I find this news very strange. Apparently, Tom Brady knows the sex of the baby he and Gisele are expecting (any day now), while Gisele has no idea. Now, I’m not an idiot. I get that doctors can predict the sex early, and that every couple chooses whether or not they’ll find out, but I find it odd that Tom would want to know while Gisele wouldn’t. Isn’t that the kind of thing that a couple would want to either know or not know together? How does that even work? Does Tom drop hints that they should be buying blue stuff and Gisele pretends she didn’t hear it?
Tom Brady clearly doesn’t like surprises!
The Patriots quarterback, 32, found out the gender of his baby — due in December — even though wife Gisele Bundchen is waiting.
“I’m really the only one that knows at this point,” he told Boston’s WEEI Sports Radio on Wednesday. “My dad asked me. I haven’t told him. [Gisele] doesn’t know. It’s a pretty good feeling knowing something that no one else knows.”
Brady — who is already father to son John, 2, with ex Bridget Moynahan — said Bundchen didn’t have a problem with his request to find out in advance.
“She’s a very intelligent woman. I wanted to find out and she didn’t, so she said, ‘Go ahead,'” he said. “It will be a surprise for her.”
His trick to keeping the secret?
“I always mix it,” he said of his use of boy and girl pronouns. “I don’t think I’ve ever slipped. I’m very conscious when I’m saying it.”
[From Us Weekly]
I’m not a mother, I’ve never been pregnant, but I’m sure I’d like to know if and when it happens for me. I’m of the opinion that the knowing the sex of the baby is one of the few times you can actually have some knowledge about parenting, and you can prepare yourself. Plus, I dislike gender-neutral nurseries. There’s only so much you can do with beige.
Gisele Bundchen in New York on September 24, 2009. She’s around six months pregnant in these photos, and I want her dress. Tom Brady in LA on June 30, 2009. Credit: Fame.
Aw I like neutral yellow nurseries.
I think this is weird though, especially for picking baby names. Does Tom just sit their while Gisele reads gender-specific names thinking “This is a freaking waste of time” and then get more excited when she switches to the right gender?
I’m too curious, either we’d both know, or neither of us would. If I were Gisele, I would have cracked the Tom Brady code by now.
He’s a dufus.
That is all.
I wanted to know but my now-ex husband didn’t. Because we couldn’t agree, the ultrasound tech never would tell us.
I had about 20 girl names picked and not a one for a boy. And then I had a boy. 🙂
Can Gisele even do the rest of us humans a favor and at least LOOK pregnant?
We had one of those 3D sonograms because we could find out the sex earlier. I’m with you Kaiser and I’ve never heard of one person finding out while their partner doesn’t know. I also get annoyed when there are those couples that know the sex but refuse to tell anyone else. It’s like they don’t want pink onesies or something.
I would prefer to NOT know. My sister and my sister-in-law have been pregnant at the same time twice now, and one always finds out while the other doesn’t. I feel like there are a lot of surprises in life that kind of suck, but this is one that simply can’t… so I say enjoy that. It’s not like you HAVE to put a boy in a blue room and a girl in a pink one. There are actually a lot of colors in the spectrum. And it’s not necessary to buy all the clothes they’ll need in their first year of life before they’re even born. Typical babies will have outgrown all their first outfits within a couple of months; there’s plenty of time to get all gender-normative on the little dudes, if that’s your thing.
Also, I have heard of cases where a parent had trouble bonding because the original prediction was wrong (so when their daughter is born, they find themselves thinking “that’s not my son…”). I’m sure it sorts itself out eventually, but who needs the stress?
So I guess I’d let my husband find out if it was really important to him. But I’d kill him if he told me (Maybe literally. Pregnancy hormones make some people really emotional)
That’s just crazy. Did the ultrasound technician take Tom aside and whisper in his ear the sex? My husband and I both wanted to find out. I hate surprises.
Holy cow she’s still pregnant? Hasn’t it been since like last February??
I don’t think that’s THAT strange. I don’t get why people are making such a fuss about it.
Jillian, I heard Tiger’s old lady don’t like surprises anymore either.
Babies are awesome. But, ugh. I don’t like this couple.. Team Bridget!
A dear friend and her husband took exactly this route. For them, it was a way for the father to have a special bond with the baby. I don’t think it’s strange at all. Why should you NOT find out if you want to know, and vice versa?
i dont think its bizarre at all. not as common as agreeing, but not unheard of.
in my sister’s case, one set of grandparents knew and the other wanted to be surprised. My father had a lot of fun for a few months “slipping” which sex it was. its all good.
What matters to me (and SHOULD to Gis) is whether he plans to be a real father or not to this baby.
@ SolitaryAngel – What do you mean by that? Is he not a REAL father to Jack, just because he isn’t married to Jack’s mom?
I don’t think it’s weird that one knows and the other doesn’t. I actually know several couples that went this route- the dad wanted to know (as someone else mentioned- to develop a bond with the baby) but the mom wanted it to be a surprise. I would think it would be fun to hold that secret from your spouse- especially when picking out names and things like that. I bet he gets a kick out of knowing what they are having and watching/helping her pick out names for both genders anyways.
Yeah it’s neat that she let him find out and didn’t worry so much about whether he’d ruin it for her.
Maybe it makes it easier for him to bond with the baby before it’s born knowing the sex.
My brother and wife are expecting a baby, and they’re waiting to be surprised, and it’s frustrating the hell out of the rest of the family because we want to know! Oh well…
I think it’s adorable that they are so comfortable with each other that she can trust him to not spill the details. Well, more than comfortable since they both married and conceived a babeh!
As for knowing the sex vs waiting for delivery day, when my sister-in-law was expecting, both she and my brother wanted to be surprised. However, their respective best friends were dying to know. So she told her BFF and my brother told his BFF. The female BFF had a difficult time keeping her secret and nearly blew it a few times. But my brother’s BFF won’t tell a soul and kept a poker face the entire time.
In retrospect, they regret allowing the female BFF because she was a twit who couldn’t handle the secret.
Wait a minute–didn’t some tab report last week that it was a boy or was I on serious drugs?
When my mother was pregnant with my youngest brother (I’m 14 years older) she didn’t want to know the sex. However, during one of the dr. appointments, my dad saw the ultrasound and saw that it was a boy (he’s a doctor). So he knew the sex while she didn’t, and she refused to let him tell her.
In retrospect, it maybe wasn’t the best idea since she really wanted/was convinced she was having a girl, and actually cried a little when my brother was born. Obviously, everyone adjusted and he’s a total mama’s boy, but the split knowledge and surprise was a little rough.
I’m an only child, and my dad wanted to know and my mom didn’t. So they did the same thing – he knew, she didn’t, yellow nursery, everyone was fine. They picked a name for both genders (don’t know if they talked about potential boy names before or only after my dad knew, but I was to be named after a recently-deceased family member for the “girl” name…so they only had to pick a middle name for a girl and a boy name. So it’s not like my dad had to fake investment in the boy name vs the girl name, since it’s the only one they had to pick to begin with. (My mom had an amnio for other reasons, so he knew for sure, but they were well aware that ultrasounds can be wrong.)
I don’t know if I’ll want to know or not, but have noticed with others that if you really kind of want one or the other, it’s better to work through the initial disappointment before the baby’s born…rather than after. Just something I’ve noticed.
I want a baby boy so badly although I’m definitely not in the financial position to have one so that won’t be happening anytime soon, not to mention I’m unmarried and single. But I would definitely want to know because I think I would be devastated to find out I would be having a girl.
When I was pregnant with the last baby, my husband wanted to know and I wanted to wait. The tech wrote it on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope my husband could look at later. We had already agreed on names, so that wasn’t an issue for us. I know two other couples who’ve done this as well, so I don’t think it’s that weird.
@Ava
I think your comment is sad.
You said you would be devastated if the baby wasn’t the sex you wanted. Many people wish to have kids and can’t, and you’re saying stuff like that.
Maybe you should reconsider having kids period.
I think it’s great that they give each other this kind of personal freedom. I know two different couples where the wife wanted a surprise and dad wanted to know, but in both situations the dad wasn’t ALLOWED to find out. I felt these wives were too controlling, basically her way of telling the dad she was running the show. Sad. I found out with all three of my kids, I couldn’t wait 🙂
Also @solitary angel, we have no idea what sort of father he is, why make assumptions?
I thought I read they were having a boy, too. Weird.
I’ve heard of one partner knowing and one not. People do it all the time. The tech gives you an envelope with the sex written inside. Some people even ask to no be told but to be given the envelope in case they change their minds.
Because the wife or the husband doesn’t want to know they shouldn’t be told? I’d want to know. If my partner didn’t, well sod them, because I’d have the doc tell me.
So why are there NO pictures of Gisele these last couple of months of her pregnancy. Is she hiding herself away so NO ONE sees her 9 months pregnant and without the perfect body? Seems odd to me that even on this website you have pics from when she is 6 months pregnant but nothing more recent…..
Wow Ava, I am speechless by your comment. Devastated if you have a girl? why does it matter? children are a blessing regardless the gender.
wow Ava, I pray to God you don’t become a mother, what a disgrace you will do to your child if she is a girl. aren’t you a woman who was once a baby girl, how would you feel if your mom told you she was devastated to know she was having YOU. seriously it’s so unfair how many loving couples are desperate to conceive a child to love him or her with all their hearts and evil people like you have the option to conceive.
this world is messed up…
Couldn’t do it. I had several ultrasounds with my first pregnancy and would probably be able to see the sex the next time around.
My husband and I already have a girl and want a boy to complete our family…I would be able to take one look at this face and tell. He has a horrible poker face. He would slip up and call it a her or a him.
The night before my ultrasound I had a dream that I was on the table and the tech said, “It’s a girl!” I sat up and started crying hysterically. Anyway, I have a little girl now! And no, I didn’t cry.
As for the neutral color…I like seafoam green! But trying to find clothing for a boy or a girl is difficult. I guess because when babies are little the only way you can tell the sex is by dressing them. And sometimes not even then. I know when my girl was a newborn people would come up and say “Oh what a cute little boy!” In her pink carrier!!
And buying clothes before the baby is born is awesome! You can buy bigger sizes in the off season for CHEAP! But I’m lucky because it all fit her perfectly…and at a year and a half I’m just now having to buy her clothes. (Wish I would’ve kept it up this whole time.)
Tom will dump giselle just like he dumped bridget.
you are wrong Subro here’s a link with pics of her from like 10 days ago
http://www.popsugar.com/6360931
Space For Rent in between Tom’s ears.
I don’t see the reason for saying that she’s an intelligent woman simply because she let him know before her.
Maybe Gisele does know and this is a good way to stop people from asking whether it is going to be a girl or boy?
Thank you, it was interesting. Have more to these posts.