Michael Buble and Luisana Lopilato have been together for more than a decade. They started dating in 2009, I think, and they married in 2011. They have three kids together (one of whom battled cancer for a while). Luisana is Argentinian, Michael is Canadian. The only real gossip (that I’ve heard) about them is that their marriage was understably under some strain when their child was battling cancer. But other than that, I don’t feel like people are really paying close attention to them. Except for this week. A few days ago, Michael posted this Instagram Live thing with Luisana and just judge for yourself:
Michael Bublé is currently under fire due to a recent IG live in which he forcefully grabbed his wife Luisana Lopilato after she talked over him.
Similar clips from the past have surfaced, and the actress has put out a statement denying the allegations. pic.twitter.com/MGtPJfx42o
— Affinity Magazine (@TheAffinityMag) April 12, 2020
Yeah, it made me uncomfortable. The way he jabs her with his elbow, the way she apologizes immediately and then he grabs her arm and pulls her closer. I’m not saying that this alone is abusive, but it totally made me uncomfortable and like he’s a complete a–hole as a husband. Well, the video went viral and Luisana took it upon herself to defend Michael and say that he’s not abusive.
After Bublé fans expressed their disappointment in his behavior, Lopilato reassured them everything was fine in their 9-year marriage.
“It is incredible how some human beings are!!” she wrote in Spanish via Instagram on Sunday, April 12. “While we cross this pandemic, and we live moments of confinement, anguish, fear, loneliness, uncertainties of all kinds! Every day we go out with my husband to live to bring them a little joy, entertainment, and we have to bear to listen and see what malicious people publish who come out to talk about anything and without knowing anything about our family.”
The Chiquititas actress told fans not to believe any negative stories they might see about her relationship. “I want you to know that I have no doubts who my husband is and I would choose him a thousand times more!! It’s not fair! This person is doing harm and taking advantage of this pandemic where people are suffering, dying and locked up, to have fame and more followers. [These are] lies that I will not allow because [they] disrespect my family, so I ask you who have trusted me so much for years that you don’t allow it either … The world needs more than ever ‘love, hope, values, unity and solidarity’ NOT these types of people.”
According to Hello magazine, some fans even urged Lopilato to leave her husband after the shocking behavior he displayed on the livestream. “Thank you for worrying,” the South American model reportedly said in a video addressing the scenario. “It’s very important that we pay attention to these problems that have been mentioned and that I am lucky not to suffer [from abuse].”
I find this whole thing odd. It honestly feels like Michael barked at her until she defended him when really he should have just issued an apology himself and said “yeah, I can see how that looked bad, that wasn’t really what happened, I’m sorry, I would never.” And don’t blame other people for simply watching a video on social media and commenting about how the body language is completely WRONG. Yikes.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
It doesn’t look abusive to me at all, and I know I’m going to be yelled at for sure.
I agree! It looks kind of playful.
Yes, that’s what I wanted to write!
Very sad if that’s “playful” to you.
Playful for both of them?
It looks like Michael was aggressive and then tried to play it off by pulling her to him.
Luisana immediately apologizes even though she was the one elbowed like that and then she’s silent and her eyes look upset.
Everyone has different playfulness. I play a game ‘nudges’ with my partner where we shove each other at inconvenient times playfully. One time on nudges I ended up in a huge pile of snow laughing hysterically. We have been shoved into pools multiple times, again laughing. For us it works. Hopefully that’s all this is too
@Teresa
But what you describe here is a playful thing you and your partner are used to doing, and it’s consensual rough-housing. In this video, he clearly hits her with his elbow to shut her up ’cause she disrespected him by speaking over him. Notice how she doesn’t smile nor laugh, notice how he glares at her angrily right after, notice how her first reflex was to Immediately apologize to him for stepping out of line, notice how he doesn’t return the apology for being so aggressive with her—that is not playful by any means.
Playful banter imo. My husband and I are always playfully pushing each other, rough housing, etc. That’s the way we are.
I agree. Looks like they are just playing around.
That is not playing around. You can see it in his eyes, he actually looks angry for a moment that she dared speak before him. She shuts down immediately whereupon he grabs her forcefully and immediately starts blathering about his “very very beautiful friend and wife” and totally takes over the conversation. He’s not comfortable when he’s not hogging the spotlight. This shrieks malignant narcissist and I would totally believe it if I found out there were more serious problems behind the scenes.
I have lived abusive relationships.
That is not abusive.
But you never know what’s going on behind the scenes.
So I will believe her and move on.
It is actually VERY common for abused women to defend the men who abused them.
I’ve lived through abusive relationships, and that WOULD be abusive to me (and was what my deeply abusive relationships looked like on the surface.
Exactly. I mean, how anyone could draw any conclusions from that is beyond me. It is the smallest of glimpses into a relationship. Yeah, I guess it could be controlling? To me it also looks like they’re joking around. Some couple are physical in their jokiness. Honestly, who would know? I’m shocked people are jumping all over this. If she ever says something is wrong, okay, we will support her; but I think it’s kinda gross playing assumptions on abuse and control from that tiny clip.
E! had a slightly longer article that detailed other videos that her fans are concerned about, as well as a statement that Bublé has made about his “anger” issues. I’m not saying that he is conclusively violent from this alone, but taken together, it makes sense that people are concerned.
This video made me uncomfortable. This may not be abuse to some, but he elbowed her to shut her up. Shouldn’t have happened, and is uncomfortably close to some escalation behaviors I’ve experienced. And he should have said something about it on his own, instead of standing over her while she defended him in a video. She is entitled to make whatever statement she wants, but he should be the one people look to to address his behavior.
I won’t yell at you for your opinion, but I will respectfully disagree. This video alone can seem “playful”, but there are other videos out there that add a bit more color to their relationship canvas. Dlisted did a story on this the other day with the video above plus another video. Women in abusive relationships usually defend their abuser.
https://dlisted.com/2020/04/13/michael-bubles-wife-luisana-lopilato-shut-down-fans-who-suspected-him-of-abuse/#more-367145
The other video on dlisted makes me very concerned for her welfare
My jaw is on the floor at the cluelessness from some of you in this thread. This video shows him to be physically aggressive and a power / control freak, and all you have to do is look in her eyes to see PTSD and fear. Jesus Christ. (There is nothing wrong with both of them saying “hello” simultaneously – all he had to do was keep talking – there was no need for him to make physical contact with her, other than the fact that he is an abusive prick.)
I agree with you… when he elbows her, that split second before she apologices her face shows fear. He might have an issue with anger and I think she is afraid of him
Exactly lisa – the expression on her face looks like she’s scared about stepping out of bounds, and his is outright anger. Just for a split second, but the physical restraining is a dead giveaway that at the very least he’s a control freak and at the worst he is abusive.
Yeah, I think he was just playing. She was smiling when she said sorry and didn’t look upset
That video was uncomfortable to watch. His jerky movements, elbowing and grabbing her. He seems like an aggressive man. If he’s comfortable doing this on camera, imagine what he’s like behind closed doors. He should have been the one publicly acknowledging this mess. I understand having a child with cancer is extremely stressful on a family and marriage, but this is something else. I hope the kids are okay too.
I learned everything I need to know about Michael Buble on an episode of The Graham Norton show, he told a story about how he got drunk and had his picture taken of him lying on the back of an endangered turtle and laughed about how he “raped” it. The video has since been deleted from youtube funnily enough, but the picture is still out there https://imgur.com/l5qRvK8 .He is a jackass and has gotten the side eye from me since.
Jackass on a turtle.
I just remember he was an asshole to Emily Blunt and said some pretty nasty things after they split up. Never really a fan in any event – he always seems to take himself wayyyy too seriously. The video could go either way, although my initial reaction was that it was a hard jab and an aggressive pull which is never good.
I found it really uncomfortable too. She looks uncomfortable, I felt uncomfortable. I certainly wouldn’t like being touched that way by my husband, and he never would anyway. I wouldn’t draw any conclusions about their relationship being abusive, but I definitely found that interaction odd. He had a hyper, aggressive way about him that I certainly wouldn’t like.
Same here. I think it’s nuts to tell her directly to leave her husband like some people have done, but…it did make me uncomfortable too.
The initial elbow jab almost seemed accidentally too hard, but instead of going “oh sorry” and touching her arm, he grabs her and yanks her against him. Then it’s almost like he realized “that looked bad” and puts his arm around her to make it seem ok. The way her shoulder went up against him, she looked uncomfortable too, almost defensive.
I hope it’s nothing. But I wouldn’t want to be touched like that.
I really don’t know. Watching it (I didn’t use sound, can’t find headphones lol) but there didn’t seem to be any surprise or fear or anything in her expression? Not that that’s a guaranteed sign of anything – and it still WAS strange. But it almost looked rehearsed? Like almost weirdly choreographed, but it could be beacuse I’m missing a big chunk of context by not listening to the vid.
It’s definitely somewhat uncomfortable though. Maybe they’re both really handsy people? I honestly have never heard anything negative about Buble (and I’m Canadian) but I’m also not a fan of his music ( I get that he’s talented, just not my style) so I don’t follow him closely. My gram is someone who’s always poking or swatting at people when she’s talking to them. Drives my mother nuts, but it’s never done TO BE aggressive. Still rude, but never out of anger or anything. So that does kind of skew my perception, maybe.
If he’s abusive towards her, I really hope she gets help for her sake and the kids. I also do appreciate that the public IS looking out for things like this, but I’m not sure putting them on blast would be beneficial if he IS abusive. I think it’d probably just make him angrier, wouldn’t it?
I agree, uncomfortable is the right word. He seemed kind of surprised to me, like he only meant to nudge her.. and she seemed surprised that he did it also. I was also trying to gauge her face afterwards and couldnt really tell how she was feeling. Definitely a bad video.
Yeah, that was definitely uncomfortable to watch. It doesn’t mean he abuses her necessarily, but that was awfully aggressive and he should’ve been the one to say “I know how that looked, but I would never hurt my wife” or whatever.
I have no idea what their marriage is like, however that jab was more than playful – there’s anger in that arm. And then he looks shocked, like he just realized he was on camera doing that, so he over-corrects by pulling her in extra close. No thanks.
And his voice stays the same. The whole thing is about playing it off. And she’s just there silent and upset while he’s still cheerily prattling on.
Really, who elbows their wife like that because he wants to be the only one who talks in an Instagram video? This is like Justin Timberlake levels of self absorbed behavior but worse.
You could say that it was meant to be playful and he accidentally elbowed her harder than intended, but that doesnt explain her reaction. The little “sorry” followed by her facial expression is worrying, she looked visibly upset. Battered women constantly apologize when their partner hurts them. It’s not as if she laughed it off like she might if it were a playful accident.
When his child was sick with cancer he gave an interview that set off alarm bells that maybe he wasn’t as nice as his music suggests. (It was very I centered)
Now his wife has to declare he isn’t abusive?
Not good.
Like most celebrities he is super self-involved that’s for sure. But he almost has that old crooner vibe and that makes for the wildest fans, which can only make you even more narcissistic I guess.
He does have a good voice,but I only listen to a couple of his Christmas songs,but I think I prefer John Legend Christmas music.Definitely John Legend 😊
I’ve never liked him since he taped an overweight woman who was in front of him in line on his Instagram stories and made fun of her. He of course took it down and apologized but nah. Not forgiven.
What an absolutely mean and ugly thing to do.
Commented on this below,just don’t do stuff like taking pictures of a young woman’s butt,it was very unkind.
Made me think he really considers himself to not have to abide by polite societal norms.
Looks like he nudged her playfully, but harder than he expected. He then grabbed her closer to apologize with body language. I find myself doing the same thing if I hurt people by accident, like if I walk into them, I tend to grab them automatically/instinctively to steady them/apologize.
Doesn’t look abusive.
If you walked into me and then grabbed me, I might punch you. Not mindfully, but as a reflex. Someone who walks into me and then grabs me would probably not do it again to the next person.
Just an idea: some people have pretty hard self-protective reflexes, for one reason or another.
As to this video clip, my perspective is this:
1). The elbow jab is not good, but hey, stuff happens.
2). The way he grabs her arm–that’s bad.
3). The way he puts his arm around her neck and yanks her to him is really bad.
I wouldn’t put up with that from anyone, ever.
Calling her his beautiful friend and then correcting to wife is strange. The look in her eyes does not communicate happiness or as though she were in on the joke, if indeed there is any joke to be in on in this clip.
Something is not right in the dynamic. And speaking for myself, the answer is no, nobody gets to lay hands on me like that. To me, this would constitute abuse.
I’m Portuguese and we are handsy and brutal with each other quite like this – and, like him, sometimes with the excitement our hands or elbows can get a bit much.
I’ve lived in the UK for a while and we have to be really careful not to touch people. Our BRITISH friends finds us super odd and too close because we constantly embrace, high five, kiss, touch arms while talking etc.
We Southerners are really gonna have to reassess ourselves socially with COVID 19.
I’m portuguese as well and this isn’t normal. He is being a complete arsehole.
That looks like horseplay. She was startled a little but it didn’t bother her. She is not someone who has to stay with her husband because she can’t afford to leave. She stays because their marriage is just fine.
I’m not saying their relationship is likely abusive (how would we know), but women with good jobs and their own wealth do stay in abusive relationships too–it’s not just poor women without means.
Oh my goodness. Money is NOT the only reason people don’t leave abusive partners.
“Similar clips from the past have surfaced.” That’s really all you need to hear for this to be a troubling pattern. Don’t push women around.
Michael Bublé comes off as a jerk to me anyway. I do feel concerned not just by the shove but how they reacted to it. They knew it was weird/wrong, and he immediately went into cover-up mode grabbing her and hugging her for the public. I would be concerned if my BF/husband thought it was okay to shove me around and pull me if I talked when he wanted to talk. Disrespectful, to say the least. I don’t want to be shoved around.
I agree he should have responded to this and apologized to her for shoving and grabbing. It was overbearing behavior, at the least.
I’ve heard for years that he’s physically abusive. Mostly in the blinds, but this kinds seals it. I definitely saw the grab-and-pull as him trying to reassure viewers that he and her were cool. Even if he’s never been physically violent with her, I wouldn’t be surprised if he was emotionally abusive.
I saw their eyes meet and to me it indicated to her to stfu….
Power & control doesn’t always have to be physical
Smee, totally agree. That didn’t look like equals in a conflict. It looked like he was setting her in her role.
The arm pull close coupled with her expression gave me heebie jeebies.
Agree, I noticed the look in her eyes.
If something like that happened between my husband and me,he would probably say oh so sorry and we’d embrace in a laughing way,like…oops!
This was not very nice.
She looks upset. Who elbows their wife like that? He’s very physical with her. And he doesn’t seem to be remorseful.
There are more videos. On one, when he thought the camera was off, he said twice “I’m going to kill you.” She says “Why?”
There’s a big age difference between them. She was 19 and he was 32 I think when they started dating. He’s supposedly quite demanding and admits he has a temper. He also has a history of cheating and that’s how his relationship with Emily Blunt ended.
Bad vibes there.
Oh. I didn’t know there were other videos. Hmmmm. That’s not good.
Also had no clue he went out with Emily Blunt!
Yeah he was engaged to Emily and cheating on her with someone else.When she found out that ended the engagement-she’s talked about it and how hurt she was.
Worst thing is he admitted he treated her like shit in an interview so nothing here surprises me. How comfortable do you have to be with your own terribleness to openly admit it on tv?
Exactly – There’s no remorse. And she’s the one who apologizes? If my husband jabbed me that hard, he’d immediately apologize and ask if I was ok. But also…he wouldn’t jab me that hard even being playful.
Adding to that, there’s another video of him telling her “You’re always late!” Another of when she’s calling to him from another room and he goes on about how their divorce is going to be spectacular (paraphrasing).
Emily Blunt was on Stern and didn’t want to talk about their relationship. Michael has said in interviews that he treated her badly. He’s also said in interviews that he’s a drunk and has always had violent tendencies. Go over to the comments on Dlisted for all of these links to the interviews. They ran this story a couple of days ago.
I always thought he seemed like a douche but didn’t pay close enough attention to know there was more to back that up.
This blew up in Argentina and its amazing its being reported abroad. ALL of their IG Lives are like this. In one of them he berated her for always being late (she was baking cupcakes) and at another, while she was turning off the camera, he says “I’ll kill you”. Every time she opens her mouth to translate, he looks at her with such contempt and anger. He’s always shoving her and grabbing her forcefully.
This is not normal behaviour and if they’re trying to be funny they should know their jokes don’t land at all, and can be easily misconstrued for domestic violence.
And this is just what he thinks is okay to show on camera. That’s what worries me. What’s it like in that home when the camera is off?
I admit this does initially read like he poked her as a joke then startled both of them when he shoved her harder than intended. But…this being said, I remember rumors of him being a jerk as far back as in the 2000s, so it does come across as vaguely uncomfortable with that knowledge in mind.
Whatever they intended or not his behavior was …very abrupt,and I thought she looked taken aback,and then they both put on a happy touchy display.
I have no way to know someone else’s relationship,and I’m not saying I think there is something wrong,but I get the impression overall that he’s not the *really good,really nice*guy he comes off as.
I knew people who went to a concert of his and left because they said he was so vulgar on stage,and I won’t forget that insta or Facebook thing he posted that was a pic of a young woman’s rear end in super tight short shorts-I think he took it from behind her while in line at a ?starbucks-iirc he defended his actions and his wife was there too when he did that.Not nice to take a pic of someone else without their consent and post it,so I’m probably just going to say he’s a bit of a jerk,hopefully nothing worse.
I don’t want to imply that I excuse him or anything and only they know what’s going on behind the curtains. I used to follow them on media before their child was sick and I remember a video posted in his Facebook page (now deleted) where Michael was chanting for a supporting a rival Argentinian soccer team and Luisana who is apparently a big fan slaps him (playfully (?)) pretending that she is mad because he was rooting for the rival team. So who knows, maybe is the way they treat each other and like to display these kind of actions for likes.
If the abuse is real, well it’s unfortunate that she is not able to see it.
I found the video https://youtu.be/DVS3_XrBWwc
It’s obviously super acted but they always seem to have this strange dynamic so who knows? What left me a bad taste was her video defending him and Michael staying super silent.
He seems pretty anal and feel like they had practiced it 20x before they went live. And she went off script. He was nudging her back. I don’t know if it’s abusive. He just seems pretty high maintenance to live with and she’s used to it or can manage it well. Annoying, yes, abusive? meh.
It blows my mind that anyone can say it’s not abuse. Look at her shocked reaction and the rage in his face when he nudges her (HARD). This video makes me so, so uncomfortable. Then his grabbing of her, putting his arm around her neck. This is definitively abuse and anyone who says it isn’t is wrong. Abusive, narcissistic man right there.
Her explanation video was even worse, him sitting there glaring at her, making sure she “got it right.
Did anyone see the video where he thought the camera was off and he kept telling her “I’m going to kill you”? Scary. He is an abuser. 10000%. Let’s not minimize this.
I don’t know if he’s abusive, but he’s certainly rough with her, which I don’t like. Maybe it’s cause I’m an only child; I didn’t have brothers to roughhouse with as a kid. I feel like brothers make you tougher, in that you get used to more physical playing. I had an ex like that (not abusive) but he could be a little like that. Got on my nerves sometimes, but I’d tell him to quit it. Buble definitely seems like an asshole, I’m so glad Emily got away. I think his nice guy persona is largely an act. Just a feeling I get from him.
I agree. I watched it back several times. He elbowed her, but not in a way that seemed like a jab to physically cause her pain. Still, it was definitely a gesture to silence her. I would not take that well. I bristle whenever men try to silence women. I’ve never had ANYONE elbow me while I was talking , it’s a disrespectful action. What bothered me more was her immediate apology, and how forceful he seemed when he pulled her close. I’ve seen some of their live-streams. I think they have a playful bicker dynamic, and I’ve seen her get verbally feisty with him too (which doesn’t excuse his aggression) but whatever it’s worth, I think physicality is part of their dynamic.
If my SO elbowed me like that i’d probably go totally ape. Plus I noticed it was her IG live, not his…
It looked vaudevillian to be honest, not playful between the two of them but playful to the camera. I almost expected jazz hands.
I grew up with abusive dad and this is totally controlling- the agresivity of nudge then grabbing her….
I watched videos of them afterwards on YouTube (at home with Michael an Luisiana)
And there are couple when she speaks he looks annoyed and rolling his eyes,impatient for her to finish…whenever she speaks over him by accident ( like on beginning when they say hello same time)
He might be not abusive but is definitely controlling and on most videos they are very handsy but the one above you can see it’s not playful just look at her face.
Luisana Lopilato is a big deal in Argentina, her fans were the ones concerned about this. There are other videos people posted as proof (I think you can find them on twitter if you search Miguel Burbuja): in one of them Buble supposedly thinks the livestream is over and you can clearly hear him say “I’m going to kill you”. The other is another of them at their kid’s birthday, they are standing in front of the cake and he takes samething off her hands rudely and she stares at him.
And then, in the “clarification” video… She looks and acts weird, no one believed her.
Personally I dont think people should do this kind of thing, no matter how big a fan you are. If she is indeed suffering abuse, this doesnt help at all.
The way he pulls her in and holds her there looks almost like a headlock. There are definite alarm bells.
That worried me as much as anything. I don’t want anyone, much less a husband, snagging me with his arm around my neck like that.
totally agree. GTFO my neck already, weirdo.
I don’t know that we can ascertain abuse from such a short clip… but I will say I HATE it when someone puts their elbow around another’s neck. That’s the kind of rough housing I expect from children, not from adults and certainly not when there’s a clear division of physical strength.
Look at his EYES, they are FILLED WITH RAGE. Then he realized he’s filming live and “Controlled himself”
I’ve really got to focus on work now – finding that balance – so someone has probably stated this more eloquently than I can, I just haven’t read other comments. But, that is not cool and it’s abusive. I hope this begins some true growth in their home, after the knee-jerk denials and reactions. I can’t say the depth of what’s going on in their home, but that’s a red flag imo.
That was a pretty sharp nudge and the immediate grabbing of her arm and putting her in a headlock was just wrong. I would be furious if my partner did that with me and it actually set my warning bells off. He elbowed her hard for speaking first, then as he immediately grabs her arm and headlocks her he says “Hi guys..I’m Michael Buble and this is my very very beautiful friend and wife Luisita….” so clearly he didn’t want her to speak first, then felt maybe he’d reacted a tad too forcefully and introduces her overly-gushingly. He comes off as totally up his own ass and I really hope this was a one-off and he doesn’t lord it over her like this all the time.
Exactly @Jaded. And i think it’s very telling that she immediately apologized to him. It made it seemed like something she’s used to doing when he indicates she’s stepped out of line—in this case, her speaking over him. And notice he doesn’t apologize to her for jabbing her so forcefully. This is not “playful”.
On top of the other things people have brought up about him, it’s uncomfortable. He at least comes across as highly disrespectful, if what we already see is the worst of his behavior.
They were playing around. If anyone has seen any of their earlier Instagram messages, she tends to be late, he kids her about it, and keeps the things rolling along. I think he was elbowing her to prompt her to go first. They’ve been through hell and back with their son, Noah. I think the world needs to give them a freaking pass already.
Maybe he should give her a break since they’ve been through so much? People aren’t just being nit picky about their banter or senses of humor. They’re saying it isn’t right for one partner to physically or emotionally manipulate or intimidate another. They’re saying that because it’s what they see. I get that not everyone sees it that way in that one video clip, but I don’t understand the rush to defend his behavior in the face of all of the videos and his own descriptions of his anger/aggressiveness. It wasn’t ok, people need to point that out repeatedly and loudly, and he needs to hear it and change the behavior.
Put into another perspective, which highlights why this shouldn’t be acceptable: Even if Bublé is not abusing his wife, the snarkiness, the physicality, her rush to defend and his blaring silence are all behaviors of domestic violence, and them playing this stuff out on a public stage is normalizing those behaviors, and gaslighting actual victims into thinking that that behavior isn’t indicative of a problem. I see the line of thinking looking like, “See, a celebrity feels free to ‘joke’ about killing me/elbow/kick/pinch/poke, too, and his wife apologized just the way I do when my partner does this to me, and *she’s* ok, so I’m ok, too. This behavior is normal. More people experience it than I thought.” They have a huge platform, both are public figures, and even if their marriage is perfect, they need to be more careful about how they present “conflict” to the world.
While I wouldn’t necessarily categorize that as abusive, I will say if my husband did that to me I’d be like WTF WAS THAT BRO?? An elbow and a snatch are not part of our physical interactions with each other.
@Hello Kitty
But the difference here is that you’re saying you would stand up for yourself and call him out on it, instead of cowering to him and apologizing to him while he glared at you sternly like Bubblé does here with her.
Yes I would!! Their interaction is strange for sure. I also don’t like how he hugs her close around her neck and calls her beautiful immediately after. yuck.
@Hello Kitty
and good for you! sincerely, that’s great you’re able to do that. And yeah, agreed, I really disliked that too, it’s like he remembered he was on camera and was overcompensating for his bad behavior.
It doesn’t look at all playful to me. It looked like he was bothered she spoke over him, jabbed her, and then SHE apologized TO HIM! —how is that playful??
Watch it a few times and focus on her expression. This was not playful for her. And the fact she spoke up is very telling.
I’ve always enjoyed his singing but there have been several times when he’s shown his true nature including taking random videos of people in public then posting and mocking them. He’s not all shine and roses. There’s more going on here.
I don’t like it when guys grab you by the neck, even when hugging you. It’s a red flag.
First time comment here, visit the site every day though.
I am from Argentina though I currently live in the us.
This was a big deal in Argentina because Luisana has been a big celebrity there since she was a kid.
The fact that they met when she was so young and he was in his 30s, added to the fact that she didn’t speak any English to me established a not ideal power dynamic from the start.
If you look at some of the other videos, he seems to be condescending at best and aggressive at worse. There is one when he thinks she is done filming and tells Her “I am going to kill you” twice.
I know we only get snippets of their lives in this videos (but isn’t that what Happens with celebrity gossip in general? We make assumptions and give opinions and judge based on the limited info We have), but this does not look like a healthy relationship.
Saying you’re going to kill your partner is a gigantic red flag. That should not be normalized.
Been married 25 years and my husband never elbowed me so I find it weird to watch. He looks pissed off and intense and I’m not sure why. Like what did she do?
Watching various portions of this made me feel some type of way and not a good way. ..
Some more info on Buble…
From the Miami Herald: While vacationing in Miami, the Feeling Good singer posted a snap to his Instagram on Monday. He is pictured smiling, arms folded, while behind him is a woman wearing really short black shorts at at a store in Miami [she had quite a generous bottom]. The caption: “There was something about this photo lu took that seemed worthy of instagram.” (Lu is his wife, Argentine model/actress Luisana Lopilato). The 39-year-old didn’t stop there, including the hashtags: #myhumps #babygotback #hungryshorts #onlyinmiami #picoftheday #beautifulbum.
And he admits “I was a jerk and I was careless and reckless with the hearts of women I was with,” Buble, who dated Emily Blunt for three years until 2008 after he was caught in bed with another woman, said. “And I got my karma. I earned it. I got my butt and heart kicked and it hurt me enough that I looked in the mirror and I didn’t want it to happen again.”
He’s also got a bad rep in the music industry for stealing songs…so all in all he sounds like an entitled, abusive DB to me.
Watch it again but just look at his face. That’s the tell that this wasn’t accidental or playful. My boyfriend accidentally jabbed me a couple times. He instantly reacted with shock and worry to make sure I was okay since he’s significantly stronger than me. Also the fact that she alone is the one speaking out? Of course both abused and non abused women defend their men so that’s a wash to me but it is telling that hes silent and letting her do the heavy lifting.
Also in the “defender” video she looks really angry. Furious even. It struck me as odd. Almost like she didn’t want to do it but felt she had to. I wonder if he basically pushed her into doing it. I mean, we have video evidence that he likes to push her around so……..
I’m all for being plalyful but the suddenness, and force do not seem playful to me at all. it is super aggressive and his body language speaks volumes, he should have been the one to respond and her coming to his defense doesn’t seem cool. now seeing other videos and interviews about his “anger issues” this makes total sense. this was very uncomfortable to watch. dude needs some therapy.
Sooooo glad Emily Blunt wound up with John Krasinski instead of staying with this douchebag.
Once at a restaurant, while with my in-laws and kids, my husband said something to me about getting the food or the kids in order. It wasn’t the nicest way to say it—no “please”, no smile—but my husband has a deep voice and serious manner. A lady nearby called him out, said he should treat me better, not talk like that, she came from an abusive relationship and knew the signs. I was very surprised, that a stranger would come to my defense like that. I think about it sometimes, it was really brave of her. And it wasn’t even a moment I would classify as abusive! I do sometimes wonder if my husband is emotionally abusive but that was certainly not one of those moments. My point is (besides “thank you” to that stranger): all relationships are different. Some people aren’t abusive but they’re not kind either. We all have to know what we can individually put up with. But also: if people seeing this snippet recognize abuse, it’s probably for a reason, as in, he is abusive to some degree, whether emotional or physical, etc. That woman in one small moment saw me and had a deeper view into my relationship with my husband than everybody in my life.
The whole thing was a red flag.
It’s her insta. They’re speaking to her audience, in her language, yet she wasn’t allowed to speak despite clearly wanting to. He physically shuts her up by shoving her, then keeps her silent by grabbing her and putting his arm around her throat (controlling) while he continues to hog all the attention and space. Notice how she basically shrinks in size, courtesy of him pulling her down toward him.
This is what DV looks like when you have an audience. The fact that he can’t even contain this behaviour while in front of people, makes me wonder how bad it is when they’re alone.
I never paid attention to him, it wasn’t conscious but I always felt something was off about him, now I know why/what.
In Bublé’s OWN WORDS:
“I think I’m a kind, generous, gentle soul who’s an egotistical, hard f—ing a–hole. I was prone to violence as a kid, and I’ll tell you now, I’m not a big man — I’m about 5 foot 10 inches and weigh about 160 pounds — but I could do it again, and probably will,” he said. “And shouldn’t and have every reason not to and everything to lose — but probably will do it again.”
—from 2013 interview with Event Magazine
And from and article on Insider magazine, they mentioned how fans discovered videos of him threatening Luisana:
“ In one of the videos, Bublé reprimands Lopilato and says, “You’re so dead,” after she shows up next to him two minutes late. Another video that a fan resurfaced shows Lopilato recording herself on a front-facing camera as Bublé tells her, “I’m going to kill you.”
—Anyone still wanna say he was being “playful” here?
—let’s remember she’s isolating with someone who treats her this way, of course she’s gonna try everything to deescalate the attention this situation is bringing, ‘cause that just makes abusers even angrier. I wouldn’t be surprised if he made her issue the denials and carefully monitored her as she did it.
Just watching this again it is so clear there is something wrong here. The way he grabs and yanks at her, jerking her around. That angry look in his eyes. I’m so surprised some feel otherwise.
This guy is a walking POS.
First: A subtle form of abuse is controlling what a person says and when they say it. My father used to do this when I was a child. I recognized it immediately. Talk out of line? There is immediate, automatic punishment for that. He reacts SO fast with his elbow to silence her that this is DEFINITELY normal for him. This is not his first time being controlling and abusive. No way.
Second, in the event of an accidental elbow jab, a normal, caring partner would turn their complete attention to the jabbee and express remorse and empathy immediately. “Are you okay?” Or “Oh my goodness that was harder than I expected— I am so sorry.” Jabber would try to comfort jabber. This is what normal people do!! When you love and care for someone, these reactions are automatic. He’s sitting there like a f*cking robot, staring straight at the camera, pissed that WE saw everything and that he now has to correct it. His body language says everything. Her struggle to remain composed speaks volumes as well.
Third, her effusive defense of the whole situation is over the top and overcompensates for his inappropriate behavior. Where is his voice in all this? He is an adult and needs to address HIS behavior HIMSELF.
Mark my words: even more will come out about this guy, and their relationship will implode at some point. I hope he gets exposed for the scum that he is. I can’t wait.
PS. I’m Canadian and even as a child, I was made aware of his bad reputation. A dancer friend of mine told me he sang at a telethon in his youth and refused to talk to any of the children who were performing at that event.
There’s a couple other videos that have surfaced now and he’s a dick to her in a couple. She was late geting there to start one of them and he is visibly pissed and seems to try and shame her on camera. Emily Blunt has said before that their relationship was bad and she didn’t like to talk about it at all.
This was triggering for me… that was NOT playful.
Wow, that was way worse than I thought it’d be. I showed my hubs and he agreed that this dude is a giant insecure asshole and this is definitely abusive behavior. Also, I get major Justin Timberlake vibes from him #neverforget
I can maybe understand how some people might see this as playful and some couples’ way of being with one another, but to me there’s nothing subjective about the aggressiveness. It made me instantly uncomfortable. I had a female friend many years ago who used to be “playfully” physical with me – elbowing, slapping my arm, grabbing and just very intense at best, toxic at worst – Buble and his wife’s actions here reminded me instantly of that, including his wife’s reactions. That was me. I am no fan of aggressive behavior in any relationship and I ended things when my friend grabbed my face in anger one night, it was shocking but not surprising to have things escalate.
Based on these videos and the past interviews, Buble is at the very least aggressive and very controlling. Not good at all.
imo the look on her face -she looks unhappy and frightened