Yesterday Jesse James issued a statement apologizing to his family for his “poor judgment” and stating that “I deserve everything bad that is coming my way,” while claiming that “the vast majority of the allegations reported are untrue and unfounded.” I’m thinking that he really slept with the trashbag stripper for five weeks, but that the “11 month” affair is based on how long he was sexting her on Facebook, which he doesn’t consider relevant to the timeline.

We also heard yesterday that Sandra Bullock had moved out of her family’s home on Monday, which is incredibly serious. She considers herself a mother to James’ youngest daughter, five year old Sunny, and it’s not like her to just take off unless she has a very good reason. Rob Shuter at Popeater has some insider details on how Sandra found out about her husband’s despicable affair. She was told by her publicist, who had received a heads up call from In Touch, on Monday, after which she got the hell out:

“In Touch magazine had called Sandra’s publicist Monday morning to let her know the magazine was going to print an explosive cover story … saying her husband was cheating,” a source at the magazine told me. “At first, camp Sandra dismissed the story until they understood that the magazine had the alleged mistress, tattoo model Michelle ‘Bombshell’ McGee, on the record telling all.”

By the end of the day Monday, Sandra had moved out of the mansion in California and pulled out of her London event to promote ‘The Blind Side,’ feeling blindsided herself.

“Sandra had no idea that all of this was going on. Not a clue,” a friend of the actress tells me. “Now she is with family hoping for privacy. It’s bad enough for any woman to find out that her husband has been cheating on her, but to find out from your publicist and then have it on the cover of a national magazine is heartbreaking.”

[From Popeater]

Just hearing about this makes my stomach flip for Sandra. Why the f’ck do men do this? Are they so insecure that they turn to any cheap trick who will soothe their tiny hurt egos? You know that James is begging Sandra to take his lying, cheating ass back right about now. The guy is still wearing his wedding ring and she’s the best thing that ever happened to him.

There’s plenty more news, and Bill Zwecker at the Chicago Sun Times has more on how Bullock is dealing with this scandal (she smartly got out before the news broke) and how she’s coping.

-Bullock is said to be ”a total mess” about McGee’s claim that she and James had an 11-month affair as Bullock filmed her Oscar-winning role in “The Blind Side.”

”She is like a cauldron of both rage and intense pain,” said one of the actress’ closest associates. ”Since this happened while Sandy was off doing the best work of her career … a project that meant so much to her, because it was all about family values — it makes this even creepier.”

– Given Bullock’s attachment to James’ daughter Sunny, 5, by his ex-porn star former wife Janine Lindemulder, the actress is said to be very upset about the possibility she would lose contact with the little girl she has been helping her husband raise. James gained sole custody of Sunny from Lindemulder in December. Bullock realizes a divorce from James could jeopardize any relationship with Sunny.

– Bullock moved out of the Long Beach, Calif., home she shared with James on Monday — after learning In Touch magazine was going to break the story, but before it became public knowledge. ”She knew the paparazzi would be swarming like mad hornets, possibly worse than anything Britney [Spears] or Tiger [Woods] have faced,” said a longtime friend of the actress.

– Along with canceling her trip to London for this week’s British opening of ”The Blind Side,” Bullock also dropped out of promotions tied to the widely advertised DVD release of her film Tuesday.

– Leigh Ann Tuohy, the woman Bullock portrayed in ”The Blind Side,” has reached out to the actress and offered strong words of encouragement and support.

– Among Bullock’s many friends in the acting community is comedy legend Betty White, who reportedly has told friends she’s so upset about Bullock’s painful humiliation, the former ”Golden Girl” cannot talk about James without using language so blue, it clearly is not printable in a family newspaper.

[From The Chicago Sun Times]

Anyone would feel both rage and intense pain in that situation and it’s a completely normal, expected response. Some say that dealing with the aftermath of infidelity can be worse than coping with the death of a partner. I just wish Sandra the best and hope that she’s ok. Someone once told me not to make “permanent decisions based on temporary feelings,” although it’s hard to see how you can feel differently about such a terrible betrayal. I can’t see how James and Bullock can move past this, but that’s their decision and very serious issue to work through.

Bullock may have strong motivation to work it out with James. She’s a stepmother to his three children, and she has no rights to see any of them by herself unless both biological parents agree. James recently retained full legal custody of his five year-old daughter, Sunny, and Sunny’s mother, Janine Lindemulder, has a longstanding beef with Sandra. I would doubt that Lindemulder would sign off on visitation with Bullock. James may feel like sh*t for a long time, though, and he’ll probably make sure that Sandra is able to see Sunny.

Sandra is shown picking up her three stepchildren, Chandler James, Jesse James Jr. and Sunny James from school in Los Angeles, CA on March 11, 2010. Credit: Fame Pictures