Kristen Bell recently posted an Instagram saying that other people reminded her and her husband, Dax Shepard, that it was their anniversary. This is hard for me to swallow as Kristen in particular seems like a very type-A person who both remembers and keeps a calendar with important dates. She claims it’s the case, though, and that she loves that about them. Kristen and Dax had a courthouse wedding in Beverly Hills around mid October, 2013. So when Kristen writes it was her five year anniversary, I think she means it was their six.
Here’s the caption for their post above:
We were reminded by family and friends that at some point last week, it was our 5 year wedding anniversary. In truth, neither of us remember which day. Thats because we have been living the celebration of our commitment every moment since. I find when you are living with gratitude each moment, the dates become irrelevant. To get to wake up next to someone who has put hard work, respectful fights, patience, understanding and gratitude into your relationship is the definition of love. I will never remember the date of our anniversary @daxshepard, and i know you wont either. And thats just one more thing i love about us.
Given how many times these two have talked about how much work their marriage is, I’m surprised they’re still together. Maybe they’re just more honest about it than other celebrities. My marriage fell apart right around my fifth anniversary so I could be projecting. We always remembered the date though, and I still remember it sometimes, so I guess it doesn’t matter that much. The more these two hustle to promote themselves and their various products and sponsorships, the more I think they’re perfect for each other.
Ugh, they’re exhausting. I don’t believe for a second they don’t remember their anniversary.
Exhausting is right, and Celebitchy is right about their hustle and thirstiness. I used to like them, more so before they were together.
I agree. And I so want to like both of them but they make it so hard. I loved her as Veronica Mars and I love the Good Place but everything I see of them in real life drives me nuts. So thirsty!
I’m with you on this.
Its’s tough for me to say what I think as someone that actually only usually remembers it was our anniversary after the fact or the day of. But I am opposite of type A, and tend to go with the flow as opposed to be a control person. So sometimes I just realize once I see the date or have to write it down and then I’m like OMG and text my husband. The other thing I often forget is what year we married (2013 I think, but it might be 2014) , but we didn’t have a big wedding. Just got married in our living room and went to dinner with 4 ppl. I am bad with dates and time :/ So maybe she is being truthful? I prob wouldn’t post on social media about it either…so it’s hard to relate.
@jotis
Thank God it’s not just me! My mom remembers what year we got married, I always forget. I know the date is my husband’s bday, took me forever to remember the date lol. I’ve finally gotten to where I remember my mom’s bday. I know the month for mom and hubby but couldn’t remember what day of the month. Lol. I got a customer in trouble once, asked him how long he and his wife had been married. He stuttered, had to pause, wife was PISSED. Lol. I love my hubby dearly, I’m just not good at remembering dates
@jotis You’re way ahead of me. I could not tell you what year we married and I never remember the day itself, nor does my husband, but my mother-in-law always congratulates us and that’s how we find out. I also find it very hard to correctly remember the date of my daughter’s birth (it’s either the 30th or the 31st).
@Joanna – I got my father into a lot of trouble that way! I was a teenager and we were at a party. Someone asked him how long he and my mother had been married. Dad looked at me for the answer and I just smiled at him. Their second wedding anniversary was the week after I was born, so I always knew how long they had been married. At that moment, he couldn’t remember how old I was or how long he’d been married. He had to take his wedding ring off to read the inscription. I laughed at him and Mom was pissed.
@liz, that’s funny 😂
I am a very type A person. Remember everyone’s birthdays. Xmas shopping done by July. But I never remember our wedding anniversary. I remember the date we met, I remember the date we first slept together, all that stuff, but the wedding? No. I think the reason is that our wedding (although a big formal affair with 180 guests, in a cathedral and all the rest of it) wasn’t a big deal for us. It was a big deal for hubbie’s family (son and heir and all that) and mine (only daughter). But for us the wedding was about starting our marriage. So we don’t remember the date every year. It’s not that important.
Right? Her captions sounds like she’s trying to convince herself that him not remembering is FINE and they are SO GRATEFUL.
You know what, marriage doesn’t have to be this hard. Relationships doesn’t have to be this hard.
Relax, we can smell your desperation, Kristen.
I’m truly bad with dates. I cant Ever remember my anniversary (I do know the Month though!)
I do….I’m a virgo girl has been with my guy for nearly 20 years and have never celebrated an anniversary…I don’t find them neccessary….i also don’t do weddings….zero clue to when my anniversary is ….we just live life and not worry clout or silliness…we are the longest of all the relationships we know of…..so we’re doing something right!!
and this is when I’d give him a high five and ya buddy!!
I call bill shit. I remind my husband every year because yes damn it, I want some thing nice a sparkly for it.
I know because my friend sends us a card. Otherwise we honestly are confused about the month let alone the day.
It was a day like many other – I believe them because I see no point in Anniversaries and therefore am amazed when people remember and celebrate theirs
Me too- I think they’re full of it. They love publicity too much.
I’m not above remembering the day I promised to love and honor someone for the rest of my life and don’t think it’s something to look down upon.
Something sparkly is nice, too!
KB and Dax are both on my $hitlist after the whole Ellen/Dbuya IG post. But before than I listened to Dax’s podcast and KB was on it a few times. Their dynamic is one of two people who are VERY different but who love each other enormously and try to consciously understand the other person. KB is very soft and thoughtful and Dax is very emotionally impulsive. What I like about them is that there is an incredible amount of admiration and respect between them. They genuinely like each other even when they are arguing. The relationship takes work but I don’t see anything wrong with that. Of course a marriage of opposites takes work – ANY marriage takes work. They are simply honest about it.
I had the same impression of both of them after listening to them together.
I stopped listening to his podcast though because he was really getting on my nerves.
I can see forgetting an anniversary, especially if you work in a field that doesn’t involve writing the date a lot (letter, documents, etc). I kind of forgot about my own birthday this year! It happens.
But her explanation makes me gag a bit, LOL. It was a bit much. And I say that as someone who still kind of likes her.
SAME. He is…a LOT. It’s funny that people think KB is the emotionally high maintenance one but it’s actually him. Also some of his POVs on certain topics reek of white make privilege.
Oh absolutely. Lots of “both sides” white male privilege stuff.
My Husband and I got married on Thanksgiving Day in 2010, specifically so that there would always be something cool to do around our Anniversary and so we didn’t have to remember the exact DATE, just that it was Thanksgiving Day. It works for us!
I have to really think about it to count the years. Kids messed up my time because it seems so long ago even though it wasn’t that long ago. Although we both remember the physical date, but having it in our calendars also helps it not sneak up on us.
Believable only if they never had a formal wedding, and I highly doubt that either would give up the spotlight of bride and groom.
They didn’t have a formal wedding. They got married at City Hall
he forgot and b/c she’s a lapdog – she was like “oh was that YESTERDAY? i had no idea…hehehe….we’re so unique!”
We had 3 weddings (yah don’t ask) and I forgot what we decided which would be the “official” anniversary date.
Ha! So did we. And we also have trouble deciding which ‘one’ is ‘the one.’
Same boat here! Aha.
I believe her. I think this is really common, especially when you’ve been together a while and then gotten married. You have a lot of important dates, the date you got married is just one of them.
My parents were together for 62 years and married for 52 years. Even when we were Kids they would sometimes both forget.
I agree. My husband and I finally got married after living together for 25 years and only because they were going to do away with insurance coverage for domestic partners where I work. Actually on the first anniversary i had to ask someone I work with because I remembered that she celebrated her wedding anniversary on the day we got married. I did remember approximately when it was though. The really funny part was my husband remembered exactly when it was.
This. After 20+ years together and almost 18 years of being married, I have to really think about the date of our wedding anniversary. I know it’s next month, but I only know right now what date it is because friends were trying to plan a group dinner for that night. I had to look at my calendar to say no.
I can’t just spit my anniversary out, the way I can recite my husband’s birthday (which happens to be on my parent’s wedding anniversary).
Exactly. My husband and I have been married for about 12 years…I say about, because I honestly don’t know off-hand. We have yet to remember an anniversary. I couldn’t even say with certainty what year we got married.
My dad passed away six years ago, my parents were married for 30 years at the time and my mom STILL remembers and celebrates their anniversary. These two are so thirsty they make me feel like I’ve walked the Sahara desert.
I could see this happening but their whole “we forgot because we celebrate everyyyy dayyy” is nauseating. She’s very saccharine and precious about their super special love and it’s so extra. My husband and I have never really forgotten our anniversary but the ACTUAL day really doesn’t matter. And we had a big to-do wedding. We always go out to dinner to celebrate but if it doesn’t fall on a Saturday then we never really celebrate much on the exact day. We have young kids and I could definitely go through half the day not realizing it’s our actual anniversary if it’s just some random Tuesday.
Exactly! Don’t remember whatever, it’s fine but don’t make out like it’s because you’re so much betterrrrr than the rest of us lowly peasants. It’s my sixth wedding anniversary this weekend and you can be bloody sure we remembered because A. It’s not like it was decades ago and B. We’re excited to celebrate! Not everything needs to be a condescending teaching moment that’s all about YOU Kristen.
Doesn’t she get tired of constantly talking about her relationship? Because the rest of us surely do.
My husband and I eloped at the spur of the moment and we never remember if it is the 30th or the 31st of the month. Is it possible they don’t remember? I guess. Is it more possible they ‘don’t remember’ because it adds to their brand/narrative? Totally.
Straight out of a cheesy self-help book: I find when you are living with gratitude each moment…blah blah blah. Preachy and entitled, especially when this crap is found on instagram.
Barf.
What did she talk about in interviews before she met him? Maybe my perspective is skewed because that’s how she’s covered here, but I find her so tedious now. Dax Shepherd is not someone I want to hear about at all, especially after that disastrous Casey Affleck interview on his podcast.
Can’t hate on them because ‘ya basic’ is my life now. But I also have several anniversaries. When we met. Married in Vegas, then a formal one. So we don’t remember either.
I guess I kind of get all the hate for these two over here; they really are extra and it feels a little over the top sometimes. But honestly I really like them both and Kristen especially. I have no trouble believing that, if you did a quickie courthouse ceremony several years ago you might not remember the date.
My husband and I did a little backyard ceremony (my second marriage, his first) with a handful of friends in town, a bunch of kids running around, and our then 3 month old fussing (with me going inside to breastfeed periodically). I don’t think I could give you a date for that. I know it’s late June because I know roughly how old my older son and the baby were. We also had a party in another city for family in September of that year and I couldn’t tell you that date either 🙂 And I’m a classic type-A scheduler and planner. For what it’s worth we’re very happy together and we do celebrate around late June.
Funnily enough, I still recall precisely the date of my first wedding to my awful ex. It was a huge and expensive performance and looking back seems silly.
So yeah, they really might not remember the exact date. I don’t find that completely crazy.
If they’re being honest, I totally get it. My husband and I have been together for 10 years. He’s a consultant at an established firm and I work in international business. We both work quite a bit and this year I had just gotten back into town when Facebook actually reminded me that our wedding anniversary had passed a week ago. I texted him a screen shot of the photo FB flashed back into my newsfeed with a laughing emoticon. I think he felt badly about forgetting, but these milestones and their memory serve different purposes for different people. I honestly don’t think it was a big deal. We realized we had just gone out to a nice dinner a few nights prior and retroactively marked it as celebratory before we just moved right on.
Are there non-white, blond-haired, blue-eyed couples who are given as many passes as these two people? We know they lie over and over again. They shill products that don’t work. They are both vapid and are trying to climb up the Hollywood ladder by collecting important people. They backed Ellen with the George W. Bush crap. They backed Casey Affleck with his sexual assault bs. They stood behind sexist and homophobic acts in one of their movies.
As Maria on Lainey’s site said recently, “We’ve been writing about Kristen Bell for years and looking back at old coverage is always a bit cringe. Sometimes we get it wrong – very wrong. I have definitely been wrong … But sometimes opinions hold up. I went back and read stories, from 3-4 years ago, that I wrote about Kristen Bell being myopic and condescending when it comes to media coverage of celebrities. I still feel solid in that position and what people like Kristen and Reese (who did a tweet and delete about Ellen and Bush) are showing us: celebrities of a certain level will always stick together. It is in their interest to do so and they will break out any argument, from ‘bullying’ to civility to the new one, kindness, to maintain their status and keep the elite circle intact.”
Please, can we stop giving them a pass?
I can believe the date passed without them remembering. I don’t believe that they don’t know the date in general
If they don’t know they’ve been married for six years and not five, it’s certainly possible they didn’t remember the date. My guess is they know their anniversary when asked, but it passed without them thinking about it this year. If they really don’t remember the date, I guess that’s understandable since they just had a courthouse wedding. It’s not like they picked a date a year in advance and planned an entire wedding.
Maybe they’re just both forgetful and busy people. It’s kind of funny that she spins it as some kind of superior love. No, you’re just not people who remember dates. Some people are, some people aren’t. It doesn’t mean people who remember anniversaries aren’t living in the moment or whatever.
I am not Type-A, but I generally remember all the important dates, including, but not limited to, the birthdays of my parents, my 3 sisters, 2 of their spouses, their kids, my husband’s 5 siblings, a couple of their spouses, almost all of the 15 kids on that side, and a variety of other friends and family. But I cannot remember the date of my anniversary without thinking about it… and by thinking about it, I mean narrowing it down to the particular day that I chose among all the birthdays and travel days that I had to work with. But it never comes immediately to mind, and now that my nephew is too old for presents (his is one of the birthdays), I don’t have any cues to think about it. So I believe anyone who says they don’t remember their anniversary date.
Whether they actually forgot or not, I don’t care. That statement is annoying AF. I cannot believe that is the way it would choose to address the anniversary. I think she felt weird about not remembering maybe and put out as if not remembering makes them better as a couple because they live it every day blah blah blah bs. The more they talk about how great their relationship is, the less I believe them.
I don’t get the hate for them? I liked her in the film The Boss with Melissa McCarthy and in The Good Place. Had no idea they are considered an annoying couple.
I believe that they forget their anniversary. Me and my partner always do too. Every year we say “We really should try to remember this year and do something nice”, but we never do.
Honestly I just don’t care. I don’t understand the big deal.
…but I don’t believe in making a fuss for birthdays either, unless you’re a child or over 80.
We don’t make a big deal out of anniversaries and birthdays. We’ve legit forgotten our anniversary several times over the years. We’re very happily married. It’s about whether or not you and your partner place a high value on remembrance dates. We don’t. A lot of other people do. So, that’s my two pennies.