A Tennessee judge finally removed Michael Oher’s 19-year-long conservatorship

Earlier this year, former Baltimore Raven Michael Oher learned that everything he had been told about and by his adoptive family was a lie. A version of Oher’s life story was told in The Blind Side, an Oscar-winning film which grossed hundreds of millions of dollars. People loved the story of an affluent, white Memphis family “adopting” a Black kid from the wrong side of the tracks and finding a way to make him a football star. As it turns out, Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy lied, lied and lied some more – they never adopted Oher, they put him into a janky conservatorship and then cheated Oher out of millions of dollars for his life rights from The Blind Side. For years, Oher believed the Tuohys adopted him and he was part of their family. It was all a lie, and the Tuohys’ explanation for the conservatorship made absolutely no sense either. It also appears as if no one in Tennessee was monitoring the conservatorship, that’s how corrupt and half-assed the whole thing was. Well, Oher has gotten the conservatorship removed:

A Tennessee judge said Friday she is ending a conservatorship agreement between former NFL player Michael Oher and a Memphis couple who took him in when he was in high school, but the highly-publicized dispute over financial issues will continue.

Shelby County Probate Court Judge Kathleen Gomes said she is terminating the agreement reached in 2004 that allowed Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy to control Oher’s finances. Oher signed the agreement when he was 18 and living with the couple as he was being recruited by colleges as a star high school football player. Their story is the subject of the film “The Blind Side, which earned Sandra Bullock an Oscar.

Gomes said she was not dismissing the case. Oher has asked that the Tuohys provide a financial accounting of money that may have come to them as part of the agreement, claiming that they used his name, image and likeness to enrich themselves and lied to him that the agreement meant the Tuohys were adopting him.

In Tennessee, a conservatorship removes power from a person to make decisions for themselves, and it is often used in the case of a medical condition or disability. But Oher’s conservatorship was approved “despite the fact that he was over 18 years old and had no diagnosed physical or psychological disabilities,” his petition said.

Gomes said she was disturbed that such an agreement was ever reached. She said she had never seen in her 43-year career a conservatorship agreement reached with someone who was not disabled. “I cannot believe it got done,” she said.

Oher and Tuohys listened in by video conference call but did not speak. Lawyers for both parties had agreed that the agreement should end, but the case will continue to address Oher’s claims. Gomes said it should have ended long ago.

[From The Associated Press]

To recap, the Tuohys’ argument was that they put Oher in a conservatorship to get around NCAA booster rules when he was applying to colleges. Oher graduated from Ole Miss in 2009. If the conservatorship was merely a workaround, why was it not removed in 2009? Is it because that was the same year The Blind Side movie was released and the movie made a big f–king deal about how the Tuohys “adopted” Michael? Is it because the Tuohys wanted to control what money they gave to Oher for his life rights? And as Oher’s legal team has pointed out, why were the Tuohys not filing any paperwork with the court following the appointment of the conservatorship? This whole thing is just a catastrophe, and I’m glad the judge noted as much on the record, that none of this should have happened.

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  1. Moira's Rose's Garden says:

    These folks ran a plantation like it’s pre-1864 and used this man. He needs to get everything they earned off of his labor with interest and penalties. I hope they get everything that they deserve. Although it being Tennessee and seeing what’s been going on there, I wouldn’t be surprised if they use the same method to grift more money off of another person. Trash.

    • Pinkosaurus says:

      I hope someone files a complaint with the TN state bar against the lawyer who filed this guardianship on behalf of the Touhys. This should never have been considered legal and Oher should have had a lawyer representing his best interests and not the Touhy’s desire to put him in legal slavery and funnel him like a human donation to their alma mater. It’s so disturbing.

    • Lucy says:

      A woman I follow on Insta (she might actually be TikTok famous) went off about this. She’s from Memphis and has been involved with conservatorships before. She said all of her cases had been handled by Gomes and that she had been very by the book and they weren’t granted Willy nilly. Bookersquared I think is her name. Anyway, I hope the Tuohys get what’s coming to them.

    • snappyfish says:

      My issue are the speaking engagements LeeAnn did touting her “adoptive son”. They were making bank on this young man’s back since day one & up until the story came out. They lied to him and exploited him. I am sure their lawyer drafted the documents when they lied and said there is no such thing as an adult adoption. Their Taco Bell’s had a little sign that read ‘owned by the family from the Blind Side’.. Such grift. I hope he gets every dime. I heard they recently sold their franchises so there is a great starting point, making sure he gets the profit from every one sold that had the little sign. On a positive note, they keep talking themselves into a bigger settlement. So each time they say “we really weren’t going to adopt him” Every dime they made at that speech, event, foundation etc should go directly to Oher.

    • TheVolvesSeidr says:

      @Moira’s Rose’s Garden 100% and if they have broken laws (seems like they have) they should go to prison. Evil racist people.

  2. ML says:

    Michael Oher being freed of that illegal conservatorship is a good first step, but it’s a baby step. The corruption, incompetence and amount of people who must have worked together to get this done and keep it going are still out there. And Michael better be able to get his hard-earned money back with interest and the Tuohys better be made to pay dearly for this.

  3. Mia4s says:

    “ why was it not removed in 2009? Is it because that was the same year The Blind Side movie was released and the movie made a big f–king deal about how the Tuohys “adopted” Michael?”

    I think you might be on to something there. The money motivation on its own doesn’t make a lot of sense on its own because the family is extremely wealthy on the basis of the father’s business (as far as we know…). But the “praise “ they got for this? The social cachet? Yeah I could see this being an ego trip. I’m not sure I can decide which motivation is worse.

    It feels like there needs to be a wider review in Tennessee on conservatorships. If this went on for so long for someone who is more than capable and has resources? It is disturbing to think what might be happening to those who can’t self-advocate.

    • Concern Fae says:

      In my experience, it’s the people who are already rich who are the greediest, grabbiest, cheapskates around. Not all of them, but those who got rich following hustler culture or prosperity gospel or any other get rich scheme, absolutely. When you are a grifter, everyone is a mark.

      And evangelical adoption culture is horrific.

    • Somebody Nobody says:

      They were already rich but he made them famous.

  4. Brassy Rebel says:

    This judge must be the only non-corrupt person in the state of Tennessee legal system. Everyone else seems to be in on it.

  5. sunny says:

    Glad he’s free but what a damn travesty. He was lied to and exploited in so many ways. i hope karma comes for that trash family and everyone involved with this nightmare.

    • Robert Phillips says:

      I don’t know any of these people personally. So no I don’t really know what happened. But I have a big problem with people saying he was lied to. He was 18 at the time. So he should have been smart enough to know the difference between adoption and a conservatorship. Wouldn’t an adoption mean he change his last name to theirs. Wouldn’t his biological parents have to sign over their parental rights so he could be adopted. I think he knew it wasn’t an adoption. But the writer of the book wrote that because it sounds better. And makes a better story. And all this about them using his likeness and life story. I didn’t read the book. But the movie was about the mother. Oher’s character was just a catalyst for the mother’s story.

      • Haylie says:

        Way to make excuses for racist opportunists.

      • Ama1977 says:

        Come on, you think the average 18 year-old “should know the difference” between an adoption and a conservatorship?? That’s ridiculous on its face. He trusted these people because they told him they wanted to take care of him and make him part of their family.

        To your other points, adoption of an adult wouldn’t require involvement from the adopted person’s parents because they’re a legal adult. And again, an 18 year-old who has had a rough start in life is probably going to trust the rich, powerful couple who took him in and told him they loved him and wanted him to be part of their family, not look for reasons to blow that up. Way to blame the victim of these predatory assholes.

      • Moira's Rose's Garden says:

        They told him that because he was 18 the only way to adopt was going through a conservatorship which is patently false. The only time conservatorships are supposed to be used are when someone is physically or mentally incapable of caring for themselves. Not so in this case and the judge who ordered this just as complicit. As stated above, it was used to get around the NCAA rules when he applied to college.
        Your comment indicates that he should have understood what a conservatorship was because he was 18. Assuming your over the age of 18, I guess you act as your own attorney because somehow you divined all legal knowlege when you got the right to vote.
        But hey continue to shill for the master. I’m sure it pays well for you.

      • Jazz Hands says:

        Maybe you were more mature than your years in high school but I don’t think many young people even heard of conservatorships until Britney Spears got put into one. And you certainly don’t need to change your last name if adopted. I am guessing these grifters, who he unfortunately trusted, told him they and their lawyer were taking care of everything and he just needed to focus on football. This is in no way on him. He was a kid. Turning 18 doesn’t magically transform a person into a wise old adult.

      • Blithe says:

        Really? So, you think that an 18 year old, living with a family who, along with his supposed lawyer, tell him that a conservatorship is the equivalent of an adoption for people over 18 — should somehow have had the wherewithal to know that all of these people are lying to him?

        First up, most educated ADULTS don’t really know what a conservatorship is. Many of us had never even heard the term until Britney Spears was reported to be dealing with her situation.

        Just a note: “Smart” and educated/ informed are not the same thing. Nothing magically happens when most people turn 18 that provides them with knowledge about legal terms — or tips them off that the people who have claimed to love them as a family member AND their supposed legal advisors are really FOS. It’s unfortunate that Oher didn’t have appropriate legal advice and even minimally adequate court oversight of his individual interests as a vulnerable minor and beyond as he transitioned to adulthood.

        @Robert Phillips: You’ve written: “But the movie was about the mother. Oher’s
        character was just a catalyst for the mother’s story”. I’m curious. Whose “mother” is it that you’re calling “the mother” here? You’ve just claimed that a vulnerable teen should have somehow understood the difference between an adoption and conservatorship— despite what he was told by his guardians and “Aunt Debbie” – the family lawyer the Touhys conveniently set Oher up with. Even you, despite your assertions about what teenaged Oher should have known, even you are describing her as “the mother” rather than “the conservator”.

        The plantation vibes are strong.

      • Ripley says:

        If they were able to fool an entire nation into believing they had “saved” and adopted him, I think they would have been able to fool an 18 year old kid.

        When my parents told me at 18 yo that my dad had cancer (he’s still going strong 25 years later), they downplayed the seriousness of it all to protect me. I took everything at face value because I loved and trusted them. Now, in my forties, I understand the gravity of it all and how they didn’t necessarily lie to me, but the truth was definitely obscured.

      • Mslove says:

        Robert, Michael Oher was encouraged to call the Tuohys mon & dad. They called him “son.”

        .

      • pottymouth pup says:

        his attorney, who should have been his advocate protecting his interests, was a family friend of the Tuohy’s so there was an inherent conflict of interest. Many people have no idea what a conservatorship is, let alone how it differs from an adoption, so to expect an 18yo kid to just know without being told (especially since his attorney didn’t appear to have explained it to him) is beyond ridiculous.

      • Bad Janet says:

        No. Maybe you consider yourself to have been super savvy and wise to the world at 18, but for mere mortals, they still have another 7 to 15 years of brain development to go at that age. And no matter what your opinion is, we are all potential victims of grooming and manipulation. There are a lot of reasons why he could have been vulnerable to it. Writing it off as “he was 18 and should have known better” is short sighted and missing the full context of what actually happened.

      • Lucky Charm says:

        “But the movie was about the mother. Oher’s character was just a catalyst for the mother’s story.”

        @ Robert Phillips – without Michael Oher, there literally would have been no story!

      • Satish More says:

        Robert Phillips

        You mean he should have assumed that the family who he believed had adopted him, might be trying to scam him???
        If ONLY all 18 year olds were that jaded……….

      • JGP says:

        I know someone who was adopted as an older teenager – a family member took care of him because his own parents were not around. Adoption was a good way to give him stability and stuff like health insurance. And no he did not change his name.

      • Lily says:

        I turned eighteen in 1992. I had no idea there was such a thing as a conservatorship until the Free Britney movement. I have two bachelors degrees, a masters degree and two different teaching credentials. So being an educated adult has zero bearing on knowing about conservatorships. I am a human being. Not Google or The Encyclopedia Brittanica.

  6. kirk says:

    Glad to see the conservatorship ending, but the judge sticking with the case. The book came before the movie. Michael Lewis claims he fairly split income from the book based on whatever agreement they had at the time. But to my mind that still needs review too.

    • Moira's Rose's Garden says:

      Agree. Not believing a word out of Michael Lewis’ mouth. Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are comes to mind.

    • Blithe says:

      Excellent point, @kirk. Decisions about the book and the movie seem to have been made without Oher having independent legal counsel looking out for his interests.

      At least one lawyer and at least one judge should be investigated and probably disbarred — at the very least — for this mess.

      • pottymouth pup says:

        Also, if I recall correctly, what the Tuohy’s claimed was split evenly was splitting all the income evenly between 5 people (all 4 Tuohy’s and Oher) which means the Tuohy family got 80% of earnings and he only got 20% which, most certainly, was not equitable by any stretch of the imagination

        And since they Tuohy’s claim the conservatorship was to get around NCAA rules for boosters, I hope the Tuohys are now barred from being boosters

  7. JanetDR says:

    I’m so glad to read this today! I hope he gets every dime due. Yay for a good judge!

  8. SAS says:

    Good step 1, for now. Glad to see Oher continuing to fight for these grifters to have to release their financial records. He knows what it’s going to show. I’m just curious whether they’re smart criminals who have/ will hide the extent of their financial abuse or if they’re dumb criminals and we will learn the extent of their theft. And for Oher to finally GET WHAT HE IS OWED.

  9. Amy Bee says:

    I’m glad the judge ended the conservatorship. Hopefully he gets the money that’s owed to him as well.

  10. Kingston says:

    #RobertPhillips
    You admit to ignorance about sooooooooo many things regarding this instance of modern-day slavery, yet proceed to make conclusions that belittle Oher and give benefit of doubt to the Tuohys.
    LMFAO
    Can u now see your craven, unadulterated bias as clearly as the rest of us do?

  11. RoyalCommoner says:

    All I wanna know is if he’s gonna get all his money back. I hope so.

    • Giddy says:

      I absolutely want him to get his money back. But I’m mean. I want the Tuohys thoroughly exposed. Change their story right now! They were not kind, loving people who wanted the best for Oher. No! They were corrupt, grasping opportunists who saw a chance to further enrich themselves while creating a public image of generosity and kindness. To hell with them.

      • Jazz Hands says:

        Someone seriously needs to make a movie – The (No Longer) Blind Side – and depict everything as it actually was. This is a story that needs to be told. And Michael Oher needs to financially benefit.

      • Lilly (with the double-L) says:

        Yes, Jazz Hands! I would love that. In the meantime, I’m going to buy his book. I hope it sells well.

    • lucy2 says:

      Same here. This poor guy has been taken advantage of and basically robbed his entire life. I hope he gets justice, and all his money.

  12. Rnot says:

    The whole thing is shady as hell and highlights some gaping holes that allow abuse in the guardianship/conservatorship system. With that said, I genuinely don’t believe he was defrauded of millions because I don’t believe that anyone ever paid “millions of dollars for his life rights.” He wasn’t a world leader or a cultural icon. His life rights just weren’t that valuable at that time.

    The movie made millions but Hollywood is notorious for “accounting” that ensures that huge box office receipts don’t translate to huge “profits” that have to be shared. There should be a forensic accounting but I don’t think he was robbed of millions and I’d bet that when the dust settles he’ll be left with a broken heart and maybe a small check. The money isn’t the tragedy here. His trust has been betrayed over and over. I just hope that his wife is a solid person.

    • Saucy&Sassy says:

      Rnote, that’s what I was thinking. Can you imagine thinking you’re part of a family who loves you and who you love only to discover it was all a lie? I feel so sorry for him, because that’s a LOT. I hope he gets some counselling to try and wade through the pain of all of this.

      There are so many questions regarding the finances. Did the Tuohys sign his NFL contracts, too? There is a lot about this part that will not show them in the best of lights–can’t wait for all of that to happen, because as bad as this specific piece is they are only going to continue to look worse and worse. I love that for them.

  13. Bingo says:

    #RobertPhillips
    Sure, Jan. I mean, Sean.