Actress Emmy Rossum (Phantom of The Opera, Poseidon), 23, is dating scruffy Counting Crowes frontman Adam Duritz, 45. While Emmy has happily posed together with Adam at several events she won’t actually confirm that she’s dating him. Emmy gave some nice quotes to People about Adam, but basically said she doesn’t talk about her “love life” to the press. Smart woman. Emmy made headlines a couple of months ago with the news that she was getting a divorce from a guy that no one knew she was married to. Her estranged husband, a music executive, was much closer to her in age at 27. So what does Emmy see in Adam? According to Emmy he’s a great guy.

Emmy Rossum “really can’t say” whether Adam Duritz is officially her boyfriend, but she will happily dish on why women love him.

“I get why chicks dig him,” Rossum tells PEOPLE at the grand launch of the W Hotel in Washington, D.C. “He’s extremely kind, incredibly intelligent, thoughtful, creative and respectful.”

Rossum, 23, who filed for divorce from her husband last month, has been seen recently on multiple dates with Duritz, 45, who has previously dated Jennifer Aniston and Courteney Cox Arquette.

“I don’t discuss my love life because it’s always misinterpreted or put under the microscope,” she says. “It’s especially annoying when you’re dating someone else who’s well-known, which is why I normally would never go out with a famous guy.”

Has the actress, who just attended the American Ballet Theater Fall gala in New York with Duritz, broken her own rule?

“Let’s put it this way,” she says. “I’d be flattered if someone hit on me tonight, but I really can’t say if I’m available or not.”

After partying in Washington, Rossum will head to the Hamptons International Film Festival to promote Dare, a independent movie she describes as “an edgy art house film exploring the sexuality, awkwardness and loneliness of teenagers – because life really is awkward and funny, isn’t it?”

“I used to be an artsy, quiet, kind of chubby kid – which no one believes,” she says, “but now I’m really comfortable with my body and my sexuality. I can be naked with the lights on.”

[From People]

I was enjoying that little article up until the part where she talked about getting naked with the lights on. I get that the quote is about her new movie, but now all I can picture is her with Duritz – with the lights on. The Huffington Post had a cute slideshow featuring Duritz’s ex girlfriends a couple of weeks ago. He’s had relationships with Courteney Cox, actress Monica Potter, Mary-Louise Parker, TV actress Joanna Going, Jennifer Aniston, Winona Ryder, and Samantha Mathis. They write “Duritz’s latest catch is no fluke for the 45-year-old Counting Crows frontman who has bedded some of the hottest women in Hollywood, all while resembling a pineapple.” That’s a little harsh, but I do see the pineapple resemblance. He’s a respectful, thoughtful pineapple at least.

Header and thumbnail gallery of photos are of Emmy and Adam out in NY on 9/12/09. Credit Pop/WENN.com. Other photos credits are viewable on mouse-over.