Selena Gomez has entered a phase of great upheaval in her young adulthood. She recently fired her parents as managers and is seeking representation. There were theories that she signed with (god forbid) Kris Jenner after she was papped hobnobbing with the Jenner sisters at Coachella over a week ago. Then Selena and the Jenners quickly broke up and are never (ever) getting back together again. Selena completely unfollowed them on Instagram a few days ago. She also deleted all photographic references to the Jenners. Kylie and Kendall still have photos of Selena on their accounts. Teenagers and young adults are so dramatic.
Selena’s turmoil is nothing new. She spent the holiday season in and out of rehab and then went on to party with Jared Leto (which is never good news). She and Taylor Swift supposedly ended their friendship after Selena got back with Justin Bieber for the millionth time.
Now Selena has deleted Taylor from her list of “followed” Instagram accounts. She’s also unfollowed Justin Bieber and everyone else. Selena follows no one now! This could be a cause for either alarm or celebration. What is strange is that Selena’s been vagueblogging in Instagram with forlorn Mary J. Blige lyrics. Here’s a sample. I hope she’s okay.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet & Selena Gomez on Instagram
It’s a shame. She’s headed down a slippery slope, especially with Justin Bieber being anywhere near her.
i know he’s in no way even remotely a good influence, but I can’t help thinking of Whitney and Bobby. Everyone blamed Bobby for Whitney’s addictions when in actuality Whitney was a seasoned user by the time Bobby came along and they just enabled each other. I know the Biebs is bad news, but I can’t help feeling Selena on her own is bad news too.
I’m afraid u might have a point there. I think she’s starting to implode and its painful to watch. My little nieces used to love her.
Excellent point.
I wish someone would do a YouTube montage of her to britney spears “not a girl not yet a woman” because I feel that’s what her problem is. . . That and drugs and alcohol. ..
Maybe it’s part of sobriety, that phase of getting rid of people who are associated with vices.
I like Selena, despite the Bieber-poisoning the last few years. I hope she’s okay and that she gets/is getting some help if she needs it. She is an alright kid and I want good things to happen to her.
That’s probably the nicest thing I’ll say all day.
She should go away and live a normal life. Let’s face it – she has no talent whatsoever. She can’t sing, can’t act, doesn’t write her own songs. She is popular because of her looks and Justin Bieber. When that goes away she’s gone. She’s not Madonna.
And who would have thought that of all the Disney stars hitting it big right now, Miley is the most sane one.
And no, teenagers and young adults are not so dramatic. Some are, but I’m so tired of generalizations and these idiot celebrities representing an entire group of people.
Selena was popular before Beiber. She was a disney child star and had a big spark. She could act and sing far better than those out there now. That isn’t saying much, but still.
And Selena had a hard rise to the top. She seemed very grounded and had a great support system with her mother and family.
She did loads of charity work, donations, and actively promoted them. To say Selena was/is an idiot is conjecture.
Then she got with Beiber and it was all down hill.
And Madonna went away and was forgotten until she came back as a new fame hungry beast. Not the Madonna she previously was.
And Miley the most sane? That’s a bridge too far.
@Tatjana although she is not a genius, she has been working for a long time (unlike the Frankendashians) as an actress/singer. I am not bowled over by her artristry, but I don’t want to see the girl end badly. Hope she gets healthy.
She can’t sing. Her acting is for mediocre sitcoms at best.
Miley does crazy things, but she seems aware of what she’s doing and it’s working for her. And she, unlike Demi and Selena, hasn’t been to rehab.
I want Selena to get better and go do something else where she could be amazing.
What? She has great comedic timing! I don’t know about her music career, but she could have a perfectly decent acting career.
I used to watch wizards with my daughter and thought she was talented, she had great comedic timing for such a young kid… we enjoyed watching her
Selena is not a real singer but she is a good actor. More importantly, she improved steadily on Wizards of Waverly Place (as did the kid playing the younger brother). By the end, both of them were remarkably good – so both were able to learn, rather than coast along on whatever generic kid actor skills they had in the beginning. (The older brother seemed good from the beginning to me.) I saw Selena in a few movies requiring dramatic scenes and was impressed by her believability. Her young face is a handicap right now except if she plays younger, but she definitely has a lot to build on as a mature actor if she wants. Her music videos were fun to watch only because she’s a good actor- her voice was obviously electronically enhanced, I’ve heard her real voice before Disney started seriously promoting her and it was weak and off-pitch. But she definitely was able to make it work, she just needs to realize she doesn’t have the real singing ability of Demi Lovato or (gasp!!!) Justin Bieber and go with her strengths.
It isn’t necessarily that Selena has no talent, so much as she was THE Disney product once Miley started ageing out (in behavior if not years). She had the whole Disney machine behind her as both an actress and a singer, using their influence to push her to the forefront in a way that she wouldn’t have been able to on her own. Look at her albums: super produced, lots of canned pop music – not only is she not writing music, but she’s just making the music as a career move more so than any artistic outlet (read her interviews about her albums if you disagree). She’s being packaged as a ‘star’ but unfortunately her presence and talent simply don’t support that, and because Disney has basically given her the shortcut she probably won’t get better because there’s no need for her to improve as things are.
me too. I hope Selena has a really good grown-up role model she can lean on, if she’s having issues.
My 12-year daughter really likes her from her Disney & recent movies…think I’ll keep Selena’s real life a secret from her. Her illusions will be shattered otherwise.
Not saying anything snarky….that would be just be mean.
My guess is she got back with Beiber and doesn’t want to hear anyone tell her it’s a bad idea. Teenagers are quite dramatic, my nieces kill me with the type of crap they get upset over.
She is not a freakin teenager.
She’s not, but like Swifty who also grew up in the business and had an atypical upbringing, she very likely has the emotional maturity of a teen. I know a couple grown women in their 40s who still pull this kind of crap and I chalk it up to them being emotionally stuck back in their teens.
But she isn’t a teenager. She is in her early 20s, which I guess is like a slightly more grown up teenager (?). Whatever she is going through, I’m going to chalk it up to growing pains.
Ya’ll know what, I forget that she’s not a teenager, and these actions seem a bit immature.
Blue Marie
You said ya’all! I heart this so much 🙂
I’ve tried to use “you guys” but it’s just not the same effect.
God she reminds me of my attention-whoring friends who play games with close friends and boys and then whines when stuff doesn’t work out and plays victim. I just hope she’s broken up with Bieber, but they’ll be back together before Summer comes around.
Another Rehab/Exhaustion stop in …3…2..
(And make this one count, kid, dont run right back to that roidy twerpy wanna be Vanilla Ice)
LOLLL! “Wannabe Vanilla Ice” – he just becomes more of a caricature every day.
Go, go, go,go! Go Ninja, Go Ninja, Go..
(I’m sorry, I saw the commercial this morning and it’s been on repeat)
Wait, seriously? She unfollows people on Instagram and we’re supposed to be worried? I’d delete any and all photographic evidence of my association with the Kardashian/Jenners and Bieber too. I think that’s just common sense really!
She’s definitely in a weird transitional phase professionally. This usually gets mistaken for a breakdown, doesn’t it? Miley Cyrus totally milked that assumption to just go wild, it’s been that overplayed. She’ll be fiiiine!
Haha, good point about the Instagram. And good point about her being in a transitional phase. Good points all around. 🙂
Selena really wanted to make the move from singer to serious actress. She wanted to trade one career for the other. But her starring role backfired, and her “big movie” Getaway bombed really hard at the box office, and her reviews were terrible. I bet this helps to explain her return to Bieber and some of this other crap. If she had suddenly become an A (or B!) list actress, then she’d probably have the confidence to ditch his lame ass and stop hanging around with Kardashian teenagers.
She doesn’t have the talent to be B list, let alone A list.
@Tatjana lol as if every A-lister is talented. I don’t have a problem with her talent level, Hollywood is full of people who have little to no talent but have good careers because of the right marketing and good career choices as luck.
THIS. Making it is more about luck and connections. But the talent does help to solidify it.
I would say that A-listers ( at least actors) have some talent. Selena has none. The best thing that could happen to her would be a role in a sitcom playing the normal character – like Kaley Cuoco ( even though Kaley has better comedic skills)-
I can’t believe I’m defending her lol but Selena has a little talent as an actor – on Wizards of Waverly Place, she had great comedic timing and she wasn’t awful in Monte Carlo. I definitely think she’s got some talent.
@Dani2
I agree, she has some talent, but not a lot. Not enough to get where she is today. It was a mixture of luck, being pretty, and surrounding herself with high profile people. I do think she should try to get back into sitcom acting on some kid friendly channel. I have a feeling she believes she can roll with the big A-listers in Hollywood and do block buster movies. I don’t think she can though. At this point, she’s known more for her horrible relationship with Justin Bieber than anything else. It’s exhausting to watch their on and off again romance. I do like the fact she does a lot of work with Unicef and it seems really genuine.
I agree Tatjana. I don’t even know why she’s featured on gossip sites. Some kid from kiddie TV.
I agree with Tatjana. Selena needs to book a role as the pretty girl on a CBS sitcom. Those kind of parts don’t require too much skill, and middlebrow CBS shows are very popular and run forever.
@Tatjana
I think saying she has no talent is an overstatement. As people said upthread, she has great comedic timing. I just think as far as her movies go, she’s not playing to her strength, which is comedy. Maybe in the future with some acting classes, she might be a passable dramatic actress, but right now she’s not ready for that.
Omg getaway was flushable and springbreakers was by far the best comedy ive seen in forever! I laughed so hard through that whole movie snot came out of my nose!!
Bieber and Jenners aside, she seems like she’s got a good head on her shoulders. This sounds more like a growing pains type rough patch. Very healthy and beneficial in the long-term sense. She’s probably going through some kind of personal shift and realizing what’s what and who’s who. Good for her.
She’s got a drug and alcohol problem.
I’m sorry, isn’t she in her 20s? This seems like some 13 or 14-year-old stuff.
She needs to start making much better choices about the people she spends time with.
Yes, she seems very immature.
Poor girl spent most of her teenage years when most kids are bored and self- absorbed working hard for Disney. I guess now she’s playing catch up.
Poor girl stacked millions and is set for life.
Tatjana – I agree. I can’t really feel sorry for her. She had a stable childhood, a good mother and step-father who put all their attention on her as she was an only child until recently. She has made millions and without a lot of talent (sorry but she’s not that great of an actress or singer). Her pretty face is what got her this far (and dating Justin Bieber helped launch her further). What is she so depressed about? She has her health, her looks, her money, her family, and many many fans who adore her. Maybe she should re-evaluate her priorities and count her blessings. Also, why is she hanging around Kylie Jenner, she’s sixteen and Selena is almost 22. That’s odd.
@idk
You can have all the money in the world, be pretty and healthy and STILL be depressed. Those things aren’t mutually exclusive. There are lots of people in the world who seem to have everything going for them who have been so depressed that they commit suicide.
She just deleted some pictures and people from her account. That doesn’t make her immature. Adults delete things from their account all the time.
She isn’t very intelligent or even educated. I have read and viewed a lot of her interviews, and she is very vapid. I think the best bet for her would be a TV sitcom or series, like Rachel Bilson. She isn’t a good enough actress for the big screen. And her baby face is unnerving for any serious roles. Her singing is atrocious, I hope she gives up on that completely.
I can understand her deleting the Jenners /Bieber because they’re not exactly good for her image but I am surprised about Taylor Swift. Taylor can help her get her good girl reputation back. But Selena drops friends with no regrets. She was BFF’s with Demi Lovato since they were small, but she dropped her like a hot potato when Demi started acting out a few years back.
Yeah, she got her shot at a big screan career but that didn’t work. I see TV (like a sit com) as her only option. Nothing wrong with that. Worked for Jen Aniston for a long time.
No, don’t you remember when Demi was asked how Selena was, I think at a radio station in London, and she said, “Why don’t you ask Taylor?” She just started hanging around The Swizzle most likely because it was better for her career at the time. Ditto with Beiber. All of these people were supposed to help solidify her reputation as a good two-shoes back in the day of Disney stardom and virginity rings, IMO. If she really cared that much about her reputation at this point, she wouldn’t keep going back to Beiber and doing the things she’s doing.
Demi is and always has been a Mean Girl. She just played a nice one on tv. Not surprising that she trashed Selena first chance she got, even though Selena to my knowledge has never done the same to her. They just seemed to drift apart when Demi’s drug and alcohol problems were becoming more and more obvious. Since druggy drunks are not fun to be around and change a lot, I wouldn’t blame Selena for this. But Demi would, because Demi is the center of the universe.
Stories differ here. According to some Selena and Taylor Swift meangirled Lovato and Camilla Belle, knowing everyone would side with them because of their squeaky clean image. They tried it with Miley but she didn’t hae an f to give. Lovato had tons of issues but her story has not changed on this point and others in their crowd have stated off the record that few people would believe what Selena gets up to because of the baby face.
Maybe this is the start of a break for Selena? With social media these days you are constantly ” on”. She might just want to regroup and do some thinking as to where she wants to take her life and career.
With all the crap of dealing with Beiber and then hanging out with PMK and her tribe maybe she has finally woke up to see what a mess her life is lately.
She should get off twitter too. I read she had problems with a stalker who got in her house two times. If celebrities want to live a more private life they are better off not announcing their every move.
This could go either way. Either we should start our breakdown stopwatches now, or she actually HAS got a new manager or publicist that has taken the reins and is advising her to clean house. I am thinking it’s the former, not the latter.
I think, or rather I know, that I worry about her more than I would if she didn’t have such a baby face. I wonder if she is immature because people treat her like a child because she still looks like one. #superficial
Contrived drama. She is going for the Amanda Bynes style wig out but is having a hard time making it stick. This is tacky and shameless, especially in light of the fact that Bynes had some actual, devastating issues.
No matter what Gomez does she will still look like a tween and exhibit underwhelming talent. She might as well give up and go with the iCarly type shtick.
It’s immature, but probably she is cleaning her life, and trying to put herself together, some acts even the silly ones can be important.
Agreed! Kind of like when a woman cuts all her hair off, it’s symbolic.
Cue freak out and in 2 weeks they’ll all be besties again. /eyeroll
It’s a bit sad, but I watched her in a movie and she was horrible. I saw her in a mag layout trying to be sexy, and she’s just too cute and little to pull it off. She is little and cute and that does not translate to anything other than Disney, but she’s too old for that now. She should run as fast as she can to college, get a degree in English, then write a nice book about growing up Disney.
I do think she should go to college – a small private one out in the boonies in a small town where paps and stalkers would be easily recognizable and cheerfully arrested. There’s a huge world out there beyond Hollywood, and a good college surrounding her with people thinking about many other things besides acting would be a good place for her. Then her face could age a bit and if she really wants to act, she can start again. Or she could become a marine biologist … Really, these former kid actors seem stuck in such a narrow box so much of the time. She has money, she can afford the break.
Another kid who got chewed up in the Disney machine then spat out into her twenties without any kind of normal grounding to step into adulthood with. The only 2 things she has going for her is a whack of money and a pretty face. She’s surrounded by sharks, and hooking up with Beiber was one of the most destructive things she could have done – he’s an amoral twat who will wreck her already fragile ego.
She just needs to go away and get some therapy for a while to gain back some normalcy in her life.
Where do we stand on the Swift falling out? On one hand, I know it’s hard to watch a friend date a total loser. But on the other hand, is this really something to break up a friendship over (if it really was friendship)? It just kind of rubs me the wrong way when one friend says that they can no longer continue with the friendship if the other continues to date whom they’re dating. Seems very controlling and Queen Bee-ish. I mean, who the hell knows what went down, or just how terrible an influence the Beibs is on Selena–but you can be friends with someone and allow them the autonomy to make their own mistakes.
I think Selena cut Taylor, not the other way around. And if Taylor cut her,I think it was because of drus or alcohol.
I think Taylor probably distanced herself from Selena, and Selena probably didn’t fight too hard for the friendship. Taylor seems fickle with her friendships anyway… I really think she only wants friends to take cute pictures with and that’s it.
I’ve cut friends out of my life because it was just too stressful–they’d tell me how terrible said boyfriend was, leave, and then go back, repeat. I did all I could to help her: allowing her to move in, keeping her dog when he threatened to kill it, provided statements to the police, and no matter what my husband and I did, she’d just go back. I finally just said, “You know what? You want this. I can’t anymore.” after six years of that. Sometimes, you have to save yourself a little bit but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t (and aren’t) wracked with guilt over the choice to cut her out of my life.
It sounds like your friend was making her problems, your problem. And I think you were completely justified in saying “no more”.
I just unfriended a couple of people for this kind of crap. The girlfriend is one of those women who thinks that it’s cute to say that she’s a ‘possessive girlfriend’ and hates it when her boyfriend (who lives three hours away from her bc she’s in college) talks to/hangs out with his exes (as friends)–and LOVES to broadcast it on FB. I mean, it’s bad because her friends think it’s cute–and if it was a MAN saying the stuff she was saying, all of her friends would be telling her to call the cops.
But anyway, they broke up, spread BS all around FB. Pretty much what happened was right after they broke up, she slept with a female friend of hers, and then a few days later tried to talk sweet to her boyfriend again. He was getting into, but then people started telling him that she had slept with her friend–and when he asked her, she lied, and so he went around calling all of his friends liars. All said and done–they broke up again, and the girlfriend started talking on FB that he was cheating on her–because gasp! he was hanging out with a female friend.
The thing that made me delete them was that two days after he had an FB post telling her that he was done with all her BS (and told everyone what she had done), he was on FB talking about how much he LURVED her–and I said it was enough. I was tired of reading all that crap, and I wasn’t the one in the relationship. I won’t hang out with her, ever, because she is such a drama queen.
I agree with MonicaQ. I wouldn’t just cut a friend out of my life because I didn’t like her boyfriend, but I had a friend once who kept going back to her lying, cheating, manipulative husband over and over and I stayed up with her all night and talked her off the ledge every time they broke up, then she would drop me when they got back together or say I was mean because I wasn’t “happy for her.” It’s a long story, but I eventually just felt I was being used and I couldn’t do it anymore. They ultimately broke up, I think for good, and she hasn’t reached out to me. I think she’s either embarrassed or she never really cared that much about me except when she needed someone during her the crisis periods. In any event, I don’t miss that drama, though I wish her well.
Okay everybody, but the problem with this line of thinking is that the friend in this case is TAYLOR SWIFT. I mean, does anyone seriously think that TS is capable of keeping her mouth shut about her own silly boy dramas? She *thrives* on her own junior high school bullcrap. I think the obvious answer is that dating drama was a two way street between them. Whoever said uncle first is purely a matter of speculation.
True. Her friendship should probably come with a barf bag.
Also, OT, WAAMOS, I replied to your comment on the the Kate thread yesterday about the term “figurehead” and admitted you were right and I was lazy in using it just because the original poster did. I doubt you saw it though, because I didn’t see your post until this morning.
Okay, thanks, very interesting. I’ll go and read it. I live in Asia for the time being so it’s nighttime for me when it’s the morning on the east coast USA. Not that you will see this comment anyway. 🙂
“perfick” LOL geez
I don’t feel bad for Selena of Taylor dropped her. Selena did the same thing to Demi Lovato a few years ago when she was cutting and going through some hard stuff with addiction. Demi dared to befriend Miley Cyrus as well and Selena hating Miley (and Swift also thinking they were too good for Demi) excluded her. Taylor became Selena’s new BFF.
In comparison I read an interview about when Selena was out of rehab and she said Demi was there for her every step of the way and she was grateful for it. Selena wasn’t there for Demi when it was the other way around. So who is more of a true friend?
Selena has a simple pattern of attaching herself to whoever is famous at the moment. I remember when it was Taylor Lautner (they were rumoured to be together before he got with Swift) and Nick Jonas (the source of her feud with Miley since Nick and Miley were first loves) etc. It goes on and on.
I don’t believe she has any true acting talent (disney shows to me are all campy and don’t really show me someone’s range) and she is not a good singer. Another thing about her that irritates me is how everyone assumes she has been led astray by Justin Bieber. But to me it is simple like a Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston scenario. Like that couple it is ‘birds of a feather flock together.’
Also what is this excuse about her being so young? She is an adult now. There are many children (girls especially) forced to grow up quickly for a variety of reasons in this world. If only every time a regular person her age legally considered an adult screwed up and had the luxury of falling back on that excuse.
I don’t know I just cannot stand her and really think that compared to her contemporaries in terms of acting like the Fanning sisters,Chloe Grace Mortez, Saorise Ronan she has nothing that makes me think she is worthy of the praise of good actress or should be up for any good roles like some of her fans seem to think.
Lol maybe she is that one celeb I have an irrational dislike of or something.
Her priority should be getting clean and taking proper acting classes or she will destroy her physical and emotional health, and her career will suffer a downfall.
I don’t take her seriously at all and I will not buy records or watch her movies, sit-comes or whatever she is be up to until she gets her act together. Why reward her in any way if she makes drugs, drinks and so on?
I don’t think there anything wrong with Selena Gomez I think she just trying to figure out what she wants to do with life and career. I don’t understand why people are making a big deal about her deleting people from Instagram and about the whole demi lovato thing that people keep bringing up Selena wasn’t the one who stop being friends with demi that not true at all it was demi who stop being friends with Selena. Demi lovato admit in interviews after her rehab stint that she was mean towards Selena and cut her out her life and that Selena call her while she was in rehab to check on her .
That’s consistent with what I’ve heard also. I’ve never heard Selena say anything bad about Demi (or anybody, I think). Demi easily gets into Mean Girl mode- she slugged a dancer on tour, which convinced the Jonas Brothers parentals to bundle her off back to her family and rehab in the middle of the tour. Demi said that when she did some speaking thing at a rehab (I think) more recently, Selena was there to support her (just not broadcasting it). I can believe that any distancing between the two of them was really on Demi and that Selena was open to renewal of the long-time friendship (they first met as little kids). Friendships can have rocky periods like that, and sometimes it’s best to just let the other person go with an open door.
She’s spirally toward a complete breakdown. Too much pressure, too many bad influences and associations, too much money and not enough guidance.
I don’t find her to be particularly cute or talented, but she seems like a nice girl, not known for spitefulness or talking trash, I hope she goes away for awhile– maybe to college– gets her head on straight, discovers who *she* is apart from the Hollywood machine and has a happy life, whatever she ends up doing.
Is there anyone from the house of mouse or teen nick who has emerged as a stable, well-rounded, functioning adult?
Yet another Disney kid spiraling downward. I don’t know all the behind the scenes stuff and what keeps causing this, but I think if they started insisting their former child stars go to college it might help.
I know this from personal experience: if you are not able to be a teenager in your teenage years, it is highly likely that you will act in a stereotypical “teenage” way in your 20s. And since you have more freedom and (probably) money in your 20s, that’s a recipe for disaster.
I do not understand all the vitriol against this girl. She’s dating a complete jackass — so? Maybe he’s the only person in her life who’s ever treated her like she’s special. Her parents lived off her, her “friends” were all too happy to cut her off. She wasn’t allowed to have a normal adolescence, so she’s extremely susceptible to all the manipulations jackasses are capable of. And when he’s the only one who’s there for her through everything, it is no surprise that she keeps running back to him.
Tl;dr: she needs to go to college.