Cameron Diaz covers the May issue of Glamour UK to promote The Other Woman. The movie is all about sisterhood and rallying against lying, cheating men. Cameron has made some huge statements about women over the past few months. She’s tired of society’s chauvinism and misogyny towards single women. Cameron’s a living example of her perspective. She’s not out chasing a ring. The men have chased her, but whenever she’s gone through a breakup, the media has covered it in terms of what she did wrong. As in, “Poor Cami can’t keep a man…” That’s so wrong.
I don’t agree with everything Cameron says about gender and romantic stereotypes. She said everyone will be cheated on at some point during their relationships. Sweeping statements will create trouble, but I do agree that most people will either cheat or be cheated on. That’s realistic without being all-inclusive. Now Cameron is saying that all women have been sexually attracted to other females. Here we go again:
She’s a girl’s girl: “I love women – and I don’t believe in female jealousy. I don’t feel like it’s a good feeling to have. My parents always told me that whatever someone else had – in all areas – it wasn’t mine to be entitled to. That all I can do is the best that I can do – and that what’s most important is whether I can do better at what I’m doing.”
The overreaching statement about women: “I think women are beautiful – absolutely beautiful. And I think that all women have been sexually attracted to another woman at some point. It’s natural to have a connectivity and an appreciation for the beauty of other women.”
On aging in Hollywood: “Now that I’m getting older, people have stopped asking me about proving myself and started asking me whether I’m worried that I won’t get any interesting roles any more – when, actually, older roles are the best roles for a woman. The ingenues are not getting the interesting roles now – they weren’t really ever. They were just being objectified.”
Is she vain? “I have very little vanity – but at the same time I’m incredibly vain. If I see a bad picture of myself in a magazine, I don’t give a shit. I’m, like, whatever. But it’s a funny thing being out in the world in the way that I am. You really have to keep yourself in check because it’s easy to lose your head.”
What she doesn’t like in a man: “Being rude, period. I don’t have any patience with that. Oh, and too much cologne. That’s something I can’t do. Hygiene’s not a bad thing, either, so that’s quite high on the list. But basically I love a sense of humour because that’s what tells you how smart a man is. I love British humour and British men.”
[From Glamour UK]
Have all women really been attracted to another woman? Maybe. I assume Cameron is talking about straight women, and she’s probably right about a lot of females. I would go there for Angelina Jolie and Scarlett Johansson, but that’s not an unusual statement. More than considering them as women, I think they just ooze sensuality. Scarlett probably wouldn’t like to hear that since she’s such a serious actress now. Oh well.
One thing is certain: Cameron is very loyal to her female friends, and I can make that absolute statement. She’s even incredbly loyal to Goop, which I’d never be able to manage. Then again, Goop would never be friends with me.
Photos courtesy of Glamour UK
Nope.
Enough with these celebs talking on behalf of the whole mankind.
^^ this x 100000000000000000000000
Definitely this.
She is as annoying as Goop these days.
Same for me! Ugh can’t stand them both!
Not once in my life have I ever been sexually attracted to another womsn. Just hate when someone makes a statement on behalf of ALL women, Cameron needs to go back to her life selling acne cream
Ugh, as queer woman I would also like to add that a woman´s beauty is not the only thing that I am attracted to. I mean women are amazing in so many different ways, boiling attraction down to their looks doesn’t do them any justice. It´s neither edgy nor progressive, either, it´s what heteropatriarchy does?!
Also not all attraction is sexual. Individuals can be aesthetically attracted to someone without wanting to bed them,; ace folks can be romantically, but not sexually attracted to people, etc.
Basically, Cameron´s statement is offensive to lesbian and bi/pan women, asexual people, and various heterosexual women, too. Good job.
Well said, these kind of comments tend to rub me the wrong way but you articulated why it’s troubling and it got me thinking. Like every now and then you’ll hear straight women talking about other women in a suspiciously dudebro like way, and it’s interesting that a woman has to fit a certain (heterosexual sexxay) mould in order to be attractive to them. It’s as if they’re flipping through a lads mag going, “She’s hot, I’d do her”, it comes off as sleazy and superficial and it sounds like the same objectifying attitudes you hear from men which is actually pretty far from true appreciation. Or maybe it’s just that I tend to be attracted to butch women and they are generally overlooked/ignored by mainstream society and seen as unappealing and sexless which also bothers me for some reason? I have too many feelings on this :/
/thinking out loud, sorry for the long winded reply.
I get that one should never begin a statement with the word “all”. Or maybe the word “never”..oops. At any rate, while her bulb may not be the brightest light, I think she was trying to verbalize something that can sometimes be true. (See how I did that??) I would not be surprised if at least a good bit of us had at one time or another found another woman sexually/ and or simply attractive.
@ Aisha:
Agreed, Heteronormativity is such a strong and terrible force, straight people can often not imagine that love and passion also exists outside of a cisman/ciswoman constellation. Actually, there is someone in the comments below saying exactly that (I’m paraphrasing): “Omg, how lesbians even work; are they in it for the ‘camaraderie’?” Because of cause only straight people can have both – emotional and sexual connection with their significant others? Everyone else is just a good friend and a roommate? So ridiculous!
Also agree on the general cuteness of butch women. And femmes. And androgynous girls. And all the girls who make my heart skip a beat by being smart and interesting and funny and adorable and amazing.
@Cheap Trick
” straight people can often not imagine that love and passion also exists outside of a cisman/ciswoman constellation. ”
Couldn’t the blanket statement referenced above be just as offensive as CD’s statement? It implies that ALL straight people feel/think that way which is presumptuous and unfair.
I’m defo aesthetically attracted to lots of women. Or, is it narcissistically attracted to them, because it’s always “I like that outfit,” “I’d like legs like that,” or “That’s a great haircut would that suit me?” Not, “She looks amazing,” but “I’d like to look like that.”
So agree!!!!!!!!
She should speak for herself because how would she know what other women think or feel about this issue? Frankly just the thought to me is gross so no I don’t understand it at all, (just as I’m sure that being with a man would be gross to some others.)
I might think a woman is pretty or attractive, but as far as to desire one in a sexual way that’s never happened to me. So she really shouldn’t make blanket statements about how others feel, just because she might be bisexual. Just don’t speak for other people.
When did women vote for Dipshit Diaz as universal spokesperson? I don’t remember that. If it happened, I think there should be an immediate recall.
Why do you call her Dipshit? Im just curious…
Should I call her a genius?
I dont understand why we should choose extreme statements to describe someone.Cammy is kinda bubbly,she doesnt have the greatest brain,she generalizes a lot but calling her Dipshit seems a little harsh ..I also believe she is smart in a certain way,in terms of managing her career..
That’s fine, you are entitled to an opinion as am I. All opinions are not the same. You don’t have to cosign.
As an aside, you can be a very nice person while not being the brightest bulb. I have said this about her a number of times.
When it walks like a dipshit and talks like a dipshit… okay, I don’t know if she walks like a dipshit, but she sure talks like one.
I’m no Mensa, but she really is a dipshit. Case in point: her use of the word vagina.
@Mimifarrow – the inside of the vagina does look like an orchid though.
I totally agree with you! 😀
I want her to get together with Jude Law! They had such great chemistry in The Holiday. And hey, he’s british! 😉
I volunteer as tribute!!!! 😜
Enough with the girl’s girls thing – it’s so high school.
In my opinion a girl’s girl is someone who spends time with other female friends to bitch about other women. The are the originally mean girls who are also very hypocritical. Since Cameron is good friends with Chelsea Handler, Jennifer Aniston & Gwyneth Palthrow and can totally believe she is the same as them.
It seems that is the catch phrase for those particular women. They throw it out there all the time.
Is Cate Blanchett a girls girl, Selma H, Meryl, Victoria B, all these women that don’t spout that phrase off all the time. I’m sure they all have WOMEN Friends. But they don’t have to use that phrase in every interview.
I don’t trust women that use that phrase. I’m a Woman with friends. but that doesn’t define me. I spend the majority of my free time with my boyfriend. I don’t talk to my friends about every aspect of my life. Which is probably why I have a very LONG LASTING relationship. No girl drama in my life ever. All the women you mentioned all have some kind of man issue.
wonder why.
Victoria Beckham has specifically referred to herself as a girls’ girl. Just sayin’.
agree 100%
@ Maya and lisa2
I think of a girl’s girl as someone who likes and supports other women, who has lots of female friends, and the friendships are meaningful, not superficial, and who enjoys the company of other women. Someone who would never betray you for a man and who likes “girly” things, whatever that means to the two of you. The person you’re describing is the opposite of what I think of as a girl’s girl.
All of the things you just said – I classify that as a women’s woman. Someone who has several genuine female friends, loves spending time with other women and doing whatever things they want to do. But also don’t spend all of their time with those same women but also spends time with their partners, children etc.
A women’s woman is someone who never puts down a fellow woman’s looks, achievements, children etc. they are someone who fights for women’s rights and helps other women. They do go around calling themselves women’s woman but instead just gets things done.
A girl’s girl is someone (as mentioned above) a bitchy person who keeps calling themselves girl’s girl but won’t hesitate to dump those same girls whenever they want something else. A girl’s girls only have fake friendships so that they can show they world they are not mean girls. A girl’s girl is someone who is not mature enough and still is in the high school mentality.
Oooohhh, sorry, I totally get it.
I’m with you, Maya. Girls girl sounds so superficial and silly. And way too much drama.
I find the whole thing silly. Why is it that a forty year old woman has to go out and identify herself as a girl’s girl. I have never, in my life, thought of myself in those terms. I don’t know–maybe it’ll be more of a dog eat dog world when I get older, but I think the whole thing is juvenile. Why can’t you just say that you consider yourself to be a good person, who does their best to be nice and kind and helpful to EVERYONE–instead of catering to the fools who say all the crap that Cami’s saying, but don’t follow any of it.
+100000. Great comment VC, completely agree with you.
I define girls girl as someone who values their relationships with women just as much or more then their relationships with men.
It needs special wording because it is not normal. Most women value their male relationships more so not doing so is something that needs defining.
No one is going to use the words womans woman because it is not a wording I have ever heard outside this blog. It is not a “thing”.
“Enough with the girl’s girls thing – it’s so high school.”
Yeah… except that it´s not a new phenomenon at all? For example, Victorian female poets were writing lovely poems about their friendships and deep emotional connections to their female friends a lot?!
But go on, use teenage girls as a tool to shame same girls and women for having friendships. This sure makes you a very trustworthy female friend. Not.
I’m not being defensive. I see nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to another woman. But I never have been. I have and still do love my women friends deeply, and I can see WHY someone would be sexually attracted to certain women, but I never have felt that myself.
I don’t think you need to feel like you are being defensive. I’m sick of Diaz’s daily brain-fart proclamations for all of womankind. She seems to want to promote global statements or stereotypes.
She is most successfully promoting the dumb blond trope.
Yeah, it’s never smart to say “all women” have done or felt blank.
Yeah, the same goes for me. I have never been attracted to another woman. Like ever. Even though I have thought it would make life easier, but sadly, ni attraction whatsoever. Cam should shut up already and stop trying to talk on behalf of an entire gender.
You are not alone. I never have been either. I’ve always felt that human sexuality runs on a continuum with very straight people one end and same sex people the other with everybody else floating around in the middle. A long winded way of saying I don’t believe sexuality set in stone . I wouldnt rule out the idea I might be attracted to a woman at some point in my life but so far I never have been.
Me neither. I think some women are VERY beautiful and I can see how they are sexually attractive to both men and women, but personally I never got all hot and giddy over a woman. Maybe I will experience this at some point in my life, but as I’ve never had such feelings I honestly believe that it’s just not in me. And as Diana said, I sometimes think it would be easier if I felt sexual attraction towards both sexes. 😉
“all women have been sexually attracted to another woman at some point. It’s natural to have a connectivity and an appreciation for the beauty of other women.”
She is making two entirely different points. To feel connected to other women and appreciate the beauty in other women is one thing. To feel sexually attracted to women is a very, very different feeling. She has no idea what she is taking about.
Completely cosign–you can see the attraction and beauty in another woman, but that doesn’t mean that you’re attracted to them sexually. I still go back and look at those pictures of Rachel Weisz at her first red carpet appearance with Daniel Craig because she is THAT gorgeous. Seriously. Doesn’t mean I want to bang her–I might want to look at her boobs though 😉
http://cdn01.cdnwp.celebuzz.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/04/Daniel-Craig-Rachel-Weisz-Make-Carpet-Debut-682×1024.jpg
http://www.aceshowbiz.com/images/news/jeremy-renner-and-rachel-weisz-elegant-in-black-at-bourne-legacy-premiere.jpg
She is stunning!
No, you’re definitely alone, I haven’t either. I think there is a very large difference between being able to appreciate a womans beauty and another in wanting to actually have sex with that woman (sorry but that doesn’t appeal to me).
Diaz is an idiot imo.
Haha, don´t need to feel defensive, heterosexuality is real. And so is platonic emotional and aesthetic attraction. Both can be experienced by het women towards other women without their straight cards being revoked. All of you are fine. Really.
Sexual preferences aren’t so cut and dry…
If there weren’t such huge stigmas around it, far more people would be bicurious at least.
There are so many options out there but so many people won’t ever allow themselves to see it 🙂
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
Thanks for lecturing. As a queer woman I sure don´t know anything about stigmas and oppression based on my orientation, lol.
And where did I say sexuality is “cut and dry” exactly? I’m very aware it´s a spectrum – with heterosexuality still being an option on it. Some people are bi/pan/omni/etc., but not everyone is.
How to detect fellow queer people on the internet 101:
“Umm, there was this bi researcher who – in the 1940s – developed a tiny little scale. You might want to take a look? ”
Hey, Lex, hey! I’ll bring the wine, you the cheese, and then we celebrate?
😀
I completely agree. I have always been boy crazy since I’m a kid and have never been sexually attracted to a woman. I admire their beauty, wit, intelligence, etc., but sorry, I’m in it for the um, other thing!
I can definitely appreciate a woman’s beauty or sex appeal but have I been sexually attracted to a woman? Not that I can think of.
Maybe you haven’t met the woman who ‘does’ it for you. It doesn’t necessarily mean that any attractive woman will strike your fancy – perhaps it will hit you one day and then never again.
I can’t make up my mind. Did Cameron get a little tweak to her face? Something about her face is different.
It may just be, she is wearing professionally applied makeup. She looks great. Truly. Yet there is something off about her face.
I agree. And I hate to say this, because it sounds mean…I don’t intend it that way. It’s just, her nose looks particularly strange to me in those photos. Maybe it’s the lighting or make-up. Something is definitely off.
Although, she still looks beautiful. She just doesn’t look like I’m used to seeing her.
Well about two years ago Cameron got more work done to her face. I don’t think she done anything since but the last two picture they photoshop her to look 10 years younger but on the cover she just looks odd.
She’s attracted to other women. Speaking for an entire group of ppl is a bit rich. Some women are attracted to nothing FFS.
A commenter on another site said it perfectly for me. Cameron can’t get it through her head that just because something applies to her, doesn’t mean it applies to everybody. Cameron dates cheaters, so of course all men cheat. Cameron’s been attracted to women, therefore all women have been attracted to other women.
Yeah–that’s why I can’t really take her seriously. It’s not like she got with dudes who had somewhat decent public reputations–she got with known douchebags. Don’t be surprised if the dude you got with cheats on you, when he’s been proven to have cheated on all his previous gfs.
That is probably exactly right, and I agree it’s a sign of limited intelligence when you can’t imagine circumstances or feelings outside of your own. Also, I think it’s ego. If men cheated on HER, then all men must cheat. I have been cheated on, but I don’t believe all men cheat. I think many of them do, but it’s so insulting to make such a blanket statement. She’s not the brightest.
Now I’m imagining her and goop doing the nasty!
Bahaha oh man I did it need that visual this morning (but I’m totally laughing).
It would be really nice if she would stop making blanket statements about all women. I’m noticing a lot of them are related to stereotypes about male sexual desire. I have no doubt she feels empowered by those beliefs and that’s fine, but she isn’t a spokeswoman for all of us when she makes comments like this (or the one about how all women want to be viewed as sex objects).
Having said that, I do believe sexuality exists on a spectrum and it can be fluid.
+1. I find her global sweeping statements offensive. Because she is a woman, speaking about women, she seems to be getting more of a pass.
Generalizations!!!
When your mainstream thinks all women are straight, isn’t that generalization?
When you talk about women as only cis-gender straight women, isn’t that also generalization? When your society thinks male superior sexual powers can convert a lesbian, isn’t that generalization too?
I have grown up watching movies/shows/whatnot all about straight girls. I felt lonely because I never had those feelings for men. But of course if somebody thinks all women are straight, thats okay, but somebody makes a statement that women can be attracted to other women, than that becomes generalization!!
hypocrisy.
@SayinIt, My response has nothing to do with invalidating any woman’s feelings or sexual orientation. But Diaz did do that. She is telling everyone that ‘all’ are the same. Did she say that she was bi or gay and proud? No. She suddenly decided to make herself an expert on female sexuality and cast everyone under ‘same’. She wasn’t putting herself out there and owning her individual sexuality. She had to make it “all”. How does that make it any better than a social structure that was already in place that started with ‘all’?
If you feel a certain way then it should be your truth and you should be proud of it. It doesn’t mean that since it is real for you, it has to be real for others within a very narrow definition.
What SayingIt was talking about is heteronormativity – the implied expectation of everyone being straight. Which is why lesbian and bi teenage girls are constantly asked if they had a boyfriend yet. And how do they know that they are L/B when they haven´t had sex with a dude anyways? They are also constantly told that they just haven´t met the right guy yet, even when they are older. And how about the concept of “loosing one´s virginity” which is being defined as PIV sex? Which is why lesbians have to defend the ways they have sex until the down of time. Or how about bi people who are labeled over their heads as either gay or straight depending on the gender of their current partner? Or how about women writing novels/poetry/songs about love between women and straight academia analyzing it as “motherly/sisterly/100%platonic” relationships? THIS is what she was talking about! Society makes generalization based on heterosexuality being seen as a norm all the freaking time, yet nobody complains about that… or even acknowledges how damaging and isolating it is.
I mean, we even have a special step to take and to come out to people around us, again and again, until we die, neatly spelling it out: “No, I’m actually not straight, I’m [insert label]!” And that´s why.
@Cheap Trick, I understand that. I have a sibling who is gay and a cousin who is bi. (Aside from friends and associates I have known). However, I don’t think I was being hypocritical in my position.
First, regardless of whatever Cameron has to say, she needs to speak for herself. She has never been someone I look up to for anything, nor someone I respect for deep thoughts, nor a scientist, so I don’t want her speaking for me on anything. She’s fit, bubbly and funny in roles and in interviews. She’s probably a nice person. That’s it, for me.
Secondly, painting a broad brush in reverse of heteronormativity isn’t a good thing either. Not everyone falls into the opposite. There is already enough pressure for young heterosexual girls to behave in ways that dominate the male heterosexual ideal fantasy in porn. One of those ideals is hot chicks doing it with other hot chicks for their gratification, not necessarily for the women’s. Girls kiss other girls just to get guys’ attention. Again, fine, if that is your thing. But what if it begins to make someone feel uncomfortable if they aren’t into it? Is the sweeping statement a good thing for everyone? Is that okay because people on the other side have suffered? Do we want acceptance of everyone at any point on the continuum of sexuality?
I have no problem with hot chicks doing with other hot chicks, not hot chicks doing it with other not hot chicks and any combination thereof. I don’t care. Whatever makes you happy. Whatever makes her happy.
My suspicion, as others have said, is that Cameron may be playing to that end (of male fantasy, maybe female fantasy), in order to make herself appear and feel more desirable. If she really is bi, why not announce it proudly instead of using this coy, “all women are sexually attracted to other women” bit? She sounds scared, frankly, since she has to keep telling people that she is the sexy sexiness now, unlike years ago where she was the shaking booty ‘it’ girl of comedies who people talked about in the press without so much cajoling from her. She says she’s glad that she’s older because the young actresses are only objectified, and yet, at another recent point in time, she stated that ‘all women want to be objectified’.
It’s like listening to the left’s equivalent/version of Sarah Palin. And I’m on the left, for what it’s worth.
1. WTF is she wearing on that cover?
2. Never make sweeping generalizations like that. It only makes you look foolish.
3. Excellent point on the media always painting every breakup as her fault. That happens to quite a few female celebrities.
I have never been sexually attracted to another woman. I have found other women aesthetically pleasing to look at, but I also find cats aesthetically pleasing to look at.
I have also never been cheated on, nor have I ever cheated, and I have had an average number of romantic relationships. (Seriously: I’m exactly at the average for my age and gender, it’s a little weird.)
As others have said, Cameron Diaz is one of those people who thinks her experiences are universal. That’s an extraordinarily ignorant and immature perspective, though common among 13-year olds and movie stars.
There’s a difference between 13 year olds and movie stars?! 🙂
Most 13-year olds are better-educated and have a better sense of perspective :-P.
yes definitely!
Great comment, I completely agree with you Emily C.
Just because you think you’ve never been cheated on, doesn’t make it fact 🙂
It also depends on someone’s definition of cheating. Flirting? Texting secretly? Kissing? Oral se x? Same gender partner? Full on sex? There are loads of variables out there.
we had a similiar discussion here when some guy said heterosexual men are never 100% heterosexual. only that would mean that homosexual people are also attracted to the opposite gender and never 100% homosexual. funny enough that is seen as a major offence.
there is nothing wrong with it but people should stop selling the idea that everybody is totally bi and just in denial.
on the other hand its our fault. why do we take what Cameron Diaz says serious?
Agreed. The “everyone is bi” stereotype is based on Sigmund Freud´s theory that everyone is born bi and then (1) either develops a “healthy” hetero identity or (2) one´s childhood is fucked up and one becomes gay instead. Basically, according to this everyone is simultaneously bi and no-one is really bi; bisexuality is just a basis for development of one of the two “real” sexual identities. So that´s a bunch of homophobic, biphobic, allosexist crap and REALLY needs to stop!
Well they’ve done studies and found that loads of people are actually bi to varying amounts. Someone can be 100% straight, 100% gay or 50/50 bi but there are also loads of other combinations of sexual preferences in between these sectioned off categories. It isn’t offensive, it isn’t rude, it just is. Assuming you know someone elses’ sexuality based on X, Y, Z sure is offensive but not speaking in general terms it isn’t.
A man could have se x with another man, that doesn’t make him gay. Your sexuality is something inside that only you can know. Regardless of what you call yourself, noone can ever truly ‘know’ your sexuality. Se x is just a physical act. Who you are attracted to is something else entirely.
Don´t get me started on those studies that seek to prove whether gay or bi people really exist. This is so much bullcrap!
(1) Nobody ever tried to prove or falsify the existence of straight folks. It is just accepted as given. I wander why this is? – Oh yeah, right, heteronormativity.
(2) Identifying as les/gay/bi/etc. is something is just applying a term to themselves. So when I say I´m [x], I´m [x], end of story. It´s like me saying I like pizza. How do you want to prove it? And most importantly WHY you´d want to prove that?
(3) Those study measure arousal patterns only, but what does it really say about peoples lived realities whether or not their pupils or genitals react to crappy porn? How does that explain the sky high percentages of bi people (women mostly) being poor, addicted to drugs and alcohol, being homeless, being abused by their intimate partners, raped, etc.?
As a bisexual person I don´t give a crap about those studies. I know I exist, thank you very much. What I care about is that the very, very little funding that bi organizations receive is not being wasted on biphobic gay men trying to explain away bi men by showing them porn. I want “science” to move in already and treat bi people like actual human beings, not genitals.
Oh, and I´m not angry at you, Lex. I´m still angry about the very recent nytimes article. Apparently bi people have to prove their mere existence in 2014 still… by being aroused… What in god´s name is this for a hypothesis anyways – You are aroused, therefore you are?!
*science to move ON
Oh yeah…Cameron the zen “girls’ girl”. Ahem. After JT cheated on her, Cam to a weekly magazine editor said “I hope that bitch gets cancer. You can print that.” They didn’t print that. This is an old blind from Lainey, and Cam used to be (still is?) off her rocker.
I don’t know about that but I do remember Cameron causing seen at the Golden Globes or some other award show after party when Justin and Jessica showed up at the same party when Justin and Jessica first got together.
NO. Nope. Nope nope nope nope nope *octopus crawling away*
I must be an anomaly because I have never been sexually attracted to a woman. I find different women beautiful in different ways but I never had any erotic fantasies about them because I know a woman could never please me sexually. I would be very bored. I always want to ask lesbians how do they do it. I think sometimes in lesbian relationships it’s more about emotional connection and companionship over sexual chemistry and passion.
Lesbians “do it” because they are sexually attracted to women. It’s not rocket science. A d-ck is not necessary to sex.
At least not a real one 😉
This is quite lesbophobic to say that queer women have emotional connections only and less sexual passion. It is also not true at all. There are even a bunch of studies out there saying that – on the contrary – queer women have more/longer sex and more orgasms than het women. Also not all lesbians use strap-ons or enjoy “Australian kissing”. These are some really silly generalizations. Everyone likes different things in bed, no matter of their sexual orientation.
And yes, they love “doing it” (whatever “it” means to them specifically) because they think being with a girl is the hottest, most amazing thing in the world.
So please, DON’T EVER ASK! It´s rude and invasive and none of your business.
Nope. Plenty of sexual chemistry and passion in my relationships. I find the thought of having sex with a man very boring. Would it be fair for me to say that hetro relationships therefore must be based mostly on emotional connections and definitely not sexual chemistry? Or does that sound kind of ridiculous to you? Yeah, I thought so.
lolz lesbian sex isn’t real right, you don’t have a d88k right. lolz
All we do is tell fairy tales to our women on bed. Or read Victorian poetry. lolz
Your generalizations are more offensive than CD’s.
woman-woman sex is real. Its as passionate as any sex because sex is not just PIV. We can do lot of things with our girls because we know their bodies and desires.
How would you react if I say men are boring or heterosex is boring as its only about PIV? Offensive right!
When you never had any experience with another women, how can you generalize?
You don’t wanna do it, fine, but you have no right to say its boring or not real.
Or is it your insecurity speaking… just saying.
I’d do a girl who reads Victorian poetry to me, though 🙂
While I’ve never been sexually attracted to women, I have had “girl crushes” before and they aren’t about wanting to sleep with the woman. I call them girl crushes because they have been women I secretly admire from afar – for their style, career choices, attitude, ballsiness – and aren’t actually friends with, but enjoy hearing about them/seeing them. Not sure how to explain it. But it’s definitly possible to crush on someone and have it be purely platonic.
Like you, I’ve never been sexually attracted to any woman. I can see beauty in a man or a woman and appreciate it without being attracted to it, let alone sexually attracted. With some women, I have had emotional attraction and (at least in my case) deep friendship with an awful lot of respect but, trust me, if there had been a sexual attraction I’d be happily married to at least one of those women.
A sweeping generalization like that will only get you in trouble. You can’t assume that ALL people fit into your ideas. I love and respect my female friends. I am bisexual and often find other women attractive. I agree with Cami that women are indeed very beautiful. However, I have a lot of female friends that have no desire to be with another woman and deny having sexual feelings for other women. I respect their viewpoints. They can still admire beauty however and there’s nothing wrong with that. This statement makes me wonder how Cami gained this perspective.
What’s wrong w her use of the word “vagina?” Is it any different from how the word is used in”The Vagina Monologues?” Because if this is a criticism of not using the exact correct terminology like”vulva,” “labia,” etc., then you need to indict most of the population.
I’m guessing because she wrote a book about women’s bodies. If it was just some off hand comment in an interview–sure–but she supposedly wrote a book, and needs to use the correct terminology. She’s already ‘saying’ that she knows what she’s talking about–but it doesn’t show.
Yeah I don’t get that either. Most people I have ever heard use the word vagina in a general sense. I use that word with my toddler too, since I don’t like making up stupid and silly words for the vagina but I am not about to go into detail with her and break all the parts down. So when she is in the tub I give her the wash cloth and tell her to clean her vagina.
The vulva is the outer genitals. It is just one word, you wouldn’t have to break it down and tell her parts. It would be just like saying vagina but accurate.
This is so not true. I admire them but not sexually attracted.
Nothing makes me dislike a person more than when they speak for me, or any group of people. It seems so insecure. Have soem self confidence and speak for yourself. No Cameron, I have not actually been sexually attracted to a woman, I’m not afraid to disagree with you and it does NOT make me the woman hater. Not a fan of people who use group think tactics to make themselves popular.
Dido! In Hollywood everyone is horny as hell. They all have orgies together in tinseltown. They think that there is something wrong with you if you haven’t had sex with your best friend or her husband.
Yeah that’s definitely a big overstatement but I think she may be confusing finding a woman sexy vs wanting to actually have sex with a woman. I have never had sex with a woman but have found women sexy if that makes any sense. I don’t want to have sex with them but there’s something sexually stimulating about them.
Cameron’s harmless. I can’t help but like her even though she’s not the brightest bulb or the most talented actress. She doesn’t try to be someone she’s not-i get the feeling with her that what you see is what you get. I like that she’s 40 + and isn’t whining about not being married or having kids. I think she likes her life.
I can’t with this statement of hers. If she’s been sexually attracted to other women, then great. But don’t pretend that’s every woman. I’m mostly straight but have been sexually attracted to women, but even though Cameron and I are similar that way, I would never claim to speak for others on this very individual, personal matter.
Agree 100%.
I notice and acknowledge the beauty of women on a regular basis, but I must say I’ve never been sexually attracted to one. Funny how people feel every single person in the world thinks like them.
I’ve thought other women were attractive/beautiful but never been sexually attracted to them. Love being a woman but would never want to be involved with one, ever.
The headline is deliberately misleading… She said “I THINK all women…”
What she THINKS is still false, though.
Firstly, I have never wanted to have sex with another woman.
Secondly, every thing she says sounds like she is trying to impress the boys. Even saying she’s a girls girl sounds to me like the verbal equivalent of throwing a stick at a boy in primary school, because you want his attention, then telling him that “boys smell”.
I know I read a lot into that, but she’s so irritating.
I agree! She always comes off as appealing to her idea of the ultimate male fantasy of a hot tomboy girl who’s sex obsessed and ultra casual. remember her comments about porn?
actually, she is rumored to be bi and that she and christina applegate had a thing for awhile, as well as she and drew barrymore. to be honest, i wonder about goop and cameron, too…based on a couple of stories i read that were kind of TMI and ‘off’ for women friends.
But yea, not ‘all’ women have been attracted to other women sexually. Then again, some folks would argue that those of us who have not, must be in denial or repressing it. lol.
I am open to the idea that I could be attracted to a woman, it’s just never happened…and I’m 45.
Cam looks good. Don’t agree with her statement but I think she’d be a cool, loyal friend.
I had this opinion about bisexuality and polygamy, now I take back, a lot of people doesn’t mean everyone. But us women are just beautiful, much better to look at than men.
I have slept with a lot of women, but don’t consider myself bi.
I am in a committed relationship with a beautiful bloke now and have no desire to sleep with women anymore but in my younger years, in our circles, everyone did it. No biggie. It was opportunity more than anything else combined with booze and drugs.
Does it really matter though? Who one sleeps with shouldn’t define one as a person.
By which you are saying that in this case straight folks can pretend that everyone else is straight, too? So they can comfortably ignore LGBTIAQ struggle? Because to queer people it matters who we fuck and who we love! It matters a world! And it matters to our families, our friends, our coworkers, our landlords, strangers on the street, everyfuckingbody. And to our countries it matters, too. Because we actually still pay a price for loving who we love, we still face oppression.
Sincerely,
from Russia with love.
CheapTrick, with respect, you tok what I said waaaay too seriously.
Lots of straight people sleep with members of the same sex, through curiosity or attraction or both.
It in no way cheapens or undermines the struggle that LGBTIAQ folk face every day; to have their love recognised and acknowledged as being exactly the same as a heterosexual couple’s love and one which they, heteros, get to take for granted every day.
Nope, I never said that. I said that who you sleep with SHOULDN’T define you as a person.
Being a lesbian shouldn’t define you any more than your skin colour or religious beliefs should.
We are all humans first.
But “we´re humans first” / “I don´t see color” / “We all bleed red” / “You are not defined by who you love” / etc. is exactly how liberals erase minority struggles. We don´t live in a society where everyone is born equal, so pretending like we are is not gonna help. If fact, it contributes to oppression because it makes it harder for minority people being heard over the voices of privileged. We are not post-racial, we are not post-heteronormative, we are not post-religious, we are not anywhere near to a situation that would make those sentiments okay. You might think that we are all humans first, but it´s not your blood staining the streets.
Was Cameron the third wheel in Goops marriage, and the real reason for the breakup? Chris just didn’t want to spend the same amount of time on the colonics, perhaps Camy was more up this alley?
This is crazy talk. I would say all women have ‘girl crushes’ at one point in their lives, but those are not usually sexual in nature. I identified as bisexual for a long time before I realized that it was really just ‘attracted to the person’ on an intellectual and possibly chemical level, rather than wanting to jump any bones. I have had relationships with both sexes, but I’d have dated a transsexual/transgender if they interested me and it came up.
Why does anyone listen to this self important has-been? Has she ever said anything relevant?
This ‘celebrity turned life guru’ thing needs to stop. I’m going to get on my high horse a little bit and say that I have a master’s degree, supported myself through school, worked very hard to get where I am. I don’t want advice from a bimbo who used her body to get to the top, and is now prophesizing about female beauty. She herself upheld very unrealistic standards her entire career, clearly works out like a maniac, dyes her hair bleach blond, always very tan, plus several cosmetics procedures including fake breasts (the antichrist of female beauty, in my opinion). Her beauty tips are supposed to make women feel better about themselves? How about changing the conversation to women’s brains instead of their beauty and sexuality?
I respectfully disagree. While I have definitely been attracted to certain women, it’s not a sexual thing. For instance, I am extremely attracted to my best friend. She brings out all of my best qualities and I just love every single moment of time spent with her. She’s pretty, smart, funny, and clever as hell. But…the thought of kissing her or anything like that? Nah. Doesn’t do a thing for me.
Also, I can look at a woman and find her sexy as all get out (Angie and Rachel Wiesz comes to mind but there are others) but I don’t actually want to have sex with them. I’d probably like to stare at them awhile though 😉
Put me in a room with Rachel’s HUSBAND though and all bets are off.
I have always thought Cameron to be BI and with that came or still comes something with Drew Barrymore at least in the past.. Don’t kill me on that one as im still not sure Drew is gone straight even in her marriage..Just saying !!!!
Oh, bull Cameron. I have never been sexually attracted to a woman and I had a boyfriend who really tried to get me to go there or fantasize about it. It doesn’t do it for me. not even fantasizing did it for me. And I have a stunning friend who is truly bisexual, not just a get drunk, experiment in college bi-curious to turn the guys on. She truly is attracted to both sexes. So we have had a lot of great discussions about it. she’s like my little sister. I can appreciate a stunning woman for her beauty and admire the feminine body but no sexual urges. I don’t see anything wrong with it. I just don’t feel sexual towards a woman. I just love the masculinity of a man and that thing between his legs.
I agree with her about female jealousy but sorry, I’ve never been attracted to another women. Cameron seems like a lovely person but I prefer her in films (talking from a script) rather than AWOL on her own brain like this. She’s actually a decent actor, like GOOP is. These ladies should stick to films and not the lifestyle stuff, which tends to annoy people at some stage. That is all……
Oh, Cameron. No, not really. And all little girls don’t want to be princesses, either.
I can appreciate another woman’s beauty. I get why naked women are nicer to look at than naked men (curves>angles). But the idea of actually having SEX with another woman makes me want to vomit. (Funny story, I said that to another woman once and she said that was homophobic. She also thought defining oneself as straight was homophobic, and liked to quote Kinsey (who, as a psychology student myself, I can tell you had interesting ideas but extremely flawed methodology) and say that no one was actually completely straight. So I responded by asking if that means no one is actually completely gay. She said that’s different).