Winona Ryder: The word ‘icon’ is overused, ‘they don’t know what a real icon is’

Winona Ryder covers the August issue of Harper’s Bazaar, all to promote Beetlejuice Beetlejuice (the long-awaited sequel to the 1988 cult classic). Winona reprised her role as Lydia Deetz, now a widow who communes with the dead on a talk show. Jenna Ortega plays her daughter, in what is probably the most perfect casting of all time. This profile wasn’t super-complicated or deep and that’s fine – Winona is 52 years old now, she’s lived a big life and she protects her peace. She’s not online, she’s been in a 14-year relationship with Scott Mackinlay Hahn, and she’s happy to still be working on interesting projects. The interview took place in a cemetery in Georgia. Classic. You can read the full piece here. Some highlights:

The word icon has become overused: “Everyone uses it now, and they don’t know what a real icon is,” she says. But she looks, as she always has, like the poster child for Gen X.

Lydia reminds Winona of her own disastrous youth: “In my 30s, I had two disastrous relationships that were—they weren’t wrong, but this was before you would ever think to Google someone. When I look back, I’m like, ‘What the hell was I thinking?’ I was dating the type of person who only lets you know a few weeks in that they’re in a relationship with someone else. And you’re just like, ‘What the f–k?’ ”

The elder stateswoman: Now 52, Ryder is in a much different place in her life and work, inhabiting more of an elder-stateswoman role. She refuses, for example, to wear heels on the red carpet, preferring to style herself (a rarity in Hollywood), either hiding her boots with a floor-length dress or incorporating them into her outfit. “I actually made a conscious decision, maybe six years ago,” she says.

Her boyfriend Scott Mackinlay Hahn: “He’s so great. He really is. I’m really lucky,” Ryder says. They will soon return to either New York City, where they rent, or Los Angeles, where she owns a house. She and Hahn want to move, but they’re not entirely clear as to where.

She’s nervous about the election. Her parents—established writers and left-wing intellectuals—decamped from Northern California, where Ryder was raised, to Canada after George W. Bush was re-elected in 2004. Uncertainty looms on the horizon. Ryder—who can careen from topic to topic in delightful digressions—lists why: the college-campus protests, Jared Kushner’s statement about developing Gaza, the carceral system, and Joe Biden’s chances of beating back Trump in the general election. “It’s just a scary time,” she adds.

Meeting Tim Burton when she was a teenager: “I was sitting there, and this guy came in holding a folder, who I thought was a messenger or something. We started talking about Edward Gorey. About half an hour into this conversation, I feel like I’m making a friend, and I ask him, ‘Do you know Tim Burton? This is his office, right?’ And he went, ‘Well, that’s me.’ I didn’t know that directors could look like Tim. He was 27. Immediately, I was like, ‘Oh, sh-t. I’m sorry. Do you want me to read?’ He told me no. I remember feeling like ‘Oh, God, did I blow it?’ I had this fear when I got up to leave, and I was like, ‘Hey, man, it was really great meeting you. Good luck, this sounds really great.’ I added, ‘If you want, I can come back.’ But he told me that he wanted me to do it. That had never happened. I’d never been offered a part without a reading for it or on the spot like that, ever.”

Thoughts about retiring: Working on a big show like Stranger Things can be draining, she admits, though she’s ever grateful for the opportunity. “And then I think, ‘What if I just hang it up?’ And then I think, ‘Well, if Jim [Jarmusch] wanted me to do something, I would do it,’ and then you start thinking of all the people that you would work with if they called, and that’s not really retiring. That’s just being available.”

Whether she thinks she had PTSD from her younger days: “The answer would be no. I feel incredibly lucky to have been able to live this life—however intense and overwhelming it got, it’s NOTHING compared to what it is now with the internet and social media. I just find myself feeling tremendous empathy toward people who have sacrificed so much.”

[From Harper’s Bazaar]

I loved the part where she considers retiring but then thinks about all of the directors she’d like to work with again and she’s just like… no, I’m not retiring, they might call. I think it’s so cool that she’s returning to this Beetlejuice world and that she’s still doing weird, interesting and even mainstream work. I wonder what she gets offered and what she turns down, because I bet that even today, she gets offered a lot. Anyway, there’s a lot about Beetlejuice Beetlejuice in this piece, so much so that I really want to see it now.

Cover & Instagram courtesy of Harper’s Bazaar.

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  1. Digital Unicorn says:

    I am soooooooo excited for BeetleJuice BeetleJuice – the trailers look fab and the casting is just perfect. THIS is going to be the big blockbuster of the year – so many people i know are excited for this.

  2. Mcmmom says:

    So…who is she referring to? There are so many famous men she’s dated, I wouldn’t know how to narrow it down (though I’m sure someone on here can).

    • Emcee3 says:

      I reflexively thought of Johnny Depp.

    • AmyB says:

      I remember Johnny Depp and Matt Damon. But she was with both of them for a few years at least?

      • IFoxi says:

        Hi AmyB,
        I think the article said she was in her 30s… which made me remember that it was well known in the ’00s Dave Grohl hooked up with her while he was dating Louise Post from Veruca Salt. That must be one of them. Then Winona was with the Soul Asylum guy a while, so he prob wasn’t the other one… I’m not sure orherwise. I was so happy to see her big comeback in Stranger Things.

    • Anonymous says:

      Wasn’t there an overlap with Minnie Driver and her dating Matt Damon? And Winona wasn’t aware he was with Minnie? I seem to remember something like that.

  3. alexc says:

    Have always loved her, she’s so real and so talented. Sorry girl, you kind of are an icon.

    • Justjj says:

      She’s completely an icon. One of the faces that defined the late 80s-late 90s for Gen Xers and millennials alike. I can’t wait for Beetlejuice Beetlejuice!

  4. Flamingo says:

    I’m 53 I long to retire. But it’s not possible due to dumb choices I made in my youth. I’m on the Gen X retirement plan of dying at my desk. But I get what she is saying. I would love to just pick and choose and work at my leisure. The thought is incredibly intoxicating.

    I am so excited for BeetleJuice BeetleJuice and very happy Alec Baldwin isn’t in it.

    • Mcmmom says:

      Who is retiring in their mid 50s? I have always been relatively sensible with my money and I’ve got at least 1-2 decades of work still. Kids to put through college, mortgages to pay off – that just feels “normal” to work until at least 65.

      • Flamingo says:

        I know many people that retired early. A co-worker of mine just bounced out at 55. Maybe it was generational wealth and inheritance. Or good financial planning I never did. Nor have I ever inherited a dime from my broke family. Obviously, Winona is in a different financial bracket than me. But the daily grind gets harder as you get older. When you are just an office rat like me.

        It’s just a fantasy ok lol

  5. Anonymous says:

    I bet it’s Ryan Adams that she’s mainly thinking of as the mistake in her 30s. He’s a pretty awful character by many accounts.

  6. jellitate says:

    I love her 🖤 Please forgive me for saying this but: she’s the reason I do not like GOOP.

  7. LenaK says:

    What a hideous Harper’s Bazaar cover