When Taylor Swift released the video for “I Bet You Think About Me” a few weeks ago, I saw some of the Snake Fam talking about how Taylor was being pretty obvious about how Joe Alwyn needs to propose. While Taylor’s music video imagery is usually quite girlish and princessy, the “I Bet You Think About Me” features some pretty big clues that Tay-Tay has marriage on her mind, including Taylor wearing a giant wedding gown and dancing with a groom (played by Miles Teller). And yes, I know the actual message of the video is that the “groom” is obsessively thinking about Taylor at his wedding to another woman, but come on. Taylor wants to wear that big white dress in real life when she marries Gorgeous Joe. And wouldn’t you know, OK! Magazine claims that Taylor and Joe are going to get surprise-married in December??
Forget the scarf — these days, Taylor Swift has far more exciting things on her mind. A source tells OK! that after four years of dating, the singer is finally ready to make things official with Joe Alwyn! According to the source, the couple, who have long kept their romance under the radar, took things to the next level when the British actor, 30, recently popped the question during an intimate dinner in London. “He brought Taylor to her favorite restaurant and told her to close her eyes because he had a surprise,” dishes the source. “Word is, he then slipped a huge diamond ring on her engagement finger and asked her to marry him. Of course, Taylor said yes.”
Preparations for the big day are already underway. The lovebirds, who moved into a $9 million townhouse in London’s posh Primrose Hill neighborhood in March, “don’t want to waste any time,” dishes the source, who says they’re aiming to tie the knot on Taylor’s 32nd birthday, on Dec. 13. “They’ve found a dreamy country estate and plan on inviting around 200 of their closest friends and family,” continues the source, adding that Taylor’s A-list besties Selena Gomez and Blake Lively would likely be among her bridesmaids. It’s a lot to pull off (in a short amount of time!), but if anyone can do it, it’s Taylor. “She’s been talking about marriage and starting a family for a long time,” adds the source. “She has plenty of people who can help bring her vision to life, Joe included. Taylor knows she’s found her soulmate.”
[OK! Magazine, print edition, December 6, 2021]
Joe and Taylor have been together for five years, almost exactly. She’s left enough bread crumbs to suggest that she met Joe soon after her thing with Tom Hiddleston ended, which was in September 2016. So… yeah. Five years. It’s getting to the point where Tay and Joe need to either get married or break up. I honestly don’t know which! I’ve said this before, but I think Taylor has been gun-shy about marriage because she doesn’t want to compromise her money whatsoever. A rock-solid prenup would help! But no, I don’t believe they’ll have a wedding on her birthday.
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my husband and I were together for almost seven years by the time we tied the knot, so I don’t see why they need to either get married or break up because they’ve been together for five years. I think that this idea that if you’re not engaged by a certain timeframe your relationship isn’t working is a bad idea.
also, I think she made it pretty clear her thing with Joe started while she was still with Tom – lots of references to them falling in love in the summer.
Also bad: the idea that there’s something wrong if you’re engaged but don’t actually get married within a certain timeframe. (Apparently, a worldwide pandemic bought me just 2 extra months after the initial lockdown ended! When we postponed a 2nd time, a “friend” said our relationship was obviously on life support and suggested I pull the plug.)
Exactly, the piece of paper is less about a symbol of your love and more about the securities it provides. You can have 10 kids and without that piece of paper, you will not be considered for many decisions. Their parents will take precedence 100% of the time.
Or if there is something wrong if you don’t get married at all in a long term relationship…
Lol Miranda, I’ve been having the same experience but I guess excuse us for wanting to wait until we think our plans will actually be fun!!!!
People have so many opinions about engagements. People keep asking me why my fiancé and I haven’t done a big social media reveal of our engagement because apparently we’re supposed to share every part of our lives with randoms…
Ooh, surprised and disappointed by the take that there is a time limit on how long a couple should be together before getting married (or decide never to be married at all) from a progressive site and author…feels like something that would be written in the 50s….or maybe before the author had enough coffee…j/k. Now if the author is suggesting that Taylor has an internal time limit of five years before wanting to get married or break up, yes I would believe that of Taylor Swift, although she seems like she has grown up quite a bit beyond that in the last few years.
Nobody has to get married within any time frame or at all but we’ve all seen those long-term couples where one person (more often, the woman) would like to be married, fully committed till death do us part, join finances and have kids, while the other person is a free rider who gets more out of the relationship than they are contributing and doesn’t want to go all in. This is where the ‘judgement’ is coming from.
tis site is pseudo progressive man, read their old posts from early 2000…
Agreed, no time limit on when a couple should get married. Some people don’t want to get married, or don’t care/don’t think it’s a big deal and don’t feel like it needs to be rushed. I’m not sure that applies to Taylor, but hey, she’s in her 30’s now and our views on these things can change.
Everyone is different and should get married (or not) when is best for them. I know unmarried, very happy, committed couples and I know married, miserable couples… and the reverse.
I think the key is being on the same page. It can get tricky though when one partner wants to be married and the other doesn’t. That disconnect can cause some serious heartache down the line and I’ve seen that go poorly for some of my friends/family. Looking back, they wish they hadn’t given into the pressure and/or pushed when they should have let go.
I completely agree. Arbitrary deadlines on something as complicated as relationships is a pretty immature take.
Trying on wedding gowns made me very happy so I get it. All the best to both of them.
Such fun!!
All the best to them.
For some reason I thought she was already engaged.
I actually think she may be. I’m not a Swifty, but I think some of them believe she’s dropped some hints about it. She’s been private and low-key about this relationship…I could see them not announcing an engagement but instead just getting married (if that’s what they want).
I like them as a couple, super low-key. If this engagement news is true then congrats to them! I don’t know why they HAVE to get married just because they’ve been together for 5 years. Not everyone has to get married. You can be in a long-term monogamous relationship forever and it’s still as real as a marriage.
THANK YOU
Exactly! My parter and I have been together for 8.5 years now and neither of us are interested in getting married. We are committed to each other and have set up our lives together, and for us, it is enough
Yes! My guy and I have been together for 22 years, and we aren’t married. We share a deep love, we are family, we are bonded as a team, we don’t feel the need to do the paperwork. As a kid, I saw a lot of married people who were deeply unhappy together, and I think it put me off the institution. But that doesn’t mean that our relationship isn’t solid and healthy.
I feel like whichever conspiracy theory said they got secretly married during lockdown makes the most sense to me.
This sounds like breathless fan fiction. But if true, good for them! I’m here for wedding photos.
I did really love all the big wedding dresses from I Bet You Think About Me. I also saw she posted a clip of sitting on a staircase in one of those dresses with the guy from The Nationals playing piano singing Champagne Problems. I wonder if she’s going to make a music video about that song?
I think they got married a while back, too. All of her “Lover” lyrics read like a married couple to me.
I hope that, if the rumour is true, they are very happy together and go the distance.
Sure, OK, plan an enormous wedding in the UK just as the Omicron variant is getting started and we’re being encouraged to minimise socialising and gathering in large groups, and people travelling internationally are having to self-isolate until a negative test result again.
I really don’t think this rumor is true. She’s been really careful about covid. Her mom has cancer. I doubt she’d flout covid rules to have a giant wedding now…
she could, though, have a giant dress XD
I mean, it’s OK! so … I wouldn’t take this seriously. But do you.
Yeah, in what universe does OK! get super secret wedding details about one of the biggest stars in the world. It’s completely made up.
For whatever reason I’ve gotten the sense that Taylor’s lust for marriage and babies has cooled since I guess the Calvin Harris years… her parents and best friend have divorced, and Taylor has had a lot of work in the legal department protecting her assets that she rightly has ownership over… I’d like to say her perspective has changed as she matured. She doesn’t strike me as the fairytale princess-obsessed person she once was. Anecdotally, it was only when I started dating my husband that I stopped worrying about the big day, I just wanted to hang out with this guy forever so marriage mattered very little all of a sudden. And yeah, there is something about couples who “date” for 6 or 7 years and are wishy washy about the idea of marriage I always see as a red flag. If it’s not important to you, great, date forever. But if the couple seems to be going back and forth on their level of commitment, that’s not good. Those couple usually break up or divorce in my experience.
Wow, I had NO idea her parents divorced!
I don’t know about marriage, but I do recall an interview where she said she wasn’t sure if she wanted to have kids, so I’m not sure about a “lust” for babies. I’ve never picked that vibe up from her at all, that interview (too lazy to look it up lol) notwithstanding.
Get a prenup and marry this gorgeous man Tay!
There’s a difference between dating for five or more years when you both maintain separate homes and have lives that are still quite separate in many ways and “dating” when you live together and co-parent animals together. Because in the latter, you aren’t actually dating, You’re in a committed long-term relationship and you just choose not to be married (yet or even ever). Taylor and Joe are partners, even if they’re not engaged or married.
I feel like whenever the tabloids say Taylor is engaged, fans should expect a messy breakup is coming. And a fantastic, even messier album.
As far as protecting her wealth goes–wouldn’t Taylor need some sort of legal contract protecting her money anyway if they have been living together for a certain time? Here in Canada anyway, at a certain point in cohabitation, you are considered common-law, which is treated not that differently than legal marriage when couples split up.
Common law partnerships aren’t recognised in the UK.
Common law isn’t recognized in most states in the US anymore, only in a handful.
I think they have been engaged or even married for years now to be honest. Or maybe they simply they don’t feel they need to do it. They live together, have done so for like 3 or 4 years now.
I am tired of this idea.that your relationship is not valid unless you’re married. It’s so old fashioned that it drives me.crazy to see it repeated in the year of our Lord 2021
LOL, no. This engagement story sounds like it was written on Wattpad by a 13-year-old.
The people who insist she’s happier than ever and in a wonderful relationship with the best man ever confuse me. Folklore and Evermore are *devastating* and even if fictional, you can’t be in the best headspace to write that. Those were breakup albums, ya’ll.
Haha. Although, to be fair, most of Taylor’s relationship stories sound exactly like that
@Hench That’s because her publicist writes them that way!
😂
To be fair, several of those break up sad songs were written *with* Joe . And there are also several songs that are about being very much in love and that you can see they are very much her story, so… I’m not sure I agree with this take
@Anne Taylor retroactively added Joe as a producer after Folklore won a Grammy for APTY, so even as a big fan, I frankly don’t believe her regarding Joe’s involvement in the creation of the albums anymore.
Do we seriously think that Taylor would get engaged and then get married less than three weeks later? I’m going with fanfic on this one. Just sorting out the legal ramifications of a prenup to guard her assets would take a hell of a lot longer than that.
I can absolutely see them getting engaged and even having a quiet marriage ceremony and a bigger party later when people can travel but not THAT quickly.
Hum, I don’t buy that story. I do believe Taylor wants to be married and seemed to have find the one in Joe but I think, given her history with the law, she wouldn’t marry like this out of blue. I think she would prepare Joe to accept she will protect her properties, her work and for that, he would have to sign a prenup. She’s more smart that we give her credits and these stories always popped out at some point in her past relationships.
But we never know, for once she made sure to keep her love life private. Maybe they are already married. Idk I like reading these articles and speculate either way!
I find it hard to believe Taylor would keep her engagement or wedding small or quiet.
For all we know, Taylor could be happily engaged and/or married already. I like that she has been keeping her private life pretty much under wraps. This way the relationship can stand or fall on its own merits, not because of the opinions of others.
My husband and I were secretly married in a small civil ceremony with just my parents and our witnesses while we planned the big church wedding that we had a year later. We had a little chuckle when they got to the part of the ceremony asking if anyone had any objections since it was waaaaay too late to stop the marriage from happening.
LOL I mean, it’s OK! so …. even back when I read actual magazines, in the days before blogs, I always considered OK! to basically just be fan fiction. Maybe it’s changed, but …
That being said, they’ve been together a while, but they’ve kept it really low-key. I’ll be happy for her if this is true, but also there’s no real “time” for marriage. Maybe they don’t want to get married? I think she’s shown a lot of growth in the past several years, and I just hope they’re both happy and it’s their business.
The September 2016 thing she said to the world was their official dating date. I thought people in the Western world or even the entire of the modern world already understand that the dating date is not the same as meeting date. We are not living in the Middle Ages or in the Indian subcontinent where people do blind date as their official dating date.
She gave us enough clue (songs, MVs and that 2019 Rolling Stone cover interview) that they met way before the Kimye taking down/Tom Hiddleston debacle. The ex-boyfriend in Gorgeous is Calvin Harris, not Tom.