Jennifer Love Hewitt is still doing promotional duties for her new dating book, How I Shot Cupid. It’s a self help book from a woman who could use some solid advice in the relationship department and includes such gems as always requiring your man to keep track of your coat and making sure you take just one role in the relationship so you don’t confuse him. Yesterday Hewitt, 31, was on Ryan Seacrest’s radio show and she dropped the news that she’s been cheated on at least three times. She said that once she caught her then-boyfriend – who she didn’t name – with the other woman, who just happened to be a friend of hers:

The star — who recently split from Ghost Whisperer costar Jamie Kennedy — says she has been cheated on “a lot” in her life.

“It’s brutal,” she told Ryan Seacrest on his KIIS FM radio show Tuesday. “Once I found out on television and that was awesome. And then another time I found them together … and that was, woooo!”

She says she walked in on the unnamed duo together and knew the girl.

“That was not good,” she says, adding that she also found out another beau was cheating because she “had a feeling” and then “found phone stuff.”

Luckily, The Day I Shot Cupid author, 31, said her latest boyfriend, Kennedy, taught her the most about relationships. (She even dedicated the book to him prior to their split.)

“We are sort of opposites — I am sort of this gushy hopeless romantic and he is sort of this realist,” she says. “So, he really taught me how to look at the reality of things like love whereas I had my head in the clouds before. He very much taught me some things and he taught me a lot about men and what they think.”

Hewitt jokes that she “won’t” seek out famous men like past flames — which included Joey Lawrence, Carson Daly and John Mayer — but admits that she doesn’t date them “on purpose.”

“I don’t seek them out,” she says. “I am starting to think maybe that’s not the way to go.”

[From US Weekly]

The one thing I’ve learned about Jennifer Love Hewitt throughout this press tour is that she’s way too focused on how she needs to change in order to keep a man. It’s like she’s so dead set on getting married and having a lasting relationship that she’s not thinking about what she wants and needs in both a marriage and in her own life. She’ll eventually get married and have kids, but I’m afraid she’ll really try the patience of whomever she ends up with by constantly talking about the relationship and bugging the guy about a commitment. She’s one of those “what are you thinking?” girls whose beauty and success can’t make up for the fact that they’re both insecure and demanding.

So I wonder who cheated on Hewitt? There were rumors that both Ross McCall and Jamie Kennedy cheated on her, claims they both denied at the time. You have to give her credit for not naming names, though. I probably would. Isn’t it kind of sad that Hewitt got cheated on frequently and still spouts crap like “women have to better figure out who to be in a relationship, sort of stick with that consistently and maybe the guy will figure out better how to deal with them“? Sometimes it just isn’t us.

Here’s Jennifer Love Hewitt promoting her book at Barnes & Noble in LA on 3/27/10. What is she wearing – a housecoat? Credit: Fame Pictures