Sandra Bullock has been photographed for the first time since her husband’s cheating scandal broke a little over two weeks ago. (You can see the photos on Radar Online, and there’s also a video, but it doesn’t show much.) Right before the story came out, Bullock went to visit family in Texas. She then returned to a home in the Hollywood Hills that she purchased before marrying Jesse James five years ago. Up until yesterday she was able to evade photographers, who finally got photos of her leaving to visit an old friend’s house nearby. Bullock was wearing a large floppy hat and was guarded by security, who blocked her with umbrellas. When she returned, Bullock hid under a garment bag inside the car.
The news about Sandra’s cheating husband keeps coming. Yesterday we heard that James had a foursome with Michelle McGee, a male tattoo artist, and his trashy girlfriend, “Skittles Valentine.” Skittles would be the fifth woman that James is known to have cheated on Sandra with. It’s probably the case the Sandra had her suspicions. Radar Online reports that Bullock confronted James around five times about whether he was being unfaithful. James repeatedly denied everything, and said that all he did was go to strip clubs.
“Sandra suspected that Jesse was cheating,” a source close to the couple tells RadarOnline.com exclusively. “They got into four or five blowouts over it and every time he denied everything.”
Before the public parade of his alleged mistresses, James had kept his confessions to Bullock fairly tame. “He admitted going to strip clubs,” the source said. “But that’s it.” But after McGee, three more mistresses came forward and as RadarOnline.com reported exclusively Tuesday, another one is on the way.
[From Radar Online]
James is currently in an Arizona rehab for his “sex addiction,” and according to Radar it was his idea to seek treatment. He supposedly told Bullock “I’ll get help like Tiger Woods did.” As if that solves everything. Sandra isn’t buying James’s lame attempts to get back with her, though, and Radar quotes a source who says “Sandra didn’t care about Jesse’s promise to get help. She’s so devastated that he’s been cheating on her, and cheating for so long and with so many different women. It’s a little late, don’t you think? He lied to her for years and then when he got caught he was suddenly willing to get treatment.” She’s been ignoring James’s attempts to get in touch with her.
That photo next to that headline made me think that she was seen in public with HIM, and I was thinking, “Oh, hell…no.” Until I read the article. I do love the willingness to seek treatment post-delicto in flagrante. Yes, ladies, as long as you actually catch your man f*ckin” guttersnipes, then he can call it “sex addiction” (no disrespect to those who legitimately have the disease; it just seems expedient) and just make seek help. Eye roll.
I feel so sorry for her.
If my partner said they were going to a strip bar I would still pitch a fit though. Hell no! Maybe I am old fashioned but I don’t want my man oggling half naked women!
Cheating is wrong, but forgiveness is a virtue.
for god’s sake leave the woman alone. sandra’s got enough to deal with.
“He lied to her for years and then when he got caught he was suddenly willing to get treatment.”
isn’t that how most cheating men are? they’re never sorry until they get caught.
So tired of these men “Getting treatment”. What about getting treatment when the problem STARTED! Not after you have been publicly shamed into it.
Dr. Drew is an idiot, but I agree with one statement of his, that he is willing to bet Jessie won’t change.
It’s terrible that she feels she has to hide under a garment bag, like she’s a perp or something. I can’t imagine Sandra feeling so vicitimized and pitied after putting herself out there as a powerful, independent woman. Yuck.
I wish her the very best, and would love to see her come out of this strong!
It makes me sad that she has to hide like SHE did someething wrong. On top of everything else she has to worry about paparazzi.
That’s ridiculous. Hiding in a garment bag? Why not a car with blackened windows? Seems like the big green hat was a decoy. I hope it was because I’d hate to think of someone intentionally doing that just to go somewhere. That’s why they have tinted windows. I dont see why she has to hide. She should proudly show her face and just ignore whatever is said by strangers. She doesn’t have anything to be ashamed of, she’s the victim here. What lousy situation.
I agree that he’s sorry.. sorry he got CAUGHT! As for the paps blocking the car, the driver needs to run a few of them down. The rest will learn to back off. Sheesh.
Forgiveness is over-rated. Sorry to see she has this to deal with – both the douchebag and the paps.
Agreed, Stephanie. He really has made her life a living hell, hasn’t he? She wins an Oscar, it should be the happiest time in her life, but she is hiding under laundry in the backseat of her car. Sad.
Man, ogechi, again? I know you think that women should just roll over and take whatever crap that men put them through, but really? Multiple mistresses, photographic evidence of Nazi role play… I guess marriage vows are of higher importance than physical endangerment (STIs) or glorifying genocide, in your world. For women, that is. Obviously you don’t think they’re important for men to uphold.
A person can forgive, and it doesn’t mean that the angels are singing and all is right in the their world.. it just means that the situation no longer has power over you.
Agree with Feebee.
Forgiving a single lapse – maybe. Still up to the cheated person.
Forgiving cheating which has gone on for months with various (extremely trashy) women and without condoms – masochism and self-degradation!
I feel dirty that I followed the link to look at the pictures…ugh, it makes me feel as bad as the paps.
I hope this is a decoy, because she shouldn’t be hiding under a garment bag.
re: black/tinted windows are illegal in some states so i guess that’s the only way she can hide from stalkarazzi. pretty horrible, dealing with all that in her personal life and having to worry about low life vultures that are camped outside her house trying to get an unflattering picture of her when she’s at the rock bottom.
I don’t think she owes him any forgiveness. I don’t know exactly where the line is, but wherever it is, I think he’s crossed it.
The day she is out and about with her head held high, I’ll be cheering for her. It sucks that she is the one who has to hide like this.
She doesn’t have to hide. I do wish the paps would leave her alone during this time, though. As for him getting treatment ITA with y’all that it’s too little, too late. Stay strong Sandra and take him for every penny!
Sandy, get your hair done so you feel fab, put Jackie O shades on and hold your head high. Don’t let this victimize you honey!
The only forgiveness he deserves is the one that will free Sandra from him.
Why is she hiding she didn’t do anything but fall in love with a jerk. Elin never hid she just went on with her everday activities.
Ogechi, it’s attitudes like that thrown about in situations like these that set women back 50 years, easily, and keep others in doomed, miserable relationships with men that have no respect for them or for the children they may have together.
I find it deeply shameful that you would say something like that.
Forgiveness is fine as far as it goes, but if you’re coming at it from a religious standpoint (as most people who hammer in forgiveness often do), most of the organized religions have no problem with revenge, either. So religion can’t be held up as a banner for that mindset either.
In this case, Sandra forgiving Jesse to the extent of staying with him would fly in the face of any dignity and self-respect she may or may not have as a woman.
Jesus Christ.
tinted windows are against the law, aren’t they? I have heard of people pulled over by the police and ticketed for having them.
I have a friend who suspected her partner was cheating. He told her she was crazy and she needed to get help. She went to counselling and everything. Then one day she comes across an email to him (OK, she was snooping) from the woman she suspected he was messing with. It included naked pictures. She said the cheating was bad enough but the fact he made her believe she was actually crazy was the worst thing of all.
And yes, it’s always when the relationship has irrevocably broken down that the scrambling to mend fences starts. Too little, too late usually.
I don’t blame her for hiding, the paparazzi can be brutal, she probably has puffy eyes from all the crying and has lost weight too. I say the best revenge will be for her to get all dolled up and look super fabulous so he’ll see what he will be missing!
I followed the link to the pictures too, and obviously all of us clicked on this article based on the headline, so clearly there’s major interest in seeing Sandra post-scandal. We want to read her face, etc. So *thats* why she’s hiding – not because she is a weak victim.
I don’t blame her, not wanting to contribute to this story in any way shape or form. You know the tabs would create entire headlines over those pics.
Pretty smart on her part though – she’s wearing what look like pink scrub pants, pink tennis-shoes, orange rubber gloves and a light blue sweatshirt. haha. No one can prove it’s her based on a pic of her foot or hand alone.
to Kitty2000…
that’s a common tactic used by cheaters…making their partner think he/she is crazy for even THINKING they’d do that. to the point that the cheated-on partner starts to feel bad about thinking what they do. if you play the victim, you turn the tables on the accuser.
but cheaters are the type to blame their ills on others. it’s always SOMEONE ELSE’S fault. god forbid they actually look at themselves as the reason for their behavior.
Nobody can tint the front window anyway. Maybe she just doesn’t feel like being photographed. I don’t find that a reach.
She’s actually in the back seat isn’t she? Behind the passenger seat? (that’s what it looked like from the radar images)
The side windows look pretty tinted, but you aren’t legally allowed to tint the windshield past a certain degree. Plus it looks like they are under a light/pap flashes.
She can definitely “forgive” him in time, but that doesn’t mean she shouldn’t divorce him and come out of this stronger than before. I don’t really even see why she is hiding. She has nothing to be ashamed of.
I don’t buy into any of these “sources close to” or “close friend of Sandra’s” quotes. I mean one mag claims SB & JJ talk but it’s short and nasty, then this one claims she’s not accepting any of his olive branches. I get it, they are trying to sell magazines, but geez try to at least be consistent in their 3rd person friends quotes.
@ suz – isn’t that something? I don’t see why she’s the one hiding either. Unless she’s recieved death threats over JJ Nazi stuff. The only shameful thing is how innocent people have to carry the weight of someone else’s actions.
She can forgive him and still turf his butt to the curb. It would be something she does for herself, though, and not necessarily for him.
I’ve been in this situation(minus the wealth and fame, of course). I had to forgive to move on and was liberated by doing so. I still dumped him.
My actions were the opposite of rolling over and taking his BS, IMO.
Stay strong, Sandy.
To digress for a moment.
I had said in the beginning of the whole debacle that Elin got dragged through… that I bet money that Tiger had been telling her for years she was crazy. That he had not been cheating.
Then he got caught! On Thanksgiving. And she chased his sorry butt down the drive with one of his own clubs.
So I tend to think Elin is in a better head space with all of Tigers cr*p. She knew he was cheating, it just took awhile to verify it. She was mentally prepared for it.
So she is not embarrassed. Or crazy after all. Elin got to whack Tiger on the head with that club and help her with the anger. haha!
Now maybe Sandra can do the same. Lord knows it would make her feel better.
You know what else is a virtue, the fact that Sandra hasn’t cut off his willy yet…cheating is never acceptable nor is it forgive-able IMO. It’s downright disrespectful and disrespect doesn’t deserve forgiveness.
First off, I feel awful looking at those photos, but I noticed she is NOT wearing her wedding band. You go girl.
Now on to what I really wanted to say. It IS possible to work things out with a cheating partner. My husband cheated on me less than a month after we got married, with a woman who was twice my age (her daughter was my age!) and made me feel I was crazy for even suspecting it. However about two weeks after it happened he confessed everything (my birthday none the less) We seperated for almost 4 months, there was lots of fighting and blame and mistrust but in the end we worked things out and we are going on 5 years and just had our first child. It just takes time and a willingness to work through some really nasty stuff.
BUT with multiple cheats thats different and I don’t blame Elin for what she did (I gave my husband a black eye- I don’t condone violence but sometimes it does happen!) and I sure as hell don’t think Sandy needs to take this sh*thead back.
@ogechi, u just need to STFU! what the hell is wrong with you? Do you think it’s Nigeria, where women are only respected when they get married and stay married? Yes, i know u are Nigerian from your name because i am one. You just need to return to 1706 or whatever era you are from. You talk a lot of BS. Just go away.
I agree with all those who are dismayed that she feels she needs to hide under a bag or hide at all. The best revenge is looking good and walking tall!
Am I the only one who believes that the doctors of our world today are so eager to label or diagnose SOMETHING. Some 70 something percent of Americans are on some sort of antidepressant, or antianxiety medication. Do I think that THAT many people have a medical condition? Absoloutely not! There’s ADD,ADHD,OCD,ODD,etc Now weve got sexual addiction. I just don’t believe that there’s such a thing. It doesn’t matter to me how many psychologists tell me statistics, or doctors show me graphs, there is such a thing as self control and for whatever reason this world is beginning to lose that notion. It is never anyones own fault something happened, it’s always someone elses fault, some addiction, poor childhood, wah wah wah.
Mr. James, you’re a schmuck and you deserve every bad name you hear over this. My husband has a great theory about the Jesses and Tigers of the world; No is a very simple concept? “Oh you want to suck my peeknuckle? You wan’t to smather your rubberized breasticles in my face?”… “Yeah no thank you, lovely offer though” …..omg… the concept.
Oh and ogechi – forgiveness is a virtue that is not always granted to everyone. Like patience and silence, sometimes you just don’t deserve it nor receive it.
How can anybody be sure that’s Sandra? The person is so covered up it could be her grandfather. If I was Sandra I wouldn’t want to face the paps either. They’re trespassing, using ladders to look in, and blocking and hanging all over the car. Could you imagine how much worse it would be if she went walking down a public street? I wonder if she’s going to move since the paps can almost sit on her doorstep.
He only went to rehab to put the ball back in her court. So when she proceeds with the divorce he will call her out as unreasonable. He will say, “Hey I have a problem and I tried to fix it..you are the unreasonable biatch for not trying to work out our probs.” Gross. Sandy move on fast!
He’s comparing himself to Tiger Woods???? He’s an even bigger idiot than I thought.
The photo was taken from the front. You can’t tint the front window of a car.
I hope for her sake she doesn’t take him back. If they can go for years, lying about their cheating to your face, they CERTAINLY aren’t sorry when they get ratted out. They’re just sorry anybody found out about it. I don’t know how Elin is doing it. Even during the scandal, somebody caught Tiger in a voicemail, desperately asking one of his hookers to change her phone number or something. What douches.
Forgiveness is not a virtue. Forgiving things that ought not be forgiven is foolhardy and destroys lives. Better to face reality and separate oneself from evil, imo.
When ogechi said the has-been, no talent Jennifer Lopez is inspirational and kept praising her, I knew she needs to STFU already. Forgiveness is virtue, my ass!!!