Expert: Prince Harry’s estrangement from the Windsors goes against nature!

Royal commentator Jennie Bond is in the running for the Telegraph’s most delusional royal expert. I’m fully expecting lots of commemoration-columns for QEII as we come up on the first death-anniversary, but I truly didn’t expect it to be framed as “Prince Harry’s one year of estrangement.” The man has been living in North America for nearly four years, but sure. Bond questions, “Harry is continuing to maintain a distance from his father and brother – but what are the effects of ripping up family roots?” Like… anyone who read Spare can tell you exactly why Harry left Britain and why he’s trying to break the cycle of generational trauma. Neglected and abused after his mother’s death, he found ways to heal himself and he’s on his journey to find peace and happiness with the love of his life and their two beautiful children. His story is one of resilience and courage to break those toxic familial bonds. But of course, Jennie Bond quoted an “expert” at length to basically argue that Harry should “come back” pronto. Some highlights:

A complete estrangement: Almost one year on from the funeral of his grandmother, the late Queen, his estrangement from his entire UK family seems complete. He will be in London next month for a charity awards ceremony on the eve of the anniversary of her death, but it is understood he has no plans to see his father, the King, or his brother Prince William. Instead he will head straight off to Düsseldorf for the opening of the Invictus Games for wounded servicemen and women, which he founded nine years ago.

Bitter Meghan? He has planted his own sapling 5,000 miles away in California. His children, Archie and Lilibet, are putting down American roots and will be the first branches of a new tree. But with their mother, Meghan, bitterly estranged from almost the whole of her own family (except for her mother and a niece) that tree looks decidedly sparse.

No thriving unless it’s in the UK, apparently: In an interview which kicked off the whole saga of Harry and Meghan’s unhappiness in the royal fold, the Duchess said, “It’s not enough to just survive. You’ve got to thrive.” But can you easily thrive in self-imposed exile from all you have known since birth? And how much harder must it be when you are part of one of the most exclusive and mysterious tribes on earth: a royal family, steeped in a thousand years of history?

An expert: An expert in the field of human development, Professor Karl Pillemer, from Cornell University in New York, believes the emotional impact must be enormous. “Whether you have originated the estrangement, or you’re on the receiving end of it, people often feel betrayed, rejected, hurt, angry and resentful,” Professor Pillemer says. “They feel the pain of broken attachment. We have strong biologically-based attachment responses – those don’t just go away..Family events are a flashpoint for estrangement. They are filled with expectations of a happy family together, and that is entirely violated with estrangement. And if you don’t attend, there is a profound sense of loss.”

King Charles evicted his grandchildren, but whatever: How sad that little Archie and Lilibet have no prospect at present of getting to know their tribe… on either side of the Atlantic. And what a dreadful loss for King Charles. Bizarrely, Harry and Meghan have chosen to give their children their “tribal identity” insisting they be known as Prince and Princess – and, of course, Lilibet is named after her great grandmother Queen Elizabeth. Professor Pillemer believes it is the children who may prompt a reconciliation. “Many estranged people begin to open up the relationship again, because they want their own children to have relationships with the rest of the family. And Harry and Megan’s children are going to be reaching an age where they’re going to begin asking, ‘Why don’t we see our relatives? I’m certain, they [Harry and Megan] must be considering the impact on their own children.”

They’re saying Harry is headed for a breakdown: Professor Pillemer believes that fragile mental health can be made worse by estrangement. “There will likely be an array of emotional effects for Prince Harry and his family that include the pain of rejection, a sense of betrayal, a profound sense of loss, and most likely, a greater likelihood towards depression and anxiety as a result of this kind of relationship trauma.”

[From The Telegraph]

It feels so childish to argue that, because Harry adored and loved his grandmother, he’s supposed to be cool with being neglected and abused by his father and brother. That’s the argument here – you say you love one member of the family, so isn’t it hypocritical to remain estranged from other members of the family? Like… what is wrong with these people? It’s so silly and pathetic to argue that every family has to stay rooted in one place, forever, and that every family member has to be in each other’s lives and no one is ever allowed to disagree or move or break a toxic family cycle. What f–king world do these people live in? (Also: they truly have no idea about Meghan’s family, they only know the toxic Markles – Meghan has Ragland relatives who have never sold her out.)

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  1. Brit says:

    These losers only want leaks and material because the others are boring and don’t have a shred of charisma. They picked the wrong team and have buyers remorse like you wouldn’t believe. Harry and Meghan are the golden geese and they desperately wants to see Archie and Lilli because the others have been seen enough. It’s all fake and I think Harry and Meghan know it. The family showed that they care more about the Dan Wootons and Piers Morgan’s of the world than Harry and Meghan.

    • SussexWatcher says:

      💯 Brit!

    • Moxylady says:

      Actually the opposite is true. Most people who go low or no contact with abusive family do it after they have kids. And they realize – Omg I would never do that to my child. That was wrong. But … Omg what if they do that to my child? I must protect them.

      And so they do.

      • MrsCope says:

        That part Moxylady! I want meaningful, healthy relationships for my children. It’s not the number of people in the village raising the child, it’s the quality of the village!

      • Kingston says:

        @Moxylady
        The opposite of what is true……what @Brit said or what was said in the blurb?

        Both you and @Brit made excellent points, so your response to @Brit is a bit confusing.

      • Couch Potato says:

        Yeah! A so called expert on human development should know that. He should also know the golden boy/scape goat dynamic. Either the rota member cherry picked what he said, or he’s unfamiliar with a very important reason for estrangement. Which would make him less of an expert. Yes, people who stay away from abusive family goes through an array of emotions, but Harry’s already worked on that for 4 years, he’s not heading for a break down. Again, it might be cherry picking, but an expert not commenting on how good it also feels to NOT have to deal with your abusers anymore?

      • Agreatreckoning says:

        @Couch Potato, thank you for mentioning the ‘cherry picking’. I didn’t click on the link to see if the ‘expert’ was interviewed or if Bond came across a professor at an American university’s word and then taken out of context. I’m hard pressed to find any “expert” that would say these things involving Harry’s BRF/BM dynamics without absolutely lying.

        The BRF is not a ‘happy family’ dynamic. Hasn’t ever been. For centuries? You can’t truly miss something you really never had. Maybe moments in time. That’s it. It does not go against nature to break free from the chains that have bound you. No legitimate “expert” would say that. Using the word ‘tribal’ is abhorrent.

        At first, I wanted to say that Professor Plum from Cornell U. needed to buy a Clue. Nah, Bond from the Telegraph needs to buy one.

        I love how the RR’s show their stupidity every day. Just like Harry “missing” out on Will’s BaRF burgers. btw, Santa Barbara county has some very cool bbq places.

    • Kathleen Williams says:

      Harry’s family in the US may be small but it is harmonious. He does not have to watch his back or avoid being shoved onto the jagged pieces of a dog bowl.

  2. Kristen from MA says:

    Haven’t these people ever heard of “chosen family?”

    • SussexWatcher says:

      They also willfully ignore that Harry has a family. When they got married, Meghan became Harry’s family. And when they had children their family grew. Harry lives with and loves his family.

      They really do sound like the mafia or a cult when they talk about the leftover royals being the only family Harry has. Umm, excuse me?! Would they say that about Chuckles and Camzilla? Or Peg and Keen? No, no they wouldn’t.

    • Taytanish says:

      Is it a British thing to stay physically connected to your blood relatives forever regardless? Because a lot of people migrate, not only within their own countries but also very far away from their blood relatives, but also to other/different countries if not continents. They start families in these their new homes, live there for decades of times, (if not for the rest of their lives) and they never experience none of this estrangement issue these fools are bleating on about. I have lived in North America for 20 years now and 5 years in the UK prior to that, my children left my country 18 years ago and have never gone back since and none of them has any desire to return, they all say they have absolutely nothing left there for them to go back to. Even though they had lots of friends there, they have made new friends here, some have started families of their own and none of those kids has any connection to my home country. And every one of us is very happy where we are. I am a loner and always have been, I cut off all my toxic siblings long time ago and I have no regrets and none of my kids are having sleepless nights over anyone in my home country. What are these English tabloid people going on about? The Sussex kids are gonna be just fine, Harry isn’t gonna get a nervous breakdown because of no BaRF members in his life, Meghan is gonna be just fine having only those maternal family members that have never sold her out, no one is going to die for lack of contact with the BaRF or the BM. There are many people that cut off toxic family members and have friends as family and everyone is okay, nobody ever dies from estrangement. One might not necessarily choose who their blood relatives are but we sure as hell can choose who our family are. Family and relatives are 2 entirely different things. These royalists have been so brain washed about the importance of their BarF but in reality, William and Charles are no better than anyone else, geez.

  3. Renae says:

    Did Jennie from the hood forget about the Spencers?

    • Dee(2) says:

      The Spencer’s, the Raglands, honestly probably other Markles. They think if they don’t get invited along to write articles about family events then no relationship must exist. They can’t write about what they want to write about for the remaining royals and neither Harry or Meghan or any of their close family and friends are willing to sell behind the scenes private pics of them, so they are now reduced to making up reasons as why the estrangement is damaging ( as if they actually care about the Sussexes mental health) and needs to end.

    • ChattyCath says:

      Just a small part of his family? I’ve cut off toxic family years ago and my grandkids have a healthy group of maternal family and friends. Not the sort of people that report back after each visits with every ‘fault’ they perceived. Rent an expert indeed.

  4. Amy Bee says:

    This article was infuriating. It’s clear Jennie Bond has read Harry’s book but she doesn’t get that Harry didn’t have much of a family life after his mother died. Why would she want him to go back to that life and to subject his children to it? The problem with these royal reporters and commentators is they all wish they were members of the Royal Family and can’t fathom anyone wanting to leave that life.

    • SussexWatcher says:

      Your last point is exactly it. Not only the reporters but much of the British populace. And they’re doubly confused and enraged that it was a black woman who took one look at that system, that “family,” and said unless it’s for Betty’s funeral, I’m never coming back.

      They all believed she’d be begging to return, happy to be abused and offered W&K’s scraps. But instead, she’s in CA aging backward and living her best life with her family and friends.

    • Jais says:

      Ha, yes! They really do wish they were actually royalty. Jennie Bond is so ridiculous. Saw a clip online and she talked about that, as a bbc royal reporter back in the day, she’d be upset bc she’s be excluded from the parties at the palace whereas tabloid owners were invited to those parties and given stories. She knows Harry is right about a lot of things but she’s saying it doesn’t matter. He should come back bc of some made up reason.

      • Bee (not THAT Bee) says:

        Some “expert.” TBH the headline should have had “Expert” in quote marks.

        Jennie Who? The Telegraph is as outdated as its namesake.

  5. Oh the breakdown has already begun and it’s not Harry having it. It is the royal cult and tabloids that can’t fathom that Harry left after much abuse and is now thriving and happy on his own with his family. Harry cut the toxicity from his life and has moved on. It wasn’t easy leaving what was supposed to be family but Harry wasn’t leaving just a family he was leaving a family that is also an asinine institution. He didn’t leave a normal family so let’s not get experts on families involved when they have no clue about this so called family. After all Harry has been through he has come out the other side and he is doing great.

    • Debbie says:

      I know. What do these so-called “experts” know about a family where you must make an appointment to see your grandmother? Or where your relatives brief the press with made-up stories about you?

  6. MrsCope says:

    Completely inappropriate for that expert to speak all over a situation that he is not up on all the details and facts. I wonder if he gave himself a “professional out” that they didn’t include. Like, “without knowing the details, I would say” or “in situations like this…”

    The thing is, anyone who has experienced loss or ended a relationship knows that the feeling of loss or of sadness is indicative of a connection or attachment, not a sign that you should cast all things to the side (instinct, safety, etc.) to maintain the relationship.

    I’m sure he feels sad, but he also feels free, and joy and control over his life and decisions. The benefits outweigh the risk. The tabloids and the RR refuse to accept the words Harry has said himself. Yes, he has spent a lifetime in that institution, steeped in blah blah. But he hasn’t been happy.

    In the grand scheme of things, he is estranged from his brother and father. Meghan is estranged from her father, sister and brother. But they have the Raglands, Spencers, surrogate family, cousins and friends. They are hardly an island.

    On the flip side, besides being “in the fold” what meaningful connections do Wills and Chuck have?

    • Amy Bee says:

      You can’t be estranged from family you never had a relationship with. Meghan never had a relationship with her father’s other children.

      • MrsCope says:

        You’re right, Amy Bee, Tom Jr and Samantha don’t count as estrangements when they weren’t relationships!

    • Polo says:

      Reminder Meghan never had a relationship with her step siblings. Only her father.
      Also reminder for everyone Doria is the only child of her parents. She had step siblings but that was it and we have no idea how those relationships were or could have changed after her parents died.

    • Becks1 says:

      Also, sometimes you can be sad at an estrangement but not regret it – which is where I feel like Harry is. I think it was clear in Spare that he loves his father and has sympathy for him, and I think he would love to have a relationship with his father.

      BUT (before people come at me for that), he can’t have a relationship with Charles as things currently stand, and he knows that and accepts it (or can’t have the relationship he might have wanted.) You can be sad at a loss without regretting it.

      Like I did not have a relationship with my sister. I was not sad about that, she was mentally ill and destructive and caused rifts in the family that persist to this day. I wasn’t sad to not have a relationship with HER, but I was sad to not have a normal sister relationship and that’s something that I still get sad about when I see social media posts about how close someone is to their sister etc. But i didnt want to be close to HER.

      I think that’s where Harry is, or somewhere close to it, and there is a distinct difference between mourning the loss of a relationship in general and mourning the loss of a relationship with a specific person.

  7. Beff8 says:

    That expert is right. His lifelong estrangement from his family in the way that they left him alone, without $$ or clothes did result in depression, anxiety and acting in unhealthy ways. I’m also sure that Archie asks why he only has one grandparent in his life. I am especially interested in the section about the Markle’s – they have shown how stable and nurturing they are toward Meghan and Harry! Haha.

    • Jane says:

      As someone who grew up with no grandparents in my life I can confirm it’s absolutely fine and as long as you have a loving home environment it’s not something you really think about.

    • Anna says:

      Same as @Jane

      My maternal grandparents passed away when I was about eight, and while I lost my paternal grandparents recently, my dad and his siblings did not necessarily have a good relationship with them. Can confirm regardless that growing up, it’s absolutely fine.

      The labels don’t matter as much as the quality of the relationships.

  8. notasugarhere says:

    All you have to do is read Jane Goodall to know – biologically – that once an individual breaks off and forms a new familial group elsewhere? The previous biological familial group will wage war on that individual and the new family. The Windsors are chimpanzees, Harry is more evolved.

    • Kingston says:

      @notasugarhere

      Wow. Did not know this.

      “…The previous biological familial group will wage war on that individual and the new family. The Windsors are chimpanzees…”

      ^ I literally can see the BaRF as the chimpanzees as they persistently, blatantly, brazenly and without a care that their antics are visible to all, wage war on the Sussexes.

      • notasugarhere says:

        It was a surprise to me too.

        Showed up in the middle of her book/audiobook on spirituality, Reason for Hope. iirc it was a section about war. How easily animals (including humans) can go from 1) Family to 2) The Other in a heartbeat.

        I still recommend the book though!

  9. Slush says:

    “ But can you easily thrive in self-imposed exile from all you have known since birth?”

    Yes you can. Next question.

    • Anna says:

      It can be argued that anyone who decides to immigrate makes this choice. Yes, we have technology now to make it easier to communicate and stay connected, but it can be an isolating experience. That being said, while the circumstances of Harry and Meghan’s move was certainly rife with extraordinary circumstance, nothing about what we’ve seen of their characters suggests they’d do anything less than thrive once the dust settled. Jennie can take her fake concern and shove it.

  10. girl_ninja says:

    Jennie Bond quoted an “expert” at length to basically argue that Harry should “come back” pronto. Some highlights:

    These should be called lowlights. What a ridiculous person. Yes Harry, do leave your beautiful family that you love so much and come back for more abuse and also for us to tell you “we knew you’d come crawling back!”

  11. Jk says:

    They have conveniently forgotten the British dream of getting the f*ck out of their country and spending their retirement years in Spain or France (same idiots who voted for Brexit are now complaining that they can’t simply move abroad).

    Where’s the concern about all these grannies and grandads choosing to get away from their families?

  12. Barbara says:

    I guess these lunatics have forgotten that Harry and Meghan have a good relationship with Eugenie, Jack and their kids and Harry was perfectly fine with Anne at the conanation.

  13. Noor says:

    Jennie Bond has gone totally bonkers in this article.

  14. JMOney says:

    “His estrangement from his entire UK family seems complete” Funny how The Spencers are never considered to be his “UK family” by the tabloids. Harry has mentioned publicly numerous times how often he’s spoken to them, thanked them in his memoir and didn’t his aunts come over for Lilbet’s christening? Yes, it’s by design. The tabloids want the “black sheep” to seem more isolated than he really is.

    As far as Meghan’s family, I know some people on here believe there are other Ragland relatives she may be close to and that could be but also, it really just might be her mother and niece and that’s ok, too. We don’t know and will probably never know Doria’s family but all Meghan is comfortable showing is her mother and niece and that’s perfectly fine. Not everyone’s family/community is comprised of blood relatives. Friends can be family, too.

    • Laura D says:

      Exactly JMOney 🙂 The press on numerous occasions have printed stories about William asking Charles Spencer to have a quiet word with Harry about marrying Meghan. This suggests that Charles is someone who Harry respects and spends quality time with. Yet, (because it suits the narrative) we’re now supposed to believe Harry is estranged from everyone because KCIII and William aren’t prepared to meet him halfway. SMH

    • Anna says:

      Hilarious to me they completely blank on the Spencers, the family who’s blood is reputed to be bluer than the royals themselves. The irony.

  15. EasternViolet says:

    Am I wrong to really cringe when she refers to Harry and Megan’s kid’s “tribal identity”?

    • MrsCope says:

      No you’re not wrong. It is intentional wording for sure, EasternViolet.

      • Grace Yancy says:

        Duchess Meghan ain’t thinking about those people!
        The Duchess is about to check out her soon to be (hopefully) MVP of Major League Baseball cousin, Mookie Betts, play in the NLCD playoffs, and hopefully the NLCS, and The World Series!
        So, tell Jennie Bond to get a life!
        Once again, she’s lying!🤣😂😅

    • Jaded says:

      Not wrong at all, it made me cringe too. It was a totally inappropriate term to use and it was used enough times to make a very cruel point.

  16. Seraphina says:

    This remind me of what the pro slavery and white supremacists shouted when slavery was abolished and civil rights were granted. IT GOES AGAINST NATURE!!
    Oh let’s not forget the men said it too when women wanted the right to vote and started working outside the home.
    It’s called progress!!!

  17. L4Frimaire says:

    A couple of weeks ago they were bragging about Harry being snubbed by the royals, now they’re concerned he won’t see them during his stop in London? The press is only interested in a reconciliation if it’s photographed for their benefit and completely performative.

    • Brit says:

      Yep. Harry and Meghan aren’t giving the press and family opportunities to abuse them. The Queens funeral was the last time they’ll do that again. Meghan didn’t go to the coronation and Harry left with his hanger in hand. He’s only going for Wellchild and court hearings and she’s flying over England to go to Germany. Reality has sunk in for the press that this “feud” and the days of leaks and material is over. You can tell the family and press’ parasitic relationship really depended on the Sussexes.

  18. AnneL says:

    In an ideal world, no one would have to be estranged from their families. Parents and children would support and love each other, siblings would get along and have each others backs, and everyone would get along. But it doesn’t always happen.

    It’s clear from Harry’s book that he wanted a close relationship with his father and brother. But his father neglected him after Diana died, then married Camilla, who took over Harry’s bedroom to use as a closet. William frequently ignored him, used him as a human shield, and became outright abusive after he met and married Meghan. His wife and child were in emotional and even physical danger in England, so he got out.

    He even tried to remain a help to his awful family by being a “Half In” Royal, but they said no.

    So this is where we are. Harry is living thousands of miles away, in a different country, making his own way. He did what he had to do and what was best for him and his own family. It happens all the time. If Will and Charles want a relationship with him, they can get on the phone or hop on a plane. Charles could have let him keep Frogmore, which was HIS house, so that they could visit the UK in a place of safety and comfort. Charles could have kept his son’s security team in place.

    They basically kicked him out, and now they’re complaining that he doesn’t come begging at the door. FFS.

    • notasugarhere says:

      The Windsors didn’t kick Harry out.

      Harry and Meghan chose, together, for the health of their family, to leave Harry’s bio-family of abusers and the abusive tabloid-friendly requirements that came with the job.

      • bisynaptic says:

        They did their damndest to make Meghan leave: and then they were surprised and unprepared when Harry left with her.

  19. The Old Chick says:

    Man, they’re really disturbed. It’s beyond stalker. They’re crazed and need help but also restraining orders

  20. Maxine Branch says:

    The level of desperation reeking from those gossipers on that island is the stuff of legends. Harry is happy , Harry is loved, Harry has the family he built with his wife he adores. He left behind toxicity which is intended to destroy. Look at his father and brother, they are both broken men. His father carry’s around grief from his childhood which he passed to his sons. His brother has never taken the time to seek the help he needs to be a normal function human being. The tabloids are their enablers and they are dependent upon them to exist in their cocoon. Seems to me Harry is the only one in his birth family who has broken the cycle to ensure his family has a good chance at living a normal healthy life.

    • Angie says:

      Yes. Look at his brother already using his daughter to deflect from his mistakes. Harry will never allow Archie and Lili to be used like that. He broke the cycle and his family has benefitted from it.

  21. Harper says:

    Four of the people in Harry’s close family not only have personality disorders, but they controlled his pursestrings. For a laugh, they call up the tabloids to print big fat harmful lies about Harry and especially his wife. His father evicted him from the home they paid to renovate. His so-called brother has a $4 million line item in his office budget for digital services, which is code for hiring bots to rage a world-wide smear campaign against H&M. His brother also chartered a jet to stick it to him and later beat him up in a rage. But sure, let’s wonder about how much happier Harry can actually be away from these clowns. Okay, I’m done wondering. A lot happier.

  22. Mary Pester says:

    What planet do these people live on on! Because it isn’t the same one as me, I have family in Canada, America and Australia. Do I miss them, sometimes, BUT there is a wonderful invention that we, and the Queen loved. It’s called zoom! The only reason Harry is estranged from his UK family is because they are a selfish, steaming pile of dung, without a careing empathic bone in their bodies. Why is it it’s always Harry that has to pick up the phone?? Harry came to the coronation and look how they treated him, look at how they treated both him and Megan at the Queen’s funeral. Harry is happy where he is and so is his wife and children, plus they are safe, and NO parent would subject their children to the venom and bile of the Royal rats and their tame paps

    • notasugarhere says:

      ‘NO parent would subject their children to the venom and bile of the Royal rats and their tame paps’

      No good parent would, Mary Pester. Harry and Meghan do not, William and Kate do. W&K lean in to using their kids and throwing them to the wolves. They’ve set up roles and stereotypes for them from the moment they were born.

    • Anna says:

      Oh man, I completely forgot that Harry mentioned zooming with his grandparents! I mean, if the 90-something QUEEN could make time to check in with her grandson, there’s no reason his dogshit father and brother couldn’t do the same if they wanted. It’s certainly easier than calling up their media friends and smoke signalling messages to Harry that way.

      Thinking on it now, I love that QEII asked Harry what Archie wanted (for Christmas I think?) and that little boy was obsessed with waffles, and Harry had to tell her that he wanted a waffle iron, and then SHE GOT IT FOR HIM. Like QEII has her faults, and while I don’t think she had much control of the royal machine in the last five or so years of her life, she loved Harry as much as she was capable of.

      • Mary Pester says:

        @ANNA, your so right, and isn’t it disgusting how the rest of the Royal cult, used the Queen’s failing health to cause havoc in the lives of Harry and Megan and allow the press to run riot. The Borgias were a better family than this shower

  23. SURE says:

    Forty engagements is how many hours of work? I think that figure would be even more more shocking to the average working Brit.

  24. Steph says:

    Ugh. They still speak as is Meghan isn’t a factor. All this “trauma” about Harry moving to the US as if Meghan didn’t do the reverse first. She literally dropped everything for Harry and moved to the UK away from everyone she knew and loved. But that was fine. Harry does it and now we have to talk about mental health. These are the same folks who mocked him for his mental health journey.

  25. ThatsNotOkay says:

    Familial estrangements really, truly suck. But you get over it and move on, because you have to, and you find joy in memories, if there are any good ones, and make new memories, which dampens the loss.

  26. QuiteContrary says:

    So this “expert” in human development predicts that Harry, someone he does not know, is heading toward depression and anxiety because of familial estrangement — the intimate details of which he cannot possibly know.

    Karl Pillemer is a sociologist, not a psychologist or psychiatrist, and he’s written a book on family estrangement, so he has a financial interest in commenting on Harry’s estrangement from the BRF.

    Bond is just a hack.

    • MsIam says:

      And wouldn’t the remedy for the supposedly resulting anxiety and depression be to seek professional help/therapy? Hmm I wonder if Harry and Meghan have ever thought of doing that? /s Anyone who speaks to theses tabloids does so at their own risk but I wonder if Bond just quoted a few things out of context from the professor’s book?

  27. AshoftheIsland says:

    Is anyone else kinda uncomfortable with how many times ‘tribe’ and ‘tribal’ was used? Especially when referring to the titles of Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet as ‘their “tribal identity”‘? I get that ‘tribe’ is often used now as way to talk about finding your found family (ie ‘found my tribe’), but something about the context and the history and the fact that she’s talking about the first mixed-race children in the British Royal Family and is referring to their titles as ‘tribal identity’ makes me cringe….

  28. Tessa says:

    It goes against nature when charles let’s his elder son drive the younger one out

  29. Well Wisher says:

    “Professor Pillemer believes that fragile mental health can be made worse by estrangement. “There will likely be an array of emotional effects for Prince Harry and his family that include the pain of rejection, a sense of betrayal, a profound sense of loss, and most likely, a greater likelihood towards depression and anxiety as a result of this kind of relationship trauma.”

    While the above mentioned may or may not be true, I fail to see how this scenario applies to Harry.
    Harry is a part of a family for four, he is still married to Meghan and share two children with her.

    Where is the pain of rejection in that household? He has dealt and come to terms with the sense of loss of his mother, Princess Diana. The ‘summit’ and the punitive leaks in the early stages of his marriage were ‘ the sense of betrayal’ which is behind him….
    So why the talk of mental illness??

    The emphasis of Harry’s undoing makes for bad reading because it is callous, crude and full of envy.

    This inevitable leads to the dismissal of the entire sordid article….

    The idea of the particular media behaving as a spurned love is stale and odious….

  30. Jaded says:

    “A royal family, steeped in a thousand years of history…” you say Jennie?

    Lemme fix that for you. “A rapacious family steeped in a thousand years of looting, pillaging, war, thievery, homicide, genocide and toxic family relationships.”

  31. Tara says:

    “Professor Pillemer believes that fragile mental health can be made worse by estrangement…”

    Yeah, what if the people you’re estranged from are your ABUSERS? What then? Moron.

    • Libra says:

      Right. I’ve been estranged from an adjacent family member for 20 years to protect my children. Never once have I regretted it or felt a sense of loss.

      • Tara says:

        My heart breaks for you. And NOT because your children will never meet your toxic family member like it’s some kind of loss for them, but, because you experienced something with them and had to cut them off for yours and your children’s protection. I’m so glad you were able to get away!

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Tara, it just occurred to me that this could be correct if you consider Wont is the one affected by the estrangement–his mental health could be fragile. Certainly, we can see that there is some kind of problem there. Sounds like opposite day.

  32. Gabby says:

    Any time a sentence from these idiots begins with “Harry should…” you know the rest is going to be a load of bullshit.

  33. Katya says:

    Not only does Meghan have the Ragland family but also Samantha’s two other children. She may have a very good relationship with her nieces and nephew there but they don’t wish to be public about it. Look how Meghan and Harry are treated by the press on both sides of the pond!!

    Also Tom Jr. has like three sons IIRC. Let’s remind ourselves that Tom Sr. has never met ANY of his grandchildren … not just Meghan’s.

  34. Mon says:

    🤣🤣🤣 LOL LOL LOL – 🤣🤣🤣
    Their ( the media) desperation is showing.
    On the eve of Heart of Invictus premiere the telegraph printed this? #GirlBye!
    I just lols at these now. I used to get frustrated at the glaring misrepresentation but now I at most pity the media but mostly laugh at them.

    All sensible individuals are LOLing at these people ~ bless her heart 🙈

  35. blunt talker says:

    Harry and Meghan will not put their children through any genetic pain and misery for any family ties on both sides of their family-As Harry stated he did not know he was being mistreated but thought this is the way things were going to be and accepted it-But he also felt like his family members were doing him wrong but did not know how to deal with-He knows what happened to his great aunt Margaret-he knows what has happened to Andrew, Anne, and Charles’s younger brother if they tried to do something they wanted to do-the Sussexes do not want the same things for their children-they want them to have choices-something Harry felt he never really had-God please bless and keep the entire Sussex family safe from evil doers.

  36. Lady Digby says:

    I can only assume that Ms Bond’s BBC pension is so very small that she has to do this to keep the wolf from the door of her lovely house in Devon.

    Back when she was the ‘official’ voice of the BBC on these matters all she had to do was ask the royal personage: Have you anything to tell a grateful nation? and then report what they said in reply.

    Now she has to make up her own stories. As she has no idea what is actually happening (as the current holder of her position is equally clueless this comes as no surprise) she has called in an ‘expert’ to help her out. The end result is “nonsense on stilts” and that’s being kind!

  37. lionfire says:

    Wait, wait, whose family is steeped in “thousand years history”?
    Because Windsors surely aren’t, their own surname is, what, a century, century and a half old? They were middle-ti German nobility before that, come on!
    Jfc!

  38. Michael P Cowtan says:

    He is not the only person to be estranged from family, and he seems to be thriving now he has them washed out of his system.