Sienna Miller is expecting her second child, a girl, with her boyfriend Oli Green. She’s 41, he’s 27. Her daughter Marlowe is 11 years old – Marlowe’s dad is Tom Sturridge, and Tom and Sienna still get along and they seemingly have a great co-parenting relationship. So much so that they still make major life decisions with each other – after seven years of coparenting with Tom in New York, Sienna wanted to move back to the UK and so she talked it over with Tom and he agreed to move back to London too. This “modern family” and evolved situation is all part of Sienna’s Vogue cover story (for the Winter Issue). Sienna is going through another transition period – moving back to London, moving in with Oli Green, preparing to become a mother again in her 40s. She confirms in this piece that she’s expecting another girl, and it sounds like Oli’s family has been pretty welcoming too. Some highlights from this Vogue piece:
She’s promoting her role in Kevin Costner’s Horizon: An American Saga: Horizon tells the story of a 19th-century frontier settlement, which grows from tent encampment to established town over the course of the films. Miller is to appear in all of them, as an East Coast settler, named Frances Kittredge, with her husband and two children.
She filmed Horizon while pregnant & suffering from morning sickness. “There was a lot of being buried under rubble and being shot at, and a lot of time in a very dark tunnel. There are scorpions and snakes, and it’s blisteringly hot. But I actually love that kind of work—I like feeling completely battered and bruised and spent by the end of the day.” She wasn’t rolling around in pristine studio dust, manufactured to create an illusion, she points out, but in a real hole in the Utah desert, “spitting out bits of earth for the next week.”
Her first pregnancy: “I spent so much time preparing for the birth, and absolutely no thought was given to what happens when I’d get home with a baby. At least now I’m aware of what that’s like.”
Her first birth, when she wanted an all-natural experience: She was induced at the hospital and 27 hours of grueling labor followed. “It was like a horrible trick of the universe. I was like, This can’t be what my sister felt at home in her birthing pool.” She was eventually given an emergency C-section, a destabilizing experience. “It was so essential in my mind that I got it ‘right.’ And so emblematic of the kind of mother I would be that I didn’t. But I know in retrospect that was just the demons of new motherhood.” This time, she says, “I just don’t think I’ll put that pressure on myself.” She still wants to try for a natural birth, and she’s recently switched to a doctor who is aligned with that goal.
A pregnancy in her 40s: “I’d love to get to a point where I didn’t feel the need to make a joke of my being older and having a baby, to show I’m in on the joke.”
She’s wanted Marlowe to have a sibling for a long time: “I felt so bad that Marlowe didn’t have a little partner in crime, so I became that for her. I think I tried to compensate for every bit that she was lacking.”
How she started up with Oli Green: There was a kiss right when they met, and then she retreated. “I was like, This is absurd. This will not go anywhere. And then he worked hard to persuade me to go out for a drink with him.” She asked her good friend Emily Blunt to tag along on one of their early dates in New York—an unnecessary wingwoman, as Blunt now tells it: “When I got there, it was so beautiful between them. I just gave her a hug and went, ‘I’m going to slip away.’ ” Miller and Green both came down with covid at the same time, so they sent Marlowe to live with Sturridge and moved in together for the week, an experience that “sort of fast-tracked intimacy.”
His family has been welcoming to her: “I would imagine it would be complicated for anyone to get their head around, but there’s been nothing but love and joy.”
The age difference: “I don’t think you can legislate on matters of the heart. I certainly have never been able to,” she tells me. To whatever extent she humors the idea that perhaps someday Green might want to be with someone younger, she also thinks it cuts both ways: “For Oli, it is real that I might want to be with someone older.”
She thinks Oli is more of a feminist than men her age: “I see it with Oli’s friends. There’s awareness of the dynamics that enter relationships between men and women now that we just didn’t have 20 or 25 years ago. I feel like my whole adolescence was dodging bullets and advances in a really delicate way, to not offend somebody. Whereas the girls that he grew up with, they’re probably like, No—no, thank you. Moving on.”
When we learned that Sienna was pregnant again, I was happy for her even though I don’t think this guy is going to stick around long-term. Marlowe made Sienna grow up a lot, as did figuring the coparenting situation with Tom. Even if this relationship with Oli Green goes t-ts up, Sienna will be fine, and she genuinely wanted another baby and I’m glad she’s found a way to do it. She also told Vogue that when she sold her place in the Village, she and Oli moved in with HIS parents when they moved back to the UK. I cannot imagine doing that with an 11-year-old child, while pregnant! Sienna might be grown up now, but she’s still kind of a ball of chaos. Also: surprisingly, she adores Kevin Costner and she was really honored to be asked to be in Horizon.
Photos courtesy of Avalon Red, cover courtesy of Vogue’s Instagram.
The age gap may be okay now but in 20 years it’s a different story. But who is to say it won’t last, without knowing these people personally that’s just putting negative thoughts out in the universe. Look at the late Tina Turner and her husband, it can last.
People can be so weird about only children. Speaking as an only child myself, I think I went through a phase from 8-10 wishing I had a sibling. However! After that period, I got a dog that I was in charge of caring for, and my whole attitude shifted as I grew up and realized how nice it was to be an only. So if people want more than one child, great for them! But I feeling bad for your kid because they don’t have a sibling is frankly a waste of time.
I think it depends on the child. If her daughter was still asking for a sibling then it’s a completely different story. And she herself clearly desired to have more than one child.
I went off Sienna after the whole Balthazar Getty affair. Thought Jude Law having cheated on he4 with the nanny would make her more empathetic about going after someone’s husband but no…..
Cheating with a married man is a flex for some women. I can do more than attract a man, my power is to pull him *away* from another woman.
It’s like Ariana Grande and SpongeBob Sidepiece. The more ties the man has binding him to other people, the more he has to sacrifice/damage/drastically change his life for her, the more attractive he is to her. The it validates her beauty and seductive magnetism.
The married man who cheats with the nanny is looking for mommy. Arnold Schwarzenegger, Ben Affleck, Jude law, Ethan Hawke – list is endless. They marry a beautiful celebrity woman who has her own fame/career/power. They then sleep with the children’s caretaker, a person they are not in competition with in any way, who will make them feel babied.
An affair that she STILL refuses to take responsibility for or acknowledge her own destructive part in. She has talked about it in the past and had no remorse or feelings of guilt about it. Which is why that line about “legislating matters of the heart” made me roll my eyes. I was like, “yeah Sienna…we know you have no boundaries on that front.”
Sienna Miller is one of those celebs that better be thankful that there was no social media in her heyday and that she has lived down a very questionable past. I remember the Jude Law shenanigans-was he with someone when they got together? I remember the Oscar party where she was basically kicked out because she and another actress were sucking each other’s toes, I remember the rumors about her and Diddy and of course, Balthazar Getty. I also remember her being heavily promoted-I think by Weinstein-as an It Girl.
Plainly put, she’s trash and always will be. I find it interesting she is raising girls-I hope her girls have better role models than their mother. If that sounds harsh, it’s true. Sienna torpedoed her own career by chasing tail and flaunting her non-existent morals. She could have had a decent career, but now she’s an also rain.
I give her points for aging fantastically, though.
And as far as the guy she’s with now, it gives whiffs of Sam “Crypt-Keeper” Taylor-Johnson and that’s never a good look to be neck and neck with the creepiest marriage in Hollywood, although something tells me that time may have caught up with that one.