Even with Chrissy Teigen’s ongoing “hiatus” following Courtney Stodden’s May interview with the Daily Beast, Chrissy hasn’t lost a significant amount of followers on Instagram. Her follower count has hovered around 34-35 million for the entire scandal. And as much as she’s whined about her hiatus, Chrissy has still been posting photos on Instagram, as you can see in this post – she was in Italy with John and their children just last week. She leaves her comments open too, and she gets a lot of “supportive” comments. She’s only “taken a break” from Twitter. And then she’s taken breaks from that break to issue statements and whine about how much work she’s doing on herself and can she please be un-cancelled? Her last big statement about how much “work” she’s doing on herself happened on June 14th, when she wrote that long-winded and tone-deaf Medium essay. She must mark this sh-t on her calendar, because on July 14th, Chrissy posted this to Instagram:
Iiiii don’t really know what to say here…just feels so weird to pretend nothing happened in this online world but feel like utter sh-t in real life. Going outside sucks and doesn’t feel right, being at home alone with my mind makes my depressed head race. But I do know that however I’m handling this now isn’t the right answer. I feel lost and need to find my place again,I need to snap out of this, I desperately wanna communicate with you guys instead of pretending everything is okay. I’m not used to any other way!!
Cancel club is a fascinating thing and I have learned a whollllle lot. Only a few understand it and it’s impossible to know til you’re in it. And it’s hard to talk about it in that sense because obviously you sound whiney when you’ve clearly done something wrong. It just sucks. There is no winning. But there never is here anyhow.
All I know is I love you guys, I miss you guys, and I just needed an honest moment with you because I’m just…tired of being sick with myself all day. I don’t even know if it’s good to say any of this because it’s gonna get brutally picked apart but I dunno. I can’t do this silent sh-t anymore! If you or someone you know has also been cancelled please let me know if there is a cancel club reunion because I could use some time off my couch! Thank u and goodbye I love u
Again, she was just in Italy with John and the kids. She put it all on the ‘gram. She brought a professional photographer so she would have high-quality photos to post on her IG. She posted the photos during the trip and she got the positive reinforcement feedback she wanted, and now she wants more. She wants to be able to post the photos on Twitter and whine about how rich and bored she is. They must have gotten home this week and Chrissy was “bored” within a day. God, she’s such a problematic narcissist. Please stop following this mess.
Photos courtesy of Chrissy’s IG.
A thirstier woman has never existed. Someone dump her in an ocean to quench her thirst.
The ocean has enough trash in it already and doesn’t deserve this.
Love it 🙂
We already have too much plastic in the ocean.
You win comment of the day Indywom! Hilarious!
Wow lol love both of these comments @Zapp Brannigan too
I have her up there with “Hilaria” Baldwin in terms of a bottomless pit of thirst.
Excuse, but air name es pronounce EEe-lar-EEe-yuh. Er dad wath un bool fighter de Bostoña, Ethpaña where she ees from.
LMFAOOOOOOO Justjj
LOL!
@Justjj
LMAO
Twins… and of course Alec commented on this post of hers… probably hoping she will become besties with his wife…
The thirst is truly unreal.
LMAO!!!! Agreed!
God, she’s still playing the victim card. She hasn’t learned anything and Courtney Stodden is probably still waiting for an apology that they can actually see. Garbage people never change.
Can you ever come back from telling a child who has been groomed by a sexual predator to kill themselves? I don’t think so.
Exactly. Why doesn’t she just apologize to Courtney Stodden already??! She must really hate Courtney that much, still, after all these years. I don’t get it. She’s self-centered to an extreme degree. She’s making a fool of herself. And she’s so damn corny! Go away Chrissy and stay away.
Right, because she’s not really sorry. She’s just sorry she got called out.
Yes! If she had a modicum of decency, the first thing she would have done was to personally apologize to Courtney, and do it face to face and not publicize it. She needs to disappear, please!
That’s exactly it. If she didn’t get called out, CT would still be bullying CS, as well as countless others, no doubt.
CT, in my opinion, is just coming off as sad and pathetic. It’s all about her. I still blame Legend for thrusting her upon us. She needs to STFU and permanently go away. Never liked her…. never will.
She needs to figure out why she has such a pathological need to be validated by strangers on twitter. She has a good life outside of twitter -she needs to live in that.
Right? Imagine being in Italy on a LUXURY vacation with your incredibly rich wealthy husband and unable to enjoy it because fewer people on twitter adore you. This is sick.
That sums it up pretty well.
Right Darla? If only most people had so little to worry about! And to complain publicly on top of it? It’s ridiculous.
My parents haven’t gone out of the house in over a year except for doctors appointments because my dad has a serious immune condition.
This ass is lucky enough to be in f*cking Italy in a pandemic and still not happy.
Meanwhile, my mom just misses the simple pleasure of just going to the grocery store 2 blocks away to shop instead of getting delivery.
F*ck Chrissy.
Unfortunately I think a lot of people (young women / girls especially) base their self-esteem / self-worth on social media. I remember a couple of years ago seeing an interview with teen girls on TV and they were explaining how involved they were with their IG accounts – they would delete pictures if they didn’t get at least 100 likes, they would obssess over their follower numbers, and so on.
I think Chrissy is in that same boat. It doesn’t excuse her awful behaviour, of course, but IMHO there might be more here than someone being thirsty. Not making excuses for her, but it’s just a feeling I have.
You raise a good point. The obsession with image on social media is not just unique to Chrissy obviously, and I think we do see it with younger people who live so much of their lives on social media.
I don’t think she’s just thirsty either – I do think that there is something on that compels her to return to twitter time and again.
I honestly think it’s a form of mental illness. I would feel bad for her, but she’s such a-hole and just refuses to see how she’s hurt others.
She’s like 36. That ain’t a young women anymore.
i find this honestly sad, she has such a charmed life and is still so addicted to social media validation from strangers
so true … i don’t know if/how one makes a ‘comeback’ from sending death wishes to a child, but i think this ‘cancellation’* might be a little redeeming for her had she just apologised to courtney by now. why is she finding it so hard to just do that?
(*she’s not really ‘cancelled’, of course)
further, i feel the conversation around chrissy has evolved from trolly behaviour online to issues about validation via social media. as many people have already pointed out, why does she feel the need to have so much attention (more than the attention she already has – ~30M followers)? for a woman with a seemingly wholesome life and family, it’s just bizarre.
i’m a little annoyed by chrissy at this point, but i also truly kinda feel sorry for her.
So well said. Given the appalling circumstances around her “cancellation” I’m wondering if what’s really eating at her is deep deep shame. The constant craving for positive attention might be a desperate way of managing those painful feelings. Either way she is going about it in an extremely unhealthy way and needs to take a long break from social media.
@taris you hit the nail on the head for me. I would be feeling deep shame if I did what she did, and it resurfaced. I’d also be trying to make amends for it (or at least, I like to think I would).
But this need for validation is frankly concerning. Young girls may not be dealing in the millions, but many of them are learning how to be a fem-presenting person in the world based on social media, and how they’re perceived there. I worry we’re getting a preview of how today’s kids will be (not entirely their fault).
As I said on Twitter. Chrissy has a very full life. A (supposedly) supportive husband, beautiful kids, loving family, lots of friends, a thriving business and tons of money which allows her to take luxurious vacations. Yet, she still feels like her life is incomplete unless she has the attention of strangers on the Internet.
She really needs to examine that in her therapy sessions. I think she’s an extreme example of what happens to people who live their life online. It clearly warps your reality.
In a way she reminds me of my mother. My mother can’t bear being bored. That’s why she’s always up in everybody’s business. If she can’t sleep, she needs to do something to keep her mind occupied. One time when she came to visit and stayed with me, I woke up to find out she rearranged my entire apartment as I slept. One time my Dad woke up and found out she painted the entire room as he slept. When I lived with them after leaving California, she would constantly talk to me from the moment I woke up until I fell asleep. She can’t bear one moment of silence. She can’t be alone with her thoughts.
That’s what I see in Chrissy. For some reason she desperately NEEDS 24/7 distraction.
I sounds like your mom has ahdh or bipolar disorder…. I hope she can get help. That sounds exhausting.
^That doesn’t describe ADHD symptoms in adults at all, just saying
Uh, @Margo, I think you are incorrect.
It does sound bipolar, that’s how my sister and mom present.
I and my boys aren’t like that.
This sounds extreme. Help is needed.
How can anyone miss her if she doesn’t go away?
Get a hobby, woman. Do something for someone other than yourself.
THIS ALL DAY! She is so self absorbed. If she took the energy she uses agonizing over her social media issues and actually put it to good use, she would be happier. I guarantee you she’s not doing things for others because she doesn’t post about it. If she was, we would know it.
Is she still in therapy? This codependency on social media and going viral is very unhealthy. Very much a first world problem but this is ridiculous. She talks about how going outside doesn’t feel right, how she’s bored and doesn’t like to be alone with her thoughts. She should increase the frequency of her therapy sessions.
This is a woman with two young kids and a husband complaining about how bored she is. She needs serious help. Why is she even a thing? Why do all these mediocre women use their celebrity husbands to find fame for themselves. If they are so bored, how about volunteering somewhere?
Zero true self-awareness. Zero introspection. It’s all about ME ME ME. Always has been. Always will be.
She wasn’t Canceled just held accountable for the shi**y she did. Instead of genuinely apologizing and reflecting she tried to scapegoat. Definitely does not need to be on social media because she will do it again. A therapist is a good idea because the rot is deep with this one.
I really do wonder if she is not a full blown narcissist. I’m not over-keen on armchair diagnoses, but her endless self-exculpation, defiance, ruthlessness, thirst for attention, delusions of grandeur and callousness all point to some form of pathology. An utter jerk and, if she is a narcissist, an irredeemable one.
Yes, I wondered that too after I read her latest post. There is something really distorted about her world view, and she seems almost incapable of being accountable and reflecting on what she’s done. (Very similar to Hilaria Baldwin.) In terms of their emotional development, they both seem like teenagers rather than fully grown adults.
Agreed. Can’t believe I’ve defended her in the past. The mask cracked and has finally fallen. Twitter is her narcissistic supply. She can’t function without it. Someday her kids will bear the brunt. Wonder what her marriage is really like. He can’t be happy about all this. Certainly his PR people aren’t.
Edit: I just went to Instagram to make sure I wasn’t following her and I wasn’t but I saw her headline “making America great again” what the actual F??
Maybe she’s buying followers to keep up appearances. Before I knew of her hate trolling I dropped her when she teamed up with a kardashian business. I have loved and bought many cookbooks for many gift occasions over the years but now can hardly stand to look at them. Her I’m the victim routine really pisses me off.
I hear you on the cookbook. I have her first one which I like-but I feel like hiding it away somewhere.
Watching an old Keeping up w Kardashians show the other day and she was at their Christmas Eve party.
John needs to hire someone to help Chrissy; something is NOT right with her.
Can addiction to S be cured? she has a thriving career, kids and John, why does she need interactions with complete strangers? she is worth ~$70M, she could spend the rest of her life never talking to people on SM and she will be fine especially if that money is well invested; with someone like john, I am pretty sure it is; he is so level-headed
They seem to be so mismatched that sometimes I wonder how they work! This must be true love
He is a quieter man, and often a spouse like that is attracted to the opposite of what they are. I believe he loves her outgoing personality, her loudness in a way. And because he’s her spouse, he sees her heart, the intimate part of her. She needs to go into therapy and work on her issues. They went through a lot losing the baby. But even if John loves her, I can’t imagine their marriage is doing that great right now with him having to continually deal with her ups and downs regarding her behavior and addiction to social media and inability to really work hard on herself as a human being, put in the necessary work.
I mean, they are on a beautiful vacation, with their beautiful children and a loving marriage, and this is when she chooses to whine about this and address it in a post? Why isn’t she focused on her husband and children and looking at the beautiful country of Italy after such a horrible 2020 and even 2021 because of the pandemic and finally being able to get back out into the world.
“ They went through a lot losing the baby.”
I think this plays a huge part why she’s so desperate to go back to her usual social media pattern. She desperately wants to distract herself from the pain and is probably avoiding processing it.
@Snuffles, I agree. That variable must not be forgotten. She does need help for several of her issues.
Jayna all good points. I’m sure he is consoling her “honey, they don’t know you like I do. They don’t see the heart you have. They can’t handle how loud and brass you are.” Also, as a long-term partner I’m sure they share the same views. Behind the scenes maybe together they talked about “that horrible sl*t Courtney, with her short clothing all on Twitter.” Or other monstrosities. I’m sure it’s worst behind the scenes for them.
I feel for her pain in losing her child.
But she had not lost a child when she told another child to commit suicide repeatedly and bullied another 9 year old.
Unfortunately her behavior towards herself and her followers now is the same as it was then.
She encouraged someone’s child to commit suicide. Apparently, she’s ok with other people losing a child.
John Legend is quieter but went after Michael Costello a few weeks ago. He didn’t attack him as brutally as Tiegen would have, so there’s that. I remember when Courtney Stodden got married at 16 & was paraded around like a cheap trick by their ex husband. People were extremely cruel to Courtney, when the focus should have been on Doug. I know the laser focus is on Chrissy for her tweets & DM’s. She wasn’t the only who attacked Courtney..she’s just the one people are focused on because of the tweets & DMs. Chrissy also owes apologies to others, too. Chrissy needs to focus on the why. Why she sent those tweets & DMs. When she does that, then she will start to make some progress at moving forward.
Agree re: the opposites attract thing. My mom’s childhood best friend is a huge talker–I like her, but she talks up a storm and never shuts up. My dad who is more quiet and introverted I think likes her too but often complains about how she can’t not be the center of attention and never closes her trap lol. My mom’s friend’s husband is VERY quiet. He usually just kind of stands next to his wife and she does all the talking for the both of them. He’s super nice and he and my dad will often go on their own to leave their wives to catch up and talk. But I always think of them when I think of super mismatched couples and I think it’s the same dynamic with Chrissy and John.
Why do influencers and celebs go on a family vacation with a professional photog to capture every moment for Insta? It’s all so performative and fake, and sounds totally exhausting…
She doesn’t seem capable of living with social media turned off.
Also I imagine a lot of celebrities get discounts or comps by promoting the places they go.
But I agree, it seems fake and performative – just go and enjoy it!
Chrissy needs to get off of social media and go to therapy. She seems to be a very unhappy person and who gained happiness by being mean to people on Twitter. Now that she can’t be mean to people she feels even more unhappy.
How exactly is someone with 34 million followers canceled? She’s fine. Very few “victims” of “cancel culture” have ever been actually canceled. You did something bad, the internet yelled at you for it and now you’re back. That’s not canceled. Canceled is when you can’t come back and typically that only happens when you’ve committed a horrible crime or something equally extreme. It should be called consequences culture because that’s all these people are actually experiencing.
“brutally picked apart”.
What, like you did to Stodden and others? She’s awful, truly awful and in no-way repentant.
That feeling when you live your entire life online for likes and are SHOCKED when not everyone loves you.
Unreal. She’s in a beautiful country on vacation with her famous husband with all the wealth she could want and this is what she does.
At this point I’m convinced she is a malignant narcissist and her husband enables her in every way if he himself is not a target of it. I feel bad for her kids in this environment.
*snorts* Cancel Club. She was rightly called out and criticised for sending death threats to a f***ing teenager. She wasn’t “cancelled” because she said she likes oranges over bananas or whatever. And has her life really changed? She’s still rich, married and has her kids. If validation from other people is what she really needs then she needs to go to therapy.
She’d actually be the ideal fourth wife for 45. Imagine the sum of their joint victimhood….{reaches for alcohol at 7 am}
Except she kind of famously trolled him on Twitter for years (even before he was president) until he blocked her and then later called her “John Legend’s filthy mouthed wife”
I think Amy probably knows that – I think the point is that despite their opposing political affiliations (and of course Trump is still worse but I digress) they both are the same kind of internet bully and have the same kind of denial about their mistakes.
What @Maria said – Physically they’re not each other’s types at all, and I’m sure she doesn’t see herself as being similar to him in any way, but now I can’t unsee it…..
She is the female Trump. She needs validation on Twitter like he needs it from his Nazi rallies.
She went to the same PR school as Hilarious Baldwin. Poor them, all the haters…
But how many followers of hers has she actually paid for?
Think about that for a second. I seriously wouldn’t be surprised if she paid for followers or if some of them were bots.
Just too many of them have private accounts and are balls to the wall supportive of her no matter what. 🚩🚩🚩
She’s got a loving husband, her kids, supportive family and friends, dogs, a business (or two) and worth 75 million and can travel whenever and to places most of us won’t ever visit…and she’s bored and concerned about what’s going on on Twitter?! She needs therapy or more of it. Something is not right with her.
Let me first start by saying that I agree losing a baby must have rocked her world in ways I thankfully do not know. BUT maybe Chrissy should focus her energy on doing something positive for people who have less than she does. Counting her blessing, and she has MANY, and doing some good may be a HUGE help therapy wise for her. BUT I don’t think she is mature enough to think in this matter. I see herself and mourning the victim she has painted herself to be. Sad, she could do so much good. I guess being “friends” with Meghan has taught her nothing.
Exactly. She desperately needs to volunteer with an org and get out of her own head. There is a huge homeless problem in Los Angeles right now. Imagine the attention she could bring to it with her money and her time. She should use her social media for good. I am baffled that with all her therapy she thinks this is the way through this. Unless her therapist is just another sycophant in her life (I say this as a therapist myself). With the amount of time she has on her hands she could do something truly meaningful. I find it really interesting that she had all the time in the world to drag Trump for the past four years, but can’t actually do anything positive for society now that he’s gone. The fight for justice and equality didn’t stop with Biden winning. Where are her politics now? It’s not worth her time if she can’t be snarky and pithy. She’s addicted to being negative, it’s truly her brand. What a strange way to choose to live your life.
I don’t think she wants to work through it though. She just wants it to all go away and have things like they were before. Which isn’t addressing any of her issues or actions.
Also, it’s a consequences club, not cancel.
@Marie55, very well stated and I agree with all you said. Yes, where are her politics now??? She has SO much and it’s all wasted on her – literally and figuratively.
@lucy, I agree with you as well. Well said: Consequences Club, not cancel! She can pay the consequences and show she laments her nasty behavior but instead wants it to “go away” and not exert any effort for growth. So sad.
@Lucy2 You’re exactly right. She just wants everything back to how it was. She posted some Instagram stories last night saying she was going to do an Insta live and cook because “it’s been too long. F*** it.” She just seems irritated that this hasn’t all blown over yet.
All she had to do was stay quiet for six months and re-emerge a little humbled, but she’s apparently incapable of that.
If I had the money she has people would never see me, for real!
She’s in time out because she told a child rape victim they should kill themselves.
You have a lot of nerve comparing the anti-blackness (that many “model minorities” engage in, btw) Meghan goes through to the consequences Chrissy “suffers” for being a nasty blue check troll who is being held accountable for her self documented verbal abuse of others.
Think about how much you’ve changed over the past, 10, 15 even 20 years. We’ve all evolved as humans and it is not easy. She isn’t learning a damn thing. It’s going to take years for her to do the work required to be a better person. It doesn’t happen in a month.
Being held accountable for being a truly crappy person is NOT being cancelled. Especially when you have 35 million followers telling you how awesome you are despite the opposite being true.
She needs a lot of therapy.
If an ordinary person like myself can get therapy then this woman can too. Her need for adoration is pathetic and she needs HELP.
First of all, what grown person writes like she does, in that post?? LMAO
She has zero self-awareness, as other have said! Please for the LOVE of GOD, get off social media and do something productive with your life!!!! And get yourself in therapy!!! Until she can stop acting like SHE is the victim in all of this, no one wants to hear her bullshit!
Honestly, I don’t know how you come back from saying the things she did to people. Telling people to go kill themselves. Beyond disturbing, any way you look at it. I don’t give a shit if she was having a bad day, or what.
stfu. she should be exiled from all social media. the pathetic tone of this, I feel like she is going to try to come back as some spiritual guru or something, after she “learned” so much. disgusting.
She needs less of a social media presence. Just concentrate on the kids, husband, hobbies, and cooking. I can’t imagine having such a good life and complaining about being “canceled”. The internet is not real life. Just do something else since you burned bridges, Chrissy. I don’t want to hear her hot takes. She lost the privilege.
Or maybe do a reality show based on creating another cookbook or something. I can’t believe I suggested this, but anything to get her from writing anymore about this stuff.
Ugh go away
Haven’t they just had a bunch of holidays in fancy places? Never mind everyone else. You promote you
I’ve gone from being amused by her to being annoyed by her to her completely pissing me off. She needs to hush and get therapy. She clearly has a social media addiction. Does she realize there are people who get on just fine without sharing anything about their lives online? Even celebrities?
“Going outside sucks” oh, like on vacation to a beautiful place with your beautiful, healthy family? Mental health issues don’t care about those things of course, but I don’t think that’s the problem here.
“ She clearly has a social media addiction.”
💯 Absolutely. She also mentioned last year that she gave up drinking because it was getting out of hand. I’m sure drinking was a daily crutch as well as social media. Now she wants her social media crutch back. Until she finds some healthy alternative that fulfills her like she believes social media does, she will continue to feed off of it. I’ve seen enough of her on social media to know that she is searching for it but hasn’t found it yet.
She should’ve just texted some of the people who replied to that post.
If she actually wanted to connect to individuals she would. She wants an audience.
Yep! She’s desperate for one.
I mean is cancel culture not just our way of holding people accountable? You put yourself out there, you can be held accountable for your words.
Does Chrissy not have any good IRL friends?
I don’t know what it would feel like to be attacked by millions of people, but it has to be utterly excruciating. If someone says one cross word to me, I feel sad.
She lost a lot of business deals, has been through the social media cancel crusher, is still dealing with depression from the miscarriage – she’s deeply depressed.
I think a good takeaway is that you can look like you have everything in the world from the outside, but it’s no guarantee of happiness, peace, fulfillment.
Her history of behavior on social media was concerning, yes. Hopefully that has changed moving forward and I hope she feels better soon.
Another good takeaway is that if you are a famous person with apparently everything it’s also not a good look to cause your millions of followers to attack other people that you have deemed expendable – which is what she did. Not to mention the private messages on multiple platforms urging a sex trafficking victim to commit suicide, which goes beyond the “snarky tweets” she was trying to minimize. And she did this while possessing the kind of resources and influence that her victims could only dream of.
“Cancel crusher” – no. Look at her. She lost a handful of deals but still has her wealth, celebrity friends, and A lister husband. She’s fine, logistically. I feel for the agony of the miscarriage she went through, but she won’t be fine mentally or spiritually till she takes responsibility for herself which she clearly has no interest in doing.
So true. She went after somebody from a category society had already decided was expendable, and by doing so, also encouraged others to do the same. Even now, her focus is mainly on her wanting to get back the image and popularity she lost, and her boredom. Not on how dangerous her actions were. Not on what she could have pushed them to do with everything they was already dealing with. Not on how some radicalized random misogynistic man or woman fixated on Courtney could have felt validated by others’ treatment of them. Not on how Courtney’s abusive creep of a husband, or perhaps some other bad person in the industry with access could have used the hatred stirred up toward Courtney to his advantage, and whether or not Courtney would have felt safe to reveal it after the narrative put out about them. Not on how the kind of behavior she displayed is part of a larger danger for girls and people other than Courtney, due to mental health struggles or the steady stream of validation and justification that regressive men and women who already have violent tendencies receive every day. Not even on giving Courtney the direct, sincere apology they deserve. It’s still all about her.
Just… take time out? It’s narcissism at this point that you miss communicating with 35 million people you don’t know and will never know and probably don’t want to meet.
I mean by “people you don’t want to meet” is that realistically who would she, a celebrity, actually be real life friends with. I am absolutely sure there are many many gems amongst those 35 million!
“being at home alone with my mind makes my depressed head race”
“I desperately wanna communicate with you guys instead of pretending everything is okay. I’m not used to any other way!!”
“I’m just…tired of being sick with myself all day”
“I can’t do this silent sh-t anymore!”
Social media does this thing where it gives people with a wide audience this impression of intimacy that is just simply not the reality. But it’s hard to understand that this is not the case, because the audience you acquire on social media is not one you can physically see the presence of. You can have high numbers, but a fraction of those will engage with you on a regular/consistent basis, and this also contributes to the idea that you’re sharing your life to an intimate group of friends, rather than a global platform that’s viewed by millions and millions.
For someone like Chrissy Teigen, this probably feels a whole lot like she’s been blacklisted by her friend group who she goes out to get lunch with every other day or so. I’m not saying that you can’t form long lasting friendships with people you meet on social media. You can, and it can be just as important and substantial a relationship as any other in life. But what Chrissy Teigen doesn’t seem to understand is that this is simply not what’s happening here. These people aren’t her buddies, they’re her audience. She isn’t gabbing amongst friends, she’s a public figure on a public platform, influencing a pop culture conversation. The nature of social media blurs the lines between these things, but that doesn’t make it something it’s not.
Then there’s the other fact that she clearly (as she’s said before) got huge issues with being a people pleaser. But she doesn’t *need* to explain herself and her actions constantly. First of all, they largely speak for themselves, in this situation. And second of all, who is the people pleasing tendency supposed to serve, in the first place? When you’re that kind of person, it’s easy to think that you’re obviously doing it for the satisfaction of others, rather than yourself, and it’s easy to think of yourself as some kind of selfless martyr, always putting the needs of others over yourself.
But in reality, you’re calling on the world to drop its own valid concerns with your behaviour in order to tend to your emotional needs brought on by anxiety. You’re seeking the validation of others to soothe yourself, and less out of an interest to actually help them out. You’re essentially dumping the work that you’re supposed to be doing on your own to other people, and steamrolling over their own need for space from you in the process.
In this case, Chrissy Teigen thinks her need to be liked by other people supercedes the right that everyone else has to not want to deal with her presence after the truth about her actions came into light. And I get how easy it is to be self-centered in this instance–you can’t feel what others feel, you can only feel what you feel. But being mature is about learning to a) manage those feelings on your own, and b) moving beyond yourself to understand what others are feeling.
She’s characterizing her issues in this caption as “depression”, but I honestly don’t think that’s all of what it is. She’s right in that there’s not really a way to “win” right now. But that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be tbh. There’s no way to win, so what’s the solution? To be quiet for a little while, and to take that time to reflect, and hopefully learn how to sit with the discomfort brought by managing your desire to constantly talk your way out of situations like this as a defense mechanism.
Beautifully stated.
I agree with a lot of this but she’s not a people pleaser. She enjoys the controversy and gets off when people disagree. Of course, the amount and form of said disagreement has to be in her prescribed comfort zone, or else she becomes a victim, like here. This is a narcissistic tendency, especially her insistence that she *is* a people pleaser.
She’s a famew**re! She seeks the attention no matter good or bad just as long as we are all still talking about her.!
What controversy though? The most I’ve seen from Chrissy Teigen has just been her saying or quipping things that the larger Twitter population think is “witty” or “real” or “relatable.” She doesn’t say a lot of things that are controversial, she says things that generally tend to get agreed w/ by the sort of crowd that prides itself on being socially awkward like it’s an identity. And she gets thoroughly applauded/validated for saying these things, which is precisely the point & what she’s seeking–acceptance and validation from other people. She wants to put her insecurities on display and be constantly told that it’s okay, that other people are like this too, etc.
She gets off when people disagree–only if she can fashion herself into a victim, or if she can make the interaction into one where she’s delivering a well-placed zinger to shut down the other person. But in all of this, she’s trying to be a character that people can root for–the self-deprecating quirky one whose obnoxious behaviour is forgiven because “they’re just awkward.”
But it’s not okay to act that way, especially in this instance w/ Courtney Stodden. And she’s experiencing tremendous discomfort bc she can’t get her audience to do the heavy lifting in managing her insecurities, like she usually does. This is the problem with self-deprecation in grandiose amounts–it stops being an honest admission of your shortcomings, and it instead becomes about calling on people to accept your worst behaviour.
What she should focus on is dealing with those things on her own, which is what mature adults are called to do. All of us f-ck up, some of us more than most. But we don’t vomit the responsibility for handling our f-ck ups and the anxiety and pain that comes from that onto others. It’s not anyone else’s duty to absolve Chrissy Teigen of her woes. She’s unable to make an honest admission of her faults, she’s only acting like she does, which is not okay.
This is an addiction, plain and simple, just like alcohol or drugs or binge spending or risky behaviour or whatever. The need to have constant approbation from total strangers gives her the high she needs – the serotonin boost – to make her feel good but the high wears off and she’s gotta wash, rinse and repeat. You’d think having a loving husband, two gorgeous kids and tons of money would be enough to keep her satisfied but the compulsive need for attention and followers is like a bottomless pit, it will never be filled.
How can you learn a whole lot, when its only been days?
Any legitimate learning requires weeks and months- nay years- of reflection and processing. That right there, debunks anything she may think she has to say…
Cancel club / Consequences-for-Telling-a-Teenager-to-Commit-Suicide-Club….tomato, tomahto.