Kate Hudson and Alex Rodriguez’s breakup several weeks ago has been the subject of many whispers lately. At first, the reports basically claimed that Kate Hudson wanted to move fast and settle down, and either move in together or get engaged. A-Rod seemed to be fueling those rumors, and “sources” close to him painted Kate as an overly-involved, needy, smothering girl who couldn’t get over A-Rod and his centaur self. Many of the new rumors are in the same vein, so maybe there’s something there. First, the New York Daily News and OK! Magazine report that A-Rod was still in love with Madonna, and Kate was jealous:

Kate to Madge: If you want A-Rod, you can have him.

Starlet Kate Hudson dumped Yankees slugger Alex Rodriguez after eight months because his heart still belongs to Madonna, OK! Magazine reported.

Hudson warned A-Rod that if he continued talking to the Material Girl she would leave. She kept her promise when A-Rod kept calling and texting the singer.

“Kate was mad with jealousy,” said a source. “She gave A-Rod three chances to stop contacting Madonna. How would you feel if your new boyfriend kept calling his ex?”

The source said it broke Hudson’s heart but she didn’t want to be “the other woman.” “She said that if Madonna is what A-Rod wants then she can have him.”

[From Gatecrasher]

Yeah, I’m with Kate on this one. If the guy I was dating with still texting his ex-girlfriend – who just happened to be Madonna – I would be livid. Meanwhile, Betty Confidential reported that Kate is still hellbent on getting back with A-Rod, and has been stalking him. Sort of. More like calling him incessantly and trying to prove that she’s not the same needy, smothering girl:

Breaking up is hard to do. Just ask Kate Hudson, who has been leaving phone messages for her ex, Alex Rodriguez, frequently since they split earlier this month. An insider tells BettyConfidential that the Nine star has been reaching out to A-Rod but the Yankee third baseman isn’t taking her calls.

While Kate has mocked the tabloids’ characterization of her as someone who gets too serious with guys too quickly — she told Harper’s Bazaar earlier this month, “I’m not needy” — the insider says her behavior tells a different story.

“Kate realizes now that she drove Alex away by being so pushy about marriage,’’ the source says. “She’s left him messages, but he hasn’t returned her calls. She wants to talk to him about how they can work it out without having to tie the knot.”

But Alex is telling friends that he’s moved on. According to the insider, A-Rod’s told pals that he’s not angry with Kate — he still has feelings for her — but he doesn’t believe that she would settle for anything less than marriage. “He thinks that after a month or two, she’ll start needling him about setting the date and he’s not ready to get married again,” the source says. “He may never be ready. Right now, he doesn’t see a wedding happening in the near future. He stayed with his ex-wife [Cynthia] longer than he should have to try and work things out, but it didn’t help. It wasn’t the answer.”

‘’Now Alex is enjoying his freedom and is having fun being in the company of new people. He’s not looking to get seriously involved with anyone and if he does, it won’t be a famous woman,” the insider says. “After being involved with Madonna and Kate, Alex doesn’t want to share the limelight.’’

As BettyConfidential previously reported, Alex has been spending time with his daughters, Natasha 5, and Ella, 19 months, in South Florida since he and Kate broke up.

But he recently returned to Manhattan, where he owns an apartment, and was spotted doing some last-minute Christmas shopping on Fifth Avenue and then stopping for a drink at Uncle Jack’s Steakhouse on 56th Street. “He’s just doing the bachelor thing,” the insider says. “He’s hanging out and is enjoying meeting new people.’’

As for Kate, she was in New York for the premiere of her movie, Nine, with her mom, Goldie Hawn, but returned to California where she tried to get into the holiday spirit by hosting her own star-studded Christmas bash at her Pacific Palisades home, sans Alex.

Sources say she and guests partied until the wee hours of the morning. The next day, looking a little worse for wear, Kate boarded a private plane with her son, Ryder, 4, and headed to Aspen, where she spent the holidays, as usual, with her mom, Kurt Russell, brother Oliver and his wife, Erin.

But while her Christmas was warm and loving, Kate’s plans for New Year’s Eve have reportedly been ruined in the wake of her split with A-Rod. According to Life & Style magazine, the couple was scheduled to appear together at several parties in Miami, but now Kate has canceled her plans to attend. So who will the exes be cuddling up to on New Year’s Eve? Stay tuned.

[From Betty Confidential]

I’ve said it before, but I really don’t buy this version of Kate Hudson. I think she’s a fun girl who doesn’t take anything this seriously. She was probably hurt that A-Rod didn’t want to be with her, and maybe she did try calling him to try to talk things out, but I don’t really have an image of Kate being so… desperate, you know? She’s a pretty girl who likes to have fun, and there will always be men who eat that up.

Which is In Touch Weekly’s version – they claim that Kate has “wasted no time” in getting back in contact with her ex Owen Wilson. A source tell ITW: “They hadn’t seen each other for some time, but when things took a turn for the worse with Alex, Kate got in touch with Owen, They are reestablishing their friendship – we’ll see what happens.” ITW also notes that Owen “always seems available whenever Kate needs him” and that they “know each other really well” and “their friends think there are unresolved feelings between them.” All of this was probably written before Owen spent the holidays with a mystery girl (and there are photographs to prove it), but something does ring true about this. I’m not saying Kate and Owen will get back together, but I do believe they probably still talk a lot.

Kate Hudson in Aspen with her mom on December 22, 2009. Credit: Fame.