Jessica Alba is on the cover of the March issue of Cosmopolitan UK, all to promote her supporting part in the upcoming romantic comedy Valentine’s Day. Jessica’s interview is pretty good – it’s not standard issue starlet, and Alba kind of comes across as hardcore. Alba discusses in detail how she finds the institution of marriage “warped”. She complains about the princess-mentality so many women have, where it’s about the wedding day and finding some “Prince Charming” to take care of you, rather than building a family and doing the hard work of a relationship. All of this has given me the idea that sometimes she pretty much hates her husband Cash Warren.
Alba also directly answers all of those questions about the alleged hookup between Lindsay Lohan and Cash Warren. A few months ago, Us Weekly had eyewitness accounts of Cash and Lindsay making out, and I really thought Alba was going to end shanking Lindsay. But instead, Alba kind of defends Lindsay in this interview, saying: “Lindsay’s had to deal with this for so long. She’s really nice. We hang out and chat for hours about girl stuff.” Hmm…
JESSICA Alba has revealed she hates the institution of marriage. Valentine’s Day beauty Jessica Alba, who wed husband Cash Warren in 2008, has admitted she had a hard time agreeing to get married because she thinks the tradition is “warped.”
She said: “I had a hard time agreeing with marriage at all because I feel like it’s been warped. Originally it was two families coming together to make a stronger family. It was about survival – not love or soulmates. And now, the way they market marriage – even as a kid through Disney movies – is that it’s all about Prince Charming sweeping you off your feet.”
“There’s this mentality that you need the big dress and the big day – the day every girl gets to be a princess. I didn’t agree with any of that.”
But the 28-year-old, who has a 19-month-old daughter, Honor Marie, with the producer, says she changed her mind as she liked the idea of being able to choose someone to come into her family fold.
She explained: “I chose to get married because, essentially, you’re given a deck of cards in life… the one person you can choose to bring into your life as your family and to have that unconditional love with is your husband or wife. I’m choosing you as my family, and we’re going to love each other through thick and thin.”
But Jessica won’t be taking the whole ‘to obey’ vow too seriously.
She said: “This tradition of obeying your husband like he’s king? It’s a load of crap!”
The actress also quashed rumors Lindsay Lohan was after her husband, branding the rumors “ridiculous.”
“Lindsay’s had to deal with this for so long,” she added. “She’s really nice. We hang out and chat for hours about girl stuff.”
Dismissing Hollywood gossip, she went on: “When people wrote lies about me before I had [my daughter] Honor, I’d get upset or I’d get nauseous or I’d get angry or I’d want revenge.
“Now, it’s like, it’s just so ridiculous and it’s not even close to being the truth.”
[From OK Magazine UK]
I find the Lohan stuff fascinating. Even after the initial rumors broke about Cash and Lindsay’s alleged hookup, Lindsay continued to act like she and Cash were friends, even sending him messages via her crack tweeting. So, is Alba telling the truth? Are she and Lindsay friendly? Does Alba really believe that no hookup took place? I have no idea. Alba’s a surprisingly hard one to read. She looks miserable all the time, and I honestly thought her marriage wouldn’t last this long. So… really, it’s anyone’s guess.
Cosmo cover and additional images from Cosmo UK, all courtesy of OK Magazine UK.
If Alba were a colour she would be beige. That is all.
I can’t STAND her. WHY is she famous? She was in Dark Angel 10 years ago…
If she had made an angry attacking remark about Lohan, then she’d come off bad, and worst of all she’d have to admit to herself that her husband was cheating on her with Lindsay. She’s playing the press. Has anyone even seen Hohan and Alba hanging out? ‘
Total bs from Alba.
Going by past interviews I’ve read about ALba, she’s always come off incredibly narcissitic. (I guess you can say most actors are ) But, she comes off almost as as bad as Jessica Biel. Her ego can’t take that Cash and Lindsay hooked up. I wouldn’t put it past her to lie to the public about it.
Maybe her perception of marriage is warped, but mine tisn’t. I really hate it when celebs give interviews & blather on about their pereceptions & preconcieved notions as if they are fact. Ugh. She lives & works in the industry that has done the warping. Santimoniuos brat…
I HIGHLY doubt that she & LL talk for hours on the phone & whatnot. Why not just ignore the rumors entirely?
I obviously can’t vouch for whether or not Jessica and Lindsay hang out but they do tweet talk with each other.
I doubt Lindsay was interested in Cash for anything more than drugs.
It wouldn’t surprise me if Jessica wanted away from that loser, but she’s pretty much stuck right now. What else is she going to say.
I totally agree with Alba about the princess thing and marriage. Marriage is hard work, compromising, it’s not a “rose garden” as a famous song once said. The vows are dated. I’m not her greatest fan but that’s a great point. She looks nice with her natural dark hair and I wish her the best in her motherhood and marriage.
Honestly, I don’t think she’s been as scowly since Honor. It may be all deliberate image makeover stuff but it’s kind of working. She’s not the smartest, but I don’t think she’s the dumbest, either. She makes some good points here; frankly I’m surprised to find myself warming up to her.
If any woman over 22 still thinks that marriage is in anyway related to what Disney and the entertainment industry puts out, then more fool them. However, there is a difference between that they might think the “wedding” should be like, though honestly each to their own, if some chick wants a big white dress, let her have it without pissing on her.
Just because marriage may have used to have been about survival, doesn’t mean it didn’t evolve to love/soulmates, just like it’s moved on to include survival, love, soulmates and now business contracts and publicity.
She is such a downer and so cynical that I don’t think her marriage will last.
Man, I was predicting she would go away instead she’s making a comeback. Blaaahhh.
Oh, I so believe Cash was boinking Lindsay. Didn’t they break up before over his cheating? Yea, there’s something dirty going on there. I would be careful if I were Jessica.
Marriage may have been about the joining of two families to create a stronger family back in the days when marriages were arranged to create greater wealth or a greater power base, but THAT strikes me as an outdated and warped view of marriage. Nowadays, marriage should be about choosing to be with the person you love. Yes, marriage is work, and anyone who thinks otherwise is destined to fail. But connecting with the one you love, truly love, is such a gift, how can you walk away from it because of the word “obey” in the vows? Obey doesn’t mean you don’t have a say, and there’s a mutual obedience in relationships.
I totally agree with everything she said about marriage, and it doesn’t make me think she hates Cash at all. It makes me think she has her head on straight.
Damn it, now I have to like her a little bit.
I don’t think she looks miserable all the time. She sometimes looks like she hates the paps, but who wouldn’t? They’re jerks. And no one calls Mark Wahlberg miserable all the time, and he has the same look. Generally, I think she looks pretty happy with her daughter and her husband.
@Bella I totally agree. Especially your last line.
Um, I rarely ever hear mention of Mark Wahlberg on gossip blogs without it being stated that he is a colossal moody prick.
JA comes off as pretty badly here. I agree witht he previous poster who stated that any woman over 22 who thinks that marriage is all Disney has got another thing coming (paraphrase). It sounds like JA thought long and hard, trying to figure out something intelligent sounding to say and fell way short.
I like the interview that she gave here. I think that she tried to explain how her thoughts on marriage evolved over time. I also think that the media and the wedding industry make every effort to market weddings as a princess for a day thing and there is little to no real attention paid to the level of effort required to sustain a healthy union.
If someone asked me about my relationship and/or marriage on any given day, I hope that I could be this honest. It may appear like I’m not overwhelmed with joy, but after X amount of time and when you are raising kids, I can say that the level of adoration rises and falls on different days even if the love level remains the same.
I’m not Alba’s biggest fan, I think she was quite horrid in the Fantastic Four flicks, but I get an overall positive feeling from this interview.
I pretty much agreed with what she was saying about how marriage isn’t a fairytale and it takes hard work. But then when I read “the one person you can choose to bring into your life as your family and to have that unconditional love with is your husband or wife. I’m choosing you as my family, and we’re going to love each other through thick and thin…” This kinda struck me as she feels she needs to commit (or trap) her husband so that someone can be there for her through thick and thin. She sounds very needy and like she’s settling for marriage cause it’s better than being alone. Sorry sweety NOone in life is going to love you unconditionally.. your parents are the only ones the come close but even then people are not able to love unconditionally no matter what.
I think she is beautiful inside n out! Give her a break ! Maybe she is protecting her true features !