Many women are opting not to have their painful IUDs removed


As we talked about last week, the CDC recently issued guidelines advising practitioners to give women proper warning about the potential levels of pain that an IUD insertion and removal will have. The CDC also urged practitioners to give women better options to manage any pain or discomfort that they may feel afterwards. A lot of you shared your stories about how much it hurt to get it put in, and I also noticed that there were comments about dreading getting it removed because of the pain. Well, y’all are not alone! The Washington Post spoke with several women who are opting to not remove their IUDs because of how much it hurts to get them inserted. Some are even weary of going to the gynecologist for other concerns.

No pain management, no removal: Ami Claxton’s birth control method — an intrauterine device — expired 14 years ago. But she has been too scared to have it removed because of the excruciating pain she experienced the last time she had it replaced. This summer, the 55-year-old asked her gynecologist for options to help manage the pain during removal, but was told there weren’t any. “So I said, ‘Forget it. I’m not going to get it out,’ ” said Claxton, of Chandler, Ariz.

The more information, the better women do: Some women say that their worries about pain have deterred them from getting IUDs removed or replaced when needed, and they have become reluctant to return to the gynecologist, even for different procedures. Most patients fare better when their health-care providers are transparent about the procedures, the possibility of pain and any available pain control options, said Nichole Tyson, a clinical professor and division chief of pediatric and adolescent gynecology at Stanford University.

It’s causing mistrust: At 16, Andrea did not expect her IUD placement to hurt and her clinician didn’t warn her, she said. But during the procedure, she was crying and squeezing the hand of the medical assistant. The experience has made her wary of other gynecological care, said Andrea, now 27, of Sacramento, whom The Washington Post is identifying only by first name for privacy. “I guess I have some mistrust there,” she said.

Taking an IUDs to the grave: Christine Romano was so excited to get an IUD in 2012 that she didn’t think about possible pain. It was so severe that she screamed. “It exceeded any kind of pain that I’ve ever experienced,” said Romano, 41, of Queens. The experience left her traumatized and unwilling to consider getting it removed. “This is going to die with me,” she said.

The removal process: During an IUD removal, the clinician inserts a speculum into the vagina and looks for the IUD strings, which are typically about two to three centimeters long. If the strings are visible, forceps are used to grasp the strings and remove the device. Unlike an IUD placement, which usually takes several minutes, the removal takes only a few seconds. The removal can be uncomfortable, but it’s not usually as painful because it doesn’t require manipulation of the cervix, said Eve Espey, chair of American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists’ Contraceptive Equity Expert Work Group.

But…: But sometimes, the strings are not visible, or in rare cases, the device is embedded in the uterus. When this happens, the procedure requires additional steps, which can cause more pain for some people, Espey explained. Data on pain during removal are sparse. In studies, between 5 and 18 percent of IUD users had missing strings. Espey said embedded IUDs are even more uncommon.

The pain management disagreement: For routine IUD removals, most clinicians do not offer pain management. But for complicated removals or when patients request pain control, the options are the same as for IUD insertions. Aside from over-the-counter anti-inflammatory medications, numbing agents such as a lidocaine spray or gel, or a lidocaine injection in the cervix, called a paracervical block, are the most commonly used. Some physicians said anti-anxiety medications before the procedure such as Xanax or Valium can help. Sedation and general anesthesia are rarely considered because of the risks, as well as the need for special equipment and supervision by an anesthesiologist.

Removal discomfort is “quick and manageable: Espey, chair of the OB/GYN department at the University of New Mexico, said the discomfort of IUD removal typically is quick and manageable. She said clinicians should be trained to talk to patients about their preferences and concerns before the procedure. If complications arise or the patient asks to stop, clinicians should pause and be willing to abandon it or use pain control, she said. Patients who are anxious or who have had negative experiences with IUD procedures should discuss pain management options before the next procedure, said Aileen Gariepy, director of complex family planning at Weill Cornell Medicine. “People don’t have to have the procedure without any medication, but it does need a conversation.”

Limited risk to delay removal: Research shows that while hormonal IUDs lose effectiveness after their duration of intended use, some physicians said there is limited risk associated with leaving them in long term, assuming fertility is not a consideration. There are rare case reports of pelvic infection associated with IUDs, but many people keep in the devices without issue, physicians said. Depending on the brand, hormonal IUDs are approved for use for up to eight years, and copper IUDs up to 12 years.

[From WaPo]

Being too nervous to get your IUD removed is a serious health-related issue that women have to deal with. Whether they intended to or not, the doctors that said we’d only feel a “pinch” or “mild cramping” or “nothing Ibuprofen couldn’t handle” did us a huge disservice. I’m so glad that the issue is finally being addressed now because acknowledging that our pain is real is the first step. Next, there needs to be counseling and better options for pain relief. The CDC is recommending lidocaine. I don’t know how effective that will be, but I do wonder whether or not American insurance companies will even cover certain options for pain management medication. What if it’s considered “not medically necessary?” That’s their favorite sentence!

I honestly think IUDs are a great form of birth control and don’t want to discourage anyone from considering getting one. There are a lot of upsides! I know I’m speaking to the choir here, but this is part of a broader issue of women’s pain being chronically downplayed or ignored. We really need the CDC to do a thorough review and issue complete new guidelines when it comes to women’s health. We don’t want to not have an IUD as an option. We’d just like to know actual facts about the process so we can make a fully informed decision.

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  1. Abby says:

    I have never had an IUD, but reading this makes me cringe internally in sympathy. Ouch ouch ouch.

    • goofpuff says:

      yeah that’s why I decided to never get an IUD. No thanks to dealing with all the horror stories from the women around me.

    • Kelly says:

      I had my tubes tied last year because I knew I wanted to remain child free. Not only did I have an awesome doctor who never even questioned me, he gave me honest assessments of all pain possibilities. When we were discussing options, he said if I even had one percent doubt that I may want kids one day, I should try the IUD option first because insurance covered it and I could always go back and have my tubes tied. I asked him about the pain factor and he was totally frank-it can be incredibly painful especially for women who have never been pregnant and he would do his best to treat that pain. Hearing that, I went for the tubes. There was some pain there afterwards (strangely in my shoulders-he explained that the gas used to inflate the abdomen pushes up on the diaphragm and can cause shoulder pain for a day or two until it fully dissipates) but it was so easy and I feel a lot better about the permanence of the surgery. Plus I don’t have to worry about it failing or migrating to another part of my body. I was so pleased with this doctor that when my old obgyn retired, I decided to see him for my yearly exam, although I’ve never felt comfortable with a male doctor before.

  2. Smegmoria says:

    This make me so angry. I have had a biopsy on my cervix. The doctor was like oh you are kind of jumpy today. I’m like bro, you just hole punched my cervix! Doctors dismiss babies’ pain too.

    • Marguerite says:

      I had a biopsy once too, only the gyno used a scalpel instead of punch. When I started crying, because you know, it hurt, SHE told me to toughen up and that it didn’t hurt. Afterwards, she told me I must have more nerve endings than usual in my cervix as biopsies don’t normally hurt. Lady, you don’t have my cervix, you were using a very sharp knife on my body! I was 22 and dealing with an abnormal pap smear, and had no advance notice. I’m still mildly angry about that, 24 years later.

      • BeanieBean says:

        Wow, just wow. I will say, as an older woman who’s been going to doctors for a LOOONNNGGGG time, medical practices have changed, for the better, at least in my experience. There are more women in more specialties (although your experience, @Marguerite, is a good reminder that just having a woman OBGYN is no guarantee that you’ll get understanding) & it seems that pain management & communication have greatly improved.

        All my recent stuff I’m told ahead of time, in detail, what the process is; I’ve had instances where there will be a numbing spray, a time wait, then the shot, and more wait time, before an actual procedure. I used to be told that huh, I must be difficult to anesthetize; but no, it’s actually a matter of waiting until the lidocaine has had time to work! I fall all over myself thanking my various medical practitioners when I experience no pain.

        And ALL my doctors are women, every single one; dentist, too.

  3. Arizona says:

    these can migrate and cause serious issues (my sister almost lost an ovary due to hers migrating) so I definitely wouldn’t just leave it in forever

    I didn’t find my insertion to be particularly painful at all, but the hormones made me suicidal, and mine also migrated and I had to have it removed at the hospital. I personally wouldn’t recommend IUDs, but I do know multiple people that have used them for years and love them.

  4. Mina_Esq says:

    I think mistrust is the right word. My personal experience always seems to diverge from what both doctors and other people tell me to expect. At this point, I don’t listen to anyone’s advice on what I will and will not feel during any gynaecological procedure. I just hope for the best. I really wish the medical research industry took our pain seriously.

  5. SJP-NYC says:

    They can go on field trips, mine did and had to be surgical removed – laposcropic surgery is still surgery and I was out of office for a couple weeks.

  6. HerrGreter says:

    I had an IUD and was made aware by my sister of the horrific painful days after my insertion. So I prepped beforehand but I was lucky and it wasn’t so bad.
    So insertion was painful and uncomfortable. Like sth that’s not meant to be – very strange. Even though the doctor was very careful.
    I had it removed about two years later because of other reasons and taking out was awful! But just for a few seconds…

    All in all the older I get and the more the conversations around this change, the more I think about how krass it is what kind of pain and discomfort we’re going through. Very much made believe that this is normal.

  7. Nikki says:

    I have had 3 hormonal IUDs, I found a doctor I liked and she explained everything before hand. They gave me pain medication the day of my first insertion. It was uncomfortable and a little painful for those minutes. Honestly the cramping after was, for me, like a heavy period day. But then to have only mild spotting and no cramps it was worth the day. Removal took seconds and I hardly felt it. Removal is more like the feeling of a Pap test. My second and third I didn’t take medication prior, I took one aspirin that night to fight the cramps, but they were gone that night. I say find someone you can talk to, that made all the difference to me. Only do what you feel comfortable doing, and you know your pain tolerance, tell your doctor. The IUD has been great for me, no mood swings or heavy 14 day periods. But that’s just me 🙂

    • Jks says:

      I wish I had gone for hormonal IUD!

      I had the copper one because it was covered by social security. Took a paracetamol before going and for me, it was not too different to inserting a tampon. I was more embarrassed than anything because I was asked to call in on the first day of my period.

      I have retroverted uterus but it didn’t cause any trouble. The gynaecologist said I was very strong. Almost every woman I have spoken to said the procedure was very uncomfortable for them so I must have been an exception. The periods have been absolutely brutal tho. Hormonal IUD would have been so much better.

      Didn’t need to have it removed in the end as I had to have a hysterectomy 12 years later.

    • Adequate okay says:

      All of this. I had problematic periods as a young person. I did not know periods are suppose to be 3-4 days. Going in, my first one was terrible! But the benefits outweigh those first couple of days. I have loved my IUD so much, that I named him Leupold the Gatekeeper. I am currently under Leupold Ii reign now. They don’t really hurt going out, so there is that.

  8. Eleonor says:

    When I was 14 on our science textbook there was a chapter dedicated to birth control (another era) and there were pictures: condom, pills and IUD.
    I remember my 14yo self looking at that, processing the information and then going full HELL NO.
    I know it’s a really valid method some of my girlfriends love it, but it scares the hell out of me !

  9. Steph says:

    This isn’t about an IUD but pain management for women. During lockdown I separated two of my cats from fighting. I got bit in the crossfire. Didn’t even really realize it. There were no visible puncture wounds and no blood. At some point in the middle of the night I put weight in my wrist/hand to adjust my position. The pain woke me up. Still no visible injury. By morning my hand and wrist looked like a blown up latex glove and I couldn’t move it bc it hurt so bad. Go to the ER, they acknowledged I had a very bad infection. I had to ask no less than 15 times for Advil/Tylenol before they even tried to do anything about the pain. Sent home with a prescription for anti biotics (nothing for pain) and told to come back if I didn’t see a difference by the next day. Next day I was back and admitted. After the days of double IV antibiotics and begging anytime i wanted otc pain meds a surgeon came in. He had a tray with a scalpel and gauze. He said he was going to cut into the puncture areas to help release the infection. He fully intended to do this without a local. Just cut into my body. I told him he was out of his f-ing mind. Mind you, I have no history of drug abuse and never once requested anything stronger than a Tylenol/Advil. They just assumed I’d be fine with them literally cutting me open (in places that already had severe infection and hurt like hell) with a knife.

    • tealily says:

      That is completely insane and barbaric. What is wrong with our medical industry??

    • IFoxi says:

      Steph, that must have been awful! How can they not even offer an otc painkiller?? Then not to automatically give you something before getting the scalpel ready… barbaric.

      No one really knows that cat bites can be extremely infectious and need to be seen by a dr no matter how small. I think because their teeth make it like a puncture wound. Had cats my entire life, but had no idea. Then my dad almost lost his hand due to a mistreated cat bite and being 90… he was lucky.

      • Steph says:

        @ifoxi i had about cat scratch fever but never experienced it before. I’ve also had cats my whole life and experienced my share of scratches and bites. The one who bit me was the only one that ever had that kind of reaction to. I think it’s bc her teeth are so fine it’s like injecting her bacteria directly into my body. I was shocked how quickly it got so dangerous.

    • BeanieBean says:

      Good gad! How awful!

    • TN Democrat says:

      Beware of what gets put in your medical records. I once discovered someone had documented that I had a history of opiate abuse in my medical records. I have no history of sunbstance abuse. (I THINK the ass@##% that misdiagnosed me was attempting to spite me because I went to another dr within the same medical group and got properly diagnosed).

  10. Hypocrisy says:

    My mother had an iud in the 70’s, it embedded into her uterus and actually broke off when they tried to remove it. Anyways it was a painful nightmare that ended with a hysterectomy and a lawsuit. Dalkon Shield https://www.nytimes.com/1987/12/06/magazine/the-sad-legacy-of-the-dalkon-shield.html my mother won her lawsuit along with many others. After what my mother and family went through I would never recommend an iud for anyone.. no matter what birth control you use do research so you know all the issues that may arise.

    • Chaine says:

      @Hypocrisy, I’m so sorry your mom went through that. I’m not old enough to remember the event, but a family friend was one of the women who died as a result of having the Dalkon Shield. Knowing about what happened to her always made me reject the IUD option for birth control as well.

  11. Sasha says:

    I was prepared for the worst but happened to have a fantastic female doctor on the day who spent WAY longer than a standard appointment explaining to me all the options of different birth control I could use. I felt listened to and supported. I think that had a huge influence over the procedure of inserting the IUD as it was virtually painless for me (and this is unusual, as I’ve had excruciating smears since then). Removal they asked me to cough and I felt nothing. I think I must have been lucky. I don’t expect the same the next time. I’m putting it off as I’m scared!

  12. Justjj says:

    I love my copper IUD for a lot of reasons. It wasn’t a breeze to get it but worth it.

  13. Bibliomommy says:

    I’ve had 4 iuds, I have them removed then replaced every 5 years. The pain can be managed with some Tylenol(of course not everyone’s pain levels or situations are the same). If you have a good doctor that talks with you about what to expect. It’s so sad to hear the horror stories. I think I have one more iud until I’ll be in menopause, it has been great, the only birth control that has worked for me.

  14. Jezzebeelzebub says:

    I’m an OBGYN nurse and seen a lot of contraception go into a lot of people, and counseling a patient well is the responsibility of the doctor or the nurse,but the doctor needs to not be a dick about the nurse taking the time to do it. Well informed patients have better outcomes. I hate going to the doctor and avoid it at all costs because I don’t trust those people and they don’t really care. *I* care and I make the effort, and it’s almost always well-recieved. We in healthcare need to do better.

  15. Chaine says:

    They should offer laughing gas. It won’t make it not hurt, but it will make it so you don’t care about the pain.

  16. Bandito says:

    I procrastinated on getting my implanon because medical procedures freak me out. I went to a GP to discuss alternative forms of birth control and she suggested an IUD. I didn’t feel comfortable saying it but my immediate reaction was f*ck no. Implanon is way less invasive then an IUD so I knew for a fact it wasn’t suitable for me. She refused to discuss oral contraceptives because she said it’d increase my risk of cancer. I’ve since confirmed with a gynaecologist that this isn’t true for someone in my age range and it’s just a common misconception.

    I’ve found a GP that prescribed oral contraceptives and per my psychiatrists recommendation I take Yana as it can help manage ADHD symptoms.

    The experience was unnecessarily complicated and put me at higher risk of an unwanted pregnancy. I don’t have issues like endo etc… and I have found medical professionals I can trust. I can’t imagine how it hard it is for other people.

    I can understand why women aren’t getting IUDs removed. I also assume that actually the experience is way more painful than doctors will acknowledge. The medical industry dismal of women’s pain is fatal. The combo of that & racism are why black women are way more likely to die in child birth when compared to white women.

  17. Hillary With Two Ls says:

    I had an IUD inserted last month and asked for sedation and that’s what we did. The in-office sedation was covered inexpensively (much less so if I would have had to make it an outpatient procedure), so I was out for the insertion (and my ob did a biopsy, too) but I did have painful cramping for the first week. *But* I’d been having heavy breakthrough bleeding for months on the pill with my endometriosis/fibroids and with the IUD switch it finally stopped, so worth it as far as I can tell. We still have a very, very long way to go with women’s health.

  18. maisie says:

    insertion is generally not just painful, but painful and time consuming.

    Taking one out is quick. I used to tell the patient “this is going to hurt like hell for about 3 seconds” and that afterward cramps and spasms were common. “Excruciating” is the operative word.

    Interesting that our default was sedation for guys with dislocated shoulders even though we could put it back in “in about 3 seconds” but because the patient’s a woman, well, it’s not really a big deal.

    90% of GYN procedures are EXQUISITELY painful. But medical school teaches that there are no nerve endings in the cervix. most male GYNs believe this because they have never owned one.

  19. tealily says:

    The pain having it out wasn’t NEARLY as bad as the insertion. It was just a little uncomfortable. Not even close to insertion or having a cervical polyp removed (the pain of which my doctor didn’t warn me about either).

    • Tez says:

      Agree, having it taken out was quick and largely painless, though I’m sure we all have diverse experiences.
      Also I had my IUD for under six months. I had the hormonal one and it felt like my body could not get used to it. I was always either lightly bleeding or had other discharge. I could not wait to get it removed. Would never get one again and would advise my daughter’s against it.

      • Oh come on. says:

        I have the hormonal one and the doc said, “Things will be weird for about six months. You may have spotting, light bleeding, or cramps. If and when that happens, nothing has gone wrong. After six months, it should be comfortable. If it’s not, then you need to come back to have it checked.”

        That was my experience, too. I appreciated being told what to expect, as the spotting was unpredictable and kind of a pain.

        But other people, like you I guess, have found it intolerable. Every body is different!

  20. Jennifer says:

    My hormonal IUD helped tremendously with PMDD symptoms. Yes it’s painful, I had cramping for a few months afterwards. I got mine removed due to a
    Pelvic infection and that really hurt but it was quick. They don’t tell you at all about the pain. Canada

  21. Flamingo says:

    It’s a shame if the media is pushing a fear mongering narrative. Leaving an IUD in for decades is not a good idea. Besides the fact it will no longer work.

    Honestly, I had two and two removed. Getting it out is a lot easier than getting it in. It’s like a pinch and it’s over.

    Please, please speak to your doctor and don’t just read a magazine article with women giving sensationalized accounts. That may or may not be very accurate.

    it’s not that bad, I swear it.

  22. bisynaptic says:

    The indifference to women’s pain is obscene.

  23. DeadNotSleeping says:

    I know everyone’s experience is different, but I’m on my second IUD (and switched out the first with the second at the same appointment), and I definitely plan to get a third in 2 years when this expires. It was a little painful getting the IUDs, but not like the stories I read about, and after mild cramping that day, I was fine. I had very regular periods with the paraguard, and haven’t had a period since the initial spotting with the mirena. All my friends around my age have had similar experiences.

    I have a niece and a family friend who are 17/18 who both got their first IUD in the last few weeks. For one of them, she thought it was still an evaluation and was not expecting to get it that day, and she hadn’t even taken a Tylenol. She had intense pain for a few hours to the point of vomiting, but then was fine by that night. For the other, the doctor gave her a prescription for pain meds to take before the appointment, but she still said she had take-to-the-bed levels of bad cramping for a few days.

    My daughter and I are also talking about her potentially getting one. She isn’t sexually active *yet*, but has a serious boyfriend, and they’ve talked about having sex when they both feel ready. Right now we have the understanding that she just needs to talk to me, and I’ll get her on birth control, but, even though I truly hope and believe Harris will win, part of me thinks we should go ahead and get it before the election (we live in a purple state that is closer to red than blue). She knows both my and the other girls experiences with IUDs, and she’s a little scared of it, but would also rather have an IUD than go on oral contraceptives.

  24. Oh come on. says:

    As a Black woman I’ve definitely experienced indifference to women’s pain—they mistimed the painkillers after a c-section and they all wore off at once, leaving me in agonizing pain 12h after being cut in half—the fcking nurses acted like I was drug-seeking 🤬

    But even tho the non-Black gyn who inserted my IUD, I’d had to educate her after a racial microaggression, the pain was real but not agonizing, and brief. She prescibed misoprostol in advance to soften the cervix, said to take Advil and Tylenol an hour beforehand, and told me insertion would hurt but takes less than 60 seconds. It wasn’t an enjoyable experience but totally worth it for no more periods!

    If your insertion was excruciating I wonder whether you can ask the doc about misoprostol prep, it sounds like people who were in agony got no pain control

  25. Jennifer says:

    When one was suggested to me, I refused because I’ve ONLY heard that IUD’s are agonizing. Literally I don’t get why anyone would get one if they know that. I’ve heard it my entire reproductive career.

  26. Murphy says:

    I never had a problem with pain during my insertions because I only ever had one after I had a baby, that makes a difference. HOWEVER. They do stick pointy tongs into the cervix to stabilize it and that bled a lot.

  27. Anonymous says:

    Back in the 90’s, I had an IUD inserted and removed within 24 hours. I was advised that there “may” be some mild cramping; the pain was severe enough to have me go to Emergency to have it removed.

  28. H says:

    After I had a baseball-sized cyst removed from an ovary, I had an IUD inserted to slow down the growth of the other cysts and tbh, the only reason I have it is because they inserted it while I was under general anesthetic. They did this because they knew it would hurt, but they did not warn me that it would also hurt upon removal and for re-insertion. Now I don’t know what to do. All I can do is hope in three years they’ll allow me to go under again.

    • Tatannelise says:

      I had a very painful IUD insertion the first time, but removal is not like that at all. The arms fold in, so they literally just tug it out and you only feel a little pinch for an instant. It’s nothing like insertion at all. Good luck!

  29. Monc says:

    One of my GF’s had an IUD and she said the pain almost made her jump off the table … that was more than I needed to hear… Nope Nope Nope

  30. Eden75 says:

    I had mine for however long the length of time before it expired was, and it was for hormone regulation as I had my tubes tied years before.

    Insertion was not great. I was off work for 2 days and on what was probably a dangerous level of ibuprofen for the pain. Having it removed was quick and essentially painless as mine never did move from where it was placed. I can’t imagine having to have it removed if it has implanted itself inside. (As a side note, the hubby was glad when that thing was gone. He never once complained but where the strings connected to the IUD use to poke him every time we were intimate. He hated it, but sucked it up and dealt with it as it, mostly, was working for my issues at the time. Poor guy, he occasionally would be bleeding after. )

    No one warned me how much it would hurt going in, that was unreal. My doc’s are great but holy hell, no thank you.

  31. Debbie says:

    I had my first IUD back in the 1980’s I had never given birth so my GP forced open my cervix to get it in. I spent days sitting on bags of frozen peas! When I left the gp surgery I went to the bank to withdraw money for an office party that night. I passed out and faceplanted! Seems my body went into shock. Removing it is far easier! So I had another after my son was born in 1991. In 1995 I had a mirena coil fitted, I was one of the 1% whose periods stopped. Bonus, from my mid 30’s to menopause I felt nothing, no periods, no mood swings.

  32. JudyB says:

    Wonder how many of those doctors have had adult circumcisions or surgery on testicles with no pain meds other than Tylenol??? I am also reminded of that delicious scene in the movie 9-5, where the women tie up their boss and suspend him from the ceiling.

    A long time ago, I read a book by a heart surgeon who had to have open heart surgery. Mostly, the whole book was how the doctor was terribly surprised at how much that open heart surgery HURT!!! Guess he was expecting a pinch or mild aches afterwards that could be handled by Tylenol.