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Selena Gomez threw herself a ‘wedding’ for her 30th birthday party


Selena Gomez’s Apple TV+ documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me, premiered on Friday. And to prepare us, she did a detailed interview with Rolling Stone that dropped the day before the doc. The feature explores the main points from her recent history, her motivations and the process behind creating the documentary, as well as what she’s hoping to achieve. Selena’s goal was to use her platform for good to show her struggles with mental health and destigmatize talking about it.

She’s been open about her physical and mental health struggles, and believes mental health should be discussed freely. And in the doc Selena really walks the walk: it’s very raw and affecting and relatable for those who have struggled with their own mental health, despite some of her issues being specific to her career. It was even more transparent than I expected from what she said: she cries a lot, she’s in bed a lot, scenes are interspersed with her reading aloud journal entries. I was already a Selena fan and came away from the doc liking and relating to her even more. Some highlights from her Rolling Stone interview:

On her “wedding” 30th birthday party: This summer, Gomez turned 30 and threw herself a party. “I thought I would be married by now, so I threw myself a wedding,” she clarifies wryly. She invited people who had been important parts of her twenties, whether she was still close to them or not. She wanted to celebrate that time, and also celebrate that it was behind her.

On the documentary and how she almost pulled it: The cameras do not stop rolling, and the next hour-plus provides one of the least sugarcoated explorations of mental illness one is likely to find on film. There are scenes in which Gomez is unable to get out of bed, scenes of her lashing out at friends, scenes of her roaming her house aimlessly, scenes of her coming apart in the middle of a press tour, contemptuously responding to the media circus when she isn’t seeming to disassociate entirely. The documentary is so raw that Gomez almost didn’t sign off on its release. “Because I have the platform I have, it’s kind of like I’m sacrificing myself a little bit for a greater purpose. I don’t want that to sound dramatic, but I almost wasn’t going to put this out. God’s honest truth, a few weeks ago, I wasn’t sure I could do it.”

On mental health and her bipolar diagnosis: “I’m going to be very open with everybody about this: I’ve been to four treatment centers,” Gomez tells me now. “I think when I started hitting my early twenties is when it started to get really dark, when I started to feel like I was not in control of what I was feeling, whether that was really great or really bad.” Her highs and lows would last weeks or months at a time, prompted by nothing she could put her finger on. She never actually attempted suicide, but spent a few years contemplating it. “I thought the world would be better if I wasn’t there,” she says matter-of-factly.

On living in New York and what’s next: In three weeks’ time, she would be moving to New York, where the third season of Only Murders would start filming in January. Gomez was lured to New York by the prospect of being back in a city where people more frequently just leave her alone. “But if I’m honest, my schedule in New York is the crème de la crème. I have my system there, I have my workouts there, I have my coffee spots there. I get to walk and breathe there, and be inspired by New York City and the people and the life there.” She plans to take Spanish lessons, in preparation for a Spanish-language movie she’ll be filming this summer. She plans to have some writing sessions, round out the 24 songs she’s already written for her next album, which she says she may start recording by the end of the year.

[From Rolling Stone]

Though the article focuses mostly on the making of the documentary and the feelings behind it, there are some other tidbits in there like the one about her birthday party. At a couple of points Selena has said thought she’d be married with kids by now and feels like a failure for not doing so. Even in the doc she reiterated the sentiment that she just wants to be a mom and have a family and be normal. But the article notes that she is aware she likely won’t be able to carry her own children due to the medication she’s on to manage her bipolar diagnosis. She also says Taylor Swift is her only friend in the industry and she doesn’t fit into any group of celebrity friends.

Selena’s upcoming projects, like the Spanish-language movie and new music, sound promising. The new song released in conjunction with the documentary is pretty good. It’s nice that Only Murders is such a bright spot for her as it is for the rest of us. It sounds like New York is a good place for her, especially considering the anxiety she expressed throughout the documentary about certain facets of her job and celebrity life. Its pace is misleading and New York is actually a really good place to catch your breath. Though apparently she lives on the Upper East Side, which is probably a good move considering all that happens at the Arconia.

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  1. Noki says:

    I have not seen the documentary yet, however on my timeline there has been a lot of stories of how unimpressed her kidney donor is with some of the revelations.

    • Cq says:

      The drama is way overblown. Selena was talking about how her life was derailed by fame, and she said she can’t discuss it freely with her non famous friends, and then said Taylor is the only celebrity friend she really have.

      Her kidney donor replied “interesting” and unfollowed Selena, and Selena commented on a news post saying “sorry if I didn’t mention everyone I know.”

      Like that’s literally it. It was obvious that Selena was talking about how she doesn’t have anyone to relate to (besides Taylor) and she was right. Francia, the donor, is an actress but she’s not famous at all. For starters, we are calling her “the kidney donor” or “Selena’s friend”!

      They probably had a falling out in private and this was the straw that broke the back for her, and they should have discuss this privately instead of acting like two teenage girls. But people saying Francia should “take her kidney back” or calling Selena evil is just way too uncalled for, given that Selena literally just talked about her suicidal ideation.

      • Zapp Brannigan says:

        Apparently the previous falling out was because when Selena got her new kidney she promptly went against doctor advice and was drinking a lot. If I was her donor I would be pissed that I changed my entire life and risked my health so Selena could go party.

      • C says:

        This entire thread makes me think much less of Selena.

      • BlueSky says:

        “Francia, the donor, is an actress but she’s not famous at all.”

        Wow way to be dismissive. No big deal, she just donated a kidney.
        You may not know her but I do. She is famous and is on the show “Grownish” which I believe is in its 5th or 6th season. She’s also on “how I met your father” and the secret life of an American teenager. She was clearly hurt and confused and rather than acknowledge that, Selena was dismissive of her.

      • OriginalLeigh says:

        I feel really bad for Selena given everything that she’s been through, but lumping your kidney donor into the category of “everyone I know” is kind of gross…

      • Beach says:

        @Zapp That rumor is completely effed up. First of all, you are completely able to drink in moderation after an organ transplant. And how would anyone know that that is what Francia is upset with? It came from the same people who said Selena lied about lupus and she needed an organ donation because of addiction.

      • Cq says:

        @bluesky I was not trying to insult Francia. I know what shows she acted in. If it came across as Insulting, I apologise.

        But my point still stands. She’s not famous (or to better phrase it, she’s not as famous as Selena or Taylor yet), and Selena was talking about how her life was affected by fame and how she doesn’t have many people to talk to about this.

        I can totally get how Francia may feel, since she’s an actress and clearly it may sting. I would feel some type of way if I’m a working actress too! And Selena could have handled it better. But at the same time, she was the person that made it public by making that comment. Selena was being childish right back. Both should have kept it on FaceTime. What I’m having an issue with is people being weirdly vicious and discussing about whether Selena deserved the transplant when we know she deals with suicidal ideation. The comment on tiktok Selena made btw, the top comments were about how she shouldn’t have the kidney. It’s insane how her words got misconstrued

      • Tiffany:) says:

        Francia might be a working actress, but she is not at the Selena/Taylor level of fame. I mean, come on. If she’s insulted by reality and too insecure to realize that there are things that her friend is going through that she can’t relate to, then maybe she isn’t actually a good friend.

        Selena is not out of line or wrong to say that there are things she has gone through that only 1 of her friends understands. She’s not a bad person for saying that.

      • Sugarhere says:

        @Q: Your post rubs me the wrong way. Donating a kidney to a friend is a lofty sacrifice to which I would personally never consent. What if one of my children one day needs the kidney I once gifted to a semi-ungrateful celebrity who appears to be unaware of the life-shortening sacrifice I’ve endured for her?

        The donor has every right to be upset by Selena’s immature sense of entitlement: “sorry I didn’t mention everyone I know” instead of “sorry if my statement conveyed anything other than how precious you are to me”. Francia doesn’t have a documentary of her own where she can explain how her body is coping with one kidney compensating the workload for two, whether she’s had to give up on certain activity, how concerned she is this might impact her pregnancies and older days.

        Because she’s not famous, she must be taken for granted? There wouldn’t be a living Selena Gomez without Francia’s self-sacrifice. She is a symbolical mother to Selena for giving her a second chance at life.

      • Fabiola says:

        Her reply was petty and a slap in the face to the person that saved her life. Francia is in the industry. She shouldn’t lump her with everyone in her life. She should hold her higher.

    • Emily says:

      By replying “Interesting,” Francia proved Selena’s point.

      Selena is incredibly vulnerable right now, and Francia piles on and is stealing focus from an issue Selena cares deeply about. It’s a crappy move.

      I’m sure the kidney donation complicated their friendship in ways they didn’t expect. Selena has reiterated her gratitude to Francia is several award acceptance speeches. But she doesn’t need to feel indebted for life. People can grow apart — even people you consider family.

      Francia has been in TV shows but very few people reach Selena’a level of fame or can relate to it the way Taylor can. Very few people will understand how fame and mental illness co-mingle.

    • hangonamin says:

      when Francia talked about the process of kidney transplant and testing to see if she was a donor. she said Selena was the one that told her she was a match. that should not have happened…this places undue pressure on the match to donate. if this true, i can see how the power dynamic (famous, rich pop star and friend) could have really put huge pressures on her. Not sure if this had anything to do with their falling out, but this shouldn’t happen in organ donation. transplant team should never reveal workup of a potential organ donor.

      • ME says:

        That was really wrong to do. I’m not sure if Selena knew that was an actual violation of protocols, but her doctors knew. Imagine the added pressue Francia had to go through. I think Francia was put in a horrible situation and was unable to back out. To do all of that and then have a falling out with the person whose life you saved…wow. Talk about mental health. Francia must be grappling with that all the time. By the way, she IS in the industry. She’s been acting for years and plenty of people know who she is. She has millions of followers on social media.

      • Sugarhere says:

        @Hangonamin: This puts a tremendous load on the potential donor. How could she make an enlightened decision knowing first-hand her legitimate refusal would turn her into the one who could have saved SG but chose not to. Public lynching garanteed. Another reason why the process should remain completely anonymous.

  2. Menlisa says:

    I feel really bad for her kidney donor

    • mtos says:

      I haven’t seen the doc yet… can you explain just a little?

      • Noki says:

        @MTOS I also have not seen the documentary, only clips and social media chatter. But apparently Selena expressed that Taylor was her only real friend and the kidney donor who’s name is Francia I believe, made some comments displeased by this. She commented under an E! Post ‘interesting’ and also unfollowed Selena.
        @MENLISA I am in two minds about feeling sorry for her, as being a donor is obviously one of the most selfless acts anyone can do, but is the recipient now suppose to live the rest of their lives basing every comment and feelings towards being grateful and humble to her donor?

      • Tiffany:) says:

        “But apparently Selena expressed that Taylor was her only real friend and the kidney donor who’s name is Francia I believe, made some comments displeased by this.”

        That’s not what happened. And it isn’t in the documentary, it was from a Rolling Stone article.

        “And it was hard to share these fears with people whose lives hadn’t been derailed by fame, even as, she says, “I never fit in with a cool group of girls that were celebrities. My only friend in the industry really is Taylor [Swift], so I remember feeling like I didn’t belong. I felt the presence of everyone around me living full lives. I had this position, and I was really happy, but … was I? Do these materialistic things make me happy?” She realized, “I just didn’t like who I was, because I didn’t know who I was.”

        https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-features/selena-gomez-my-mind-and-me-documentary-new-music-only-murders-in-the-building-1234620268/

    • Div says:

      Interestingly, I had the opposite reaction. I thought it was clear she was talking about the music industry, and that was a wild overreaction on the donor’s part (re: not having industry friends). I get that she’s an actress, but she’s barely famous and she’s not in the music industry and in context it really seemed like she meant someone who knew what it was like to be in the spotlight and the actress who donated her kidney, Francia, like it or not has nowhere near the experience with fame that someone like Selena has or Taylor has….

      IDK, I feel like they probably fell out, and are now squabbling like teenage girls online which is just…sad.

      • OriginalLeigh says:

        There were previous stories/rumors about them falling out after the surgery. I guess this confirms it…

      • Beach says:

        I’m really upset at the expectation from those online that Selena needs to be on her knees thanking Francia daily. She has thanked Francia multiple times, but why would she need to mention her in a documentary mostly about her mental health?

      • C says:

        LOL. Why should she not be thanking her daily? She saved her life!! I sure as hell would be.
        Mental illness sucks and I for one absolutely would know. But yeah, sorry, this person should be foremost in her thanks, always.

      • Juju says:

        @DIV, I totally agree. I did see the documentary and she was talking about having friends that could relate to being in the music industry and could relate to the isolation she was feeling. She obviously has other friends that are actors and didn’t mention them and they aren’t having tantrums. It was a documentary and captured lots of candid moments.

      • Beach says:

        @C because it’s gross? Of course you should be grateful, but if you’re going into an organ donation with the expectation that you have to be thanked daily, please don’t go through with it. Selena is allowed to move on and not be devoted to Francia for the rest of her life. And Francia is allowed to feel upset or whatever it is she feels.

      • C says:

        Organ donation is not a snap your fingers decision and it’s incredibly taxing on the body and psyche of the person going through it.
        It’s not MANDATORY to thank your donor daily or anything (n a formal way; I have to think maybe being able to wake up in the morning every day because of what someone else gave you might humble you a bit, but I guess that’s not the case) but it’s evident all over this thread that what Francia did is being minimized quite a bit.
        Selena is allowed to do whatever she wants, but my sympathy is not going to be proportionate. To each their own.

      • Sindy says:

        @Div I thought the same when she said Taylor was her only friend because, like it or not, Selena and Taylor are household names and have been for a long time. Being a working singer or actress is not the same as being a household name so I get it and I understand why Selena said it. If Francesca regrets (or felt pressured) giving Selena a kidney she should say that and get it off her chest (and I do think that’s whats at the crux of all this – based on rumours), the “I’m famous too” reaction is only underlining what Selena said more.

    • hangonamin says:

      i can see both sides and perspectives. i think the process of organ donation was messed up (selena revealing she was a match to her) and that may have put unfair pressures on Francia. That being said, there shouldn’t be any expectation that Selena should be thanking her ad nauseam for her gift or groveling. that’s not how a healthy organ-recipient relationship should be. and it could really just be words that are twisted from Selena in her doc comment. it’s hard for us to speculate what happened after for a falling out short of being either of these people, but it is sad that someone who was close enough to her that she donated a kidney to her is no longer in her life. something horrendous must have happened. the act of donating a kidney is no small ask, because the surgery has risks, your recovery has risks and also having one kidney puts you at risk for potential complications and disease down the line. this just seems so messy

  3. Andrea says:

    I watched her documentary this weekend. As someone who both works in the mental health field and struggles with my own mental health, I was extremely moved by it and think it will help many, many people. It’s clear Selena’s focus currently is to make positive change in the world and I believe she is absolutely doing that with this documentary.

    It is NOT EASY to be open about having mental illness, particularly as a celebrity. For all the people who claim to support you there are just as many (or more) who will judge you for it and use it against you. Hopefully that is starting to change but she is incredibly brave to expose herself in the name of destigmatizing the mental health conversation. I really commend her for this.

    • Otaku fairy says:

      “It is NOT EASY to be open about having mental illness, particularly as a celebrity. For all the people who claim to support you there are just as many (or more) who will judge you for it and use it against you.”

      That’s especially true for certain groups of people. As long as a mentally ill straight male celebrity isn’t abusive or promoting hate movements, people usually will remain respectful and unbiased no matter how he presents himself or what roles he plays. People will be slow to attack him for opening up about his struggle. But if the celebrity is a liberal woman or a member of the LGBTQ community everything involving their bodies, ‘political beliefs’, and responses to hate speech, bigotry, and violence gets attributed to mental illness. Strangely, those same people accuse liberal women and queer people of playing the victim just for talking about it. Heaven forbid non-men and non-straights actually speak for themselves. It’s almost as if people who incite hatred are only ok with making up stories about a targeted community’s mental health issues or trauma. That way they can pretend all the the time they spent being the villain was really them being the hero.

  4. ME says:

    Didn’t she take Spanish lessons when she recorded her Spanish album? Maybe she needs a refresher?

    • DiegoInSF says:

      I really like Selena but as a native Spanish speaker, her Spanish in songs is really bad, she needs to work on the pronunciation with a coach. JLo despite not being a native Spanish speaker either does kill it with the pronunciation in songs which has always surprised me.

  5. SamC says:

    I also took it as famous friends, not friends period, but they both regressed to teenager behavior in their responses.
    However, if they did have a falling out after the transplant because Selena was not following protocols, I get it. Two relatives (brothers) have had transplants. One was just turning 21 and while he’s not a partier, the donor was really concerned and wanted a commitment that he would do everything to make the kidney last as long as possible (they do not last forever).
    Also, what a lot of people don’t realize, is becoming a donor is not just a matter of matching blood types. There’s several months of testing, from measuring kidney output (p’ing in LOTS of bottles), psyche evals, more blood work, genetic testing, and if you make it that far, an operation that is actually tougher on the donor than the transplant patient.

  6. Hootenannie says:

    I’m Selena’s age and was diagnosed with bipolar 1 about 10 years ago. For the longest time, the only “bipolar celebrity” anyone openly discussed was Demi Lovato, a raging asshole. And then more recently, Kanye, of course. It feels good to have someone openly talking about it who’s not perfect but not a narcissist or jerk- I really felt like the other bipolar “examples” perpetuate the idea that people living with this diagnosis are unrepentant, dramatic, and mean-spirited.

  7. Cq says:

    So are we not going to talk about how the rumours of Selena drinking excessively after the transplant came from a certain group of people…the same group that’s currently spreading vile rumours about Meghan Markle?

    It’s crazy how people believe things to be true if people keep repeating it enough times. I don’t love or hate Selena, in fact I am more critical of her after the documentary, but this discourse is really insane to me.

    • C says:

      What group of people? I’m seeing that Selena made a joke on TikTok implying she regularly exceeds the CDC alcohol limits which started the conversation.

      • Cq says:

        There’s a Twitter account that basically posts gossip to “expose” Selena, which includes her being an addict, alcoholic, a fake PR relationship with Justin, and then her being abusive to Justin etc. they moved onto attacking Meghan, Harry, Taylor (sometimes) but basically a wider range of people.

        Shallon L on YouTube also made a bunch of videos about Selena lying about certain stuff, drinking and so on. She also made videos on Meghan. I don’t know if the two are related, but they both basically have a decent sized following and they gained traction.

        That tiktok Selena made, to be fair, she commented “it’s a joke”. I don’t know if there’s truth to that (she did party a lot before the transplant, rarely any evidence of that now tho). But she has always alluded to people saying she did drugs or alcohol when she talked about her mental health and lupus in earlier interviews.

      • Cq says:

        Double post

    • Otaku fairy says:

      Yeah, I’m very skeptical about that rumors about Selena. It sucks that a low point in her life was made into something it wasn’t. Our patriarchal society builds these teen girl celebrities up as the perfect purity princesses to weaponize at its convenience, and then the minute they go through real life shit in their 20’s, people go in the opposite direction. Even when it’s a woman who at least tried to keep the peace.

  8. JK35 says:

    If I gave a kidney, pretty sure I’d want a mention in her book. Selena always struck me as self-centered. She’s lucky she got Murders. She’s a wooden actress.

    • L says:

      jk35: Please do NOT ever donate if that’s your attitude about it. Gross!

    • DiegoInSF says:

      She didn’t really just get it, she exec produced it, so it’s hard work not just luck.
      And yeah, don’t donate a kidney and expect worship and adoration for life for it, that’s really weird.

    • MipMip says:

      For all these people saying they would expect constant gratitude for a kidney donation: your narcissism is showing. Please examine yourselves.

      • C says:

        Nobody said that so the continuing remarks about it are puzzling to say the least.

      • Tiffany:) says:

        What’s really puzzling is people attacking Selena for things she didn’t say. I’ve seen people say it’s from the documentary, now the book (?), but really the perceived slight is from the Rolling Stone interview. And Selena clearly says that she didn’t know how to talk to people about her mental health issues if their lives hadn’t been “derailed by fame” and that Swift was her only friend “in the industry”.

        That is NOT insulting to her donor. I don’t know why people are bending over backward to make Selena be the bad guy, when she was just describing how isolating it can be to both have her level of fame and her health issues.

    • ChillinginDC says:

      She’s been a mess for a while (not Selena). Why I think doing live donations are fraught with issues. Because she apparently seems to think that Selena should be thanking and thinking of her every moment. There’s a reason why doing it via a live donor you are related to and or know is also an issue.

  9. Miss Nesbit says:

    I give Selena a break, based on my personal experiences. My father was an organ recipient (received a heart, so not a living donor) and it’s SUCH a mindf*ck to feel like you have to “live everyday like it’s a gift” and to feel beholden to the donor/donor’s family for every decision you make. Layer in youth, mental illness, fame…wow that’s a lot!
    I admire her vulnerability and I hope that the doc helps people with mental illness feel less alone.

  10. Lizzie Bathory says:

    Christ. The vitriol in some of these comments is something else. Did I stumble onto the Daily Mail?

    I’m looking forward to watching the documentary. It really is a service to be willing to be open about the reality of mental illness, especially when you’re a public figure in a tough business. Good for Selena.

    • L says:

      LizzieBathory: Exactly! I don’t think most of these commentators care one way or the other about Francia. They just have such a dislike for Selena is all.

      • N says:

        I *was* neutral to Selena, but I feel sorry for Francia now. This is not a good look for Selena.

        What about the commenters that now care about Francia and feel bad for what she has gone through? I feel in the rush to defend a favorite (Selena), Francia’s experience got completely invalidated.

      • C says:

        I agree with your second paragraph.
        I don’t hate Selena or anything but this situation made me sorry for Francia (the comments are hardly vitriolic).
        But people will rush to defend the more famous person, it is what it is.

      • Tiffany:) says:

        Lizzie and L, I agree!
        People are saying it’s not a good look for Selena…but they don’t even seem to understand when and where the insult was supposedly given. Selena didn’t say anything mean or hurtful. She was just describing how isolating it can be to have her level of fame and her health issues.

      • N says:

        @Tiffany, I can actually clarify why I thought Selena was insulting. Her first comment about having no friends in the industry is, at best, a bit careless. The most generous interpretation is that she didn’t have any good friends at her same level of fame in the industry. If so, it’s pretty dismissive of her less famous friends. It’s also a bit of a stretch, since she specified her job and not the level of fame, but let’s give her the benefit of the doubt.

        In response to Francia’s (also understandable) concerns, Selena chose to clap back by throwing her in with “every person I know”…and that comes off as particularly cruel and self centered.

  11. ME says:

    Is she not friends with Demi Lovato anymore? They used to be close. Seems like Selena, for whatever reason, has had a lot of falling outs with old friends. I truly wonder what happened. Seems like Demi would be able to relate to Selena more than anyone.

    • Cq says:

      Funny enough, demi had a falling out because Selena was getting closer with Taylor too.

      But they both met up and have their friendly moments after-from what I remember, Demi was just going through a lot with addiction and mental health and Demi insinuated Selena’s family was not kind to her about it and they also lost a lot of friends during that period unfortunately. Both of them had friends that were into the partying/fast paced lifestyle.

  12. Case says:

    I think a lot of the rumors surrounding her and Francia’s friendship are vague and likely false, so I’m not going to comment on that. We lose touch with a lot of friends as we’re growing into ourselves in our 20s. I lost several — some because of lifestyle differences, some because we simply outgrew a friendship that started when we were kids. It happens.

    I DO however think it is absolutely bizarre to have a wedding-themed birthday party simply because you didn’t met an arbitrary deadline to get married by 30.

    • Twin Falls says:

      I read that Jennifer Garner said she threw herself a wedding for her 50th birthday. I really don’t understand the concept or point. Aren’t big birthday celebrations already about showing love/care/happiness for the birthday person?

      • Susan says:

        @Twin Falls, agree. That is weird. Especially since Jen G has had a couple of weddings already. Wedding fever is something young women have, I feel like women of a certain vintage see it for what it is. Feels a little…patriarchal? Or am I just feeling punchy and nervous ahead of Election Day tomorrow? Ugh.

  13. Normades says:

    I don’t even know what to think about this or Selena. On one hand it’s great how she’s discussing mental health and has totally turned her career around. On the other hand it’s been traumatic for everyone involved. The Weeknd was also disappointed that he supported her just to have her dump him and go back to Justin B. Then they break up and he proposes to Hallie 2 months afterwards.
    I think (I would hope) that the donor was financially compensated. Giving an organ is hardcore and aside from my child I can’t imagine doing it for anyone else. Also maybe it wasn’t entirely selfless on her part and was hoping for more recognition and a career boost.

    • Susan says:

      @Normades, I agree. I find the whole situation so incredibly complicated and layered, I cannot imagine having a real opinion, especially given the lack of information we have about the whole process. A few years ago I had the “opportunity” to possibly donate an organ to a troubled family member with whom I had a very complicated relationship. It was a terrible situation, and while it resolved itself (I was not able to donate), I consider myself quite fortunate that I wasn’t put in that position. Ugh. Knowing my true nature and the nature of our relationship, I can’t help but wonder if I would have harbored resentment and hostility if I had donated. And yes I know that is not the most attractive thing to say….but it’s honest.

  14. Trish says:

    A lot of people seem to dislike Selina and it’s like my mom always says “Can this many people be wrong?”
    I don’t care for her.

  15. jferber says:

    My God, Selena in that purple dress! She is now officially the most beautiful woman in the world. Honestly, don’t sweat the marriage stuff, Selena. You are enough exactly as you are–kind, intelligent, talented, natural, ambitious and a boss.

  16. Kelsey says:

    I mean girl I guess. I haven’t forgotten Selena’s dismissiveness about BLM, them pap pics of her and Justin out Skid’s Row, her ass slurring and stumbling across red carpets far after receiving that new kidney. I could see Francia reaching until Selena’s nasty response “I didn’t know I had to mention all my friends” YOU’RE the one who stated TS was your ONLY friend in the industry. Everyone can’t be A list like them but regardless Francia is indeed in the industry. Hell Selena could’ve said TS is “ONE OF my only friends” and that would’ve worked better. But yikes that of all the rebuttals to have for her so called friend, that was what she could muster up.

    Good luck with the mental health, good luck with your health, good luck with whatever, but I’m good. No good vibes from her at all.

  17. Bash says:

    I’m disappointed in Selena’s treatment of Franscia over the years, and about how surface-level the documentary was.

    There are so many sufferers of bipolar disorder out there, for example, and I don’t think she did much to shed light on what they go through specifically when dealing with the condition. She makes no mention of DBT therapy or any kind of treatment plans that she’s tried, even though it’s been said in interviews that she’s utilized that. She doesn’t have to get too specific, but I was hoping for a more in-depth take on mental illness, and this certainly was not it.

    It just seems like this is yet another way to play into the public feeling sorry for her, playing the victim, and making her seem like she cares and is “relatable”. She conveniently never mentions her alcohol and drug addictions, because it wouldn’t fit with that public image she’s worked so hard to create.

    • Julessa says:

      The same was said about Meghan Markle, Constance Wu, Bella Hadid, Khelani, and pretty much every female public figure who has talked about trauma or suicidal ideation over the past 10 years. No surprise that it’s Selena’s turn to be accused of being a dangerous snowflake trying to manipulate people by talking about it.
      Has drug addiction ever been confirmed as a problem Selena Gomez has outside of quanon blind item foolishness? Not saying she’s never been drunk or high in her life, but there never seems to be any evidence of her being a drug addict.

      • Jess says:

        Well, Selena herself says she goes to NA and AA meetings, so that means she/people around her feel she has a problem.

    • Pointillist says:

      Bash – your third paragraph!

      It’s great to raise awareness about mental illness but what exactly are they raising awareness about?

  18. Dashen'ka says:

    Incredible that one can literally donate KIDNEY to friend and still get tone police and told “get over it” because she hurt by snub.

    • ME says:

      I haven’t watched the documentary, but it’s being reported Selena didn’t talk about her kidney transplant or donor in it at all? Not even a mention? If you were the one who gave a piece of your body to save a life, you’d expect the bare minimum, which is a mention in the only documentary you’ve ever done. But by all means, mention Taylor Swift. It would be incredibly hurtful and anyone saying otherwise is lying.

  19. Emily_C says:

    If she feels that Taylor’s her only real friend… watch out, Selena. And make some more friends, because you’re gonna need them.

  20. Likeyoucare says:

    Since most of the commentors here really want a perfect victim who have a suicidal thought, trauma, bipolar disorder to believe in to.
    Good luck i guess.