Here are some photos of Jennifer Lopez on May 24th – her Atlas promotion was over and she was back in the dance studio, preparing for her tour, one would assume. Her manager Benny Medina was with her. I have to say, I find it fascinating to see how Benny is handling the Bennifer drama. He’s really keeping calm and not panicking – he’s letting the split rumors hang around (there doesn’t seem to be anything he can do about that), but he’s not making it worse or making any big pronouncements about “it’s over” or “of course they’ll absolutely reconcile.” That’s the general vibe coming from J.Lo and Ben Affleck too – it’s like they’re giving each other time and space, and in that time and space, they’re not consumed with melodrama about their marriage. This seems to be the message coming from Jennifer’s camp:
Jennifer Lopez is keeping up her busy work schedule as rumors continue to surround her and Ben Affleck.
“They’re still living separately,” a source close to Lopez tells PEOPLE. “She’s back in L.A. for tour rehearsals. She seems okay. She’s very focused on work.”
Lopez, 54, and Affleck, 51, spent Mother’s Day apart and have been living under different roofs in Los Angeles. Lopez’s latest film Atlas debuted over Memorial Day weekend as the No. 1 movie on Netflix in 55 countries, according to the streaming service, adding that the sci-fi movie attracted 28.2 million views. On top of the new movie, Lopez is also preparing to embark on a North American summer tour that begins in Orlando on June 26.
It feels possible, to me, that this is less about a permanent estrangement and more about Ben and Jen’s busy schedules this summer. Ben is still filming The Accountant 2, Jennifer is preparing to go on the road in a month. Hopefully, they’re too busy to get a divorce and after a summer apart, they’ll get back together and everything will be all good. This is me being a delusional Bennifer stan. Speaking of, Jennifer Garner also hopes for the best with Ben and J.Lo:
Jennifer Garner is hoping for the best for Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. As Affleck, 51, and Lopez, 54, experience marriage troubles just under two years since tying the knot, a source tells PEOPLE that Garner “wants the best for” ex-husband Affleck.
“She wants him happy and healthy so he can be the best dad possible,” says the source. Garner, 52, and Affleck share three kids: Violet, 18, Seraphina, 15, and Samuel, 12.
The source adds that Garner, who is dating chairman and CEO of Cali Group John Miller, “likes that [Lopez] lives a healthy lifestyle and supports Ben’s sobriety. Jen wants that for Ben.”
Yeah, while I have never believed that Garner and Lopez get along, I think they appreciate each other. Lopez loves Garner’s kids, Garner loves that Lopez is sober and healthy. I don’t know, I don’t think there’s a lot of drama there.
Photos courtesy of Backgrid.
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- Los Angeles, CA – Jennifer Lopez, with manager Benny Medina, exits the dance studio in Los Angeles, showcasing her abs while discreetly hiding her finger. Pictured: Jennifer Lopez BACKGRID USA 24 MAY 2024 BYLINE MUST READ: @CelebrityLivin_ / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
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- Los Angeles, CA – Jennifer Lopez, with manager Benny Medina, exits the dance studio in Los Angeles, showcasing her abs while discreetly hiding her finger. Pictured: Jennifer Lopez BACKGRID USA 24 MAY 2024 BYLINE MUST READ: @CelebrityLivin_ / BACKGRID USA: +1 310 798 9111 / usasales@backgrid.com UK: +44 208 344 2007 / uksales@backgrid.com *UK Clients – Pictures Containing Children Please Pixelate Face Prior To Publication*
I think Jennifer Garner had his ‘best’ years so she doesnt care. Some people get grumpy when they are sober and it takes a toll on those around them.
His best years? While he was drinking and cheated on her?
I dont think he started his spiral until later in the marriage,i think there was a real period of love,marriage and kids between them. With Jlo barely two years and he is a sad grump,it must sting he couldn’t give that to her too.
At one point Gwyneth Paltrow had broken up with him, and she said something along the lines of him having demons or issues or something like that years ago. I think Jen Garner said something about his love being like the sun—it was great when it was shining, but when it wasn’t… something along those lines. I question if JG and Ben stayed together longer than JG might have because of the kids (no judgment).
“Best years” relatively speaking.
Are we sure he had any “best” years? Maybe when he was making Good Will Hunting and before he found fame in Hollywood? Jennifer Garner went thru a LOT with him. I’m sure she’s happy J-Lo took that mess off her hands and genuinely wanted them to work out.
Actually I think she had some influence on the rumours herself by not flying back to LA on weekends when she filming in New York all through April and part of May even though her kids also were in LA. Then she liked that toxic relationship instagram post and was seen looking at new houses in LA. It was only then it came out Ben was living separately. So I think they both wanted it to come out and didn’t want to work on things privately.
–Opps this was an answer for Mimi way down the page
I feel for Jen. But the reason she’s not saying anything is because anything can happen and she has no control over ben and what he might decide to fo, because if she had it her way, they would have pap strolls to calm things down and keep up with her image. But bens not up for it, he’s a “fck that sht” kinda guy. i wish them well, but i have no hope for these 2, it was a question of time
There is a pap picture of her with Ben and his mom going to another graduation party at Jen garner’s house at daily mail. Both of them couldn’t look more grim so it did nothing to calm anything. Commenters wondered why she would want to go considering he’s leaking all this “Ben is worn down by the marriage” stuff and some people thought it was because his daughter wanted her to come. Apparently they had lunch earlier in the week.
Jennifer Lopez and his daughter had lunch earlier in the week? Or Ben and Jen?
@Kebbie Jlo and violet. It was when she was wearing that very conservative looking grey dress looking so skinny that was on celebitchy last time. There was a pap picture I thought it was Jen garner hugging jlo but the Bennifer Stan account on insta said it was Violet. It was taken through the windows so it was hard to tell.
That’s sweet that they spent time together just the two of them.
They both look absolutely miserable arriving for that graduation party. It’s a matter of time until they announce it’s over. Too bad-I was really rooting for them-they looked so happy a few years ago. But I guess it was inevitable.
I mean do a standard lovey dovey pap stroll to calm things down if it wasnt true.
I thought their marriage would last 5 years so this is way ahead of schedule.
Same girl, same…….
FIVE? I thought it would be two but I will get nothing for my accuracy. Past two years is past the honeymoon stage.
As I approach 50, I know I want less drama and I want to focus on being healthy and happy and enjoying life. I think Garner is feeling the same.
I am 43 and I have reached the zero drama tolerance phase of my life.
I have a toxic family, which is more than enough, plus this year has been A LOT because of my surgery: suddenly all I had to think was myself. That’s why I’m done with drama.
You gotta do what you need to do to protect your peace. And once that breathing begins, there is no going back.
Thank you for voicing me thoughts so clearly @eleonor
Seriously. Life is hard and unpredictable enough–why have strife and uncertainty in your relationship as well? It’s been a tough year for me and my husband (because of external factors out of our control) and having peace, harmony, and stability in my marriage has given me a very necessary soft place to fall. Everyone including J Lo deserves the same but I do think that becomes more apparent as we get older. The energy to devote to this kind of shit just is not there anymore.
@Kitten, wishing you and your hubby all the good karma in the world. 2024 has just been the worst. I hope 2025 is better for all of us.
Why can’t they remain married but only see each other on a weekend once a month. That way they can have breathing space and they won’t get on each other’s nerves.
I wonder if she could accept something non-traditional like that. She’s always so focused on the fairytale, but keeping separate homes would probably be better for both of them. It would take some pressure off and give him his own space to brood.
We know that Ben is living elsewhere. Did he leave or was he asked to move out for a bit?
I’ll just say that I love her bag.
I maintain that Jen Garner is firmly in the “you two better work this out because I don’t wanna deal with him anymore“ camp. And I can’t blame her one bit.
I think Jen G wants Ben to stay sober. When he falls off the wagon it affects the whole family. I bet it was a relief that Ben was seeing someone who is sober.
Yeah, everything seems to revolve him, his sobriety, his inability to remain interested in a long term relationship or marriage. Like everyone has to tiptoe around him so that he doesn’t go off or gets hurt. And yet, JL gets hammered in the press and JG has to constantly protect the kids. I wonder if HE ever thinks about how his behavior has affected the women he once loved. He loves his kids but what about caring about the hurt he’s caused to his former partners? I think he’s selfish. Eh. Maybe I’m being too harsh on him.
Someone pointed out earlier that if Ben and JL divorce, then his legal next of kin is his 18 year old daughter. (Adult children come before parents in the NOK order.) If he’s divorced and has another crisis, then JG is certainly going to support her daughter so she’d be involved, again. If he falls apart I’d guess she wants JL to be the one on the spot handling things and making decisions, not Violet.
She’s losing weight and I wonder if it’s work or relationship related. I agree with @lolo86lf, married but separate sounds like a great option – for me anyway because I do NOT want them to break up!
She’s been looking noticeably thin and stressed lately.
Her stomach is literally sagging in that picture. This is the most thin/drawn out that I’ve seen her. Hopefully, she is not on the ozempic train because she has always been fitness/body goals.
Sounds like a trial separation for the two to see if the heart grows fonder when apart. I think JL will want to work things out. I have no faith in Ben in wanting the same. I think he’s mentally and emotionally checked out and is just going through the motions right now. He has been like this in every. past. relationship. Again, I know Lopez has an impulsive and problematic need to spotlight their romance in the media, but I do feel sorry for her. Garner’s concern has always been he needs to stay sober for the kids. Then there’s Ben. He should have “enter at your risk” printed on his forehead as a warning to women. He’s messy, can’t be changed, and eventually lose interest within a year or two.
Something just hit me. Ben has a pattern of being too much of a coward to end his relationship that he does stuff to make the women end things.
Goop- he cheated
JLo – He cheated 2 days before their wedding .
Jen – despite having a long-term side piece, he slept with the nanny .
With his other two main relationships post divorce, the woman seems to have ended things also.
I found it odd that a man who doesn’t like negative press would move off the property and bring media attention to their marriage. Instead of moving into the 5,000 sq guest house and working things out in private . I wonder if moving out was his way of forcing Jlo hand to end things. Like many have said, it’s hard to have a movie, album, and tour about your great love story when the world knows your marriage is falling apart.
JG cheated on two partners as well Including one she was with and cheated with Ben. She ‘accidentally’ became pregnant. Please. She knew what she was doing. Ben was a stupid cash cow and still is. Trading up was her thing. Saint jen is a fantastic pr game. And everyone falls for it.
Well, it seems you have all the inside knowledge of what went on privately in the Affleck/Garner marriage. It was actually Ben who encouraged her to get pregnant, he was keen to start a family as soon as possible. Furthermore, “St. Jen” was the one keeping their kids sane through Ben’s public and shameful fall from grace. Her “PR game” is not a game, it’s who she is. When you’re a star going through an ugly separation from another star you’re going to be hounded by paps no matter where you go or what you do. Nobody’s fallen for anything and I really don’t appreciate the inference that we’re somehow too stupid to have valid opinions.
Well said, Jaded. Jennifer Garner is one of the least messy celebrities out there. For a long time, her main PR was being a massive fangirl of Ina Garten and Martha Stewart. I’m not sure what you think there is to fall for, Subvers?
I think J Garner was crazy in love with Affleck (see Dinner for Five) and for him, he loved her too but not w/ the same passion but more like, time to have some kids and do the responsible thing.
I don’t think Garner is invested in him like that anymore and believe that she just wants him well and sober. I don’t think she’d leak she approves of JLo as why would she think someone that high maintenance would be good for Ben except that she is health conscious? I think those leaks were from JLo’s team and Garner isn’t leaking much at all but busy doing exactly what she’s telling the world she’s doing through her socials – being a mum.
Ben Affleck seems moody and unreliable as a romantic partner (Cancer and Scorpio dominate his chart if you believe in that stuff). He’s better off dating like Leo in lower-commitment romances (Goop said his dream woman is a stripper) so he has energy left over for his kids.
It is very odd he couldn’t move into another wing of their enormous mansion for his “space”. Renting a whole new house sent up a flare to the paps.
I can’t remember who but a YouTube RE agent gave a bit of tour and overview of what the home has. It’s more of a little city than house. It’s freaking HUGE. It even has its own sports complex and full spa!
There is no way he couldn’t move to one side of the home, and they would never see each other.
Moving out was just asking for the Paps to follow them.
I still think they will work it out.
What will she do? She can’t stop her life because of Ben, she has two kids minus Ben whom she has to think of. Ben’s kids are tight with JLo’s kids. There’s genuine as friendship there. I truly think JLo’s doing her best to just keep it together to keep things peaceful for her children. Also, no matter how bad Ben’s track record is with other people he has veen in relationship with minus JLo, people will always blame JLo for everything going wrong. It doesn’t matter if there’s truth to it or not. So, her doing media play won’t matter, better to just let it be, roll the dice and see where it lands. Also, she has finished movies she is supposed to promote, films she is signed onto do, a concert planned. Ben leaving or not doesn’t change any of it.
It’s not just Jlo that gets the blame, all the women Ben has been in relationships are hit with the blame some more than others. While Ben is made out to be the victim to these evil manipulative attention seeking women. Just look at the person who replied to my comment above.
@Erica — I agree. Check out my reply to her, I couldn’t let that one go uncorrected.
Yes I agree. I may not be a fan of any of them, but I hate how the women take all the blame from the public and media. I knew when Ben and Jlo got back together this was going to happen if/when they split.
He’s a grown man and people are still making comments like Jen wants them to work out so Ben is Jlo’s problem and not her like he’s a child.
There are a lot of married people who live separately by choice. They still spend time together and love each other but have their separate living space.
Ben is an emotional vampire. First he love bombed her, then he devalued her (the grouchy faces and angry whispers in her ear in public), and now he’s discarding her.
Ben is Colin Robinson!!
(I hope someone gets the reference. Bat!)
Jlo is at her 4th marriage I think it isn’t crazy to think she must have some part of responsibilities in this too.
Ben is messy and an addict everyone knows that.
From what I’ve see and read they just seem deeply incompatible
I don’t think anyone is saying that JL didn’t have a part to play in the breakdown. At least I’m saying the media is mostly talking about HER behavior towards him, their marriage, and even how she treats other people. The focus seems to be she’s the one at fault and how poor Ben is suffering under the constant limelight. Here again, the media mentions her divorces and not Ben’s because she has more in number. I have not seen much in the media covering his messiness — his track record of failed relationships and how his issues have affected those relationships. We’re being jockeyed along to believe we must be empathetic to him while mocking or judging her. It’s hypocritical and misogynistic.
My question is, why are these two not putting out a joint statement about them working on their marriage asking for privacy and shutting things down for the most part? Instead of having their separate PR teams running to the media with new updates every other day and putting the blame on the other. The “ everything ok” photo ops mean nothing because they both do the same things with their previous partners before splitting with them.
I actually think in their case absence could absolutely make the heart grow fonder. I think time apart might actually make them want to reconcile…OR they will realize how happy they are apart and will announce their split while she’s on tour. I feel like it will be one of those.
Just got an email from JLo that she’s canceling the tour to be “with her children and her family.” Nothing about spending time with her husband . . .
Just got an alert that Jennifer Lopez AKA JLo has canceled her concert tour
I posted some comments about my dislike of her and now feel bad for her. She’s definitely gotten some bully-level stuff.
That’s a good catch You’re right she didn’t say husband and family
It’s a smart move, her tour wasn’t selling and it best not to let that affect her Vegas residency.
I don’t want to read too much into it, but it’s odd that she said kids, family and close friends. Why single everyone out except “husband” like that and not just say to be with her family?
It would single him out as the culprit and futher highlight theyre having problems. She doesnt want to confirm everyones guessing game
Her tour was averaging 73% sold. It was doing fine for someone who’s last hit was 10yrs ago.
It was on track for 80-85% average occupancy. That is great for her level.
She’s not Beyonce or Swift – look at the figures – but a lot of artists younger to her would kill for figures like that.
She had 75% sold out tickets….her marriage probably truly is on the verge of collapse.
There was an article a few weeks (?) ago maybe less that live nation was trying to get her to cancel her tour because it wouldn’t be profitable. Jlo was refusing because of pride but really she’s got the perfect excuse to now. I just wish she wasn’t so hung up on her image and seemingly being on top all the time. Now she’s already poured a lot of money and time into getting it ready.
Who did not see this coming a mile away?
JL finally listened & cancelled her Summer tour!
More importantly…Congratulations Violet on going to Yale
Jlo, arguably one of the most beautiful, talented, successful women on earth always seems to be drawn to playboys, narcissists or men who still haven’t pulled the heads out of their butts due to their youth/inexperience (like us all).
Am huge JLO fan. Hope he figures it out or she figures out how to find an equal partner.