After months of rumors about their marriage being on the rocks, Lily Allen and David Harbour confirmed earlier this week that they’ve separated. David and Lily got together after meeting on the exclusive dating app Raya in early 2019 and got married in Las Vegas in September 2020. Over the past few months, there’s been rumors that they were having problems because Lily caught David cheating or that Lily had relapsed. Lily addressed that gossip on a recent episode of her podcast, Miss Me?, saying it wasn’t true. She didn’t do much to quell rumors of a split, though, when she admitted that she’s was not in a good place and felt herself “spiraling.” And now we have confirmation thanks to a People exclusive.
Lily Allen and David Harbour are calling it quits. The “Smile” singer, 39, and the Stranger Things actor, 49, have separated after four years of marriage, multiple sources confirm to PEOPLE.
“Her marriage has been crumbling,” an insider tells PEOPLE exclusively, “and they have split.”
Reps for Allen and Harbour did not immediately respond to PEOPLE’s request for comment.
Allen — who married Harbour in 2020 after meeting on the celebrity dating app Raya — alluded to a recent “tough time” on the Dec. 16 episode of her BBC podcast Miss Me? with co-host Miquita Oliver.
Though Allen did not offer additional details as to the source of her trouble, she said it was affecting her mental health and causing her problems with her eating.
According to an “insider,” Lily is “devastated and not in a good place” and that the separation has been “very hard” for both her and her two daughters, Ethel Mary, 13 and Marnie Rose, 12, who were close with David. I know Lily can be problematic as hell, but I do feel for her and I kinda liked them together. She seemed to really love David and whatever the ultimate cause of their split was, I bet she felt they could work it out. I also truly feel for Ethel and Mary. If they were as close with David as we’ve heard they were, then they must be going through a tough time right now. I hope Lily can keep herself together emotionally to be there for them. I am also certain that this is only the beginning of these types of exclusives and we’ll totally find out what went down sooner rather than later.
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Aww shame. I’m not suprised tho; I felt they were an odd match (without anything concrete to go off – just the ‘vibe’ I got)
Same! I saw David’s apartment feature then a couple years later their house feature and couldn’t wrap my head around their wackiness. I liked the house but it all felt very fast and she has kids and he’s bipolar which can lead to impulse issues (not saying it’s a cause, just know from experience with friends).
Aw, I was rooting for those crazy kids! I hope that she is able to get support – talk of “spiralling” is worrying.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out better for her, but she still has my favorite wedding dress ever. I wonder if she is going to keep their very very decorated home?
Aww. Is it too soon to ask if I can have their house?
Nah, I almost jokingly wrote the same thing about their house, but figured I’d save it for a future post lol
He is also a recovering alcoholic and has/had big mental health issues. They seemed to fall hard and fast. I liked their quirky energy and truly feel bad for her and her daughters.
He has been open about having bipolar disorder. He is a successful man who manages it well as far as we can see, but relationships may be challenging for him. I feel for both of them and for Lily’s little girls.
I hope she’s not going to get a hard time on here. I know none of us really knows anyone famous in truth but I’ve been listening to her and Miquita’s podcast since the beginning and I really feel she’s not as problematic as she’s made out.
She’s obviously been through a lot of therapy and is in recovery from drug and alcohol addiction. She does occasionally say things in an unguarded way that gets her in trouble with the Daily Mail but, hey, who doesn’t.
She’s talked a lot about her past bad behaviour, acknowledged her privilege and to me she sounds like a decent person who’s going through a lot now. Miquita too but this isn’t about her.
Just because you point out when someone says incredibly problematic things doesn’t mean you’re going to attack them for splitting up, checking into a facility, and worrying about managing their health and their kids. Hopefully she’s able to get better and be there for her kids. Maybe her ex-husband can take them this summer hopefully he’s stable. I hope he’s involved, but she did want David to adopt them and her ex forbid it.
Check out her autobiography if you haven’t yet, she doesn’t hold back. I have a soft spot for her. I was listening to Fuck You this morning. She’s a clever songwriter.
A British goss site maintains that she realized it was over when she found his profile on Raya again.
I wish Lily well and is it selfish to hope she comes out with a really good breakup album? I liked her music from the beginning. I saw her twice in concert during her first two albums -she put on great shows both times.
I like them both from what I know of them, but I had this feeling they weren’t meant to last when I saw how they decorated–those styles are not compatible.
A lot of relationships blossomed and died during the pandemic.
It could have been a case of trauma bonding they met during a time you could die tomorrow depending on Covid. Together 24/7 and got married on a whim.
I think they lasted as long as they could. In the circumstances and life moves on and they aren’t together 24/7. I assume he spent most of last year filming the last season of Stranger Things. Sometimes people just drift apart. Or he misrepresented himself as faithful and was cheating behind her back the whole time.
I just hope she has a good support circle and her kids with her. I like her. She seems like someone that just speaks what is on her mind. Instead of making everything PR friendly.
I’m another one who was only vaguely familiar with her from “Smile”, then I read her memoir (her family… yikes on bikes), then have been a fairly regular listener to Miss Me despite being unfamiliar with Miquita. Lily hardly ever spoke of David on the podcast which I thought was a nice boundary to protect the relationship. There was one long story in 2024 about how she and the girls were caught up in air travel snafu after snafu in London, in constant communication with David in NYC, and he ended up packing up all the girls’ NY belongings and driving in the middle of the night to pick them up at Boston (the only city they could get to) and then continuing on to deliver them to camp in Maine. It seemed very sweet and great father figure behavior, and Lily sounded very appreciative and loving.
David was a guest on the podcast at some point in the fall speaking only to Miquita (subbing for Lily) and I haven’t listened to that yet, not being too interested in him. I wonder if it’s still up.
That’s sad for them and the kids. Hopefully everyone is able to move on ok.