This saga about Ioan Gruffudd leaving Alice Evans has gotten worse and worse. Ioan clearly left Alice because she was and is an awful person, and Alice set out to make their divorce as soul-crushing as possible. She’s spent the past two and a half years harassing and stalking Ioan and Ioan’s girlfriend Bianca Wallace. Last year, Ioan sought and received a restraining order against Alice. The problem is, Alice and Ioan have two daughters and they still have to manage joint custody. After a visit with Ioan and Bianca two weeks ago, one of the daughters alleged that Bianca assaulted her and the kid is now seeking a restraining order. Imagine dealing with Alice and all of her psychodrama as your mom for years – it’s not some stretch to think that this isn’t some open and shut case, that there’s much more to the story. Well, Ioan has filed new legal documents to update the court on how awful everything still is:
Actor Ioan Gruffudd has put his ex-wife Alice Evans on blast in new legal documents … claiming she set up fake Twitter accounts to bash his new relationship, and allegedly threatened him with a “Johnny Depp and Amber Heard” ending.
According to the docs, obtained by TMZ, Ioan says his time with Alice was nothing short of a nightmare — starting with the claim that “a number of anonymous social media accounts” on the bird app would label Ioan and his girlfriend Bianca Wallace as “child abusers.”
Ioan says Alice has “slipped up a number of times on these accounts,” allegedly making it clear she’s the one behind the harsh tweets.
BTW, their 13-year-old daughter Ella filed for a restraining order against Bianca earlier this month … claiming she slammed a car door on her head and arm — something Ioan’s denying.
It doesn’t stop at social media taunts, though … Alice allegedly would scream at the actor — even in front of Ella — calling him an “abusive c***” and a “f***ing abuser.” He says she even dumped milk on his and Bianca’s bed — writing “f***” over it with mustard.
Ioan even claims she threatened him by saying, “I’m going to tell my lawyer that you punched me last week. It’s going to be like Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. It’s not going to end well for you!”
For those unaware, Ioan filed for divorce from Alice in 2021 after the couple tied the knot back in 2007 … although Alice later claimed he had a 3-year affair with Bianca while they were together. Ioan went on to get a restraining order against Alice in 2022, claiming she was threatening to spread lies about him and destroy his career if he ever left her. The new docs say Alice has repeatedly broken the restraining order, however.
“It’s going to be like Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. It’s not going to end well for you” – meaning… what, exactly? Is Alice casting herself as Johnny Depp in this situation? Because Depp was and is an abusive monster and so is Alice Evans. I absolutely believe that she’s been living on social media for years, operating multiple sole-purpose hate accounts to smear and attack Ioan and Bianca. She was doing that quite openly in 2021 and 2022 as well. Anyway, I’ve hoped for some time that Ioan would ask for and receive sole custody of his daughters but it hasn’t happened yet and so here we are: a horrible situation with two minor children stuck in the middle.
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- Los Angeles, CA – Alice Evans is in good spirits after claiming her husband had a 3-year affair Pictured: Alice Evans BACKGRID USA 28 OCTOBER 2021 USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
I watched 102 Dalmatians recently and was surprised to see them in it as the romantic leads. I wonder if it’s where their romance started. If so, the movie so wasn’t worth it.
ugh, this is so triggering when I was a kid my Mom weaponized us against our Father to bring him to heel. When he dipped out.
I can only imagine the eggshells the girls are walking on trying to keep Alice happy and calm. If they don’t hate Bianca as much as she does there will be hell to pay.
And Alice would happily be homeless if that meant destroying Ioan’s career and future support/income. I don’t even think he is even in a position to ask for custody since they have been turned so against him.
I don’t know if this will end up like Betty Broderick but it’s not looking good.
And what does it tell you about the situation being so bad when he has to pick up his girls from the police station when it is his time with them? Then he returns them to the police station and leaves them there, after which Alice comes and picks them up from the police station.
A few years ago, I read Ioan’s history as I didn’t know much about him. He seems like a very decent person. Alice has demonstrated just what a complete Nutter she is. If she lived where I live, she would have been arrested after the first breach of the restraining order. That would have been another court appearance, where it would be explained to her what would happen if she did it again. The second breach means, arrest, charge, and straight to jail until the next court appearance. What Alice is doing to her girls is criminal and absolutely despicable. She needs locking up.
Your last two sentences should be newspaper headlines, AnnaKist.
I really wonder if a court would give custody to a male parent if all this was required for the transfer of kids. Going to the police station? That is wild.
He cheated and abandoned his family and did not seek custody and well being of his daughters. Narcissistic men do this frequently. It’s so normalized that people shrug it off. It’s incredibly traumatizing to wives and children. To lose your husband, family, home and security after agreeing to be the dependent care giver in relationship so the other could be the bread winner is devastating. Ive seen ithis situation again and again. Men leave an absolute wreckage just to have young coochie in their life.
@Klem I like how you assume it’s the man that is at fault here. If you had read any of the court documents (which are now considered as fact via the establishment of a DVRO), you might think differently. There is absolutely NO evidence that Ioan had an affair, and there IS evidence that he has been abused by his wife for years and that it ramped up once he left her. He has done everything in his power to get the girls therapy (which Alice will not take them to, even though she chose the therapist), tried to get time with them (Alice has poisoned the girls against him), and is not giving up. I know it’s easy to say “no one could keep me from my kids” but it is actually incredibly easy to take and keep your kids from you. He has to work within the court system which grinds very slowly. So can we not blame the victim please?
TMZ have got it a bit wrong – it wasn’t Alice that threw milk on his bed and wrote “fuck” in mustard on the counters, it was his older daughter. (I’ve read the court papers.)
The whole thing is just horrendous. Alice is deranged and she is destroying her children. Ioan is trying to play it by the book legally, but it’s hard when you’re up against someone like Alice who doesn’t respect the law or fear the consequences. She’s breached the restraining order multiple times and just doesn’t care.
The court papers are so disturbing. Awful to read that Ella hasn’t been to school this year, so she’s been with Alice 24-7 having vitriol poured into her ear under the guise of “homeschooling” – no wonder she’s showing worrying behaviour. The impact it’s going to have when she’s adult is heartbreaking, in terms of relationships and career. I’m just so sad for both girls, and Ioan. No matter how aggrieved Alice feels what she’s done in response is irredeemable.
That girl needs serious help and should not be alone with her father and his girlfriend again, at least not for a very long time. I do not believe that she didn’t realize that the girlfriend would be there. It’s her apartment. It’s like it was a setup to be able to lob complaints of abuse at them. As though she was thinking, I’ll just throw a fit and call them abusive and then I won’t have to deal with that woman anymore. It’s sad to say but he needs to protect both himself and his girlfriend not just from Alice but from the older daughter as well.
Oh man, yeah the poor kids but I feel so sorry for the girlfriend in all this. I followed her Insta for a little while and she has been seriously, seriously ill with her MS. I honestly can’t believe she’s stuck around for this whole mess.
She seems like a sweetheart, plus is physically tiny and can have significant motor impairment at times so it’s a pretty bizarre accusation. It seems more like an immature attempt to get rid of her dad’s girlfriend?
Is it Alice or the daughter dumping milk and mustard in their bed? I thought he had a restraining order against Alice.
It was not Alice it was the girls they threw milk on the bed and wrote the F word in mustard in the kitchen. Honestly, it felt like the girls were under order to create havoc. Maybe they thought if they were ‘bad’ enough Bianca would leave Ioan and he would go back to Alice.
These girls are going to need so much therapy to unpack the mind games their Mother is playing on them being pawns in her war on Ioan.
It seems like the girls have become mommy’s little surrogates to harass the girlfriend. This is so sad.
Kaiser missed the part when the Judge as well as not punishing Alice from breaking the RO alo put back the custody hearing from Feb to the first week in July when this mess hopefully comes to and end
Also this meeting of the home visit was at Alice’s choice ( by her laywer ) 3 week out from bifurtcation and 5 weeks before the final decree – lawyer has since been sacked AGAIN
With the way she is behaving I wouldn’t be surprised he has filed for sole custody and she isn’t relenting . Also she must have lied to those kids so much that they don’t like or want to live with daddy .
I hope he has. Those poor kids.
I think it’s too late, at least with respect to the older daughter. If you haven’t, read the entire accounts, presented at court by both the daughter and the father. That daughter sounds like a little mini Alice who went freaking berserk (which I personally think was planned). She also seemed pleased with herself in that she seemed proud of what she did and had absolutely no remorse – because she did not feel that what she did was wrong in any way. He and his girlfriend are not safe with her in the house.
She’s not a little mini-Alice, though. She’s a kid stuck with an abusive mother and a hapless father.
Bianca must really love him to put up with all of this mess. I don’t know if many people would have the stamina.
I hope that Alice realizes one day that the people she’s hurting most are her children. This isn’t fair to them and they should be sheltered from her drama.
She is a narcissist and will sadly never realize what she’s doing to her children or that she has any responsibility at all in this situation.
Being a malevolent narcissist that Alice is, she most definitely won’t.
This is also triggering for me as well – I grew up with someone like this as my mom. Alice needs to lose custody and should have supervised visits with her children only. She is extremely dangerous. When you go through the court documents you seen a very alarming pattern of abusive behavior that is escalating and also directed towards the children. I am terrified for those kids. My dad tried so hard to get custody of us but back in the early 80s but courts just didn’t give fathers custody back then. He got visitation but the judge got that wrong. My dad should have had full custody and my mom supervised visits.
My dad had no chance, and my mom knew how to manipulate everyone, her kids, the judges, the entire system. I hope loan has better luck than my dad did today in 2023. When Alice’s daughters grow up and are old enough to process some of this, they will want nothing to do with her. She will never love her kids more than she hates loan.
Alice can be an abusive narcissist and Ioan can be a deadbeat narcissist — both things can be true. Just because the girlfriend has MS doesn’t mean she could not have assaulted the daughter.
I really do think the most likely scenario here is that ALL of the adults in this situation are awful and the kids are acting out to try to get some attention/affection. The kids might be brats but that would be due to the neglect of BOTH of their parents. The biggest tell for me is that Alice and Ioan were married for so long. She’s been publicly terrible for decades and he co-signed it with his silence. It’s only when he left her and his kids for a younger woman that she turned her vitriol on him and now he’s pretending to be shocked. If he truly wanted sole custody, he would have filed for it by now. It’s been years, and he hasn’t. He does not care about his children, he only wants to look like he does. This is Johnny Depp (Alice) divorcing Brad Pitt (Ioan).
I think that while it is true that two terrible people can be in a relationship, there’s been no indication of that from his side. It seems possible that he stayed in the marriage for as long as he did because he knew something like this would be the outcome. Narcissists are also very good at convincing you that you’re the problem, and he may have been the victim of that here.
Custody petitions can also be amended, and since he’s done everything by the book so far, it’s quite possible his lawyers are telling him to file for joint custody and that the longer Alice keeps behaving like this, the easier it will be for him to get a better custody arrangement in a ruling.
I haven’t seen anything to indicate that he’s a narcissist. However, I do wonder why he hasn’t filed for sole custody given how unhinged his ex is. I’m not familiar with divorce and child custody laws in CA. It could be that there is a good reason for it, but idk.
He and Bianca live together – it could be the property is hers or just not big enough for his 2 daughters. Could be that he can’t afford a bigger place and given her needs with her MS, maybe having his kids around a lot is too much as she will need support esp with her mobility.
The stress WILL be making her MS worse.
Nothing has shown Ioan is a deadbeat or narcissist let alone like Pitt .
If anything she is both Pitt and Depp.
@ AnneL
I would think for the same reason Kim K hasn’t filed for full custody.
Agreed Teecee – nobody is putting kids first
I am also cautious about assuming everything is on her. It may well be, but what does it say about him that he was with her for so long and his claims of poverty are far-fetched to me. His priority needs to be the kids and he has to pick them over the girlfriend if that is what is needed in the short-term. Those kids sounds in desperate shape and his energy and resources needs to be directed at them.
This language of, “he was with her for so long,” is victim blaming. It can be very difficult to extract yourself from a problematic relationship, especially when children are involved.
It also may seem to an outsider like he’s not doing enough where the children are concerned, but he appears to be doing everything by the books, and the legal process of sorting out custody in a divorce can be very slow, particularly when one spouse is contesting it.
Ioan Gruffud doesn’t seem a narcissist. His past indicates he’s more of a naive choir boy who got sucked in by a (at the time) highly educated, popular, crazy model/actress who hung out with the likes of Picasso Jr. Jr. She was way out of his league socially and I think before he realized crazy is only fun at the beginning, and not so great for a serious relationship, they already had a mortgage and two kids.
LOL at “crazy is only fun at the beginning”
Alice clearly swallowed the misogynist lie that amber heard made up abuse allegations against JD in some attempt to hurt him, which just makes my blood boil. On top of all this, she’s sexist too! Ugh.
A UK court found that Johnny Depp is, in fact, a wife beater.
Twice, wasn’t it?
The UK has vastly different rules for evidence; Ms Heard was able to admit things into testimony in the UK that the US did not allow.. I believe it was her therapist’s session notes. In the US they were considered hearsay because the therapist did not witness injuries to Ms. Heard, she only wrote down what Ms. Heard SAID had happened. In the UK it was The Sun’s wife beater story that was sued rather than Ms. Heard so the bar was considerably lower than a suit between Heard/Depp. Lastly, the case was heard only by a judge in the UK who dismissed the idea Heard was the perpetrator and refused to allow evidence to back the claim. I may have some details incorrect but if someone knows better please let me know.
Given all the evidence of parental alienation am surprised he hasn’t been given full custody but it depends if he has asked for it. Either way those kids need to be taken away from her – she’s dangerous and won’t stop till she has destroyed everything.
Its also telling that the younger girl called her friends parents for help in defusing the situation – those girls are clearly in a situation where they are behaving in a way to please mommy dearest, I can only imagine what its like for them when they don’t do things that please her.
Lord, I feel so badly for those children.
I am not familiar with divorce or child custody law or practice in CA. Anyone who is, do you know what reason IG would have for not trying to get sole custody, given how unhinged his ex wife has been acting for so long? Can’t he argue that it is in the girls’ best interest to stay with him? Alice has provided plenty of evidence against herself.
Milk in a mattress is gonna sour and be impossible to clean. Mustard can permanently stain countertops. I just can’t picture my kids being that calculated if they were acting out.
B W cited recent article done by Alison Bogoff of the Fail including details NOT in public domain in her court case statement. Alice is friendly with Bogoff but RO means no discussion of IG and BW so both parties can face legal action? Or does restraining order only apply in US and online ?
I side eye both of them, I don’t think she’s the only problem. Just look at how when he had his first overnight w kids after all that drama he did it with the girlfriend there. It was a complete slap in the face to his daughters. And a provocation. He clearly isn’t putting his kids first. He has long out girlfriend first. And Alice I don’t know, she was a loose cannon for sure.
Only victim is the kids in this case. Adults are both all over the place and selfish
Doesn’t his girlfriend live with him.
I think he lives with her. Poor choice of living situation to have kids first stay with girlfriend in house before things calmed down as I understand it this was first overnight w the girls and he knew their feelings on the woman he got with before he divorced Alice. He definitely is a provoker too
Life is complicated and there can be a million factors in decision-making. How much you center your children in your living arrangements can depend heavily on how often you see them. If you rarely see them, are you supposed to put your entire relationship on hold in anticipation of that day you finally get to have your kids over? As a parent, too, you might not know what the other parent said you told the kids…meaning the kids might not always have an accurate understanding of the situation and what to expect.
It is Bianca’s property and the Judge kept delaying the custody hearing from Feb to the day after there final court date . So should he should have slept in his car for 2-3 years or in Alice’s garage hoping that the judge finally gets round to doing their actual job and pray he is not murdered or his wife kills all 4 of them
Would we ask this of a woman who has had to take out a Permanent RO or a DVRO to stay with their abuser and keep their fingers crossed
Of course we would not as CB skated over the 113 pages of evidence and the oher 200 page of stuff that the Judge passed into evidence but would not allow his brieifs to show and the facts she was breaking the DVRO for 14 months
It was actually Alice who proposed the overnight which was a surprise to Ioan (according to his response); he went back and forth with all the lawyers to cover himself the overnight and hired a psychologist (psychiatrist?) to be there to facilitate the meeting and to ensure no crazy accusations happened as Alice had threatened before. To me, this was clearly a set up because crazy accusations happened. I think Ioan is trying to damn hard to do right by the girls by requesting reunification therapy for the girls, going by the book and the law that it’s unfair to side eye him. I know people say “no one could keep me from my kids” but it is quite easy, in fact, to take your kids and keep them from you. Anything you do outside the law only hurts your chances of seeing them in the future so he absolutely needs to work within the law and with his lawyers, step by painful step.
Who was ambushed?? Ioan and Bianca live together, and Alice offered the overnight. It was Alice ambushing the girls if they were told that Bianca wasn’t going to be there.
I feel so badly for the girls. I have no sympathy for Alice. None. She doesn’t deserve to be a mom. I can’t imagine spending all my time with someone filled with hate & spite.
Maybe it’s only because I remember Betty Broderick from growing up in San Diego when she murdered her ex and his new wife, but I see shades of that story in this. Ioan may be no saint, but if I were him I’d have my home security beefed up to the nines :/
EDIT: Just saw that someone else referenced Betty Broderick earlier so I’m not the only one!
You definitely aren’t the only one. This is ringing all the Betty Broderick bells, and she’s still raging decades later. I’m afraid Alice Evans is headed down that same road, and it’s clearly not a road that can be fixed.
Two random thoughts–
1. That man is really so good looking. Genetic lottery.
2. I do wonder why he hasn’t filed for full custody. Maybe he thinks this will trigger Alice even more and with nothing to lose, she will get even more sinister. I do think children’s protective services needs to step in and figure out what is going on with the girls on a day-to-day level and get them help. I doubt the story the girlfriend purposefully and maliciously slammed the girl’s arm in a door. Perhaps there was an accident (they happen) that is being twisted. Someone needs to figure out what is going with them when they’re all alone with Alice for sure.
Apparently the State likes them to go for 50/50 so that what he was going for and Alice wanted 100%
The Judge kept putting the custody part off
I wonder how the gf is handling this, just yikes.
Even just moving someone in to my space is a lot, but moving in a new person AND their kids, while they are all in the midst of a terrible and mentally draining custody battle? That sounds like a lot of emotional labor.
And then after all of that, being accused of harming one of the kids? Just – nope. couldn’t be me.
In the first picture for a moment I thought that was Elizabeth Holmes with her manic eyes. Definitely something is wrong with Alice.
I have to say, if I were the girlfriend, I would cool things off with Ioan for awhile, at least until he got his marriage/kids sorted first. Especially with MS, she does not deserve to have all this stress and toxicity in her life. Ioan should find his own place and deal with the girls himself and not drag his girlfriend into it, especially if she’s getting Alice-directed hate from one or both girls. Ioan is not putting his girlfriend into a healthy situation. He needs to be generous and take her out of the equation. The girlfriend’s involvement makes it more complicated for the girls, especially with their mother with a finger in every pie. Yes, Ioan deserves love and a new life, but there is no reason the girlfriend in precarious health needs to be sucked into this shitshow. It seems dangerous and combustible to me and he should spare her the pain and focus on the mental health of the girls and going to court to settle the legal battle first.
I’ve followed this story (a lot more closely than anyone should) since Alice announced the news on Twitter back in 2020. She is terrible — abusive, manipulative, unhinged. Good for Ian for breaking away from her. For the sake of his kids, though, I wish he could have been more strategic about his post-breakup moves. His ex seems so unstable that I wonder about his daughters’ safety sometimes, and it’s shocking that he wasn’t more proactive about providing a safe and stable home for them in all of this. He should have gotten his household together and acclimated his girls to it BEFORE bringing his new (live-in!) partner into the fold. He has every right to find happiness and love, but he’s got to think about the well-being of his kids. His priorities are a mess imo.
I’ve followed this story for a while (even read the pages and pages of court documents). In my opinion, Ioan wasted a lot of time and money initially trying for a collaborative divorce with an abuser like Alice, who is beyond reasoning and is obsessed with winning in the court of public opinion and punishing Ioan for daring to leave her. Alice has spent this entire time poisoning his children against him and has actively blocked all his efforts to maintain a relationship with them or to get them therapy. Unfortunately, it looks like she has succeeded in her parental alienation.
Alice is not a good parent to the children but I don’t think it will be easy for Ioan to have sole custody. He has the burden of being the main breadwinner and he seems to struggle getting steady roles (Alice has also actively tried to damage his career despite her own lifestyle depending entirely on him) so he pursues jobs offers in other parts of the globe. This doesn’t really make his situation ideal for raising two school-aged children.
I don’t think it’s fair to characterise this relationship with Bianca as “new” – they have been together almost 2 years and will mostly likely marry once the divorce bifurcates from the custody battle. It’s way past due that the children have met Bianca. This mess has dragged on for close to 3 years.
But the relationship is completely new to his children — that’s my whole point. His relationship with his kids is fraught enough as it is (thanks to Alice), and his eldest daughter made it clear that she is not ready to connect with his new partner. It’s mind-boggling that he would ignore their wishes and impose a meeting on his first overnight visit with them–he did both his kids and his girlfriend a disservice with that choice. TBH, If I were a single parent, I couldn’t even get serious with a potential partner until I’d had a chance to introduce them to my kids and assess their dynamic –forget about moving in with them.
I think Bianca has probably been a great source of comfort to Ioan in all of this, but it feels like he’s had his head in the clouds at a time when his kids need him desperately. Because their mother is not just a bad parent–she’s unsafe. Those girls would be much better off with him on location than at home with her. Agree that he wasted precious time trying to reason with the unreasonable .
I have no clue if it is all on Alice or if Ian is a saint or just more secretively terrible….the main thing that screams out to me is he and she are both NOT centering the kids. I know people have different opinions on child-first ideas but the time to center your kid is DEFINITELY when their family is imploding. It is not the time to launch your new romance with a public IG post of a new girlfriend he never Introduced to girls before…and then to have a sleepover with her and the girls when it’s not even a stable relationship w kids? Terrible strategy is right
Right! It’s lovely that he’s found love again, but the fact that he settled into a live-in partnership with a woman that has never met his children says a lot about his priorities. The children’s lives have been completely upended–and these painful transitions that they’re dealing with (divorce, mom’s mental illness, a new home, etc.) need to be handled with care.
I agree with this. Alice seems utterly toxic and I have no basis to think the same of him, so I recognize that she is the main problem here. That said, he chose to have children. Their needs should come first. He shouldn’t have to stay in the marriage nor should he have to be alone. But he needs to find a way to have both Bianca and his daughters in his life at the same time, and not try to blend them until the children are ready for it.
I do feel badly for him, but I feel way worse for the kids who have no escape from the situation or their mother. He is an adult and has a career, a partner, independence. The kids are stuck with this, for now.
Isn’t Ian often away when filming? Not sure where I read this last year, but I think this was the main argument for not asking for full custody. (And for his living situation.)
I mean – if these were my kids, I definitely would trash my career rather than leave them with an unstable parent.
These people all need to get out of the limelight.
No reason for this to be gossip fodder, he is not a huge mega star.
Those kids are in the middle of some truly awful behavior by both M&D.
But, Alice needs professional counseling.
Divorce details in public and the kids in the middle, again.
Alice told her daughters that Ioan left “them” for Bianca. 2 years, 5 years, 10 years imo it doesn’t matter. They have been poisoned against Bianca- period.
As long as Alice has the ability to keep doing this, the next relationship will be similar. Alice is so hell bent on hurting him, she doesn’t care about damaging her children. This is a horrible situation for the kids and Ioan. Unfortunately he may have to leave the industry and take a 9-5 type job to have more access to his daughters. The way the oldest girl acted out is definitely not healthy…
Agree that Alice is doing damaging things but I think Ioan had no business launching this relationship to the world before his daughters had met her. That was back at the start. Poisoning people against someone is certainly a thing but it can be changed – but it has to be managed very carefully. I don’t understand not hunkering down and putting the kids first and setting aside romance on back burner to get a grip on it all first
re Alice’s statement – on one hand I agree w you and on other, I think about those kids and when
dad starts a new relationship before ending one with your mom – it probably does feel like you’re also being left behind. And if you see it posted on social media by him and all before you’ve even had brunch together…I don’t think he managed this well at all