To recap a very complicated situation, here are the basics: Olivia Wilde and Jason Sudeikis didn’t announce their split until November 2020, when she was already working on Don’t Worry Darling, and likely already hooking up with Harry Styles. Olivia’s version was that she and Jason had split months beforehand and there was no overlap between her old and new relationships. Jason’s version was that Olivia cheated on him with Harry Styles, Jason begged her not to leave and she left him around the same time they announced their split. Now the Daily Mail has an exclusive with the nanny who worked for them for three years, and Nanny is spilling all the tea. The Nanny prefers to remain unidentified, and you’ll quickly see why – she provided screenshots of text messages and an eyewitness account of how Olivia dumped Jason the second she started banging Harry (in the fall of 2020) and… yeah, so much more. Secret salad dressing recipes, child abandonment, Jason throwing himself in front of Olivia’s car. Some highlights:
Olivia & Jason split in the fall of 2020: Despite Wilde’s insistence that her split from Sudeikis was ‘initially friendly,’ in fact it left the blindsided Sudeikis distraught and drinking heavily alone at home and ranting to the couple’s nanny: ‘She’s f***ing someone else.’ Wilde, 38, has always insisted that she and Sudeikis parted ways in early 2020 and her affair with former boybander Styles started months later. She told Vanity Fair: ‘The complete horses**t idea that I left Jason for Harry is completely inaccurate. Our relationship was over long before I met Harry.’ But in fact she was talking of marriage to Sudeikis as late as October that year, the nanny said, and broke up with Sudeikis a month later, just weeks after she began filming Don’t Worry Darling with Styles in Palm Springs, California.
Olivia was still talking about marrying Jason in October 2020: In fact, just a month before Wilde dumped Sudeikis – on November 8, 2020 – the actress spoke to staff about her plans to marry him and to make their daughter Daisy a flower girl, the insider revealed. But that all changed after Wilde met Styles and swiftly fell for the singer, with the nanny claiming she even appeared visibly ‘giddy’ and giggly around him when she took Daisy to visit her on set.
How Olivia dumped Jason: Wilde began spending more and more time away from home citing work and eventually moved into the nearby $1,650-a-night Paramour Estate Hotel in LA at the start of November 2020. She told her oblivious fiancé the move was due to a Covid outbreak on set but later dumped Sudeikis during a visit to the house they shared on November 8.
Jason learned of Olivia’s affair by looking at her Apple Watch: Distraught Sudeikis later uncovered the full details of her relationship with Styles by reading messages on an Apple watch Wilde had left behind – and swiftly banned the nanny from playing Styles’ music near their children. The nanny said: ‘It was supposed to be a temporary break for Covid but that turned out to be how she left us. He thought it was a temporary break. On the Monday morning November 9, when I came back from a weekend off he was crying a lot, crying and crying. I didn’t know what had happened at all. After I’d got the kids ready, Jason came upstairs and was having some coffee. He was crying and a mess, saying ‘she left us. She left us!’ He was just out of control crying. I didn’t know what to say. He was just crying and crying and saying he was going to get her back and he loved her. He was so brokenhearted – I felt for him.’
Olivia left the kids to party with Harry: On November 13, Wilde – who was briefly staying at the family house while Sudeikis was away – went to a party with Styles in Silver Lake before getting home at 4am.
The salad: Two days later, Wilde infuriated Sudeikis by preparing a salad for Styles with her ‘special dressing’ in the family kitchen – leaving him ranting furiously at her and filming the encounter, before he tried to prevent her leaving by lying under the car. The nanny explained: ‘The night she left with her salad, Jason had chased after her, videotaping her in the house. She was saying: ‘I’m scared of you, Jason, I’m scared of you’. And he said: ‘If you’re scared of me, why are you leaving your kids with me’? So then, Jason went outside and lay under her car so she wouldn’t leave. She got in her car to back up, he lay under her car so she wouldn’t leave. She went back into the house and he went in, it was back and forth. He said he was doing it on purpose to make her late going to see Harry.’
The salad dressing: The nanny added: ‘Jason told me: ‘She made this salad and she made her special dressing and she’s leaving with her salad to have dinner with [Harry]. I said, what salad dressing? He said: ‘She has a special salad dressing she makes for us and she’s taken it to have it with him now’. I don’t know what was in it. Out of everything, he was like, ‘she made her special salad dressing and took it to him.”
What else? Olivia agreed to go to couples therapy but she didn’t take it seriously, according to the Nanny. Olivia just thought it would look better, like she was giving it one last chance. Their therapist thought Olivia was addicted to Harry, like a drug. Meanwhile, Jason’s drinking got worse and worse after Olivia left him.
Yeah, the biggest headline for me is that Olivia has been lying this whole f–king time about when her relationship with Jason ended and when she and Harry began, and the circumstances around it. Add that to the list of Olivia’s lies, and it definitely gives us a picture of what she’s like. The salad thing is… I don’t know. I’m already seeing a lot of internet jokes but it was just the kind of heartbreaking detail which made me feel really bad for Jason. Now, did he react poorly? For sure. But his fiancee cheated on him, dumped him and took her salad dressing.
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although it sounds like he was drinking heavily and acting erratically?
The texts add context I missed when reading the article. The nanny was throw out at 10 pm by a drunk and angry Sudeikis. She was scared a number of times by his drinking and behaviour.
Olivia apparently was scared of his behaviour and leaving him with the children.
He used manipulation to try to coerce her.
I don’t really care about the salad dressing, that’s funny but not the meat of the story.
Thank you! I can’t believe anyone would read that article and their takeaway is “Olivia is a liar.” God only knows what she put up with before she left him.
And how the nanny is sympathetic to Jason after he drunkenly kicked her out of the house and fired her in the middle of the night because she spoke with her other employer (Olivia) is insane.
According to the nanny, BOTH women told him they were afraid of him at different times and people are still painting him out to be a victim of evil Olivia’s ways 🙄
SAME. He lay in front of her car????? Not normal.
Yeah. Olivia likely cheated and lied about it (which is unfair to the women who do get falsely accused of cheating or knowingly getting with married men) but Jason’s behavior, if he really did these things, was toxic. Blocking someone from leaving, following someone back into a home, and essentially threatening self-harm bc someone is leaving you is abusive behavior. I say likely bc there’s a chance some of what the nanny is saying could be untrue, but I believe what she’s saying.
what i take from this is they’re both deeply immature and toxic
cheating, gaslighting, drunken outbursts, melodramatic threats? it’s like a trainwreck teen couple imploding at the prom, except teenagers have the excuse of being 17 and these guys have children who should be prioritized
Detritus, wouldn’t it be the “salad of the story” and not the meat?? 🙂
Yes, thank you. He sounds incredibly coercive, and obviously any relationship that exists only because one partner is implementing abusive tactics against the other doesn’t actually oblige the other to respect it, definitely not any more than is simply necessary to get themselves and/or their children out.
Yes, thank you. He sounds incredibly coercive, and obviously any relationship that exists only because one partner is implementing abusive tactics against the other doesn’t actually oblige the other to respect it, definitely not any more than is simply necessary to get themselves and/or their children out.
I mean, I don’t think Olivia is lying. The whole “well Jason thought it was a temporary break” tracks with “she was done with the relationship and he refused to accept it and wants to make her out to be the bad person and slut-shame his not-wife for moving on”. Jason sounds awful. I believe he was throwing his body under her car and drinking. Sounds like he wants all sympathy and zero accountability for his bad behavior. He’s not Ted Lasso but I’m sure he’s hoping that public sympathy for him means people think he IS that character. I doubt he was faithful to Olivia or hasn’t moved on himself.
Laying under a car so someone can’t leave is abusive behavior.
As is filming someone like that. It’s happened to me, the filming and chasing and it’s scary as f, and there is no way this was his first drunken episode.
The sympathy for guys behaving badly when they don’t get their way (ie she left him) is sickening.
You know why she lied? Because of these reactions right here. There is no easy way to leave a drunken jerk and if it took a new infatuation to pull the trigger, so be it.
Mentally, it probably was over for her long before she finally walked out the door.
So so relieved to see this comment and others similar. The details of that account are really disturbing and I’m not sure how anyone can read that story and end up feeling sorry for Jason?!? I have been on the receiving end of having someone do whatever they can to stop you leaving and it is terrifying and unjustifiable. Whatever you think of olivia, if the story thats told clearly from Jason’s side includes her saying she is scared of him… people dont usually say that tor no reason.
Also, walking around the house screaming at her and filming her?!
She very well may have had an affair but thats still no excuse for this behaviour. And this story is supposed to make him look good!?!
Agree 100%. I think reading between the lines, Olivia’s ‘marriage ended long ago’ eludes to a situation where the relationship was all but over, basic cohabitation and co-parenting happening, but with a backdrop of an increasingly drunk and distressed Jason and an increasingly distressed and stressed Olivia, with a split being utterly inevitable tbh. I don’t care if there was an affair, Jason’s behaviour, the serving papers onstage etc, are all controlling and frightening and frankly, not ok.
Yes, I am not a fan of Wilde these days, but you cannot read this article and think the only issue at play here is Wilde’s lying and cheating. Jason sounds volatile and scary, and it made me sad reading this. I hope any children were shielded from this, ugh.
Olivia is really a piece of work, if she was SCARED of Jason, if he was drinking too much, if he was in anyway threatening self-harm with for example laying in front of her car, how in the world did she leave the 2 young children in the same home with him???
She is not a 17 year old teenage hormone filled girl, but nearly a 40 year old woman and a mother of 2 kids, her 1st responsibility is the well being of her kids and not romancing Harry.
The therapist seems to have been right, Olivia is probably addicted to Harry or his equipment, not just men think with their genitalia, which often results in very harmful choices that hurt innocent kids.
It seemed to me from the beginning that Olivia did cheat on Jason with Harry.
Everything I’ve seen about Olivia in the press indicate to me that she is a serial liar, dishonest to her core with a whooping amount of arrogance.
No wonder that she was mostly the only one from her film promoting it, she must have created a very toxic and uncomfortable work place for a number of people on the set.
I’m glad that I’m boycotting her film, I’ll not support people that behave so poorly in a workplace with my hard earned money and the same goes for Jason.
I can understand that he was heartbroken after Olivia cheated on him with Harry, but that still does not give him permission to behave in such destructive way, the kids always come first.
@Ashby So your vote would be for her to stay so the kids can watch their father abuse their mother in front of their faces?! Smdh She left his violent outburst with a nanny tending to the kids.
All these people saying “how could she leave her kids alone with him if he was really drunk and scary” are not using their thinking caps- she WASNT leaving them alone with him, she was leaving them WITH THE NANNY, with him there. My takeaway from this is that the nanny had to be there even when Jason was home because he wasn’t trusted with his own kids. Which puts an interesting spin on the child custody thing now…
Yes, I would take my kids away from a place where the father of my children is acting abnormally, like lying down in front of my car, even if I had to call the cops on him. The nanny is a paid employee, not the parent. Olivia is their mother and Jason is their father, so act like it and don’t put your selfish needs ahead of your children. Sort out your adult BS as adults and not some lovesick teenagers.
It’s not normal behavior to lie down in front of a car and it doesn’t take much in some cases for it turn really dark.
I’ve heard of too many case were a parent killed the kids and committed suicide after the spouses broke up.
Sadly it’s the reality and kids are way too often the collateral damage in the wake of their parents irresponsible behavior.
Olivia should have forgotten making a salad in their family kitchen for her lover and Jason should have thought of his young children instead of acting irrationally.
Olivia and Jason are not lovesick teenagers with no barely any care in the world.
Men are often called volatile for showing emotion, as if them being emotional is something to be feared. Most men become angry in place of sadness. It sounds like Jason had a mix of both.
I notice this in my kids school and the schools I’ve worked: Boys who cry are treated with less empathy, so they grow up to have trouble conveying grief and sadness. It is what breads toxic masculinity.
People treated what happened with Michelle Branch with so much more empathy towards her and her strong emotions of anger and sadness.
Folks seem to be really polarized about this, but I think the most simple and correct answer is that the situation is more complicated than a binary of aduser/victim. We don’t know if Jason has always been drinking or started drinking during the breakup; we don’t know the extent of his volatility throughout the relationship or when it began; we don’t know how deep Olivia’s narcissism and lies/infidelity are; and we don’t know anything more than the nanny’s version of the story. Like in real life, Jason can be both a victim and an abuser. Olivia can be both a victim and an abuser. That’s why I am sad to read this—this sounds really complex and sad for all. And I feel for the children.
It’s hilarious to see all the mental gymnastics going on here to defend Olivia. When your heart is broken and your family is broken both men and women will self destruct. I saw this in my parent’s marriage demise. It’s always messy. She cheated, she lied, he acted like a normal person would act when your world falls apart, destroyed. If he was such a scary alcoholic why was she planning a wedding a month before their breakup? Face it, she’s a liar, a cheat, not a great director, she’s human. He’s human, they both had very human reactions to a messy situation. Get over it.
Children must always come first or don’t have any!
I completely disagree, I have seen many divorces in my family and my group of close friends over the last few years, but not one of them was this crazy messy, especially considering that neither Olivia or Jason are 20 something year olds with not much life experience. They are both much closer to 40 than 20.
Maybe Olivia should have been thinking less with her genitals and more with her head.
Olivia should have sit down with Jason when the kids were at school and tell him that she wants to leave their relationship before she started cheating with Harry.
Together they should have come up with an amicable separation agreement, arrangements should have been made for new housing, child support, child care…honesty and proper arrangements for their separation would have been very beneficial to them and most importantly for their kids.
Olivia seems very selfish for putting her family through such hell and creating so much trouble on the movie set.
Just because some men behave inappropriately, it does not give women the right to follow.
There are always peeps ready to do mental gymnastics to cop for an abusive man- or just give him a simple excuse & think that will fly. “Just get over domestic violence, already!” Naw, nope, no.
No, he most certainly did not act like a normal person. Normal people do not throw themselves under cars, follow the leaver around filming them, and fire the nanny for talking to the leaving partner. Normal people cry and plead. I’m sorry that your parents let you believe this behavior was normal.
Yes, I agree. Pearl clutching about his lying down in front of the car not wanting her to leave? This sounds like insane abuse to people? That sounds like someone processing shock, desperation, and betrayal.
Agree @Matilda and @Allegra
@Sarah Ok, so maybe not normal normal, he definetly acted in poor ways that escalated and ARE toxic, but don’t act like Olivia is a victim of this man.
Also, the salad thing IS upsetting, she was making a salad to give to her boyfriend in the house she shares with her family? Damn, that’s cold!
She abused him first, lying and gaslighting him personally, in front of their house staff and THEN to the rest of the world saying it was CRAZY that people believed she could do such a thing as cheating. SMH
I personally have seen and experienced behaviour like Jason’s from persons that have personality dissorders such as Bipolar and Borderline; it’s just harder for us to process feelings and express them in healty ways, mixed with learned toxic traits from probably toxic contexts. Not okay, yes toxic, but is not like he went physical with anyone; REAL victims of DV suffer much more than one crappy month with their wronged and cheated on partner being drunk and volatile.
Cheaters and lairs always get mad when you confront them
For anyone who hasn’t been through it, it’s pretty hard to explain the pain and agony and shock and horror of being GASLIT. Jason 100% experienced BETRAYAL TRAUMA when this all came to light. Realizing the life he through the was living and the future he had envisioned was not only a lie, but was sacrificed for his wife’s narcissistic, LIMERENT state. She used Covid quarantine as smokescreen to spend more time with her lover and deceive her family! Olivia is classic narcissist … and she is the abuser! Fail to see someday how her children will thank her for chasing her bliss and wontonly dismantling her family for some good sex with a dude who embodies the fluid gender ideal she finds sexy and en vogue this moment in time. And the arrogance literally knows no bounds. #TeamJason
@anna yes, and didn’t know how to put their kids to bed himself apparently.
@viennabanjo Ugh! Agree 100%. When your marriage is in crisis, blindsided completely out of the blue, every day is scrapping yourself off the floor and trying desperately to do triage. Crying jags? Check. Drinking too much? Check. Doing/Saying things completely out of your normal character? Check. You’re pulling yourself up from the depths of grief, day after day, just trying to survive and save what you can from your former life. I’m not going to judge Jason harshly for what was likely the worst period of his life. I’ve been there and it’s hell.
yeah no the biggest takeaway for me is not that she is a liar but that he is an abusive drunk, yikes
If the take away is that he is a huge drunk, the mother left her children with an abusive drunk. That is disgusting.
I am SO sick of their drama. They both need to shut the fuck up and lay low for a while.
These two clowns couldn’t even agree on who would pay off the nanny who saw everything. She doesn’t come of well either, but this was a predictable consequence. Poor kids, this sounds like a lot of chaos with no end in sight.
The joint statement they issued about this is the first thing they have done right the whole divorce.
Maybe it was a midlife crisis? Its also possible she really fell hard for Harry. I saw DWD last week and to think this mediocre movie has caused so much of her life to come undone is crazy to me. Her life really hasn’t been the same since and much of it has been put out there for the press.
I honestly think she likes the attention he brings. She’s never been photographed so much. I mean, maybe he is the best boyfriend behind the scenes but he doesn’t support her at all publicly and I just couldn’t imagine dealing with that at my age and I’m a bit younger than her.
Did anybody really believe that she hadn’t already started with Harry by the time she left Jason? I think she just lied to save face which is usually how these situations play out.
Yeah. None of this is new info, is it? We’ve known all along that this is how it played out.
Oh, people believed her. When I said otherwise, I was called a Harry Stan and I can’t stand him. It was very clear there was cheating.
None of this info feels new. Anyone with common sense guessed OW was fudging her new relationship timeline. They both come off poorly in this and I hope that JS is getting continued help to manage his possible addiction. OW seems like a terrible person, I mean it isn’t so much the affair but that bit about attending counselling for appearance sake seems kind of cruel.
I hoe they eventually learn to make peace for their children bc they both seem self-involved. I hope the children have people in their lives supporting them through this chaos
I thought she was full of crap myself. Based on how she left her first husband and all, does it sound like something she would do? Yep.
Also I hate to say this, but this whole thing makes it sound like she just got obsessive with Styles. Jason drank (not great) and was being dramatic AF, but I honestly don’t know what I would do if someone I was with for years and had kids with was cheating and then pretended to care about them in therapy.
Miss Flo is somewhere like you dont even want to know everything.
The nanny also says that Olivia told Jason that it was Flo and Harry who were together…
I would be so ticked if I was Florence Pugh and found out more mess with my so called director who apparently was acting out of pocket on set.
It was clear she cheated. What’s also clear is that Jason TOTALLY served her on stage on purpose, lol. I defended him before but, nah. This is messier than we all imagined. And she lying to Jason saying Florence was dating Harry? THAT’S probably why Pugh hates her. She dragged her into the middle of her mess. Jason, having suspicions about Olivia,probably casually asked Miss Flo how things were going with her and Harry and she was like, Who? Then Jason had confirmation Olivia and Harry were the ones f*kkin’. Olivia is unprofessional and also messy. And Jason went full messy too. But she’s the one trying to blame her actions on sexism when they really just boil down to her being horrible. Allegedly.
Jason is also friends with Zach Braff, who was dating Florence at the time. So, OW was being MESSY with putting that on Florence.
I’ve been addicted to a person. It doesn’t end well. The highs are followed by lows — I ended up on anti-depressants and only then did I not need the “drug” and could see clearly. Extremely grateful I took therapy seriously.
Olivia is a dick and a liar. This isn’t going to end well for her.
Jason’s erratic behaviour likely pushed her away more (even though I understand the desperation).
Thank you for your take. That sounds like a really rough time, but congratulations for getting therapy. Your self-awareness is really admirable!
Unpopular opinion: team Jason on the salad dressing. Is it highly irrational? Yes. But to be dumped so abruptly when we were talking marriage and then you make your side dude our special thing? I’d be really fucking broken up over salad dressing, too.
Yeah I understood the salad dressing thing too. It wasn’t about the “salad dressing.” Its about how this was something that Jason thought was between him and Olivia and their children and she didn’t care and was going to give it to the side piece as well.
This part. I think that detail is so sad.
Me too honestly. That is just cruel. Like I get it, but I don’t know if I would have done some mess like that. Good lord they are better off separate.
I LOVE that the salad dressing was his catalyst! Give us the recipe Olivia! This was a very special salad indeed.
The only thing that I can possibly side with Olivia on is that men do this all the time. Doesn’t make it right, but her behavior all around has earned her this degree of criticism.
Completely! I mean, the salad dressing was their family’s “thing”. Then you come and make it for your lover in our own kitchen? Come on, that screams selfish.
I think the crux of issue leading to the salad dressing meltdown is that she, who had moved out already, prepared it in the kitchen of the family home. He was home at the time. That sounds like relationship version of psychological warfare – why did she need to do this in front of him in the family home, why did he have to be made aware she was doing this? The only reason I can think of is that she was working overtime to hurt him deeply
^This. I actually reread it a couple of times because I didn’t understand how she would be preparing salad dressing in the kitchen of a place she no longer lived.
That’s the thing. It feels like taunting. To prepare food for your lover in front of the father of your children you just blindsided by ending your relationship with.
That said Jason became a problem for the family to function normally. If he had just like …. Done what he does when he travels out of town- called in his league of nannies Ans friends and just oh it’s was Covid.
Either way. He should have worked out a new deal with the nanny. Taken a few days to cry or whatever he needed. And then got his head on straight and dealt with it.
Women are left by partners with their children without resources. Every. Single. Day. It’s happened to friends more times than I care to think about. And their focus is on the kids. Explaining the absence of the other parent. Meeting their emotional needs. Their physical needs. They come first. Having a sobbing meltdown in front of them is terrible for everyone. And made the nanny I’m sure feel very freaked out and confused. The drinking does not help.
I won’t speculate on if it was occurring before OW left him. But his behavior afterwards was actually scary. Men don’t get that they can be scary with the simplest of things just because they are so big and also because every woman has experienced some sort of horrible interaction with a man that makes them aware of other directions these things can take.
I deeply dislike OW. She’s a white woman feminist when it suits her. And has proven herself to be a liar and manipulative through her own words.
I don’t know my over all sentiments towards JS. But his actions in this instance are beyond the pale and he needs to get into therapy and get his kids into therapy immediately. I had hoped he was better than this.
I know exactly how he feels about the salad dressing. I had a chocolate dessert I used to make every anniversary and Valentine’s Day for him/us. One day my now ex-husband asked me for the recipe because (lie). Several weeks later I discovered, among other things in their correspondence, that he had given it to his girlfriend. Of all his betrayals I discovered, I think that one gobsmacked me the most.
I’m sorry that you had to deal with that. Also had a cheating husband who was abusive and finding out all of the things that he “carried over” in his cheating relationship were just WTF? It took me a while to find any humor in the situation, but his lack of originality was just one of the reasons that I was ultimately glad to nail that coffin shut. His relationship recently imploded and…bless his heart!
I just find the construction of “her salad and her dressing” so funny.
No, trying to dictate what recipes she uses is controlling behavior, as is laying under cars to stop people from leaving. He’s doing so many troubling things in this story, and people rush to defend him. “Himpathy” is real.
Both Olivia and the nanny repeatedly tell him his is scaring them…but Olivia is the bad guy? It’s unreal.
Not an unpopular opinion at all. There is a lot of toxicity and drama on both sides, but if you excise just the salad dressing part, and disregard the rest, I get it on so many levels. I am going through a tough time due to my husband’s infidelity and I can’t begin to explain the things that trigger me and leave me completely unhinged. I am keeping it to myself, not acting out like Jason. But inside, I am upset enough to act like a complete lunatic. The idea that she cheated and is making her side piece a salad with special homemade dressing IN THEIR KITCHEN. IN FRONT OF HIM? I understand the rage and hurt. There is something about having to SEE that mundane stuff like the salad she makes for her jump off, that is SO hard. In my case, we are going to get a divorce but it won’t be for a bit. Last night I was in my kitchen, and it occurred to me that at some point in early 2023, we will need to split all our stuff. Two decades of stuff. Stuff we got for our wedding. And the half he gets will go to the home he will eventually share with the woman that he cheated on me with for YEARS. Why I am so worried about her getting any of “my” things? I mean, she is getting my husband, which in fairness, she is welcome to the cheating #$%, but why am I so concerned with her using “my” martini glass? I can’t explain it, but the feelings are real and HUGE. I am currently living a daily life of phoniness. Inside, I have all these terrible and irrational feelings, and I just bury them. So i feel like when Jason was carrying on like that? I can’t judge him because I feel capable of being just as wacky, I just manage to not ACT on it.
Oh @turtledove, I’m so sorry. I’m sorry that you are going through this. The end is hopefully near and you will move past him. Once you are free of him, every day will get a little bit better and better and then suddenly you’ll see that you are so much better off. In the meantime keep putting one foot in front of the other. Go to therapy if you can. You will get past this. You are stronger than you know. Hugs to you. ❤️
I’m sorry, Turtledove. ❤️
Aw. A big hug to you. You are going through a lot.
Today I am Sending the entirety of my truly loving and supportive vibes to you; most worthy, intelligent and beautiful with so much ahead of her, darling Turtledove. 💕 🖖 I know you can do it 🐢 🕊 🤗
It gets so much better, I promise! Practice self care while you navigate this painful challenging time. Check out chumplady.com a life saver for those devastated by infidelity. I also understand Jason’s responses if he was just just finding out. It’s a lot to process: we’re not getting married, we’re not going to be a family unit, you have a boyfriend, you’ve been lying about everything, you’re sharing a recipe, you’re sleeping with him. He needs to pull it together and stop drinking. Is she a narcissist? Does she have BPD? I don’t know. Team Kids.
I have been there Turtledove.
You can’t keep it inside it WILL make you sick. It made my sick and my RA is all over the place right now for all my “being strong”. If you can try therapy or write it out talk to a friend.
It’s not your fault.
Sending you strength.
My heart hurts for you and you are not alone.
Damn this is sad af. I agree about the salad dressing detail adding to sadness of her betrayal. It’s those little things that make up our lives. This little things that mean nothing to others but are grand to us. She’s terrible.
OMG yes exactly. The salad dressing detail was just heartbreaking.
Was there anyone who thought she didn’t leave Jason for Harry?
I side eye the nanny too, if she cared about those kids, spilling all their parents’ texts and making this an even bigger story is a pretty crappy thing to do.
Well as one tweet i saw said their business wouldn’t be out in these streets if they did right by the nanny and didn’t mess with her pay. The nanny wanted to quit but agreed to stay on for six months for them to find someone else they then let her go and said she resigned so she couldn’t claim unemployment
I think they treated her terribly, no question, but I feel like this has to be hurtful towards the kids.
that’s how unemployment works though – she did quit. if you resign from a position and give a notice, your employer can accept your resignation and say the notice is not required. you wouldn’t get unemployment because you decided to quit. plus they paid for a very expensive hotel for her for a month, which would actually constitute a form of severance.
I’m not saying it’s right, or that’s how you should treat people, and this all sounds messy and overdramatic. but she won’t be able to get unemployment most likely.
It looks as though they fired her because she wanted to quit but she gave them a time-frame presumably because she didn’t want to end it badly, and they turned around during said time frame and sacked her on the basis of her original desire to leave. Happens all the time with employment, to get around the regulations (“oh we know you said you were wanting to leave but wanted to train your replacement – no need, bye and here’s a black mark on your resume!”). Them paying for a hotel for her shows they did her wrong and they knew it, to me. They knew she wouldn’t get unemployment with how they terminated her service.
Agreed. It took her awhile. I wonder if she was being offered $ for a long time and someone finally offered up an amount too good to pass up? Not justify it at all. Just wondering how it all came to be. (I suppose she also could have been shopping her story around all this time and finally got a bite?)
I side eye the nanny too even though on my first read I felt really awful for her and for the kids losing their close person so abruptly. But in none of those text receipts do we see proof that she was fired by Jason because she texted with Olivia. All we see is him asking her to come downstairs and speak with him and his sister and saying he feels unsafe with her in the house. His texts sound very placating, like please it’s going to be ok, you’re not being thrown out, and Olivia’s are in the same vein like let’s stay calm here. Why would he feel unsafe with her in the house? Why would Olivia just screenshot all of the nanny’s texts and send them directly to Jason if it was plausible that he was drunk and out of control? Maybe Olivia wanted to believe the kids and the nanny were safe with Jason and his drinking wasn’t dangerous. I don’t know the whole story has some very wide gaps.
Haven’t Sudekis and Wilde put out a joint statement denying all this? Considering they obviously don’t see eye-to-eye on much lately – a joint statement is pretty powerful. I think they said the nanny has been trying to exploit them for some time, so I’m not sure we should be giving this too much air….
In the Fail story though there were screenshots of the text messages, that’s why there are so many exact quotes of what Jason said
There are SO MANY receipts pulled with these people! I know more about their personal and professional lives than I do my own.
The story made both of them look really shitty so it’s in their interests to deny it though.
The nanny is claiming that she was wrongfully terminated. It’s not surprising that they would refute her claims.
These two must pretty much hate each other by now. For them to team up on *anything* makes me side-eye the nanny to some degree. Also this seems pretty over the top?
Yes she cheated and that was cruel and it IS abuse in my opinion. I DO think that him laying in front of the car and not allowing her to leave is manipulative and didn’t just come out of the blue. I also don’t think that his drinking came out of the blue either. They’re relationship didn’t seem like it was good.
And if we are going to say it about the women, then we gotta say it about the men. How you get them is how you lose them. Jason cheated on his first wife with Olivia and left her. Life is about that Karma…she never sleeps. I hope that their babies are okay. And Olivia needs to get therapy ASAP.
Agreed! I’m kind of surprised that so many on this site are so quick to lay this entirely at Olivia’s feet. It seems pretty clear that both Jason is/was abusive too. Is Olivia crappy for cheating on Jason with Harry? Yes. Is it likely her & Jason had been having problems long before the cheating? Yes. Is it likely Jason & Olivia were both manipulating/abusing each other? Yes.
It’s possible to think both people are crappy. I hope the kids and nanny are/will be okay.
Jason got divorced in 2010 and met Olivia in 2011.
Ooooo, I didn’t know they started their relationship by cheating. Then you are right; you lose ’em how you get ’em.
All of this seems a crazy mess. The one thing that always comes to the forefront is above all these people are drama geeks deep down (think of the high school and middle school classmates you had that were in drama … yea) so when you look at any of these everyday tragedies through that lens then their reactions and behavior, save for the physical / mental abuse, makes total sense.
Disgusted.
There are no medals here: No one wins.
They have children involved. The children are going to read this, their classmates, teachers, coaches, future employers are going to read this.
How embarrassing. Have some dignity and realize 10, 11,12 years from now, you’ll still have graduations to attend but the cruelty follows for life.
And hope this bitter nanny is professionally radioactive for the privacy of any future families.
Dude… did you read the texts?
The nanny, the employee who had to deal with this nonsense, was being very unfairly treated.
Yes those texts are horrifying! Both Jason and Olivia treated her appallingly.
And nobody can be surprised that these two self-involved celebrity d-bags treat their employees like crap. It absolutely tracks.
Sounds like she either didn’t sign an NDA before she started to work with them or doesn’t care about violating contract terms even if she did sign one.
Agreed. Reading those texts was horrible! They both treated their nanny in a disgusting way, using her to gaslight the other. I can understand her frustration from being wrongfully terminated. It wasn’t her fault all this ridiculous drama happened between Olivia and Jason (who honestly BOTH look awful in this mess).
I just hope their kids are okay.
Wow. Olivia is beyond callous.
I don’t understand making your child stay in another hotel with their nanny during Thanksgiving.
Wow.
I suspect because Harry was in the same hotel as her and you def not want your kids and nanny to see your side piece SMH
That was total cover because of Harry. I suspect they were probably even sharing a room. No room for the kids in that sort of setup, no?
Being cheated on doesn’t give you a pass for being an asshole. Throwing yourself under someone’s car ? Come on.
Olivia is really indefensible at this point, if you want to leave, leave don’t pretend to want to work things out. She’s really dumb for blowing up her marriage, sabotaging the press around her film for a man that won’t claim her and that come with a toxic fanbase. What a mess.
I think being a little bit of an asshole is okay.
Unpopular Opinion, but I agree. Like a Waiting to Exhale Bernadette moment, “girl, be the asshole and burn up his clothes. Go ahead and put some bleach on them.” 😄
Lol this comment.
Actually, I don’t see a proven lie. It’s apparent that Jason was a heavy drinker and the fact that he threw himself in front of Olivia’s car and that BOTH the nanny herself and Olivia stated they were “afraid” of him tells me he has the clear signs of an abuser. They lived apart for a while and while Jason says it was due to COVID, I know too much about how that goes. She could have wanted distance from him before a final breakup and he never accepted as much. The nanny spent most of her time with Jason and quotes things about the breakup dates and such based on Jason’s own words. Not to mention HE fired her for texting with Olivia. The nanny texted the mother of the children she’s responsible for and the father flipped the F out about it. C’mon.
It’s clear Olivia rebounded immediately, and anyone can think what they want about that. Clearly, she has issues too, but it’s not the ones we think.
It’s a shame this is all out in the open-it really didn’t have to be this messy for the kids. Also, yes—-I NEED to know the recipe for that coveted and valuable salad dressing.
Agree. I think Jason comes off sounding really alarming and unhinged. Lying in front of the car is real abuser stuff. (Olivia doesn’t come off well either, but the Jason stuff raises such alarm bells.)
They clearly needed to not be together.
I’m fairness to JS, this was the mother of his kids who he thought he was going to spend forever with. He found out she was cheating and his world fell apart. Let’s not judge him solely on this moment bc how many people would be calm if this happened?
My read, as well.
Please. They are both toxic and terrible. Lying in front of the car is shitty and abusive, and so is trying to hop a “respect women” bandwagon by retconning your own shitty professional behavior when you clearly do not care about harassment.
The fact that the nanny is even telling this shows that they are both messes (which she is clearly doing for compensation because both Jason and Olivia f*cked up her resume by insisting she “quit”).
Team kids and that’s it.
According to the article, Olivia moved into a hotel at the beginning of November and then broke up with Jason 1 week later. So I don’t really think it suggests that they were living separately for an extended period of time. I do think that they both sound messy and the break up was probably for the best.
The fact that she was openly making a salad for Harry and going to visit him in front of Jason makes me think they were already broken up and he just refused to accept it. Because that’s not the behavior of someone hiding an affair, it’s the behavior of someone who has already openly moved on.
I think Jason is an unreliable narrator here. He’s drinking heavily, using manipulation to prevent her from leaving, and frightening the people around him. Why are people so willing to overlook all that?
Thank you. There’s also the nanny’s video interview — now deleted — in which she claimed not only did Jason follow Olivia around and block her from leaving…he did while holding a baseball bat. o_O
I agree with your take, BouncyChamomile.
I agree with you. She is not an innocent here but Jason has done damage that is clear and the car thing is alarming to me.
Yikes all around. Olivia’s lying sounds borderline pathological at this point. Jason’s reaction sounds horrific. And what kind of Nanny reveals this stuff? I just feel sad for Otis and Daisy here with how they have and will be impacted by all three adults from this story.
As a person who has never liked vegetables, I need to know what is in this salad dressing.
I’m picturing something thick and tangy like thousand island, but maybe it’s, like, a really good oil and vinegar with little specks of parm in it.
I think it was green goddess
In the video interview with the nanny (which was taken down from DM website but can be found on twitter), the nanny also says that Olivia told Jason that Harry was sleeping with Miss Flo, few weeks before Jason found out about her and Harry. Not sure whether Olivia was lying or not but it further explains why Miss Flo wanted to ignore her and Harry in Venice.
Dang.
Sounds like she used flo as a cover for her own affair. And jason and Zack Braff are friends so it makes sense see why flo no longer wants anything to do with Olivia as that potentially caused problems in her own relationship.
Also the message where she says she can’t have the kids because the hotel doesn’t allow kids and then is at Harry’s house.. wtf?
Sounds like classic behavior when an active parent becomes romantically addicted to someone else. Getting that D takes prevalence over everything.
Honestly, to me, the part with Pugh just confirmed what I thpught from Pugh’s reaction all along-it’s about Harry.
You’ll all say I’m crazy, but the part of me who grew up on Televisa Presenta stuff bets that Pugh did have something with Styles (or thought it was going i. That direction) and Olivia ended up with him at the end of the movie. i think that was the thing that triggered Pugh’s anger. Because Pugh is a professional-she had to have seen affairs on set, between actors, director and actors etc. Etc. Making a movie is not a 9-5 job with tightly led schedule-if it’s not somme Lifetime third tier movie, there is always some messiness, some tension which changes the expected flow and ideal schedule. So, after so many years working in the industry, Pugh flips out on a female director because she didn’t do her job enough?? I just…I really do doubt that.
And good on Miss Flo. She did some drastic distancing, but her reasoning was definitely valid. I admire her self-possession.
Hmmm, why was the video taken down?!
That video ALSO had the nanny saying that on top of Jason following Olivia around the house screaming at her while filming it and laying under her car that he did so while carrying a baseball bat No one talking about that part, tho….for some reason. -_-
Potentially the most dramatic thing about this story would be if someone asked Harry and the “special” salad dressing is so unremarkable he doesn’t even recall eating it
My first glimpse of this story was a tweet saying the salad dressing is probably just oil with some lemon juice, salt and pepper.
I bet it’s just a bottle of Newman’s Own that she ripped the label off of.
@Miranda that’s good dressing!
Heartbreaking – The car detail got me.
The whole thing didn’t have to be so damaging, but when some people are done with you, they really make you feel discarded.
I read the story in full on DM and, at the end, the nanny says she was fired, but not given severance pay or was able to file for unemployment b/c the couple insisted the nanny quit. To me, this reads as a way to sell the story for compensation since she was left high and dry by her employers. The story also rings true, especially since she brought the receipts. It calls out both J and O on their lies and bad behavior, so no wonder they agree to discredit this unflattering story in a joint statement. Personally, I’m on Team Nanny. I hope the kids are ok.
I think it was really crappy of them to fire the nanny without severance and to deny that they did it. According to the article in the DM they did put her up in an expensive hotel for a month though, so at least she wasn’t left on the street, but neither of them handled that well.
I feel for the kids – in the middle of all this family upheaval, their nanny gets abruptly fired too.
Yes, I have very much the same take – after reading the full story on DM.
Both Olivia and Jason are horrible in this, with the nanny and kids suffering from it. Being wrongfully terminated and left without the ability for file for unemployment is awful. Honestly can’t blame her for sharing this story for some compensation. She was with the family for three years, and this is the end result? SMH
Those poor kids – all this chaos AND losing their nanny of three years.
The Daily Mail article reads like a really badly written Wattpad story about werewolf teens, complete with bizarre over the top dramatic details and some of the most stilted dialogue I’ve ever seen in those “text messages”. And honestly, given that we know how frequently the DM publishes absolute fiction about the Sussexes, I’m surprised anyone is taking it seriously. This feels more like a desperate tabloid trying to make some cash by capitalizing on the Wilde backlash around DWD and her relationship with Styles, and a dash or two of stirring up drama around Sudeikis in the wake of some industry chatter about why Ted Lasso S3 is taking so long to release.
Lol, this would be a great wattapad story. The possibilities are endless. The Millionaire playboy who shut his heart to love because his ex cheated on him and made salad for someone else. I would read that story.
The fact that that this is coming from “Daily Fail” and the video has been taken down and that Jason and Olivia actually agreed enough to jointly say this was false makes me strongly suspect that a lot of this is made up. It’s pretty over the top. Also, I really don’t think Miss Flo wanted to sleep with Harry.
So if this is true? These are deeply troubled and/or not very nice people. And yeah I’m including Styles in that, no one held a gun to his head to get involved with a women like this (get a grip Stans, he’s clearly no prize). Daily Mail though, so grain of salt.
But wow do I have questions for this nanny. Who told you this was a good idea?! She’ll never get another nanny job (yeah the paper kept her anonymous…but it takes about five minutes of online snooping to identify her). By all means get out a of a bad situation and warn your friends, but going public was not a good idea!!!
Team kids. Olivia sounds like a narcissist and Jason like a whole mess.
Funny how Harry styles mostly goes free of any criticism for the role he plays in this mess.
The ironic thing is he wasn’t even the most talented singer in 1D and he certainly isn’t a talented actor and also seems to have dubious morals. But of course he’s an attractive white cis male so he gets the most powerful people in the business to back his career and goes free of the the type of vitriol levelled at his gf or most people who have affairs with people who have a family with kids.
He isn’t attractive. He looks like he needs a bath.
Thank you! I don’t know why people are obsessed with him. I don’t find him attractive and he can’t act. It’s cool, he can be the Brits version of Justin Timberlake.
Old Hapless Harry rides again!
Team kids 100%
Those poor little ones caught in the middle of this mess.
Homewrecker Harry!
Will he get the same treatment Angelina received for breaking up a family?
So, yeah. I think she’s a liar. But it also seems like she was looking for an escape for a while and couldn’t figure out how to do it.
I read the DM story. Ugly. On both sides.
And don’t most celebs have their hired staff sign Non Disclosure forms?
I don’t like that their Nanny made all these details public. The Nanny could have sued for her severance pay instead, I think.
Their kids are little yet, and all this info will be out for everyone.
As above poster said, kids friends, coaches, etc.
I feel for those kids. Divorce is awful and the kids need to be OK.
ESH – everyone sucks here.
However, I know when my marriage ended, I had my emotional break and knew in my heart it was over months before things actually fell apart. We went to marriage counseling and it was listening to my husband say the craziest things to our therapist while she calmly nodded that made me realize there was nothing left to fight for in our marriage. So, yeah, I’ve been the crazy bitch ex-wife.
What counts as when my marriage was over? The moment he said something I knew ruptured the relationship we had built or when I kicked him out a few months later?
Wow. And good point.
Did you feel that the therapist was fair to you or that she took sides? I’m so curious about marriage counseling; I’m single but haven’t had the best experience with therapists.
i have no reason to play devils advocate for Olivia but here we go anyway- it’s not impossible that the relationship had been slowly dying for some time. She meets Harry, a crush or flirtation sparks, she dumps Jason and she and Harry begin a physical relationship. While extremely hurtful for Jason, and maybe even emotionally cheating, when someone ends a relationship, it’s over, full stop. And lying in front of a car is a little insane- it would not surprise me if he has done different versions of this to her for a while. Also the drinking is a big no for me. As a child of an alcoholic, and the mother of two small kids, I would have noped outta there with my kids pretty fast (after some reasonable attempts to get him sober)
My two cents.
She didn’t take the kids. He was drunk, acting crazy, and she took the salad for her boyfriend but left the kids.
Yeah, this is the most sus part of the whole thing for me. One of these things has to be true: either he wasn’t actually that scary and unhinged or she doesn’t care about leaving her kids in a risky situation.
Harry literally brags about taking drugs in his interviews so while it seems like Jason drank too heavily during the break up it’s not like she is stepping out with some health guru now lol.
Also the article says she was telling her staff that she was gonna marry Jason and the nanny said she would go off with Harry while still telling Jason she loved him which made him more confused. So while I do think Jason sounds like an absolute mess I don’t buy that Olivia left because of of this and either way it sounds like she was sending mixed signals.. Also she has a history of callousness in break up situations. She was pretty ruthless when she ended her marriage to her husband.
Yeah it doesn’t sound like the relationship was over on her end of things if she was talking about marriage. Or rather that he could be blamed for not realizing the relationship was over.
This is heartbreaking. This never should have been made public fodder. No break up is pretty and clearly Jason suffered. She is not a villain – she is a person. Not one of us is perfect and she does not owe us any information about her private life. Gosh. I’m so glad they banded together (Jason + Olivia) to put a stop to this sordid story. The nanny should be ashamed. (No NDA?)
Read these frantic texts from the nanny. She was the one undergoing the fallout at home and Olivia kept minimizing it. Jason would be completely overwhelming the nanny and Olivia would say she didn’t have enough of a signal to call her kids and then date photos with Harry would appear.
At the end she says this: “After flying back to the US, she said she was cut loose without severance pay and has been unable to claim unemployment because Sudeikis and Wilde have claimed she wasn’t fired but resigned.
She said: ‘I got nothing, nothing at all. I asked about severance pay but they didn’t give me anything. It has been terribly difficult for me.”
So apparently Olivia and Jason were able to agree on that if nothing else. So gross
So Jason, a 50-something man, wealthy, powerful and one of her two employers, and the father of the children she was caring for, was behaving so erratic and insane in her workplace that she had to reach out for help constantly…. but it’s all Olivia’s fault and she’s the villainess for wanting to end her marriage to him?
I know this was written to brief against Olivia and the details about her can well be true, but I’m genuinely stunned how many women are viewing this as a positive account of Jason. It makes him sound like an out of control alcoholic who behaved in a way that was terrifying to his household employee even as she was on his side.
I think maybe you intended to respond to a different person, because my comment didn’t say anything about Jason being better and Olivia being worse. My comment is about that I think they’re both terrible, and the horrible treatment of their staff (that they both in the end cosigned) tells a lot about them.
“She was the one undergoing the fallout at home and Olivia kept minimizing it.” That is what I intended to reply to. Like the “fallout at home” was some kind of natural disaster like the toilet overflowing and Olivia was responsible to address it, and wouldn’t.
Instead of: “the wealthy, powerful man who is one of my two employers and the father of these children is acting erratic, scaring me and making my workplace feel unsafe, and he will not stop, act normal, get help if he’s unable to act normal, and provide me with a safe workplace.”
That put the onus for Jason’s erratic and frightening behavioral choices onto himself.
“Fallout” is a pretty common colloquial term to describe a range of disturbances so your comment about that is a bit of a reach.
You know exactly what my previous message was about. That two adults were having marital disputes and their staff was in the crossfire and both adults were well aware of it. And Jason may be responsible for his shitty behavior but if Olivia didn’t see fit to compensate her staff who was in the middle of it and they BOTH agreed to how they treated her, says a lot about her too. Try to stay on topic.
I agree with Lainey’s take on the texts:
“if these are supposedly the most incriminating texts, Olivia comes across as a reasonable person trying to manage a relationship that’s falling apart and still be present for her children while still doing her job.”
No, that’s not how she came across to me. Jason is obviously the worst but Olivia has no sense of urgency in trying to keep the nanny from dealing with the worst. And you know, I could excuse that because I wasn’t there and maybe she was. But if we can sit here and talk about how terrible Jason was in these texts, then there is absolutely no rational reason why she should be siding with him and agreeing that their nanny didn’t deserve compensation or fair treatment during employment. That is the clincher. It’s interesting they managed to agree on that pretty firmly.
@C, I’m with you. I rarely (if ever!) disagree with Lainey, but I do here. It almost makes Olivia sound noble! NO ONE comes across well in any way in this article. My heart breaks for those kids.
ETA: at the end of the day, there’s no way we can really gauge anything based strictly on this article; there’s so, so much more to all of it. But since the post is about the piece in the Fail, that’s what I’m commenting on.
Wow… It’s amazing how her lies always catch up with her.
And in such a ginormously explosive way.
Yikes.
Yet again, multiple things can be the case at the same time. Olivia Wilde can be a cheater who lies and goes out to party while leaving her kids with childcare.
At the same time, Sudeikis can be erratic, controlling, fucking terrifying, and out of control with his drinking. Even in this briefing which was written to portray him as a victim and her as the world’s worst mother (it may be true or not true but that’s what it was written to portray) it makes constant references to his erratic heavy drinking.
That alone would be enough for me to dump a man. If he laid under my car to prevent me going somewhere for ANY reason that would be enough for me to dump a man. I grew up in an abusive household and went straight into a severely abusive relationship for years before it ended with police and courts and I got domestic violence counseling and then therapy.
As a result of all that, there are some flags that are BRIGHT BLARING RED for me, they are red flags for coercive control. Laying under someone’s vehicle is such a red flag for me, I wouldn’t even be friends with someone if I found out they had done that to someone else. Normal people don’t behave that way. You have to be so far gone into thinking coercive control is okay before you get on the ground under someone’s tires. Again, with a lot of these things, some women romanticize it. “Oh he must just love her so much!” I heard that so often from these kind of people regarding my ex. “Oh he just loves you so much!” NOPE. I was his thing, his object, and he controlled my every move.
Oh, and my ex was also extremely charming so when I finally escaped from the situation, even though I had been lifted off my feet and thrown down stairs and they KNEW IT, there were still a number of women in former our social circle lining up to be next. Let’s just say his next relationship ended with him in jail. But I’m seeing shades of that in this story, with the nanny being oh so in his favor despite him displaying scary red flags even in her retelling.
This! Lola i completely agree with you and I am so sorry you had to go throuh all that! Congratulations on stopping the cycle in your family! Whoop whoop, that is such a big feat and anourmous success! I wish you all the best in the years to come.
☝️This!
I can’t believe her take on the sex in the movie. She is gross for selling it as FEMINISM. In what way? Her pro-female schtick is off-putting and very damaging. Olivia and her statement t-shirts can go suck it.
Once you find out the actual context of the sex scenes in the movie, i.e. “it’s all fake,” it ruins the uh, feminism there, doesn’t it?
The nanny put up with a torrent of abuse, Sudeikis dragged her to couples counseling sessions as well and signed her up with his life coach – without asking her first – so the guy could pump her for information, and with everything she put up with, neither he nor Olivia Wilde saw fit to compensate her properly after she fled an abusive work environment, thus also financially abusing her.
I don’t blame the nanny one bit for going public, and I hope other celebrity couples with nannies take note – don’t screw with your hired help. Even an NDA won’t protect you if you screw with their livelihood, safety, or compensation. And I hope more of the people hired by these fools refuse to sign NDAs. You want excellent help? Pay them what they’re worth and treat them like the human beings they are.
Yeah, this is the biggest takeaway in this story for me.
Hard agree.
Plus I really feel for the kids – this must be terrible for them.
On the lighter side- anyone else here watch Yellowjackets?
The salad dressing is akin to Jeff finding out about murder and adultery and the final blow…..
There’s no book club!?!?!?!?!?
The end of relationships are messy.
And she made poor decisions while getting out- but yikes, he sounds toxic.
Thank goodness for the nanny actually taking note of the children at some point.
“There’s no book club???!!!” Was the greatest line delivered on tv this year. Chef’s kiss! I still think of that line and giggle to myself.
Before that episode aired, Melanie said the episode contained her favourite line reading ever. All the lols.
Say what you like – Olivia moving into the “Paramour Hotel” is a literal kick in the teeth.
Oh man, somehow I didn’t even catch that
Filming someone trying to leave the house and then laying under their car to stop them is from the coercive control playbook. What’s here paints a picture of a man who any woman should leave. Good for her.
Yes. Jason sounds unhinged.
It sounds like they both have serious issues. I feel for those children.
That said, I am going to say that I think Olivia is at least a little more in the wrong here? She was talking about marrying her partner, with whom she has two young kids, and then a month or so later is banging the lead man on a film she is directing, all while leaving her kids with an unhinged man, behaving like a besotted, irresponsible teen at work and throwing her lead actress under the bus by claiming SHE is the one sleeping with HS? Meanwhile Florence was still with ZB at the time.
Plus, the salad dressing! Within families, the worst, most lasting and hurtful arguments so often come down to food.
I’m not excusing Jason’s behavior. He’s drinking around the children, being a d**k to their caregiver…..and then there’s the car. Yes, lying under someone’s car to keep them from leaving is unhinged and controlling and maybe abusive. But he had just been dumped and deceived by the woman he thought he was about to marry, so I am willing to guess he was having something of a breakdown. People often come undone at moments of emotional crisis.
Both of them behaved badly. Both of them ended up mistreating people who had nothing to do with their marital problems, like Florence and the Nanny (especially the Nanny. That was inexcusable). I just think Olivia spread her chaos a little further and was more callous in the process.
I’m going a little harder on her because she wasn’t the one reeling from being left, lied to, cheated on and rejected. That kind of heartbreak HURTS. It hurts physically, and it can cause people to act a little nuts. If Jason did that to his former wife, then, well, Karma’s a bitch and he deserves it. But still, in the context, his behavior, while not excusable, is a little more understandable.
Then what’s the difference between his behavior as described in the story, and that of Alice Eve? When a woman behaves like an unhinged nutcase to stop someone leaving for someone else, she’s off her rocker and needs to have custody stripped and maybe a conservator. When a man does it, well he’s heartbroken and it’s understandable……….
Alice Evans was on social media for months on end trashing her husband, insulting and even borderline threatening his new partner. She dragged her children into it again and again. There are some parallels between her behavior and Jason’s, including the drinking. The difference is Alice’s behavior was far more public and prolonged. It was scary.
I think Jason needs/needed help and hopefully got it and is still getting it. I don’t find his behavior excusable at all. Like I said, he seems to have had a breakdown. But as far as we know it wasn’t sustained for over a year, and he wasn’t riling up a crowd of followers on social media like Alice did. She was creating a whole other monster, in a way.
Alice is going public with her fury and it’s hurting her children. Jason was privately furious, as we all would be.
jason has better agent and PR. and he’s a man. let’s be honest here, that is what the difference is.
In the now-deleted video interview, the nanny stated Jason also had a baseball bat while he was following Olivia around the house. That is the type of man you **LIE TO** until you have your escape plan set. She left the kids with the nanny and then won them in the custody battle. Clearly, Jason is not to be trusted with his own children.
This. To me, his side of the story sounds…not really true, just what he wanted to present to the nanny.
She sounds like someone who checked out of the relationship and it wouldn’t surprise that she was either lying because she was trying to think of the safest way hot to exit the relationship OR that she was actually trying to end it even before, but he wasn’t acceptung of it.(ergo the scene with the car-come on, she lived with him people-you think it’s easy to break up with that kind of man?)
I’m a little surprised at the angle taken here. Olivia Wilde is a shitty person and a bad boss. Jason Sudeikis laid down in front of a car to prevent someone from leaving, scared both his partner and his nanny, and is also a bad boss.
Just because Olivia sucks doesn’t mean Jason is sympathetic. Sometimes there are multiple bad people in a story.
Thank you. I’m kind of disgusted how people keep giving Jason a pass. Being cheated on-and frankly, he sounds like he was gaslighting so it is possible she did dump him and he just wouldn’t accept no-is not an excuse or justification to be a manipulative piece of sh*t. Maybe it’s an American thing, but I’ve seen it on reddit too where people use being cheated on to act psychotic and everyone gives them as pass because of the reason why. Frankly, the fact that both the nanny and Olivia were scared of him is telling….and yet people are making jokes about salad dressing and woobifying Jason
There’s no real sympathetic figures in this story, imo, except the nanny, and people need to stop giving men passes for acting psychotic and for what sounds like emotional abuse.
@DIV American here. From my experience with only dating American men thus far, I have been petrified to break up with boyfriends because of previous boyfriends reactions. My first bf threatened to killed me with a gun and I had to call the cops on him. My 2nd bf threatened suicide multiple times and showed up at 6am with a 5 page written letter. I had another ex cry hysterically and say he is just going to end up another story. I find many men have an issue with rejection and it severely crushes their ego and they literally become psychotic and have violent or severely emotional reactions. At best, I have dealt with a severely emotionally distraught person who would beg and plead me.. I think toxic masculinity plays a role here and how American’s raise their sons. I am scarily not surprised by Jason ‘s reaction here, but it is awful nonetheless. They both sound like a toxic mess.
I think most people here are on they are both absolutely terrible train. I do have some sympathy for Jason re: the dressing story but his behaviour reads as deeply manipulative. I mean, they both seem like manipulative jerks.
The moral of the story is: TREAT YOUR EMPLOYEES WITH RESPECT AND PAY THEM FAIRLY AND TIMELY
She may be a bad boss to work for, but he sounds really manipulative and abusive, what with yelling, drinking and laying under the car in order to prevent her from leaving. Anyway those poor, poor kids.
They should have paid the nanny and not lied about her quitting and then not being able to get unemployment. Never mess with people’s income.
As we live off this gossip, let us all remember Olivia and Jason are people too.
A statement from Olivia and Jason
“As parents, it is incredibly upsetting to learn that a former nanny of our two young children would choose to make such false and scurrilous accusations about us publicly. Her now 18 month long campaign of harassing us, as well as loved ones, close friends and colleagues, has reached its unfortunate apex. We will continue to focus on raising and protecting our children with the sincere hope that she will now choose to leave our family alone.”
Of course they’ll say she’s making scurrilous accusations – they did everything they could not to pay her what she deserved. The gall of Olivia banding with him after all of his bullshit to say their former exploited employee is harassing them with an 18th month campaign. Both of them are terrible people.
Hard agree. They deliberately involved their nanny in a horrible personal situation, then forced her to resign so she couldn’t claim severance pay. Then OW threw Miss Flo under the bus — who seems to be the only one who behaved with maturity and discretion throughout the whole ordeal. They both sound like garbage human beings — manipulative, self-obsessed and deceitful. I only hope their kids are OK after all this chaos.
I completely agree @C and @Jaded. How they treated their nanny tells me everything I need to know about them.
Eh, Jason seems deeply controlling and manipulative in his private life. I find it completely possible that statement was written by his PR, and he “blackmailed” Olivia with some damagingn info to go with it.
What 18-month campaign of harassing their family are they talking about?? Am I missing something?
Of course, these two would make a joint statement like that. The texts and account from the nanny make BOTH of them look manipulative, abusive, gaslighting assholes. With the nanny and kids in the middle of their chaos. Maybe if they paid her properly this never would have happened! 🙄
They screwed with her financial livelihood. Tell me how you would react to that????
Yeah it’s not escaping my notice that in the midst of their family and custody squabbles, they managed to agree on standing together against the working class person “threatening” them.
@C
Exactly! They probably hate and despise each other at this point, but when the nanny reveals their ugly, dirty laundry (INCLUDING how she was not paid severance and couldn’t collect unemployment due to their lies about her departure), now they can come together?
Sure, Jan.
To me that signals everything the nanny claimed, is true.
Thanks Kaiser for summing it up accurately. I started to read a few comments and don’t understand how people came to a different conclusion. I hope they move forward in the best way they can for their children.
I’ve gotten dragged by other commentators about how it isn’t technically cheating as no party took any vows. Call me old fashioned but I think Harry and Olivia are both cheaters. I just don’t understand the new morals.
Well, they broke up and I think it was for the best. She cheated. I like Harry Styles, but I don’t like her I never did. Jason looks better now. I think he stopped drinking. I’ll say he was manipulative, but I won’t make assumptions about previous behavior that she hasn’t. She could have and she didn’t. It was a messy drunk period for him. I’m glad he went to therapy. She left because she wanted Harry Styles. If she was worried about his behavior and still left him with the kids that would be a little disturbing. He had a nanny and his sister there at times but still. Was Harry Styles at the hotel and she didn’t want him there with her children? So she missed spending some time with her children. This period would be dissected in court if either one bring it up. He seems to be a good dad hopefully he’ll stay involved. She’s right a father wouldn’t be judged as much as a mother, but I do judge from a small view. I’ll be honest. They denied the nanny’s story and it was a few texts. Maybe this was a bad crazy week or few weeks. I don’t know. Hopefully the children are happy and healthy. They should have paid the nanny if it was a bad work environment that made her leave.
I know the salad is the least of the story – but like, is she carrying it in a Tupperware bowl with a lid? Or something covered over the top with saran wrap? Or foil? Did she seatbelt it into the car so it wouldn’t slide off the seat? Or put a towel around it? Do rich people cars have racks for potluck dishes? I’m midwestern. These are the questions we face every day.
I think the dressing or salad & dressing were put in a glass bowl with a beautifully patterned cloth, bound by jute twine. Making the salad in the family home was cruel.
I also think this is a story about class exploitation. That these two could be at war yet find away to screw over a woman who took care of their children (while under profound pressure) shows that they are BOTH terrible, greedy human beings.
Messy. I am still just team Otis/Daisy.
They are both awful, no doubt but a few things stuck out to me.
1. Messy people are messy. All around. This situation and her latest movie are disasters as far as drama. Most of her cast won’t even talk to her or show up for premiers. The cast of Ted Lasso adores Jason and are begging him to do more seasons. They hang out together all the time while not on set. He spoke about the break up in one article (gq maybe) and it was mainly about him getting over the break up, not her. She publicly trashed him in all interviews leading up to the recent movie release.
2. The nanny is right, she should have been allowed to say goodbye to the children especially since she seemed to be the one constant they had between locations etc for a few years. My son still hangs out with his old nanny even though he is too old for a babysitter bc they truly love each other. Neither one of them seemed to consider the feelings of the children at all in letting her go.
3. Her staying in a hotel that doesn’t allow kids with Harry really says it all. Who does that? You can’t be away from your boyfriend when your kids are in town?? Or he can’t hang out at a new hotel while they are there?
I have no idea what anyone sees in Harry. He tries way too hard.
If it’s true, then the way they treated the nanny is appalling. Both in how they let her go and also in how they seemingly both used her in their manipulations of one another and as an emotional crutch. Like, did I read that right, and the NANNY was brought to some of the therapy sessions? What on earth? I question the nanny’s choice to release all of this, and yet she was very obviously treated inappropriately and very badly by her employers and left without recourse and it damaged her career.
I feel I should preface this with: I have a strong dislike for both these people, and everyone here looks awful. That said:
While Jason’s behavior with the drinking and attempting to refuse to let her leave is CLEARLY bad, like properly scary abusive bad, it’s worth noting it’s behavior that exploded under extreme duress. I don’t know, all the jokes about the salad dressing…it makes me sad? It happened to be a salad, but it could have been anything, Sunday morning pancakes, a special dessert, ect. It’s the behavior behind it, her making a point of weaponizing something she knew was special to her family and making sure he saw she was sharing it with her *new* person. Cripes, that is MEAN. I cannot get past my gut feeling that Olivia is just a cruel and callous person.
As many of you said above, I agree with the fact that this situation goes Way Beyond her obviously overlapping relationships and being a messy person, not ending her first relationship before jumping into the next one.
my problem here is Jason. he keep in mind this is just some of the things that Nanny’s told us there’s more they’re always is with someone that exhibits that type of behavior. while I do not support her igniting the situation by choosing to be selfish and overlap relationships his behavior is both scary alarming and toxic and uncalled for. those are traits that I myself have seen in my seen to be ex-husband.
no matter what wrong anyone does to someone and while it is not right, to have someone threaten to kill themselves, threaten suicide, throw themselves in front of the vehicle, yeah I had that happen to me several times, including in a Courthouse parking lot, I can imagine what she went through behind closed doors. so I can understand why she left. that behavior doesn’t start when you leave it starts before you leave and that amplifies once you do. it is scary you really do get scared of that person, because it’s a whole different person and especially if they’re not sober.
with that being said, this is definitely also highlights another point that isn’t discussed on this particular post that he had the lawyer serve her on purpose like that. knowing that he has these kind of tendencies I do not believe his narrative I believe he did it completely on purpose. anyone exhibiting these type of toxic behaviors, saying around kids she’s leaving us it’s bad I’m telling y’all it’s bad and there’s more that’s not in the news and as somebody that’s been in those shoes the relationship was over before Harry. I wouldn’t be surprised to find out he was just an excuse to bury it.
person like that they turn into a monster behind closed doors because they’re not acting mentally well, and are so desperate not to lose their loved one and family they don’t realize how damaging and abusive their behavior and actions are towards their love ones around them and they sometimes escalate.
I’m not going to lie to this gave me flashbacks reading that and I got chills because I know that behavior all too well first hand and I’m able to express it today without fear. somebody that has those type of Tendencies the best thing for kids and the other partner involved is to leave however she should have been a real woman and not hop on another guy while doing it, that’s what made him act out even more. just wow.
I don’t respect her for her poor decisions in the relationship however I respect her as a woman and a mother as I am one myself on leaving. it’s the only way to ensure you and any children involved are safe and expose as less as possible to that type of behavior. and the nanny isn’t lying it really is some scary Behavior to see……
I agree with you and I’m so sorry you experienced that.
But I gotta know — what is in the special salad dressing???
love 🙁
lol
Nobody ever knows anything about the mechanics of a relationship they are not in (or even if they are). That said, I think she was ambivalent about her relationship, so she fell hard for the cute singer, and when you’ve fallen hard you can behave like an d—. Then, he reacted because her leaving was devastating to him. The nanny was caught in the middle of human drama, as many a nanny has, and neither of these very worldly actors apparently saw to give her a meaningful severance and an NDA.
Well she also fell hard for Jason and behaved like a d***k to her ex husband. So it seems this callous behaviour is less to do with “ the cute singer” and more to do with her personality..
Nannies that work for celebs sign NDA’s. How would this nanny get away with spilling all this “tea”? I’m not sure I believe much of this. The salad part was hilarious though.
Totally relate, never have forgotten the moment I opened the ice-cream and it was all soupy warm……it’s warm because it sat in the car for half an hour while he wasn’t ‘at the office’ and I even blurted in similar fashion a month later: That’s why the ice-cream was all melted!!!! when flags become dressing/ice-cream and then confirmed with gut-wrenching texts……..
Could the Nanny please give us the special salad dressing recipe? If not, here’s a great recipe for Thanksgiving,. Two apples chopped, two pears chopped, a bag of romaine lettuce, 1 package slivered almonds, 1 package shredded Swiss cheese, 1package dried cranberries, sliced red onion and top with any poppyseed dressing you like. A little goes a long way. Everyone loves this salad!
I don’t know why but I’m howling at this comment. Thank you Shojo, it does sound good!
Same 😂
Himpathy is real and rampant I see.
I don’t see anything wrong with having some sympathy with someone whose partner cheated on them, lied about it, and left. This isn’t about gender. Jason behaved badly in reaction but that doesn’t mean he can’t have been deeply hurt and deserve a little sympathy.
If he mistreated Olivia during their relationship, then I have sympathy for her too. I have sympathy for the kids and the Nanny too. It’s not an either/or issue.
Tiffany, I can accept that lying under the car was abusive. So he behaved abusively, but it didn’t come out of the blue and as far as we know it wasn’t part of an ongoing pattern. I agree with Scarlett. Life is full of nuance.
This makes me think about the movie “Walk The Line,” about Johnny Cash and June Carter Cash. Johnny’s first wife, the mother of his four daughters, realized that he was in love with June and hung up on her to the point that he was insisting on hanging pictures of her with his band all over his study or man cave, whatever it was. Mind you, he HAD cheated on her with June while on tour.
She kind of freaked out, grabbed his pictures and as I recall, threw at least one of them down. She might have thrown other things at him. Certainly she got very angry. Then she put the kids in the car and drove off fast. Was it abusive to trash his stuff? Maybe. But I can certainly understand why she did. He was cheating on her with someone from work and kind of rubbing it in her face. The pictures were like the salad dressing.
It really hurts to have someone cheat on you and lie to you. Olivia wasn’t just Jason’s girlfriend. She was his life partner and the co-parent of their two young kids. They shared a home. Being betrayed like that and watching your life fall apart can trigger people to do things they wouldn’t otherwise do.
He literally was holding a baseball bat (according to the nanny’s video interview) while chasing Olivia around the house with his camera phone while in a drunken rage. I’d bet the farm that Wilde **DID** break up with him. He’s just the type of man who doesn’t take “no” for an answer.
I remember some objections about Vivian “looking bad” in that movie. I was all “hey, he was treating her like crap.” I was all, he’s the one that looks bad! Look what he was doing at the time!
If Olivia lied about flo and Harry that’s not cool. Absolutely. But I think it’s funny everyone assumes it’s a lie. We really don’t know that.
I really don’t think it must have been a lie. Considering Pugh’s reaction to everything, I think it’s a very real possibility. Pugh acts like someone with hurt ego, not someone who is appalled at unprofesionalism (because, essentially, to bail on promotion campaign is very unprofessional).
Seeing that not many of you have been gaslit to the point of insanity and it shows. Lucky you. There are a lot of things that I did in desperation and despair that I am not proud of in the midst of my narcissistic partner leaving me. Including barricading the door with my own body to try to stop him. You better believe that I was not in my right mind when I did that. The fact that any of you can defend Olivia is astounding. The man’s life was burning down around him. His wife left their family to go get her rocks off with a boybander. The abused party in this story is Jason – not Olivia. If Olivia was so afraid of Jason, she wouldn’t have left her babies there with him – nanny or no nanny. Full stop.
No, Jason wasn’t abused. You have two women (Olivia and Nanny) telling Jason he is scaring them. He is 100% the abusive party here.
Life is full of nuance. Demonstrating “scary” and out of character behavior for a period of time is not necessarily abusive. We do not know that this was Jason’s general character. A lot of you seem to have no problem assuming that this reactionary period is reflective of his overall character – there is no evidence of this. Sometimes people react badly when they are put in terrible situations. That doesn’t make their actions 100% okay, but it does make them understandable within context. Prolonged lying to one’s partner about your intentions within the relationship, cheating, and outright ignoring said partner and your shared children is absolutely abusive – for which there seem to be a plethora of receipts to demonstrate are indicative of Olivia’s long term behavior whilst this situation took place.
The nanny and the children are absolutely the biggest victims in this story overall, but Jason clearly deserves some grace given the context of the situation and demonstrative gaslighting that he was enduring.
Laying under a car so a person can’t leave is textbook abuse. It is controlling behavior by using the threat of violence or self harm.
It doesn’t matter if abuse happens 1 time or everyday…it is still abuse.
Man, the Depp/Heard news cycle did everyone badly with dv education.
Reactive abuse isn’t equal to abuse. It’s the response of the victimized partner. Mutual abuse does not exist as abuse is about power and control with the abuser leveraging their perceived power against the victim. There is a primary aggressor and it’s based not on one incidence but a pattern.
The gaslighting is the worst part. She leaves loveydovey phone messages and goes to therapy to fake interest in saving their relationship. Then she tells Jason that Florence Pugh is having an affair with Styles. It’s no wonder he became unhinged. This seems worse than just having a sneaky affair.
Scarlett, I’m sorry this happened to you and hope all is now well.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Tough lessons.
It’s almost like when leaving a man who would follow you around the house in a drunken rage while wielding a baseball bat (according to the nanny’s video interview) requires one to **LIE** about their intentions and feelings until the jumping-off plan is locked in stone. At least she didn’t have to use burner phones a la Katie Holmes.
Scarlett thank you for putting it so clearly. The gaslighting and the lies will literally make you act crazy! I’ve seen it first hand and I know too well the anxious and desperate feeling of trying to understand that person you thought you knew was a lie all along.
Tiffany, I encourage you to look up the term “reactive abuse”. Nothing about situations like this are black and white. Again, life is full of nuance.
Scarlett, breaking up with someone is not abuse. He might have been hurt, but it does not excuse his abuse of Olivia.
I always knew Olivia was shitty and she has always struck me as the kind of woman who lies, cheats, throws other women under the bus, and shits on hired help. No surprises here. I’m also not surprised she made that salad to taunt and be extra vicious to Jason. The cruelty was the point. Some people are just vicious and cruel and they get off on crushing another person’s spirit. I have a stepmother like that – a vile person who delights in other people’s pain. May she rot in hell.
I always had a question mark about Jason and now I have to conclude he is a pretty shitty person. The standard I use to assess a person’s character is how they treat the people they have power over or who can’t do anything for them career wise or socially. By that standard, Jason is a crap person. Yes the cast and crew of Ted Lasso love him but it’s not uncommon for crap people to be lovely to crew on sets. Crew talk to the media. Being shitty to crew nowadays can affect your livelihood. But the nanny in this situation had no power, or at least he thought she didn’t. He treated her appallingly, so based on that and that alone – he’s a crap person.
He exhibits other behavior that is very alarming to me – but the treatment of the nanny is a gigantic red flag for me. There is no excuse for that and no valid explanation. You can say he laid under the car in distress or was drinking because he was heartbroken, but to leave someone in your employ high and dry like this is just cruel. He’s a very rich man who refused to give someone severance pay so he can save a nickel. It’s so gross. So while I sympathize with him about the salad, it’s a limited amount of sympathy because he turned around and was just as cruel to the person taking care of his children.
Their poor kids. Two narcissistic, manipulative, vindictive and vicious parents.
As for Harry he doesn’t come off well here at all. I’m willing to bet though that Olivia blurred her timelines and presented herself as a single parent to him who had already broken up with JS. He’d be wise to cut and run from this situation and never look back.
Not a fan of Jason or Olivia but interesting how you make excuses for harry but go hard on everybody else. Harry is an overprivileged white male who has always got what he wanted. It’s not at all too far fetched to think he wanted Olivia and didn’t care about the consequences. After all her looks are right up his street and it’s not the first time he was involved with someone who is married or engaged. Despite flirting with men and lizzo for clout. He only dates skinny blondes or models who are considered conventional looking beauties. Olivia even resembles his ex Camille.
I don’t make excuses for Harry and I don’t even like him. I didn’t go as “hard” on him because Olivia is a proven compulsive liar, so I don’t want to assume he knew the status of OW and JS’s relationship. But if he did know they were getting married in a month or so – I mean are we assuming OW was honest with Harry while being deeply dishonest with the media and everyone else? Ok let’s go there and make that assumption that she told Harry and only Harry the truth – then you’re right that would make Harry scum and probably a great match for OW. I’d love to know more about Harry actually did know and when but he’s been pretty quiet on the matter so we’re stuck with OW’s word – which ain’t much.
Let’s not forget this the woman who was quoted as saying relationships have a seven year shelf-life. Team kids. They are both awful.
Ripping from a different article on this:
“i know we are all understandably focused on olivia wilde’s salad dressing but we shouldn’t overlook jason sudeikis texting hashtag believe to the nanny he is about to throw out of the house”
#believe
https://twitter.com/gelrdrgz/status/1582094948375007232?s=46&t=AdDXSWLXO4OmDBp5–BG8g
OmG, this is really tellying everything about his character. 😳 If OW is duplicious, he is a whole new level of it!
I’m serious. This is gaslighting.
Everyone involved in that household is messed up AF.
I feel really bad for the kids.
The nanny may have been treated badly but she’s tacky at best for running to the daily mail.
My question remains: WTF is Harry getting out of all this?! If I was in his shoes, I would RUN from this mess. No salad dressing is that good.
All I care about right now is this secret salad dressing recipe.
I second this!
I bet it’s the homemade Thousand Island recipe my mom had as a kid involving mayo, chili sauce of some kind (I don’t remember what, please do not make this recipe based on what I say) and pickle relish.
Sounds amazing, Jennifer. I’ve also had an amazing salad that has two sauces mixed together that was phenomenal as a combination. (1) sweet balsamic glaze + (2) thinned out Romesco sauce. It was incredible. The place that made it has long shut down and I’m too lazy to make it myself regularly.
@Sally sorry for the late reply and thank you for your kind words. I can say that you can have somebody do all the stuff that Jason’s doing and not be cheated on, as in my case, it’s something else going on emotionally and mentally, and it’s only heighten with that type of climate. And no matter what, when it’s to that point, children and other personal safety is a must.
What I’m hearing is that she had left. He thought it was a temporary break and that she’d be back, she knew it wasn’t. Is that cheating? Honest question. Messy as hell, for sure, but not sure that’s the same as cheating and lying about it.
Covid did a number on all manner of relationships. Seeing your partner day in and day out, being with yourself day in and day out, realizing unhealthy dynamics you had been ignoring, etc.
I’ve been the one that’s mentally checked out first and I’ve been straight up lied to and cheated on during a relationship for a significant amount of time before it ended. Would I have grabbed a jump off like HS if the opportunity presented itself after I was already mostly done except for habit and familiarity? Maybe probably?
I’m divorced now and still carrying the majority of the mental and physical parenting load. There is a part of me that applauds OW for living her life on her own time leaving JS and the nanny to you know parent and be a nanny without her. It’s a hard thing to do when you’re conditioned to always be the one putting your needs to the side.
I think it’s cheating. I mean, when you are living together, have two children and are talking about a wedding, then a month or so later you’ve left and are sleeping with someone else on the reg? And apparently getting hot and heavy with them? That’s a little too close for comfort.
Which is not to say she didn’t have reasons for wanting out of the relationship, or didn’t have a right to move on. But the way she did it was pretty uncool. I am not defending Jason’s reaction, just saying that yes, it strikes me as cheating.
I feel like that “you’ve left” part is pretty key though. Is it abrupt? Yes. Is it sh-tty? Yeah, probably. But is it actually cheating? From the info presented here, I’m really not sure. Moving on inappropriately fast isn’t necessarily proof of cheating, although it very well could be evidence that they were together sooner.
DListed had a “joint” statement claiming the nanny is lying, but that “joint” statement suuuuure sounds like Olivia’s writing/speaking style.
Meanwhile, the nanny’s story matches Jason’s story.
The nanny’s story also makes it clear Jason acted like a maniac while his relationship was imploding, but to me, Jason saying “then why are you leaving your kids with me?” is pretty damning. Because yeah: If Olivia was scared of him (and a good mother), then she’d be taking the kids too.
Mommy was off to bang. And she was gaslighting her kids’ father by co-opting the language of victims, which is absolutely something gaslighters do.
I think you nailed this and could not agree more.
Also, nothing about Olivia’s recent behavior indicates she’s credible or honest.
Shame on women who leave their crazy and draining husbands and want to bang someone who is better for them, fun, young and possibly not crazy. Shame on them.
@lizzie
Not really but shame on women who throw much younger women under the bus in order to cover up their cheating and suck up to abusers.
@Lizzie
Shame on lying cheaters and also predators who go after their young employees, is how I would’ve put it.
I am going to join Shojo in offering a salad recipe that works well for the holidays and any time, really:
Mix some walnuts (toasted or not), slivered or chopped red onion, and pomegranate seeds with equal parts olive oil and balsamic vinegar plus salt and pepper to taste. This can be done as much as three hours in advance. Before serving, add baby arugula (you can use mixed baby greens but baby arugula is best) and toss. Adjust seasonings as desired. Serve. Always a winner at my house, with guests and family.
It’s not the Sudeikis/Wilde special salad dressing, but it’s good and pretty healthy.
I love love love arugula. And salads. Thanks for the recipes.
A personal favorite salad recipe for my whole family:
Go to the grocery store and locate the Buffalo Ranch bagged salad kit. Taylor Farms is fine but Dole uses French’s onions in theirs instead of croutons. Mix. Add chicken if you want.
Willing to bet this is Olivia’s go to
why is the article gone from the Daily Fail?
I keep hearing reports of it being off and on gone, along with the video.
The video interview of the nanny is gone. Was almost immediately. I caught some of it on a small YouTube channel. Not even sure if that is still up?
I would venture a guess that Jason and Olivia threatened some legal action to get it removed?? Just so strange DM did that interview (and presumably paid for it), and then it just disappears.
I found the video interview still on YouTube (for now). And it’s only part of it, apparently.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23Nr6lUB7a0&t=6s
This is the Daily Fail. Believing it just because it confirms your priors is not smart.
Also the amount of “It’s okay to abuse a woman if she does anything wrong” here is off the charts. That’s pretty normal for society generally, but here people pride themselves on defending abuse victims… until those abuse victims aren’t perfect. (And/or are dating a popular male celebrity.)
But I don’t believe it anyway.
This feels like a pile on to me. She is in bad light due to the Florence and Sia drama, now they are paying the Nanny for stories. Obviously Olivia puts herself on a better light with the separation and new relationship but that does not mean she needs to badger all the time by everone. I really feel sad for Jason if the separation blindsided him. Unfortunately men do that all the time. I hope he can manage his hurt. Wishing them both peace. It is not good for the children.
Yes, this totally seems like a pile on to me too.
Oh man, I feel so bad for their kids. Jason seems to be out of controll and in a bad place and Olivia clearly has other priorities (read: banging Harry Styles) and doesn’t seem to care how f*cking awful she’s acting because of that.
She should have been honest but at the same time, personal ethics, morals, relationship ethics, etc, shouldn’t be an issue with celebrities. They’re just entertainers. We don’t need moral leadership from them. (or perhaps from anyone?)
I don’t think Jason acted perfectly to say the least, but the victim blaming I see in so many comments, it really bothers me. Olivia is also abusive – that is what cheating is. the crap chumps receive for their totally human trauma responses (and yes sometimes being out of control) to being cheated on…it makes me sick. people start pointing finger at the chump like they deserved it. They don’t. Chumps don’t make cheaters cheat
Most likely, this woman was very unhappy and then she met someone who makes her happier. It happens every day. The sadistic hatred women receive for daring to want to be happy and for leaving their boring and draining – and in this case, very mentally unstable – husbands is deranged.
Hi, Olivia. You’re not convincing anyone, you know.
I’m really confused reading the texts as to what is going on.
I feel like this article is trying really hard to get us to hate her. It was unfortunate she blindsided him and she fell for a much younger man. Selfish and inconsiderate to say the least. He sounds like he really went off the deep end here but he also seems to be the one constantly briefing. Also, pay your staff, pay them well and have them sign NDAs if you want your business to stay private. It’s a messy breakup, feel bad for the kids, and Wilde isn’t playing by the good mother rules, because she put herself and her pleasure first. This one is gonna stay messy for a while.
Harry is only 10 years younger than Olivia. Lots of perfectly normal (non show biz) couples have similar gaps. Harry is no babe in the woods.
Ok. I thought it was 12/13 years. Not that there’s anything wrong with the gap. Also the person left out of this he said/she said still looking cute and shiny is Harry Styles, the Count Vronsky to Wilde’s Anna Karenina, lol.
Yes, the article seems to be targeting the woman, and making unsubstantiated claims against a woman who simply left her husband in a less than perfect way, for someone who might be better for her. Good for her.
Coming in late to this to say that DM now has a story up saying OW “gave away her dog” so she’d have more time for Harry
OK, that is crummy.
Dogs rule!
Btw, still Team Kids.
the escalation of the whole salad dressing fiasco, holy guacamole!!!
OMG, a woman is making a salad for her new boyfriend. The audacity, the cruelty, the arrogance. LOL
Hey, does anyone remember when the story broke about Simon Rex being approached by a British tabloid that offered to pay him to lie about having had a secret sexual relationship with Meghan Markle? Which tabloid was it — was it the Mail?
Just saying. Folks here seem to get that the Mail is not at all a reputable source when they print complete lies about the Sussexes, I’m blown away by how that goes right out the window when it comes to the rest of their “reporting”.
Y’all Olivia posted the salad dressing recipe!!!!
Not gonna stan for Olivia after the Florence Pugh/Shia situation, but I’m really glad there are at least a few folks here who see that Jason’s behavior here was manipulative at best. Incredibly threatening. It’s not okay to threaten harm to yourself just like it’s not okay to threaten harm to others. And to prevent someone from leaving? That’s some stalker ish. I’ve gotten restraining orders after similar behavior.
I was watching “Better Things” last night which was directed by Pamela Adlon. The show is so well done!! Wow, a female director who is professional, seeks to uplift her cast and crew, and who worked through the Louis CK drama at the same time.
….In comparison, we have this other female actor/director who is seeking clout and fame and sex, not to be recognized her work ethic, not her talent. Sorry, OW, you are a boring and predictable social climber. When are you planning your own line of candles or skin care?
It all sounds pretty ordinary to me. The woman was done, but it took time to leave her husband, as it usually does. “She lied to us” about how she left LOL Why would “us” be entitled to accurate details from someone’s personal and intimate life? She can tell what ever story she wants.