Kylie Kelce gave birth to her fourth daughter, Finnley “Finn” Kelce on Sunday, March 30. Two days later, she was back behind the mic to record a very special podcast that introduced Finn to the world and “wrapped up” her pregnancy storyline. A recently released bonus clip shows Kylie talking about a topic that bridges pre- and post-partum: the push present.
If you haven’t heard of a push present, it’s a gift that a new mom gets from the baby daddy in honor of giving birth. Get it? A present for “pushing” that baby out. Some women really take to the idea and use the tradition to go big and ask for something like expensive jewelry. Other women simply don’t really make a big deal out of it. While Kylie is a fan of gifting new moms something like a nice, big meal (yum), she’s not a fan of receiving a push present. Kylie feels like ,instead of being a nice gesture, it’s become a “reward” for giving birth.
Kylie Kelce isn’t a big fan of push presents — but there’s one that almost changed her mind. In a bonus clip from her podcast Not Gonna Lie shared on YouTube on Monday, April 7, the newly minted mom of four, 33, revealed that she doesn’t love receiving push presents. In fact, she’s not a huge fan of getting presents at all.
“For anyone unfamiliar with push presents, it’s basically a gift given by dad to new mom for growing a child. Can you tell by my explanation that I’m not quite a fan?” Kylie begins. “They can be expensive like these designer bags, sentimental like this baby band, or edible, like a sushi platter.”
“I am not necessarily a fan of a push present. I think it’s very sweet to do a little postpartum meal like that sushi platter. Jason did try to get me sushi yesterday when we came home but our favorite sushi spot was not open yesterday,” she continues. “So we’re probably going to do it today or tomorrow. Oh I forgot about that, that’s exciting.”
Although she doesn’t necessarily want a present for giving birth to her baby, Kylie does say that there’s one present she loved that she received from her husband Jason Kelce after giving birth to their first daughter, Wyatt.
“I will say Jason got me one of my favorite pieces of jewelry that I have ever gotten, which is this…I believe it’s called an itty bitty initial necklace from Zoë Chicco,” Kylie says. “And it just has a little W on it, it’s a very dainty little chain. It has a W and then a diamond, and it’s offset.”
“I wear this all the time. I actually still wear it, and it was a push present for Wyatt. To be clear, I do know that we’re on our fourth kid. So I have switched to saying that the W counts for Wyatt and it now counts for Winnie, it’s fine.”
The Kelces are parents to daughters Finnley “Finn,” 9 days, Bennett, 2, Elliotte, 4, and Wyatt, 5.
Kylie goes on to explain that it might not be just push presents that she’s not a fan of, since she doesn’t really like the act of gift giving and getting.
“Anyway. I’m not a big push present person. I think maybe you can get a gift for the mom, but push present makes it sound like it’s a reward,” Kylie says. “I also don’t love getting gifts, maybe that’s part of the problem. I don’t love getting gifts, so that could be the issue.”
“This is not like a ‘pick me moment,’ I genuinely do not like getting gifts,” she explains. “I would rather go and do something together than receive a gift. Through and through. I’d rather go to dinner, I’d rather go and see a show, or a concert. I would rather go and have an experience together than receive a gift.”
So, where do we all stand regarding push presents? I kind of disagree with Kylie here, but I understand where she’s coming from. I didn’t really want a push present either, but after each of my kids were born, I did end up getting those small circular pendants with each of their initials carved into it. It’s simple, but I love it. I wear that necklace all of the time. I think that when taken at face value, it’s a really nice gesture. We’re growing a human FFS! We can allow ourselves to receive something nice. Don’t think of it as a reward, but rather as a ‘thank you for doing something difficult’ gift.
In that clip, Kylie also mentions that she doom-scrolls while nursing. I did the exact same thing! In fact, I associate my first breastfeeding stint with playing Trivia Crack and reading all of the court transcripts of the Adnan Syed trial. That was definitely a very specific moment in time. That year that I was breastfeeding my younger son was filled with your more classic doom-scrolling. He was born during the 45th presidency, so…yeah.
I had never heard of this until a few years ago so I didn’t receive any push presents. I considered my two children the gifts so push presents sound weird to me.
I agree. Shouldn’t your child be the gift?
I learned the term “push present” when I moved to Texas about 30 years ago and it was always my most chauvinist colleagues who used that term. They’d describe it like, “My wife earned herself an expensive little treat for having MY kid.” So, I always cringe when I hear the term. When I had OUR kids, the kids were the treat for my husband and for me. I didn’t need my husband to “reward” me like an employee.
I think push presents didnt exist back then when I had my children. I never heard of it until maybe 12 years ago and it’s a thing now.
I think they did, they just weren’t named or a viral trend yet. I’m aware of multiple families, of multiple generations, in my own life where the father presented his wife with a necklace after each birth. My own mother has two fancy pearl necklaces tucked away in her drawers, one for my sister and one for me.
Push presents are neither wrong nor right, they’re just a personal choice between partners. You don’t have to participate if you don’t like it and you don’t need to criticize people who do.
It’s amazing how many things in life this advice could apply to, and just think how much quieter it would be if people actually listened to you
First she says she doesn’t like the idea, then goes on to list the push presents she got?!
I think all mothers should get a little something from their partner to show appreciation of putting their body through pregnancy and birth. It’s down to the father on what they want to spend and how much.
She says she doesn’t like the idea, and then owns up to the fact that she actually did receive her favorite necklace as a sort of push present. Nothing scandalous here if you actually watch the full clip.
So she seems to be against push presents, but then says Jason got her one after her first child and she loves it and wears it all the time? It sounds like its just the name she’s taking exception to?
My husband got me a very pretty infinity diamond ring after my first (like its set in the infinity symbol) and I wear it all the time now that my wedding set no longer fits lol. My plan is to either give it to my son’s wife or one of his daughters if he has them. I dont consider it a push present, just a “I know the last 9 months were rough, here’s something pretty.” It’s not that deep IMO.
(I did have a friend whose husband refused to buy her something bc she had a csection and didnt push. And my SIL demanded my brother get her something and sulked over it until he got her a ring a few weeks later. So I think both of those are different issues.)
I had twins 20 or so years ago. It wasn’t called a push present back then but I did get a lovely gift. I was very surprised because I wasn’t expecting anything.
He bought me a diamond heart necklace, like the outline of a heart – it wasn’t solid. Inside that heart were two smaller hearts attached to it, so it represented me and the kids.
And for the record, I didn’t “push”. I had a c/s and he got to see my insides. actually was able to identify my fallopian tubes LOL. This man truly knows me inside and out!
Maybe it’s the name….yes, it is the name, it just sounds tacky to me and it is somewhat exclusionary.
It wasn’t a thing when I had my kids either — neither were gender reveal parties, giant showers for successive children, bachelor(ette) parties that last all weekend and require travel and $$.
Clearly I couldn’t afford to get married or have kids these days!
Push presents have been around for a long time. I’m in my mid fifties and my dad got my mom a car as her push present for giving birth to me long ago in the ancient times. My husband felt intimidated that he wouldn’t be able to match up to what my dad did when our oldest was born. But our finances were very tight at the time and I didn’t really expect anything. But he eventually caught up and gave me some very pricey jewelry for each of the next kids.
But I LOVE receiving gifts! So it’s definitely not a problem for me.
This wasn’t a thing when I had my kids in the 90s. I think it’s a nice idea, especially if the gift has some personal meaning (but hey, a new car is welcome, too!). Whatever the parents want to do. I’m not crazy about the term “push present” though. What about adoptive new parents? And it’s also one of those things that, because of social media and inflated expectations, can become a requirement instead of a thoughtful gesture or nice surprise.
This wasn’t a thing when I had my kids in the 90s. I think it’s a nice idea, especially if the gift has some meaning (but hey, a new car is welcome, too!). Whatever the parents want to do. I’m not crazy about the term “push present” though. What about adoptive new parents? And it’s also one of those thing
When I breastfed my son, I used to watch “The Sopranos”. Hope I didn’t scar him too much!
I watched Walker Texas Ranger while nursing my son 😹 Explains a lot I guess.
I first found this website during middle of the nights feedings with my first! That was 8 years ago and I’m still around. Didn’t get a push present for either kid, not did I expect it, but I would totally be okay if my husband wanted to give me a late push present. 🤣