While they’re rarer lately, we still get the occasional blind item straight from a celebrity’s mouth. This week we got a nice one from Kristin Davis. I always forget this, but Kristin’s career started long before Sex and the City. She was on Melrose Place from 1992 until 1995. Kristin now has a podcast about her SATC experience, called “Are You A Charlotte?” On the episode that came out on January 19, Kristin tells a story about a time when she dated a now “very successful” actor who was, at the time, down on his luck. So, out of the goodness of her heart, she offered to lend him $5,000. As a thank you, the dude ghosted her. The story in Kristin’s own words:
Kristin Davis revealed that a “very successful” actor once ghosted her after she lent him $5,000. In Sunday’s episode of her “Are You a Charlotte?” podcast, the actress described the unnamed man as an “out-of-work actor” whom she began dating before becoming a household name.
“I think this was before ‘Sex and the City,’ maybe between ‘Melrose’ and ‘Sex and City’ or maybe when I was on ‘Melrose.’ I don’t know,” she shared.
Davis, 59, said that while the actor is “now very successful” and “was very talented,” she spotted bill notices at his home from companies threatening to shut off his electricity at the time they were dating.
“And I was like, ‘What’s happening?’ And then, I think he wrecked his motorcycle, which is, like, how he got around to his auditions,” she recalled.
“And I was like, ‘Can I lend you some money?’ Horrible mistake.”
The Emmy nominee said lending the actor money “changed the dynamic” between them in a “horrible way.”
“But I just thought, like, I can help … I should help this guy,” she continued. “He’s so talented, which he is. Lend him money. I think it was all of $5,000 — a lot of money.”
Davis said the man “stopped calling” after her nice gesture, so she popped up at his apartment and started banging on his door.
“His dog was in there, and I loved his dog, and I could hear his dog, but I was like, ‘Is he in there and pretending that he is not there?’” she remembered.
The “Couples Retreat” actress said the actor called her “later on” and asked whether she had been banging on his door.
“And I was like, ‘Well, yes.’ … I felt so embarrassed. Like, being messy,” she shared. “I just would love some acknowledgment or whatever, which is kind of a fantasy.”
Though Davis never disclosed who the actor was, she said he now “lives out in the country with some children.”
Well, damn. I wish I could say that I have surprised outrage over this story, but I have only indignation. I’m mad for Kristin on her behalf, not because the dude never paid her back but because he f-cking accepted her money and then ghosted her! I get having your pride wounded, but my dude, you didn’t have to disappear. Pay the woman back and give her a big “thank you,” FFS.
I’ve been racking my brain but I’m still not sure who this mystery actor could be. Her timeline is vague, so it really could be anywhere between 1992 and 2004, which covers the time periods of both Melrose Place and SATC. Although her dating timeline has some holes, there are lists of them out there. There are also a lot of different guesses out there right now, but the Internet has not yet come to any solid conclusions. Her most famous actor exes are Chris Noth and Alec Baldwin, but my gut says it’s neither of them because they don’t fit the description. So, bitches, my crowd-sourced question is: who could it be?
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I have no reason or evidence to believe this, but I immediately pictured Jon Hamm.
It can’t be him as he has no kids.
Is it because he looks the type? 😂😂
I immediately thought of someone like Josh Brolin bc of the motorcycle but it’s not him bc he was involved with Diane Lane
Not everything needs to be shared… there are cases where you are like ‘and?’. Without naming names, what’s the point?
Maybe I am misunderstanding her goal in sharing this
If he never paid her back, now would he a great time for that. His eventual success is likely, in part, because of that assistance.
I really hope she has better boundaries since then. I’d love to hear more about that from her.
Because it is a cautionary tale to women out there. To be careful who you lend money to. She offered it and he ghosted her. When you care about someone. Your guard goes down and she did a kind thing. Then realized what a dope she was for doing it.
Back in the day, I had a guy ask if I would put his car under my car insurance. And for a second I was like yeah. So he can come visit me. Then my brain snapped back, and was like if he gets into an accident, my rates will sky rocket. And he gets to walk away scott free. So it was a no. And he dumped me. People don’t always have the best intentions when they date you.
Just be careful out there. With your heart and your wallet.
I thought George Clooney, but it probably dosen’t add up.
OMG – George Clooney was the first name that popped into my head as well, especially after that mention of the motorcycle. Didn’t many of those soap opera stars date each other on a cycle back in the day?
I don’t think it’s him. She’s describing someone who she can’t recall exactly when she dated them, butwould not have been working regularly or famous up to the time she was on sex in the city. George was already on ER and doing big movies in the mid 90s.
Sounds like GC – and I think she remembers exactlly when it was, but she’s being coy to avoid litigious types. It’s her equivilant of ‘allegedly’
He was on ER at that point though if it was 94 unless it was earlier in the ’90s. Definitely shouldn’t have been at the point where his electricity was getting turned off. She seems a little vague about the timeline because it was so long ago though. I can’t really recall what he was doing between Roseanne and before ER because I was a kid
He had a sitcom named E/R, which didn’t last long. But he lived with his aunt when he first went to Hollywood, so I don’t think he’d need money from a girlfriend. Rosemary was pretty rich.
I actually think it’s Clooney too. Back in the day he seemed to be the type to date for a place to sleep. Even his auntie Rosemary kicked him out of her place early in his career. I’m going with Clooney.
My first thought was also Clooney, if only because I saw him once riding his motorcycle leaving one of the studio lots. And I second the comment above regarding timeline of their tv careers and dating circles. Maybe she fudged “out in the country” intentionally from “out OF the country.” 😉
Me too. He seems the type that would ghost a woman like that without so much as a thank you. He has kids, a home in Europe, and loves dogs.
I initially thought of Clooney as well, but he infamously had that giant pet pig called Max when he started out.
Unless he had a dog before that.
But after he left his aunt Rosemary’s place, he lived somewhere with one of his Ferrer cousins.
Clooney was actively working during the 1990’s. Doesn’t fit the timeline of an auditioning actor strapped for cash around 1996-1997.
Definitely not George
1. Clooney was on ER starting ~’94 so definitely not strapped for cash and I think he was crashing at Richard Kind or cousin Mel Ferrer’s place.
2. When George got rich he gave 14 of his friends each $1mn to share in his success- https://finance.yahoo.com/news/george-clooney-surprised-14-best-180256853.html#:~:text=This%20reflection%20set%20the%20stage,provided%20him%20throughout%20his%20career.
Liev Scheiber?
Can’t be Liev. They were in a relationship between 2000-2003.
The guy she lent money to was around 1996-1997, before SATC started in 1998. Liev was very much a working actor during that period.
My first thought was Ryan Reynalds – he is “very successful and talented”, lives in the country in upstate New York, has kids, rides a motorcycle, has dogs, and has dated older women.
It would’ve been before he dated Alanis, which fits the timeframe.
I have no idea if he and Kristin ever dated but he sounds like the type of guy who would gaslight a woman after she lent him money.
I’m incorporating this into my beliefs now because you’re right, it does seem like something he’d have done lol!
Ryan Reynolds worked pretty regularly in the 90s.
Not really. It would’ve been before Two Guys and a Girl and SATC, which both began in 1998.
Kristin was on Melrose during 1995-1996. So it likely happened around 1996-1997.
Ryan only had bit parts leading up to that period, and a bit of a dry spell until Two Guys.
George Clooney does not fit the timeline as he was very actively working during that period.
For some reason, I immediately pictured Matthew McConaughey
I thought this same thing! He really struggled in the mid 90s according to his autobiography.
This rings true to me.
Reddit is guessing Mark Ruffalo because he spoke of getting around LA and to his auditions on a motorbike back in the 90s due to being broke. The dog, kids and living in the country also fit, but I don’t want to believe it’s him!! Another guess is Jeffrey Dean Morgan, but I’m too lazy to look up his timeline.
I second Jeffrey dean morgan
Jeffrey Dean Morgan is the name I thought of…kids, upstate ny and motorcycle.
I am really hoping it’s not Mark as he just doesn’t seem the type to ghost and gaslight a woman.
However, Jeffrey Dean Morgan back in the day? Absolutely. He really was down on his luck until he got Supernatural. Then, he blew up after Gray’s Anatomy. I always side-eye him because he has a child from a girlfriend during that period and he never mentions that kid on his socials yet talks about his other two kids with his wife. That kid would be an adult now. I remember all that gossip when the ex-girlfriend sued him for child support.
I just went on wiki, he straight up denies the other child. It lists him as only having two kids. That’s… Crazy.
I do remember the ex girlfriend announcing that her 4 year old’s father was JDM just kinda out of the blue. I side eye THAT, that she went to a tabloid and announced it when his career was starting to blow up (also making it clear that he didn’t know previously). I wonder if the support case turned out negatively for her because we haven’t heard anything about her or the kid for near 15 years.
Second on the side-eye to JDM after reading Hilarie’s book where she talks about how they met and how quickly they had a baby etc. I felt like he totally love-bombed her and I didn’t like some of the things that were in the book.
Jeffrey Dean Morgan was married between 1992-2003.
The incident would’ve happened around 1996-1997 (between Melrose and before SATC).
My first guess was Damian Lewis, but I don’t think the timeline is quite right. I do remember being slightly shocked when I found out they were going out.
Damian Lewis was working on TV series in the UK pretty regularly back then, making guest appearances in episodes.
I thought of him, too, but they dated toward the end of Sex and the City or just afterward. He had been in the Forsyte Saga in the UK and was cast in an American TV series around the time they dated.
Dominic West! He dated Ali wentworth and was a total dog to her. I bet he dated Kristin too!
Oh, wow, that could be it. I remember seeing him in one movie in the 90s (“Mona Lisa Smile”) but it was a pretty small role. That was before he played McNulty, right?
He lives in the country (and also “out of the country” so both fit). And he has four kids, which fits her choice of words. When I hear “some kids” I think of more than two. And he is totally the type to ghost a woman. Or cheat on his wife with his co-star who is playing his daughter. Blech. Talented actor but a total dog.
No, he was with Polly Astor at the time the incident happened. They have a daughter together. Hard agree on being a dog though.
Jeffrey Dean Morgan?
Nope, he was married at the time.
I don’t know, but it’s hilarious to me that this is a real life issue for her as for YEARS people have been complaining about her character in SATC not being repaid by Carrie (that we saw on screen) after she lent her money to buy her apartment. Art imitated life!
I’m one of those who have complained about that, especially after Big died and left Carrie with all his millions.
I feel like Charlotte and Harry were really, really not in need of any money. Let’s just say Carrie made a donation to a good cause in Charlotte’s name!
Clooney. I remember a really old interview when she spoke about “once knowing him”
No, Clooney was actively working during the 1990’s. Doesn’t fit the timeline of an auditioning actor strapped for cash around 1996-1997.
Adrien Brody? He had a motorcycle accident in LA in 1992 and he lives in New York now.
No kids.
James van der Beek.
Never help a man in a patriarchy.
What about Jeffrey Dean Morgan.
My guess is George Eads. There are photos of him and Kristin from 1996 or 1997 at the Happy Gilmore premiere. Kristin and George were co-stars in a tv-movie from 1996… so maybe that’s where they met and then dated for awhile? I looked up his IMDB page and he started acting in 1994 with roles in small (TV) movies and guest roles in shows. The first show that gave him a bit of a longer employment was Savannah from 1996/97, that show ran for about a year and simply was a big soap opera. Not sure if the actors made proper money though…
My guess is Grant Show, though I could be wrong!
https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/news-photo/actress-kristin-davis-and-actor-george-eads-attend-the-news-photo/146545658
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