I love Lisa Ann Walter. She’s a total badass who is a joy to watch on screen. She is also one of those “tells it like it is” kind of people, but not in the bad way. Lisa, who has been divorced twice, has been candid in the past about the struggles of dating in show biz. Last spring, she told People that it was a “challenge” to find long-term love in Hollywood. Right now, Lisa is trying her hand at dating apps. During an interview with People during the Elton John Aids Foundation’s annual Oscars viewing party, Lisa was asked about the type of man she likes to swipe right on. As always, Lisa kept it real with her answer.
“Someone who’s not married,” she begins. “When you look on a dating app, aren’t you looking at code like, ‘Yeah, this guy’s married?’ Not even the physical — it’s what they say. It’s like when they’re like, ‘I want someone who has their own life going on, and we meet up occasionally, but we don’t have to…’ like, he’s basically saying, ‘Will you be my side chick?’”
“You could tell by what they write,” she notes, joking: “They have some weird name like John Smith.”
Walter also opened up about being on dating apps during a conversation with PEOPLE in August, where she shared that she and former Parent Trap costar Elaine Hendrix often exchange their matches and compare stories.
“She does send me her choices if either one of us are ever brave enough to go online and on the apps and look at guys,” Walter said. “She’ll say, ‘What about this guy?’ And, ‘I think that could be fun.’ But then we kind of talk each other out of it. So we’re not great in that way. She is absolutely stunningly gorgeous, as we all know. She says it’s her vegan lifestyle. I’m like, your genetics played a part girl.”
Going on to call Hendrix, 54, “my best friend in the world,” Walter gushed over the dynamic of their friendship.
“She’s beautiful and she’s charming and she’s funny as all get out,” she said. “I love her dearly. She’s also a great caretaker and she’s single. So I look at her, I’m like, ‘You’re a cautionary tale! I look at you and go, ‘You’re single. How is there hope for me?’’”
“She’s more fear factor,” Walter laughed.
I met my husband in a very unconventional way, but it was not through dating apps. It was in the mid-2000s, so they existed, but weren’t really a big thing quite yet. Match.com was still all the rage. I totally believe there are a bunch of married men on them (side-eying you, David Harbour). I can also totally believe that they’re fairly obvious for the trained eye to spot or at least suss out after exchanging messages. Lisa is probably extra sensitive towards cheaters because her second marriage ended when that husband cheated on her.
Anyway, although I have a lack of experience on dating apps, I have tons of friends who do and I have heard a lot of stories. I know some of the sketchy people on them have patterns and tells. Facebook has these “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” groups for women to warn others about these players. I’m glad Lisa and her friend, Elaine Hendrix, have each other’s backs, and that some men are so obvious about their intentions that they can be identified before they waste someone’s time.
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I cannot imagine trying to find a suitable partner through an online dating platform.
Really? Why? Are you partnered? If not, how are you meeting people? It is not that easy. I know many, MANY people who have met this way.
There are studies out there that find online dating relationships are now more successful than people who meet “the regular way” during the same time frame. One of the big reasons for online dating’s success is that it widens and diversifies your dating pool. People who date online are more likely to date outside their regular social sphere, class and race. They are also more likely to talk about their long term goals (marriage, kids, career expectations) early in the relationship. There is a fascinating book about it!
There are for sure a lot of scummy people out there using them to cheat. I joined my local “Are We Dating the Same Guy”, it’s horrifying! Also some of those guys you can tell are a giant red flag just from their photo, and somehow they still juggle multiple women. People will post a photo “any info on this guy?” and I’m like girl, just look at him.
If you live in a big city it’s easier, but I’m in a smaller town without a ton of places to go meet people. It’s also a more conservative area of a blue state, and it’s been very difficult for me to meet liberal guys, so dating apps have been good for me. And those who don’t note their politics, I ask before we spend too much time talking.
By some miracle I think I actually found a really great guy, we’ve been dating for a couple of months now and I think there’s real potential. We never would have met without the app, so as tough as they can be, sometimes it works.
“I joined my local “Are We Dating the Same Guy”, it’s horrifying! ”
It’s CRAZY what you see there. I’m not dating. I joined because I was curious to see if my soon to be ex husband would get posted.
Sorry not for me. I have a ton of friends who’ve tried dating apps and well, they’re all still looking. There are so many apps now for relationships, one for singles, one for hook-ups, probably even one for cheating on your spouse, etc. I wonder if there is one that can do background checks? Just to check that you’re not dating a serial killer or other type of criminal. I’ve been watching too many crime shows, making me paranoid on dating.
My married friends, or coupled ones are really aware of cheating apps.
They gave me the names I forgot 😂
Usually are the ones who can text you during business hours and disappear on the weekend.
I had fun on dating apps.
I have met men I ended up having relationships with.
Not a bad experience.
I am an introvert, so it helps.
I’ve used to meet (and dated) men while jogging in Central Park. I used to think you never know who you’ll meet on a dating app, but here I am trying to meet single men in a park…Ugh, which thinking back on it now, is stupid and dangerous on my part.
LAW has been there. She’s done stand-up, she can act, she has real smarts and street smarts, plus she allowed Stanley Tucci to treat her like a dancing poodle for comic effect. This woman knows.
I think apps are a net neutral just being the new standard. I’ve known friends and acquaintances who found successful long term relationships and marriages from it. There’s also lots of spectacular horror stories (like the guy my friend googled to find he had a conviction for sex with minors) but even more so, loads and loads of run-of-the-mill losers and sleazebags (like the dude who omitted the fact that he essentially abandoned a kid and baby mama back in his home country). So all in all, apps are just a LOT of WORK to sift through on a daily basis. It’s kind of exhausting.
I met my second husband online, on Match believe it or not – we’ve been married 2.5 years. I had been on and off the dating sites for 20+ years and met some nice men and some horror shows. I approached it pretty methodically – when I had free time I would look, and when I was too busy I’d back off. I had right in my profile that if you voted for Trump, we’re probably not a match, and that was one of the things my guy responded to. I learned early how to spot the bots and scammers – first off if they call you “Dear” they are either bots or in some far-away country because American men don’t do that! I would also always ask a question about the locale they claimed to be from – what’s your favorite coffee shop in x-town, or whatever, and if they didn’t answer, blocked. I worked remotely for two decades, so it was a practical way for me to meet people I wouldn’t come into contact with otherwise.
Do you know how I know a guy is married? He says he is a widower. I’m 52 and for the past 5 years ever. single. guy. online has been a widower. I try to date within my age group, but even younger guys are saying their wife died. It’s soooo bad, it’s ridiculous. It gets comical after a while. Lol