Kelly Ripa on why she’s not divorced from Mark Consuelos: ‘we just put our heads down’

Mark Consuelos is set to take over Ryan Seacrest’s vacated chair on Live with Kelly and Mark next Monday. In anticipation of this, they gave the couple the cover of People. It feels like a lot to me. The whole point of having Mark as the co-host, I thought, was because everyone loved seeing them work together. But People also loves putting Kelly and Mark on their cover so maybe they were just jonesing for another excuse. The article is all about how excited they are to work together and how “off the rails” the show will be with these two crazy kids living, loving and now working together. You know my thoughts – that’s too much togetherness. But Kelly said no. And even if it was, they’d find a way to get through it. Because that’s how they’ve stayed together all these years. When discussing their marriage, Kelly said the reason their marriage has endured is because they’ve never let a small thing become a big thing that drives them apart. She said they put their heads down, come together and work it through.

When Mark Consuelos pulls up that coveted chair beside Kelly Ripa as co-host of the newly titled Live With Kelly and Mark on April 17, it will be “a complete full circle moment” for the real-life married couple.

“To have Mark join me at that desk every day, it’s a dream come true,” Kelly, 52, tells PEOPLE in this week’s cover story. “We’ve been so uniquely blessed.”

“I’m a very practical person, but there was something about him,” says Kelly of the moment in 1994 when the casting director for All My Children showed her a photo of Mark, then a budding 24-year-old actor up for a role opposite Kelly, already one of the soap’s breakout stars. “I was like, ‘Oh my gosh, it’s my person. This is my husband. My future hubs.’ I just knew it.”

As fate would have it, Kelly’s intuition was spot on. The pair fell hard and fast while working on All My Children, and over 28 years, built a family — they share kids Michael, 25, Lola, 21, and Joaquin, 20 — and thriving individual careers.

For the power duo, teaming up on Live offers an ideal chance to hang out together after spending long stretches apart for work over the last decade.

“During the pandemic when Riverdale was shut down for about six months, it was the first time we had been together uninterrupted for like, five years,” says Kelly. “I prefer the togetherness. I really enjoy being around him — he’s great company, so funny, so smart, insightful, pragmatic and super level-headed. He doesn’t get rattled, and that’s very reassuring and comforting to be around.”

Of course, like any enduring married couple, they’ve had to work hard at growing their healthy partnership. “I don’t understand when people say, ‘We never fight.’ I go, ‘Oh, they’re in trouble,'” says Kelly, who eloped with Mark in Vegas in 1996.

“Many people we know have gone through a divorce and a separation and when you ask ‘Why did you guys wind up getting a divorce?’, it’s always the same answer: ‘I don’t really know.’ I feel like we could have over the years let something small turn into that and [instead] we just put our heads down, got together and said ‘Let’s work it out…'”

She adds: “Now we can work it out on camera!”

While they don’t intend to drag out all the dirty laundry (“We’re not going to be like ‘About that thing you said about my mother…'” she says), they’ve never been ones to hold back.

“We’re not afraid to go there,” she says. “We have the confidence in our marriage that no matter what we discuss, I don’t mind being the villain in the argument, nor does Mark. Neither one of us needs to be the hero.”

And given the already upbeat, playful tone of Live, Mark says, “If we think something is really going to be funny, then it can be magic.”

[From People]

Kelly lost me when she said, “To have Mark join me at that desk every day, it’s a dream come true.” When this was first announced, Kelly insisted she was against the idea and had to be talked into it. Although not an avid watcher of Live, having Mark on as a guest host was novel. It was almost a reality check for Kelly because he was her husband, and it brought that part of her even more into the studio. But they are both successful TV personalities and beautiful people – it worked. All this promo blitz has done is convince me this full-time co-host thing is going to be insufferable. If nothing else, marrieds think alike, so it will be like the same person interviewing each guest.

As for Kelly’s thoughts about sticking together, they’re good. I agree with working things out and not letting them blow up. That’s a two-way street, of course. It’s exhausting if only one person is doing the work every single time. But really – none of her friends had any idea why they got divorced? Good lord, I have friends who’ve been divorced over a decade who could still list every infraction – in order – as to what led to their divorce. I never know what to make of Kelly. She goes so deep on the details of her sex life and how important her family is to her but when she’s asked something poignant, she can’t give a cohesive answer. Maybe it’s because she doesn’t know or doesn’t want to give out advice but it’s okay to say that. Like I don’t know how The Professor and I have made it through all the sh*t life’s thrown at us, I truly don’t. All I know is that my breaths would be half as deep if he wasn’t by my side and that motivates me to work towards any solution that needs finding. But then again, no one is paying us millions to talk about our sex life every morning either.

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  1. shanaynay says:

    Yada, yada, yada!

  2. Nikki says:

    I found working with my husband for 20 years MUCH easier than being retired with him! :O Hope they work well together.

  3. Lexilla says:

    She looks different. Every time I see a recent photo of her I think it’s Jane Krakowski.

  4. When will she shut up? She has become so very annoying.

  5. FHMom says:

    Eh. What is she going to say? She is promoting her show and trying to be likable? I just don’t understand who watches these shows? Maybe it’s all background noise.

  6. TwinFalls says:

    Sometimes two people are actually good together and for each other and I believe that about these two. Good for them.

  7. Carol Mengel says:

    I thought she’d been campaigning since Michael Strahan left for her husband to join her. He basically needed a steady job.

  8. Kathgal says:

    I never think I am an old crankypants….and then something like that photo of him looking up her skirt comes up and I start thinking things like ‘tasteless’ and I feel like the tact police.

    • Turtledove says:

      Right there with you, Kathgal. I am not one to clutch pearls, but that was just “ewwwww”.

      • Amanda says:

        Well it seems she just can’t get along with any other co-hosts since Regis so maybe this is best for the show, maybe he will stick around for awhile since he is done with Riverdale, but I honestly don’t know why people watch her she really gets on my nerves…lol

    • Peanut Butter says:

      I agree. It’s a really stupid picture. Nothing funny, appealing, cute, edgy, or artistic about their look-at-us! stunt photo. They need to put that one on the family photo wall so their kids and future grandkids can be regularly grossed out

    • C-No says:

      Same here. I scrolled past that photo and audibly said “well that’s disgusting.”

  9. WiththeAmericann says:

    Hope I’m wrong but it seems like too often when a couple does a show together based on how great their marriage is… it fails.

    ‘Course I’ve been waiting for the other shoe to drop on the insufferable magnolia duo, but I suspect she is built to tolerate anything.

  10. MsIam says:

    Now here is a couple that Mia Farrow can be tired of.

  11. Coco says:

    Is she promoting something? Because I’m genuinely confused of why she keeps running to the media every five seconds to share about her personal life.

    • hermionebananahammock says:

      She published a book of essays recently and launched a podcast a few weeks (?) ago. I also noticed that the production company that she and Mark started is still trying to launch their oldest son’s acting career. She’s definitely hustling.

  12. I'm not eating zoodles says:

    Ugh, I am so tired of hearing about these two!! Maybe it’s just because I’m home sick right now and feeling a cranky, but I am just over them both. They’re starting to feel like Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell with all the constant relationship updates. With the amount of oversharing they’ve been doing in the past few years, it sort of gives off the vibe that they’re trying to convince everyone that things are going well when really they aren’t.

    • BothSidesNow says:

      Yes, when you are pushing this “perfect marriage, perfect husband and perfect children” it screams as if something is rotten in Denmark.

      We don’t see Hanks/Wilson, or the Washington’s or a number of very happily married couples regurgitating the same diatribe. There are millions of happily married couples that have endured the trials and tribulations of marriage perfectly well and have come out on the other side more in love than before.

  13. ama1977 says:

    Let me qualify by saying she is kind of insufferable, and I don’t know who watches “Live!” or any other daytime show of that nature on a regular basis. Any time I am somewhere where they are showing it (usually a doctor’s office) I can’t believe that people choose to watch, although I also acknowledge that I probably watch some things that other people feel the same way about.

    Now! I sort of agree with her and sort of don’t. I’ve been married for almost 18 years, and I can see how you could let “little things” pile up and turn into a big something, and how lots of little things can be an indicator that something big is wrong. I don’t think there is any glory in remaining unhappily married just to say you did it, and I don’t think that any relationship should be hard every day, but a marriage is like any other entity, you have to nurture it and care for it. Sometimes it’s a slog, and I think that’s true for everyone. But it should be (mostly) a source of comfort and joy, and if it is not, then that needs to be addressed. Whether that means working to get it back on the rails or calling it off is for the people involved to say.

    • BothSidesNow says:

      I too agree with the taking care of maintaining the small little things that can easily erupt into a volcano. It’s imperative to keep lines of communication open, expressing one’s thoughts and feelings and respecting your partners concerns.

      But isn’t that the basis for all relationships???

  14. HeyKay says:

    Kelly Ripa, the Queen of TMI.
    Can she go 24 hours without yapping, ever?

  15. tealily says:

    This seems like such a weird thing to me. Like, almost a conflict of interest? Is she his boss? What happens if he doesn’t work out? Why would you invite this kind of messiness into your life? I feel like they’d do so much better to put her with someone who would be a real counterpoint to her. But hey, I don’t even watch this show. Maybe this is what the audience wants.

    Catching a bit here and there, I thought she and Ryan were too samey-samey together. I can only imagine what this will be like.