Remember last year, when Olivia Wilde’s drama-queen persona became mainstream public knowledge? Perhaps many people knew for years that Wilde is a lying a–hole (I certainly did), but the chaos of the “Miss Flo” situation unfolding at the Venice Film Festival really took Olivia’s problematic nature mainstream. You would think someone would tell Olivia to just lay low and don’t cause any drama for, like, a year. Hope that people forget and move on. Well, she can’t do that. It’s not in her nature. Her nature is to center herself at all times, in every situation, even the Super Bowl Halftime Show.
So, Olivia watched the Halftime Show and she saw a visibly pregnant Rihanna perform her hits on a thin sheet of plexiglass up in the air. Olivia saw all that and decided to praise… ASAP Rocky, Rihanna’s partner. Don’t you understand, Olivia thought Rocky needed to be singled out and praised for “supporting” Rihanna. Here’s her creepy post on Instagram:
“If I thought he was hot before, this really put me over the edge,” she wrote, tagging Rihanna and ASAP Rocky. She deleted it a few hours later, then replaced it with this message: “For anyone who got it twisted… it’s hot to respect your partner, especially when your partner just did thaaaat.” I’m reminded of the time when she effusively praised Harry Styles for showing up to work – Olivia lavishes praise on men for doing the bare minimum, and she thinks nothing of tagging ASAP Rocky for merely… taking a photo of the mother of his child?? The bar is in hell.
Photos courtesy of Olivia’s IG and Backgrid.
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- New York, NY – ‘Don’t Worry Darling’ director Olivia Wilde looks radiant in a red suit as she exits the DGA theatre in New York City. Pictured: Olivia Wilde BACKGRID USA 21 SEPTEMBER 2022 USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
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- Studio City, CA – Life seems good for Olivia Wilde as she departs the gym in Studio City sporting a Harry’s House sweater. Pictured: Olivia Wilde BACKGRID USA 24 OCTOBER 2022 BYLINE MUST READ: RMLA / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
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- Los Angeles, CA – Celebrities attend the Global Premiere Screening of “Babylon” in Los Angeles, California. Pictured: Olivia Wilde BACKGRID USA 15 DECEMBER 2022 BYLINE MUST READ: affinitypicture / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
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- Santa Monica, CA – Singer Rihanna and ASAP Rocky are all dressed up as they head to Italian restaurant Giorgio Baldi for dinner after attending the 2023 Golden Globe Awards in Santa Monica. Pictured: Rihanna, ASAP Rocky BACKGRID USA 10 JANUARY 2023 BYLINE MUST READ: ShotbyJuliann / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
Nobody asked for your opinion, Miss O.
She’s a pick me.
I mean, I thought it was a cute video of him (I didn’t see it from Olivia’s account) but of course not more noteworthy than Rihanna’s performance. I wasn’t familiar with him pre-Rihanna, so I can’t say “I already thought he was hot.”
I like how Serena Williams’ husband is her hype guy, and this kind of feels the same way. I love to see it.
I think Olivia is BEC to some people though. I am indifferent on her.
Agreed. It was cute because he sees Rihanna all the time, and he still wants to record her. I’m not gonna criticize Olivia for appreciating that.
I do think Olivia suffered some significant misogynistic backlash. She didn’t say or do anything overtly wrong, but people speculated and draw conclusions and added some hyperboles.
She also makes some reaaallly good points about systemic misogyny, and despite the fact that I eye-rolled a lot of it (pretty bold, appointing yourself as some sort of female savior), she’s not wrong-wrong.
Sorry but it gives me fetish-y white woman vibes for her to thirst after him like this, tag BOTH of them, and then put up this weird disclaimer.
THIS. Exactly THIS.
I think Olivia W is a bit doo-lally. It’s still not too late for her to pull her head in for a year or so.
Love the BEC reference here!!! #fugnation
We should count ourselves lucky that male directors (with maybe even more ego and entitlement than Olivia) don’t get the actress levels of attention she does.
She IS an actress. Who also directs and who seems to love to draw attention to HERSELF.
This. People need to quit acting like Olivia Wilde isn’t putting herself out there for this attention, lol. It would be one thing if someone overheard her saying this to a friend but she put it on a public platform for all to see.
Exactly. This wasn’t an interview it was a social media post that SHE posted.
Correction: Male directors aren’t able to summon the actress levels of attention she gets.
Because she’s an ACTRESS.
Male director/actors like Taika Waititi do. Wilde is a director/actor as well.
What is wrong with this freaky weirdo that she wants to thirst over Rihanna’s partner an an indirect way to “praise” her?
Everyone gets weird when a Black women has a supportive partner. They have a hard time with the concept of a Black woman being respected, admired and desired on a personal level. We are taught across societies that Black women are USEFUL and only to be admired for what we do FOR OTHERS, because Black women are expected to work to our own detriment. It doesn’t matter if people noticing us receiving admiration results in attacks or performative gushing, it’s all weird.
ALL of this, @Eowyn. Nailing Ms. Olivia’s (and so many others’) subconscious mind here.
Preach!
Awesome post @Eowyn!
Other guys have filmed and photographed their partners performing and she didn’t call them hot. So I think the first one where she strait-up just said asap was hot was closer to the truth. Not sure Rhiannon would care that Olivia thought her man was hot.
Agreed. Rhianna is like. “Who? I don’t know who she is…”
When compulsive attention-seeking really starts to tarnish your shine.
Side thought: I always thought Harry Styles kind of copies ASAP Rocky’s fashion, looks to him for inspo.
Not really sure what Olivia was thinking when she posted that, it’s uncomfortable though.
She is so weird and messy. She’s fishing hoping that man will have seen that message…she knows what she’s doing.
Yeah I agree – I think she’s putting up a Bat Signal for Rocky. I can almost see the “call me if if doesn’t work out with your girl” subtext. Ugh. I wasn’t into being as hard on her for the Don’t Worry Darling and Harry Styles stuff last year but when she does stuff like this, it’s just all so messy and gross.
She reminds me of the joke Chris rock used to tell where a girl sees her friend with a great guy and thinks “I have to have… him” (the converse is the guy thinks I need a girl like her) I never got the joke as a teenager but more and more I get it. Doesn’t make it less sexist, but I get it.
I think that almost everything Olivia puts out now is about throwing shade at Harry. He really treated her like crap. Never acknowledged their relationship, let his batshit fans drag her on social media and never supported her. I think this was very much less about A$AP and everything about pointing out a good man who supports his partner and openly acknowledges his pride in their relationship. I suspect all she got from Harry were promises behind closed doors.
Sigh. Yes Olivia, everyone knows you’re a “cool girl”.
My teen tells me this behaviour is a “Pick Me” girl. She acts sooooo cool and down with the guys and not “like the other girls”, but she is cringingly obvious.
So…it’s as Kaiser said. Praising men for doing the bare minimum.
Someone get this woman a glass of water bc she is thiirrssstttyyyy! I’m embarrassed for her. And no one buys her attempt to clean up on aisle 9.
I think she is at a place in time that if she even sneezes wrong people will jump down her throat. It’s like that friend you don’t know why why you’re friends with, then one day you get the courage to tell her why she grinds your nerves and from then on anything she does is unacceptable.
She needs a good girlfriend (or talent manager) to tell, no MAKE her lie low like Anne Hathaway had to for a couple of years. She has enough work (at least two big directing jobs coming up) and children to keep her busy and away from SM. She needs to realize she’s just a gossip target now.
Agreed. It’s why people lay low after a lot of press (positive or negative). Hers was mostly negative so it is even more important to disappear and let people forget. I feel like her ex Harry also needs to be laying low after the latest round of gaffes.
The difference is I actually think she LIKES being a gossip target now.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 right on!
She could have that partner as well. Just sayin.
I’m going to go out on a limb and say she (Olivia) didn’t feel her partner respected her professionally. That’s why she admires men who appear to do that. I can relate to that but yes, it should be a basic expectation at this point.
Before you think we’ve all moved from traditional gender roles on as a society, I’ve been blown away lately by TikToks and Reels about women who have the babies, make all the food, do all the cleaning, etc. etc., even as they also work full-time. It seems it still IS exceptional for a woman to earn respect for her work, because she’s still doing twice as much as her partner when you factor in all the labour she does at home. Just some thoughts.
For cryin’ out loud. Does she want to totally trash what reputation she has left and torch her career to the ground? I’m seriously beginning to wonder if she became a director just so she’d have a bigger drama-queen stage. After DWD’s disastrous rollout, anyone with sense would be keeping a low profile and proving she’s a real pro by. Just. Working. 😛
If the tables were turned and it was Rihanna snapped videoing ASAP performing and OW or anybody else wrote this IG story saying “it’s hot respecting your partner,” I think most people would think that’s an odd thing to write. Because “respecting your partner” should be the BARE MINIMUM in a relationship. Finding it “hot” suggests that it’s somehow unusual or, like, a “bonus” in a relationship. And people just assume that if Rihanna is in a relationship with ASAP then of course she respects him. Why make a comment about that being “hot”?
But because it’s a man, maybe even in particular a black man, showing respect and admiration for his partner, it’s a big deal. Why? Because as Kaiser notes, the bar for men is so low in relationships. A man respecting his female partner and what she does for a living should be the bare minimum, just like it is for how a woman feels for her man. Yet we’ve got some twisted idea that somehow such respect and admiration, and a man showing it, is somehow “special.” C’mon. It’s fine to think it’s cute to see ASAP out there admiring his woman. But praising him like he’s going above and beyond and doing something so great, when it really should be expected and the minimum in a relationship and would be expected if it was Rihanna watching ASAP perform, is just tone deaf and kind of ick to me.
And for OW to express this just shows me, again, how her so-called feminism is performative and with about as much depth as a contact lens.
I think this would have gone over better if she’d been posting about Rihanna herself, and this was added to that as another aspect of the performance, but if her only comment was about him, that’s a little cringey.
It’s her age showing. It is why as a Gen Xer, I admire and look to my Gen Z and millennial peers. I grew up in the era of “if a man does ANYTHING, praise him to high heaven” as a subtle means of getting more from them. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t work. It’s clearly misogynistic and reductive, but it’s what we were taught from birth. When my son was born, my Silent Generation mother was like, “you are so lucky your husband changes diapers. Your dad never did.” And from that day forward she coddled and treated him like he was a king. Never mind the fact we both had jobs and I technically outearned him and worked harder, but still. MANHOOD.
That’s interesting. I’m a boomer, most people I know are boomers and none are like you describe. I don’t think it’s age related at all. That tarnishes all of us
I don’t think ASAP did anything shocking by showing interest in his partner’s work. I think maybe Olivia is not used to that so it’s a big deal for her. Who wouldn’t be proud of their partner doing the halftime show?!
This is like when people praise men for looking after their own kids.
LOL at “the bar is in hell”
JFC, what a tacky TACKY comment. Sounds like something a 13 YO would say. OW must be going through some existential mid-life crisis to be posting crap like that. She’s almost 40 FFS.
Yes, I think this is one of those moment where someone has revealed a LOT more about themselves than they intended.
Namely (imo), her white privilege (this is weirdly fetishing), and her major insecurities from former relationships.
Olivia Wilde needs to mind her own business.
When I saw this video of him, all I could think was, my god the two of them make me hot. I can kind of understand what Olivia was trying to say, but I agree, she always makes everything creepy. She was projecting what she WISHES she had, and not necessarily a specific comment on Rihanna and ASAP. That video just gave her some entitlement to comment.
We all want that validation in some form, pure admiration from anyone we care about. Rihanna was busy though, and they obviously love and “respect” each other. It was a sweet moment that never should have been put out for public consumption, it’s their private business that no one, including Olivia Wilde, should have even been able to comment on.
She fangirled hard for Harry at his concerts (I thought it was uncomfortable that she had her kids there and seemed to be at EVERY concert – they weren’t married and I wondered if that felt like a lot of “playing grown-up” for him when maybe he hadn’t signed on for all of that?). I actually saw this and thought, “It’s her way of saying when she was always there cheering so hard for Harry, HE SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT IT WAS HOT (and not annoying)”….which was still making it about her at the expense of someone else.