So far, the tabloids have been getting it right about Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling. They did break up at some point and Eva did get pregnant. OK! Magazine even seems to be right about the time line – Eva is probably seven months along or thereabouts. She’ll probably give birth in late September or early October. Crazy world. Anyway, since we can now take every tabloid story about Eva and Ryan as the God’s honest truth, let’s talk about this Star Mag story. Star claims that while Eva and Ryan have been super-undercover for months and months, they’ve actually been doing couples therapy. Yeah.
Their baby is reportedly set to arrive in October and Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes are making sure their relationship is in tip-top shape before the birth. The couple has been quietly seeing a relationship counselor to work out their issues.
“The idea of being parents both excites and terrifies them,” admits a close source. “Neither of them feels ready, and they want to make sure they can handle it once the baby arrives.”
Another hot topic they are trying to tackle: whether or not to tie the knot, which is something Ryan is eager to do.
“It has never been a priority for Eva… but she also wants them to be a family. They’re learning how to handle their differences.”
[From Star Magazine, print edition]
I know there are some people who swear by couples therapy and everybody knows somebody who worked on their relationship with a therapist and came out better on the other side. But I’m giving this instance, for this couple, the side-eye. Their relationship is only three years old. Beyond (presumably) hot sex, they never had that much in common. I believe the reports that their relationship was significantly “on the rocks” on and off throughout the past three years, and I also believe that they probably conceived the baby during a rough patch. None of this sounds like the makings of a long-term relationship that will last the test of time and no amount of therapy is going to force this thing to work. There will be a honeymoon period in the last months of her pregnancy and after the baby comes, but who believes that Ryan and Eva are still going to be together and functioning as a couple in two years?
Photos courtesy of Pacific Coast News.
I hate to say it, but I agree with your assessment.
I’m agreeing with you about the “doesn’t look like it’ll last” but I put it down to age gap and libido waning once Mamasitas aging punani has popped out the young goslet! Sorry, but this will come to pass.
But this will be one gor-juss baby.
“… but who believes that Ryan and Eva are still going to be together and functioning as a couple in two years?” – I do.
I may have to eat my words, but the way I see it, they are both old enough to know what they are doing and what they want from a partner. They didn’t rush into things; as in, conceive a child after just two months together. They have been together for three years. This baby was no accident. They even got professional help in order to conceive. That’s how serious they were about starting a family together.
As I said, I may have to eat my words, but I actually think that, even by Hollywood standards, they at least stand a chance to make this work. And the counseling thing sounds made up to me. It’s Star Magazine, after all.
I agree with you and just for the record the tabloids didn’t get it right. They caught on to Eva’s pregnancy at seven months and are now covering their asses with stories that may or may not be accurate.
There is a pile on to believe the worst because everyone hates them as a couple.
I think the truth of the matter is that Eva is on bed rest and that’s why they are so under the radar.
yes to both of you. I think they are undercover due to a difficult pregnancy not a difficult relationship.
She was seen running errands, is that allowed when you have to be on bed rest?
The first year after having a baby is really hard on a relationship
Being in therapy now may help them get through it together.
I also have to say that none of us are friends with them to be able to say whether they have much in common. They may share a lot of interests
+1. I give them credit for taking such a proactive move with a baby on the way (for two people who have no children). More expectant parents should do it, IMO.
Yeah, I actually think it’s smart to get some perspective before baby arrives. Well, for normal people, anyway. For stars with nannies and other help it’s probably not such a huge adjustment. My daughter is two and my H and i are just just staying to feel like we are getting back on track.
exactly. having a baby puts so much pressure on a relationship. and if things are already shaky, as people like to claim, then surely it’s a good thing to go into therapy to help to deal with that? i think this is sensible and admirable. at least they are trying to give things a proper shot.
I agree with you, I also think they might have a chance. None of us really know what has happened in this relationship. They might have had three great years together and so they wanted to start a family.
I think the real deal with tabloids is that people can’t seem to accept that Ryan can be with someone who is not Rachel McAdams, and specially with an older than him latina woman.
Also: “who believes that Ryan and Eva are still going to be together and functioning as a couple in two years?” Well, Many people (including myself) thought that when they started dating and look at them now….
But babies fix everything!
What!? I hope you were being sarcastic. My heart just stopped.
Maybe it’s more along the lines of ‘co parenting’ therapy.
THIS is what I am thinking. I can imagine Eva, losing it –when Ryan wants to spend time with the baby–Eva with her temper, will be pissed if he has any other women around the child etc..
is it a therapist/lawyer hammering out child support, housing and custody agreements.
messy
Didn’t think of that, that could be a point.
I thought they were surprised by the pregnancy, but try to get along now. I’m with Kaiser on this, when they had problems before the baby, it doesn’t get easier after the baby is born. They will probably split up soon.
umm I think they are old enough to know but if they were/are shakey before just wait until they have that baby. I mean I love my son but it’s bloody hard work. It will either keep them together OR pull them apart. I don’t know I can’t see it but maybe they will prove me wrong.
I can’t judge somebody for trying to work out their problems sooner rather than later. I think the problem with couples therapy is often that the couple waits too long, until one of them already has their foot out the door. They’re having a child together. Why not make every effort to make their relationship work? If it doesn’t, at least you will know you did everything you could do.
I agree. Kudos to them for making the effort and actually going before the baby arrives. So many people who should go to counseling don’t do so.
Although I really don’t give a flying fig about either of them, I will be rooting for them to make it and hope for the best.
ITA, GoodNames. I already loathed the sight of my ex and was looking for an apartment when we tried couples therapy. It was a lost cause, his accumulating BS behavior was too much for me, yet I still went to therapy. A month later, I moved out. These two sound like they are in trouble.
Star? Ah, more of their great sources. LOL Non-story, don’t believe it. They could be having problems, not having problems. I don’t know. I just feel 99 percent sure this typical Star fill-the-weekly-pages story is bogus.
I find this story suspect.. According to blind items she’s the one pushing for marriage before the birth since her family are traditional Catholics, and he’s the one that’s meh about it. My impression was they were rocky and he had one foot out the door when the “oops!” baby happened. Ryan has been talking about children for years so it was motivation for them to stay together.
I could be completely wrong, but that scenario seems way more plausible to me.
EXACTLY…
According to even longer standing blind items, by someone known to have very accurate sources (Elaine Lui), Ryan has actually been pushing Eva for a baby for a few years, and she was the one who was hesitant about it. http://www.blinditemsexposed.com/2013/01/lainey-he-wants-she-doesnt.html
Yes, because the poor guy probably cannot afford a condom.
I agree with your assessment. She seems like a hot mess and he seems not grown up. Dedicated co-parenting would be a fine outcome in this case.
Who cares? They’re gorgeous!
I for one don’t care for the adults, but for the children. They are the ones that can not defend themselves.
Now, I don’t know if this article is right or not. The ladies here have more of a grasp on their whole story.
But if the relationship was rocky and the baby was conceived on a getting back road, that, imho, is not the way to plan for a family. Now, you have the other side, the people saying that they had tried to start a family, then the assumption would be different they wanted the baby.
They could already be married too for all we know. They could have gotten married the moment they found out about the pregnancy. They obviously feel no obligation to inform the public of their comings and goings.
wait….
she is that far along already???
There is NO way I will believe that article saying “Ryan is eager to marry” NOPE.
They will not be together much longer but of course will co parent together.
I doubt that Ryan can NOT live w/o Eva being in his life, she not that to him.
not being mean but its obvious that he is no where near being ready to marry.
Eva Dear, this baby will not glue in the cracks of this relationship–he was on his way out and she popped up pregnant, should have been more careful Ryan..we know it was not planned. (on your part)
This might be a little off subject.. But when Gosling and Rachel McAdams were together and then split I thought I remember reading some gossip about her wanting to get married and have children. He was totally not into it. He wanted to remain a kind of cool Hollywood guy who dates but no settling down? Does anyone remember this??
I saw a picture of McAdams right after the official news broke and she looked genuinely upset. Of course it could be a number of things but I digress. Sad really.
I’m with the above comments about long term relationships after baby. As a marriage counselor myself I’ve seen many couples struggle to regain their relationship. But it’s really not about becoming who you were before baby. There becomes two different systems. Couple and family. Learning how to switch gears when you need to devote time to baby and to your own personal needs is key. I certainly hope the counseling aids their relationship. You get what you put in. Hard work and supporting each other makes all the difference. Both people must have the desire to try and make it work before ultimately coming to a conclusion on the status of the relationship. I wish them well. Only time will tell if they are truly in it for real.
I thought it was backwards. He wanted to start the family and she thought she was too young.
I give them cudos for being so mature and responsible. Wise decision and … what else are they supposed to do now that they’ve decided to keep the baby? They could go Tom Brady and Bridget’s road, but if there is a chance they can make it together rather than moving on to other people, I hope they can work it out.
I’d rather they work on their problems (if they have them) now than when the child is here. Not sure why couples’ therapy is frowned upon. Isn’t the goal to be better partners? I’d rather see them both there than to see one partner trying to repair things and the other one being laissez faire about the whole situation.
I think it’s a great idea. Everyone tell you that when you have a baby your world will be turned upside down and they are right. You never really know by how much until your in it.
September-I guess they felt warm and fuzzy over the holidays…
They could just as easily be counseling to handle the very real possibility that they will be co-parenting (please, I could go on forever about how difficult that is, at least post divorce) vs. parenting as a genuine couple.
The could also use a pre-visit with a pair of lawyers to arrange child support and visitation. It does not have to be a Halle Berry/Gabriel Aubrey thing.
NO SHOTGUN WEDDING, PLEASE!
I hope Gosling and Mendes stay undercover because I am sure all this speculation is WAY more interesting than either one of them would be if they opened up and talked. They both strike me as tedious and self-absorbed!
It is so weird to see a pregnant celebrity not showing off their bump a lot.
Totally off topic but celebrities look a lot more interesting in NYC… If this is where the pics were shot. Really, people look more interesting anywhere but LA. Los Angeles really sucks the mystery out of people, and everything looks like a parking lot.
I’m amazed, I must say. Rarely do I encounter a blog that’s both equally educative and entertaining, and let me tell you,
you’ve hit the nail on the head. The issue is an issue that too
few folks are speaking intelligently about.
I’m very happy I came across this in my hunt for something relating to this.