, because she attained a position not available to black women. It breaks my heart to see her teary. To know we are just seeing the tip of the iceberg. No wonder Harry is so angry. He should be.
This is a very sad truth, especially since it appeared he was putting his personal business out there for his family’s image and his self-promotion. It was no surprise that people quickly forgot he had either been condoning or turning a blind eye to racism within his own company,
That Nazi gift box story disappeared quickly, didn’t it? Carole and her pull at the Fail.
@nota, it seems the Midds’ run a better strategic communications plan than KP.
Isn’t that interesting. He gets praised for doing interviews about his mental health issues but Meghan dares exhibit a bit of emotion and she gets attacked.
The Middleton family are now hand in glove with the Daily Mail for your information.
H & M need to care of each other & the little one. Fighting the press is a tall order especially the tabloids. Tabloid trash have no principles & will say anything to sell. They should ignore them & go on with their lives. Let the lawyers fight it out.
This documentary will be aired tomorrow, so of course it has to be advertised today on the last day of the Cambridge tour. People are saying that the Sussexes have stolen their thunder…too bad l say. It is very clear that the Sussexes are fighting back and the Cambridge’s for all their mental health pronouncements have shown no care or concern about what Meghan has been subjected to, probably because they are indirectly behind it. The truth will come out.
I’m certain that the vocal minority is responsible for all the Meghan hate, oherwise there is something seriously wrong with the British people. There’s nothing wrong to comment on her clothes or her work ethic but the Brits go too far. They demean her and abuse her. They use dog whistle and outright bullhorn racist comments toward her and Archie. How would it look for Meghan and Harry to speak about Mental Health to other when their Mental Health isn’t addressed. I think it’s great that she’s putting it out there so that when she’s still able to cope and be productive it’s an example to those who feel suicidal or homicidal. Finally we don’t know how many death threats she and Harry have received. We don’t know if there have been threats against Archie…..can you imagine the pain for her. Harry’s pain, after losing his mother, is unimaginable.
Didn’t the web analysis prove this is driven by 20 trolls with dozens of accounts and user names, 80 percent of which are in the US?
Regardless of whether it’s a vocal minority or not, the fact that the vast bulk of people are failing to stand up for them is quite telling in my opinion. The silence of the bystanders is what enables the vocal minority to keep doing what they are doing. What use is it to say that it’s only 20 trolls on Twitter when the other 80 people are staying quiet and not doing anything?
What sickens me most about all of this is the fact that William and Kate have not stepped up to defend but rather they have helped to fuel this fire. How absolutely repulsive to allow your brother and his wife to endure such pain. They can go eff themselves about their “healthy minds” initiative. They can’t even stand behind and support people in their own damn family who are seriously and legitimately struggling.
Says Tom Markle. And if this is true, then why would he turn on her and collaborate with the sister who was so vile to her? Why, if he so filled with love and care, according to him, did his other children not speak to him for 10 years? Why no contact with his other grandkids? Why does he let his two older kids trash and exploit Meghan with nary a word from him? He can say that he’s the greatest father in the world and gullible people like you @Amy eat it up for breakfast and dinner but something doesn’t add up in this situation. And remember, he backed out of the wedding, nobody told him not to come. He had one job to do and he f-ed up. But since your bar must be really, really low, I guess you’re fine with that.
This is so heart rending. Like other commenters, I have thought of trying to connect with them and give them words of support and kindness. I have wondered what could be done to help them by well-wishers. The only thing I could think of was for a month to have the whole world band together and not support the magazines that bully the couple. Not magazines, newspapers or on the internet. Nothing. I don’t know if that would do some good. Or more than a month.
That’s a great idea and should be explored more! It may not solve the problem entirely but it could help. Would need a big name that already supports them, could tweet at Ellen and she could make it go viral. Just a thought. 🙂
+ donate to their charities and include #WeLoveYouMeghan as your reason.
A wonderful idea!
Having trouble with my computer today and deleted myself. I was trying to say how heartrending this is. I like other commenters have thought of trying to contact them with words of kindness and support. the only way I can think of that they can be helped is for the whole world to band together and refuse cold turkey to purchase anything: newspapers, magazines, websites that bully this couple. I don’t know if that would help. Best wishes to all.
Horrible! This is sad and tragic that Meghan has to go through this and I feel sad for her. The attacks would get to anyone let alone being pregnant and postpartum with a new baby. She has held up quite well in spite of everything that has been thrown at her. But, she is human and everyone has a bottom line. The media is very much making them feel like it’s us against the world.
I don’t know what the solution is but one thing that could help is the Queen making a public statement or one to the press. It wouldn’t hurt but could certainly help. Charles as well who has been silent to date. He walked her down the aisle and that’s all he’s done. I suppose because the Queen did one public outing with Meghan in the beginning and a few pics with Archie at his christening, she or The Firm thnks that is enough. Clearly it isn’t. The optics look bad all the way around.
I wonder how the The Firm will react after this doc airs on Sunday. I hope they release a statement. I really don’t see how they couldn’t. If they don’t the fallout could be huge. The world is watching.
And Harry is also suing for the phone hacking that happened years ago. He wasn’t the only person in the family hacked. WTF is wrong with them? Ugh!
She looks so young and vulnerable.
Seems like she and Harry are thinking I’d they show this pain it’ll be harder for bullies in their family and the press to continue to bully them without looking as guilty or bad?
theres a reason none of Harrys girlfriends wanted to marry him. They were ripped apart, INCLUDING this board.
I think people need to take it easy. Let the two duchesses live however they want.
It’s the media that ripped them apart. Chelsy said the media was insane and crazy. She couldn’t cope. Cressida RAN back to her Harry.
That’s what I was thinking too… Chelsy and Harry probably would have married if it wasn’t for the crazy media, rabid fans and Harry’s toxic family. And yes…blogs like this can also be a problem because the views are more important than the truth.
One cannot live in the manner prescribed by the press. The Duchess was vulnerable in the preview and it showed. It does not take away the grace in which she has handled the unfortunate circumstances due to the press and others.
As they take steps to remove the menace of bullying and misconduct by the press I hope that they are aware that lots of people in the UK and Commonwealth are cheering on their success and hope that they are well and happy.
I hope that they successful in reestablishing their humanity to the tabloid press. They are working royals who happen to be famous.
Best wishes to the Sussex Family.
I absolutely believe the last few years have been a struggle, and calling it ‘difficult’ is putting it mildly. She’s faced attacks from her own family and from the external media. I think she’s handled it all gracefully.
Let’s not forget that the royal family and the media turned on Sarah Ferguson after 6 weeks. Harry was the favorite and I always felt that the Queen would have approved any woman who could handle herself in the spotlight. That being said, I just wanted to hug Megan and never let her go. I assume that not a lot of her friends have bothered to ask how she is truly doing. From the get go, I felt Megan was well suited for a life of philanthropy and charity, it’s in her nature. While I feel that both Megan and Harry anticipated that she would face some racism, I don’t feel they anticipated this much hate. Let’s face it, Diana didn’t get any support from the RF and Megan won’t either. Harry is doing all he can to confront the media but I think he is finally coming to terms with the fact that no matter if he gives up his royal title, the media will still hound him the way they did his mother. I expect that there will be people who will watch this interview and come away with thinking, “she knew what she was getting into” or “why should I feel sorry for her, she’s a nobody.” In truth, I feel sorry for her as there is no way she could have fully understood the magnetite of life in the royal family.
@WTW She was asked a question, which resonated to her and she got emotional as it is her right! And even if It’s a new strategy, she is damn sure right to throw everything she has at this cruel and despicable industry that you are so quick to let us know that you’re a part of.
Twitter has screenshots of a Sun article saying that Kensington Palace is infuriated at the Sussexes for letting these clips air at a time they interfered with press coverage of the Cambridges in Pakistan. The Sun story was apparently posted and then taken down.
Awful.
When the People magazine article with Meghan’s friends supporting her came out earlier this year I thought whoa she really must be suffering. Now there is no doubt.
The one where the URL was replaced with one which includes “legal retraction” in the address? Wonder which Palace threatened legal action against the story (BP-Queen, CH-Charles, BP-Harry and Meghan, KP-W&K).
Definitely BP and I’d say CH. Charles has to say something IMO, the Queen really should by anyone’s common sense, but look at the people we’re dealing with. I believe Harry has spoken to his father in person regarding all of this, there’s no way he couldn’t. Neither the Queen or Charles has spoken out as of today’s date. And I think that’s why M&H are speaking out publicly, because no one else will. Seems pathetic but true. Time will tell after Sunday.
I mean the Queen is too busy protecting her second born pediphile son. But what’s Charles excuse? He’s the father and future King. I think neither will have a choice after Sunday but to release some sort of statement.
Likely KP since that is who is mentioned in the article.
Sick thing is his family is doing nothing to quell any of the vitriol directed at them. Nothing.
If the public actually cared about Archie they would respect Meghan…..mothers wellbeing impacts the child.
I can’t understand Charles’ silence in this at all. They have no good options really and need support. I can’t help but wonder if it isn’t really about BRF actually trying to break up the Sussex marriage through bullying, using press to do the dirty job.
I think the BRF is not responding because they think she deserves this. Or that at least, Harry deserves it. Like it or not, the BRF is a bunch of closeted racists so when Harry went against the grain to marry a black American divorcee of an actress, they may have been offended on all fronts (wasnt there talk of William telling Harry to think twice abour her?). They put up with the wedding because Harry is stubborn and they didnt wanna seem openly racist. Then she comes in and works harder than the duchess to the future King…leaving them exposed for their laziness. So they wont do much, just leave them to be swallowed by the wolves. To them, its payback. How dare she think she can belong?
I think Meg and Harry should move away from the drama. As someone suggested, Monaco or any African country. At first, the press will not relent, but soon enough, Williams kids will be teens and the news will revolve around them and their drama. Alternatively, they could persist in the work and completely ignore the media. Infact, they could go ahead to create their own media group of sorts and just ignore the rest.
As supporters, we should completely (glad to say its not popular in my country so i never have anyway) not feed the dailyfail. Dont access their website , dont follow piers on social media and dont buy the magazines. Magazines are dying a natural death but fighting to move online. Let us not enable them in anyway. Starve them and they will die off. When you comment on their articles, you give them viewership, which means sponsors and ads, which means you are indirectly funding their existence.
Russian bots are the worst trolls. A class in Propaganda will show you that they are programmed to leave a divissive comment on an article in order to gauge the public sentiments and sell this data to the highest bidder to know how to further enhance their cause. So when you see trolls, ignore them too. Most have numerics at the end of their names. Especially on twitter. Names like eddie1579438, straight up bot.
Why should Monaco or any African country take the royals on? Why do people still think the whole world is some type of British colonialist playground where the royals can just show up and do whatever? Things have changed in the last 100 years. It is very doubtful to me if any African country (and there are more than one, and they’re not all called “Africa”) would be willing to use public money to put them up for months at a time. And why would the British public conceivably be expected to foot the bill for an extended vacation?
It’s good they are putting up a fight. Other members of the RF will quickly act to squash negative stories as well as Carole Middleton and Harry and Meghan need to do the same. The fact that they didn’t act sooner has caused a snowball to turn into an avalanche. My intention in saying that is not to victim blame but rather point out that legal action is pretty much your only option in dealing with a ruthless press. You need to fight back aggressively from the get go. Get your legal team to hit back at every single story until they give up trying. Harry and Meghan have the resources to do this and now the will to do it – let’s see what happens.
The irony of this is William just had a video to promote mental health wellness where he is suggesting going to the pub and have a chat with the blokes and ask each other if they were ok and talk about their problems whilst watching football. And yet he can’t reach out to his brother and sister in law and ask them if they are ok. Hypocrisy thy name is Cambridge.
It shows, to a great degree, just how vapid the Cambridges are in their work. I try to be really nice when it comes to my comments about them, because I do want to give them a chance. But something that has always struck me is that they largely seem to be going through the motions of their work vs. engaging it in with any real concentration. If William gave a dint about mental well-being, he would bury the hatchet with his brother and step up to support him. But he didn’t. So how much does care, really?
It’s on both brothers to fix their relationship as it takes two people to have a relationship. We don’t know what goes on behind the scenes with any of these people, only what they all want us to see and hear. William may very well has/had tried to repair this alleged split but we don’t know. They are brothers and should work their shit out and put their family and firm into perspective. They all work for the firm and should put their differences aside publicly and do their jobs. And privately try to work it out if possible. The wives seem to get along fine from what we’ve seen.
And I keep saying and asking where the hell is their father, Charles and the Queen in all of this? Why silence from them? Why isn’t the criticism for them just as loud as it is for William? By all reports and accounts both the Queen and Charles are fond of Meghan, why no public show of support? The head of state, and the Church and the Queen’s own family member, favored grandson’s wife is being attacked daily from racist assholes. Racism blatantly being shown to a family member. A global issue happening daily is happening in the palace and the Queen is silent. Not one word. Why is this? Where is the uproar? And who is benefitting from the silence? The silence doesn’t make anyone in that family look good or decent. And this is all happening in real time with the world watching. And with the political climate as it is, especially in Britain and really all over the world.
I disagree. That video from Pakistan shows a couple immensely engaged in their duties and having a fabulous time. Credit where credit is due.
Even if they knew there would be hate, I’m sure Meghan wasn’t expecting her Dad to turn against her like he did. I’m sure that is the very root of it all. What her Dad did is unforgivable and her relationship with him is probably ruined forever. That has to be very hard to deal with. A parent is supposed to protect their children not sell them out to the highest bidder
I blame her dad for starting most of this. He didn’t have to listen to Samantha and do those pictures. Even after that they forgave him and even expected him to give her away because his name was still on the wedding program but once he went down that road flapping his chops it was like a snowball rolling down a big hill gaining more snow as it goes. It was probably hard for Meghan to keep begging he dad to shut it so what else could she do but to freeze him out. He is still flapping now.
Cue the haters saying that because Meghan is a former actress, her emotions can’t possibly be real and authentic!
Why can’t people just stop being so awful?
You ladies are so gullible. The crocodile tears are an act. This woman faked a pregnancy and flaunted millions of dollars before the world. She is gluttonous. And now she is fishing for sympathy. How you cannot see that boggles the mind.
Faked her pregnancy?!? LMAO.
YOU are CRAZY!
Seriously? You need professional help and should seek it immediately. Seriously.
Prove it. Seriously, bet you think the earth is flat and the moon landing is fake. Do something useful, like go to the public library or clean your kitchen.
@Peanuts I used to be concerned that someone could be so hateful. But now that it’s clear that’s it’s just good old garden variety CRAZY, I feel so much better.
I love her and it breaks my heart to think she’s isolated and not doing okay. Meghan, I’m always rooting for you!!! Love wins!!
She knew what she was signing up for. Now she expects sympathy. Yeah right. Fool
You the fool….fool…
I have had zero interest in her….until I saw this clip. History is repeating itself… There is a serious problem with tabloids and blogs ripping people like her apart for fun. They both have toxic, dysfunctional families who fuel the fire. Just keep fighting Meghan!
If one is part of the Royal family, one not only is very wealthy, but many choose to live their lives in the spotlight. There are members of that weird family who lead very low profile lives. Those members choose to live that way. They have jobs!
Sigh. Heartbreaking. Heartbreaking to, at one point, see the same look in her eyes as Diana once had and two, for her to share that not many have asked if she’s okay. I am so rooting for her. This is all so not okay!!!
The very best thing for them would be to leave the BRF. They’re a super couple. They’ll be far more successful and much happier outside an ossified institution. Of course that might mean that Meghan will lose her HRH, but it would be so worth it.