Well, this story comes as quite a surprise. The world doesn’t know too much about Emma Roberts except that she’s a bit of a Hollywood party girl who constantly gets papped exiting nail salons and blowout bars in between regular shopping jaunts. She’s also a semi-successful actress in that she gets regular work in moderate-to-small budget films, but Emma is a pretty one-note emoter.
Of course, Emma’s also the niece of Julia (and daughter of Eric Roberts), and she has a real chip on her shoulder when it comes to the topic of nepotism, which is “obviously not true.” Emma also tends to date rather nondescript dudes who are in the business but aren’t any more famous than she is. Like, she went out with Chord Overstreet for awhile and then dumped him and generally treated him like crap. Now things have gotten far less bland in Emma Roberts land — girlfriend has been arrested for domestic violence in Canada after she allegedly beat up her current boyfriend, actor Evan Peters (who she has been dating since last October). Supposedly, these two were going at it in a hotel room and were both hitting each other, but Evan was the one with a bloody nose and a bite mark, so Emma was the one who was arrested. This is such a crazy, disturbing story:
Emma Roberts was arrested for a domestic violence incident in Canada — after allegedly bloodying her boyfriend, Evan Peters … TMZ has learned.
22-year-old Emma — Eric Roberts’ daughter and Julia Roberts’ niece — was taken into custody early July 7 in Montreal after getting in an altercation with Peters … who stars in “American Horror Story.”
According to Montreal law enforcement sources … someone called police to report a fight in Evan and Emma’s hotel room.
We’re told when cops arrived … they observed Evan with a bloody nose. Emma was immediately arrested. One law enforcement source tells us Evan also had a bite mark.
Emma was released hours later because 26-year-old Evan did not want to press charges.
Sources close to Emma tell TMZ … Emma and Evan were hitting each other and she was arrested because he had obvious physical injuries. The sources deny Emma bit Evan.
Our sources also say the couple — last seen in public at the The Lone Ranger premiere (above) — is back together and both are working on “American Horror Story.”
[From TMZ]
Sad. Basically, nothing will come of this particular incident from a legal standpoint because the dude didn’t want to press charges, but it’s safe to say that Emma and Evan are in the midst of a rather violent relationship. And since they’re probably trapped in a cycle of physical arguments, this will happen again until one of them decides to press charges against the other. Nothing good can possibly come of this relationship, but at least the story might spread the message that women are not the only victims of domestic violence. Men can just as easily be physically abused by women, and it sounds like these two need some serious intervention.
Oh, and Emma and Peter are keeping a united front and have already released a joint statement to Us Weekly: “It was an unfortunate incident and misunderstanding. Ms. Roberts was released after questioning and the couple are working together to move past it.” Do with that what you will.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet
Oh I love the PR statement…lol.
They probably practised for 50 Shades of grey 😉
Seriously, weird story.
Whenever I see her face …(yawn) I just nod off to (yawn) …sleeeep …zzzzzzzz …(cue pillow drool) … zzzzzz …
Cocaine’s a hell of a drug.
I have a very strong opinion on this. And I saw the story last night. One of the comments I saw asked; “What did he do to her to make her snap”.
I am going to be curious again how the public views her. Will she have backlash, or will it just be “well nobody knows what really happened”..
OH she has a movie to promote soon. So that could be why they are “working to move past this”
WORD.
What did “he” do to make “her” snap? Yikes. Maybe she’s just an abuser – a person who feels entitled to lash out whenever she wants, and then add a dollop of “Don’t you know who I am?” on top.
I can’t imagine anyone asking “What did she do to make him snap” if the genders were reversed, or say, in the Nigella Lawson case.
I could see someone writing it as a way of making the point that “what did she do to make him snap?” is a common refrain that is used all too often when a man hits a woman.
Read any Chris Brown thread that’s not on this site. You will be disgusted with how many of his supporters blame Rihanna and say she drove him to it.
Edit: this was a reply to Genevieve not TOK.
Yep, that’s like asking what a woman did to get raped.
Evan needs to see a good therapist and get the hell away from this crazy b*tch.
Emma needs anger management classes. I think she should also spend some time behind bars, but celebs seem to get a free pass when it comes to crime.
Abuse is NEVER okay.
How do we know that she’s the one to blame in this case though, since according to the story they were both being violent with eachother? The one who started the violence is not always the one who inflicted the most visible injury.
@blaize
Emma hit Evan hard enough to draw blood and leave bite marks. So it’s clear that she’s definitely abusive but so far there’s no evidence that he is.
But, to your point, it’s possible the abuse went both ways. In which case, he also needs anger management classes and jail time.
Regardless of who’s hitting who, this is a thoroughly toxic relationship and these two should part ways before someone winds up seriously injured or even dead.
Some people have no business being together. They can bring out the absolute worst in each other.
My reaction is pretty much meh, because this always turns out the same for women like her. It’s always excuse after justification after “let’s wait and get the whole story.”
But let somebody like Chris Brown get in a domestic dispute, and hell, we’ll remember that ish forever. I’ll be glad when the day comes when female abusers are treated the exact same way. I want people to stop laughing this crap off and making excuses for women like Emma Roberts and Kate Gosselin. It is not OK to bite, attack, or slap your man around no matter what you call it. It just isn’t.
A “misunderstanding?” Sounds like the excuse the chef’s husband gave her choking her.
On a side note, I’m completely juvenile because there was a typo above about a bloody hose, and I immediately thought of male junk and laughed.
Lmao JenD, I missed that but I for sure laughed after you pointed it out! 😉
You make a good point about men also being victims of DV.
If the situation was reversed and she was the one hurt we would probably be all over him (like Chris Brown) but its hard to know how to respond in this situation.
With CB and Rihanna it was THAT photo that did the damage (rightfully) to his image. Same with Nigella’s “playful tiff”.
Who BITES someone in an argument, though? Emma needs therapy stat!
Yeah, the reaction would probably be different if we’d seen a picture of what she did to him.
I used to do that (bite people)…when I was 2 years old.
It’s like she wants to be Luis Suarez or something.
More than likely a picture exists out there, whenever police come and arrest someone for that type of thing they take pictures of the violence inflicted in case charges want to be pressed.
Mike Tyson. That’s who bites another person.
Mike Tyson.
Mike Tyson
My comment won’t publish.
I can think of a famous boxer…
I can think of a famous boxer
@ Tapioca – I can think of at least one famous boxer
I’m not surprised at all. Years ago I read an interview with her where she totally gave off this vibe of an even-more entitled attitude than her aunt (if that’s possible). I thought she was a complete prat back then so it doesn’t surprise me that she would stoop to hitting and biting in a fight.
Also, notice it is sources close to Emma who say they were both hitting each other. And she denies biting him. I think she is the abuser in this situation. It is unusual for the women to be the perpetrator but not impossible.
I completely agree with Lucinda. She has always struck me as a self-entitled brat.
So if she is “entitled” then she must be also a violent person.
Did you ever consider taking a class in Logic or Common Sense?
If they hit each other, she must have been the abuser?
I guess I have arrived on CB. My first snarky response. No, entitled does not necessarily lead to violent. Of course not. There are many entitled people who are not violent but most violent people have a sense of entitlement in my experience. Therefore I am not surprised she is capable of violence.
Since I need to spell it out…An entitled attitude, i.e. feeling like the world owes her everything, is an example of emotional immaturity. Emotionally immature people have fits when they don’t their way because they don’t have the emotional maturity to do otherwise. Sometimes temper tantrums or fits become violent.
Subsequently, it is not a stretch for me to believe that she would get violent and in this case, there is actually photo evidence that she is indeed violent.
Abusers frequently blame the victim. There is no evidence that she was physically hurt. The source that states both were physical and not just Emma comes from Emma’s people. So yes, I am concluding that she is probably, but not definitely, the abuser in this situation.
It’s hard to choose a side in this case since they were both beating eachother up.
If it turns out that Emma is the one who started the physical violence and her boyfriend was just defending himself, then she deserves to get the same exact treatment that Chris Brown got. It’s a shame that society as a whole doesn’t seem to take women abusing men very seriously.
Supposedly, these two were going at it in a hotel room and were both hitting each other, but Evan was the one with a bloody hose and a bite mark, so Emma was the one who was arrested.
I believe that’s a typo.
But to the article, it seem like the apple doesn’t fall from the tree. Her dad also been arrested on domestic violence. I hope that this is just a once occurrence and not a pattern.
The bloody hose comment made me envision her trying to do a Lorena Bobbit on the poor guy.
If that is true, that is the pattern of a victim of domestic violence:
She may be attracted to guys who abuse and are violent, because her father was like that.
Uh oh. She’s having relationship troubles that she’s confronting in a violent manner. The long term trouble here is that no one will enforce the negative consequences on her.
Wasn’t there some blind, or maybe two, over at CDAN that said Emma was kind of crazy?
I just read that and supposedly she is so full of drugs these days that anything is possible. All the addictions of her dad and the bitchtasticness of her aunt: no bueno.
Well, she is related to Julia. It wouldn’t surprise me.
Yeah, this girl has a bad rep and is known for being a total party girl. Nothing bland about her past so far. She dates some questionable guys too.
Peters seems like a pretty well-rounded kid considering that he used to be on the Disney channel and has a penchant for playing serial killers.
There have been blinds saying she’s a coke head.
Do you have the link to that blind item?
What a crazy bitch! I don’t think they were hitting each other if she had no marks. It was probably her PR that released that bit to make her sound better.
So, your theory is that a “good” girl who is under abuse should have proper marks, so if she doesn’t, she probably did not get any or not enough “visible” to the policemen?
That’s such BS.
I don’t want to be judgmental, but what the Hell, I am totally going to be exactly that. If someone injures you like that, you press charges. Period. Unless he’s been secretly beating her up and she’s been keeping quiet about it for a while (which is totally possible)… No. This won’t end well. He looks like Hell, too. Yeah, this doesn’t look like its been a healthy relationship. GET OUT EVAN.
I don’t think it was a case of him not pressing charges. In domestice violence cases, the victim doesn’t “choose” to press charges or not – police press charges no matter what. What probably happened was that he wouldn’t cooperate and give a statement to the police. So they had nothing to go on, nothing to use against her in court. No evidence = no charges. Simple.
Actually, it can be TOTALLY up to the victim. The state can charge for disturbing the piece, but victims of assault have to agree to charge, at least in the US.
Wendy- it might vary with locality, but typically today in the US once the police are called the decision to bring the case to the DA is no longer in the hands of the victim. That’s true for domestic violence cases definitely but also for other types of charges. The DA may not pursue the case if everybody is too uncooperative or the situation is too murky and may allow out of court settlements, but physical evidence can be used.
In Massachusetts, it is easier if the victim wants charges pressed, but the District Attorney’s office makes the final decision.
My friend was a prosecutor in Massachusetts and in his office they would always prosecute DV cases no matter what, on the theory that it DV not just a ‘private matter’ and that the abuser is also doing harm to the community at large.
It happened in Canada, not the states. The laws are different.
Merideth — sometimes it is up to the victim and sometimes not. I think it depends on the circumstance.
I knew of a couple where he got blackout drunk and tried to run her over with the car while she was running down the street carrying their infant.
She did not want to file charges. The police would not drop charges regardless of her wishes.
I actually spent a year in a national volunteer program working for a DV agency. The posters stating that victims cannot choose not to press charges are correct. The DA can choose to go forward with charges regardless of the victim’s cooperation. In fact, its not uncommon for a victim to actually accompanythe abuser to his own trial. Further, in many states police officers are actually required to arrest someone if there’s evidence of domestic violence (bruises, blood, cuts). Which gets sticky when one person is defending themselves but their bruises simply havent shown up yet
Yup, when it gets to the point that two people or at least one is laying hands on the other in that way time to call it quits. I could swear I saw a pix of her earlier and she had bruises up and down her legs. Kids you need to be done.
I think this will help her image. She didn’t have one before, she was completely disappearing into complete irrelevance. Now, she’s that crazy chick that beats up Evan Peters. Evan has always had a bit of a dark and twisty indie rep, and now Emma does too! They’re so rock and roll and Sid and Nancy! Barf.
I get major “bitch vibes” from this girl. Another pretentious hollywood airhead, who feels entitled to do whatever she wants because Daddy and Aunt Julia are famous.
This guy needs to run. Run quickly.
agreed.. they’re both going to be on AHS?
I just found out that she’ll be on AHS and it’s bad news for the show I think.
Maybe Murphy can just follow her around with a crew and make that next season of the show, AHS: The Roberts’ Family.
Totally agree, the bitch is strong with this one. The entitled bratty kind, just like aunty.
I kind of liked her in the Scream movie, thought she was good. She should do more of those crazy bitch roles, maybe it would help her career move forward.
Agreed
AND once a relationship goes violent it really can’t ever go back.
She may learn not to hit a different guy but this guy will always bring out the rage in her. He stays and it sends a msg that she can hit him.
This is just a toxic relationship.
This is also my impression. Saw her interviewed several times and she is always a majorly pretentious bitch to everyone.
alex pettyfer taught her well…
It’s more likely she learned it from her violent dad and bitchy aunt. The Roberts family is pretty awful.
I haven’t seen her act since that middle-school comedy series she was on (she was good). I blame the nose job…
Before this thing I didn’t even know she existed…
It is bothering me how american reports keep saying that ‘he didn’t want to press charges’. This is not how the Canadian system works. The crown attorney decides whether or not to press charges. This may be made difficult when the victim is not cooperating though. So, charges still could be laid.
I bet 99% of American don’t know anything about the Canadian justice system, so its probably not an intentional misstatement
I took a law class in 12 grade… I’m Canadian, and I know Quebec has a lot of differences in their laws than the rest of Canada. Not sure if this applies in this case though.
There is nothing attractive about her, she is obviously only famous because of family connections. Evan is hot but looks a mess, being with this crazy chic is taking its toll on his looks and probably his mental health. She seems toxic to me.
I hope Evan gets out of this. I’m a fan of the guy and, as someone said above, I think it’s unlikely that he hit her and didn’t leave marks. Possible, of course, but unlikely.
SO are they both going to Rehab? or just her since she is “more famous”..
We don’t know what happened. If he hit her or roughly grabbed her without leaving a mark (it is definitely possible), her actions may have been justified. Either way, break up and seek therapy–both of you–NOW.
Really? I don’t like that type of questions like that. If the roles were reversed, would you still have the same opinion? She should be treated just the same as anyone who commits domestic violence regardless if she were a man or woman.
You don’t think it matters if someone twice her size was hitting or grabbing her and she was trying to defend herself? Really? I’m not saying that’s what happened, but it could have. I’m surprised how quickly people here rush to vilify her without knowing any specifics.
+1000 LL
Well if we were treating her the “same” as a male who committed domestic violence against a female, then Tracking is right on point.
After all, just look at Chris Brown’s fanbase. They all but blamed Rihanna for getting beaten up by Brown.
Reply to Tracking only:
Well said. This is advice one or both of them should have taken months ago, but it still applies: “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”
I am in my mid forties and just broke up-no contact-with a guy I have been seeing off and on for six years, since my divorce. It’s always been about him, I knew that, but I kept hanging on. Finally, we had an incident during a visit-he lives someplace else-that showed me the reality all too clearly. I woke up, after all that time. It could have been much much worse-I had so little self-esteem that was the standard I was working with-but it was bad enough.
Who knows what really happened? I agree, they both need to take care of themselves individually and fix whatever is wrong with each one of them.
And, after my drawn out experience, they need to stay away from each other-no “friends”, that’s how this guy kept me on the hook-for however long it takes. Getting back together-push that off the table now and just get on with the healing process. No There will be no legal ramifications NOW-the main thing is to get help.
Yes, often women who are abused also use violence. Many violent couples also have substance abuse problems. But please keep in mind that 1 in 3 women who are murdered are murdered by husband or domestic partner. While the statistics are varied and not always reliable, that number is much, much lower for men: between 3 and 16 percent.
Violence breeds violence. Me and my boyfriend used to get caught up into escalating arguments. They usually ended with a bit of violence, I did not think I had that side of me, ever.
We are still together, but we went to therapy for a long time. He had childhood issues, and me as well. It takes a lot of will to overcome that mindset, and also no to all into that trap when someone starts it. Of course most women are in the losing end, but we can surely make things much worse by being caught up with it and looking for a reaction. It is stupid.
A cousin of mine raised in a violent home used to resort to it with her partners. When she married, her husband did not follow her tacticts, and she had to get used to not to use violence to solve her issues. It was very hard for her, and great at the same time.
Ennie, I think your honesty is great. I was never violent with partners but grew up in a violent home and still yell sometimes. But my husband is calm cool and collected. And respectful. I am such a better person for learning to live without the drama.
So glad it is working out for you!
It was so funny when my cousin told me her stituation. She is this little tiny thing and her husband is a huge almost 2 mts. Man. And she started looking for a fight (she used to be beaten by her father and brother, but everybody yelled alright in her home), and when that hapenned, her German husband answered to her in our native language : “you too angry, speak later when you are calm”. I laughed imagining his strong accent and saying this.
She was left literally fuming, her picking on and teathrics had no audience.
They would talk their issues later on. And then she later realized that she was repeating her family’s pattern. She did not go to therapy but it worked out very good for her, just like for you!
Why is she getting a pass? If this was C.Brown everyone would be up in arms about it. She hit another person. I don’t care that it is a guy she still put hands on him.
Them both being banged up says to me yeah maybe he was trying to protect himself from getting hit especially if he has a bloody nose and bite marks.
Whatever to her.
TRUE.
You know why she’s getting a pass. This will be forgotten in a month. While others will be vilified forever. Some are vilifying Chris Brown in this thread and this has nothing to do with him.
Chris Brown beat Rhianna to a damn bloody pulp, that little rat deserves it
I don’t think she’s getting a pass on this thread. Most people here are assuming that she’s the abuser in the relationship, even though the story says that they were both abusing each other. To me it’s all a matter of who started the violence.
The whole ‘mutual abuse’ thing is crap that people say to try to seem fair. Abuse is ao much more than physically fighting – its a cycle of power and control, and frequently what you see as ‘mutual abuse’ is one person reacting to the other. Say someone grabs you by the throat and pins you to the wall, and you hit them to gwt them off of you. They have the marks on their body, but how cpuld you ever classify that as something other tha one person abusing the other? Mutual abuse is just something that people say to let abusers off the hook.
Like father, like daughter? Very sick. The best thing they could do is end the relationship before this goes too far and seek help individually. Also the question must be asked; drugs?
Exactly. I’m old enough to remember her dad’s past that includes lots of drugs and a restraining order and some other things. I doubt she grew up in a stable, normal home and she’s living what she saw at home. I hope she gets the help she obviously needs, bratty or not.
Well, if you read the TMZ article it was Emma and her team that said Evan was also hitting her. Neither Evan nor the police made any mention of Evan participating in the assault.
I’m not sure I believe Emma’s version of events. Abusers are known to try and blame their victim to minimize their responsibility.
Yea I buy that completely. She had not a mark on her so I’m guessing his “hitting” her was him merely trying to restrain her from beating him. Either way this freaking sad.
THANK YOU! most of the time the writers here give side-eyes to statements like that, that clearly are meant to make their clients seem innocent, or in this case, not as guilty. But this time they just take it at her publicists’ word?
I definitely believe we’d be hearing different from both the writers of this article and the comments had the genders been switched in this situation.
To me this reeks of entitlement and control on her part.
SO, Julia undergoes “treatments” for cellulite or whatever to keep her man and the niece and her man get physically violent and then she makes up to keep him.
can you say there’s some dysfunction in the closet?
I thought about family influence, too. Her aunt has supposedly been an influence or mentor to her. Well, Aunty really got going around age 23 when she ran away from her wedding with her fiance’s good friend. I doubt a lot of younger readers know about the aunt’s colorful past and how she ended up with her current spouse. Lots of relationship drama plus dad’s issues, so I am not surprised.
Yeah, I’m sure these two were totally clean and sober at the time. They both look like their permanent home is in an underground dungeon.
LOL!
He should get out ASAP. There’s drama, and then there’s pathology- he’s in the latter. I can’t begin to fathom the level of crazy that leads one to bite another person. Despite the denial of that part, I am going with the cops on that.
What if he were holding her down and she bit his hand to free herself? We don’t know any of the specifics here, other than it’s obviously a very unhealthy relationship that should end now. Maybe we should reserve judgment about her until/if we learn more.
Are you this easy on other celebrities charged with domestic violence or just little white girls?
Statistically, at least 9 out of 10 victims of DV are women, so its actually a very reasonable question to ask. And honestly, its a good question. Even for icky Emma Roberts.
Sad that abuse and physical violence ends up as a conversation about being about image. He needs to leave the relationship, of course, and she needs therapy. I dont like this entitled brat but i hate to think of what it is like to be this damaged and out of control. Unfortunately a lot of disturbed stars dont get help because they’re surrounded by yes men. Sinatra is one example that comes to mind. Dont like the Roberts anyway.
cant compare it to chris brown because the picture of rihanna was truly horrible.
that does not mean this is not bad and the society has a lot of catching up to do in terms of violence against men.
Uh Oh… I wanted to laugh picturing her getting arrested, but this story is so wrong that i feel bad laughing… Poor guy… run Forrest run!
Absolutely disgusted by this, and also by those claiming no one knows what happened. While that may be true, if we hear a report about a man hitting a woman, no one wonders if things truly are as they seem and the man gets vilified immediately. Unbelievable…
truly…
it is good to be a white female in america, you get ALL the benefits of doubt. SMH
Thank you!!!
When Chris Brown beat Rihana, they were some people who blamed Rihana for it (and still do to this day) and some who took Rihana’s side.
The same thing seems to be happening on this thread. Some are blaming Emma because they see her as a bitch and because of her family background, and some are saying that they both abused each other and we don’t know who started the violence.
TMZ has pictures of her covered in bruises. Who’s to say which of them is more to blame in this situation?
If she’s bruised and he’s bleeding and bitten – they both need help fast. None of this is normal. And I would doubt that it’s a one-time incident. Women need to run fast away from any guy who hits them or verbally abuses them- and the same advice applies to guys in the same situation with a woman. Such behavior shows something is deeply wrong. The abuser has to fix herself or himself, because you can’t. Don’t believe the apologies and claims that it will never happen again. It will. It’s really important to understand how pathological such behavior is. If you have a broken leg, you have to get it fixed before you can walk on it.
I agree 100%. Whatever went down between them, the relationship has obviously gone to an unhealthy place.
My legs are covered in bruises too. Doesn’t mean it’s from an altercation. He could have shoved her off of him when she hit him, and she could have fallen down. The bruises were mainly on her legs.
Looked at the picture again – I actually have WORSE bruises than she does. And it’s just from day to day summer activities, and sleeping with a fiance who tends to flail around in bed.
She could have other bruises that we can’t see, but that wasn’t really my point, which was–no one knows what happened except the two of them. They *both* need out of that situation.
You can kill someone in self defense and be 100% on the right side of the law, so why is that even important who has more bruises?
If he hit her, how on earth did they arrest the weaker person of them both?!
They do not know what happened and its a he said she said situation, so there’s no point in going to trial when clearly they will never reach “Beyond reasonable doubt”.
How dare they arrest her when they have no idea if she is the abuser?!
There’s a photo out today of her looking bruised up too. Whatever happened, they need to stay away from each other if a simple “misunderstanding” turns violent. Considering that she was arrested and didn’t claim self defense, it sounds like she was the aggressor. Either way, they need help and distance.
Link?
TMZ.
The bruises are on her knees and elbows, not a typical place you get beat up, but a typical place where you get marks from physical activity or rough sex. I see some rug burns too. I think these two are into the kink and took it too far. I also wouldn’t be shocked if they were very very drunk.
Those photos were taken a week later, and there is no way to confirm when or how the bruising occurred. The knee bruises do look more like rug burns.
I don’t reckon police, where neither partner is cooperating, often jump to the conclusion that a female has physically abused a male. That gives me a sense that there was a good reason to suspect Emma of being the aggressor. It might be as simple as her even telling the police so (esp if she was drunk/high). She may feel entitled to physically hurt her partner and may not have realized the police would do anything about it because of her gender.
I think her father has been arrested for domestic violence in the past. She may have grown up in a violent household and just not know how to deal with conflict. No matter what the cause though, Girlfriend needs therapy.
This, exactly. Her growing up in a violent home made my antennae perk up.
I’ve never liked her. This cements my dislike.
What a hot, sad mess. But I would like to point out that this Evan character is an epic sock-wearer.
Her bruises are on her knees and thighs. I didn’t see anything on her arms. And the arrest report said he was the only one with visible injuries. So she was the one arrested. She obviously didn’t have any bruises on her arms or face that the police saw or they would both have been arrested or more than likely he would have because he was the male.
No we don’t know what happened, but I think it is time to stop saying that because she is smaller it means she could not have been the aggressor. Women are abuser too. To other women, men and children. Thing is they get a pass and then something terrible happens and people then take notice.
The rule should be Different folks same strokes.
Not she COULD NOT be the aggressor–she MIGHT NOT have been the aggressor! Serious rush to judgment here, people, and a disturbing tendency to label her a horrible bitch and domestic abuser without knowing any facts. Now her bruises are meaningless or her fault too? riiight.
But it’s possible. He had a bloodied nose, and a bite wound. She had no visible damage to her, and cops don’t just arrest a tiny female for nothing. We’ve seen pictures of her with bruises that don’t coincide with someone who was attacked. I’m more bruised than she is right now, and it’s from 4-wheeling, playing with my dog, and sleeping with a fiance who kicks in his sleep. Not from an attack.
I get that you’re trying to be unbiased until there’s more proof, but it’s coming off as borderline victim blame. We’ve seen her, we’ve heard what the police saw when they arrived one scene. Things are pointing pretty steadily at her being the aggressor.
@ tracking
Funny you keep saying people are rushing to place judgment on her yet your doing the same thing. In all of your comments your saying he the abuser and she the innocent victim.
You should join the Canadian police. I guess being devoid of any understanding of basic facts of life and common sense is one of their requirements.
If 2 people tell you they hit each other, the last thing you are supposed to do is arrest the weaker one.
You don’t really HAVE TO arrest someone if there is no clear reason why this should be done.
They can simply make sure they go their separate ways.
A bloody nose could be the result of her self defense.
Holy crap. This girl is cray. What the hell? She is entitled and narssasistic. She has one hell of a crazy stupid family.
They’re together? Hmm…never really liked Emma’s acting but he was very talented amd interesting on AHS. They both seem very
Dark & twisted, sarcastic and “too cool”. Huh. Wierd story wtf?
Ha! They really are working on an American Horror story, biting and hitting, check. What’s next?
Well her dad has a reputation of having quite the anger management problem, combined with Auntie Julia’s all around bad personality..
This is sad for so many reasons.. I can only imagine what this must have been for an arrest. I hope this doesn’t end badly. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you have, when your dead, it’s over.
I saw the TMZ pictures of the bruises, but check out the next set on that site. Emma and Evan are standing outside of a studio with her crying and him comforting her. PR damage control in full swing and it has to be from her team. They’re using him to have this go away, because if he dumps her (he has just cause) she’ll be ruined. Guys may skate on domestic violence (see Charlie Sheen and Chris Brown), but I yet to see a woman come out OK when she is the alleged aggressor.
In what world did Chris Brown skate?? The only people that skate are white people. This week has proven that. Some of you make up so many excuses for your own its unbelievable.
Yeah not sure how Chris skated. Charlie HELL YEAH. Charlie never has his past brought up. Charlie that still works and makes money and the public doesn’t hold him to the same standard. Also I have seen stories other actors that are swooned over on this site that have a past history of violence. Never mentioned because they find the guy swoon worthy or he is just so hot…
And I saw a few comments up thread say it was because we saw pictures of the abuse (Chris/Rhianna). It is interesting how people spin it or twist it. But I don’t think the people finding excuses or trying to show how this incident is so “different” even realize what they are doing. It is like a reflex and automatic.
Such is the world.
SIDENOTE.. there are new pics of her crying and him comforting her.
I totally agree with you.
Chris Brown skated the first time in which he wasn’t incarcerated for what he did to Rihanna. He should have gone to jail. He got probation which was a slap on the wrist (picking up trash). Being able to afford a high powered criminal defense attorney helped him them, it may not help him now.
Yeah poor poor Chris Brown.
Poor little thing has really had a rough time of it huh?
Gimmee a break. Dude deserves all the shit he gets. He can cry himself to sleep on his bed of money, career and fanbase still going strong.
And let’s not forget the Chris Brown fan sites that not only defend him while blaming Rihanna, but basically put the guy on a pedestal as a sex symbol (um, recall the “I’d let Chris Brown beat me” tumblr).
So really, Brown didn’t make out too badly for beating the shit out of a girl.
Agree that Sheen doesn’t get NEARLY the amount of shit he deserves from the American public, although people around here are usually pretty good about putting him in his place.
Chris Brown skated in that people defended him from day 1, use (and continue to use) the ‘nobody is perfect’ excuse, blamed Rihana, (some have even said that because Rihana ‘is a slut’ and ‘doesn’t portray herself as a ‘decent, respectable woman’ that she invited the violence against her) and he still has an undeserved, successful career. He didn’t go to jail either.
In 2009, people had to choose who the worst celebrity role model was- Lindsay Lohan for her drug mess, Miley Cyrus for her revealing clothes and suggestive dance move, and Chris Brown for beating Rihana. Guess who they didn’t choose? Chris Brown. That shows you that apparently society thought that a teen pop star dancing suggestively in tight hot pants is worse than a guy beating his girlfriend. That says something seriously misogynistic about our culture. Not to mention that on other sites, anyone who has criticized Chris Brown for what he did has been labeled a racist by his enabling fans.
Now, I’m not denying the realness of white privilege in this country. Whenever a black man or a black person does something wrong or inappropriate in society, bigots will say nasty things like, “that’s typical of those people” and much worse. Never mind the fact that people of all races do horrible crap, and that there are good people and bad people in every race. Clearly these disgusting pigs are just glossing over the bad behavior of their own race, (and other races) and just using that particular person’s wrongdoing to justify being the racist garbage that they are. Believe me, I am very familiar with this and recently left a website because so much racism was being allowed and I just got overwhelmed with fighting with these people and reporting abuse on their comments and still seeing the nasty comments being allowed to remain on the site.
But that doesn’t mean that any abuser- regardless of race- doesn’t deserve all the criticism that they get, whether it’s Chris Brown, Charlie Sheen, or this couple. I hate it when people do these things and still get to prosper. And I don’t think the people on THIS site are being racist in any way.
@TOK , Toto did not defend him though. S/he just stated that white people have it easy, which is true.
@Dee-I wasn’t sure if that was her point, but if it is-then no arguments there. At least not from me anyway.
You could argue that Elin Nordegren “skated” after her fight with Tiger when she went after him with a golf club, since public sympathy was on her side once the news about all of the affairs came out. So there goes that theory.
Not sure this is really what should be focused on though. Domestic violence is plain wrong, whether it is done by a man or a woman. This is a toxic relationship – Evan needs to get out and Emma needs to get help.
She really rubs me the wrong way. It’s like the second coming of Julia Roberts.
I love him. I had no idea they were together. (eww)
I hope they both get help. And he looks a mess.
I wonder if this will affect her Neutrogena endorsement… I just saw her in a commercial last night.
Men can just as easily be physically abused by women
I disagree with this statement. Current statistics do not support this. Women are less apt to become physically abusive than men are.
“Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year, and between 100,000 and 6 million men, depending on the type of survey used to obtain the data.
(Rennison, C. (2003, Feb). Intimate partner violence. Us. Dpt. of Justice/Office of Justice Programs. NXJ 197838.
Straus, M. & Gelles, R. (1990). Physical violence in American families. New Brunswick, N.J.: Transaction Publishers.
Tjaden, P., & Thoennes, N. (2000). Extent, nature, and consequences of intimate partner violence. National Institute of Justice, NCJ 181867.)” http://dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C61/
Wow Emma. Get some help.
Women aren’t typically as physically strong as men. And women are usually raised differently, though Eric Roberts for a father doesn’t bode well for Emma.
If this guy wanted to physically restrain Emma he probably could have, unless she had a weapon of some sort. Maybe he was afraid of hurting her, or was caught of guard by a drug-fueled rage and was too wasted himself to get control over her.
Whatever the case, he should get the hell out and she definitely needs help.
Seriously.. some of you need to watch that show SNAPPED..
or talk to my cousin who is the Dean of Girls at a school; trying to break up a girl on girl fights/girls on boys.
then come back and talk about women not being aggressive.
@LuLu-Thanks for saying this. I’m not defending this woman but the false equivalencies are annoying the hell out of me.
I’ve seen Snapped and the reason why there’s a show dedicated to women being violent is because it’s a relative anomaly compared to men being violent. You could fill 87 seasons of Snapped with stories of men beating, killing, raping, or torturing women.
I’m not saying that makes it ok for women to be violent towards men, but it’s utterly ridiculous to act as if it’s the same thing, or on the same scale as men acting violently towards women.
I agree with you. But the only thing I’d like to add is that there are FAR less men who report any physical abuse from a woman. Many are embarrassed and think they’ll get made fun of for a woman attacking them.
Oh I know, Erinn, which is why the range in the figure LuLu gave is so wide. It’s sad the stigma exists so strongly for men that are abused by women.
That being said, men don’t fear women attacking them in their homes or while on a morning jog. Men don’t fear their girlfriends/wives abusing or threatening them, emotionally, physically, or sexually. Women have to worry about things like this every day.
Sure it’s a generalization on some levels, but it’s also the truth. Women are simply much less violent than men, period.
I agree that male on female vs. female on male violence is very, very different.
However, female on male violence comes with its own set of dangers.
One of my friends was in such a situation, and there was really nothing he could do. As a man, if you try to defend yourself you can be charged as the responsible party. He tried to leave but she bloodied him up anyway. Neighbors called the cops, the cops came and started to arrest him until she started hitting the cops! THEN they understood the situation.
I also think that men who are abused are afraid to come forward, partly because of pride.
Well it is a good thing that Eric Robert’s ex girlfriend did all she could to cut him out of his daughters life with Auntie Juliie’s full support. Because we would not have wanted little Emma to develop into a party girl with rage problems who treats others like crap…..oh wait…….whoops.
Stay Classy Roberts family
I am going to have to agree with MK on this I think she cant handle her drugs and gets a little aggressive on the bad sh!t.
Get out man. It’s not worth it.
Cue the photos of the actress looking fresh and innocent as she buys fast food and of him comforting her as she cries (on the same day the story breaks). Whether they are currently working together of not, he needs to exit the relationship.
Drugs.
I think women assaulting men is equally as bad as when men hit women. It should be taken seriously. These 2 obviously need to get some help.
Biting?? What is she a 2 year old? I could never imagine biting someone. Strange.
If a guy ever hit you, would you consider your reactions under such scary situation?
So he was smacking her around? I thought this article was just about her being the abuser. I don’t know how I would react if someone hit me. Biting wouldn’t be top on the list though. Kicking and hitting back would be, but not biting.
I don’t know how I would react if someone hit me. Biting most likely wouldn’t be something I would do I don’t think. Kicking and hitting back would be, but not biting.
I will not comment on who started what because I do not know….but I never liked her…she seems unstable even before this. But I did like him! And def not their pairing but this is making me go, hmmmmmm.
So are people going to start treating her like they did Chris or will this all pass over b/c she’s a white girl in Hollywood with celebrity family member?
You already know.
Look at the amount of excuses being made for her already.
You forgot also Sean Penn who beat the crap out of Madonna whom he tied up to a chair and make Chris Brown look like a whiney insignificant pussy next to him and yet the media is all about “pulling a Chris Brown”… I call pulling a Sean Penn surpassing the latter alright!
I find repulsive both of their behaviour but um yes the media conveniently emphasized one more than the other…
If there is any equivalence to the Chris Brown case it’s SEAN ‘UP MY ASS’ PENN. That man is foul and no one brings up his case directly to him or makes fun of him for it ever. He’s wildly successful and seen as a good guy by the younger crowd who just brush off his violent history. And honestly his attack was FAR scarier than what Brown did to Rihanna…far scarier. And I think Brown doesn’t deserve a good career or any public good will for what he did to Rihanna. Imagine what I feel Sean Penn deserves. I find him absolutely foul and loathe him and his ugly mug. Men like that enrage me. And Charlie Sheen as well. Why these two idiots get passes and no outpouring of disgust is beyond me.
It’s sad but this is much more common than ppl realize, just because dudes don’t really want to go out and tell everyone their girlfriends are beating the sht out of them. In some statistics it’s shown that more than 40% of the victims are actually male.
“..in couples reporting spousal violence, 27% of the time the man struck the first blow; in 24% of cases, the woman initiated the violence”
It’s almost 50-50 so that’s one thing women have really made equal themselves – being nasty.
…except it’s not truly equal as the average man is 5’10”, 190 lbs and the average woman is 5’3″ and 135 lbs.
Look, I’m not saying it’s not advantageous for abusive women in the sense that depending on the guy, they may be very aware that he won’t hit back. So of course, that works in her favor. But the bottom line is that based on sheer stature alone, a man could kill a woman with one blow or a few tough punches, he can generally overpower her more easily and he can defend himself against her more adeptly.
There’s an imbalance based on inherent gender characteristics that people aren’t recognizing here.
Exactly what I was thinking !
You sure about those, OT? Because I was going through another report that showed that domestic violence is relatively gender symmetrical:
http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm
And the disparity is often due to underreporting due to the belief that men are inherently the aggressors.
But other than that, I’m confused as to why a domestic violence case is being turned into an oppression olympics?
No. The overwhelming majority of domestic abuse is of males against females.
A man can easily defend himself. He can easily walk away and avoid physical altercation.
You have no idea who was the first to hit, but if he hit her, I cannot fathom what is wrong with the Canadian police to arrest her.
I had a friend in school that had a nose that easily bled, even from small matters like change in weather/ humidity.
I wonder if in Canada they arrest women who had been abused for trying to defend themselves.
So basically, a man should allow a woman to viciously attack him because men are stereotypically stronger?
Right. Because that’s not victim-blaming at all.
@side-eye it’s not stereo-typically. It’s more biologically and statistically speaking. The majority of males are stronger than the majority of females. Are there cases where the female is MUCH stronger than the male? YES. But it doesn’t negate the fact that in general men are stronger than females. I think mimi’s taking it too far about not arresting Emma though.
I’m with another poster, if Emma was arrested, then the police likely had a good reason for it as females aren’t often thought of as the abuser. It’s a little more complicated then it’s presented here. And I don’t think it’s directly comparable to Chris Brown and Rihanna either. Don’t get me wrong I’m not giving her a pass nor am I letting it slide, but there are degrees of cases and this is not the worst.
Now Sean Penn compared to Chris Brown. Yes, more comparable. But Sean Penn was MUCH worse. I’m all for people bringing up Penny and shitting on him whenever.
you’re really reaching with your excuses for her. you had a friend who nose bled easily? oh, yeah, that happens all the time *snort* or maybe he willed his nose to bleed so he could frame her for domestic violence? *snort* get real. and how do you know she was abused and defending herself?
Well… this summer is going crazy or is it just me?…
Emma Roberts acted like total trash. Time for her fans consider the situation and what she has done. Get professional help.
The victim-blaming and abuser sympathizing on this thread is disgusting if not unsurprising-after all abuse is always justifiable if it’s towards a man. As are gender stereotypes apparently.
I guess if you’re anything but Black you can get away with anything.
Sheen. Roberts. Lennon.
All abusers, none vilified.
I bet everyone would be calling for charges to be made if this was a Black actor or actresses.
Yup and they would bring the whole “Angry Black Woman” stereotype all over the place to back up their “logic”.. That thing is such BS I swear lol!
A guy should not be hitting a girl.
A man should not be hitting a woman. Period.
If the Canadian lack basic common sense and arrest a young woman who is clearly smaller physically and much weaker than him, than what can I say about Canada?
Just because you dislike her or celebrities doesn’t make this OK.
If she felt she had to physically hit him, my assumption would be self defense. He can easily walk away. If he wants to hit her- She cannot.
To arrest her after such incident is to allow him to abuse her further.
Boggles my mind that in a country like Canada, that made sense to the police.
WHAT?! are you saying it’s okay for a girl to hit a guy because it must be self-defense? That’s ridiculous. I’ve known several women who had no problem with hitting a guy just b/c they were pissed. Just b/c a woman is smaller than a man, it does not mean she can hit him! Physical violence is never okay unless it is self-defense and we do not have any indication of that. To the opposite, as a matter of fact. Otherwise, why would they arrest her? and not him.
What a disgusting and ignorant mentality you have, Mimi. You’re basically saying that even if the woman initiated it, and no matter how violent she got, the man has no right to defend himself, based on dated gender roles. People like you are the reason men don’t speak out about abusive partners–because they always assume that no matter what happens it’s the man’s fault. This kind of crap sickens me.
NOBODY SHOULD USE VIOLENCE TO CONTROL *ANYBODY*. EVER. It doesn’t matter if she was pissed at him, and it’s ignorant to assume it was self-defense just because she’s a woman and must be weaker and less aggressive.
Mimi you are ridiculous. So it’s ok for a woman to beat the sh*t out of a man? It’s only “self defense”? Give me a damn break. Plenty of women go bat sh*t crazy and hit men. It’s not unheard of. Some bitches have anger problems. Who knows what happened with these two people. The authorities must have had good reason to arrest this girl. Bottom line: no man should hit a woman and no woman should hit a man.
Why in the world did he go back to her? RUN dude! She obviously has more than a few screws loose.
Who cares about this “nobody”. She is only a semi-celebrity due to her family connection. *yawn* Boring.
giddy up
She thinks she got where she is by talent alone and NO nepotism? Hah! It’s all about who you know in H-Wood! It’s not like she changed her name and struck out on her alone with no family help. she’s full of it. I’ll bet the 1st time she pulled a ‘Don’t you know who I am’ and the reply was ‘No,’ she pulled Auntie Julia and Big Daddy Eric out of her flat butt!
Generally speaking, there is an inherent imbalance of power between men and women which I think should not be overlooked. The point is, Evan could have easily beaten Emma to a pulp in retaliation whereas, had the tables been turned, it’s highly unlikely she’d have been able to do the same seeing as he’s easily double her size.
That said, it’s possible that despite his size Evan is so psychologically damaged that he *feels* helpless in relation to her particularly when she lashes out. I, however, doubt that to be the case. I think there’s more to this story and that they were both acting out in a pretty major and unpleasant way.
Sounds like they need to stop the drug use.
this is what pisses me of..woman getting passes when they are the ones who are violent…she’s violent because her ex was beating her ass, so she had to defend her self..
but when it’s the man who’s doing the beating, lets bash him, he’s a scum…
people are even making jokes about this domestic issue…
wow….
What is wrong with Canada?
You just told a story about 2 people who fought and the woman got arrested, even though they were both claimed to be violent/ physical with one another.
How do they know she did not act in self defense?
Why arrest her?
Can’t they see he is much much bigger and stronger than her?
It could be completely random that his nose bled, but he actually had been more aggressive or violent.
They are not supposed to punish someone without a trial and I can’t see why would they arrest her?
That’s a punitive act in such a case, not an actual legitimate reason such as protecting him from her- as if she had not been arrested he was in any danger.
Absolutely outrageous.
I know this is a gossip column, but I’m surprised people missed such basic point of civil rights.
I’m curious what the hell does a man size has to do with, because he’s bigger than her automatically, she was the victim?
snapped begs to differ…
and the fact that some person had the nerve to say, what did he do to make her snap, wow….
and in order to passed judgment, there has to be pics
so pics are needed when the woman is the one who’s doing the beating..but zero evidence are needed when the men are the one who doing the beating?
A man (especially being so much bigger and stronger than her) can easily overpower her if he wants to.
He can simply walk away and easily defend himself.
However, if he is the one interested in a violent conflict, she will have to fight to get herself out of the situation and leave the place and will not easily be able to leave the place/ defend herself.
Try common sense. Or join the Canadian police. You’ll fit right in.
Seriously, some of these comments(particularly mimi’s) are disgusting and shameful. You don’t need to be bigger and stronger than someone when the first thing that people will assume is that *you’re* in the wrong, no matter what happens, and many female abusers use this to their advantage.
What does size have to do with it?
You’re joking right?
Size has a LOT to with it. Much like a child who is in 8th grade beating up a 3rd grader is wrong, much like a grown man beating a child is wrong, if you have a person who is larger, stronger and more powerful beating up a person who is inherently weaker, and of smaller stature–um yeah, it’s called an UNFAIR FIGHT and it is INHERENTLY far more terrible that two people of equal stature fighting each other.
Put it this way–if you had the choice to fight a man who is 6’3″ and 250 lbs or a girl who is 5’2″ and 120 lbs, which would YOU chose? At least with the girl you might have a fighting chance. If you’re going up against a person with a gun, would you rather have a gun or a knife? Personally, I’m gonna take the gun. For the most part, there is no equalizer when speaking of the strength of a man vs that of a woman.
The physical strength of men and women is NOT equal, people, so stop making it seem like it is.
It’s not about a man “not being a victim” (be more dramatic seriously) because he’s stronger-it’s about the fact that theoretically, a man could kill a woman with a single blow. Generally-speaking women do NOT have that advantage, whether they are the abuser or the abusee. The difference is that a man could get out of an abusive situation by physically defending himself against the woman if he must, while it is much MUCH more difficult for a woman to overpower or fight back against a man who is twice her size.
How do you people not understand how that changes the dynamic?
A man’s size is the difference between life and death for a woman who is abused by a man.
A man’s size is the difference between living or killing their abuser for a man who is abused by a woman.
Do we get it now?????
So basically what you’re saying is, is that female on male violence isn’t as bad because it takes more effort for a woman to abuse/kill a man that has no option to defend himself without being labeled the perpetrator half the time.
No one is saying that there aren’t biological differences between men and women–what people are saying IS THAT IT DOES NOT MATTER HOW BIG OR SMALL SHE WAS OR HOW DIFFICULT IT WOULD BE FOR HER TO MURDER HIM. What matters is that regardless of his size, and likely because of it, Evans has a higher chance of being the one blamed for the abuse–as is even happening right now–and therefore has a lower chance of reasonably being able to defend himself without getting in trouble. What matters is that she’s accused of acting in a violent manner to her significant other, and the fact that people are using the extreme of murder to minimize that fact is horrible. Abuse is abuse, and it makes it that much easier for the perpetrator when people use bullshit like this to sweep it under the rug. People are upset about the fact that people are so quick to make excuses for her whereas if it was Evan who got arrested you’d be calling for a lynching.
It shouldn’t matter whether or not she could “kill him with a single blow”.
What should matter is a man being potentially victimized by a violent partner, and it boggles my mind that people are refusing to under stand that, and are so quick to victim-blame when it’s a man, and then turning around and using the bullshit excuse of Chris Brown and Rihanna. You claim to be better than that corner of society, so WHY THE HECK ARE YOU EXHIBITING THE EXACT. SAME. BEHAVIOR.
You know what I can’t stand around here?
The fact that one can’t think critically without getting accused of having an agenda.
WHERE did I say that the abuse of a man wasn’t as bad? Point it out for me-do a copy and paste of the exact point in my comment where I stated that.
Ok that’s what I thought.
My point is that the dynamic is DIFFERENT. The psychological component involved in being in a POWERLESS situation where you could potentially die at the hands of your abuser is DIFFERENT than being in a position of knowing that you can get out of it with a physical move, be it restraint, chokehold, pushing whatever. If you don’t get why that’s inherently more terrifying then I really don’t know what to tell you.
Now men who are abused face a different dynamic in the sense that they may be too scared to use force and they may have been socially conditioned to think that it’s not ok to touch a woman in that way. Of course that’s awful and of course they may feel powerless as well but they HAVE the choice to physically overpower a woman, women do NOT and it it is NOT THE SAME.
You can be outraged and indignant all you want-I’m not gonna stop you but just know that you’re wasting your time coming after me on this thread. I won’t change my stance on this and I disagree with your assessment that male domestic violence is the exact same as female domestic violence.
They are both equally terrible, but not the same and the differences involved DO matter. End of story–preach elsewhere.
@mimi
Problem: Emma Roberts gets arrested for biting her boyfriend.
Solution: Blame Canada.
…well you did give us bieber. Sheila Broflovski was right about Canada.
Sorry, no returns or refunds on Bieber – he was clearly marked as a final sale.
Actually, I could be persuaded to give you your money back, but you still have to keep him. 🙂
Problem: 2 people claim the other hit them.
Canada way of common sense:
1. compare bruises
2. arrest the weaker person
Question: why was any arrest needed in this case (regardless whether the bigger and stronger guy was involved)?
Answer:?
Question: is the method of comparing bruises seriously not a joke for police work and determining guilt or suspicion?
Answer: In Canada- it is!
@mimi – I’m not sure whether you’re trolling, or whether you are really THIS invested in clearing Emma Roberts.
And I find it bizarre that you’re so fixated on the fact that she’s smaller than him; therefore, she could never possibly harm him. I could reference some court cases that contradict your theory, but you appear to be uninterested in any response other than “poor Emma!”
Anyway, good luck with Emma. I guess it’s nice for her that she has some stans.
Hmmm… is she going to do press for We Are the Millers, because I suspect that the press will ask her about this incident.
It blows my mind that there are certain commenters here today that evidently don’t believe that a woman can attack/abuse another man!
I grew up watching it happen to my uncle and his now ex-wife. She was an alcoholic. He’d be sitting at the table and she would just come out of nowhere & hit, slap, bite, kick, punch, yes I said PUNCH him. You don’t even want to know how bad it would get when he would confront her about her drinking. It was a truly terrible ordeal for him. It used to babysit at their house every summer & I would get sick to my stomach when her car would pull up in the driveway. After 7 years he finally divorced her worthless ass.
So yes it DOES happen to men.
Exactly. And it’s this crap and minimization that causes so many male victims to stay silent about the abuse. It doesn’t matter that he’s bigger than her. That size doesn’t mean anything when society so often automatically chooses the woman’s side. These people talk all day and night about combating gender roles until something like this pops up.
If women can be strong and good people, the same way men can, they can be violent and horrible just like men can.
Wow, your post gave me a serious case of déjà vu. I, too, have an aunt and uncle in an abusive relationship and it is my aunt who is the abuser. Unfortunately, they are still married (they’ve been married for 30 years). My uncle would be sitting in a chair and she would come up behind him and start punching him in the head with both her fists.
No one in the family had any idea this was going on until one day my mother and aunt were arguing and my aunt snapped and starting punching my mother in the head! The whole family was shocked and mortified. My aunt is a tiny, little meek person. We had no idea she had this kind of violence in her. It wasn’t until my mother was assaulted that my cousins came forward and told us my aunt has been pummeling my uncle like this for years.
My uncle won’t report it because he believes it’s humiliating. He won’t fight back because he’s afraid he would seriously injure her. He loves her, so he just lives with the abuse. I think there are a lot more men living this way than people realise. It makes it very difficult to gather accurate statistics when so much of this is happening in silence. The victim’s shame protects the abuser.
The comments that are pro Emma are crazy it doesn’t matter that she is smaller or female she physically attack a another person she bite him then gave him a bloody nose. It’s amazing how so many people are willing to give her the benefited of the double even thou she was the attacker she was the one arrested . Evan is a victim and somehow people are trying to Minimize what happen to him make it seem like its no big deal had the roles been reversed people on here would be calling for his head . Emma needs help its clearly she can’t handle things there are men who are abused by woman and they don’t fight back because they are scared of the women there are some men who don’t fight back because the fight will just escalate to the point of no return. Men can be victims too you know it’s just not women
She claims he physically attacked her.
Since neither of us actually been there, nor did the police: how would you know she did not act in self defense?
It’s her word against his, so no one can really tell what happened.
I can’t really see how anyone would justify an arrest in such a case.
Was he in an immediate danger for his life had she not been arrested?
Why would she be put under arrest without a trial if the police can simply make sure one of them leaves the hotel room?
Any answer, Oh Canadians?
Since none of us were there, including you, how can you assume that she did act in self defense?
Because she committed a criminal act? That could be why they arrested her. If it’s like the U.S., you get arrested and then go to trial. What if it was a murderer? Would you let an murderer roam free until after his trial? That’s a ridiculous comment and you know it. Police arrest, imprison, and then do the trial, normally. You don’t know either side but because it’s a woman, you are blindly defending her. If it was a man, I doubt you would be doing that. Maybe they didn’t just make her leave the hotel room because if they didn’t arrest her, she could come back and cause more violence. Imo, police are more likely to let women off so the fact that they arrested her is very telling.
Maybe you get violent during arguments too, and that’s why you empathize with her? If it was self-defense against him, as you claim, why didn’t they arrest him?
I immediately thought about the apple not falling far from the tree for Emma. I hope these two seek treatment if they stay together.
I can’t believe the people making excuses for her. She needs anger management, badly. TMZ had some photos of her legs bruised up walking around town last week, but I doubt that happened during the fight which got her arrested because a cop would see that visible bruising and bring him into. I’m wondering if coke was involved, because that can make people ragey. I just remember how she went down to film Spring Breakers with Harmony Korine, took set photos and everything, and bailed at the last minute and everyone was shocked. The rumor was she bailed because he wanted her to gain weight, and she didn’t…and I’m now wondering if drugs were involved with that and this current situation.
Anyway, if this happened in California she would have been arrested. Evan needs to end this. A lot of things can be worked out, but this kind of shit (beating on someone) is the worst and should be a deal ender.
Ugh. She’s so unimpressive and milquetoast on top of not even being that attractive, how does she even attract boyfriends? Let alone get them to stick around and tolerate her being a b*tch to them? I wish he would press charges to the fullest extent of the law. All I think about when I see her is nepotism in full effect, because at least Julia is/was gorgeous and her father was/is a noted actor. She’s just an ugly, scrawny chick that has really bad fashion sense. Again, ugh.
They need to break up and separately each go to therapy. It won’t get better without some major changes, imo from personal experience.
Okay…lemme get this one right. Chris Brown beats Rihanna, gets arrested, and is a social outcast-(excluding the psycho CB fans that think what he did was not that bad)-Emma Roberts beats up her boyfriend, gets arrested, and the two just have a “passionate” relationship? No one sees a double standard here? What? She’s a female, so it’s not even a big deal? If he had hit her,-(and maybe if he was a few shades darker) this would be a different story. WOW!