As I keep saying, there is something “literally” fishy about Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes and their undercover pregnancy. I just keep waiting for the other shoe to drop, for one piece of information to be released which will be just the gossip I need to make sense out of all of this. Thus far, the tabloids have claimed that Ryan and Eva are both thrilled, that Eva is the one who wants an undercover pregnancy and Ryan is the one ensuring her privacy. So what am I missing? Well, this Radar report might have some interesting details (if you believe Radar).
Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling‘s baby news stunned the world — and the couple themselves! RadarOnline.com has learned that Mendes’ pregnancy was totally unplanned, and blindsided Gosling because their relationship had hit a rough patch just before Mendes shared the news.
When Mendes, 40, discovered she was pregnant, “It was completely unplanned,” an insider told Radar. “Ryan was surprised, especially because they had broken up early last year, only to get back together.”
The stars first hooked up filming The Place Beyond the Pines three years ago, and have been through their shares of highs and lows since. Said the source of their rocky relationship, “Their disagreements always come back to a central issue: Eva wants to marry Ryan, but so far, he has resisted.”
Now, however, pregnant Mendes has moved in with Gosling at his bachelor pad, according to the source. “The house is quite small, and only has two bedrooms,” the source revealed. “Eva has been looking for a bigger house to live in with Ryan once the baby is born.”
As for Ryan, the insider told Radar that despite the element of surprise, “Ryan is excited to be a father, and will be very protective.”
That doesn’t mean it’s been smooth sailing lately, however.
In recent days, the source said, “Eva has been upset with Ryan over his reaction to comments Nick [Cassavetes, director of The Notebook], publicly made about Ryan feuding on set with Rachel McAdams.”
After the comments, the source said, “Ryan called Nick and voiced his displeasure about him talking about his ex-girlfriend. Ryan is very protective of his privacy, and of the people around him. Rachel shouldn’t have to be asked about it as she is out promoting a new movie.”
The source claimed, “Rachel is definitely a source of ongoing tension between Ryan and Eva.”
I’ll buy that the pregnancy was unplanned. But I don’t buy that Eva dreams of being a bride and Ryan was the dude who didn’t want to put a ring on it. I just don’t think that’s their dynamic. If anything, Ryan seems more old-fashioned about marriage and babies, and my guess is that he’d like to marry Eva, maybe even before she gives birth. But why would she? She got what she wanted – Ryan attached to her forever (even though they’d already broken up at least once).
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
For my sake, I hope he stops acting/directing and becomes a stay at home dad. I can’t look at his banana face any longer.
Ahahahaha, banana face had me in stitches!!
Eva is a good Catholic. Of course she wants to be married when the baby comes. Totally believable that Ryan was surprised…
sorry to laugh at the “good Catholic” comment when they’ve, obviously, had sex without being married but, hey, at least she didn’t add to her sin by practicing birth control, right? 😉
good catholic? even if they got married now the child would still be illegitimate, its only legitimate if CONCIEVED inside marriage…ha ha
lol He is so overrated…
Yep.
+ one million!
did you people not see him with emma stone in crazy stupid love?
Amen.
Word, sister!
@springingforward How can she be a “good catholic” when she has sex outside of marraige? From what I understand Catholicism does not allow you to pick and choose which church laws you get to follow
This!
Ha, ha, ha. Banana face. Never heard that one before. Good one.
My big take-away from Cassavetes’ stories were that Ryan is kind of a jackass. Like how they’re spinning it to seem like he wants to protect his and his ex’s privacy.
Also, I don’t see how Cassavetes’ telling a harmless story about two people initially not getting along, years after the fact, is somehow a violation of anyone’s privacy.
@mike above – a friend
@mike above – a friend of mine once said if a Protestant disagrees with their church’s teachings, they set up their own church. A Catholic just shrugs and does their own thing!
Band aid baby is always recipe for a successful relationship….said no one ever!
Lots of women forget to take bc or are not careful in order to trap a man because they feel they “must’ be ready or will be once the baby is born. My friend is going through a divorce over this very scenario two small children later. Pushing men to be fathers is always a terrible idea.
grrr….
just as a man cannot be “stolen”, no woman can “trap” a man with a baby. let me repeat that.
NO WOMAN CAN TRAP A MAN WITH A BABY.
If a man doesn’t want to have a baby with a woman, regardless of what she has told him about birth control, he has the option to wrap it up or NOT ENGAGE IN INTERCOURSE. if he has sex with her without a condom, he is taking the chance that he might produce a baby.
please, stop perpetuating this misogynistic crap.
I disagree. If a woman and a man are in a relationship and she tells the man she is on BC, he has no reason to think she’s lying. There is definitely trickery involved in a woman intentionally getting pregnant when she knows the man does not want children or believes there isn’t a chance of a pregnancy. How is that not deceit?
My husband’s sister did this twice – two different guys. She told both she was on the pill. They beleived her and trusted her. And then all of a sudden, oops! I must have forgotten to take a pill one day. Missing one or even a few days of BC does not get a woman pregnant. The hormones stay in the system longer than a day or two. Getting pregnant while supposedly on the pill requires missing many days – not just one or two. Women who do this are canniving and should be ashamed of themselves.
@doofus – I hear you, but I think there’s also an element of trust to be questioned. In a committed relationship it’s understandable that a man would take a woman at her word that she’s on bc. If he still insists on either wrapping it up or declining to hop in bed with her, then why be with her if there’s obvious duplicity on her part? If he trusts her in other areas (like not having an affair), why not also trust “of course I’m on the pill”?
JenniferJustice I agree to a certain extent, but women have been known to get pregnant while on the pill, so you can’t assume a woman is deliberately getting pregnant. Doofus’ point is well taken. It’s time men take responsibility for birth control and not depend on women to handle it. If they don’t want children, they should act accordingly.
My friend I spoke of above got pregnant and she convinced her then bf to marry her or she would not give their child their last name. That’s entrapment IMO. She then got pregnant a 2nd time and he asked her to have an abortion and she refused (her body her choice, but honestly they should have used bc more regularly). Now, he says he is not ready to parent either child and left her(he’s 30 or 31). Two innocent children in this world where one parent is not mature enough to raise them. She hoped he’d grow up once the kids came but he did not. People need to think carefully before procreating.
Let’s not forget that no method of BC is 100% effective. I have friends who took the pill every day at exactly the same time, never missed a day, and still got pregnant.
In addition, doctors are now realizing that the pill’s effectiveness can be reduced in a variety of ways not initially known (interactions with citrus fruit and juice, for example, as well as women over a certain weight needing a higher dose for the pill to be effective — not that the second would apply to Eva, but still).
It’s entirely possible it was truly a surprise and in no way intentional.
sorry ladies, I disagree, though I see what you’re saying.
“Trusting” a woman who says she’s on birth control is not enough. if the man is involved, even if he trusts her, he should be knowledgeable about her bc choices. even if it’s simply whether or not she’s taking it. and if there is ANY doubt, or if he just wants to be 100% sure, he should use a condom. and in this case, they were “on the rocks”, so it’s even more of a bad idea to engage.
to add, with the way these hollywood types are constantly sleeping around, they should be worried about diseases.
gawd, I’m so jaded…
jenniferjustice, you stated missing a few days of bc could not get you pregnant.
With my first daughter, I was 15 hours late on my pill so I took plan b 30 minutes after sex and then resumed my nightly pill that night. This was the ONLY time I have ever been even a minute late with my pill and had been on it for 3 years.
Few weeks later I took a pregnancy test and sure enough 15 hours late and practically immediate plan b is enough to get you pregnant.
Heads up for everyone who is relying on plan b or the ‘hormones stay in your system’ method!
@ doofus: So if a man tells a woman he’s had a vasectomy – no worries! – because she doesn’t want to get pregnant but actually hasn’t, that’s partly her fault then too? In a relationship that scenario is unlikely but still. He might poke a few holes in the condom and bam! Preggo girlfriend. So that is partly her fault? You can be in a relationship and never ever trust that person 100% but that is one sad-sack union if you ask me.
Yes, women can lie and get pregnant and I understand why you don’t like the word “entrapment” but essentially, that’s what it is. It’s a dumbass move and if I was a man and in a relationship and my partner did that? I would break up with her so fast. Raise the kid? Sure. But there is obviously no trust there anymore.
to littlemissnaughty:
“So if a man tells a woman he’s had a vasectomy – no worries! – because she doesn’t want to get pregnant but actually hasn’t, that’s partly her fault then too?”
yes, it is. because just as I stated above, if you DON’T want to get preggers, and you want to be 100% sure, you use your own bc, and don’t rely on your partner, whether you’re a man or a woman. the key is taking responsibility for your sexual health.
“He might poke a few holes in the condom and bam! Preggo girlfriend. So that is partly her fault?” in that case, I’d say no, because that’s sabotage. but AGAIN, she could try bc pills or other methods to be 100% sure. you can combine bc methods…I know people who use the pill AND condoms, with spermicide.
“You can be in a relationship and never ever trust that person 100% but that is one sad-sack union if you ask me.” and it’s no sadder than being in one where you DO trust your partner and they sabotage the prophylactic.
“Yes, women can lie and get pregnant and I understand why you don’t like the word “entrapment” but essentially, that’s what it is.” we’ll have to agree to disagree on that term because the bottom line for me is: if you don’t want to get pregnant or to get someone pregnant, there are ways to avoid it. no one can trap anyone.
“Lots of women forget to take bc or are not careful in order to trap a man…” Lots of women? Really? You are say that a large number, or a great deal of women, trap their men to get married? You don’t have a very high opinion of women, do you?
Men have a say in this as well. They can wear a condom. Even if a woman is on birth control, it isn’t 100% effective. If the thought of having a child is so chilling to a man, then either they shouldn’t be having sex, or they can manage it themselves.
@Andrea,
True story, two guys were dating sisters. They bet each other they’d get their girlfriend pregnant first. Neither of the girls knew about the holes in the condoms until the babies arrived. Another story where a guy kept getting his wife pregnant because he was jealous and didn’t want her to finish because he never graduated high school. The trapping thing can go more than 1 way. Also, no form of contraception is 100% effective. That includes both birth control and condoms.
None birth control method guarantees 100% protection! NONE! I wish this was written with huge fat letters on any box of condoms or any box with pills. Sadly, it’s written with small letters inside. I know both “pill babies” and I personally have a “condom baby”. Condoms have also a percentage “factory mistake” where the manufacturer allows a certain percentage damaged condoms hit the stores. So, if anyone wnats to be perfectly sure they are safe, they would not only have to trust the woman she is on BC but should also put their condom and to make it all nicer, use some local BC as well. Everything else sounds to me like “eh well, she said so… I trusted her… but yeah I didn’t use anything… but I thought the pill… eh…” Boyish stuff.
@ doofus: No one can trap anyone? Well, technically that’s what I said. If I were a man and my gf lied about birth control to get pregnant, I would not be trapped in that relationship. There would be no relationship except one of co-parenting the kid. But that’s not what you’re saying. You’re saying to never trust anyone. There really is no need to use various forms of birth control in a monogamous relationship (seriously, who does that?). That leaves one partner (realistically) to “take care of it”. Whoever that is, they are responsible. Sh*t happens. Condoms break, the pill fails, whatever. Lying is a different beast.
By your logic, it’s also better to never get into a car. Really, if you don’t want to have an accident, better avoid those death vehicles. I guess you also never tell anyone anything in confidence because if they blab, it’s really your fault for trusting them. This wouldn’t have happened if you hadn’t said anything in the first place.
What I’m saying is this: You cannot trap someone in a relationship. You CAN, however, saddle someone with a child by lying to them and while I don’t think this occurrs nearly as often as men think, it happens (I’ve witnessed it). And women who do this are idiots and liars and for once I wouldn’t put ANY blame on the man. For once. *cough*
While one can’t ‘trap’ their partner with a baby they can certainly tie them, as suggested above. If you think it doesn’t happen I suggest you peruse the Scary Mommy Confessions forum some time and count how many confessions there are where the writer is lying about birth control to have a baby without their partner’s knowledge or consent. It’s not right but it happens and it happens a lot. And it’s not even as simple as ‘well just use a condom’ because as others have said there’s meant to be trust in a relationship. A guy I worked with became a father for the first time at an older age and it certainly looked like there was an oops there. He said he didn’t want any more but had to trust his partner was taking care of her BC. I asked why he didn’t use condoms and he said that to start using them after not using them for so long would cause major problems and it’d look like he didn’t trust her blah blah. I know most people would say to leave but once kids are involved it just isn’t that easy.
@ Doofus: You’re absolutely right!
Responsibility is on the 2 sides.
@littlemissnaughty
“You can be in a relationship and never ever trust that person 100% but that is one sad-sack union if you ask me.”
If you are in a relationship for time enough that you would consider to not use any protection, but you still are not interested in having a family with that person, then you should personally take the responsibility. People seem to tend to forget (as many said here) that no method is 100% efficient, so if you have sexual relations with someone there is always a risk (smaller or greater, concerning how you protect yourself) that a pregnancy might happen. That comes from both sides, not only from the woman. The only 100% certainty of not having a baby is abstinence!! Even women with tubal ligation can still get pregnant in some situations!
To read comments like these from other women show exactly why the society doesn’t develop from a misogynist view. A one night stand, even with some kind of contraception, might result in pregnancy (alcohol could diminish the contraceptives efficacy per instance)! That’s biology. Just because the woman is the one who carries the baby for 9months, it doesn’t make her more responsible than the man (the one who can usually walk away, because society also helps him in the belief that he was “trapped”). The woman is always the one who gets the bigger responsibility from a pregnancy, to use the old “trapping” excuse for men is not OK.
to littlemissnaughty:
Wow, that’s quite a leap from my “take responsibility for your own sexual health” to your “never trust anyone” and “avoid those death vehicles”. That’s not at all what I was saying, and your illogical extrapolation of what I said tells me that you won’t ever get my point. I explained it pretty clearly and if you don’t understand and/or choose to twist what I was saying, I’m not going to explain it again or discuss this with you as you’re not really making a fair or sound argument.
As for this “question”…”There really is no need to use various forms of birth control in a monogamous relationship (seriously, who does that?).”
who does that? couples who don’t want children. they DO exist.
Cheers.
I just wrote practically an essay and lost it – Grrrr…
I’ll try again. I never said all women who get pregnant while on the pill are liars or that they did it on purpose. Some do, some don’t. I never said the pill is 100% effective. The CDC and the Women’s Health Org state the pill’s failure rates at 3% at user error and less than 1% failure at what they call “pefect usage” (not missing one day ever). We all know more than 3% of women on the pill claim to have become pregnant while they were taking it. You do the math…somebody is lying. Not all, but some. We don’t know who does that and who doesn’t. I don’t judge anybody that got pregnant while on the pill. I simply say that if a woman purposely gets pregnant with a man she knows doesn’t want children, it is decietful and wrong.
The level of defensiveness on these blogs is maddening. How come every time somebody says something is rare or touts the benefits of something that not everybody does, so many people get all up in arms as if they’ve been told they did something wrong? That’s not what that means. All it means is it didn’t work for you or for whatever reason, you took an alternate route and placed you somewhere other than in the median. Stop making it sound like I’m preaching at the pulpit.
I have myself missed days while on the pill. I did not get pregnant but I could have and it would have been due to my own irresponsibleness. I’d like to think I’d own that and not blame my boyfriend.
Expecting men to use contraceptives when they beleive their girlfriend already is is unrealistic and kind of sad. Couples naturally trust one another unless or until they have reason not to. I don’t see a guy having a paranoid attitude about contraception unless they have already been trapped in the past and are makin sure it never happens to them again, but that’s rare. Most men are going to trust what their significant other tells and why shouldn’t they? They are with them because the love them and trust them. If a woman takes advantage of this and PURPOSELY gets pregnant as a means to have him not only step up to his parental responsibilities but also hoping to stay with or get back with her, it is attempting to trap him and it’s wrong. I stand by that strongly.
I realize that sometimes mistakes happen on both sides. How many of us have broken up with boyfriend and stopped taking the pill as a symbolic message to ourselves that “it’s over!” only to wind up hooking back up with the guy and having sex before we get back on the pill or before it’s been enough time for it to be truly effective. I have. But there’s no real intent to trick anybody there and we were both/all involved – irresponsible. That’s not the same as women who intentionally get pregnant specifically to get a guy to commit to her…which frankly, hardly ever works.
I dont’ know anybody who doubles let alone triples up on birth control and contraceptives. They may be out there but they are rare. Most couples trust whatever they are using (depo, Mirana, pill) and to expect men to think that isn’t taking enough precaution and to do more might be ideal, but it isn’t realistic.
You’ve been fighting for a rediculous argument that men shouldn’t trust their girlfriends and should in fact presume them to by lying. That’s never going to fly. So, cheers to you too.
If rumors in LA are to be believed Ryan is NOT a faithful boyfriend
(then again which famous dude is??).
So I just can’t subscribe to theory that he was pushing Eva for a baby
@jenniferjustice, you stated missing a few days of bc could not get you pregnant.
With my first daughter, I was 15 hours late on my pill so I took plan b 30 minutes after sex and then resumed my nightly pill that night. This was the ONLY time I have ever been even a minute late with my pill and had been on it for 3 years.
Few weeks later I took a pregnancy test and sure enough 15 hours late and practically immediate plan b is enough to get you pregnant.
Heads up for everyone who is relying on plan b or the ‘hormones stay in your system’ method!
Eva Mendes wanted to marry Ryan Gosling: check
Mendes “traps” Gosling with a baby: check
Gosling still pines for Rachel McAdams: check
Not to say that Radar may not be right, but this reads a lot like Gosling fangirl fantasy.
+1
It is really the case to say “oh, dear”…
This narrative is getting old and it’s what is really fishy by now.
OK we get it, people dislike Eva Mendes, but please chill on the vitriol.
If this would be with any other actress/woman celebrity a lot of people would be setting their panties on fire over the highly misogynist quotes: she wants to marry him badly, she wants to have his child to keep him a prisoner, she got what she wanted…Please, they are two adults and he doesn’t seem to be a poor little man that can only be subjugated by a woman and has no responsibility and control in his life.
Or Ryan feeding the fangirl fantasy? That’s my guess.
I’ve never met a man “trapped” by a baby, sorry for ruining the ttheory. If a man wants out, he will be out, sooner than later. If a woman believes she can trap a man with a baby, she is stupid or unexperienced.
I think they’re both kind of odd personalities, but at least Ryan’s is more hipster wannabe, Eva’s just comes across as a nasty diva wannabe. Sad that the child will have this kind of speculation about it’s conception.
Your last sentence is spot on. I cringe when someone describes a pregnancy as anything along the lines of a ‘mistake’ or band aid.
A 40 year old acquaintance openly bemoaned her ‘we messed up’ pregnancy and was she going to handle three kids. Then all seemed OK, but five years later, all three kids are being raised by their dad and grandmother. Mom sees them maybe once or twice a year. I had been concerned about the child finding out his mom viewed him as ‘we messed up’ when it’s turned out much worse.
The media is truly disgusting. They always turn the women into a manipulative, conniving witch. The guy always gets to play the innocent, poor baby who got “trapped” by the evil hag.
Maybe these poor, pitiful, trapped, pining for other women men should not have unprotected sex with the person they are currently living with to avoid the “misery” of a baby. They should have listened harder in biology class in high school. And please don’t with the “I thought she was on the pill” excuse either. It was not the immaculate conception. Take responsibility.
I love you for this comment.
made a similar one above.
Part of the problem is that our society always frames access to birth control as a “woman’s issue” as if women are the only ones to benefit from it.
I’m so sick of that shit. Who was it that said if men were responsible for taking birth control pills that they would be bacon-flavored and you could buy them for $.25 in a gumball machine?
Anyway, I agree with both of you. I also cannot STAND the “she trapped him with a baby!” BS narrative.
Better yet, if your relationship is on the skids, don’t go back for a one-nighter. Abstain or find somebody else.
Thank you – it’s so annoying how the media and fangirls take the most misogynistic narrative path possible. Gross.
Immaculate conception? I think you mean Holy Incarnation. *No dis though. it’s just a major pet peeve of mine at how often that phrase is incorrectly used. Kind of like “I could care less” and “irregardless”
Nevermind
@TheOriginalKitten
haha bacon flavoured pill ……ewww. mine would be Baileys flavoured.
His jeans are cuffed. Is that “in” again?
They managed to keep this news private for 7 months.
I’m inclined to believe that these stories are fake since they’re obviously capable of keeping their private life under wraps
Just wishful thinking by gosling fans
Ryan is a grown man. Has been in many relationships. No kids. Has been dating for several years. She has been in a long term relationship and no kids.
There are no surprises unless you are not taking or using birth control; Unprotected sex = baby.
bottom line they are having a baby because they both want one.
thank you!
+1
Bless this post. It’s really just as simple and non-conspiracy as that.
This exactly!
I was going to post the same thing. I cannot stand when people act surprised by their “unplanned” pregnancy. If you are not on birth control, don’t take it as prescribed and your significant other did not use a condom, then the pregnancy was not unplanned. end of story. That’s how babies are conceived!
Some friends of ours were planning to break up and they had unprotected sex, she got pregnant, long story short..they have a very volatile relationship and when they announced the news to us,they both made it a point to let us know how it was unplanned and hard for them to deal with being that they wanted to separate. I asked, well, if you didn’t wrap it up and you’re not on birth control, then why are you so surprised?! I only feel badly for the child, which is now born and has to be brought up in a situation where two parents hate each other.
Exactly. They may not have set out to become pregnant (and I do believe that they hit a rough patch prior to the pregnancy), but they are having a baby because they chose to have a baby.
Yes she TRAPPED him! And she is so jealous of the ex girlfriend! She wants to get married but he doesn’t!
Eff you Radar. Why do you have to keep painting women in an unflattering light?
Two people I love dearly are pregnant “by accident” as we speak. I didn’t pry into the details, but doesn’t anyone take the pill anymore? I mean, am I wrong to think this is unnecessary? Failing to plan is planning to fail and all that? I know that sounds judgey, and I don’t mean to. It’s none of my business. Both are happy about it and I’m sure will love the children, but all the “accidents” seem… Like they’re not really accidents. If you really, really don’t want to get pregnant, you don’t have to in this day and age. The pill is, I think 99.9 % accurate. But they look all wide-eyed and oops, how did that happen?
I was SHOCKED to hear that from several people that their birth control method of choice was Pull and Pray (needless to say, several unplanned pregnancies in that group).I honestly didn’t think adults actually did that.
Happened to me with my first pregnancy. We were only married 3 months and I went to fill my pill Rx and was told I had no refills. My doc wouldn’t fax in a new one without an appointment first, so I missed 2 days on the pill. I wasn’t worried bc I had been on the pill for so many years with no pregnancy scares that I was complacent and figured my hormone levels wouldn’t dip too much.
I have a gorgeous 7 year old that proves I was very wrong.
One more (planned) pregnancy later… I have an IUD
Congrats on your babies! I am actually thrilled with our family’s little baby boom, just surprised that they’re so surprised, you know? But stuff happens, and it will be a happy accident in both cases.
Fewer women are taking the pill these days due to a greater awareness of the health risks.
What health risks? I thought the breast cancer thing was proven false.
Significantly increased risk of blood clots, which can lead to pulmonary embolism, heart attacks, etc., and have been fatal in many instances because young, seemingly healthy women do not recognize the symptoms. Tens of thousands of personal injury and wrongful death lawsuits have been filed against the manufacturers in the U.S. over the last five years. While that’s admittedly a sign of our litigious society, we would not see those types of numbers if there weren’t merit to the claims.
Yes, I was wondering if that was why.
I got pregnant on the pill. Yes, I was taking it correctly, wasn’t missing a pill, wasn’t on antibiotics, or any other meds. Orthotricyclen. I now have an IUD because no one will sterilize me at 37.
Same story here, same birth control too. I was also told I’d have problems getting pregnant because of severe endometriosis and the damage to my reproductive organs, all BS! Lol, my 6 year old is proof that accidents do happen, and my dr even said she had a ton of patients get pregnant on that specific brand of pills.
You’re waaaay off with your 99.9% efficacy guess. When used correctly, the pill is 99% effective (1 in 100 women will fall pregnant each year). But the typical effectiveness rate – what actually happens in real life – is 92% … 2 in 25 women on the pill will fall pregnant each year.
Interesting. I didn’t know that, thanks.
This! The rate is lower than 95% which means 5 women out of 100 on the pill are not protected or pregnant while on the pill. Added to the health risks (and I have a cardiologist in the family), I’ve staying away from it for a few years already.
@GoodNamesAllAtken-I hear you on this for sure. How can anyone be “surprised” when they “end up pregnant”? HAHAHA. It’s not like you didn’t know what happens when a penis and vagina meet. And it amazes me how 50’s this crap sounds in the press. It’s the same tired old tropes. “Mantrapper.Womanizer. Baby makes it all good”. Blah, blah. ugh.
Yeah, the man trapper makes me stabby. Like he wasn’t there when it happened.
Lol I had no pregnancies by accident in the family, which proves that the pill works, usually!
On another note, I am ‘adverse’ to so many BC methods, that the only reason I was never pregnant is probably that I am barren. Not that I care, for that matter…..
I spent most of my twenties and thirties trying to get pregnant, so I’m not all up on birth control. Lol
Don’t believe this for a second. Agree it sounds like fanfic. I’m also highly doubtful this was unplanned. I think by 40 someone who has never had a kid has figured out how birth control works. I don’t like this whole desperate woman trapping her hottie bf who wants to leave her narrative.
I don’t think that the pregnancy was unplanned. I also don’t think that Ryan was “trapped” by Eva. I’m assuming they were having unprotected sex. When you have unprotected sex there is a chance that a woman can get pregnant. Ryan seems like a reasonably intelligent human being. I would think he understands how these things work.
I know accidents happen and I know that women can Get pregnant at anytime I guess before menopause.
With that being said a woman who is 40 years old and carried on a relationship for several years without an accident just seems suspect. It’s not all that easy to become pregnant as you get older.
With so many forms of birth control it’s hard to believe there are still accidents.
“With that being said a woman who is 40 years old and carried on a relationship for several years without an accident just seems suspect. It’s not all that easy to become pregnant as you get older….”
Thank you.
Contrary to what you hear on the TV. Getting pregnant at 40 is hard.
I am not judging Eva in any way. Wishing her all the best.
But I seriously doubt this was a oops baby.
Hollywood acts like its perfectly normal when a 50 year old woman ends up pregnant with twins by a 72 year old man.
Hollywood types do not have magically non aging eggs.
They are IVF-ing, surrogatting their asses off and most of time won’t admit it. No shame in it I did IVF.
Hautie you may be right, but not necessarily. Like for example–you hear of many instances of women who have tried all kinds of means to get pregnant, and can’t, then they stop trying and wind up pregnant out of the blue. I have an acquaintance that had this happen to them. It could be a case of Eva having believed she was unable to get pregnant–the years going by without a pregnancy proving that to be true–abandoning bc because of her belief she couldn’t get pregnant, then all of a sudden it happens. Obviously I have no clue if this is true, but I don’t think it can absolutely be ruled out.
they never look happy. ever. they don’t fit together at all. he’s waaaay overrated and she cant act her way out of a paper bag. I bet dollars to donuts they are both big a-holes. just my vibe.
BC is not effective for all women. Some women’s bodies just don’t take to it for whatever reason.
I was on high strength bc pills when my first child was conceived. I was on bc pills when my 2nd child was conceived (and no, I was not taking any medications that would interfere with their effectiveness & I was taking them daily as directed). And I had an IUD when I ended up pregnant (but had a miscarriage) last year.
Bc is not always effective. But then again, there are some women that do get pg deliberately and say “oops!” I know a few of those too. But believe me, if you’d have known my ex, you’d have known my reasons for NOT wanting to have children with him.
Surely, if you only used ONE method of protection you hardly can complain. There’s no 100% safety. If you’re on a pill you should also use the pull-out method and/or monitor your calendar to avoid the days when you can get pregnant.
I am not surprised he was surprised.
I am pretty sure only Ryan was surprised. I think that Eva made sure she got pregnant to make sure she had a hold on him. Not that he is guiltless, sex is a risky proposition, but I am sure he wanted to keep her around for a time but I bet he had not planned on anything long term. Well they will be attached forever now. Has her career ended or is she still making movies. She is a very pretty woman and I did like seeing her in movies even though she was only an okay actress. Ryan Gosling I never cared for although I have never watched any of his movies. He seems more of a woman’s movie star like Richard Gere. He makes movies that I have no interest in seeing. not even “Drive.” I also have no problem believing he is a bit of a jerk just from a few snippets of interviews I have seen with him. Probably unfair but there it is.
They’ve been dating for two years if he didn’t what to be with her he would have broken up with her two years ago which he didn’t do. So she didn’t “trap” him with a pregnancy and their a thing called a condom he could have wrap it up if he wanted to make sure no pregnancy would happen.
You are right that he should have been using a condom but when you look at her age and career and look at his age and career it is pretty easy to come to the conclusion that she was keen on keeping him in her life. They have broken up several times over the years they have been dating. I do not believe he saw himself connected to her for life. He is now. She has also professed to not wanting children in the past so he may have been surprised that she decided she wanted to keep this one.
Do we know that they broken up several times over the years or are you just going by tabloid stories? Because from what I read nothing has been proven.
Eva is 40’s so it’s not going to be some cake walk getting pregnant so I don’t see how he would be surprised she would keep the baby.
I’m so sick of seeing those photos of them. Ugh the sweater/outfit/sunglasses she’s wearing …They’ve been together for a long time, and that’s the ONLY photos I ever see of them.
She’s been seen more with his dog then with him, they don’t spend a lot of time together.
I know, I never want to see those sweater, pants, sunglasses again.
Ryan’s outfit is doing him no favors either. He looks fine untill below the knee, but then you scroll down and see that horrible jean hem roll.
People honestly believe a 40 year old women, who has thus far in her life managed to avoid being pregnant and stated that she wasn’t that bothered about having kids, ‘trapped’ him into having a baby? Is Ryan even that big of a catch?
Surely it seems far more likely that they planned to have a family (you know, after being in a relationship for 3+ years) and kept it quite because it was a high risk pregnancy. But no, lets keep pretending condoms weren’t invented, she’s a bitch who tricked him and that they’ve broken up multiple times and are not even in a real relationship.
I feel it’s unlikely to accidentally get pregnant at age 40. It’s harder to get pregnant at 40 for most women.
Actually, it’s more likely to happen than you’d think. A lot of women over 40 think that they don’t have to be careful about birth control because their fertility is diminishing. I remember reading somewhere that age 40-44 is the second highest age group for abortions (I might be wrong but I really remember reading that at some point). Women aren’t as vigilant as they were about birth control in their 20’s and 30’s and are surprised by an “oops” pregnancy.
Rachel Dratch (formerly of SNL) wrote a very entertaining book which in part details her accidental pregnancy at 44 (a happy accident but it wasn’t planned).
Accidental pregnancies at ages 36 and 40 here.
I KNOW.
And a friend of mine got accidentally pregnant at 49. 49! I would have considered throwing myself off a building. But she was thrilled and had a perfectly healthy and beautiful little girl.
In my world, birth control is the man’s responsibility. I’m not popping a pill thats going to distort my hormones or my cycle and I’m not inserting anything in my cooter. You want it, you wrap it.
condoms aren’t foolproof, either. had one break. didn’t get pregnant, but did get a nice std. when i told him about it, he was like, oh my gf has that too. i wanted to strangle him since i didn’t know about any of that. why would you trust your body to a man, anyway? you’re the one that would have to carry and raise it. i’d rather stay on birth control than trust a condom that can break. if it’s casual sex, i wold use both.
I don’t believe in “unplanned” pregnancies. If a woman doesn’t want to get pregnant she will make sure she won’t. Just imagine Kate Middleton getting preggo before the wedding? Yeah, right.
i have a hard time believing it too. i”m 38 and never been pregnant. i’m terrified of it so I always use birth control. so for 22 years, I’ve been on birth control or used condoms and never gotten pregnant, knock on wood. i don’t know if i’m just cynical or what, but my experience makes it hard for me to believe it’s so easy to get pregnant when you’re on birth control. I use depo-provera, the shot, girls, love it! once every 3 months a shot and I’m covered! whoo-hoo!
I agree. I am 33 and have been on bc since 18 and sexually active throughout and never been pregnant once.
I always use more than one method to make sure I cover my 1% chance. Never got pregnant and also that way I know if I will, it really is meant to happen
50% of pregnancies are unplanned, 50% are planned. If you are having sex without the intention of pregnancy, whether using contraceptives or not, it is categorized as unplanned. You can have less sympathy for people that aren’t careful, but it doesn’t make their pregnancy planned. I’m a sex educator and therapist as still had an unplanned pregnancy–my first child was 5 months old, conceived after five years of infertility treatments, I was exclusively breastfeeding and hadn’t had a menstrual cycle yet. We ran out of condoms and had unprotected sex one time, I felt myself ovulate the next day. My beautiful girls are 14 months apart.
I actually love the fact that I have a masters degree in sex ed and had an unplanned pregnancy. It truly can happen to anyone! And we were thrilled to conceive so easily the second time around, so we weren’t exactly crying in our Cheerios. It was just a little faster than we planned.
I know women, myself included, that can’t take hormone pills because of the crap it does to them (personally, the hormones make my migraines go out of control). I’ve heard of these women in committed relationships that, if they don’t have their BC method of choice at the ready, they will just go for it and get the morning after pill when they restock their BC in the next day or too.
One friend got sick the first time she did that after taking the MAP, but since she threw up over 8 hours later she thought it would be fine and didn’t do anything else (says so on the box to retake if you throw up within 8 hours). Lo and behold, she found out she was pregnant a couple months later. Accidents do happen, although I don’t know or really care if Ryan and Eva’s pregnancy was accidental.
Despite his perfect public image, Ryan is most likely a jerk in real life. The fact that he acted like an entitled diva on the Notebook set enforces this. If he was like that when he was relatively unknown, I’d hate to see what he’s like now. Eva seems kind of like a diva too. She seems very self aware and knows how to play the game. I think they are probably very much alike. I hope this baby isn’t being born in a dysfunctional, stormy situation.
I always found him a little too self-centered. He is perfectly aware women find him sexy and it shows in his attitude during interviews.
She’s had a surprise pregnancy before when she was 34, while being a coke head, and she apparently didn’t know she was pregnant when she went on a massive week long coke binge and ended up having a miscarriage.
Really? Is this a confirmed fact? Wow.
I wish they’d get papped just so we wouldn’t have to see them in these same pictures all the time. But congrats to them.
Radar, that’s one ugly narrative, and hopefully nobody’s going to swallow it up. Also. the term band aid baby is repugnant.
Couple gets baby.
Why are people so crazy about this? Why all these made-up stories and theories? Is this some kind of revenge? Two celebs didn´t want to share the conception date and every phase of pregnancy with strangers so something has to be odd?
The way this all rolled out and has been “presented” via “sources” is so not Eva’s M.O.
Who knows what is really going on with these two.